#no bad parts Tumblr posts

[aleatoryw]

I've been reading No Bad Parts, which is about internal family systems therapy, and immediately off the bat it is giving me better mental health advice than any other book, article, or healthcare worker ever has. highly recommend, especially if you currently or in the past dealt with self harm or overwhelming emotions

[aura-oracle]

When I began to explain to my new therapist about having different parts that I have named and that it’s not like how DiD has them but I’m not like a single person, that I’m in the middle, she begins to explain how everyone has many parts and she pulls out the No Bad Parts book to show me. Do you think Median systems are the same as IFS? Or similar/can relate to them? I did not use the term median as therapists for the most part would probably not have heard of it. I do not think it is an official term after all. It was created online internet to describe an experience many have. My median parts each have names, personalities, likes, viewpoints, and different outlook on life yet they’re each still me. They are mes who felt like different names fit them better.

[fractal-unfoldment]

School may be done for the summer, howeva, I’m doing a deep dive into IFS this summer on my own time❤️‍🩹

[rolypolyjolie]

“All Parts Welcome” — @eljayetc — 2024

[nerdypipsqueak]

"The Self isn't content to just observe. It's not compassionate to passively watch suffering beings parade by."

I love all of you and I want to help you and look after you. But you need to trust me. You make up who I am and we are in this together.

[nobleelfwarrior]

I think I finally figured out why it frustrates me so much that psychologists will write about curing sexual abusers and rapists of ptsd or their habits.

It’s because women are far more likely to be the victims of that kind of assault while males are much more likely to perpetrate it and the psychologist never questions why that is.

In “the body keeps the score” countless people were traumatized by times they couldn’t act and violence was enacted on them but only males went and raped and massacred a village afterward. The women kept retraumatizing herself, self harming, or shut down.

In “no bad parts” the internal family system is claimed to be successful at rehabilitating abusers who were often the victims of abuse themselves. These perpetrators were male and their victims likely women and girls and their abusers as also male.

I think this is because psychologists train themselves to be neutral. It’s not their job to be disgusted by their patients, it’s their job to help them move past the disgusting behavior. But when writing this results in a total lack of empathy for the women reading the book who may have been attacked by men like that repeatedly. It taints your work to be so casual to ordinary people about rapists.

And it’s also irresponsible to act like therapy can fix the thought patterns that are enforced by our society and YOU the psychologist that will encourage men to reoffend! To simply not question why women are far less likely to be offenders is, frankly, anti science and I wish they would address things like that in their book!

[notesfromatherapist]

Buddhist-derived practices of mindfulness are a step in the right direction. They enable the practitioner to observe thoughts and emotions from a distance and from a place of acceptance rather than fighting or ignoring them. For me, that's a good first step. Mindfulness is not always pleasant, however. Researchers who interviewed experienced meditators found that substantial percentages of them had disturbing episodes that sometimes were long-lasting. The most common of those included emotions like fear, anxiety, paranoia, detachment, and reliving traumatic memories. From the IFS point of view, the quieting of the mind associated with mindfulness happens when the parts of us usually running our lives (our egos) relax, which then allows parts we have tried to bury (exiles) to ascend, bringing with them the emotions, beliefs, and memories they carry (burdens) that got them locked away in the first place. Most of the mindfulness approaches I'm familiar with subscribe to the mono-mind paradigm and, consequently, view such episodes as the temporary emergence of troubling thoughts and emotions rather than as hurting parts that need to be listened to and loved. Why would you want to converse with thoughts and emotions? They can't talk back, can they? Well, it turns out that they can. In fact, they have a lot of important things to tell us.

Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

[bicycle-brakes]

protectors are the playground bullies.

don’t be friends with that kid, they’re weird.

they put down others (externally and/or internally) to protect us from feeling those same flaws in ourselves.

anxiety and panic attacks protect us through isolation and fear.

—

i’ve had enough external playground bullies growing up that i’ve created my own to keep the cycle going.

we say that bullies bully because they don’t like themselves, have their own unmet needs and insecurities…

i don’t have many thoughts beyond this at this point. just mulling over points in the book No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD

[thrivingwhilemultiple]

Those who climbed off the rack and picked up the whip found a devilish salvation… twisting themselves into unrecognizable knots in order to evade the inescapable.

We call them "bad", we call them "scary", and we push them away.

But when we do, they continue to hear what they've always heard, and now they're hearing it from the very ones for whom they sacrificed themselves.

– Monster

___ TWM: healing, perseverance, and hope… Personal stories of living, recovering, and thriving with Dissociative Identity Disorder.

[chalkrub]

autumnal chill....featuring the girl

[inkskinned]

because sometimes there are invisible tests and invisible rules and you're just supposed to ... know the rule. someone you thought of as a friend asks you for book recommendations, so you give her a list of like 30 books, each with a brief blurb and why you like it. later, you find out she screenshotted the list and send it out to a group chat with the note: what an absolute freak can you believe this. you saw the responses: emojis where people are rolling over laughing. too much and obsessive and actually kind of creepy in the comments. you thought you'd been doing the right thing. she'd asked, right? an invisible rule: this is what happens when you get too excited.

you aren't supposed to laugh at your own jokes, so you don't, but then you're too serious. you're not supposed to be too loud, but then people say you're too quiet. you aren't supposed to get passionate about things, but then you're shy, boring. you aren't supposed to talk too much, but then people are mad when you're not good at replying.

you fold yourself into a prettier paper crane. since you never know what is "selfish" and what is "charity," you give yourself over, fully. you'd rather be empty and over-generous - you'd rather eat your own boundaries than have even one person believe that you're mean. since you don't know what the thing is that will make them hate you, you simply scrub yourself clean of any form of roughness. if you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.

don't fuck up. they're all testing you, always. they're tolerating you. whatever secret club happened, over a summer somewhere - during some activity you didn't get to attend - everyone else just... figured it out. like they got some kind of award or examination that allowed them to know how-to-be-normal. how to fit. and for the rest of your life, you've been playing catch-up. you've been trying to prove that - haha! you get it! that the joke they're telling, the people they are, the manual they got- yeah, you've totally read it.

if you can just divide yourself in two - the lovable one, and the one that is you - you can do this. you can walk the line. they can laugh and accept you. if you are always-balanced, never burdensome, a delight to have in class, champagne and glittering and never gawky or florescent or god-forbid cringe: you can get away with it.

you stare at your therapist, whom you can make jokes with, and who laughs at your jokes, because you are so fucking good at people-pleasing. you smile at her, and she asks you how you're doing, and you automatically say i'm good, thanks, how are you? while the answer swims somewhere in your little lizard brain:

how long have you been doing this now? mastering the art of your body and mind like you're piloting a puppet. has it worked? what do you mean that all you feel is... just exhausted. pick yourself up, the tightrope has no net. after all, you're cheating, somehow, but nobody seems to know you actually flunked the test. it's working!

aren't you happy yet?

[ot3]

i love the artistic stylings of studio ghibli as much as anyone else does but im kind of sick of anything with like vivid environments and big blue skies being branded as ghibliesque. because its like. you know where else you can hypothetically find some vivid environments with big blue skies? my friend the great and wonderful outdoors are here for you

[smokestarrules]

gotta say I am a huge sucker for how Adventure Time will sometimes just cut to Princess Bubblegum doing something extremely morally dubious like cutting off a tiny person’s limbs with scissors and then sticking those arms and legs onto another tiny person’s limb stumps but then she'll turn around and go like "Good morning, Finn! Are you ready for a sploinking day?" and whatever atrocities she had just been committing will Never be brought up again.

[secondbeatsongs]

for anyone too young to know this: watching The Truman Show is a vastly different experience now, compared to how it was before youtube and social media influencers became normal

before it was like, "what a horrifying thing to do to a human being! to take away their autonomy and privacy, all for the sake of profits! to create fake scenarios for them to react to, just to retain viewership! to ruin their happiness just so some corporate entity could harvest money from their very humanity! how could anyone do something so evil?"

and now it's like, "ah, yeah. this is still deeply fucked up, but it's pretty much what every influencer has been doing to their kids for a decade now. probably bad that we've normalized this experience"

[nerdypipsqueak]

Dick Schwartz has no business being this funny!

[pangur-and-grim]

I updated the breeder on what's been happening, and she called Belphie out for being bald