#nothing is simply and even neurotypical ppl get confused by each other all the time

[demiurgicfeline]

as someone who is very much not neurotypical i get very tired w how ppl talk abt Neurotypical People as like. some sort of weirdo freak aliens and wholly Other. and while i get that neurodivergent ppl are often talked abt like their thinking is alien, it isn’t helpful imo to do the reverse. neurotypical ppl think differently, no they arent freaks for liking small talk. and i think this way of framing things lends itself to the tiktok bullshit of “breathing is a sign of ADHD” bc every way of thinking and behaving becomes Neurotypical OR Neurodivergent, which makes ppl begin to overthink everything they do. and i fall victim to it, i become paranoid that every single thing i do is because of OCD, which makes me feel WORSE and isn’t helpful at all! 

every so often i see on here and on twitter some post decidedly saying “this is how neurotypicals function” and sure, sometimes! but like that one post about how “neurotypicals only ask about the thing you’re watching/playing because they want to join you and not because they want to hear about it” isnt a bad post, bc for some people, sure, that’s what they mean. for others they genuinely do want to hear! it varies person to person! but it’s the replies about “wow i cant believe all neurotypicals function this way” that feels very silly and unhelpful for everyone

basically neurotypical thinking isn’t something that can be hacked or that there is a guide for. neurotypical ppl can also be stressed out by social expectations and rules, they are not all thinking the exact same way just like neurodivergent ppl can think differently from each other. also sometimes ppl just are different from u. im extremely social, i genuinely LOVE small talk! i am also neurodivergent with severe anxiety! these are not mutually exclusive! also also neurodivergence is a big umbrella which includes a lot of kinds of thinking within it itself so like