#platonic yearning

[a-witches-riddle]

To pet a girl, on her soft head, oh what a life that would be

[loveless-deer]

I want you to come over to my house, and curl up on the bed with me. I don't want to do anything much, except hold you close, and snuggle up under my blanket with you, and leave kisses all over your face, and feel your presence next to me. I love you. I want you to know just how much I do, but I cannot express it. Not through words. Maybe through actions, but how can I use actions when you're so far away?

We wouldn't even have to talk. I'd be happy with just your breathing; the rise and fall of your chest lulling me into tranquility.

[virginwithasthma]

I experience little romantic and no sexual attraction and because of that, I don't really want "more" from people. I want a devotion, dedication and effort in my friendships that most people (the people I've been with at least) don't really associate with just "being friends". I'm here putting all this effort into my relationships and for a while things work out but only until my friends get into romantic and/or sexual relationships with other people and realize they'd rather spend their time and effort on their partners.

[roachbot]

Hugging is not enough let me into your bloodstream

[theriseofthesea]

I think I’m a bit in love with my friends. They’re all so wonderful and I hope they know that.

[tremendously-crazy]

what if the unexplained yearning i feel every day is the result of a love from a past life transcending the boundaries of death, destined to reunite once again some day

[qpp-townie]

I think part of what people struggle with when hearing a term like Queerplatonic Relationship is that it doesn’t fit into one of the boxes they already have set up for how the world works and so rather than make room for it, they try to shove it where it doesn’t belong or argue that it actually shouldn’t exist.

It is a term trying to convey information. It is not a trick or delusion or oversight on my part.

If I introduce you to someone and say ‘we are in a relationship’ most people (in the US at least) will default to thinking that means a romantic relationship which involved dating and now being a monogamous couple with sex, seeking marriage. Maybe not with that much detail, but that one word CAN carry a lot of implications that some would like to avoid from the start.

So i’d rather say ‘we are in a queer platonic relationship’ because that immediately tells you more information. It is a queer relationship and it is based on more platonic feelings (which doesn’t mean it is entirely platonic, but that’s an important part of it). It also tells you that these people have talked about their relationship and agree on this label, which should just NEVER be up for debate. If someone asks your opinion on a label that’s different, but same way you don’t get to decide who is queer or tell others what their feelings are, we are calling ourselves this for a reason.

But here’s the thing, saying that we are a QPR does not tell you the whole story! Same way saying you are dating, together with, married to, etc. someone, does not give you the full context of a relationship! Someone can say they are married, but later specify it is an asexual romantic relationship. Someone can say they dating and that can mean they are exclusive or seeking other partners. There are similar things qprs “typically” exhibit (but don’t have to), like closeness, living together, and no expectations of having to woo or romance the other person. But it is a broad term meant to encapsulate many types of relationships that fall outside the norm of building a nuclear family and amatonormative (romantic love is the most important kind of love) societal standards (which is not a universal standard for human relations, if there is a word in a different language/culture that fits better then that is of course okay!)

And I hope this can be a lesson about interacting with queer people/ people different from you in general, but rather than saying ‘that sounds like this thing/ that sounds fake/ I don’t want to call it that cause I’m used to this other thing/ i’m used to these boxes and just going to put you in one based on what you said’ just say:

‘cool! I’m not familiar with that, can you explain more?’ or even just ‘okay!’

[chaoticbuggybitchboy]

Not lovers or friends but a secret third thing (band members)

[cecilsrandomeverything]

One day I will be able to pick him up. I am not strong enough yet, but one day, when I see him again, I will be able to lift him up into my arms and everything will be perfect 🩷

[celestiachan]

i need to snuggle someone as we both do our own things on our phones

[kazbrekkerfast]

istg if I have to sit there overwhelmed with the feeling of yearning for someone to buy me flowers in a platonic way I might just buy them for myself

[loveless-deer]

You joke about love. You joke about pulling me close and holding me as I fall asleep in your arms.

I wish it was still a joke for me. I wish I could see you in person for once. I wish I could make good on the silly, sappy posts I send you. I wish I could hold your hand and lean back against you on the grass as you adorn my hair with flowers, the sun on our skin.

I wish you knew what I wish. I wish you felt the same. I wish I could tell you.

[autistic-lizard]

I think platonic yearning is extremely underrated that stuffs the shit

[cb-writes-stuff]

I didn’t expect to find love on tumblr. But I’m not complaining.

[theriseofthesea]

Currently experiencing Yearning Hours™️

[thr4shit]

Talking isn't enough.

I need to see my mutuals, then do this...

I need to feel their heartbeats beneath us, to listen to it. To learn it.

I need to be able to feel their breathing, their life.

I need to.

And I don't know what to do while I simply just... can't. While none of us can.

I want to feel their heartbeats, we all want to feel their heartbeats. We just want proof that both us and them are alive. That we're living. That we're feeling.

We want to feel connected to life through our friends, and not feel like a wayward soul, even for a moment. To find peace in knowing there are people out there who care and whom we care for in return.