#of him being bi but also ace and sex-repulsed about it and not realizing that most people genuinely enjoy sex for its own sake

[poorlittleyaoyao]

this is something that bothers me more cominng from jgy stans. Like if they're just antis trying to make him look worse whatever. But when its fans going "oh no he didn't mean to do an incest, he's gay, he just actively led this woman on and fought for their marriage and slept with her, possibly multiple times, under false pretenses so she wouldn't be able to back out of marrying him" like. You know thats bad right? Like Quite Bad!!

EXTREMELY BAD, ONE MIGHT SAY!!!! Like I said on the other post, you could make it work; maybe he mistakes strong platonic love for romantic love, assuming any difference in his affections here vs. what he's felt for [male character of choice] is due to gender, and he doesn't figure out that he's really not into this until it's too late. Given his childhood, dude potentially has enough baggage around sex--and especially m/f sex--regardless of his orientation that it would take awhile to sort that out if it were there!

However. This vibes more like "noooo, the poor baby didn't mean to, he didn't even like her!" in which case it makes his active pursuit of this marriage EXPONENTIALLY WORSE!

[heybatterbats]

I’ve been seeing entirely too many posts about how ace-spec people aren’t really LGBTQ+ and don’t belong at Pride. And I got mad about it. So…*aces your Batfamily*

Yes, all of them. Every last one is now ace-spec in some way. They even named their dog Ace.

Bruce is sex-neutral biromantic demisexual, and came out by accident at age 24 to a random reporter who was not expecting it. This sparked a social media storm that was only halted by the much bigger social media storm of Bruce adopting Dick.

The Batman has been asked his sexuality before. Bruce replied- perfectly straight faced- that the Batman is an asexually reproductive entity and creates its Robins via mitosis. A third of Gotham, most of Metropolis, and several members of the Justice League still believe this.

Dick is sex-repulsed biromantic asexual, and is of the type to make the dirtiest jokes you’ve ever heard because sex is a joke to him. Came out in the form of an acrobatics performance he did at a pride parade, wearing a terrible Batman costume with a bi heart as the Batsymbol, an ace flag cape, and no pants. The audience was ecstatic. Bruce was mortified.

Nightwing has never said his sexuality, but anyone who claims he’s straight is quickly met with pictures of the Discowing suit and up to a dozen laughing emojis.

Jason is sex-repulsed aromantic asexual. He’s not as vocal about it as Dick is, but he does like it to be known. He’s the type to make garlic bread/cake/world domination jokes. And ESPECIALLY dragon jokes. He kinda tends to just insert it casually into conversation, he didn’t do anything crazy to come out. It’s just a fact about him.

Red Hood claims to be sexually attracted exclusively to guns. Bruce hates this joke.

Tim is the opposite of Bruce- he’s sex-positive bisexual demiromantic. One of the few Batkids to come out while in costume- he got a concussion on a case and blearily mumbled into Bruce’s hair that he’s “you but backwards” and completely confused Bruce. Tim is a little shy about his identity, but since dating Bernard he’s been more open about it.

Red Robin is out as bisexual, but hasn’t added demiromantic to that. Tim is worried people will piece his secret identity together, since Tim doesn’t realize that most normal people are not highly skilled detectives who can tell a person’s identity from a single acrobatics move.

At the moment, Damian just thinks he’s feeling the normal “ew cooties” that most children do. In the future he’ll realize that he’s sex-repulsed ace/aro, although he’ll refuse to use those terms in favor of broodily muttering “this bloodline dies with me.” Ra’s has an actual heart attack the first time Damian says this to his face and has to go into the Lazarus Pit to recover. Talia has never been more proud.

Barbara is sex-neutral, demiromantic and asexual. She’s more outspoken about it than most of the family, and runs social media pages about disability and the asexuality spectrum alike. Aphobes and ableists that make the mistake of leaving comments often mysteriously find that their most embarrassing search histories have been sent to their grandmother.

Cass is sex-repulsed ace/aro. Steph was the one to explain sexuality to her, and also made her an ace ring. Cass told Bruce first, then the rest of the family. She’s never come out publicly- Cass doesn’t like media attention being on her- but some sharp-eyed Gothamites who are looking can spot the black ring on Cassandra Cain-Wayne’s middle finger in a few paparazzi shots the papers got their hands on. (I have a fic about this!)

Black Bat has never been asked her sexuality, mainly because she’s absolutely terrifying and nobody can stammer out the words when faced with her.

Stephanie is sex-positive graysexual grayromantic, and absolutely not shy about it. She’s almost as good as Dick at making horrible, filthy jokes. Has punched a guy in the face for aphobia, does not regret it. Stephanie is out and proud and loud about it.

Spoiler/Batgirl III have both been seen wearing a rainbow flag as a cape too many times for anyone to assume they’re straight.

Duke is sex-neutral demisexual/demiromantic, and is probably the most open about it of the whole Batfamily. He’s fully out and so is Signal, and will inevitably show up at any daytime Pride event just to say hi. Gotham adores him, and he’s practically the ace-spec community’s mascot. Can and will use the entire rainbow spectrum of light to create various pride flags over Gotham whenever he feels like it, and has started taking flag/location requests. Once turned the Batsignal gay.

Harper is sex-positive bisexual aromantic, and where Stephanie is loud about it, Harper gets violent. She carries a souped-up taser and doesn’t hesitate to use it. Has knocked at least four homophobes/aphobes out cold not counting the ones she beat up in the Narrows. Bluebird is not only publicly out as bisexual but wears two out of three bisexual colors, and while it’s not come up publicly yet, she won’t hide that she’s aromantic either. Along with Signal and Spoiler, Bluebird is one of the vigilantes that’s known for being specifically good at handling LGBTQ+ issues. She wouldn’t have it any other way.

After being forcibly outed as gay and then bullied for it, Cullen is still in the closet about the fact that he’s asexual and sex-repulsed, too. The first person he told after Harper was Alfred. By now the whole family knows, but they’ve been careful to keep it away from the media until Cullen’s ready to come out himself.

Alfred is sex-neutral, aromantic, and pansexual, though he’s older than some of those terms and doesn’t often use them to describe himself. Bruce didn’t know Alfred was anything but straight until he was almost seventeen, to which Alfred replied- signature eyebrow raise at full height capacity- that he had a career in the theater, Master Bruce, and no one who does that can possibly be typical in matters of orientation or any other aspect of life.

The outfit might seem antithetical to this, but Selina is ace too! Specifically, she’s sex-positive, heteroromantic and demisexual. The leather outfit is primarily for distraction purposes rather than true sex appeal. When it comes to Bruce, however, Selina’s more than once described herself as “morosexual.” Bruce, bless him, still has no idea what that means.

There ya go. Ace-spec Batfam. Happy Pride to everyone but especially all you fellow ace-spec folks who absolutely, 100% belong there.

[remember-digimon]

Since it's pride month and I'm a lonely queer person I decided to do a quick rundown of my hc for the DigiDestined's identities. This is disregarding the epilogue bc to heck with that let these kids be queer in peace

Now I don't like to discuss the sexuality of young children purely bc they are children and I am an adult and that's weird so I'm basing this on what little knowledge I have of them in Tri alongside what I know from 01. This is them as adults ok? ok here we go

(also um. I'm a dumb millennial that lives in a corn field so uh. If I get something wrong please correct me orz)

Tai: bisexual. As if there was any other answer. Something about him just gives off 'bisexual guy' vibes. Maybe because I think he'd be a total golden retriever boyfriend and those types are usually bi

Sora: non-binary. Her upbringing kind of forced her into being feminine when she really just doesn't want to participate in gender at all

Matt: I'm gonna say pansexual bc to him it literally does not matter. He likes who he likes. Also demisexual and possibly demiromantic. He has to have a strong connection for feelings to develop

Izzy: Ace all day babyyyy. To him, sex is for making babies, but not in a religious way. He isn't sex-repulsed, it's just not a priority

Joe: the cis-hetero ally of the group. You know he's the designated driver to all the Pride events

Mimi: LESBIAN LESBIAN LESBIAN She's a high femme lesbian and she likes other femmes, butches, chapstick lesbians, just WOMEN. and she beats up TERFs bc trans women are women DUH

TK: doesn't wanna put a label on it right now, man, he's into what he's into and he'll figure it out later, my guy. A few months later he realizes he's bi and has to call Matt at 3am bc he's having a crisis, he got an iced latte that day and the male barista smiled at him and now he's having his first Gay Panic

Kari: also bi, the Kamiya family makes bi people like they have a quota to meet. She hooked up with Yolei once and it was fun. Now they listen to Chappell Roan together ❤️

Davis: the hyperactive gay guy of the found family. Falls in love at least once a month. Is terrible at hitting on guys but they always think it's endearing

Yolei: trans girl, lesbian. The others will line up to absolutely obliterate any transphobes that give her problems. She wants an idyllic lesbian romance with absolutely no children

Cody: aro/ace and unbothered by everyone else's romantic life. Don't bring the 'Tai and Matt used to make out all the time in high school' gossip to Cody, he literally does not care lol

Ken: he is gay and hopelessly in love with Davis. He sighs dreamily as Davis tries to do parkour and smacks into the ground like a wad of wet paper

[bomberqueen17]

it came from the notes

Ha I reblogged this post a bit ago and happened to see this in the notes from @uxbridgeenglishdictionary

[image descriptions: tumblr tags reading #also hi bomberqueen17 #love your work #is your Morvran demi]

HA yes. Busted. He is, because I tend to write demisexuals into everything I write. He's more of a Trauma Ace than me, and his specific manifestation of demi is not quite like mine, but yeah that's him. Sexual Attraction Isn't Real And They're Making It Up, he thinks, Or Maybe I'm Just Broken, Probably That's It, Glad Everybody Else Is Having Fun But I'm Better Off Out Of It, and then he gets hit with the Oh She's Competent stick really hard and doesn't know what to do with himself for a good while.

Wait till he realizes that like almost every demisexual I know, he's bi too. Actually I feel like there should be a different word for that entire mode of attraction, because it's not a separate thing at all. "Demi-bisexual" sounds really weird and clunky and not right but almost every person I know who manages to figure out they're demi also has, as a feature of their specifically-demisexual mode of attraction, the major component that the things that will tick their boxes until they hit the "attraction" tipping point tend not to include gender as a salient or primary point (or, I think in many cases, as a point at all). For me it's someone being funny, really smart, into me, a huge dork, good at witty turns of phrase or at least corny puns, and reasonably kind, and whether they have a penis or a vulva or neither or something else entirely, I really don't care and genuinely don't have a preference. And that experience (not the specifics but the generals) is so common, even universal among people I talk to who are demi, that I almost think demisexual probably implies some flavor of bi, too, largely by definition. I'm not really worried about the label, I really feel like it's an "if you know you know" kind of thing, but like. We know.

For Morvran, his specifics are "competent, terrifying, niceys to me", mostly I think, though we'll have to see. (I haven't actually written in a male character for him to get pantsfeelings about, as such, but I have some ideas, which I may or may not wind up exploring but just know, it's there and it's a thing.)

I was hesitant over making him demi because I was worried that sex-repulsed aces would be disappointend and like, ok, but my beta was like "dude there's nothing wrong with being demi and it's not letting down the side" and i realized that was definitely an internalized kind of self-loathing demiphobic instict right there, astutely pointed out. I should write a sex-repulsed ace character sympathetically sometime, and I will (probably I have?? idk I do tend to digress into porn a lot so it's hard to say, and I don't fuckin remember), but I've let my id lay the groundwork for Morvran's demi awakening and it would be weird to not do that.

*deep sigh* as I've said before, I'm a pony of a limited number of tricks but they're like, good tricks, mostly, and there's no harm in trying to learn new ones but it's also not like a bad thing to use my favorite ones. It's not like the world is completely drowning in nuanced, informed demisexual representation.

[a-roguish-gambit]

Sex favorable Ace Gambit time

-gambit getting into sex because of expectations of young men in the 80s. You were weird if you were a virgin. Something was wrong with you. Maybe you were gay. He knew he was bi at least so he creates the playboy persona and has sex at first to keep prying eyes off of him.

-finds he likes the sensation, likes the feeling of making someone else scream in pleasure. Gives him a sense of pride. Becoming a flirt makes him feel more confident. Being able to charm a room of men and women equally and show them a good time whether by talking or in bed? Makes him feel on top of the world.

-also he gets off by auditory stimulation and hearing the person he's sleeping with having a good time is the way he most enjoys getting that. Playboy magazines are useless garbage to him he doesn't understand the appeal.

-never got the things people were saying about legs vs boobs vs butts. About how a woman's face looks, how buff a man is. More abstract concepts appealed to him, like a girls ability to stand up to the biggest man in the room, the feeling between his fingers of how soft a man's hair was, the sound of a person's voice when they yawned and how he could just picture what it would sound like moaning his name, how their hand felt around his and how he could imagine it gripping him tightly as he cuddled them in bed.

-gambit assuming he's just bisexual for years because while he's bi romantic neither female nor male form really did anything for him so 0+0=0 logic aces have

-most of his past encounters were one night stands when he was feeling horny.

-flirts more cause he likes making people blush and getting a rise rather than wanting to slip away with them

-long term relationships were a rarity because expecting to be able to put out regularly even when he wasn't feeling sex favorable scared him a bit. He feared disappointing a potential partner. He could romance all day. But the thought of a partner taking a sex repulsion day as him thinking they were ugly or losing interest in them, or God forbid, him having a span of days where he couldn't even think about sex for whatever reason and them assuming he's cheating cause of his playboy persona he carefully crafted....terrifying. Keeping things fast and loose and not making attachments was always safer.

-found out rogue couldn't be touched and his heart lept for joy because it meant she was 100% safe. She was never gonna ask him to perform when he was feeling sex repulsed and he could flirt with her without fear of escalation with expectations. He could take things as slow as he wanted with her. She of all people could understand the concept of boundaries.

-as he gets to know her more and her need and craving for touch he realizes he wants so badly to make her feel good. Desperate even to find a way to do that. But he doesn't need to push himself on her. He of all people understands when someone's not ready. Still he hopes one day he can be that one to take care of her.

-cant understand how someone can just want to use someone without their consent. Maybe it was just his bisexuality? But for all his desire to pleasure people he's never looked at someone and wanted so badly to see them in extasy to push them into it or worse...

-only finds out about asexuality during the mid 2000s. The whole thing hits him like a truck. Things making so much sense. Why so many love songs never made sense, why others idea of love and sexuality weren't his style, why rogue was so confused on how he kept insisting he didn't mind they couldn't touch.

-his experience wasn't the norm but he wasn't broken. It's just...like his mutant powers in a way. Just different.

-doesn't know how to tell rogue. Doesn't even know if she will believe him. Maybe he will some day. He may have to write a whole essay first to fully explain it....oof that is not his style. This may take some time.

-Rogue tells him one day that he's not like any other man she's ever met, and loves him for it. He smiles a little. He's glad he's different.

[vacantgodling]

right, sexualities of all my MAIN characters from ALL my wips (as i can best describe them)

i'm leaving out rouge ocs like stellan or lauchlan just cuz they don't have a story they're just vibing lol. i'm also leaving out ones where i genuinely don't know yet like itri or seamus.

hyacinthus shrapnel (paramour) -> gay but extremely picky. he was wholly uninterested in sexuality and sex AT ALL until amon

amon (paramour) -> gay and he’s being very whorish about it

lavendula calderon (requiem for the monochrome) -> bisexual but hasn’t really been able to explore her attraction to non-men until the story starts.

erecia (requiem for the monochrome) -> straight-lesbian. she’s butch & troibemme (nb in this universe) but would consider herself bigender she/he in our terminology and fully considers herself both a man and a woman at the same time. she would honestly prefer the label straight-lesbian more than sapphic bc she’s not a woman all the time and that speaks to her experience more than anything.

narcissus spokes (prim & provocative) -> aro-graysexual (sex and romance positive). it’s something she comes to discover throughout her narrative. she doesn’t really experience or feel romance or desire for sex in a traditional way; she desires being wanted so she wants those things for herself but she doesn’t experience the actual attraction herself. she didn’t realize it bc on paper before her divorce, she didn’t have to question any of it—being with myrtus and being casually intimate but never hot and heavy seriously never bothered her. once he leaves though, through meeting new friends (i’m cooking) and generally going through it grants her new perspective.

tagetes gunn (empire) -> aroace (kink positive). the only attraction they have is to power.

kirsi sunniva (alizath) -> bisexual, with a preference for mascs

quill (teardrops of the gods) -> bisexual, with a preference for femmes

darren de leon (vampires don't take roadtrips) -> bisexual with a preference for mascs. he actually thought he was gay for most of his life until he turned like 14 and then he realized "oh, girls are kinda hot too"

julissa vaughn (donut wip) -> bisexual & polyamorous. the dream ending of this wip is her, joaquin, andres, saul and daisy ending up in a quintouple but alas.

noi randiche (noi, alone) -> nblm. they're nonbinary and they like men so. they don't really like labels anyway, but if they had to describe it that's what they'd say.

jenna magboo (jenna the reaper / jenna the witch king) -> bi-ace lesbian. she and carlos are in a qpr basically but in terms of fleeting romantic feelings she'd align more with lesbian (all of her 'crushes' have been women or femme-aligning but she doesn't experience attraction That strongly) but she also doesn't think she's had enough experience to say she's not bi also. lesbian is an important label to her especially because both of her mothers are lesbian, but she also knows she's young and likes the complexity of her labels.

carlos carvalho (jenna the reaper / jenna the witch king) -> aroace (sex/romance repulsed). in a qpr and is a caretaker of jenna - though when i say they're in a qpr its a very unspoken thing between them. like, jenna's whole goal is to become a witch and then make carlos her familiar so they're never separated, so i think that's very explicit about what they are to each other pff.

n blackburn (dead rites) -> the way that n barely registers his sexuality bc he's married to his work LMAOOOO. he'd say that he's pan, it really has more to do with the mental connection than physical attraction for him so anything is fair game (but again... married to his work actually)

beau bellerose (dead rites) -> gay gay homosexual gay

jihan (supernatural dads) -> pan, he's too old to have a preference and he's very open to experimenting.

hue rvynwell (supernatural dads) -> gay and he definitely had a crisis about it when he was growing up. however in his family it was such a nonissue LMAO they were like "why the hell would we care about that just make sure you have a kid" and whaddya know, he had 2!

piper fairwind (tcol) -> queer probably but she doesn't really think about any of that. if she were in our world, labels would be like the most meaningless shit to her LMAO.

san dearborn (tcol) -> aro-queer. romance is just not something she can wrap her head around however she does get into a... teammate with benefits relationship in book 2 that i think is funny as fuck.

deux undershield (tcol) -> literally the first cishet character to appear on this list LMAO

forte symphonia (tcol) -> bisexual

clear brightendale (tcol) -> gay and he's hiding So Deep in the closet he needs someone to tell him its ok to come out lmaooo (aka: literally everyone)

di absyna (lukewarm rejection) -> gay but at what cost (his strict religious parents being generally horrible is one cost pff)

toph (lukewarm rejection) -> bisexual and a menace, but mostly attracted to mascs.

nyseah nicoletti (nondisclosure) -> she's trans heteroflexible basically. she's mostly attracted to guys but she also definitely cares more about a connection than anything else so she's open to exploring. (also she's pff married to my partner they love her LMAO)

donte macbride (nondisclosure) -> gay but more than being gay, he's fucking exhausted.

alona springwell (nondisclosure) -> the second cishet to appear on this list LMAO.

dagmar (celestial weddings) -> being mspec and polyamorous is literally just the default sexuality of the world of celestial weddings so yeeee.

graves (the graves we dug) -> FAGGOT COWBOY YEEHAW. pff but yeah he's gay. and sad.

dove (the graves we dug) -> another faggot cowboy lmao he's gay.

calvin im (purple haze) -> the first cishet dude on this list

jake deluna (purple haze) -> bisexual but he has a rough time coming to terms with this.

nevaeh (god eater) -> tbh i don't think nevaeh even knows what sexuality is (being a beacon of paradise is a very isolating lot in life) but i think they're probably gray across the board. the idea of romance or sex isn't really something they have much of a concept in their brain yet but they're curious about it.

little bear (god eater) -> mspec polyamorous; he doesn't really have time for relationships most of the time but he's definitely open to being ridden by anyone who wants to give it a go.

taj (god eater) -> pan and very in... some sort of codependent infatuation with thei.

thei (god eater) -> pan and tired. in a codependency relationship thing with taj.

lennon rhapsody granger (gothica) -> a surprise cishet appears.

aurora o'rion (gothica) -> bisexual and a whore about it

morrigan briarcos (gothica) -> gay and longsuffering. lennon is his (1) exception.

chidori jonson (train master chidori) -> just generally considers himself queer :)

nyoka (the virgin of mt heredosa) -> demi. its verin or bust.

verin (the virgin of mt heredosa) -> mspec but he's a centuries old god so like the concept of sexuality is mostly funny to him. he likes what he likes.

red (red death and the oracle's favor) -> aroace (sex repulsed bc of trauma). her and hel are in a qpr and i'm obsessed with them and their relationship

hel (red death and the oracle's favor) -> gay but loves red more than he loves dick and that's saying something. he doesn't expect her to say it back or feel the same as him but she cares about him in her own way and he's extremely not normal about it. he also wants to jump arden's bones and Did.

arden (red death and the oracle's favor) -> gay but he can't be gay and the king so he's very closeted. not unaccepting of it but he definitely is not talking about it and only allows himself to indulge with hel under the cover of darkness.

ranger pellish (sixteen candles) -> aro-bisexual and Very sex positive. he's such a slut and he lives by that. him and nan are basically a qpr.

nanette rosenfeld (sixteen candles) -> lesbian but she & range are inseperable and she's definitely given him the strap on many occasion to make him shut the hell up.

tuker hayes (sixteen candles) -> disaster bi with a 13 year long crush on vani he's hopeless.

vanilla vega (sixteen candles) -> demi-pansexual <3

roger grant (sixteen candles) -> probably not straight but is he willing to admit that to himself right now? absolutely not :DDDD

marvin (marvin & linda) -> sexuality doesn't matter because the company is more important (probably gay but yknow. his identity is kind of irrelevant to him)

linda / stephen (marvin & linda) -> mspec but marvin's the first person he's had a connection with on a romantic level.

prosper morning (the white shirts) -> hasn't thought about it too hard, but he definitely thinks marin is attractive and he Hates That a lot.

jane morning (the white shirts) -> she hasn't thought about it before so unknown

marin (the white shirts) -> gay asf

noh bell (noble) -> gay gay homosexual gay space super solider teehee.

peri (peri & dandy) -> outside of dandy, most lifetimes he's demi-gay. but he's really only ever attracted to dandy

dandy (peri & dandy) -> outside of dandy he's pan but he's also only ever looking for peri and only sleeps with people who have "peri energy" (whatever the hell that means lmao)

utah (broken clouds) -> fagggggggggggggggggg

gator (broken clouds) -> faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggg

slug (broken clouds) -> literally they don't know or care about any of that.

sjaak de witte (btaf) -> if he were in modern times, he'd be bisexual probably. and suffering.

biscella (btaf) -> another surprise cishet but i think in modern times she'd also probably be bi i just don't think in the canon verse she had the thought or bandwidth to explore her attraction to women (much to azelie's sadness)

[silicon-tmblr]

What are some Sexuality headcanons you have for danganronpa

Ohhhh I have so much to say you have no idea

I'll go with my DRV3 post-game headcanons because that's generally what I think about!

Shuichi: Disaster bi. I recently had the thought that he'd actually be awesome as nonbinary, but I feel like he's the type to realize that in his mid 30s or something

Kaito: Bigger disaster bi than Shuichi somehow. I like to think that, while he's iffy/confused about gay people, he accepts trans people without a thought (he's just like "oh you're actually a guy/girl! okay") and just demands that they "act like their gender" bahaha

Ryoma: I know this is a controversial thing to say but. Straight. cis/het. But he's like the biggest and nicest ally ever because well his entire friend group is very queer

Rantaro: I don't see this enough!!!! Aro/ace Rantaro!!! His love hotel is literally him being a tutor with no romantic or sexual undertones!!!! His character concept is probably "playboy with no interest in romance"!! But yeah aro/ace, romance and sex-repulsed

Gonta: Probably pan, but fairly heteronormative. I feel like he gets married in middle age because he's really not searching for a relationship for most of his life and more busy enjoying his hobbies!

Kokichi: Obviously very gay! I generally have him as a trans guy who, due to some shenanigans that happened in his childhood, thought he was a cis guy (until puberty hit and he had to figure out why he was freaking bleeding). Ironically, I like to call him "the cissest of cis guys" haha

Korekiyo: Ace! Not looking for a romantic relationship but I like to think he has a strong platonic partnership with Tenko

Keebo: Aro/ace, romance-positive and sex-neutral. He doesn't experience romantic or sexual attraction but is totally open to a romantic relationship. Intersex and he/him nonbinary, but he generally keeps it to himself and only tells people he trusts

Kirumi: Gay gay lesbian gay. She loves GL (Girl's love genre) but keeps it a secret

Himiko: Aromantic and bisexual! She tends more towards girls than guys

Maki: PSA Maki is gay and was straightwashed when they put her in Danganronpa 53. I mean, Tsumugi really said "I made you fall in love with a guy for plot!" I like to think Maki gets out of DRV3 and her first thought is "why was I straight" (for legal reasons this is a joke and bi Maki believers are based but. gay maki)

Tenko: Bi Tenko bi Tenko I KNOW people insist she's a lesbian (and you people are based) buuut I think even in Danganronpa Tenko is bi. People don't choose who they're attracted to, so her being raised to hate men doesn't mean she can't be attracted to them! Okay that's my ted talk about bi tenko

Tsumugi: Her orientation is none of your business (is what she will say, but I will expose her as the bisexual she is)

Angie: Pan! Kinda heteronormative but she learns not to be

Miu: Pan. I think she would meet someone on the internet that she clicks super well with and then they fly out to meet each other and get married

Kaede: Lesbian! So lesbian. I will insist forever that she isn't actually interested in Shuichi and is just super awkward around him because she doesn't want to lead him on when she's gay

That's it for V3! I don't have as many for the other games, mostly since I'm not as interested in or familiar with them (I like to joke that V3 has the gayest cast and everyone in DR2 is straight (obviously untrue, the irrefutable evidence: Nagito)), but here's a few I like:

Chiaki: Trans girl! She's also straight bahaha

Hiyoko: I used to think she'd be the type to act homophobic "as a joke" but then I realized she's super gay. She'd probably still act homophobic though

Nagito: Bi, for the sole reason of: I think he should date Chiaki

Akane: Seems ace!

Mahiru: I think she's straight, but she's a total lesbian magnet

Hajime: Bi (duh). Cursed to be maidenless

Chihiro: Nonbinary, he/they in conversation but always they/them in writing

Junko: This lady is very heterosexual and cisgender

Mukuro: Bi

Makoto: Bi

I also like to joke that all the girls in DR1 are straight and all the boys in DR1 are gay because everyone is in love with Makoto (obviously false because there are some very gay girls and not so gay dudes)

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

not only does you semding hate against an alastor fictive who’s aroace and putting them on a public blocklist (a terrible move that encourages harassment) make you terrible, it also makes you incredibly ableist in that people literally kept telling you they were a fictive and it was even in their name that they’re an alter then u just said it was an accident. you’re basically showing you don’t see systems as people that also have varying opinions from alter to alter. are you normal about in sys relationships. bi lesbian alters? a system with aroace alters that isn’t collectively aroace?

not even just systems, are you normal about people with psychosis? with personality disorders (including antisocial and narcissistic types)? with bipolar disorders?

are you normal about sex favorable aces? orchid sexuals? oriented aces? angled aces? queerplatonic people?

if you’ve said no to any of them, you’re bigoted, and need to work on that.

also you realize nobody knows if alastor is actually sex repulsed and relationship unfavorable or not? if those were shown to be the case i understand being apprehensive about people shipping him, but even then, ships aren’t that big of a deal, just fucking block silently instead of opening them up to harassment by putting them on a blocklist and showing their account even on your “apology”

you’re not a safe space, you are pluralphobia, aphobic, and a fucking acemedicalist.

get off of ship discourse and actually try caring about different types of queer people, including queer systems.

signed, a bi lesbian aroace fictive heavy system

Hi

Nice to meet you

As someone who’s already apologised

Who didn’t see that word alter because I copy pasted usernames

Who has also apologised for that

Who is a fucking safe place

Who helps people

Who has helped people

And is helping people

And to you, someone who was not involved in the original situation

Who does not seem to understand that the parties involved have moved on

Who seems to be the one who told me to slit my wrist judging from the writing style

I hope you block me

Signed

An aegosexual-pansexual/romance repulsed aromantic, with possible behaviour disorders (according to 2 therapists, currently undiagnosed) gender queer/masc student

[bbygirl-aemond]

I've just seen the ace Aegon tag, I'm pretty sure that's new. What made you go that route?

I can really see Aegon being quite sex averse myself with him being sexually aware very young, then having to maritally rape his sister and also be the active person in his own rape plus the idea of little Aegon seeing his young mum leaving to go to his grandfather looking dad's chambers at night. I think of him going to so many brothels because even though it's just sex, to him it's the only time he gets touched gently and affectionately.

hi hi! yeah i realized that my "everyone is bi" tag was probably a bit misleading since i've always intended for aegon to not really be interested in sex and thought i'd add it so no one's surprised by his ending!

i fully agree with you, and have written here before about how i think aegon's hypersexuality is most certainly a trauma response to the neglect he received as a child, the abusive relationship his parents modeled for him, and his likely premature and damaging experiences with sex at brothels.

it's not uncommon for someone who's grown up touch starved to lean into sex to try to fill that desire for affection. and it's also not uncommon for someone with low self-esteem or a previous history of being sa'd to engage in self-harming behaviors through casual sex.

so for aegon in particular, since i think his hypersexuality stems from a lack of affection and love, his compulsion to have a ton of sex will really die off once his emotional needs are actually fulfilled. he'll realize that he doesn't feel such a need to visit a brothel because his family actually, like... hugs him now? and tells him they love him? wild.

now, not all aces are sex-repulsed, and obviously being asexual is different from being aromantic. so that's not to say aegon will definitively never fuck again (though that's ofc valid too). and he'll always be the ridiculous flirt who likes to provoke people, just not to the extent we've seen in the show. but i think he'll take a lot of comfort and relief in the fact that he can just let himself be as he is for the first time in his life. this will, obviously, parallel all of the other ways in which he'll be allowed to relax and follow his true desires once the crown has been lifted from his head.

[juiceboxerr]

earlier i was thinking about all the different things that have brought me to realizing i'm aroace, and one moment that was the most obvious, in hindsight, was my senior year of hs. that was the only time i had a "crush" without someone else pointing out that i "liked" someone, but in reality i've never liked anyone in my life haha. the boy i picked in my senior year was one of my classmates, we became friends throughout the year and i never really put much thought into liking him besides the fact that he was nice and a really good friend, but also thoughts like "this is what people my age are supposed to feel, right?" would often cross my mind. i imagine what it would be like if we dated but it was never something that just crossed my mind, i had to make an effort to actively think about such scenarios. once i graduated and didn't see him anymore the feelings vanished almost immediately, and i didn't think twice about it, i simply thought that was what everyone else experienced because i never talked to anyone about it.

my first year in college is when i discovered aromantism, before then i only know that asexuality was a thing. at the time i was living in my dorm alone and spent weeks researching and having a lot of issues with coming to terms with myself and being aromantic. before then i had tried so many labels, i've identified as bi, gay, pan, and lesbian, but none of them ever stuck for too long. so when i found aromantic it was like someone hit me with a bus. it took me a few weeks more before i could even muster up the courage tell any of my friends, which in the end proved pointless because they still accept me no matter what. i still struggled for a while because all those "what if" scenarios and feeling like i'm missing out on a huge part of life by not being able to feel what everyone else feels, which isn't the case. i can live my life just as fully as anyone else, i don't need romance or sex to be content with myself and my life. i never realized until then that i always fantasized of living on my own for my whole life anyway. i wouldn't say i'm romance replused, as i still enjoy such things in media, but more of feeling vaguely uncomfortable with thinking about romance in reality in terms of myself.

being asexual was something that crossed my mind a few years ago, and identified with graysexual specifically for a while until i thought "nah, there's no evidence that i'm ace in the first place"; however, there was no evidence that i wasn't either. it took my longer to come to terms with being asexual the second time around because by then i had already realized i was aromantic, and i thought that i could at least be "normal" in the sexual area if i was aro. i came to realize that doesn't matter and being normal isn't really a thing anyway. sexual feelings and urges have always been something i never experienced for myself and i shied away from such topics, whether about me or anyone. i was always uncomfortable with sex scene on tv and and talking about such things in a non-joking manner, but i was okay with reading it so i thought that meant i couldn't be asexual (which was before i really researched). but now nothing of the sort really bothers me as long as it isn't directed at me in any form. as of now i think of myself in terms of a sex positive but personally sex repulsed asexual.

identifying as aroace might seem simple at face value because it's asexual aromantic, right? well yes, but for me it's more complicated than that. i am aroace but i resonate more with my aromantism, in a way that's complicated to explain. being asexual is a no-brainer for me, it's just an intrinsic part of who i am and it's not something i have to think about, there's never been another option. sex is also a topic that can be easily avoided, more so if you aren't in a romantic relationship, but dating and being in a romantic relationship are topics that are harder to get out of. so while my ace identity feels like it is just me, and it would be baffling to me for someone to ever think i'm allosexual, my aro identity is me in a different sense, in a way i haven't figured out how to say yet.

geez, i kinda went off on a rant there. this might not be helpful to anyone but on the off chance it is i like sharing my story. being aro, ace, or aroace isn't a linear thing, it can stay the same or change over time. you can identify with it now but maybe later you won't. no one can tell you what you can and cannot feel or identify with, you're the only person who can decide that for yourself.

[crepuscular-coyote]

🐇 Pride asks [multiple if that's alright] 12 15 25 32

we hope you have a lovely month coyote!

Of course that's alright!

12. Name some queer artists/bands or songs you like most

It's a bit disheartening to say that I don't know many! But I do like Runnin', For Your Entertainment, and Ghost Town by Adam Lambert and Monster and Human by Dodie. I also listen to Cavetown but I feel like that's a common answer.

15. How has your identity changed over time?

Oooh boy. I started out being cis and pansexual at about 13/14 when I first learned what LGBT even meant.

Then I was a gay demiboy, when I tried out he/him pronouns and it felt nice. I figured my lack of sexual attraction to women meant that I didn't like them at all.

THEN I realized that romantic orientations existed- and that I do very much like women- so I became panromantic and homosexual around like 15/16. I stayed with those labels for about two years, until I came to the conclusion that I could not see myself having sex with anyone. I was kinda repulsed by the idea, which made me realize that I am asexual.

Now I am still trying to figure out a component to my gender identity. I feel good about the pan and ace stuff and I'm 20 now, but my gender is... a male canine. I just need words for it. I've put that off for a long time because I felt silly, but starting this blog a couple months helped me realize that there's nothing wrong with identifying a little outside the box... of humanity.

25. What queer discourse frustrates you the most?

Bisexuality- not as a concept, but as a word. When I learned the word, it was said to mean "two" which made sense. Bicycle, for example. I find it hard to grasp that it doesn't always mean two, because the prefix "bi" no longer fits. It fucks with my brain. What people identify as/with is none of my business but damn does it frustrate me lol.

32. I do! I draw both traditionally and digitally, though I'm much better with traditional. I'll upload a picture of something in a separate post since this is getting kinda long lol.

Thanks for the ask, rabbit friend! I hope you have a wonderful month as well :D

[yannig]

I'm not sure you wanted an answer, so if you don't, just tell me and I'll delete this.

But some of what you said resonated with me so I wanted to share some of my experiences in case it might help, being aroace myself.

First of all, yes, that video by Jaiden Animation is awesome, and resonated with a lot of aspec people!

Second of all, this video by Ace Dad Advice on "What is Attraction Anyway?" helped me a lot to differentiate between things like attraction, libido and arousal. (In general, Ace Dad Advice's videos have helped me a lot. They talk mostly about Asexuality, and some about Aromanticism and beong Agender.)

Third of all, it's very, very normal if it takes you time to sort through your feelings and decide on this. I think between me learning about asexuality and beginning to think it applied to me there was like 3 years? And then again before I started wondering about being aro?

I didn't 'feel wrong' either. I hadn't realized I wasn't feeling sexual attraction, and I just thought love would come on its own time. Especially because I wasn't sex or romance repulsed, and I did get aroused by fiction and shit.

I didn't recognize myself in the definition of asexuality the first time either. In fact, I spent several years collecting pins on Pinterest about asexuality before I even started to wonder if it applied to me. It took finding a definition of a specific micro-label for me to get a spark of "hey, that's me", and even after that, it took me a while to wrap my head around it.

I think part of why is because asexuality's definition is kinda made for allosexual people? Like, how am I supposed to know that I don't feel sexual attraction if I don't know how it is supposed to feel?! Allosexual people know, they experience it, so they know when they don't. But I've never experienced it, so how am I supposed to know, huh?! I think it's kind of like a lot of people don't know they're colorblind until they take a test ; because they've been told this color is named 'red' all their life and had no opportunity to realize they don't experience it the same way as the majority of people? So they've still been calling it red? Even though then can't actually see red?

Considering yourself bi/pan/omni because you don't understand how gender would influence one's attraction happens to a lot of aspec people. I thought I was pan for a good 3 years before I started realizing I was ace, and later aro. I some point in high school I was just like "hey, I don't really have any signs if I'm more attracted to girls or boys, so I guess I'm pan" (Spoiler: the absence of signs was actually a sign in itself).

(This does not mean actual bi/pan/omni people don't exist. of course they do. also you could be aspec and omni.)

On that topic: if you're asexual and omni, you could call yourself omniromantic.

Also for the whole "I do get aroused but only like for books and shit" part, you might want to check out Aegosexual. And in general the rest of the micro-labels on the Ace Spectrum wiki. I personally find micro-labels are often clearer than general definitions, because they're more precise.

And yes, you can get aroused by just a work and not even the characters, I know I do, because for me it's about the emotions and sensations it evokes more than anything else, if that makes sens?

Being very confused on the difference between romance and friendship is something I have experienced (and still do) a lot! I've stopped counting the number of times I started writing a scene with a character trying to understand their feelings for another character and who was like "wtf is romance anyway?". I do consider this to be a part of my aromantic experience, because most alloro people seems to know the difference.

I still don't fucking know what the difference is between romantic love and deep friendship. Yesterday I spent the afternoon with a friend I hadn't seen in a while. I was very exited beforehand and really happy to see him. I am also very sure I'm not in love with him (though he was the one person who actually made me think I had a crush on someone, years ago at the beginning of our friendship. reality is just he was my first neurodivergent friend.). A few months ago, I was spending time with a friend doing an activity they really like, and they looked so happy and blooming doing it, and I remember thinking "I think I understand why people fall in love with passionate people". I felt warmth and fondness looking at them like that, but I still never wanted to kiss them or take them out on dates or anything romantic. I was just happy to be there and share that moment with them, to back in their glow.

As for the demiromantic label, and the eternal question of "how else do you fall in love with someone if not by forming a close bond with them?". I think part of it is because romantic attraction is not just about falling in love? (from what I understand at least. I'm aro, I'm not speaking from experience). I think there is a difference between crushes and infatuation and falling in love. And apparently alloromantic people can get crushes on people they've known for a very short time (I've seen it happen several times). But yeah, I think love comes only with actually knowing someone, but there are things that come beforehand that play a huge part in romantic attraction like crushes and infatuation. I think. And demiromantic people need to know the person before they start forming a crush. Which alloro people clearly don't.

Anyway, I hope any of my ramble may have helped clarify some things.

Don't feel pressured to label yourself (no matter how vague or how precise). Take time to think (or not) on it.

Once again, it's normal for it to take time. And it's really, really normal to be confused. I know it can be uncomfy, but there is nothing intrinsically wrong with the confusion in itself.

Lots of love <3<2

I think i may be asexual?!

(okay this got longer than expected and i wanted to stop talking cuz ppl won't read it if it's so long and then i realized I'm not here to please anybody and i just wanna process some stuff so. yeah. also i come to realizations farther down that contradict some stuff from the beginning but I'll just leave my whole thought process here)

fun. um. I've realized I'm not straight two years ago and then started learning more about all things LGBT related and think myself educated enough on this topic but.

I've been pondering my sexuality and gender identity again more in recent days and. today i randomly stumbled across a yt video where the author (are you an author on yt? my brain is glitching rn)(also the 'author' in question is @jaidenanimationsofficial wonderful videos love the animation and the humor) talks about being aroace. few hours pass, my stomach hurts like hell so i go to lay down and sleep a bit, wake up and have a realization.

i googled again what asexuality is and read some more on this. i did this before and i guess i didn't see myself in it? so i kinda crossed it off the list of possible identities. i guess because i do want to have sex. i think. I'm not opposed to it and i get horny lmao. but that's only with fictional characters and works? like i just think: that was very sexy of you. but in a platonic way?! sex doesn't cross my mind. (also can you get aroused by music? or a good written work? or movie? like not even the characters but the work itself?) sorry i dunno I'm confused.

anyway i got a bit off track. what i wanted to say was that i suddenly remembered a convo i had with my sister a while ago where we talked about what is the difference between friendship and a romantic relationship. and she said it's that u wanna have sex with them and i was like ... i don't really think that's it...

and like. i get crushes i think. but I've never experienced this want to have sex with a particular person at least that i could remember. like a want to have sex? i guess yeah i mean not rlly sth i think about much but it's not unprecedented(see: i get horny)

honestly I'm not even sure anymore if im not aromantic as well. cuz queerplatonic sounds more like my jam?

like i felt(feel?) like omnisexual described me well because i think I'd be attracted to who the person is at their core. what if ur straight as a girl, date a boy, and then it turns out he's trans? i dunno i feel like gender isn't this fixed thing which then kinda creates problems when labeling urself with a certain sexuality. aaaa people came irl and i lost my train of thought. um. i feel like labeling myself anything other than omnisexual would feel limiting. even if i never developed a crush on a girl for example (i did), i still feel like i could potentially. like there's nothing stopping me. why shouldn't I?

OKAY SO

that was written yesterday. it is now today and i have a whole lot of new thoughts and realizations.

I had a bit of a marathon with @jaidenanimationsofficial videos and i came across an older one she mentioned in the previous one i watched about being aroace(ik it's a mess) about how she couldn't understand why when romantic feelings are not mutual people don't just continue being friends. and i was like EXACTLY WHAT IS UP WITH THAT?! and um. ahem. do u really see it as a problem? I guess if everyone does. but I'm starting to seriously consider if I'm aroace as well which woah there. this happened in a span of a day and I'm not sure it's real and it doesn't feel real? some time will have to pass for me to check out this theory cuz. ppl often say they felt like there was sth wrong with them and then they discovered these terms and were like aHA that's it! that explains everything! and I didn't... have that? and I'm not sure to what extent i identify with aroace because reasons(ill talk about some of it below). and I'm not saying that not having this realization moment or not feeling like sth is wrong with me through my life devalidates my orientation and stuff but it makes me doubt i guess?

i also came to an important discovery that aroused and horny are not the same. who would have thought?! I said above i get horny but apparently being horny means to want to have sex. and i just get the physical part aka arousal. fun. someone help pls im so confused.

okay for the last part(which prolly won't be the last part but one can hope right?)

i said i realized i wasn't straight two years ago. that was when i realized i like my best friend as more than i friend. well it wasn't exactly that simple. tbh i think Lucifer(the series i am NOT a satanist) helped a lot with that? like i knew about some lgbt stuff before because I'm alive on this planet but it kinda made me think about a lot of stuff, and between that stuff was my sexuality as well. idk. it's not like i had a crush on any of the female characters. just got me thinking for some reason. like why is having sex with people you're not romantically involved with wrong? why is prostitution wrong if u enjoy it and get money for it and it's well managed and secure? but that's beside the point.

well anyway I didn't know what i felt towards my bff(I'll say bff cuz bf also stands for boyfriend so it feels weird) but it felt like more than friendship. didn't feel like sth romantic tho. then i discovered queerplatonic relationships exist and i was like i think that's it! and then new school year came i saw her again and doubts flared up. again there was never i wanna have sex with her, but there was an occasional i wanna kiss her. and she was so important to me so it has to be romantic love right?! romance is the highest form of love one can experience afterall! nothing whatsoever can compare to it!! it feels ✨magical✨ when you find you will finally be completed!!! anyways.

it felt like romantic love was the only thing that could justify me feeling this way. i won't go deeper into this because i already have a draft where i do(i have like 16 drafts with uncompleted rambles so...) I'll try to post it but. i told her and we're still good friends! it actually made me closer to the rest of my friend group(which i was only a part of on the paper before)(i was so focused on my bff before I didn't really do group) because i felt a bit distanced from her for a while(she's a people pleaser like me and even tho i think i can read her well im paranoid and i thought she may feel weird?). anyways i got close with 3 other amazing ppl in the meantime and my friendship with my bff hasn't suffered!

but between my feelings being kinda realized and me telling her a whole year has passed and in the end i wasn't even sure what i was feeling anymore just that i didn't want her not to know. idk.

now im wondering what it was. even back then half year pre confession i was thinking if it was just because someone was finally paying attention to me. i didn't really do friends before (i kinda had them but there were no deep convos or shared secrets) and then there was suddenly this person who genuinely enjoys spending time with me! and listens to my problems! and weird obsessions! this sounds kinda sad put like this ngl lmao. but this was the first time I had that deep connection with someone. two years in my confused feelings came. geez i got off track again. point is i thought i was straight up until then and then had a crisis cuz i thought i only liked her cuz she was giving me attention cuz i was straight goddamit! ANYWAYS.

this post has lost all direction. it is a frustrated ramble of a very confused person. let us continue

i will just sum up how i feel about genders and people because I'm a chronic oversharer. oops doops.

men: find them aesthetically pleasing, all celebrity crushes are in this category (there's only one really but if i found a celebrity attractive like not objectively but to me it was a man), i would also get kinda crushes on boys my age when i spent 5 minutes with them. don't ask. i think it's dopamine mining(i suspect i have adhd). im not used to male company and i kinda don't like it that much but the the ?butterflies? are still there. tbh i don't really know what to do with men. doesn't stop me from having crushes tho. i don't have any real desire to be in a romantic relationship with men. i don't exclude the possibility but i haven't found one i would want it with. i also don't know now to interact with them. let alone flirt. actually flirt in general. it feels like it would be cringe and belongs in bad movies.

women: freaking amazing!! love them! no celebrity crushes, one irl crush which might have moved beyond crush(i suspected the L word for a while) to friends or it might have never been a crush in the first place! help! now there's another friend outside of my friend group who i may like. or i just enjoy her company? im not used to this yet. i forgot i think im aroace. this is killing me.

nonbinary/other genders: I haven't met any yet. there are some on discord servers im a part of but I don't really interact much just lurk there. i think irl experience would be different anyway.

someone please explain sth to me. you have sexual attraction okay get that(not really but that's not the point). but then there's romantic attraction. how do you separate that from friendship? just this intense feelings of wanting to be with them at all times? okay myb myb let's say u can separate them from friendship. what about queerplatonic? guys??

i am starting to dislike labels. this is confusing.

also i gotta figure this romantic thing out cuz im writing a fantasy series and there's romance involved lol.

okay so i guess i am at least asexual cuz i don't see ppl and go 'i wanna have sex with them'. i am not yet thoroughly convinced im aromantic as well but we'll see about that ig. because i still don't understand what the difference between romance and deep friendship is. aghhh

although if i can't tell the difference myb that answers the question.

also how does someone who is asexual but romantically attracted to all genders label themselves? like omnisexual ig doesn't work cuz it omnisexual.

i went to google aromantic and.

"demiromantic people have romantic attraction only after forming an emotional bond with another person."

HOW ELSE DO YOU HAVE ROMANTIC ATTRACTION??? Isn't this about who the person is?! Do you just see them and go: oh this must be such a good person. what?

like i understand sexual attraction when you see someone ig. but romantic? i really need someone to explain this to me in depth. i haven't even been asking the right questions.

"Quoiromantic people can't tell the difference between romantic and platonic attractions." Welp i guess i have a new label i can stick on myself. also the name is killing me. (quoi=what in french💀)

(edit: well this thing just posted itself. I DIDN'T HIT POST WTF. but it's out there now. ig it had enough of me adding new and new thoughts. im inclined to agree)

[raphael-angele]

It's Pride Month and I am an Aromantic Asexual

This is one of the experiences I went through as an AroAce.

Basically the entirety of my circle of friends is composed of LGBTQ+ people. My best friend (Aliyah) is bisexual but prefers women, Yangji is gay (mlm) and just came out (edited cuz i posted this saying he was Bi, preferring men but he just came out on FB). And my other best friend (Max) is also bi. There are like...2 or 3 people who are straight, the rest of us is bisexual or gay, excluding me, who's the only one who is AroAce. And I only came out as Ace when I was in around Grade 10 and I realized I was Aro around November of last year.

I went out some time ago with my friends and we went to Yangji's house cuz it's his birthday. And naturally, when you're invited to someone's birthday party, you get to meet people who you've never met. Some of those people were of our classmates from Junior High. (In my country, Grade 7-10 is Junior High. 11-12 is Senior High. I just finished Grade 11.)

One of them is Mika (she/her). Now, Mika is pansexual. And we were only classmates in Grade 7. We were different classes from 8-10 but still saw each other every now and then. This info is somehow relevant to the story.

At some point of the event, we were all in Yangji's room and we somehow got into the topic of LGBTQ+. Then Mika pointed out how gay our friend group is. We laughed it off cuz it's true. Then she said something about guys and sex and relationships. And I, being a snarky person at times, said that I couldn't really relate. Here's how our convo turned out

Mika: Wdym?

Me, realizing she doesn't know: Oh, yeah. I'm AroAce.

Mika: Huh?

Me: Aromantic Asexual.

Mika: I thought you were straight.

Me: So did I, but apparently not.

Mika: Doesn't aromantic mean you can't fall in love?

Me: Technically, yes.

Mika: O, so why do you say you're aromantic? You had a crush on Sam right?

Sam is a friend of mine that I was really close to cuz I saw him as a brotherly figure.

Me: No, I didn't have a crush on him. I mean, I was clingy and all but that's it.

Mika: That's not what I know.

Me: Well, what you know is wrong.

This is where it got a little heated

Mika: JD said you had a crush on Joaquin and Duke when you were in Elementary.

JD is an old classmate from Elem who went to the same school as me in HS. Joaquin was a friend from high school prep class. Duke is an elem classmate.

Me: Uh, no. I was just really close with them. I had a pick me girl phase so...

Mika: No, you definitely had a crush on them.

Me: And that's exactly how I found out I'm Aromantic.

Max: What do you mean?

Me: I mean, I found out I'm aromantic cuz when I looked back at my "crushes" I realized that they weren't really my crushes and that I never felt anything for them more than being a sister figure. And the only reason I admitted that they're my crush is because I'm tired of everyone telling me, "Hey, you have a crush on him, don't you?" "You like him, right?" "Don't deny it, you have a crush"

Cuz it's true. The only reason I had "crushes" is because people kept on forcing me to admit that I like that person. I gave in to the pressure of calling them my crush. Also, I only had like, 3 "crushes" my whole life. I'm freaking 17 now. I never even had a fictional crush, despite how much I like fictional characters more than real people.

---As for being Ace---

Most instances where I was questioned for being Asexual, it's either people telling me I can't be Ace cuz being Ace isn't real since everyone has sexual desires or people asking me how I know I'm Ace when I haven't experienced it yet.

First of all, I don't know if I'm entirely Ace, there's a chance that I'm Aegosexual, which means I'm not against the idea of sex just being a part of it which should also explain a lot of things about the second part; I don't wanna have sex cuz of various reasons, reasons I cannot explain in words.

I'm not really sexually repulsed, I like reading smut and sex scenes but actually seeing people do it is a no for me.

But this is only one of the experiences of being aroace. My parents were more than supportive that I'm aroace. My mom was actually grateful cuz it means I wont get pregnant or into any relationships so it saves me the heartbreak. I don't think she fully understands it but hey! she gets the concept... I think...

[pissfizz]

Awhile ago I made Sk8 lgbt headcanons but some of them have changed so let’s revamp for pride month shall we?

Reki

Pronoun indifferent, I usually think he’s cis but I will get behind the trans masc headcanon whenever I please

BI BI BI BABY

Thought he was straight until he was fifteen. Then he saw a guy at S who was really really pretty and just went ....oh

Greysexual!!!!

Casually out to like everyone and never officially came out just kinda just went with it and everyone was like yeah that tracks let’s go

Langa

He/they pronouns , doesn’t label themself and refuses to accept any labels

Oh, baby this is a gay ass motherfucker

Asexual but relatively sex indifferent. He doesn’t care.

Joe

Transmasc!! Top surgery scars!!! He/him pronouns

When he came out to his dad, his dad was upset and Kojiro got scared only to realize that his dad was upset because they never got any father son bonding moments when he was little, so afterwards they went to play catch outside and Kojiro was just so so happy

Bisexual as fuckkkkkkkkk

Shadow

Cis man, will fight anyone who misgenders his friends. He/him

Identified as straight for most of his life, but has questioned a little bit recently.

Considering the idea of being pan

Asexual!! He likes making sex jokes but the actual idea of it is super gross to him

Miya

Nonbinary, they/them but will reluctantly accept a he here and there, indifferent to neopronouns and doesn’t mind people using them for them

Sometimes they find themself wanting to look especially feminine, and it’s probably a not very likeable headcanon to most but I like it so suck it, I think that sometimes they like to try and make their chest look a bit bigger but doesn’t really know how

But it’s all good because they have their friends to help out (even if they don’t want the help)

Too scared to tell parents about it

Aro/ace. Very aro/ace. Sex repulsed (the occasional joke is fine but anything else is too much), and romance indifferent.

They thought they were pan at first because they thought their attraction was inclusive without the concept of gender but it was really just the fact that they weren’t attracted to anyone so it all felt equal (which is why their phone case has the pan flag)

Cherry Blossom

Will use any pronouns except she/her, somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum but doesn’t really care for technicalities. Leans towards demiboy if they had to pick.

He’s so gay. But also demiromantic.

Horribly unaccepting parents, he has cut all ties with them as an adult.

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Headcanon #10

Batfamily Sexualities

Happy Pride Month! Here are my headcanons for batfam sexualities and my fav pairings.

Dick: Pansexual; Wally/Dick

I also love Dick and Kori (Cause Teen Titans nostalgia) but the way their relationship ended in the comics sorta ruins it for me.

Jason: Demisexual; Roy/Jason

I do think Jason is still figuring some things out but overall I think of him as demi.

Pre-death I think he was really scared of being gay or liking men, cause growing up with Willis wasn't exactly an accepting environment.

But post-death he was able to come to terms with he sexuality and feel comfortable in exploring it (mainly emotional exploration).

Tim: Asexual/Homoromantic; Kon/Tim

Am I projecting? Probs. Do I care? Nope!

Tim loves physical affection and he isn't sex repulsed, but sex just it's not it? Like it's a thing and sure it's, uh, interesting? But like it ain't all that.

Being ace was super confusing for Tim cause for a long time he didn't realize you could be ace and still like cuddling/kissing. It was so confusing to him until he finally talked to Jason (who had been researching sexuality and shit) and Jason actually explained the ace spectrum.

Damian: IS ALWAYS A BBY IN MY MIND SO IDK

I always see him as a bby so he hasn't thought about it.

But when he's older I tend to think of him as ace or demi (mainly cause I want more characters on the ace spectrum. Like represent me pls).

Duke: Bi-curious

Duke is also on the younger side and hasn't thought a whole lot about sexuality in my mind.

Steph: Aromantic/Homosexual

She's a gay disaster and I love her.

Also she has a huge crush on Black Canary (mostly in an idolizing way tbh).

Cass: Questioning

I'd imagine that after her not so typical childhood Cass is still trying to figure out who she is as a person and honestly has sorta put romance/relationships on the back burner. Because of this she hasn't put much thought in to it.

She thinks she might be pan so she's been talking with Dick about it, but she's still confused.

Barbara: Fluid; Kara/Babs (based on The New Batman Series)

Babs doesn't really associate her self with a specific sexuality.

Usually she goes for more masculine ppl but she'd not quite straight.

Bruce: Straight

I can easily see Bruce being bi or pan, but tbh I just love imagining straight Bruce who never knew anything about the queer community trying to figuring out how to support his children

Like Bruce going to pride for the first time absolutely decked out cause he maybe emotionally constipated but he will always support his queer disaster children.

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Just a quick little side note: Sexuality is complicated and confusing. I have struggled most of my life trying to figure out where I fit in on the spectrum of sexuality. But, now that I've had more time to become comfortable with my sexuality and my self, I've realized I will never fit one label perfectly. Sexuality is a spectrum nothing is perfect, labels have flaws, and we are all just human. So, if you're struggling with your sexuality, I get that and I know it's rough, but it does get easier. And if you're weirded out by me assigning sexualities to random characters, well... idk what to tell you, sucks to suck? Like I grew up with almost no representation so of course I want to see my favorite characters fit into a community I am apart of. Also if we're being honest comic books are basically company approved fanfiction. Like timelines are bullshit, characterizations change constantly, and there are a shit ton of random pairings. So in my mind comics are made to be fucked with.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk :)

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Happy Pride, everyone!! I was worried I wasn't gonna get this done before the end of the month but thankfully I managed to finish it. Since I didn't end up doing anything last year, I felt like going a bit over-the-top this time around. Fun fact: I don't have a single straight character. (With the exception of Claudius Blackthorne, the man who cursed Mikhail with botched Occult magic, but he's a background character anyways so w/e.) Markus, Nate and Lucas all started straight but as time went on and things developed with them as characters, keeping them straight just didn't feel right? Markus is attracted to femme-presenting men, Nate was in denial of his attraction toward Inzi for a long time, and Lucas felt like he had to keep his attraction to some of the guys on his basketball team under wraps - which fell apart once he met some of the other Animalia guys. Otherwise, many of my characters are varying degrees of bisexual/pansexual. Some of them are down for flings but don't necessarily want to settle down into solid relationships; some need time to take things further with others.

More rambling under the cut.

• Inzi and Mina are my OG bi & poly couple. Their bisexuality is very important to myself personally, as someone who spent many years accepting myself as bi and a part of the LGBTQ+ community. Through them, I wanted to send the message that bisexual people can still be in straight-presenting relationships, and that couples do not have to be monogamous to be happy. Bi erasure is a huge problem in the LGBTQ+ community. I also aim to present their open relationship in a healthy manner; they love each other deeply, and are very bonded to each other emotionally, but neither of them believe that sex is the ultimate end-all to a loving relationship. • Kenni, Rags and Kama are all nonbinary/genderfluid to varying degrees. They can change their physical sex, but they exist outside the binary & they accept any and all pronouns regardless of form. (I just tend to default to he/him cause I'm attracted to men the most.) Rags is also very aromantic, while Kenni is a hopeless romantic by nature. • Nagas in my story universe very seldom settle down with only one partner. Especially Royal families like Tezca & Haadi. They will marry off to a Noble of another clan, but often still seek other relationships. They want to poerpetuate the Noble bloodline without resorting to incest, but they also want to feel free to have other intimate relations. That being said, Tezca and his wife Naganika still love each other very much. • The Leather Pride flag seems fitting for my dommy demon Shikhar, and my shameless sadomasochist Devin. • Julian is a sex-positive aro/ace. He really doesn't want sex for himself (to the point where it repulses him to think about), but he's also a total Dom that likes using technology, bondage and special serum blends on consenting "subjects". Ratel is also aro/ace, but doesn't mind teasing his very easily flustered creator Riley about his ticklishness and tendency to succumb to displays of dominance. • Marie and Annika are both lesbians. (Well, Annika is specifically has the Bi-Lesbian flag, which is, to my understanding, lesbians that somewhat have an attraction to men. She started off life dating men, but has more or less totally shifted gears.) I fully admit this was mostly done to spite my ex, and an ex friend of mine, who used to over-sexualize them and act like they only existed to get railed by my other male characters. That being said, I do also think it's fitting for their characters. Marie being a lesbian is a nice contrast to her former lab partner Riley being gay, plus her flirting & flaunting her stuff to men in the science community to get the results she wants, without having any intention to hook up with them, is a huge power move. • As I set out to do this, I came to realize that I didn't have a single trans character. While I didn't want to make a trans OC just for the sake of having one, I also feel like it's a bit unfair for that to be the only group not represented in some way. So I thought of a way I could shift the story of Akihiro, my catboy. He is FtM trans, and the verbal (and sometimes physical) abuse he suffered at the hands of his father - who also happened to have a very mean dog that went after Aki - added to his deep-seated fear of dogs. But through the support of all the other Animalia, sad kitty gets a happy ending. He gets help from my other scientists to receive the transitional surgery & meds he needed. c: