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Mitch Marner Media Availability | 11.09.24

[musesofthesun]

yui y.omawari

[jennyfromthebes]

every day of my life i go on discogs and i think about making bad financial decisions

[6ebe]

Wait 16personalities is a joke we all know this but I haven’t gotten anything other than infj in like 5 years and just got enfj 🤨 extrovert era ? 🤨

[hogwarts-legacy-confessions]

Everyone’s MBTI types for Ominis and Sebastian are WRONG. (I speak as someone who has a bachelor’s in psychology and more than 8 years experience typing characters.)

Sebastian is an ENFJ (Fe-Ni-Se-Ti). (Not ENTP and not ESTP or anything else.) It’s why people have such mixed reactions to him. Some people think he’s super sweet and some people think he’s a manipulative bastard, and the truth is he’s both. Most people are either one or the other, but NFJs have an unusual ability to be both the most amazing and most terrible people you’ve ever met at the same time.

Ominis is a (traumatized) INFP (Fi-Ne-Si-Te). (Not INFJ for heaven’s sake.) It’s why most people are incredibly forgiving of what a jerk he is, but a select few can’t stand him.

I imagine a lot of people used the classic 100 question quiz we all took once upon a time (psychologists hate that quiz btw) or other shorter, similarly inaccurate tests. But the most accurate way to type people is through careful jungian functional analysis.

I would never tell anyone they’re wrong tho, because if they enjoy their versions of their characters, that’s up to them. Many of people still write the characters accurately despite having mistyped them.

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[notanotherinfjblog]

A few thoughts on NJs

I'm currently in the unique position where my most frequent social contacts are an ENTJ and an ENFJ, and one thing I find is that NJs generally strongly gravitate towards each other. Coming across a fellow NJ out in the wild is exceedingly rare, so whenever that happens, there is always this strange moment of instinctual mutual recognition. Suddenly you see your own Ni reflected back at you. It makes sense that you'd want to stay close to that person.

In the following, I will just talk a bit about the observations that I've made (not very coherently, I'm sorry). Something that I find interesting is that even though our minds work very similarly (always dissecting everything, searching for patterns and meanings, making seemingly random connections in the search for the root of something etc.), NFJs and NTJs have very different priorities. The NFJ can be completely drowning in work, but that will never stop them from prioritising people over everything else. They will collect and cherish every tidbit of information that someone told them about themselves. They will sacrifice time they absolutely do not have just to be there when an acquaintance they somewhat like gives a talk about something that is in no way relevant to the NFJ. They will be able to recognise all their co-workers by the sound of their steps alone. All of this is precious information. The NTJs, on the other hand, will not even bother to learn your name unless they have taken an interest in you in any way. NTJs will be polite to you, that's no issue, but if they don't care, almost everything you tell them will be deleted from their brains. They prioritise the abstract over everything else. If they are busy thinking about, I don't know, quantum physics, you are welcome to discuss it with them and they will be delighted. If you and the conversation are interesting enough, they will also figure out how your mind works in the meantime. But this is a step you have to unlock with an NTJ first. The NFJs will do this automatically. Funnily enough, I find that NTJs become more openly annoyed by you the more they have grown fond of you. If you are being annoying and they don't care about you, depending on the situation, they will either simply leave or put you in your place. If you are being annoying and they do care, you end up with amazing conversations like this:

INFJ: "I needed help with that work thing, so I asked a friend, but it didn't really go as planned and so I ended up with even more work to fix the thing afterwards." ENTJ: "Well, why didn't you ask ME for my help? I can help you better with this than your friend can." INFJ: "I didn't know I could ask you." ENTJ: "What do you mean you didn't know? Of course you can! Sometimes you are just ... Can you do it over?" INFJ: "Why? I've already done the thing now." ENTJ: "Can't you just throw it away and do it again, but with my help this time? I could help you with it right now." INFJ: "What for? Like I said, it's all done." ENTJ: "Just ask me next time."

Because once an NTJ cares, they care. They want to watch you live a good life, but then they witness you making your own life difficult just by being the way you are, and it will be frustrating because it's not something they can just fix. They will be nosy, they will observe and analyse everything about you (just like an NFJ in default mode but the NTJs are more normal about it). But if they don't care, you end up with actual conversations like this:

ESFP: "I'm going to leave work early today to go to that concert later tonight." ENTJ: "Oh really? What concert?" ESFP: "What do you mean 'what concert'? I literally told you that like an hour ago." ENTJ: "Did you? Sorry, my brain must have registered our conversation as useless information and immediately deleted it."

This is absolutely not something that you will ever hear an NFJ say to someone. If they don't like you, they will just never seek out a conversation with you, but if put into a situation where they have to interact with you, they will remain polite, quiet and a bit awkward (but then again, I have yet to meet an NFJ that isn't a bit awkward in general). Something that I've noticed between ENFJs and INFJs is that we are very similar, but we externalise our Fe a bit differently. I will have the impulse to do a particular Fe-driven thing and then stop myself from doing it because I think it might come across as slightly pathetic. ENFJ just does it. An example: when someone I like (or even only feel neutral towards) tells me a story about something that happened recently and hands me their phone to show me a photo, I get the impulse to look at every photo related to this story because I want to know everything about this person and their experiences, just soak it all up and gather all the information. But then I take a step back and think this might come across as too intrusive, so I do nothing and just listen and look at what is presented to me. In that same situation, ENFJ will straight up ask to see every single picture, zoom in on every face and ask questions about all the people in the pictures and so many other things with genuine curiosity. Meanwhile, I express my Fe more by pulling faces as a reaction to everything that is said to me in order to make a connection with people (think of Jim Halpert looking at the camera in The Office. That's me.). ENFJs, however, are more blank in the face and generally the least emotive of all the FJs. You tell them a funny story and they will just ... stare at you. Their reactions and feelings remain hidden beneath the surface. I never really understood why so many people have told me all my life that I'm completely unreadable. Until I met ENFJ. I know what they mean now. There is a disconnect between the NFJ and other people. They collect all the information about everyone and figure them out in silence, but every non-verbal communication from them seems slightly calculated. Like they are in hiding. It's like there is a window between you and the NFJ. You can see them and interact with them, but you can't quite reach them. There's something invisible between you and it's keeping you separate. I get it now. Many have tried to read me, but only one seems to have cracked the code: ENTJ. Generally, NTJs do show the typical Ni detachment from the world, but their mental and emotional states are not hidden. You always know how they are feeling.

[alchemical-astrology]

🌕 Lunar Placements and Shadow Work • MBTI • Enneagram • Big 5 ★

🌕 moon in a cardinal sign - may have a group of friends or spiritual circle with whom they do shadow work with. also tend to need to drink the most water. often hard on themselves, approach their shadow quickly and can overestimate the amount of energy needed to integrate it. reapons to cooling or calming crystals in shades of green, blue, and white. often have unconscious emergences of emotions during shadow work that may take the form of vivid dreams. | tend to be assertive types in the MBTI and E (extrovert) types. Favours enneatypes 3, 8, and 6. ENFP type likely to be able to take on multiple parts of their shadow at once.

• N types may tend to be inbalanced and rely heavily on their stronger fuctions

• often great at doing shadow work for other people but not for themselves

🌕 moon in a fixed sign - the most likely lunar placements to try and avlid shadow work but also the most likely to follow through with it, keep promises to themselves, and fully break through emotional and spiritual blockages. Will often keep a journal, possibly even a dream journal. | tend to be judging types in the MBTI. Can be T (turbulent) types. enneatypes 1, 9, 2, and 6. INFJ types find the tendency to avoid shadow work is balanced by their strong intuition which can lead them to anticipate the emotions and blackages they may discover.

• N types may be very balanced and use the whole of their function stack

• NFJ types and especially INFJ may be perfectionists

🌕 moon in a mutable sign - can find it hard to commit to shadow work, but often some of the least likely placements to have spiritual and emotional blockages. very fine tuned to their emotions. most likely to spot blockages before they appear and often quick to notice small details about themselves and others. a strong point and something they encounter often is things from their past coming back and the need to look at these in a fresh light | tend to be perceiving types and intuitives. Very often ENFP or INFP. enneatypes 4, and 7.

• quite likely to be an enneagram 6 (counterphobic 6)

• NXP types tend to be even flightier than usual. may have a gemini sun sign regardless of lunar placement

Thank you and hope you enjoy ! I do MBTI and Enneagram informed tarot and astrology, so if you're interested, DM me (first one free!) 🦋

[aro-throughyourchest]

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[funkymbtifiction]

Hi Charity 🙂 How to tell Nfj and Nfp apart for someone who see Fe and Te and know they can't go together?

Fe and Te are not the same thing, and NFPs are not like NFJs. The only thing they share is a general interest in people and their personal development.

NFPs are more centered in themselves and they know what they want for their life based on their personal interests, their feelings are subjective and not easy to predict; there are hot spots in all of them, where lines exist you cannot cross. They are weirdly sentimental in a few areas and can be reluctant to fully embrace "change." They want expansion and many possibilities and grow "outward" instead of narrowing things down.

NFJs are more centered in philosophical musings and broad ideas, they build their life tactics around their influence over others and how they affect the world around them; they are able to feel what others feel and sometimes can't tell where others end and they begin (esp. if 9s). They are not sentimental in a Si sense, but aesthetically picky and sometimes more impulsive or reckless than NFPs. They want things to go in one specific direction and "narrow down."

[infj-zen]

NFJs, jazz hands and the perpetual challenge of staying on the beat

Here are two figure skaters performing to Gershwin's "I Got Rhythm" to help illustrate INFJ and ENFJ differences in artistic expression and movement.

INFJ skates to "I Got Rhythm"

ENFJ skates to "I Got Rhythm"

Can NFJs stay on the beat? Were the choreographers independently noticing the same phenomenon and throwing down a challenge?

And do more classic dance styles like this tend to suit NFJs with their particular body lines and movement better?

[musesofthesun]

yui mori

[mbti-notes]

Hello! I love your blog, thank you for spending your time sharing such thoughtful advice !

I was wondering if you have any recommendations in what to look for in a therapist (especially for XNFJS).

I’ve not quite found yet one whom I felt really heard or that actually helped me instead of congratulating me for being “too self aware”.. I know my problems but not what to do with them- instead of useless overthinking patterns.

Is that a common issue? I know how beneficial therapy can be and I suggest it to a lot of people, so it kinda feels frustrating that it doesn’t seem to work for me.

Though I have general knowledge about therapy that I picked up during my education, it isn't my area of specialization, so I can't tell you whether it's a common issue without taking a deep research dive.

1) The Relationship: The success of therapy is very much contingent upon the quality of the therapeutic relationship. It is vital to form a healthy collaborative relationship with the therapist. You must work together to figure out the problem and carry out a plan to resolve it.

Building any kind of good relationship requires some time and effort. On the client's side, there has to be a willingness to open up, explore, communicate, and cooperate. On the therapist's side, there has to be a capacity to listen, empathize, understand, hypothesize, analyze, explain, support, guide, plan, organize, and be impartial and objective. Between you, there has to be a feeling of trust, comfort, rapport, and good personality chemistry/compatibility.

Successful collaboration relies on all of the above ingredients, so if any of them are missing, you might encounter more difficulty.

2) The Purpose: It's good to enter with a clear idea of what you need and want to get out of therapy, what your goals are. What you need or want can in part be related to your personality type. For example, having high Ni and Fe might affect your relationship and communication preferences, and having low Ti and Se might affect your choice of therapist if you want them to play a role in your efforts to use those functions better.

Discussing your needs, wants, and goals at the beginning is good for setting realistic expectations and dispelling any misconceptions about what is/isn't achievable. The therapist should ask about your goals even when you don't bring them up, but it doesn't hurt to be proactive and assertive in communication. You should be able to describe your goals even if it's in very general terms. If you've already been through enough therapy to know that there's a specific form of therapy you want, ask whether the therapist is well-trained in delivering it. If they aren't, have them refer you to someone who is.

Perhaps you've experienced issues in therapy partly because you haven't been clear enough with the therapist about what you need and want. As a general rule, therapists are trained to be emotionally supportive before anything else. Many clients suffer from negativity or low self-esteem, so it's important that the therapist help the client feel better before getting into the thick of things. However, if emotional support in the form of "congratulations" is not what you really need, you have to speak up. The therapist doesn't want to be wasting time either, so help them help you by letting them know whenever they say/do something you deem unhelpful. If they are any good as a therapist, they won't be offended but rather grateful for the clarification.

Remember, in order to build a good relationship, it takes time to get to know each other. The therapist will be slow in getting to know you if you don't assert yourself and express how you really feel. NFJs tend to struggle with, perhaps they're even afraid to speak with complete honesty, so perhaps that's something you need to work on. The sooner you can get the contents of your mind out in the open for the therapist to work with, the faster the process will go for you.

3) The Issue of Self-Awareness: Too often, people don't know any better but to approach therapy as though going to the doctor's office, expecting the therapist to have a definitive answer and prescribe a cure. There is good reason for keeping the fields of psychiatry and psychology separate. You can treat a psychiatrist like a doctor because they are in fact a medical doctor, trained to deal mainly with issues based in biology. However, a therapist works differently because their focus is mainly on the mental side, meaning they must wade through your subjective experience. Dealing with the empirical facts of your biology is very different than dealing with the murky nature of your feelings.

The process of getting to the bottom of mental problems can be quite convoluted due to the subjectivity, complexity, and irrationality of human psychology. Therapy goes more smoothly the more you're able to articulate what is happening in your mind, to describe things with as much clarity and depth of detail as possible. Unfortunately, one big reason therapy is difficult is that clients have varying levels of self-awareness. Due to the way defense mechanisms operate, some people are opaque to themselves and have no idea what's really happening in their mind. They only know that they suffer, which forces the therapist into a role more akin to detective or investigator. They have to explore, probe for clues, and experiment and inch their way ever deeper into the client's mind, often meeting obstacles and resistance along the way.

Since I approach mental health from the perspective of depth psychology, I personally don't believe knowing about problems is enough to call a person self-aware. I suppose you could say that "knowing" is one level of self-awareness, but I would not qualify it as a high or deep level of self-awareness. I've already explained in a previous post the difference between knowing and understanding a problem and how knowing isn't enough.

Have you said exactly what you just said to the therapist, i.e., that you know you have a problem and what you want is to figure out why and how to resolve it? Be direct. Say exactly what you mean.

4) Exercise Your Freedom of Choice: Not every therapist out there will be a good fit, for a variety of reasons:

Therapists are human after all, so they each have their individual traits, preferences, quirks, blind spots, limitations, weaknesses, flaws, etc, that might make them incompatible with you.

There are varying levels of competency among workers in any profession, so some therapists are certainly more skilled or experienced than others with your particular problem.

Humans are diverse and suffer from a wide variety of psychological issues. There's no way for one therapist to understand them all, so they must choose a specialization. Double check that their educational background matches up with the nature of your problem, e.g., you shouldn't go to a grief counselor about an eating disorder.

Keep an open mind and grant yourself opportunity to shop around and try out many options. You ask me what to look for in a therapist and the simplest answer I can give you is to find one that is well-suited to your needs. But, going back to the earlier point, the more primary step is to be able to express what exactly it is you need.

[swordbisexual]

💭 and 💍 for Vissenta pls!

OC Asks

💭 THOUGHT BALLOON — what is your oc's MBTI, enneagram, and/or other personality aspects (if known/interested in)?

I constantly go back and forth on whether she's an introvert or extrovert, but she's unquestionably an NFJ type on all the rest of it. I say that she leans more towards the INFJ side of things.

Also, because I consider astrology to just be birthday MBTI, I always like to remind people that her big three are all Scorpio (even though I know that's not really a Thing in the Forgotten Realms, lol). Very intense across the board!

💍 answered here!

[capncarolinee]

is no one going to talk about how damn near every "academia aesthetic" blog on here is ran by one of the following: I(or E)NFJ I(or E)NFP I(or E)NTJ I(or E)NTP what are we all diagnosed with lol. wut is our correlation to all being into this. Most Sincerely, an INFJ whose a fan

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