#opinion!

[mehilaiselokuva]

Unspoken social rules in Finland

big warning before you read: this is just an opinion. I have been reading Reddit and other sites like that a lot, and some people have been asking about unspoken rules in Finland. I moved from the extreme countryside to Helsinki and have noticed these firsthand and since you don't really meet people on the streets back where I grew up, I will focus on Helsinki manners. Again, this is just my opinion and not absolute laws set in stone!

No perfume. Many public places like libraries will have signs that say not to come in if you are wearing scents. You might think your scent doesn't smell THAT bad, but it does. Shower and come back!

If you have a big backpack or luggage, be extra mindful. In trains, there are spots where your luggage will fit without needing to put it in the middle where people walk or, god forbid, THE SEATS NEXT TO YOU?

If you know that you cannot focus on your phone and the traffic in front of you, do not look at your phone while walking. You are expected to make way at all times.

More on making way- both me and you need to make way. If I am approaching on a narrow street walking on the side, you cannot walk in the middle (the other person made way already, right? Wrong.) You must also move to the side as much as possible.

Finnish personal space is big. Whatever European personal space is, you need to double that by two (or three). If a Finn can extend their arms and touch you, you are in their space. If a Finn is for example waiting for the light to turn green and you come to wait at the same crossing, you should stand on the other side of the zebra crossing waiting space (???).

Have headphones on, do not listen to audio without headphones in public. (This one divides people a lot these days. Apparently, the young generation is more OK with this)

If you have to take a call in public transit/inside a public space, talk quietly. This doesn't apply outside, however, yelling is still frowned upon.

General quietness is appreciated. Talk quiet, shut doors quiet, etc.

BIG ONE IN THE CAPITAL REGION!!! Do anything on the right side. On escalators, stand on the right. The left side is for people running down to be somewhere in time. Walk down the stairs on the right. Walk on the right in the hallways and streets. If you and your friend are walking together somewhere narrow, make a queue if someone is coming. Queuing is expected at all times on escalators. You must not stand on The Left Side of The Escalator.

When a public transport vehicle stops at your stop, you will see people waiting for people to come out on the immediate sides of the door. Do not try to get on first. Do not wait for people to get off right in front of the door! Makes the flow of people faster.

Sit on the window seat if a double seat is available. (Idk what kind of people wouldn't) DO NOT SIT NEXT TO SOMEONE IF SPACE IS AVAILABLE, people will move away from you and then it's awkward for both of you.

TLDR: Be quiet and mindful, walk on the right at all times. Be yourself! Have fun!

[ann1e-on-earth]

I’m sorry but….

Vans supremacy 💪 (no offense to converse wearers btw)

[kenapiece-main]

Can you believe I'm having to make this meme even after successfully finishing up taxes and applying to job

[ganymedesclock]

I think cis people should also be their gender of choice. Like, if you're a man, you should get to really enjoy being a man- have fun with it! If you're a woman, take the parts of womanhood that really deeply make you happy. If being a little androgynous or ambiguous or hidden is the part that really makes you happy, you don't have to be trans for that. If you wanna lean really hard into being femme or masc- do it! You have one life in your body, do what makes you happy. Ditch the stuff you don't like.

My sinister queer agenda is I think that everyone should be the gender they like in the way they like it.

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

i do think there is a degree to which certain kinds of Instagram activists have convinced themselves that traumatising themselves in solidarity is a useful form of activism. "I'm having nightmares and crying so much I want to be sick because of all these videos of dying children but I can't look away while people are getting hurt" I mean don't you think you'd be able to help more if you weren't having nightmares and crying all the time?? don't you think this is a one-way trip to burnout? don't you think maybe increasing the amount of trauma going around is counterproductive? I dunno bro there's something to be said for bearing witness but there comes a point where you gotta look hard at yourself and go "am I helping, or am I just making myself suffer so I don't feel guilty for not suffering while somebody else is experiencing bad shit"

[maidenvault]

Not “Only my reading of canon is correct” or “Interpretations are subjective and all valid” but a secret third thing, “More than one interpretation can be valid but there’s a reason your English teacher had you cite quotes and examples in your papers, you have to have a strong argument that your interpretation is actually supported by the text or it is just wrong and I’m fine with telling you it’s wrong, actually.”

[princesskuragina]

My last post was being snarky but here's my genuine pronoun etiquette opinion in case you actually want to know: it's pretty much never a good idea to directly ask someone their pronouns in front of a group of people, especially if you're in a position of authority, i.e. a teacher. The stakes of this question are very high for some people and you are putting them on the spot to decide what they want to share and what is safe to share. If you have decided you want to ask for pronouns at all, you can introduce yourself with your own to remind people that they can share theirs if they want to. And for the love of god whatever you do please do not just single out the most gender non-conforming or "trans looking" (to you) person and ask only them and no one else

[nthecaptin]

this is probably above my pay grade but regarding neil gaiman it's so starkly clear how much class-based absue is entwined in this horrid situation. his victims were financially dependent on him, unable to even admit to themselves that what was happening was abuse because they had, in some cases, literally nowhere else to go. amanda palmer, self-proclaimed feminist, was complicit in a truly fucked mistreatment of a woman because she wanted to keep the babysitter that she didn't have to pay. gaiman was quoted literally saying that he's very wealthy to one of his victims. even the little mention of gaiman making decisions in his and palmer's marriage bc he's the one with the money is just. so telling when you know what to look for. they both took advantage of their social and financial priviledge over their victims and used it to abuse, manipulate, put down, and in the end try to silence them.

(terfs DO NOT touch this)

[rohirric-hunter]

One of the funny things about LotR is that almost every people in it professes to disbelieve in the supernatural, but because they live in a fantasy world their baseline for "natural" is so jacked up. The Rohirrim are like, yeah, there's a wizard in this tower and ancient tradition that we have no reason to doubt says this mountain is full of ghosts, but walking trees? Short people? I don't think so. Galadriel is like, "Listen I heard you describe what I do as magic and look I just gotta clear some things up, okay." Gondorians are like, yeah, of course the Enemy has spectres of men who lived long ago and never died and can now fly above us and incapacitate us with just their voices. This is just a fact of life, okay? But shut up about this magic weed that makes comatose people better. That's an old wives' tale. Royalty? Press X to doubt.

The people group in Tolkien's work who seem most receptive to magic and least restricted by their own notions of what it can do actually seem to be the hobbits. And they use it to avoid meeting people they don't want to talk to

[wishfulsketching]

Some not so serious doodles about the idea where Silco survived and Warwrick!Vander found him. I did these as fanservice for ME! Especially the clothes thing

(have fun trying to figure out the reading order of the third sketch dump)

[mysterycitrus]

bring back the creatures

[very-straight-blog]

So Silco, Vander and Felicia were friends. The relationship between Silco and Vander crumbled after Felicia's death on the bridge (s1 ep1), but at this point the girls are already quite grown up. Could it be that Silco and Vander have been involved in their upbringing all these years? That's why they approach Vander so calmly on the bridge - they know him. Could Powder have thrown herself into Silco's arms in ep3 because she somehow remembered him and by that time he was the only member of her family?

[theanticool]

One takeaway I have from all this noise around Imane Khelif is that a lot of grifters and TERFs had to make up a trans person to be mad at, which is really sad and funny. I feel awful for her.

My second takeaway is people think sports are about fairness? What? Since when?

[geezmarty]

(bellara/taash) nerd/jocks lovers rise up