#negative anon experience

[joeyalohadream]

Hi me again.

I saw your post about how you received a negative anon message and was hoping you didn’t mean me? I sent you an ask about how much I loved your clegan childhood best friends idea (like literally can’t stop thinking about it) and just suggested that you could give the idea to another great writer in the fandom. I think it’s just as cool to be the idea maker sometimes and I wasnt insulting you.

I really do love your writing but you do take a long time to post new stuff and that particular idea is just everything to me so I don’t want it to be in limbo.

like you posted a bit of an angsty story the other day and got people excited and now you haven’t mentioned it again. Just don’t want that to happen to the childhood story cause it’s such a good idea.

sorry for rambling I just had to come back and say sorry if I’m the anon that made you feel bad. Wasn’t my intention..

Sorry everyone that reads this but I'm taking some of Swifty's backbone for a minute and answering a negative anon. Hiding my response below the cut so you can scroll past without seeing my drama if you'd like...

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Of course it was your message that I was referring to.

In this fandom, full of the most wonderfully kind people I've ever interacted with, your message was the only negative one I've ever received. The fact that you could send that message, and now this one and somehow not understand that you're being incredibly hurtful is beyond me.

I wasn't going to respond to this message at all, just like I didn't respond to the first one you sent (just flat out deleted that one), but someone posted about my 'childhood friends au' today and brought it all back.

I checked out library books for research for that story and wrote the most detailed outline of any story I've ever thought up. And after your message, I returned the books and scrapped the story because you made me feel like garbage.

You flat out told me to give my idea to a specific writer in the Mota fandom that would 'turn it into a masterpiece'. You and I can agree on the fact that the writer you mentioned is one of the most talented fanfic writers around. They are. But to be so blatantly rude to me about my own writing and to call it 'advice'? Come on. You have to know you're being an asshole.

I'm a kind person. I'm also sensitive and hate confrontation and it even makes my stomach hurt to respond to this message because I don't like being unkind to ANYONE. I work two jobs. I work 60 hours a week most weeks. The fact that I find time to write anything is something I'm proud of and you calling me 'inconsistent' is just absolutely unempathetic.

Since you keep choosing to remain anonymous, this is the only way I can know I reach you to tell you this:

If you follow me, unfollow me. Don't interact with my posts. Don't read my stories. And stay the hell out of my inbox.

[our-lesboy-experience]

hey shoutout to lesboys who identify as such for ANY reason

to lesboys who are tomboys

to lesboys who use the term as an expression of masculinity

to lesboys who enjoy being called terms like boy, man, etc. whose gender still isn't man

to lesboys who's system uses it as a collective identity

to lesboys who are butch and/or transmasc

to lesboys who are genderfluid, bigender, multigender, and loves using the term to express both their orientation and multigender identity

to lesboys who are ftm

to lesboys who are trans men and still feel connected to lesbian identity

to lesboys who are openly and unashamedly men

you shouldn't have to change yourself or become more palatable to people who only conditionally accept you. you deserve to present yourself however you like and it doesn't matter if other people feel offended by it. a bigoted person feeling hurt about you expressing yourself in a way they don't like is not a tangible form of hurt

[uncanny-tranny]

r u chill w non transitioning ppl?

Why wouldn't I be? At one point, every trans person who is transitioning was once someone who wasn't (whether or not that was a choice or their need is a separate discussion).

Hatred of any kind of trans person is not a Righteous or Good Thing - every single trans person has their place, their entitlement to safety, community, and respect of who they are

[scoobydoodean]

I’m not the same anon who asked you the initial question, but I’ve also seen a popular user on here say that Dean gets drunk and drives, and it just…doesn’t make sense with his character at all. 😭 Like, 1) Dean takes pride in saving people. Why would he endanger innocents by drinking heavily and driving? and 2) He’s OBSESSED with his car. Why would he risk getting into an accident? I’m not sure why some people like this headcanon ahsksks

They like the headcanon because they don’t like Dean.

[cringegenic]

(Sorry for this one being a bummer ;-;) Cringe (CDD) system culture is knowing you have DID—being diagnosed, in therapy, doing the work on yourselves so you can heal—but not putting that part online so people only see the part you're comfortable with (i.e., the silly "I have a buncha fictives from the same thing! Wacky!") and being scared to post in CDD spaces because r/FDC + r/systemscringe users lurk in there... It's hard to resist the urge to go "Yeah, I'm cringe but I PROMISE I suffer, too!" and post things I'd rather keep between me and my therapist just so I don't risk getting harassed. :/

Sorry again for this one being kinda a bummer. You can feel free to delete this if it ain't the vibe.

- 🌠🌙

Cringe System Culture Is

[simplydnp]

Hello, I’m curious, i always see people talking about their favourite DNPG video but what is your least favourite DNPG video?

my least favourite dapg video will become it takes two part 1 if they never finish it 💅 (jokes)

but for real? if we're talking recent: the brothers game video. god,, the editing on that makes it unwatchable for me. genuinely i cannot go back to it. which is so disappointing cause you'd think it'd be like the first it takes two vid. but it isn't. all it does is make me wish i was watching it takes two instead.

honestly i generally don't dislike content they make--i'm a fan of the bants and theyre pretty good at banting, and especially before editors were doing the cuts, dnp were very good at crafting their videos to be entertaining even if you weren't a fan of the game/they weren't very good at the game (although the minecraft video was painful). the reason i even hate the brothers video so much is because the editing completely takes the joy out of the experience, and that's why i don't like it. if a joke doesn't land for someone, that's fine cause humour is subjective. but if you badly cut something together, it's a production error that can be critiqued and improved on. there's measurable quality issues there.

are there mid videos? sure! are there ones i don't go back to after watching? absolutely. but there's few that i would actively label as dislike and further hate.

i'll also be honest and say that i'm not super familiar with a lot of the older content on dapg--sometimes the 'bro' energy is too much and i can't do it.

[cloud-somersault]

Q: do u reccommend actually watching the show, or is it a fandom thats great but the source material is mid (like marvel)

uhhhhh

I would recommend...watching up till s3...and then if you love the artstyle and can't get enough, you can watch s4 (aka, if you don't care about story much). after that, i'd...probably stop.

Uhmm!! and the fandom....is okay...if you're not on twitter and make heavy use of the block button. there are definitely great people here! but, like with every fandom, it's best to carve out a small chunk and stick with your 3 friends. you'll be much happier. this fandom goes to extremes and often attacks each other. they can be quite mean over....gay monkeys. so! be wary.

but the first three seasons of the show are good! LMFAOOOO

[ghoulangerlee]

Thanks for explaining. I understand what you mean and its nice to let the artist choose. But that way writers can just tell their artist friends what to look for because they want to stay in their friend bubble

Anon, I do see where you're coming from but unfortunately I can't tell writers or artists what they can or can't do in this situation. If they're going to "tell their artists friends" what to look for during a 12 week event where the choice options are anonymous then I feel like it's much easier for them to actually speak to their artist friend and collaborate outside of an event.

That's just me, though.

I'm one single person trying to host an event for the entire Ghost fandom, anon, and unfortunately, because I do not dip my toes into the oc/self insert side of the fandom I wouldn't be able to feasibly pair together anyone from that side in a way that would make any sense. I don't know who is or who isn't an oc writer, who is and isn't comfortable creating art for what, which is why it's ultimately up to the artist to choose who they're working with.

I want the event to be fun for everyone involved. I want this event to bring forth new friendships and rekindle friendships between people who may or may not talk much anymore for whatever reason. Like yeah sure, probably stupid and naive of me but holy shit fandom used to be fun and not this weird contest of being nasty to each other and having these weird ideas about "interactions". You talk to people cause you wanna share your ideas with them and you've gotta put in the work on that too. It can't be a one sided thing. Which is what this event is designed to do.

The idea of a big bang is to collaborate on something together, to get people talking about things again. To share their ideas with each other; an author says "i want to write this thing" and an artist says "holy shit i love that let me draw something for it"

And like, I want to believe that you're being genuine about this ask and not trying to stir something up before the event even starts and if that's the case then hit me up off anon and I'll be glad to talk out your fears privately but this is not the way to go about things if this is something you are genuinely worried about.

This is the last ask I'm going to entertain about this, I responded to the first one because it was a legitimate question about how artist/author pairing works, but anymore asks about this specific thing will be deleted, unfortunately.

[allastoredeer]

Obviously they would both fight to bottom. Every single time. That's their weird version of foreplay, either outright fighting or trying to sneakily make other a top this time. I bet they have a scoreboard for that

(This is about radioapple)

Eh, even that I have a hard time enjoying. I like the concept of them fighting over who gets to bottom, but just the implication of Alastor topping squicks me out.

I can't really explain why top!Alastor squicks me out to the degree that it does. Might be because I just dislike the general depiction of it. Might be because I haven't come across a top!Alastor x bottom!Lucifer fic I've genunely enjoyed. All I know is that it gives me such a such a viscerally negative reaction that I don't even entertain the possibility.

I do love antagonism being their method of foreplay though.

[calmlb]

dazai "what the heck is a hypermobile" osamu x nakahara "why the fuck is it doing that" chuuya

dazai sore after an mission and stretching in front of chuuya and he starts making gagging noises because chuuya is flexible but that should not go there. so they start going back and forth, showing off. dazai is having fun and chuuya is getting increasingly concerned. he rants to kouyou about how gross dazai is and she just laughs.

(not that it's gross, if that's what i'm accidentally implying. i've freaked like 5 people out with one casual stretch it was great)

IM SCREAMING HELP THIS IS SO TRUE

also yes i love the added detail of Chuuya being flexible but not that kind of flexible 😭

Dazai would absolutely milk the reactions until he accidentally dislocated smth & then he’d be yowling like a cat smh /affectionately

so many good thoughts here tysm anon 🤭🩷

[todayinmagicalgirlhistory]

hii, i saw you post on floral demons and tried to research further but found it hard to get anything thats not fandom/video game related... do you have any good sources i could look at? maybe on connecting with them, the different types of floral demons, etc- floral demons seem pretty good for what im looking for in a spirit companion, but id like to look into it more before i just jump into it. absolutely no pressure ofc, but id really appreciate it!!

Floral demons are a species I organically ran into in the astral so the only resources I have for you is the post I made. I only used that gif from Hell's Paradise because the Tensen had a similar vibe to those spirits. I only ever add any additional resources like mythology and shows/books when they are available here in the physical like in my selkies, kitsune and banshee posts.

Sorry OTL that's why I put the disclaimer at the beginning of the floral demon post that said "Unlike my previous posts, this is all based on my own UPG and not a post that’s divided into known lore surrounding the species and then my personal experience working with them."

If you're newer to spirit work and companionship, I suggest starting with dandelion and daisy demons and I think crocus demons as well, but I really lean towards dandelion and daisy demons. They're very chill and don't have as much of a negative reputation as the floral demons that garnered their negative reputation to start with. I would put clover demons under this category as well.

Cherry blossom demons are also good but I will also say that they can be a bit private so they can be a bit hard to run into. I only met some cherry blossom demons after a crocus demon friend I made introduced me to some.

Rose demons are a bit in the middle - you'll find it hard running into black rose demons organically, I have only ever met 3 (and that's because of their social status as being more delegated to body guards and such) so giving the heads up there as well!

Again like I said in my info post, I would stay completely clear of lotuses, camellias and irises until you're very experienced with interacting with floral demons and used to their energy.

And if you go to areas with a high populaion of floral demons, I would stay in public locations. Think the library (really beautiful btw) or the schools, which are open to the public for tours.

I hope this additional info can help you out, anon!

[prisonpodcast]

some ccs are just straight up nuts there’s no other explanation

[shalom-iamcominghome]

hi!! i'm converting to judaism too and i just wanted to say that your enthusiasm and love for judaism brightens my day every time i see your posts on my dash. you have such an earnest care for all aspects of jewishness that it reminds me to look past all the negativity in the world right now and focus on cultivating joy in my own jewish practice. so i just wanted to say thank you and i wish you all the best with your journey :] <3

Thank you so much, this kindness is so admirable! I've tried my best to balance the good with the bad, because I have been scared and anxious, but here's the secret: judaism fulfills me so much that I feel so strongly about making sure it always fulfills me. I truly hope that you, anon, and anyone reading this will feel the same way as I do, regardless of if it's about judaism. Those feelings make life worth living

[martyrbat]

when people who have ‘i block liberally’ in their bios learn they actually have to block people & cultivate their own dash:

[callisteios]

hey i just took your quiz and lemme just say that i really like movies, and i know a lot about them, but what did oliver stone do? this is a genuine question btw. i don't know anything about the guy, except that he's a vietnam vet, and at least two of his movies went to the oscars? sorry if this is a dumb question, it's 7 am where i live rn and i haven't slept very much 🙃

no its fine oliver stone technically hasn’t committed any crimes that I know of.

I simply loathe him because I HATE his Alexander film. It’s bad it’s inaccurate, it erases queerness, the accents are abysmal, it's TOO LONG, it makes the life of Alexander the great (an interesting life) unbelievably dull

if it were inaccurate but good i could forgive it, if it were dull but accurate i could forgive it. It is neither and for that he has earned my lifelong emnity

[uncanny-tranny]

unusual question but what social media do you think is trans-friendly (and no, imo terfblr isn't)

I mean, I've personally accepted that because most social media is, in some ways, a reflection of broader society (even in small ways) that there isn't any one social media that's "clean" of any bigotry, even transphobia.

Instead, what I think people should do is work with the tools a social media platform gives them. Essentially, curate your experience. I used to pride myself on never blocking people, never fighting back, being docile and letting people say the most unhinged things they wanted about me and my transness, but the only person who hurt in the long run was me. I thought that the more "accepting" I was for anything, the better I was as a person because I never was a person. I didn't allow myself to experience anything, and so I kind of let social media be just as unwelcoming as my real life felt.

Maybe there is a small social media that I'm not aware of, but in terms of larger ones (e.g., twitter, facebook, instagram), I don't think they are at all free from transphobia, especially when algorithms are based in engagement, and seeing how anger and division drives so much engagement.

If you want to use these more well-known social media, I think you have to not let yourself be passive. You have to moderate your experience if you want it to be pleasant. Block people, leave groups if you find any hint of bigotry, keep debates about transness to a minimum if you're the debate type, report things that go against ToS, know that you don't have to deal with anything that doesn't make you comfortable.

I know of some smaller platforms, but I have not tried them. I have the most experience with larger, more well-known social medias, and I don't believe any of them are broadly trans-accepting. I know from experience, however, that this isn't the whole of the platform you choose. There will always be people who want to be trans-accepting, you sometimes just have to find them.