#ok end of venting

[anetesenpai]

I think this happened after Sanji joined

[putridcrow]

stitches

[weareweirdpeople]

Maybe its just me but I think its really fucked up that the only way teachers can "help" a child is with cps and the fucking police. I think its really fucked up that they're constantly talking about "tell a trusted adult" when sometimes you just don't fucking have one. Because all of them were bad options. I think its fucked up that my, and many many many children's only fucking options have been tell someone and put everything in danger or do nothing and continue on in silence. I think its fucked up that even without saying it I had to start understanding that no matter how kinda a teacher, or counselor, or school staff member was to me at times, that they would never put me over them being held liable or their job. I would never be that important. They get to pat themselves on the back while I get put in handcuffs and put treated like an example of what not to do as if im not even there. I think its really fucked up that at a certain point it will never matter how nice a teacher is, no matter how many "I know it sucks...." or "I'm sorry but it's my job..."s or "I don't want to have to do this..."s you get, because its always the same fucking thing. Your a liability, and no adult is going to risk their job with a child that they could easily just hand to someone else more 'qualified' to handle.

[kittylittersmoothie]

again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and

[beescake]

found some old tweets frm my private diary acc logging errant thoughts i had while getting into hs

and well. smth abt the progression of it makes me emo. happy new year ig :')

[curioscurio]

crying a lot more lately.

[sillyfreakx5]

waow I'm actually doing contact discourse

I don't necessarily agree with the phrase "minors can't consent". While I understand how it's useful at quickly communicating your stance on chrono minor/adult contact, or how making minors' consent null in the eyes of the law can be useful, I don't believe it to be useful in terms of describing reality

if a minor can understand the situation properly and has adequate sex ed, they're able to consent. I'm a chrono minor, I'd say I'm able to consent to sex. I might be statistically a little worse at impulse control and long term decision making and the like than the average adult, but I still am able to consent

HOWEVER, and this is a big however,,,

i still don't believe we should allow or endorse chrono minor/adult relationships.

We know that they end up harming the minor in MOST cases. Even if we were to only include the relationships where the minor did actually consent, without manipulation or coercion from the adult, (though very often people aren't even aware that they're being manipulative), they still tend to cause harm.

Also, it's often hard to tell from the adult's perspective if the minor is feeling pressured to agree. Because, yk, they tend to hide that they are feeling pressured. Also, the younger someone is the more likely they are to feel pressured to do something they wouldn't want to do, even if the adult may view their own behaviour as perfectly normal

While the harm might be caused in part by ✨ society✨, with the attitudes about minor/adult relationships instilling guilt and the like in affected minors and giving them the expectation that they should be harmed by such relationships, that doesn't change the fact that the harm does happen. Even if you believe that that shouldn't be the case, it still remains reality, and probably won't change within any of our lifetimes.

(also there's a myriad of reasons why chrono minor/adult relationships have a much higher risk of being abusive that I'm not listing out.)

While there are cases of people who had no negative consequences from being chrono minors in relationships with chrono adults, (and i think it's incredibly patronising to tell them that they're just groomed and that they don't know what their own lives were like, some of them may turn out to be wrong but that's their own thing to figure out), they are in the vast minority. There's also plenty of people who came out perfectly fine after drunk driving, but we're not gonna act as if drunk driving is harmless, right?

And from an adult's point of view, it's impossible to tell whether you'll end up traumatising your partner or not. You may think you're doing everything right but the minor could still end up severely traumatised. Therefore, no one should have the right to take that risk with the wellbeing if another

Obviously, i don't think a minor should be punished either legally or socially for partaking in such a relationship. Also, letting them discuss such relationships more freely could allow them access to a support network if the relationship has problems (something that it's very likely to have)

though also in this whole argument I'm very biased since most of my mental issues stem from consensual chrono minor/adult relationships that really fucked me up :3

It's like how we shouldn't allow drunk driving. Sure, you MIGHT end up not hurting anyone but the risk of harm is too great

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tldr; minors can consent, chrono minor/adult relationships still shouldn't be condoned bc they're extremely likely to be harmful

if you have any thoughts/questions pls pls pls share them!!! i love discussing ethics :3 even if your opinion is very different from mine!

[tacit-semantics]

Going to try and talk to my mom tonight I think because like. I don’t know how I’ve been coming across lately, either on here or to people I know, but I feel like I’m losing my handle on things to a noticeable degree and it’s getting out of hand I think. Maybe.

[jade-everstone]

m_l_nch_ly_

[callme-aprilroseisha04]

so guess what happened to me this morning

[hajihiko]

After he and Sonia fix things as much as they can and Kaz realizes that he Fucked Up, do you think he’d ever try to patch things up with Gundham too? Like a ‘sorry I hated you bc I was jealous that you had a better relationship than I did with the girl that I was unhealthy obsessed with’ thing?

Yeah totes! I mentioned before that Kaz having the idea of making and welding Gundham a cane that represents his gothic edgy self was a sort of bridge between them, like hey sorry about the everything, we're going through similar struggles, here's a cool accessory and uh if you need any other cool aids I'll do it without any question or fanfare. Good luck with your girlfriend TREAT HER RIGHT I mean I trust you will. Then they bond.

[rexscanonwife]

WATCHED A FEW EPISODES OF THE 2016 PPG REBOOT...........

[strawxbunny]

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[gemharvest]

Hate thissss I feel like I haven't been properly productive today (somehow posting two art things Doesn't register properly in my mind) so I wanna stay up to get as much as I can down, but I also need to go to sleep in case I'm called in tomorrow because fuuuuuck going to work on little sleep that shit sucks. But also, the possibility of being called in makes me wanna stay up even more, so I can finish art in case I don't have time tomorrow. So now I'm sat up at 12:30 tired as shit but unable to draw or go to bed. The never-ending cycle of hell.

[venstm]

one of the things that is hard with navigating being AuDHD and neurodivergent in general is how intensely you get gripped by something and how genuine the sorrow can feel when you move onto something else. and when you don't have the tools or the knowledge and the trauma kicks your ass because you feel like you can only talk to someone about the thing your mutually writing you can't reach out.

[the-golden-dragoness]

Does anyone know how to maneuver a relationship where they are interested in dating you but you were fine being old school acquaintances who don’t speak to each other