#nonlibidoist

[aspeccharactersoftheday]

Sora from Sora & Koto is asexual and nonlibidoist!

[sachkenntnis]

any other non-libidoists (ppl who don't experience sexual arousal) out there who feel like, though they're undoubtedly missing out on a lot of the fun of sex, they have a better understanding than most people of the different "layers" of horniness/the Abstract Sexual Mood, or rather a better understanding of the psychological side of sex in its distilled essence, since they can be very much "mentally aroused" without any physical sensations attached to it?

like...i can very much feel mentally turned on and enjoy sex and be in a sexual mood, i can co-create phantasies and play with my partner and be excited and know what to do and what to say and have fun while doing it... it's just that my body doesn't feel any different... and touching my genitals feels the same as touching my knee lol. and i have no fucking idea what an orgasm feels like and probably never will. and it's been a year since i even attempted to masturbate (gave up after a minute lmao).

but i just feel like it would be harder for most people to differentiate these layers (mental vs physical arousal) bc they probably tend to always experience them at the same time? soo...maybe our unique perspective is epistemologically valuable, too? lol

[mx-princey]

I discovered the term nonlibidoist and I'm curious to work out whether I fit under it but its difficult when my sense of sexuality (in all meanings of the word) feels so indescribable under the current language around sexuality. And its not really something I can just ask random people about because working it out would involve unpacking / discussing explicit themes. Idk.

[imoga-pride]

CW: includes topics of s*x and ma*tur*ation

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So not long after I started hormones, I wasn’t really interested in sex anymore. My libido has shot WAY down and it wasn’t even that high before.

It’s come up a little bit recently, but I’ve noticed that I much prefer to use my *ahem* toys..rather than intercourse with my partner now.

My ultimate question is if there’s an identity that fits this?

Fluxo or non-libidoist? Autosexual/autoerotic or solosexual? Esthesiosexual or juxtasexual? Feel free to add -flux or -flexible with the prefixes.

[corelliaxdreaming]

I really did mean to make at least one decent post for Ace Week, but it got away from me. Oops. Anyway, I love all my acespec siblings. Here’s a quick, random graphic of the acespec flags I identify with. Left: asexual, nonlibidoist. Right: aegosexual, aroace. (I also like the acespec flag, but I couldn’t get the graphic to look decent with five.)

[aromantisk-fagforening]

it seems too honest to tell my allo (gay) friend that ace only means (little to) no attraction, not no want for sex or never fucking.

[genderstarbucks]

Can you make a demilibidoist flag? It's partially libidoist or nonlibidoist (semilibidoist) or circumstantially/conditionally experiencing libido/sex drive (hemilibidoist). Similar to fluxolibidoist and hypolibidoist.

Demilibidoist + Deminonlibidoist!!

Demilibidoist - someone who only partially has a sex drive

Deminonlibidoist - someone who only partially doesn't have a sex drive

[shrimp-apocalypse-now]

why is the nonlibidoist flag just zoomed in denver. if anything it should be zoomed in springs

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all asexual nonlibidoists!

(ID: The nonlibidoist pride flag. There is a pinkish V shape with the central point at the bottom and the ends at the top corners of the flag. Above the V is purple and below is dark red.)

Nonlibidoist - A person of any sexual orientation with no sex drive/libido. A nonlibidoist does not experience an inherent drive to engage in sexual activity such as masturbation or sexual relationships. Some aces are nonlibidoists, and some are not. The presence or absence of a libido has no relation to whether someone is asexual or allosexual.

[aspeccharactersoftheday]

Bry Shaw from The Nonlibidoist is asexual and nonlibidoist!

[aphorisnt]

a nonlibidoist moodboard for @corelliaxdreaming

flag design created by @beyond-mogai-pride-flags

[corelliaxdreaming]

True! And it’s also not being ashamed of your lack of libido!

sex positive ace culture is not being ashamed of your libido!!!!

[aroaceconfessions]

I just kinda feel invisible in the wider aspec community.

I am a libidoist asexual, romance ambivalent aromantic, platonic neutral/ambivalent loveless aplatonic. being ace isnt that important to me while being loveless aplatonic was a literal eye opener.

And because of this i kinda feel invisible because if people know about aspecs at all, they only acknowledge nonlibidoist asexuals, alloaces and aroaces. Alloaros (a group i feel close to due to being a libidoist,) get even less acknowledgement, and the people who know about loveless and aplatonic people are usually loveless and aplatonic themselves.

[nonlibidoist-culture-is]

Intro

Nonlibidoist:  someone  who  does  not  have  a  libido  for  any  reason,  may  or  may  not  also  be  asexual.

This sideblog  is  run  by  an  apothisexual  nonlibidoist  plural  sys.  We  are  not comfortable  giving  our  system  name  or  talking  about  any  of  our  other identities  here,  but  we  wanted  to  create  this  blog  for  nonlibidoists  like us  to  have  a  space  where  we  can  be  safe  to  talk  about  our  experiences  without  judgement,  and  maybe  feel  less  alone.   

Rules  for  submitting  stuff  to  this  blog  (if  you  want  it  to  get  posted) :

1:  The  ask  or  submission  should  be  related  to  being  nonlibidoist,  unless  it  is,  like,  advice  on  how  to  make  this  blog  more  accessible.   

2:   Mentions   and   VAGUE   descriptions  of  NSFW  acts  and  such  will  likely  be  necessary  to  some  degree  due  to  the  nature  of  this  topic,  but   there   is  no  need  to   go  into  extremely  graphic  levels  of  detail.  

3:  no  exclusionism/bigotry  of  any  kind.  everyone’s  identities  are  valid. 

Thank  you  for  reading  this  long  intro!

[corelliaxdreaming]

people who make detailed posts and pride flag trees and happily have a dozen or more identities, orientations, and microlabels to describe themselves, my absolute beloveds

[aromantisk-fagforening]

back on my am I grace arc. my aromanticism is easy, it's obvious, it's complete disinterest paired with romance repulsion, but my asexuality, it's atypical, I'm not sex repulsed, nor nonlibidoistic. I also may or may not have had feelings for one or two people at some point. I don't think a lot about cause last time was like literally over a year ago.