#not that im complaining bc thats life

[shtalker]

i hope that whatever good happens to me this year is also permanent and that i experience having it easy sometimes too. for a change

[m00nbuggies]

had a moment of weakness and drew them last night. ugh. stupid dumb idiots

[skunkes]

[eosofspades]

okay i meant to make this post forever ago but my personal opinion on why so many people were so dissatisfied with lightfalll (disclaimer: i am not one of these people, i love lightfall SO much), is that lightfall was kind of subjected to a really aggressive marketing campaign.

like, stick with me here, i feel like almost all the lightfall release content (the trailers especially) were so focused on battling the witness, how this battle has been centuries in the making and this is the Second Collapse Finally Finding Us, only for there to be,,, no real resolution. the end was left on such a severe cliffhanger, but not only that, there was NO battle with the witness. the witness didn't even seem to be having a hard time at all with what we WERE throwing at it.

and for narrative reasons *i* am obsessed with this ending; in terms of storytelling i adore practically every creative decision that was made in lightfall, but i think the reason that so many people were so upset about it is because lightfall had such intense marketing and was rooted in the implication that this was the End of Days, only for us to get almost no closure, and instead so many more questions.

(there's also something to be said, i think, about the fact that the people who ARE most upset about this are like, the youtube gamer dudebros who's content is very very often rooted in the aggressive, violence-and-warfare, pvp-centric, no-interest-in-lore approach to destiny, and that the people i've seen primarily ENJOYING the narrative decisions (or at least being understanding about it) are the artists and writers and loremasters of the fandom, but i'm not quite sure,,, how to expand on that point.)

[nerdyqueerr]

Category 10 needing attention moment and im crying like a little bitch cause i can hear my roommate laughing on vc in her room and thought to myself idk when's the last time i made her laugh that hard... bitch get OVER yourself!!!!

[walking-loather]

When it comes to hygiene tasks and self care with disability and chronic illness, its pretty much a constant case of: don't let perfect be the enemy of the good.

Basically: it's better to do something, than to do nothing at all.

TLDR: Just because you can't do something "properly" doesn't mean you shouldn't do it at all. Do it half-way. Do it shitty. Do it barely. Do it on a technicality. But do what you can. Just try, because doing something will help you.

If you don't have the energy to scrub your body with a sponge, just rub soap over your skin with your hands.

If you don't have the energy to wash your whole body with soap, just hit the places where sweat accumulates, or where you're smelliest.

If you don't have the energy to wash with soap AT ALL, just sitting in water is better than nothing. It will wash away dirt and oils.

If you can't bathe or shower at all, a warm wash cloth is your new best friend. If that's too much, then try bath wipes. They're a bit bigger than regular wet wipes, and a bit more heavy duty. They're designed to help keep bed ridden patients clean in hospitals.

If you don't have the energy to dry yourself after a bath or a shower, just put on a bathrobe and get into bed. If you don't have the energy to get dressed afterwards, just don't. It can wait until you can.

If you don't have energy to brush your teeth for two minutes, honestly, just a cursory scrub is better than not doing anything.

If you can't brush your teeth twice a day, brush in the evenings. It will help take away the build up of food from the day.

If you don't have the energy to brush AT ALL, honestly, just take a cloth and wipe the plaque off your teeth. Rinse with mouth wash after if you'd like. Something is always better than nothing.

If you can't floss twice a day. Try once. If that's too much, try a few times a week. If that's too much, try setting aside a day once a week as a goal. If you can't keep a schedule, do it when you're able to. Hell, I keep some floss next to my bed so that if I forget and don't have the energy to go get it, I can just reach over.

If you can't iron your clothes, don't bother. Wrinkles are fine. Wear jumpers over wrinkly t-shirts. No one will know, and honestly, most people won't even care. If it's really wrinkly and it's A Big Deal And It Needs To Be Ironed, here's my life hack. Step 1: take a spray bottle, and spritz the item of clothing (while you're wearing it is easiest) until it's lightly damp. Step 2: use a hair-dryer on the clothes until they're dry. It gets rid of creases like nobody's business, it's easier than lugging out the iron and ironing board, and you get to have nice toasty warm clothes afterwards.

If you can't fold your clothes, try just hanging them up. It's less commitment. It's quicker to do. Granted, you need to have the space in order to do this, but it is also good at helping you downsize, and lets you visualise exactly what you have.

If you can't put your clothes away, invest in a couple of laundry baskets, and then just keep your clean clothes in the baskets. You can then separate washed clothes into underwear, pants, and shirts baskets. You can just leave them like that. I'm giving you permission to never fold your laundry again if you can't. Just leave it unfolded. Who's going to care? Something is better than nothing. If you can, try to put those baskets into your closet so that you can keep the clutter out of sight, and give yourself a more restful environment.

If you can't separate your clothing out into different categories and wash them "properly" (whites, warm tones, cool tones, darks, delicates / switching between hot & cold washes / paying attention to laundry instructions on the label) then just don't worry about it. If you cold wash your clothes, colours won't bleed. Maybe gradually over the course of dozens of washes there'll be some changes in hue, but it's really not as high stakes as the One Red Sock In The Whites Turns Them Pink trope makes it out to be.

I've pretty much come to the point in my life where if a piece of clothing can't survive the washer and dryer, then it's just not meant to be. I colour separate my clothes, and if I have the energy/remember I'll take my bras and jumpers out of the washing machine to drip dry. But otherwise, I leave it to the universe.

If you can't separate out your recycling, then don't. If you have a large amount of rubbish you need to get rid of but the idea of separating it out properly is stopping you from doing so, then just don't worry about it. I know it's not ideal, but if you have garbage in your room/house and you need to get rid of it, please just get rid of it. Don't let the problem get bigger and harder to deal with. Don't let "doing something properly" get in the way of keeping your living spaces clean. Please. Give yourself understanding.

If you can't wash your dishes, get paper plates. Obviously, it's not ideal, but it is better that you eat food than skipping meals. It is better that you have a clean kitchen, rather than having dishes piling up and making it harder to look after yourself.

If you can't prepare meals for yourself keep making the tasks easier and easier. If you can't do recipes, then simplify. Use pasta sauce from the jar instead of making it. Eat canned soup. Buy food you can just stick in the oven. If you eat fish fingers and microwave veggies every night, it's better than not eating anything at all. It's better than having to fork out money on take-out. If you need ready-made meals, then get them. If you're literally just eating a raw cauliflower for dinner; 1) I see you, 2) me too, sis, 3) something is better than nothing.

These are the basic things you need to do every day to function as a person. They are your activities of daily living. Brushing your teeth. Bathing or showering. Using the bathroom. Getting dressed. Eating. Drinking. Sleeping. Keeping your environment clean. You don't need to do these things perfectly, but they need to happen in order for you to have a decent quality of life.

And it breaks my heart, because I know that so many disabled people can't do these things every day. I'm not saying this to guilt or judge, I'm saying that these are basic needs; you deserve these things. These things bring dignity. If a disabled person is unable to do these things, it diminishes their quality of life. It robs them of dignity.

If you need help to do these things, Its okay to ask for help. It's okay to need help. But if you can't get that help and you have to do these things by yourself -- or you just plain want to be independent and do it without help-- then don't hold yourself to standards you can't meet.

Don't let perfect be the enemy of the good. Doing something is always better than doing nothing. Even if it's not perfect. Even if it's not done well. Do what you can.

[chiimeramanticore]

having like. objectively a godawful shitty fucking no good very bad day can u guys send asks

[shalpilot]

that's enough projecting for one night maybe one day i will. elaborate on my ideas but also sometimes it's just enough to make angst about it instead.

[lilbreed1ngdoll]

i know its the same deal with epipens and insulin, but its pretty fucked up that formula is so damn expensive and for W H A T? bc these companies know its them or nothing whether its due to breastfeeding issues or adoptive parents. legit taking advantage of the human race

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[definitelynotshouting]

your literary vocabulary is scrumptious, i will be taking it (it has me googling lots but its very worth it (i was not aware gooseflesh was a word))

you can pick it up in 2-5 business days <3 /j

WJXBKWDNAKDKSND 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥 GODS THE GOOSEFLESH BIT IS SO FUNNY ITS TRULY JUST ME BEING TOO PRETENTIOUS TO SAY GOOSEBUMPS..... or gods forbid goosepimples.....😭😭😭😭😭😭

Im honestly so glad people seem to like my vocab??? My writing style has become something very very distinct over the years and like . Your honor i love the fancee words..... i love how they look with my synesthesia 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 a lot of my writing is just focused very specifically on both musical rhythm in the way that its read (which makes it REALLY satisfying for me to read out loud to other people) and how the words LOOK on the page, both colour and texture-wise from my pov. Its fun to literally be painting with words :]

Actually its been such a huge relief that people have been so kind about the complex terminology i put in my writing-- its something i used to worry about a lot, in terms of accessibility and reading immersion, and if it was just. Too much in general??? But honestly, ive gotten so attached to this writing style, and im too much of a fan of being esoteric to try and change it.... im happiest when i get to throw in big words and paint very specific images with them :]]] and the fact that people keep commenting on it in such positive ways is just very nice and validating for me, which is a huge bonus :DDD

[ladysophiebeckett]

there's nepotism everywhere,,,blah blah blah.

first u have mother\daughter duo playing mother\daughter (angelica maria and angelica vale) (lety's mom and lety).

then you have the model in the bella life commercial being played by jaime camil's step sister, then luigi who's directing said model but in real life was dating her (and then married her). then in some other episode, jaime camil's dad showed up for some reason.

then later, as the show got longer they included angelica vale's dog and named him 'moty' like her bag. AND then they started to use one of angelica vale's songs as the opening credits song (and also later closing credits). and im sure these were part re negotiation tactics bc vale was having a shit time and they kept delaying the make over.

[demiurgicfeline]

as someone who is very much not neurotypical i get very tired w how ppl talk abt Neurotypical People as like. some sort of weirdo freak aliens and wholly Other. and while i get that neurodivergent ppl are often talked abt like their thinking is alien, it isn’t helpful imo to do the reverse. neurotypical ppl think differently, no they arent freaks for liking small talk. and i think this way of framing things lends itself to the tiktok bullshit of “breathing is a sign of ADHD” bc every way of thinking and behaving becomes Neurotypical OR Neurodivergent, which makes ppl begin to overthink everything they do. and i fall victim to it, i become paranoid that every single thing i do is because of OCD, which makes me feel WORSE and isn’t helpful at all! 

every so often i see on here and on twitter some post decidedly saying “this is how neurotypicals function” and sure, sometimes! but like that one post about how “neurotypicals only ask about the thing you’re watching/playing because they want to join you and not because they want to hear about it” isnt a bad post, bc for some people, sure, that’s what they mean. for others they genuinely do want to hear! it varies person to person! but it’s the replies about “wow i cant believe all neurotypicals function this way” that feels very silly and unhelpful for everyone

basically neurotypical thinking isn’t something that can be hacked or that there is a guide for. neurotypical ppl can also be stressed out by social expectations and rules, they are not all thinking the exact same way just like neurodivergent ppl can think differently from each other. also sometimes ppl just are different from u. im extremely social, i genuinely LOVE small talk! i am also neurodivergent with severe anxiety! these are not mutually exclusive! also also neurodivergence is a big umbrella which includes a lot of kinds of thinking within it itself so like

[gaystardykeco]

not ready to go back to work tomorrow but luckily im so not ready that my brain isn't letting it fully process and so im just kind of numb except for little moments when the panic breaks through again

[burn2834283392]

(the current state of the sonic fandom post-movies)

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as somebody whos blasian, has had my mother and brother racially profiled by cops before, this just makes me sick. i'm begging you sonic fans on tumblr to stop with the fake activism, i KNOW you guys dont actually care. it's so disheartening seeing all these white or Racially Ambiguous folk on this site specifically go up in arms about fictional cops, have everybody in their notes like "omggg yeah ur so right i agree acab guys!!", while actual blk people cant even have their voices heard because you guys IGNORE us when we really need your help.

it makes me sick to my stomach. we are not thanking you for your unnatural and disturbing hate towards fictional characters. we are not considering you a saviour. you have done NOTHING for us, so just stop. stop.

support people in real life. protest real world problems. stop caring about a childrens movie. i watched it and enjoyed it. i don't care that he's a cop. it never changed my opinion about cops. "but it's copaganda" SHUT UP. like you would know shit about that.

if you're white, your input isnt necessary, read the post and go on your way. don't comment on it because i don't care what you have to say. if you're black and disagree with me, i'd like to hear your reason why (civilly, please). i'm open to a discussion with people who actually understand the issue or have the experience. none of that performative bullshit, i'm done with that.

[thecherrygod]

was powering through nausea to get off the floor worth it