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my family was actually kicked out of my childhood church for this...
A good friend group is one that can be confused for a polycule
#our parents were friends#us kids were friends#we were neighbors#so apparently#it was weird enough to qualify#I didn't know about it until like 15 yrs after it happened#I just thought we changed churches cuz the og one was far away#I never did find my home in another church#I guess I avoided a lot of religious trauma because of it tho
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The idea that uni protesters are "elitist ivy-league rich kids larping as revolutionaries" on Twitter and Reddit and even here is so fucking funny to me if you actually know anything about the student bodies at these unis. Take it from someone who's going to one of the biggest private unis in the US, 80% of the peers I know are either from the suburbs or an apartment somewhere in America, children of immigrants, or here on a student visa. I've heard about one-percenter students, but I've never met one in person. Like, don't get me wrong, the institution as a whole is still very privileged and white. I've talked with friends and classmates about feeling weird or dissonant being here and coming from such a different background. But in my art program, I see BIPOC, disabled, queer, lower-income students and faculty trying to deconstruct and tear that down and make space every day. So to take a cursory glance at a crowd of student protesters in coalitions that are led by BIPOC & 1st/2nd-gen immigrant students and HQ'd in ethnic housings and student organizations and say, "ah. children of the elite." Get real.
#also idk how to tell you this but even if it were true. wealthy children potentially sacrificing their educational careers to protest is#a good thing actually. idk how to tell you that caring about people from other nations is good#personal#“this war has nothing to do with most students cuz nobody's getting drafted” idk how to explain to you that we should be angry#that our tuitions of 10s of thousands of dollars that we pay every year for an education is being used to fund a genocidal campaign#also the implication that if you go to a uni institution you are automatically privileged by participation no matter your bg#i didn't /want/ to go to this school. i was supposed to go to a school with an art/animation program. but i realized my immigrant#parents have been working their whole lives to get me here. and turning the opportunity down would be a disservice to their sacrifice#this is getting into convos of “what 2nd gen kids owe their parents” which is different for everyone but. yeah#i just get pissed off at seeing people misrepresenting student bodies as “wealthy” and “privileged” and “elite” when it's such a blatant li#i remember a year ago a friend told me they can't fly home to hong kong for winter break because the plane tickets are too expensive#so they have to find temporary housing around the area#last quarter for a film doc class my film partner made a doc on a small group of marxist grad students from india discussing praxis#during a rally a few months ago in response to police presence the coalition invited palestinian students to speak about their experiences#and lead songs and read poems they wrote. these are STUDENTS. are they elitist too?#this is not to disregard my own personal privilege either.#this whole narrative's just to rationalize a lack of empathy to me. seeing a 19yo student get shot by a rubber bullet and your first#reaction is “HAW! HAW! bet richy rich didn't see THAT coming when she put on her terrorist hood!”#newsflash. these big uni campuses are HAUNTED by the violence of past protests and revolutions and police brutality. we know.#why do you think these coalitions have been making reinforced barricades at record speed
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Skén:nen sá:sewh
as promised, here's Precious boy™ getting kissed by Precious wife™ because he deserves all the love in the world :cc
translation: Get home safe
#nobody translate the file name#nah but home girl is the strongest soldier let me tell you#imagine date/being married to an assassin fr I would loose my mind#I'm such a sucker for the friends to lovers trope ok hear me out#Girlie is an ally to the assassin's and that's how she meets Connor and they become friends because Ratonhnhaké:ton deserves more friends o#she is VERY smart knows how to stand her ground but also very sweet and funny he respects and admires her a lot and so does she#she's from another displaced kanien'kehá:ka clan they bond really close sooner than later the feeling just blooms everyone's knows but THEM#until prob the recruits and the people in the homestead get tired of these oblivious fools in love and plot to finally get them together#I headcanon Connor didn't settle down completely until they were expecting their first child like they both panicked when they realized#I mean they're already married and stuff but still our girl is all over the place bcs she's scared of something happening to him or the bby#and connor acts cool and leveled on the outside but he's just a whirpool of emotions on the inside as well it's really funny to watch#they probably broke down in tears from both laughter and fear but they are amazing parents we are certain of it :')#I want their dinamic to be like that mainly because Connor deserves some light and laugh in his life after all the things he went through#connor i'm in love with your wife#ratonhnhaké:ton#connor kenway#connor's mistery wife#ac 3#assassin's creed#oc#the way you can tell I almost never draw men just from this sketch 💀#my art
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personally I think that all queer books should have a “special edition” with a subtle cover (and a code name if it’s necessary) for all of the people in homophobic areas
#it’s me I’m people#no but seriously we’re out here in the trenches smuggling queer books and desperately hoping our parents/family/friends won’t find out#I have stack of all the queer books I own in a bag underneath a bunch of clothes IN MY ATTIC CRAWL SPACE so that they don’t get found#and the amount of times I’ve had to switch out a cover on one hardback for a cover of a different hardback is insane#my sister thinks I’ve read The Shadows Between Us like 6 times but most of the time it was actually RW&RB#it gets ridiculous#for example#to get RW&RB in the first place my twin had to stuff the book under her shirt while we were in the bookstore#buy it herself in all cash#and then hide it again as we left#so please I am begging for “special edition’’ books like this 🙏😭#literature#lqbtq#queer#queer books#gay#lesbian#trans#bisexual#books and reading#booklr#homophobia#pride month
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dandelion’s incredible reluctance, and near-fright, to mention kaer morhen by name is somewhat endearing to me. we as the fandom throw around the name so easily, and it’s also home for geralt and ciri, so its name doesn’t carry so much weight.
but in dandelion’s case, it makes sense to fear mentioning it, for it was the site of the massacre… best to not let anyone hear its name… it’s kind of nice to think that dandelion has a degree of self-awareness, when something is as important as this
and also, some part of me just thinks that dandelion with his vivid imagination listened to geralt offhandedly talk about his childhood here or there, and… whatever were mundane facts or sepia-tinted friendly memories for geralt, made dandelion’s expression drop and his innards twist. so he conceives of kaer morhen not just as “the witcher’s keep in the mountains of kaedwen” but “that place where my best friend endured child abuse for eighteen years”
#like… i imagine dandelion has a dysfunctional family relationship too to put it lightly#but as far as the subjected mutations and trials and intense physical training#idk why i think i’m just projecting but#listening to your friend talk about his abusive childhood like ‘oh yeah and then we fell asleep to the ache of our muscles [nostalgic sigh]’#the pain of loving your friend a lot and realizing just how much hell they’ve been through#geralt recalling some memories to dandelion and then all of a sudden#‘dandelion? what’s the matter with you? hell you look as though you’re about to be sick’#dandelion like… 😨#dandelion wanting badly to take on geralt’s pain ✌️ well we got there by time of contempt and baptism of fire#this was brought up for me again when preston holt and geralt were talking in crossroads of ravens#where holt is like: ‘i bet your earliest memory is…’ and geralt is like ‘there was this boy…’ and holt is like ‘yeup’#and though they acknowledge it’s fucked up neither of them are as horrified as they probably should be 💀 because it’s known and familiar#this is also why dandelion is horrified by his suicidal inclinations#yennefer shares them so she is more like ‘ok well don’t do it on the carpet’#this is ciri aka chickened out of suicide attempt and her two parents aka failed suicide attempt and daily suicidal ideations#now i’m not saying dandelion would never kill himself but i mean not during the saga. after half a century is published he could do whatever#the elbow-high diaries#i think the whole ‘recluse from society in an isolated monastery’ thing is already abuse in dandelion’s eyes#the fact that the food is plain = abuse to dandelion lbr
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#can i yap for a moment#im extremely sleepy but im feeling very upset and mad and confused#also lowkey questioning whether me feeling all that is justified or if i am overreacting#anyway#made out w a boy tonight#and he wanted to go to his place#and i was like no i wanna stay and dance with my girlies#and he gets upset??#asking why i'd kiss him if i don't wanna hook up and i said i just wanna have fun?#made me feel so stupid#that anger in me led to a little fight with another boy (who was unfortunately very cute) and i just wanted to punch him#i just hate when boys think they're so superior#so i argued with this stupid but hot man#until an ex? friend shows up and he was pretty drunk just yapping about things#anyway he basically told me he'd like to rekindle our friendship#but not in a heyy haven't talked in so long let's meet up again#it was in a heyy let's hang out again got a new big car and moved out of my parent's house 😋#which gave me the ick bc that's why we aren't friends anymore and i told him no multiple times#and got sad bc he was one of my closest friends#anyway and then we left the party#this guy pulls me aside the parking lot#and i was so embarrassed bc there were so many people and they were all looking and i could already see people gossiping about it#and i just wanted to die#and then he just CONFESSES??#gives me flowers and all which is saur saur cute#but i legit have zero feelings for him </3#and have commitment issues and have never been in a relationship and don't wanna be in one#actually grosses me out thinking about relationships </3#the confession was so random and i kinda lost another friendship? even tho i wouldn't rlly consider him a friend we just share sum classes#but yeah boys are so stupid and confusing and i dunno how and why i get myself into these situations :') m sorry just needed to rant </3
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the thing about birthday depression is that birthdays are. fundamentally. the #1 day to be happy that you're alive. Which is hard to do yourself if you're not actually happy to be alive and also the people around you can't win because if they forget (or don't acknowledge it) that feels like evidence that nobody else is happy you're alive either but if they DO try to celebrate it makes you feel guilty for not matching the vibe
#sad! but oh well there are other days (364.3 of them)#there's also the fact for me personally that my birthday is in may which is one of the busiest times in the academic year#and meant i always got shafted in school because there was some of kind of extracurricular event or exams on or around it#one year my chorus concert and my brother's football awards dinner were both on my birthday#and you'll never guess which one our parents went to!#also i straight up did not have friends until i was in high school so I stopped having parties after kindergarten#but that's not what we're talking about right now#like. i hate it. it makes me want to appropriate jehovah's witness culture.
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we talk a lot about how current kids, teenagers, and parents never learned internet safety in this age of social media, but i think we also gotta be honest with ourselves that most of us, adults on the internet who participate in fandom, never really learned how to engage with young people without setting them up for disaster.
might be weird to say it like this, but it's important to leave people how you met them or better. like hiking or going to a nature reserve. if you are regularly talking to people on the internet, especially teenagers, you need to consider whether your behavior with them is how another, shittier person would take advantage of them, because you have no real way of protecting them if that happens. like if you're going into discords and saying 'hey i'm mom! let me help you with your homework and irl issues. also please feel free to vent to me if you have any mental health issues or problems at home" you have to understand that the next person who says that to them may be leaving out the end of their plan; "that would make you easier to abuse."
sometimes you have to say "you seem fun and have a lot of great ideas but you are also 15, so if you wanna talk fandom, here are the boundaries we're going to follow, because these are the boundaries other adults should be following with you." or just refuse to talk to kids.
you decide what your responsibility, is but what you can't do is build an illegal fire pit on the hiking trail, if you catch my drift.
#the last post i reblogged reminded me of my longstanding vendetta against fandom parents#and while i've held this opinion for years i think i can finally verbalize it in a way that makes sense?#dont get people used to red flags!!!! do not be the reason someone things red flags are normal!!!#this is not to say you can never be friends intergenerationally. just that like...#a lot of friendships i was in as a kid were like lightening. fast and strong and over quickly#and what i learned was that it was fine to progress to very personal details quickly.#dont be lightening. be a hiker. keep a reasonable speed and dont be afraid to say 'you're walking very quickly on an unknown path. slow dow#also just. to be clear. i dont think this is a personal failing i see this as a consequence of all of US having INSANE relationships too#like many of us are still struggling to figure out boundaries with IRL people after that.#and trying to do right by the young people we see in the same shoes now is a daunting and confusing task with which we can only do our best
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"james bullied severus" are you trying to tell me you never had the experience of a mortal enemy that stemmed from a stupid, childish reason? a classmate you had such absolute beef with that you and your friends and him and his friends would prank each other and fight each other and call each other names??
#i mean my childhood nemesis was because our parents wanted us to walk to school together and i said he smelled.#that is what fuelled like a 5 year hatred between us#which we then dragged our bestfriends into#he shoved my head in the sandbox. i tried to cut his hair with scissors. he made fun of my ribbons. i punched hin in the face#he kicked me when i was pretending to sleep. i put sand in his lunch.#he'd always tell the teachers on us. i invited everyone in class to my bday party except him and his friend#yes we were like 5 yrs old. but like#is not such a normal thing to have such a big long term fight with someone over something so mundane and petty???
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i feel so content/happy like i'm a child at a sleepover but no im just finally living w my friends
#i enjoyed living alone and rly hated living w my parents but living w friends is a diff experience its so cute and cool !!#one of our friends made us cocktails another friend finally moved in we went out tghth today i had very good miso soup + matcha#i bought my own pack of miso so i can make the soup whenever i want now :)#listened to british sea power tgth we had absinthe drinks etc etc good day over all !!#we are trying to find a good dining table and a good carpet i can hear one of my friends in the kitchen cleaning#crystal with the real-gold rims we live in a house without a living room but were going to make one for ourself#i hope it keeps going well#we shall see
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just did a fifteen hour shift i WILL kill myself if anyone attempts to make me move for the next fifteen hours
#got two bottles of wine and half a bottle of hendricks out of it so not terrible#but i also had like. ten hours on my feet without any food xxxxx#and i did something dodgy to my knee grrrrrr#anyway i’m going to the pub tomorrow evening (the pub that i know work at lmao so that’ll be funny)#now****#and i’m seeing my friend who i haven’t seen i believe since my last birthday party (basically a year ago)#also decorating the christmas tree…… my parents and sister bought a tree TWO WEEKS AGO and it’s just been sitting naked in our lounge#not even bc they were waiting for me to come back it’s just bc there wasn’t a time they were all free…. which surely can’t be true#anyway so i probs will be moving at some point in the next fifteen hours#dw guys i probably won’t kill myself xxxxx#also idk why i keep posting these life updates like you guys don’t need to know about my comings and goings#but you’re getting them anyway coxoxox enjoyyyy<3333#hope everyone is doing well…… i might have marauders things to say again at some point……..
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isnt it annoying that you never get to see the end of your dreams?
#had 2 last night#in the 1st i was at a tldp concert but for some reason on stage? like i was at the audience but i was sitting on stage behind them#they sang nothing matters and then a rap song? and then they took a break and i woke up before they could continue :(#in the 2nd i was a child who was either tahani (tgp) or my friend from highschool (idk how id mix them tbh)#and i was at home with her sister and someone who was our dad and we convinced him to make us a dessert with grapes. jellocream and wine#bc mom had said no but she wasn't there so we told him that he is just as much of a parent lol#but i woke up while we were constructing the dessert#jo says stuff#personal ramblings#my dreams
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yall don't know platonic yearning like I do 😤
#all i want is a friend i can build a life with#we'll sleep in separate beds but occasionally we'll both get up for a late night snack at the same time and giggle about it#we'll call each other husband or wife while also having our freedom to seek out sex or romance outside of our partnership#there will always be someone to come home to and i won't feel the stifling pressure to perform romance for them#i want my future kids to be raised in love and friendship#i want them to know that they don't have to be a certain way in order to be loved#i want someone to hold my hair when im sick and let me cry on their shoulder when things are hard and stick up for me when i need it#i may never have this and it hurts my heart#ive told myself that being a single parent would make me happy because ill be happy as long as im not in a romantic relationship#but i don't know if thats actually true#ive resigned myself to that as a possoble future for me because being a parent is improtant to me#but there's this loneliness inside of me that I don't know I'll ever be able to get rid of#i thought i had a chance at the life i want with my ex and thats why i held on so long as tried to ignore all of our incompatibilities#but at the end of the day#hes a hopeless romantic and will always want the intense romantic love i can never give him and i will always resent those expectations#i wish things were different#personal#vent#aro tag#aromantic#platonic yearning#queerplatonic relationship#feel free to ignore but if you see this and also feel this way I'd love to commiserate :')
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hello I am now engaged 🏳️🌈
#I asked last night at her book release event#her parents and all our local friends were there and it was so lovely 🥹#now she’s on a SEVENTEEN DAY BOOK TOUR#but that’s okay. we’ll have our entire lives after 🥰
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Thought I'd post this because it blew my mind. A few days ago i was sitting by this shrub, and not even two seconds had passed that i was sitting there that this little guy caught my eye. We have a tree that is frequented by a pair of hummingbirds, so i was incredibly surprised to see that we had.. another, really teeny tiny hummingbird????
But no! Something about this critter struck me as very very weird. I looked up "smallest hummingbird" and, well, they didn't match up. Looking at the video i noticed the little antennae and decided to look up "hummingbird butterfly" and wouldn't you know it, it was!
It's actually a moth, but still. I'm glad i could get near enough with my phone to identify it.
#nature#moths#hummingbird moth#lepidoptera#insect#nature is soso crazy!!!#biology#i'm so in love with this little guy#i showed my parents and they were as dumbfounded as i was#one of my uni friends is a certified Bird Lover and turns out it's contagious.#my dad likes photography and got a camera years back that's actually still really good#and i've started to follow each and every bird that's in our yard (in a very rural area) to take pictures of them#which led me to be much much much more observant in general. so far this summer i've spotted more nests than ever in my entire life#and counted at least 10 species of birds that hang around#it's been so much fun
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going to other people's houses for dinner is wild because it's such a crapshoot on what kind of culinary experience you're about to have. some places it's just delightful and you feel like you're in that one scene in ratatouille where it's all colourful when he tastes the ingredients. other places it feels like whatever the fuck is on your plate is a close cousin of the pulp they use in paper manufacturing and you wish you had pulled a hillary clinton and smuggled some hot sauce in your bag
#eliot posts#like my friend john's house is great to visit for dinner bc his dad is an amazing cook#i will often leave that place with a recipe in my pocket#my friend jeffrey's house... that guy's family seem like they could be murdered by a single flake of parsley#he's an excellent friend and i love visiting him but i will sprinkle so much black pepper on my food at the dinner table#that if i did that in public i would probably get funny looks#my big sister is surprisingly good at cooking nowadays#she used to suck at it when we were younger#that time when she was like 16 and wanted us to do a few hannukah traditions to get in touch w our ashkenazim ancestors#and she made latkes so bad that it felt like a time-bending hate crime against our dead great grandparents#a lot of the cooking fell on my shoulders back when we both lived w our parents lol
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