#narcissitic abuse

[boyczar]

please remember that it is a compliment to be disliked by people. most people don’t even like themselves. think about why you even want to be liked by somebody. why do YOU like YOURSELF?? why give a fuck about whether or not somebody with so much work to do on themselves doesn’t like you? they literally do not even like themselves. they can’t genuinely “like” you.

[suchislifenomore]

[unraveledfromculttoclarity]

Most victims won’t come forward but if they do believe them because they aren’t making it up. They are just finally strong enough to try and leave and need your support.

Leaving with a support system helps so much more than if you leave without one. Because majority of the time if they leave without one they’ll end up back with the abuser and they might not make it back out.

[arlenelperez]

Lost

I feel lost

Like I've wandered off a beaten path

Like a child who let go of their mother's hand

Like a fish out of water

Desperately trying to breath

Like I'm driving without my map

Like GPS without its signal

Like my compass broke in the wilderness

Lost in all this fucked up mess

Someone please tell me,

Which way is north?

Copyright by Arlene L. Perez on October 7, 2024

[forkaround]

As someone diagnosed with psychosis I understand when folks with NPD don't want to be associated with Narcissistic Abuse. But I don't think it's accurate to say that the abuse doesn't exist. We don't have the vocabulary to separate them like we don't with psychosis/ psychotic/ psychopath/ potential serial killer. But it doesn't negate the abuse people have suffered at the hands of psychotic or narcissistic people who don't want to accept their diagnosis or don't want to change their ways to cause less harm. (Let me be clear I'm not talking about changing as a person but we can all learn to lessen harm, psychotic, npd or able-bodied.) Removing language that helps explain trauma isn't the way to go.

[pinkinsect]

wow this is just like patterns of seeking treatment in people with npd

[maura-alwyne-blog]

[zmbienoir]

"support those with mental health!!" until its npd.

[haninabz]

A sip of you

[traumaoverload]

Red flags in relationships

-selfish-preoccupied with self -no boundaries, or does not respect boundaries. -very controlling. -self absorbed- everything revolves around them. -jealous, possessive. -shames you, or makes you feel like you are not good enough. -lacks respect. -rage, or outbursts of anger, that are inappropriate to circumstances. -love bombing~ excessive attention and idealization in the beginning, then becomes emotionally distant, or uninterested. -active addictions. -unreliable and inconsistent. -irresponsible and immature, has bouts of anger fits when they don't get their way. -emotionally unavailable~ is never there for you, or makes you feel unloved or not cared about. -egotistical

[yewstronaut]

not so friendly reminder that I am someone who experiences psychosis so if you're one of those people who feels the need to call someone psychotic cause they're violent, aggressive, or you just plain to agree with them get the fuck off my blog and let the door hit you on the way out

[uncoveringthenarcissist]

Unveiling Narcissism: Understanding the Traits and Behaviors

Narcissism, with its roots in Greek mythology, was born from the tale of Narcissus—a character who fell in love with his own reflection. Today, the term has transcended folklore to become a crucial part of psychological discourse. Understanding the traits and behaviors associated with narcissism can shed light on a personality construct that often hides in plain sight.

The Enigma of Narcissism

At its core, narcissism manifests as an inflated self-image, an insatiable need for admiration, and a distinct lack of empathy. Yet, its subtlety often allows it to evade detection, camouflaging itself within charismatic exteriors or masking insecurities behind a facade of confidence.

The Telltale Traits

Narcissistic traits can vary in intensity, from mild to severe. Some common indicators include:

Exaggerated self-importance: A belief in one's superiority or uniqueness.

Constant need for admiration: Seeking validation and praise incessantly.

Lack of empathy: Difficulty understanding or relating to others' emotions.

Sense of entitlement: Expecting special treatment and feeling deserving of it.

Tendency to exploit others: Using people as a means to achieve personal goals.

The Behavioral Patterns

Narcissism isn't confined to the grandiose; it also thrives in subtle, manipulative behaviors. These patterns often emerge in personal relationships, workplaces, or social settings.

Relationship Dynamics

In relationships, a narcissist's behavior can be particularly toxic. Initially charming, they tend to exert control, manipulate emotions, and undermine the partner's self-worth. Over time, this behavior can erode the foundation of trust and mutual respect.

Work Environments

In professional settings, narcissistic traits might present as an excessive desire for power, a hunger for recognition, and an inclination to manipulate colleagues or subordinates for personal gain. This can lead to toxicity within teams and hinder productivity.

Unmasking Narcissism

Recognizing narcissistic traits isn't about labeling individuals but understanding behaviors that could potentially harm relationships, mental health, and societal harmony. By uncovering these traits, individuals can navigate these interactions more consciously.

Setting Boundaries

Understanding narcissism empowers individuals to establish clear boundaries, recognizing when behaviors become unacceptable or detrimental. Setting limits guards against emotional manipulation and maintains a sense of self-worth.

Seeking Support

For those dealing with narcissistic relationships, seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professionals is essential. Support networks provide validation and guidance in navigating the complexities of these interactions.

Conclusion: The Road to Understanding

Unveiling narcissism involves acknowledging its existence, understanding its traits and behavioral patterns, and taking proactive steps towards healthier relationships and environments. It's not about vilifying individuals but recognizing behaviors that impact personal well-being and societal harmony.

Understanding these traits and behaviors is the first step toward fostering healthier connections and protecting one's mental and emotional well-being in a world where narcissism often lurks beneath the surface.

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[snekdood]

telling people "narcissistic abuse isnt real" is invalidating and just makes people become quiet about the abuse they've faced. you gotta either tell people theres a difference between NPD and narcissitic abuse or fuck off quite frankly. there wouldn't be this many people relating to eachother on very similar specific types of abuse they've faced if it wasn't a phenomenon happening. maybe we need a different name for it but no it's not just "emotional abuse". unfollow me if you disagree idc anymore.

[something-not-quite-human]

A PSA about mental health terminology because it's important to understand what these actually mean and it annoys me that people use them wrong:

A delusion is when a person believes something unrealistic or unlikely. It can be thinking that people can read your mind, believing you have super powers, thinking someone or a group of people are out to get you, thinking someone is spying on you, that someone or something close to you has been replaced with a clone/replica, etc. It is not thinking someone is mad at you or misinterpreting a situation.

Gaslighting is when you remember one thing, but someone acts like you're wrong. They make you doubt your memory and it can feel like you always overreact. It is not just someone lying to you or being confused. It's a genuine attempt to make the victim feel crazy/wrong.

Intrusive thoughts are typically dark and out of character for the person. They are unwanted and uncomfortable thoughts such as specific acts of violence, incest, sexual harassment, hurting yourself, hurting those close to you, etc. It is not just some silly quirky impulsive act.

Impulsive thoughts are what most people think are intrusive thoughts. Impulsive thoughts, unlike intrusive thoughts, are not typically dark or uncomfortable. It is a brief thought where you want to do something such as major purchases, sticking your hand in a blender, jumping out of a moving car, etc. Whereas intrusive thoughts last for some time, Impulsive thoughts do not and are easy to dismiss.

Psychopathy is an actual trait/condition that affects a person's day to day life. It does not immediately make them a bad person and typically stems from certain traumas. While the symptoms can include poor impulse control and disregard for others, it does not mean the person is violent or a serial killer. Grow up.

Sociopathy is a condition/trait where the patient is numb to all emotions. They could feel one emotion or feel loyalty to friends, but they can live normal lives. It does not mean the person is evil or cruel. They literally have no reason to hurt you and do not care about you. It stems from neglect as a child.

Narcissism is trait/condition in which a person believes themselves to be better than everyone else. Their skills, intelligence, and appearance are all above the average person. Narcissism, as a trait, is treatable and they can change over time. Narcissism, as a condition, is known as Narcissitic Personality Disorder and is not curable (obviously). More research needs to be done in order to better understand the condition, but these people are not all abusers and manipulators and assholes. They are normal people, and if you're going to judge someone purely based on their mental illness, then they are right that they're better than you.

There a ton more that I could add, but I'm just going to put the blanket statement: DO NOT USE ACTUAL DIAGNOSABLE CONDITIONS AS AN ADJECTIVE

Ex: Calling yourself or others OCD, Bipolar, Autistic, Anorexic, Schizophrenic, Psychopathic, Sociopathic, etc. unless they actually have that condition

TL;DR

Educate yourself about what terms and mental health issues actually are before using them liberally, and don't judge people for what they can't control.

[sissytobitch10seconds]

My suggestion for how to fix the Stolas Problem

Don't know what the Stolas Problem is? Don't worry! I'll explain it to you. The Stolas Problem is an issue that the Helluva Boss show is having in which the entire premise of the show has basically been scraped to instead focus on a character that was supposed to be a love interest only. The end of the first season and beginning of the second also majorly ret-conned him so that he is no longer a sympathetic or fun character. It transformed him from someone that was horny all the time and rather bad, but typical for what a demon in Hell should have been, to a sadistic delusion narcissitic jerk that coerced a lower being into having sex with him or else Blitz's only friends and daughter would be out on the street. It went from them using each other to Stolas coercing and raping Blitz in what's called a quid pro quo relationship. So that being said, let's get going!

Instead of having him be sad that he's not loved by Blitz, have him be oddly excited about the date and trying to figure out why his feelings are so weird, maybe through the song Stella yells at him for.

Get rid of The Circus entirely, it's unnecessary and makes the quid pro quo rape really uncomfortable because Stolas thinks they're basically dating instead of just using him back.

Get rid of Seeing Stars. We already had a "Stolas trying to love his daughter the way she needs" episode and this is just making him look far worse. If you want to show more Stolas then have him out with Via when Blitz is calling him for help with the DHORKS or something.

Make Stella an actual person and show her in the background with Via. If you want her to be abusive, make sure that none of her actions mimic Loona or Stolas or any of the other characters that are seen in the show like they currently do.

Put Western Energy at the end of S2 and put more episodes specifically just about IMP. Maybe develop Millie more as a character, have the episode where Blitz tells Loona that she needs to be nicer be a full thing where he has to try and hire other secretaries but finds that she's the only one that works for them. The show is about Blitz, the protagonist, not about Stolas the love interest.

The "He can get hurt?" is the perfect thing to perk up Blitz's love for Stolas so it should definitely be at the end.

Show more of them liking each other after the awkwardness of their first 'date' at Ozzie's. Show them cuddling in bed or laughing about something or deciding that they don't want to have sex after trying awkwardly for an episode and so they just sit and eat ice cream while bonding over a shared interest. Right now the only thing drawing these two together is the narrative.

I also think making him a serial cheater would explain the fetishization of Blitz' demonic race, by having previous partners enjoy being degraded and talk to that way. It could end up with them having a fight and that's how Stolas confesses by saying he wants to learn Blitz more than he did them because he loves him.

Have Blitz still get back with Fizz as friends but explore more of their romantic feelings to show what Blitz thinks a relationship should be except it's not what all relationships had to be because they had puppy love and not grown adult with kids love.

If you have any ideas of other things that might help make their relationship more believable or make more sense, feel free to add to this last!