#not posi

[transmascposi]

A lot of this positivity just feels like a progressive way to detrans trans men if I'm honest

"It's okay to wear makeup and to wear women's clothes and to wear panties and to be girly and to not transition and to have big female boobs and to embrace your natural girly vagina and also normalize not transitioning and also having dysphoria is actually just internalized transphobia and you should just accept your natural body!!!"

Like, just say you want me to be a woman at this point

No.

First of all, you're putting words in my mouth and you're greatly exaggerating. I never said anything about "big female boobs", i never said "girly vagina", i never said you should accept your "natural" body. I never posted about nondysphoric trans people, as far as I can remember.

I'm a gay nonbinary trans man and I'm not traditionally masculine. I write a lot of posts about embracing traditionally feminine things because I'm that way and I know how difficult that is while being trans. I want people to know that it's okay to not follow gender roles when you're trans. Being super masculine is just not the reality for many transmascs. For example, I'd love to have a dick. But phalloplasty with results that i'd be satisfied with is not only not available to me, I'm concerned about getting my reproductive organs removed in case there is a shortage of T and I end up not having access to sex hormones, which can be dangerous for your health. The world is nuanced.

If you want to be completely masculine, that's fine. Masculinity is okay. Masculinity is beautiful. So write your own post or politely request a post from me. But don't expect that from other transmascs. Don't make your dysphoria our problem. This is what we're trying to change – the notion that vulvas and boobs are inherently female and feminine, because they aren't. We're doing this partly to ease our dysphoria.

Transphobes hate trans people no matter if we "look our gender" or not. There will always be someone hating if we're open about being trans. So stop taking it out on your people and start loving other trans people. We're stronger together with all of our differences.

[systempositive]

Sorry about the new info post; we just realized we never made one.

[gifsbysimplysonia]

@fatphobiabusters

@fuckyeahfatpositive

💜

[sergle]

the threshold has been crossed, it is now springtime!!

[fairybasketsxo]

no i NEED affordable housing so trans people can have their own place to have loud freaky sex wherever and whenever they want

[neuroticboyfriend]

all your stuffed animals love you. they're not sad if they're in a box, or on the floor, or not held/played with as much. they understand. they know that you might need another stuffie more, or that you don't have enough space. they're just happy to be with you, and if you ever give them away, they'll be happy there too. stuffies are for comfort. they understand. they love you too. it's okay.

[gor3sigil]

If you're all about body positivity but make fun of men with hairline receiding or bald, fat, with a beer belly etc, no you're not.

Pretty sick and tired of seeing people laugh and trash men who are not tall skinny queer looking white dudes and be like "everyone is beautiful" in the same breath.

[gwydionmisha]

I hope he sues for libel.

[cozylittleartblog]

what if there was a plague doctor that was so so so cute (and was also secretly a bird themself)

[kropotkindersurprise]

March 25, 2023 - TERF piece of shit Posie Parker had to cut her transphobic event in Auckland, New Zealand, short after a huge crowd of locals decided to run her fascist ass out of town, and she was covered in tomato sauce.

She was so shaken by the event she ended her entire transphobic tour of Australia and New Zealand, which so far had mostly proven popular with literal neo-nazis, and fled the country entirely. Good job, Auckland! [video]/[video]

[ed-recovery-affirmations]

Body positivity absolutely must extend to disabled bodies. And that's disabilities of any kind. Disabilities by illness, disabilities by birth, acquired disabilities. Facial differences, limb differences, bodies that move atypically, adaptive tech and medical equipment that serves as a part of your body. If this is you, you deserve the space to navigate a complex relationship with your body. You deserve the tools to learn to love your unique body and make it feel loved. You deserve to be surrounded by people that truly love your body as it is.

(If you are disabled and are not able to love your body all the time, that's okay too. But you deserve to have the option; you deserve the tools to try.)

[transmascposi]

[tw: very brief and vague mention of child sexual abuse]

this is not a positivity post.

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i'm running this blog for trans masc / trans men positivity, but honestly, i've been struggling to be positive lately.

my most liked post is about gay trans men being attractive to other gay men. that post is super popular and made a lot of people feel better. yet i still feel disgusting and unwanted.

the people i like romantically and am sexually attracted to do not like me in those ways. the only people sexually interested in me are fetishizers and a few strange men who i do not find attractive, all these on grindr. no one has ever expressed any sexual interest in me that wouldn't come off as weird or creepy to me. i know only about two people who liked me romantically.

i have a group of gay friends (cis and nonbinary, none of them identify as trans) to whom all i'm attracted to (i've had a crush on two of them and still am kind of in love with one of them) and none of them are attracted to me. they all sleep with each other. i'm the only one with whom none of them slept with. i have very special connections with some of them and i have no reason to doubt our platonic bonds. i know they love me a lot. but i can't help but feel absolutely horrible and less than when i'm confronted with the reality of their sex lives (versus mine. i've never had sex. i'm almost 24.). i also get triggered very easily when confronted with this reality, likely because of my abandonment trauma and past child sexual abuse which wasn't severe but my therapist thinks it had an impact.

i recently stumbled upon a research about the lgbtq+ community and one of the topics studied was how much people with certain labels were attracted to other people with certain labels. trans men scored very very low with men attracted to men. gay men even had more sexual experience with cis women then with trans men!!

i'm so sorry to bring negativity to the followers of this blog but i find it harder and harder to be positive. i feel ashamed because of my lack of sexual experience, the lack of attention, i feel unwanted, unattractive, inferior. i feel like i don't belong. all because i'm a trans man.

[arinmoss]

And the rot continues.

[euniexenoblade]

I just want to take this moment and say I'm glad you're here. As hard and as terrible the world might seem, it is equally majestic and beautiful, and I'm glad you have a chance to be here and see it and be a part of that beauty. Thank you for being you. Thank you for continuing to be here. I am immensely proud of you and all you've done.

[sergle]

when ppl’s “body positive/plus size” art just starts and ends with a big ass

[fairybasketsxo]

guys will be like this edible’s not hitting :/ and then five mins later be bent over panting writhing moaning squirming begging rutting whimpering groaning humping grinding shuddering trembling