#no bad parts

[aleatoryw]

I've been reading No Bad Parts, which is about internal family systems therapy, and immediately off the bat it is giving me better mental health advice than any other book, article, or healthcare worker ever has. highly recommend, especially if you currently or in the past dealt with self harm or overwhelming emotions

[aura-oracle]

When I began to explain to my new therapist about having different parts that I have named and that it’s not like how DiD has them but I’m not like a single person, that I’m in the middle, she begins to explain how everyone has many parts and she pulls out the No Bad Parts book to show me. Do you think Median systems are the same as IFS? Or similar/can relate to them? I did not use the term median as therapists for the most part would probably not have heard of it. I do not think it is an official term after all. It was created online internet to describe an experience many have. My median parts each have names, personalities, likes, viewpoints, and different outlook on life yet they’re each still me. They are mes who felt like different names fit them better.

[fractal-unfoldment]

School may be done for the summer, howeva, I’m doing a deep dive into IFS this summer on my own time❤️‍🩹

[thrivingwhilemultiple]

Those who climbed off the rack and picked up the whip found a devilish salvation… twisting themselves into unrecognizable knots in order to evade the inescapable.

We call them "bad", we call them "scary", and we push them away.

But when we do, they continue to hear what they've always heard, and now they're hearing it from the very ones for whom they sacrificed themselves.

– Monster

___ TWM: healing, perseverance, and hope… Personal stories of living, recovering, and thriving with Dissociative Identity Disorder.

[rolypolyjolie]

“All Parts Welcome” — @eljayetc — 2024

[nerdypipsqueak]

"The Self isn't content to just observe. It's not compassionate to passively watch suffering beings parade by."

I love all of you and I want to help you and look after you. But you need to trust me. You make up who I am and we are in this together.

[dontmindme-just-whatevering]

Arcane Season 2 is amazing and if you think differently you’re wrong. You’re just disappointed that it wasn’t what was in your head.

[nobleelfwarrior]

I think I finally figured out why it frustrates me so much that psychologists will write about curing sexual abusers and rapists of ptsd or their habits.

It’s because women are far more likely to be the victims of that kind of assault while males are much more likely to perpetrate it and the psychologist never questions why that is.

In “the body keeps the score” countless people were traumatized by times they couldn’t act and violence was enacted on them but only males went and raped and massacred a village afterward. The women kept retraumatizing herself, self harming, or shut down.

In “no bad parts” the internal family system is claimed to be successful at rehabilitating abusers who were often the victims of abuse themselves. These perpetrators were male and their victims likely women and girls and their abusers as also male.

I think this is because psychologists train themselves to be neutral. It’s not their job to be disgusted by their patients, it’s their job to help them move past the disgusting behavior. But when writing this results in a total lack of empathy for the women reading the book who may have been attacked by men like that repeatedly. It taints your work to be so casual to ordinary people about rapists.

And it’s also irresponsible to act like therapy can fix the thought patterns that are enforced by our society and YOU the psychologist that will encourage men to reoffend! To simply not question why women are far less likely to be offenders is, frankly, anti science and I wish they would address things like that in their book!

[notesfromatherapist]

Buddhist-derived practices of mindfulness are a step in the right direction. They enable the practitioner to observe thoughts and emotions from a distance and from a place of acceptance rather than fighting or ignoring them. For me, that's a good first step. Mindfulness is not always pleasant, however. Researchers who interviewed experienced meditators found that substantial percentages of them had disturbing episodes that sometimes were long-lasting. The most common of those included emotions like fear, anxiety, paranoia, detachment, and reliving traumatic memories. From the IFS point of view, the quieting of the mind associated with mindfulness happens when the parts of us usually running our lives (our egos) relax, which then allows parts we have tried to bury (exiles) to ascend, bringing with them the emotions, beliefs, and memories they carry (burdens) that got them locked away in the first place. Most of the mindfulness approaches I'm familiar with subscribe to the mono-mind paradigm and, consequently, view such episodes as the temporary emergence of troubling thoughts and emotions rather than as hurting parts that need to be listened to and loved. Why would you want to converse with thoughts and emotions? They can't talk back, can they? Well, it turns out that they can. In fact, they have a lot of important things to tell us.

Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

[bicycle-brakes]

protectors are the playground bullies.

don’t be friends with that kid, they’re weird.

they put down others (externally and/or internally) to protect us from feeling those same flaws in ourselves.

anxiety and panic attacks protect us through isolation and fear.

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i’ve had enough external playground bullies growing up that i’ve created my own to keep the cycle going.

we say that bullies bully because they don’t like themselves, have their own unmet needs and insecurities…

i don’t have many thoughts beyond this at this point. just mulling over points in the book No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD

[kaybee444]

Now, I learn to love and accept every part of myself, especially the ones who want to wage war, for me.

[trekkerac]

I'm having fun part 3

[chalkrub]

autumnal chill....featuring the girl

[unforth]

Y'all have got to stop virulently hating men. Like, I'm sorry, I fucking hate the patriarchy too, but the patriarchy isn't just men and saying it is just exculpates complicit women. I am the mother of a young boy, and I look at this precious, empathetic 8 year old boy I'm raising and I don't know where online is safe for him. Places like this will say he's evil just for his gender, and other places will say "we'll be your friend if you hate with us," and still others will radicalize him in other ways. Where is he supposed to go? Why are we saying the radicalization is the fault of the kids just trying to find a place to hang?

Like this is seriously getting urgent. You have got to fucking stop conflating the patriarchy and men. 53% percent of white women voted for Trump. Men aren't the problem. White supremacy and Christian patriarchal structures are two examples of patriarchy-reinforcing structures that aren't solely couched in maleness. Men aren't the problem, and pretending they are drives more men into more welcoming extremist spaces and also ignores all the parts of this that are forwarded by people who aren't men.

What I see happening all over is scared, depressed, lonely people looking for someone they're allowed to hate automatically, unquestioningly - someone they're allowed to place all the blame on. Fascism says people of color, non-Christian people, queer people, etc., are the ones they're allowed to hate.

And way too many of yall answer that no, it's leftist to hate men instead. You are doing *the exact same thing they are.*

Fucking knock it off.

The answer is we're not supposed to hate anyone automatically based on their immutable personal characteristics. Hate the specific people who've hurt you. Hate the self-reinforcing systems that let them get away with hurting you. Hate the strangers who prop up those systems. Hate the fascists. Hell knows I hate Donald Trump, but it's not because he's a man, it's because he's a piece of shit.

Hate the pieces of shit, not the gender.

But don't hate men just because they're men. That's unhelpful, stupid, insane, and entirely counterproductive. Fucking. Stop.

[warningsine]

Galinda, what are you doing? Stop. No.

[nerdypipsqueak]

Dick Schwartz has no business being this funny!