#navigating the internet like

[dandelion-roots]

[ID: a digital drawing of kristen and tracker from fantasy high cradling the moon. kristen's hand is on the dark side and tracker's on the light side. on kristen's side of the drawing are stars and she's holding a cowboy hat out of which are falling nacho chips and sauce, as well as wearing a 'kristen for president' sash. on tracker's side are snowflakes and coins, and she's holding a candy cane. additionally, there is a halo behind kristen's head. the second image is the reverse of the first. End ID]

[r0semultiverse]

Small indie artists in need of support for moving out by September!

💜 These lovely folks [@QuinsCurse (they/them) & @sswitchblade03 (xe/xem and he/him)] are part of a small queer-owned Youtube community I'm in. 💖

💖 If you could lend a helping hand by reblogging & queueing this post up until the start of September, I'd greatly appreciate it & I'm sure these fine folks would too! 💜

⚠️ Do not tag as d*nations or anything like that! ⚠️

"Hi everyone! Requests are officially closed as I am opening emergency commissions! Please consider supporting me as we are getting kicked out and have managed to find a place that’s affordable but need to save up 5k by the end of the month! Anything helps! I also have a dontations page if you are willing to help do that! All the money received from commissions will be going to the deposit! https://ko-fi.com/quinscurse/commissions https://ko-fi.com/quinscurse/goal?g=32"

⚠️ Do not tag as d*nations or anything like that! ⚠️

"https://ko-fi.com/sswitchblade03/commissions https://ko-fi.com/sswitchblade03/goal?g=0 EMERGENCY COMMISSIONS!! My roommate ‪@QuinsCurse‬and I are needing about $5000CAD for a down payment on a new place as we need to be out of our current place by September! Every bit counts! My goal is to be set to $3000CAD. I will draw anything (coloured and rendered) for $5 CAD each! If you are willing to give more it will be appreciated. Examples of my work below!"

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[musicalmoritz]

Actual take I just saw on TikTok: People shouldn’t blame Alluka for Killugon splitting up, they should blame Bisky!! She said before she met them that she wanted to ruin their friendship and then she did!!

First of all, why do you have to blame a woman for a conflict between two men? Nobody forced Gon and Killua to part ways, they did that because they had reached two different places in their lives. Killua needed to take care of Alluka, and Gon needed to go home to Mito. I don’t doubt part of it was also due to the turmoil between them after the CAA, it’s natural they would need some time apart after something major like that. But Bisky did not single-handedly cause that either. I literally don’t know what to tell you guys. Killua lived with a fucking needle in his head for years, his family tortured him every day of his early childhood to the point that he can tolerate lightning. Bisky being mean to him is not the singular reason he’s codependent. A lot of his actions throughout that arc can be attributed to him living without the needle for the first time, so if you’re going to blame anyone else for his behavior (he’s still his own person btw) why not blame, I don’t know, Illumi???

And onto their main source of evidence “she said she wanted to ruin their friendship and she did.” Bitch. She said that before she knew them. It’s true that she only started following them because she wanted to mess with them but she very notably grew attached to them. She is not as superficial as she makes herself seem, she cares about those boys. Ya’ll will go on and on about Leorio and Kurapika being Gon and Killua’s “parents,” and even talk about how Hisoka and Illumi care for them deep down (and they do, in their own ways), and then proceed to ignore every woman who played an important role in their development. Bisky herself said that if she stayed with Gon and Killua too long, she’d get “too attached to them, like a parent.” Those don’t sound like the words of someone who wants to ruin their friendship

It’s just interesting to me that people are able to see the good points of outright abusive male characters like Illumi, but when an overall very caring and helpful female character like Bisky happens to have some flaws and imperfections, they decide to blame her for everything that goes wrong in the series. And again, I don’t mean this as hate towards Illumi, I do sympathize with him in many ways, but many fans appear to be incapable of sympathizing with any female characters and it’s annoying. Why do we have to blame Alluka, who literally cannot survive on her own due to years of severe isolation, for Killua and Gon parting ways?? Even if she was the only reason, why would that be her fault?? Why do we have to blame Bisky, who did more for those boys than any of your faves and damn near viewed them as her sons?? Again, why do we have to find a woman to blame for a decision made by two men???

And look, you are not a misogynist for simply disliking a female character. What’s misogynistic is disliking a female character and then doing mental gymnastics to blame her for breaking up your male faves. That’s a little misogynistic. And even if it’s not, it’s still a dumb thing to say. No, Bisky did not mastermind Gon and Killua’s fallout. She cares about them very deeply and if you can’t see that then I’m going to assume you’ve been biased against her from the start, and that’s why you’re making this shallow analysis

Anyways, get behind me Bisky

[8um8le]

My lack of skill in following instructions and navigating the internet saved me from getting scammed 😂😭yeyyyayy

My grandpa ass and stupidity is a double edged sword 👍

It was one of those discord scam things where a friend u havent talked to in forever, randomly asks u to contact some guy cuz apparently they wrongfully reported you or whatever, and the guy u contact tries to get u to change ur email, but I didnt get to the changing email part cuz I couldn’t figure out how ☠️

Careful out there u guys <33

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, the craziest part of accessibility is that there aren't many abled people (and disabled people who aren't disabled in Every Way Possible) who wouldn't benefit from any of the accessibility options out there

ALT text has made it so much better to navigate image-based pages! I'm not visually-impared, but tumblr is terrible at loading images, and I'm not always connected to WiFi. People who add ALT text make it easy to satiate my curiosity when images don't load! This, coupled with actually learning how blind and visually-impared people navigate the online world, has inspired me to do my best to emulate the things I find helpful, even if the way it helps me is very different than theirs. Having a sense of scale in how it helps me versus how it actually makes the internet usable to the blind and visually-impared is something I do try to keep in mind.

Navigating a world with accessible options is primarily going to help the disabled, and it's imperative to keep this in mind. I do think, though, that illustrating just how much accessibility impacts even abled people's lives can help inspire people to think, "wow, I can't imagine a world without [accessibility option] and I don't need it, but it makes life so much easier." The more I interact with accessibility options I don't need, I still find it so helpful. I can't even imagine how amazing it is when you do need that accessibility and it's actually provided to you.

I don't think that abled people should only be in it for themselves. Again, accessibility should put disabled needs first and foremost. But I can't help but wonder how many people you can get to understand this by first saying how it impacts them, too.

[vaguely-concerned]

the fucking insane and inscrutable rituals my dad and I just had to perform to save my TV from its own bad software update to the point that it looked like a complete hardware breakdown. may whoever decided that TVs should need internet access to regularly update itself lest you end up in a 'oh so you won't have 'download new updates automatically' enabled? well well... that's your own choice of course... but........ be a shame if something............ unfortunate were to... happen...... because of that choice... hehe old papa LGTV just worries about you, y'know. as your good friend and pal. just hate to think of you unhappy like that because you wouldn't allow one such simple thing... something so easy to remedy....' mafia-esque situation step upon an unbroken path of legos for the rest of their fucking life

[cedarspiced]

i will be honest. if you water down the whole concept of the terms TMA vs TME as 'penis havers vs vagina havers' all it shows is that you fundamentally misunderstand each of these terms.

[infernalembrace]

Nobody needed there to be tumblr reels. I would make a joke or sarcastic remark but I’m not going to. Instead I’m just wondering why we haven’t gotten group chats back because that was something that people actually wanted/liked in some capacity. Idk

[meirimerens]

hey sending you another ask since i was apparently eaten in the womb (your inbox), i just made a new post relaying dybowski's abuses with updated info from former HSE students/IPL members I've been working with and they hope it gains traction, you can share it if you're interested (warning, it's a lot of text) thanks for all the support!!

you were indeed eaten in the womb of my inbox i was checking in emails to see if the asks had showed up and i was about to screenshot yours and reply like that when you sent this one ^ so. perfect timing. mr electric and so on

[vinsightful]

i love my friends i love my friends i love my friends

[rimouskis]

can I be so open and vulnerable with you guys. the card I was given from people at my old office was sincerely so nice and really validating but also I feel like the main impression I left other people with was "she's really nice" WHICH IS GOOD, I DO WANT TO BE KNOWN AS NICE but also part of me is like... should I maybe strive for "innovative" or "creative" or "a go-getter" because being The Nice One just feels a little mealy-mouthed of me y'know?

[mx-myth]

Personally as an aroace being in a queerplatonic relationship and/or a poly relationship sound really freeing to me. I feel like in a QPR there would be less pressure to be more amatonormative or present that way. The kind of "omg I totally thought you guys were dating" sort of relationship that just comes from the pure intimacy of willing to be comfortable around each other and to be intimate without necessarily having to involve kissing/sex/"real" intimacy (and the possible aro or ace solidarity). Meanwhile in a poly relationship I feel like at least for me there would be less pressure be "involved" to an extent. A whole other person (or people) would negate a lot of anxiety on my part enough not being enough (especially if one or more of them are alloromantic). And potentially that's someone who can provide romance or sex that I just can't.

Obviously these are still relationships that you consciously need to put work into maintain and have open lines of communication and discussions of boundaries, etcetera, just like any "normal" relationship but that's really the point here. I'm not allo (and I'm perfectly fine with being "abnormal" by most societal standards, but that's obviously not true for all of us) in any way, shape, or form, so why should I have to fit myself into a little allo box?

[neverendingford]

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[kidspawn]

Hey! I think ur super cool! Any advice on how to deal with hate/rude messages and comments?

Ooooooo yes absolutely. There are a few ways to handle hate, and it depends on your approach. How do you perceive who is giving you hate, how do you perceive yourself and your actions in conjunction with hate, and how do you act in accordance with it? This is a rambly and sleep deprived stream of consciousness of my perception on the navigation of hate and disrespect. (And if my tone towards whoever is sending you hate is harsh it's honestly because I think people who send internet hate are the lowest of the low and I cannot imagine wanting to put someone down for sharing parts of themselves.)

If someone is taking the time to send something negative your way it says far more about them than it does about you. The first thing I do is restructure the comment and its intention. If they wanted to provide critique or assistance, there were better ways to go about it, so all they wanted to do was gain power by hurting your feelings and devaluing your work. Which means the ball is now in your court because you do not have to respond in a way that satisfies their intent.

So, once you've recognized the person burning energy and letting you live rent free in your head is not worth the time and brain power necessary to really let it weight you down (ofc easier said than done but I PROMISE if they are sending you hate they are not worth listening to), now you can form a response. I take a few approaches in navigating the waters of whatever buffoon had nothing more in life more important than sending moronic and pointless hatred.

You can ignore them, but this really depends on your mentality, I think. I am not someone who can turn the other cheek very often to genuine hateful behavior, especially if it is aggressive or attacks something I care very deeply about. I think there are advantages to just blocking them, moving on, and getting satisfaction in knowing they just wanted a reaction and you gave them none. But it often takes a lot not to let it get to you, and I'm someone with a lot of anxiety and that can really affect me. It depends. If it's an attack on my character like... ok? I'll ignore that more often than not. Maybe let myself feel hurt (which is really valuable - validate your feelings. You are not failing by letting any negative comments impact you.) but overall this person is hiding behind a computer screen and had nothing better to do. They don't know you. They want to hurt you and they will throw anything your way to do so. It's harder with something you've made, or a vulnerability you've exposed. Attacking someone's art or writing is an especially hurtful and petty act. And it's not easy to ignore. So I say ignore them, but I think that is so much easier said than done.

This is the part where I should double down and say like... "oh treat people how you want to be treated! be the bigger person! don't respond! turn the other cheek!" which I disagree with. You don't owe them anything, so if you want to respond you should. I think making people feel bad for being affected by hate is the wrong approach. I also think having a response or calling them out on being (pardon my french) assholes does not make you a less kind individual. Being kind (if being kind is important to you, and you seem very sweet so I stress this especially bc from someone who grew up being told to be "nice" I still struggle with standing up for myself) doesn't mean you have to sit there and take criticism. I'll get off my soap box in a second, but you can be kind and call someone out for being heinous. Being kind does not mean being a doormat, it means you are also kind to yourself.

My go to is typically to make a joke of it or rationalize until they talk themselves in circles and/or look foolish. Especially if you're funny, anon, and I bet you're INCREDIBLY funny. I get a funny energy from you. And I really get a thrill from making light of it, even if it does hit a little close to home. I hope this makes sense. Sometimes when I get hate in my ask box and I CANNOT be bothered to just hit delete (though that is very fun, and cathartic) i just unleash my best material on them. You told me to die? Well, I just performed a comedy stand up special. Who's winning in life? Not the fool who just lost my epic roast battle. I'm funny and sexy and and skilled. They are not. They are sad and petty and hateful and instead of going out and getting coffee with their friends they are sitting on their devices and taking unnecessary shots at you.

I also think just letting them make a fool out of themselves by remaining rational is enjoyable. This is something I deal with most often when someone attacks my ideas. I write a lot of character analysis, and I engage in a decent amount of controversial ships. (Which shouldn't even be controversial but I digress) So when someone tries to attack your ideas, feel free to break it down for them. I get a personal satisfaction from this, one entirely disconnected from the person sending hate. This is very "open internet forum" specific and something I do on places like tumblr, tbh. You're attacking my ship? Here's a long breakdown of why I like this ship, why you're wrong about your view on it. You think I'm a moron who doesn't understand a character? Here's my MLA formatted essay on what about this character made me write or portray them in this manner. I think this is more a redirection. Because what started as this horrid and disrespectful scenario has turned into an opportunity to express my feelings on something I love. Because the person trying to hurt you is wanting you to take this personally and get defensive and petty and mean back.

This is all general advice, mainly involving fandom disputes, but let me come at it from a creative perspective. The internet is so beautiful and inspiring of creativity and it is also incredibly cruel. They will see someone passionate about their work and they will tear you down because they do not occupy the same creativity or bravery to share a piece of yourself. They are attacking you because they do not like seeing you enjoy yourself. They have NOTHING better to do. And that is so incredibly sad, in my opinion. You are doing something extraordinary, even if you won't admit that to yourself, and they are doing something hateful. You are creating something and they are tearing something down. I want you to remember that first and foremost. YOU are doing something meaningful. I hate being cliche, but the best thing you can do is approach yourself with love. And keep creating. Keep making art and putting pieces of yourself in it. Because you are doing something worthwhile, something with heart and ambition and joy and whimy. Do it for yourself, because you deserve something special just for you. Try to focus on yourself. Once again, I stress that being a kind person is being kind to oneself.

I think I want to round this out by saying that you, whoever you are, do not deserve the hate you've gotten. You are incredibly skilled and wonderful and full of something significant enough another person feels the need to tear it down. And you deserve to be uplifted for your creations, your thoughts, your character. You deserve kindness and warmth and it is the worst part of the world we live in that someone on the internet sees you doing something you love, existing in peace, and feels the need to tear you apart. So, with all sincerity, I say that you deserve to feel your feelings, feel your hurt and you deserve to keep creating. For every one person who comments something hateful, one hundred more have seen your work and have gotten delight and joy and love from it. Because at the end of the day, you can respond any way you want to. But what matters most is what you do next, and I cannot stress how important it is that you push forward and keep creating, keep putting yourself out into the world in the way you have been brave and bright enough to do so. And, honestly? Have a laugh at their expense. Because like I said: you are doing something extraordinary, and you should take solace in the fact you are doing so.

I hope you have a wonderful day. Please take some time to be kind to yourself, however that looks. You deserve love and warmth and support and that is said from the very bottom of my heart <3

[vulturevanity]

Youtube keeps randomly hiding my comments and replies for no reason, I don't know how to work around that because none of the comments that get hidden have anything in common (I'm not "spamming", I'm not swearing, I'm not using "ad-unfriendly words", I'm not talking about any "ad-unfriendly subjects", the videos I'm commenting on are completely tame, the people I'm replying to aren't spamming or bots) and at this point I'm just assuming comments are straight-up broken because of that.