#or harm/pedophilic/etc ocd

[halfelven]

saw someone argue that writing about child abuse was wrong and anyone who did or even read about it ‘secretly liked it’ because why else would they think about it that much? and then go on to say you can’t argue that the book is fiction because ‘child abuse is real’ and… like in that case almost nothing would be fiction. theft exists so reading robin hood is a crime* etc.

a fictional story is ‘real’ because the topics are real. i would love to bring that up in one of my classes ngl. what at that point would define fictionality?

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*not that i think theft is necessarily wrong but that’s not the point of this post

[momentsofamberclarity]

don't call me nonnie.

i know that not all proshipping is sexual, but it's still portraying pedophilia/incest positively

the bullet point lists were because i just wanted to separate each sentence into a different point because they were all sort off disconnected

the "they're just pixels" argument doesn't work because every single thing you see on a screen is a bunch of pixels if you zoom in, with that logic every image posted online is "just pixels", including actual csem

Fine, I won't call you that. But riddle me this, anon; why am I showing you more respect than you're showing me? Why have you told me to go fuck myself multiple times in place of having a discussion?

Here's the thing ... the only way you will find csem is if you go looking for it. You are not going to find csem on tumblr because it would break community guidelines. But fictional characters under the age of 18 do not count as csem and numerous child protection services have stated that those are just art.

Likewise, the only way you're gonna find fanfiction of 'kids being raped' as you keep putting it, is if you're trying to be a white knight and seek those writers out purposefully so that you can harass them like you're doing with me. Because most of the proshippers I know tag their stuff so that it can be found by the target audience and blacklisted by the people who don't want to see it.

And here's the thing about proshipping which I think is the biggest hurtle of the anti community. Proship doesn't mean 'I support active sexual predators hurting real living children'. 'Pedophile' as a term is meaningless at this point because everyone on the internet uses it to describe anyone they disagree with. You're better off using predator and paraphile. Predators are the dangerous people who don't give a shit about fiction because they have full-intent to harm others. But the majority of paraphiles? They're no-contact and/or fiction-only on their paraphilias, or they do consenting adult things with their consenting adult partners that are roleplaying with boundaries set in place for a reason.

I've been on the internet since before the term 'proship' even popped up. Back before that we called it Dead Dove, Don't Eat and Don't Like, Don't Look. 'Proship' as a term has the same meaning as those old ones, it's just shorthand. It means 'I support the rights of others to ship whatever they want in their own space regardless of whether or not I like or condone it because I don't know them and it does not involve me'. You don't like the content? You have a block button and you are encouraged to use it to curate your own online experience just like the artists and authors posting that content are.

The fact that you're still here means you're hearing some of what I'm saying and possibly having a hard time coming to terms with it. Believe me, I went through a period of morality crisis between my bpd and ocd telling me that fiction could affect reality and I thought that thinking bad things ( like intrusive thoughts ) made me a Bad Person. But thoughts are just thoughts.

So if you want to come off anon and actually have a conversation with me, I promise I'm not going to name-drop you. The purpose of this blog has only ever been about clearing up misconceptions about proshippers and paraphiles because I used to be uninformed about those topics myself until my partner and another super close friend explained them to me in a way that I could comprehend. And that is that thought crime doesn't exist. And fictional characters don't have autonomy and therefore cannot be abused by your thoughts, your art, your writing, etc.

But if we did away with fictional expression of paraphilias in a healthy artistic manner ( like KOSA is currently trying to do ), the world would be a more dangerous place for potential victims, because paraphiles and predators are always going to exist whether you choose to accept that or not. My own abusers never faced charges, only one of my partners' abusers is rotting in jail, and that is the reality of this fucked up world that we're living in. People with niche fetishes aren't monsters - most are even too embarrassed to talk about them. Active sexual predators online who hop into the DMs of minors to be creeps are a real world problem. And that has nothing to do with the proship community's philosophy of 'ship and let ship'.

[bittyfromquotev]

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[garpond]

I'm not the first person to say this either but genuinely a lot of people who are convinced they're pedophiles and seek help for it aren't actually, but instead have OCD on the subject and their intrusive thoughts are obsessive rumination about whether or not they could potentially harm a child. This is misunderstood SO frequently as to be viewed as legitimate pedophilia in a huge amount of cases, which can be so distressing to the person with OCD that they withdraw from society entirely and/or kill themselves despite being entirely innocent. I have OCD and it runs in my family and I have a loved one who struggles with this theme, so it's always where my mind goes when people discuss "self identified pedophiles who stay away from children and manage their condition" etc. I genuinely wonder how many of them are completely harmless people who have a severe mental illness that makes them feel compelled to live this way, because they don't understand that their "attraction" is just OCD intrusive thoughts.

[theblackdog552]

I'm curious about having pro-contact in your dni but you being pro paraphile. would it not be easier to say maps/pedos dni? or are you okay with people who identify as pedophiles interacting with you?.. its strange to not make that distinction when proshippers are so often made out to be pedophiles

writing this as a proshipper by the way

So my stance is that im ok with paraphiles as long as they stay away from stuff they’re attracted to like children, animals, corpses, etc. a lot of people dont chose to be paraphiles, just like how people with ocd dont chose to have intrusive thoughts and adhd people dont chose to be hyperactive. I dont have maps/pedos dni because i dont hate pedos, i hate pedos who harm children.

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

I've been seeing a lot of "someone who is recovered from OCD won't feel distressed at their intrusive thoughts and that's a good thing" which I agree with wholeheartedly. I've also seen people use this to say you can't truly be happy until you accept that your intrusive thoughts are true and you actually want to be violent/pedophilic/etc, which is obviously untrue and distressing to people with OCD who don't want to turn out that way. So I wanted to tell you all that there is a middle ground between the two.

Intrusive thoughts are almost always ego-dystonic. Ego in this case is being used in the Freudian way, to describe your moral self. Ego-dystonic thoughts are against your moral code/will but are difficult or impossible to stop. We don't want to have intrusive thoughts about harm, pedophilia, or other disturbing topics, but we can't stop. Initially, this will cause distress. As you recover, you learn that intrusive thoughts don't define you, they aren't how you really feel, and that dwelling on them and being disgusted with yourself doesn't help. But you'll never feel like your intrusive thoughts of doing harmful things line up with your moral code.

I don't often open up about my intrusive thoughts for fear of being judged by people who don't get it, but I'll share an example. I often rub my cat's paw as a stim, I've been doing this since she was a baby so she doesn't mind. My intrusive thoughts decided to interrupt my peaceful stimming by telling me that I should break her leg. Obviously, I didn't actually want to do this, I love her and don't want to hurt her. Even if she wasn't my cat, it would go against my moral code which says that it's wrong to cause other beings unnecessary suffering. I quickly dismissed it as ridiculous and felt only a small amount of distress from it, but it was very much ego-dystonic. It didn't, and will never, line up with my moral code.

[anachronic-cobra]

I see a lot of explanations of OCD on tumblr, but the thing is that they all tend to be from the POV of someone with an internal monologue. It's frequently questions, "what if I'm a pedophile" or "what if I hurt my family" or "what if I left an appliance on when I left for work and burned down my house with my pets inside".

I do not have an inner monologue, I never got to see myself in these descriptions. I didn't know that the problem I was having was OCD until I finally gathered the courage to talk to my therapist about it.

So for those of you without an inner monologue, here are some of the ways OCD intrusive thoughts can occur in my own experience and from my therapist's explanations:

Unwanted mental images that you can't shake

The sudden urge to do something that greatly distresses you

Mental echo chamber - an idea that stresses you out but keeps repeating more and more intensely, regardless of how or why the thought occurred

The sudden fear that someone you love has been harmed in some way and you aren't there for them

The idea that you are faking your identity and are actually gay/straight/etc

Worry that you may have or will have serious medical conditions, with or without symptoms

These thoughts generally don't seem to go away until you perform some action to make them stop - that's the compulsive aspect. These can include things like:

Physical actions related to the thought (running home on your break to make sure people are okay, using butter knives instead of the appropriate utensil for a meal, flicking the lights in a certain pattern that reassures your brain, repetitively googling medical symptoms, even watching porn (even when not aroused) to assure yourself you're not a predator)

Mental actions (counting to drown out the thought, focusing on a pattern)

Preventative actions, whether conscious or not (driving a certain route to avoid a trigger, pacing a certain pattern before confronting a trigger, compulsive masturbation even when not aroused to prevent sexual intrusive thoughts from happening later)

The obsession is the intrusive thoughts, feelings, or urges that you cannot shake. They are your worst-case scenario, and the compulsion is the action that, in your mind, prevents the worst-case scenario from happening, or at least stops the thoughts from happening. It's not something you are actively choosing to think or do, and the compulsions themselves can cause additional harm physically or mentally.

The only way to really recover from this is to learn to recognize the intrusive thoughts are not your actual desires, learn to live with the intrusive thoughts via behavioral therapy, and to learn that the worst case scenario will not happen if you don't perform the compulsion. That's the sticking point - it's compulsive and it's terrifying.

Medication, in my experience, dulls the repetition and makes it easier to let pass. With that, the compulsions are easier to ignore. It takes time, effort, and often help from a professional.

[homocidalpotat]

Intro post under the cut!

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Basic introduction

This post is probably on the boring side, and quite lengthy but if you can be bothered to read it I would really appreciate it.

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Name: Jasper

Gender: Alexigender/genderqueer/genderfluid/non-binary, whatever, I don't massively care lol

Pronouns: They/them mostly but I'm happy anything other than she/her

Theriotypes (yeah, I'm a therian/otherhearted!): Bats, foxes, Burmese mountain dogs, moths, pangolins

MBTI and Zodiac: INTJ, Scorpio (I don't believe in zodiac sign meanings or anything but if you want to know, here!)

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Please don't harass me- with spam, in my DMs/askbox; about ANYTHING. If you have a problem with something I say or do, just talk to me calmly? It's not the end of the world if you don't like my posts. Block me if you want, I don't really care.

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As I'm a minor with no money I can't donate to any funds for anything or anyone. I might not reblog donation posts if there are triggering subjects on it, but if I feel able to, I will. Please don't send me asks/DMs for donations/help, here is why I have said this . I mean any asks, no matter your situation or nationality. I'm not doing favouritism.

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Queer stuff

I'm asexual and sex repulsed, but I'm not going to hate on sex-positive or kink or anything! I am also genderqueer/genderfluid/alexigender, so I don't mind what terminology or pronouns you use on me but I prefer more neutral ones. I don't know how to label my sexuality but I'm just calling it queer. I'm in a loving, long-term romantic relationship with the wonderful @names-confuse-me (they're called Erin and he's awesome!).

I will always respect your pronouns and identity and I am a safe person to speak to about this (and most other things). If I don't know your pronouns I will use they/them until I find out. Sometimes I don't fully understand an identity but I will always respect and acknowledge it!

Queer dictionary (genuinely a lifesaver): Link!!! And here's the link to the post I made about it!

Mental Health stuff

I am officially diagnosed with autism, and I might have OCD. My parents think I have ADHD, as well as probably synthensia. But in short I am neurodivergent, so would really appreciate a safe environment for me, if you can provide it!

I also have vivid hallucinations, panic attacks, I self harm, etc. I have a vent blog so I won't mention it here, and I always use trigger warnings. This shouldn't be an issue but if you really dont want to see that stuff, don't follow me probably.

Sometimes people tag/dm/ask/reblog something to me and I don't respond. I'm not ghosting you, I don't hate you, you haven't done anything wrong. I am a depressed teenager with strict parents and little-to-no motivation half the time. Sorry if this bothers you but I just can't sometimes.

Please don't purposefully harass or upset me. You will be blocked and reported.

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Everything I say is gender neutral (e.g. dude, bro, girlie) but I will always use your preferred pronouns and be as affirming for you as possible. If you aren't okay with me referring to you with gendered words that you don't like, even ironically, just shout! I won't be upset and I will stop straight away

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This blog is pretty much entirely SFW. I don't often reblog things that are NSFW (depending on your definition of NSFW, I might never have), but if I think something is even slightly inappropriate or triggering, I will tag it <3

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What I post/interests

Stuff I like: Nature (yes! all of it... except most molluscs), music, being whimsical, understanding the world around me, being gay (and doing crimes), making other people feel happy, my dog and two rabbits, being creative, dinosaurs, geology, going exploring anywhere, big long walks, my partner, gaming, binge watching, making friends, i-will-add-to-this-list-when-i-can-think-of-stuff

Media I interact with: Legend of Zelda (specifically TOTK, BOTW, EOW and Skyward Sword), Jurassic Park/World, the Owl House, the Lord of the Rings, Brooklyn 99, the Good Place, Heartstopper, Doctor Who, Portal, Delicious in Dungeon, Green Day, Dead Boy Detectives, Mouthwashing

Ships I interact with: Ineffable Spouses (Good Omens), Sidlink (TOTK/BOTW), Johnlock (BBC Sherlock) and BlackBonnet (OFMD), Lumity (TOH), Raeda (TOH), a bunch of other TOH ships, Farcille (DID), Kabru (DID), Payneland (DBD)

I don't always post a huge amount of some of these fandoms/ships/media, so if you plan on following me for them, maybe just have a snoop around my account for a bit first. You might find that I hardly ever interact with the content. Maybe if you prompt me to I will. The lists don't necessarily include everything I like because I don't have that memory.

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Hey, I'm Dani. Haven't made an intro post yet but I might as well lol

Alot of the info is under the read more cus I do NOT want this long ass list to be taking up half my page

I'm a bi lesbian and a transsexual/salmacian (altersex), I started my process of detransitioning from being FTM/binary transmasc a few months ago but I still consider myself apart of the trans community, and I'm also Genderqueer & GNC. use only she/he pronouns for me. Any terms are fine but rn I perfer fem & neutral publically, masc terms are often reserved for my partners & my wife.

I'm 23 in system currently, my birthday is May 13th, but bodily we are 21 years old. This account will be 18+ so MINORS DON'T INTERACT

I'm apart of a polyfragmented DID system, and I'm a subsystem myself. Having said that, this blog is meant for just me and my insane posts lol.

While being in a DID system, Me and the rest of us are fully in support of endogenics and non traumagenic systems. we believe in plurality regardless of origin so If you're anti endo stay as far away from us as possible, we won't hesitate.

My biggest interests are mechanical engineering, computer sciences, robotics, video games & a few other things.

I deal with auDHD, BPD, HPD, and P-OCD/Health OCD. If you believe that people with PDs are abusive, especially those with cluster b PDs, and ESPECIALLY for HPD, ASPD & NPD, Fuck off, and if you think those with P-OCD/Z-OCD are pedophiles/zoos, go away also. we're mentally ill and traumatized, and this is how it manifested. I am no more harmful than anyone else, and I am definitely not a pedophile for having a severe anxiety disorder around the FEAR and ANXIETY of being a pedo and being the same as our abusers. We're a grooming/online CSA victim as well, and we can not control or predict how this trauma and mental illness manifests, but we are in treatment right now for these things.

I'm polyamorous, and I'm in a relationship with @transfemgirldick a couple of others apart of the Sunny/Occult System (@vampiricangels) so while I will post about nsfw and kink, I will not respond to sexual and romantic advances, but some playful/non serious flirting and joking is fine, just respect me and my partners

I may post about sexual content and kinks, so as a warning you might see hornyposting on here.

My current special interests involves the band Ghost, Minecraft (Hermitcraft adjacent), Pokemon and Pizza Tower.

My DNI list is long, and I have a banner that I'll be posting on all of my original posts, but in general DNI if youre a terf or radfem, map/pedo, radqueer (like transid/pro and complex contact paraphile/proshipper/etc), yanderecore or traumacore blog, anti endo, anti mspec lesbians/gays, and in general being a bigoted shithole.

As a detransitioning/retransitioning person I understand people will have biases about us, and I understand we are often used as transphobic rhetoric by radfems and terfs, but Not every one of us are suddenly transphobic OR cisgender when we detransition/retransition. DNI if you're again detrans people OR are into detrans kink. Fuck off with that.

Hope yall enjoy my blog, just be nice to others! ^^

[proship-selfship]

Im therian, and it took forever for me to find a pack I wanted to join where Id feel safe enough to exist as a person with paraphilic OCD and a therian at the same time. When I finally did, I started noticing all these other therians getting massive hate and suicide baits from people I was following. As soon as I posted saying that there is a huge double standard and that is disgusting of people to suicide bait and isolate and oppress other people for anything that they see as different or wrong that they cant understand, didnt even reference anything paraphilia related, and immediately I got banned from the discord server for the pack, they started posting everywhere about me, the founding member of the pack is schizophrenic like myself and we bonded ovee that briefly, and they started posting about how Im “probably like this because hes schizo” and they got other people to join in calling me crazy, a freak, insane, retarded, etc. All because I said “if you tell someone to kill themselves for any reason, youre disgusting, and having a therian instagram account is for being therian, not discourse, and nobody wants to see you be an asshole on the regular.” These people are fucked up. One of them from the server is a big trauma positivity advocate and straight up told me that there will never be safe places for me to exist and that she hopes I get physically abused and assaulted by anyone who loves me. She also is in self harm recovery, yet told me to cut myself over this. These people will look for literally any chink in your armor and try to exploit it, just to be a justifiable bully. They learned about bullying in school, so they think that because this is towards “awful people” that every single thing an average cyberbully does that they end up replicating in these situations, they tell themselves, “well, Im doing this to a pedophile, so its ok!” No, youre doing it to a person, first and foremost. And people with POCD are people. Maybe if we treated people who are uncomfortable with their paraphilias before they had to learn to love themselves after trying to seek help and the world telling them to stop existing, maybe we would have a lot less actual pedophiles. Antis are fucking insane.

I'm sorry that happened dude, that was fucked up from start to finish. I hope you find a better pack, pack is family. Family doesn't treat each other like that. Fucken antis dude.

[rants-and-anger]

Hey guys, can we just agree on one fact that everyone has the ability to change? I mean none of us are truly clean, we all did fuck ups in the past, we all probably did terrible things when we were younger due to not knowing what’s right or wrong. I mean come on, you can point fingers at someone for doing something bad in the past but there’s such a high chance of them changing and having different thoughts now as they grow older and experience life.

And let’s also get into mental disorders or developmental disorders some people have, such as ocd, autism, depression, adhd, etc

By definition, a mental disorder are conditions that affect your thinking, feeling, mood, and behavior. They may be occasional or long-lasting (chronic). They can affect your ability to relate to others and function each day.

Such mental disorders are OCD, this mental disorder causes repeated unwanted thoughts or sensations (obsessions) or the urge to do something over and over again (compulsions). Some people can have both obsessions and compulsions. OCD isn't about habits like biting your nails or thinking negative thoughts, it’s not your cutesy “UwU sorry I need to fix the picture frame because of my OCD”, no it’s something more than that.

A variant of the OCD mental disorder is P-OCD, POCD is an obsessive fear of being or becoming a pedophile, what to many is considered the ultimate loss of identity. They fear that they might be a pedophile due to their trauma and their unwanted intrusive thoughts. POCD may stem from many many different reasons, one of them being the fear that having been a victim of childhood sexual abuse condemns one to become an abuser, people with POCD Can’t Stop Talking About It… and Also Can’t Talk About It, they feel ashamed and guilt, especially when they can’t get the help they need due to either the environment being terrible such as horrible parents or not being able to afford an OCD-specialist.

Now developmental disorders, it means a severe (not all of them are severe), chronic disability of an individual who has a mental or physical impairment by the age of 22 which is likely to continue indefinitely and results in substantial functional limitations in three or more areas of major life activity.

Such developmental disorders such as Autism Spectrum Disorder. Now there are many variants that we can’t exactly generalize it but basically, it is a developmental disorder that affects communication and behavior. People with autism have trouble with communication. They have trouble understanding what other people think and feel. This makes it hard for them to express themselves, either with words or through gestures, facial expressions, and touch. Therefore, it takes longer for them to realize things that somethings are wrong and they can get confused. Im not saying that we should baby them and such, but Im saying is to give more patience and time.

Now most of these things, people can get help or assistance by getting therapy, being in a supportive environment and the feeling of importance to other people, but what if they can’t get have those privileges? What can you do? Well first you can try to understand their situation, you can try to help them, you can try to be supportive, you can try to at least leave them alone when they’re not feeling well. Just please, please, educate yourselves first before you speak. Nobody ever really knows how much anyone else is hurting. You could be standing next to somebody who is completely broken and you wouldn't even know it. That's why you should always try to be kind.

You guys think that condemning these behaviors by sending death threats, insults and doxxing them will help? No. No it does not. It just pushes them into a corner where they just accept that they are a terrible person and start to lash out even more, instead of just causing drama, how about we try to understand what the other person is going through? Like seriously, you can’t just call someone a literal devil if you only got it from one side of the story but not hear the other, that’s unfair and unjust. There is no fairness if you do something like that and it’s just frankly a waste of everyone’s time as it’s just gonna be hurling insults left and right till either

A. someone kills themselves due to how being dramatic the problem became

Or

B. The drama just stops because there is no literal point and continuing it anymore

We don’t know every single part of the story of a person, we don’t know every single thing about a person, and we do not know what the person has went through as a person. So just please hear me out, instead of starting useless drama, doxxing, death threats and assumptions, please just listen what the other person has to say.

Remember, thinking about doing something is different from actually doing it, thinking about it means it just formed in your mind suddenly while doing it is when you actually resolved yourself and actually follow through with it, prepared to face the consequences, there’s a difference.

Also misgendering someone despite the fact they’re “bad” or not still makes you an asshole like seriously, being hateful and harming someone is one thing but purposely misgendering their identity is just not cool man, at least say the right pronouns and respect their human decency. Even courts do these kinds of things.

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WHAT THIS ACCOUNT IS FOR:

This account is mostly for me to rant about things I'm passion about, mostly including politics, queer rights, and disabled rights. This is my professional rant account (meaning I try and educate and try my best not to show my anger), but I might reply with my non-professional rant account that will contain the same general concepts but I do show more anger.

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A LITTLE ABOUT ME:

My name's Chris(tos) or you can call me Bug.

I'm autistic & ADHD, and am in the process of getting diagnosed with OCD, I use AAC and have tics as well. I'm also disabled (mentally and physically). I speak a few languages (or understand them at some capacity) including English, German, Spanish, ASL, Italian (listed in most to least fluent).

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BOUNDARIES/RULES:

Although I do post argumentative/debatable content I will not engage in debates about these subjects, I will actively block those who try and start arguments AGAINST the subject as I do not care what you have to add. I will also not respond to things sent to me that are against the topics I post about, or who follow my DNI in anyway.

Respecting the pronouns I have listed in my bio is a mandatory thing, your own ideas of my pronouns doesn't affect your ability to respect them, I do use they/them but those are not a substitute for my neo pronouns and I do not accept them being used as such. I do use he/him although I do not accept being called those exclusively unless stated otherwise.

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DNI:

TERFS (Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist), TEHMS (Trans Exclusionary Homosexual Men), SWERFS (Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist), truscum, trumed trumedic, anti-mogai, anti-xeno, anti-neo, exclusionists, anti-BLM, anti-ACAB, anti-SAAPIH.

Blue lives matter, ALM, racists, queerphobes (trans, homo, bi, a, etc.), sexists/misogynists, ableists, those who are antisemitic, those who are islamophobic, those who are xenophobic, autism speaks/next for autism supporters.

Those who support fetishization or who fetishize, MAPS, noMAPS (IE pedophiles, hebephiles, ephebophiles), zoophiles (beastiality).

Proana, eating disorder blogs, self harm blogs (I block and report these accounts, even if it states to not report your account I still follow through with that action).

(This list may be subject to change)

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Submissions Open!

However, I have a few rules!

What I Don't Do

I reserve the right to deny any requests

No sexual situations with children as the main target; I do not condone or support pedophilic actions, and asking me to write that will earn an instant block. However, this is different from child sexual abuse in the sense that the s/o or TF2 character is recovering from it. I do want to clarify, however, that you are allowed to ask if it's in the sense of understanding the rule

I do not do anything involving yandere

I do not do DD/LG (Daddy Dom/Little Girl)

I do not do the daddy kink

I do not do rape

I only do headcanons, so requests for actual fanfictions will be ignored

I do not do OCD, sociopathy, psychopathy, or toxic relationships

I do not do suicide (this is different from suicidal thoughts, though), please do not ask me to do this

I don’t do OCs, sorry!

What I Will Do

I will do NSFW and SFW

I will do ships with each other or with the reader. I will also simply do concepts of ideas with no shipping (for example, how would the team react to their hats being stolen?)

If you do not specify a gender, I will automatically assume it is gender-neutral so that everyone can enjoy

If you want something in the first, second, or third person, please specify! If not, I usually write in third person.

I have no qualms with doing gore, so send in whatever!

I will do genderbends!

I will do depression, autism, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and self-harm

I do rare-pairs, so don’t be shy!

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Anonymous is on, meaning that you can send in asks that you don't want associated with your Tumblr

I do one to two Headcanon posts a day with more in the queue so this blog doesn't run out of content; however, this limit may be subject to change depending on how many asks I receive

If you don't see your request, don't fret! You may have to wait a day or two for it to come out, as I have a bit of a queue!

Pyro is gender-neutral unless specified otherwise in requests

If you request NSFW with Pyro, it would be better if you specified a gender or else it is going to be vague or entirely focused on the S/O (if the S/O is present in the request)

If requests close, they will reopen when the description states that there are five headcanons in the inbox

I will only accept up to three people for headcanons

Submitting Headcanons Yourself (BETA)

I reserve the right to deny any headcanons

Have some headcanons you want to write yourself? Submit (not ask) them!

I do ask, however, that they follow my rules (mainly the DO NOT rules like pedophilia, rape, etc.)

You can ignore the rule about mental illnesses, however, if you have an understanding of them

Feel free to customize the headcanons however you want!

I may proofread/edit posts, but I will not change the main ideas!

Please set up a bullet point headcanon with at least three headcanons

Seeing as this is in a beta, rules can and will be changed

Do not be afraid to reach out and ask questions! I would love to clarify and/or add to the list to make it easier for everyone! Remember, rules are subject to change!

My main blog is @lady-of-lorelei if you want to check out what I have to offer there

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Hi anon. The reason people are unfollowing TTB isn’t just because of the “feud” between her and femmetay. It’s because of her overall behaviour.

          I’m the type of person who always tries to see the best in people, and a week ago, I probably would have defended TTB the same way you are. But it’s kind of a matter of right and wrong at this point.

         Growing up in the society we’re living in, none of us are immune to having subconscious biases. That doesn’t necessarily make us bad people as long as we acknowledge that and put effort into unlearning those biases and doing better. TTB clearly has some of these biases.

         For example, the racial bias. Racism isn’t always conscious. She, a white woman, has been consistently trying to silence people of colour and shame them for their feelings. She’s been dismissing their opinions, speaking over them and acting like her own opinion is more valid, and she’s only been validating the few POC who share her opinion. That is a form of racism. It might be subconscious, but it’s still racism.

       It’s even more clear when you compare her reaction to this situation with the way that: A) She harshly called out Shawn and Ed Sheeran multiple times for not showing enough support for Taylor publicly, and B) The way she herself called out Taylor and even almost unstanned her, just for going on a pap walk with Joe.

        Also, the bias against Jewish people. Calling the Kushners and Scooter “rats” is extremely tone-deaf. There are some words that you just do *not* use against certain racial, ethnic, or religious groups because of the history of hatred and discrimination that is linked to those words. You cannot separate that insult from its dark history when you’re using it against people who are Jewish.

        And the ableism. TTB knows perfectly well that femmetay is bipolar, and she called her “crazy”, “emotional”, and “literally mentally unstable”. The word “literally” really says a lot about how she meant it. That is fucking awful. That is blatant ableism. There isn’t even any room for giving her the benefit of the doubt with this particular example.

        You guys might not see it as being that bad, but it’s disgusting. People don’t talk about ableism enough. Calling people with mental illnesses “crazy” and putting them down is so harmful.

       I have an invisible disability, and I also have OCD and anxiety. The reason I never got *any* support or understanding until I got a diagnosis when I was 18 is because my family were so afraid that people would find out and would think I was “crazy”. So, I never knew what was “wrong” with me, I struggled alone, and I would constantly be told by grown adults (family, teachers, strangers, etc): “Stop acting weird”, “People are going to think you’re crazy”, “They’re going to send you to a mental hospital”, etc. And it was really damaging in so many ways.

       My dad has PTSD and ADHD and went without being diagnosed, without telling a single person, and without any medication until he was in his 40s. Why? Because he was so worried that people would shame him and call him “mental” or “crazy”.

       My uncle’s situation was very similar to femmetay’s. He was bipolar, and he was a teacher. He was great at his job, and the students liked him. But once the parents found out he was bipolar, they gave him hell for it. They would constantly shame him, call him “mentally unstable” (even though he was on meds), tell him they didn’t want “someone like him” teaching their kids, etc. And I strongly believe that if it wasn’t for the stigma about mental health and the constant ableism he had to face, he would still be with us today. (note: as somebody who attended public school up until now, teachers who happen to have a mental illness are really not worrisome at all. there is so much other shit that is actually worth worrying about. like pedophiles.)

      This stuff *can’t* be taken lightly. Comments like the ones that TTB made are a major contributing factor to the reason that my uncle and so many other disabled and people with mental illnesses are no longer with us today.

      It’s literally inexcusable how she strongly implied that femmetay shouldn’t be a teacher. It’s also telling how she deletes so many comments from her posts, but she didn’t delete the ones where some of her followers literally outright *said* that. That isn’t an individual attack. That is an attack against every single teacher in the world with BP, if not every person with BP in general.

       TTB also has harassed so many people in their messages out of the blue. And you can see the difference in tone. On her blog, her tone is a lot more “neutral”. In these messages, her tone is harsh and, in some cases, even kinda aggressive.

       And I’m not saying that TTB’s biases mean she’s a terrible person because, like I said, we’re conditioned to have biases. But the problem is that so many people have respectfully tried to talk to her and have tried to explain why some of the things she says are problematic and hurtful. But instead of hearing them out and apologising and making an effort to be better, TTB always reacts badly and becomes defensive. She then continues the same behaviour.

       It’s at that point, once she’s been informed and still continues, that her actions switch from being *unintentional* to being *deliberate*.

      Anyway, I’m not saying she’s evil or that I hate her or anything. All I’m saying is that I don’t want to support someone like that unless she actually changes. When you have a huge platform, especially as a straight white woman, you have a responsibility to listen to the feedback of POC and other minorities, and if they’re telling you that something you’re doing is hurtful, you should take a look at yourself and examine your behaviour instead of getting defensive and deleting and ignoring the things they’re saying.

        And maybe this whole post was unnecessary, but I’m only writing it because so many of her followers are blindly defending her and acting like she’s not done anything wrong 

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THE REALITY OF OCD.

This is a list of all the OCD'S I can think of. I don't go through each compulsion to get rid of the thoughts, but I go through most of the obsessions. I hope this one day helps at least one person, to know that they are not a weirdo.

You can have all of these OCDs, some of these OCDs, or one of these OCDs, and still get diagnosed with OCD. You may have an OCD I haven't mentioned. It is OCD if the disturbing thought/thoughts happen every day and it destresses you, if you over think that it's not really distressing you enough, that is you being stressed anyway.

OCD is a recurring thought (obsession), that you try to prevent, or get rid of the anxiety about (compulsion), e.g, checking your mind to make sure you didn’t do a criminal act, or checking everyone is okay to make sure you didn’t kill, assault, offend, or hurt them, or checking they are okay with you so you know you didn’t cause them to doubt how lovely you deep down know you are, because of how strange you acted when certain things were brought up in conversation. Checking your body for any sexual feelings about intrusive thoughts you wish you didn’t have because you can’t get rid of them. All of these thoughts make you doubt who you are, you get urges to do things which you know you wouldn’t ever want to do because for one, it’s disgusting, and horrendous, and for two, it would fuck your life up. OCD latches onto anything that could fuck your life up. Making you doubt who you are and question how much prevention you need to take. Even the kindest, yes, one of the kindest OCD thoughts, like “If I don’t tap the candle someone in my family is going to die and it will be all my fault”, can make you question how much control you actually have.

Pedophelia OCD - Worrying you are, will be, did something without knowing, convinced everyone/someone else is, or everyone thinks you are a pedophile, worrying everyone thinks you think they’re a pedophile. Can come with groinal response.

Crime OCD- Worrying you will, have or want to, or someone else will or has, or wants to, worrying everyone else thinks you have, committed any type of crime, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve done a crime, e.g. pedophelia, stealing, cannibalism, murder, fraud, an affair, vandalism, rape etc. Can come with groinal response.

Animal OCD- worrying you will/have, want to, or worrying others will; have or wants to, worrying everyone thinks you have, killed, hurt or been sexual with an animal, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve done something to an animal. Can come with groinal response.

Groinal response OCD: This is a sexual response you get to an intrusive thought. You can get aroused from it, because you’re worried you will so you do, and also the fact that it is a sexual thought and your brain sometimes treats any sexual things as just that. This doesn’t mean anything about you as a person. You can get it any time your intrusive thought is triggered. Sexual feeling is different than desire.

Harm OCD- Worried you will/have or want to or worried others will/have or want to, worrying others think you have, harmed someone else or yourself, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve harmed someone.

Suicide OCD- Worried you’ll kill yourself when you don’t want to, worried everyone thinks you want to kill yourself, worrying everyone thinks you think they want to kill themselves.

Contamination OCD-Worried you will/have or want to, contaminate yourself or other people, worried others will/have or want to, contaminate themselves or other people, worried other people think you have contaminated yourself or other people, not just by things that could hold germs, but by things like poison, e.g worried you put bleach in foods unknowingly or have a false memory of it etc, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve contaminated people.

Paranoia OCD- Paranoid that cameras are watching you in your own home etc. Acting a certain way when you feel watched. Scared that aliens are coming to get you, worrying you're in a parallel universe and that everyone knows you've came from a parallel universe, but you. Feeling like you can't trust anyone.

Fake OCD: Thinking you might not have OCD and you're just faking it.

Hoarding OCD: Hoarding things in case you need it in the future, stuff can date back from donkey's years ago.

Correct OCD: Feeling the need to make sure everything you say is correct. No mistakes. Also feeling the need to make sure what someone else says is correct. If someone swears on their life you tell them to take it back in case they aren't telling the truth because you don't want them to die.

Religious OCD- Worrying you have/ will/ want to, do something against your religion, worrying others have/will/wants to, do something against their religion, worrying everyone thinks you’ve done something against your religion, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve done something against their religion. Can come with groinal response.

Possession OCD- Worried you will/have or want to, worried someone else will/has/wants to, get possessed, worried others think you’re possessed, worried others think you think they’re possessed. Can come with groinal response.

Straight OCD- Worried you will/have or want to, worried others will/have or want to, turn straight, worried others think you’re straight,worrying everyone thinks you think they’re straight. Can come with groinal response.

Trichotillomania OCD: Hair pulling OCD. Can involve counting the hairs you pull out. Feeling an intense compulsion to pull the hairs out and obsessively thinking about it.

Eating disorder (I think it's an OCD): Believing if you eat certain foods you'll get fat, believing you're fat when you're not. Dieting to the extreme etc. Or believing you're too skinny when you're not, and eating excessively to gain weight.

Appearance change OCD: Feeling the need to constantly change your appearance or be extremely focused on one imperfection etc. Thinking people will look at that one thing all the time etc.

Homosexual OCD- Worried you will/have or want to, worried others will/have or want to, turn gay, worried others think you’re gay, worrying everyone thinks you think they’re gay. Can come with groinal response.

Transgender OCD- Worried you will/have or want to, worried others will/have or want to, turn transgender, worried that others think you are transgender, worrying everyone thinks you think they’re transgender. Can come with groinal response.

Inscest OCD: Worried you will/have/want to, worried others will/have/want to, do Inscest. Worried people think you've done Inscest, worried people think you think they've done Inscest. Can come with groinal response.

Existential OCD- Worried you will/have/want/need to figure out the meaning of life, worried others will/have/want/need to figure out the meaning of life, worried people think you know the meaning of life, or you don’t know the meaning of life enough, worrying everyone thinks you think they know the meaning of life.

Health OCD- Worried you have many different illnesses, worried other people have many different illnesses, worried you or they will get many different illnesses, worried they think you have many different illnesses, worrying everyone thinks you think they have many different illnesses.

Social anxiety (I think it is OCD)- Worried you will go red, shake, faint, panic, etc, worried others will go red, shake, faint, panic, etc, worried that you or others will do anything inappropriate in a social setting, worried others think you’ve done something inappropriate in a social setting, worrying everyone thinks you think they’ve done something inappropriate in a social setting.

Relationship OCD- Worried you or your partner will stop loving each other, worried you or your partner have stopped loving each other, worried your partner thinks you don’t love them anymore, worrying everyone thinks you think they don’t love you anymore. Can come with groinal response about someone else.

Checking OCD- Worried you or other people, left,turned on,or endangered yourself and/or other people in some way, with machinery that are rarely but potentially hazardous, worried other people think you left,turned on,or endangered yourself and/or other people in some way, with machinery that are rarely but potentially hazardous on purpose, or you’ll be judged even if it was by accident, worried people think you think they left,turned on,or endangered yourself and/or other people in some way, with machinery that are rarely but potentially hazardous.

Cheating OCD- Worrying you will/have or want to, worried your partner will/has.wants to, cheat, worried your partner thinks you’ve cheated, worried your partner thinks you think they’ve cheated. Can come with groinal response.

Mind reading OCD- Worried everyone can/will/wants to, read your mind, worried you can/will/want to, read everyone’s mind, worrying everyone thinks you can read their mind, worrying everyone thinks you think they can read your mind or that you can read theirs.

Body Image OCD: Worried your body image is disfigured/ugly/smelly/abnormal, worried other’s bodies are disfigured/ugly/smelly/abnormal, worried everyone thinks your body is disfigured/ugly/smelly/abnormal, worried everyone thinks you think their body is disfigured/ugly/smelly/abnormal. Worried that you walk funny, talk funny, worried you feel physically weird and out of this world, an OCD detachment from reality, worried something is wrong with you. Worried that other people walk funny, talk funny, worried there is something wrong with them. Worried other people think you walk funny, talk funny, worried they think you look physically weird and out of this world.

Sleep OCD: Worried you don’t sleep enough or you sleep too much, worried you’ll never sleep again, worried other people sleep too much or not enough, worried they will never sleep again. Worried they worry you’ll never sleep again but they just aren’t telling you.

Death OCD: Worried you are going to die because of things like loss of concentration, not remembering things, brain fog, becoming slower etc.

Dead OCD: Worrying you are dead or other people are dead or everyone thinks you are dead, or everyone thinks you think they’re dead.

Word OCD- Words triggering embarrassment in case everyone thinks you’ve done something wrong within the concept that they are talking about.

Unconscious OCD- Worried you will act on your thoughts unconsciously or that someone else will act on their thoughts unconsciously. Worried everyone thinks you will act on your thoughts unconsciously, worrying everyone thinks you think they will act on their thoughts unconsciously.

Magical OCD- Thinking words or phrases or actions or people or things, hold great power to prevent or induce terrible events, worrying everyone thinks your words or phrases or actions or people or things, hold great power to prevent or induce terrible events, worrying everyone thinks you think your words or phrases or actions or people or things, hold great power to prevent or induce terrible events.

False memory OCD - Believing you remember you acting on one of your OCD’s listed above or down below, believing other people remember you acting on one of your OCD’s listed above or down below, worrying people think you’ve acted on one of your OCD’s listed above or down below, worried people think you think they’ve acted on one of the OCD’s listed above or down below, but you haven’t and somewhere in your brain you know that.

Typing OCD - Worrying you will, did, everyone thinks you did, or someone else did or will type one of your OCD’s online or write it down etc, worrying everyone thinks you think they typed one of your OCD’s online or wrote it down etc.

False confession OCD: Worried you’ll confess to something you haven’t done.

Speaking OCD: Worried you’ll speak out your intrusive thoughts.

Just right OCD - If I don’t do this, or others don’t do this, then something bad will happen, worried other people think you’ve made something bad happen, worried other people think you think they’ve made something bad happen.

Worrying you make people uncomfortable with how odd you seem when things trigger your checking or anxiety OCD (a few others have this but there is no name to it): worrying people think you make people uncomfortable with how odd you seem when things trigger your checking or anxiety.

THIS IS JUST SOME, OF THE ENDLESS OCD’S. There are so many more. Carry on us OCD lot, we’re so ill but hopefully there’ll be a cure soon. The worst possible things that could happen from doing some of these things (we won’t, I’m just saying this because the scarier the worst possible scenario, the more the intrusive thoughts keep popping up), is we would lose our family and friends and get sent to prison and the death penalty would come to England and we’d be put to death. But to be honest, actual prison is better than the prison that lives in our minds. And death is something that happens to us all eventually anyway.

It's OCD guys, stay strong!