#nah im not saying im being misgendered

[jojolimons]

that pokemon rejuvenation personality quiz really is accurate, got npcs using my they/them pronouns even tho i chose the boy option

[snekdood]

ive been disillusioned with a lot of the left for a while, it's nice to at least see that other ppl see it now, though the reason why kinda fucking sucks.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for purposely using the wrong pronouns for my “friend”?

I (24f) am a bit of a gamer, I’ve been gaming online since I was 15 and I’m in a discord server with the people I play with. The server is decently sized, there’s about 25 people in it, it’s mostly a chill place, we’re all nice to each other and nobody really cared about anyone’s sexuality. We’ve a few trans people in the server and everyone uses their correct pronouns.

A few months ago one of the guys (24m) stopped taking drugs. At first we were delighted because honestly we thought he was gonna OD one of these days and we were all kinda worried about him. However he got really into like andy tate and the manosphere. It makes everyone kinda uncomfortable when he says stuff like “real men aren’t emotional” (and then proceeds to have a hissy fit when he loses a game) but nobody really calls him out because we’ve known him for ten years and nobody wants to start shit.

Anyway he and I were close for a long time and about two weeks ago we were the only ones in the server, when he starts this absolutely insane and unhinged rant about how much he hates pronouns. I asked him why he cares so much when they’re just words and everyone has them, including him. He told me he doesn’t care at all actually and thinks people who do care are pussies. So I asked if he’d care if I used she/her for him instead of he/him. He said he wouldn’t.

I’ve been exclusively using she/her to refer to him for the past two weeks (other than this post as I think it would get confusing) and he gets so annoyed when I do it. Last night he asked me to stop and when I asked if he finally understood how hurtful and uncomfortable it is to be misgendered he said “no I don’t care at all, you’re just being a stubborn bitch and im sick of your attitude so just stop”

I just left the call and since then he’s been blowing up my dms calling me all sorts of names. I asked some of our friends about it, most of them agree he’s just turned from our chill friend to a total dickbag, but some of them think I should just stop since it’s still misgendering and he did ask me to stop doing it.

I’m a bit torn, usually I’ve no issue with using someone’s pronouns, but his idgaf attitude paired with the fact that he clearly does care and just won’t admit to being wrong is really pissing me off, and I feel like he deserved a taste of his own medicine. (He also regularly misgenderes our trans friends but only when they aren’t on the server)

So AITA?

What are these acronyms?

[spacelazarwolf]

I think maybe the example given is whats confusing/upsetting people?

I mean yes visibly gnc and trans have very different and often more dangerous experiences! I agree with all of your points and I think its something that needs to be talked about.

But I also can see why people aren't vibing with it? I had to read a few times to get it. The example kind of implies that there are no reasons that a cis-passing afab nonbinary person would want to go to a trans-friendly place besides them feeling more oppressed than they actually are. But like maybe they just want to help support those places, or be around inclusive people, or maybe they're wanting a more gnc haircut and they think that place would be good to get it (to use the haircut example). It just comes off a bit like they're saying the only valid reason to go to trans-friendly business is if you're in danger of violence? And idk like the other person said how do you know just from a photo what that person is thinking/feeling?

Though again this is something that should be discussed and people are ignoring the overall message bc their focusing on the one part which is another issue.

I know the op was frustrated and maybe the wording just isnt the best for what they actually mean, and ik that like they're talking abt a very specific type of person/situation. And also i dont think imperfect language should automatically discount a topic from conversation. Just wanted to share why I think people are getting upset, but I dont wanna like derail the post bc maybe im just overthinking it

nah i get it. i was hesitant to reblog the post at first as well, but i think they bring up a very good point about like. less visibly marginalized demographics of white trans people trying to center themselves in discussions about transphobia that they don’t have experience with. it’s hard to talk abt bc some ppl are so quick to go “and therefore fuck theyfabs they aren’t really oppressed!!!!!!!” bc that’s bullshit. but it grinds my gears every time a thin white femme presenting nonbinary person who lives in like seattle tells me i’m privileged for being a man and couldn’t possibly understand the pain of *checks notes* being misgendered and having people assume you’re a woman when you’re not. (as if that isn’t something i literally still deal with????)

[mybodypaystheprice]

Very weird interaction today.

So I’m going to get my passport photo taken and an old man in front of me and my friend is also wanting his passport photo taken. This place does a lot more than passport photos so he tells the worker to “let these ladies go first”. I didn’t even blink at being misgendered, especially because I have long hair with bangs and was wearing a necklace and earrings. But I say, in my deep voice “no, it’s fine, I’m also here for my passport photo.” He gives me a shocked looked, stammers a little “so there’s no point in letting you go first then I guess. Going on a vacation or just hoping?” And then he gets really close to me and says “sorry are you trans? I don’t want to mistake you. You look like a woman but sound like a man.” Now I just kind of freeze, the store clerk is staring at us, and I finally say “well funny you ask that. I am trans, but I’m transmasc hahaha.” He says “Ohhh okay. Im also part of the LGBT gay community. It’s nice that everything’s so open now.” Im just like “yep.” And he gets his photo taken and pays and leaves. The worker is super nice to me when taking my picture and then as im going to pay, he says “nah, I’ll just let you have it for free.” Idk if he felt bad for the uncomfortable interaction or cause he’s queer too. Either way, an ally and I saved $26.

[candiid-caniine]

Bug, I need advice

I want to ask my master to start using it pronouns for me (not for gender reasons- I'm staunchly they/them- but BC I'm pathetic and don't deserve anything else). I want to show him that I'm nothing more than his pathetic toy.

...but I don't want to just ask him. That would be too easy- to put it into conversation like I'm a person. I don't deserve that.

So what can I do to ask him? What show should I put on to make him stop respecting me? I want to be degraded and sobbing and a desperate leaky mess for him when I ask but I can't think of anything 😭

Assume nothing is off the table. Edging covered in drool, licking the toilet, anything.

Help,,

Thank you bug. Us leaky cunts gotta stick together.

arf this is a tough one!! obviously you know your master, but just in case it hasn't come to mind, remember that for some people this may feel like misgendering or orientation play, so it's always best to gauge your partner's limits first. (this warning isn't necessarily for you, bc i trust that this is a committed relationship w good communication, but for anyone else interested in something like this!)

here's what i would do. think of the thing that makes you cry. humiliation? pain? edging? whatever it is, think about that. for me, it's easier if i'm put into subspace slowly before whatever makes me cry is starting; i'm more open and emotional that way.

ask your master to plan a scene for you. you're basically asking him to break you, possibly in a way he never has before, so please please take advantage of his care for you--make sure you'll have ample time and supplies for any aftercare you might need; this is gonna be a tough scene, a show of devotion and ownership that is going to be intense. tell him that at some point during this scene, you're going to give him a gift somehow.

what i would do if i was doing this (pls bear in mind im a dumb fuck): i'd write it down. maybe on a piece of paper. maybe on a dog tag to attach to my collar. or go fucking crazy and have a plaque made, or a custom paddle, or cross-stitch some shit...make it unique, but tangible. here are some ideas for how i would say it:

pathetic toys don't deserve pronouns (and on the back it says "it/its")

congrats! it's an it! (im trying to riff on cringey cishet 'gender reveals' but idk if its working lmaooo)

fleshlights don't have pronouns (this prob only works if ur a bottom and he's a top so disregard if needed lmao)

dildos don't have pronouns (if ur the top and he's the bottom)

certified object (TM) (and on the back it says "it/its")

sex toy (and on the back it says "it/its")

if i was a toy 👀and u were a real person 👀would u respect me 👀or nah? (check yes or nah) and if u checked nah 👀would u maybe 👉🏽👈🏽 call me it/its? 👀 haha jk,, unless....?

omg or,, one of those like fake certificates? or a deed of property?

Here on this 14th of February, 2024, by Notarized Declaration, has been bequeathed to You, the Undersigned, a certification: that [sub's name] has been deemed a Material Object, pursuant to Code 98.706 of the Consensual Dehumanization Act, and shall hereby be referred to by "it/its" pronouns throughout any Proceedings of Consensual Power Exchange (PCPA). (Initial)___ I, the Undersigned, hereby agree to this Declaration and the Conditions elaborated herein...

did yall think i was joking about being a clownpuppy

anyway. whenever you've figured that shit out, be it a plaque, a fake contract, a dog tag, whatever the fuck, hide that shit. whatever your master has planned for the evening, incorporate it.

is he gonna tie you up and put you in a suspension rig and pretend he's livestreaming you? hide that shit in his ropes.

is he gonna make you hump his shoe and bark? hide it in ur mouth and drool it out onto his thigh.

is he gonna edge you and call you names until you cry? fam, put that shit in your holes. that is the ultimate objectification (to me): be the vase you hide your v-day roses in.

so that's my advice, basically. if you don't want to ask outright like a person, then symbolize it in your play. it's still communication, which is vital for a scene that's gonna be as intense as you want it to be, but it also fits the theme of what you're trying to tell him. come up with a basic plan for the night, then place your declaration somewhere accessible either by you or him when you hit the point in the night that you want to reveal it.

i'm so excited for you. idk if i really helped, this is just *my* style of play (read: stupidtown to the max), but regardless i'd love to hear how it goes, whatever you end up deciding!

[chapelbat]

Sometimes I post things and my mind is like

THEYLL KNOW IM MEAN

Like the world ain’t known for fucking ages I ain’t mean but don’t fuck with me because if you try going scorched earth, I’ll make sure you get the same energy back

Nah

I ain’t some all the time offended queer I ain’t into being soft and shit and trying to be nice to these fuckers nope making an attempt at misgendering me ain’t hurting my feelings like you think and I will make sure you get what you deserve. You come hateful, you’re getting hateful. You wanna take low blows, let’s fucking go. Because I ain’t all moralistic when it comes to pissing off these cunts. I’ll say some mean fucking shit and I literally do not fucking care.

[genderqueerdykes]

I recently came out to my mom and she hasn’t been super supportive and keeps misgendering and dead naming me. She thinks it’s just a faze and it’s been making me miserable so I decided to come out to my (very gay) friend group and the’ve all switched to my new name except for one who hates my new name and says she won’t call me it and will continue deadnaming me. I was pretty upset and went home and told my mom and she basically said that my friend can have opinions and I need to decide if I want to ruin a good friendship over a silly thing like a name. She said I need to choose if “some silly name that is probably a faze” is more important than my friend. is my mom right? I love my new name but im starting to doubt if im trans because the new name is slightly uncomfortable but im growing into it. Please help?…

nah, your mom is just being indignant. she's dismissing your feelings, anyone who calls what you are going through a "phase" or "temporary" is not taking your feelings into account. this is dismissive behavior, and regardless of what her motivation for doing so is, it's not helpful, and it's not a loving and supportive action. it is working directly against you and you have every right to be upset

whether or not your friend "likes" your name doesn't dictate whether or not they should call you that. that is your name. your friend needs to call you by your name, regardless of whether or not they "like" it. i don't "like" the name jared but i have called both of my friends their name. i don't like the name brittany, but i still call people that name. you get the picture. doesn't matter if you're trans or cis, people should still call you by YOUR name regardless of THEIR preference.

your mom and your friend are unfortunately thinking about themselves and their feelings over yours, and that is extremely unfair to you. this is not up for them to decide. you shouldn't have to deal with that kind of opposition over something very innocuous. im glad your other friends are being supportive- even if what you are going through were to be temporary, you still deserve to be treated with respect.

i hope you're able to feel a bit better soon, socializing with your supportive friends will help. you deserve more complete support in your life, and i hope you're able to find some peace and continue to live as you are with your correct name and identity. take care, good luck, stay safe

[shiniganja]

01, 02, 52, 53, 54

01: Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

My dad? No. Not in the slightest. My mom and I are okay but I wish she wouldn't misgender me so much. She's getting better at it, though. There is (admittedly) a rip between us bc she's on team jesus while I'm on team mohg satan so I can't really come to her with anything personal without getting something about how she'll pray about it or "Have you tried talking to the lord about your depression?" I still love her dearly though.

02: Who did you last say "I love you to"?

Lmao Kokichi. I tell him I love him every night I leave for work. I hope he has a good night tonight.

52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason?

I'm mixed on this.

My esoteric side does want to believe in the magnum opus and the grand plan for all and entropy and occult nonsense and my more nihilistic side is like "Nah man. Life is completely rng and u just gotta vibe *backflips*".

53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night?

I have a stuffed animal that i pretend is derek and i hugged it bc im lame Last night really wasn't a good night. I had a panic attack at work so I needed to calm myself down

53: Is cheating ever okay?

No. Not when it comes to your partner. If someone is going to cheat I think they should look at why they want to and if need be discuss an open relationship or even polyamory. The second one is a grey area though bc as a someone that is poly I feel like people use being poly as an excuse to cheat without realizing that it is about just having multiple connections that are equally satisfying.

Cheating in other ways is cool tho. Life isn't fair. Fuck the system, just don't fuck with the emotional state of others.

[rynnlovers]

HELLO (rynn first)

1. energy? - bottom but dom or sub depends (he could literally be anything you like, esp. if the you is oswald)

2. turning on/off - on - honestly physical touching but like sexually enough (but if its os, honestly that man turns him on 24/7 w/o a break they could be just talking and rynn's a lil bit like "ah if he could just rail me rn" ps. os would never) off - MISGENDERING. MISGENDERING HIM IS A VOLCANO OF RED FLAG. mommy of our kids? NO dada of our kids? YES. WHY ARE YALL SO FUCKING STUPId. any mention of being enslaved probably. or like cheating. any mention of oswald (bad light) as well. and if for os just when rynn asks him to stop and he doesn't (os would never(2))

3. how long before climax? - it depends. but rynn's usually pretty sensitive so os have to be doosy with his technique to like make him go on for a bit (usually very torturously, rynn's begging to let him cimmy lol 😭) aka. edging. it's just os edging rynn like hell.

4. sensitive part - behind his neck (i have recently learned from ao3 that this part is called nape. its extremely. sexy-), the root of his red hair is very sensitive. also his chest part probably (although rynn fucking hates it isbskssk.)

5. seducing them - just push him against the wall and keep kissing him. peeling off clothes is also a good signal.

6. masturbation how often - every time he feels like killing himself (u might be saying WHAT but its true, this man is quite sick in the head and use sexual pleasure as a homemade antidepressant) before therapy tho. after therapy and sharing room with os probably once a week. biweekly at best. mostly bc os wouldn't fuck hi-

7. fav positions- fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkk im too ace for this ugh why idk idk idk probably when os is pinning his hands up, hugging him or squeezing his waist.

8. losing virginity - oh this is gonna be sad but his first is probably not very consensual but its where he learned sex really sale. (learned body sale when he was a kid but probably not zex)

9. fav place - uh idk bed. he also likes it on os' desk ig.

10. been caught? - nah. this man can detect footsteps from 10 miles ago. if u caught him he's probably either horny out of his mind (actually not that often if you'd believe me), or wanted you to walk in on him.

11. loud or quiet - quiet with anyone else (like biting lips not to get too loud), loud with os (also biting lips but fucking hell everything + os' "i want to hear you, rynn." is NOT helping.

12. sex toys - oh he owns an entire warehouse imma tell you.

13. giving or receiving - he really likes giving but melts into puddle of nothing when receiving.

14. sex how often - girl it depends on os not him.

15. biggest sexual desire - having os treat him like a prisoner probably. (OS WOULD NEVER. RYNN, WAKE UP. 3)

16. best term to describe - big ego small hole (why am i like this)

17. uh hes trans. idk what to describe but everyone has commented rynn's really small once.

18. what think abt masturbating? - os.

just os. has been os since he lost his virginity. has been os every time he had sex.

19. sexual orientation- i'd say pan but imma just go with allo (cause rynn's aroallo.) bc most his life it's not really sexual attraction that drove him to have sex, it's more like i just want the feelings or it's for work. he's starting to change his mindset about it just mow so we'll have to wait and see.

20. fav things to do - oh he was on another level of dopamine when he was giving os a handjob when os was begging him to stop lol. if bottom um being a cum dump…

21. weirdest place - uh its probably categorized as a half-public but it was an empty meeting room.

22. fav place to be kissed - behind his neck. it always tickles his brain the right way. (ps. biting it while in-out-ing is sometimes more effective at getting him over the edge than just slamming)

23. worst experience - every non-con or very political + the man was being an absolute dick. ones.

24. orgasmed more than once? - oh hell yes he likes being overstimulated (os could only do it with toys- so os would usually never.)

25. how often think abt sex - uh. like a man? (idk personally)

26. self-conscious abt any part? - oh a lot of parts… he doesn't like the booba and his v . (bc gender dysphoria, and it being commented on poorly in the past.) he usually hates it but has been opening up to os to like yk use it… uh yeah.

27. how long does usually last - it dependss but rynn usually holds on pretty well. not well only with os istg this man is a different breed or rynn's brain has a special segment just for os in bed.

28. serious during sex? - how does one be serious during sex… but like no. hes just a babbling mess…

29. i can't think of one rn but probably dom rynn, he really likes it hahahah.

[deepfriedseagullfeet]

its time for 5 am posting. am i entitled for wanting people to use my pronouns. like also not call me "queen". am i a bitch for wanting that. cause it seems to everyone at work its fine to misgender me because im really feminine. despite me having short hair and dressing like a gay middle school boy. like i know i need to stick up for myself more but i dont want to be That person whos really annoying about minor slip-ups. but the she and the her-ing is getting out of hand. and its pissing me off that it keeps happening and its pissing me off more that im not saying anything. because im scared of being the bad guy. for wanting people to respect my pronouns. BECAUSE HERES THE THING we have this he/they manager working and no one, i repeat NOT A SINGLE PERSON misgenders them despite him being transmasc. but when it comes to me? im a girl apparently. despite my efforts to present gender neutral. despite the fact that i bind my chest mostly for myself but because i want cis people to realize im not female. but nah im still a she. to everyone who knows me personally. cool

[ratmadeofrats]

Would They Misgender Me? (Bones s4 Edition)

Credentials: im a they/she who’s rewatching the show and reawakening an old hyperfixation while doing so

Bones- Yes. She’d ramble about how singular ‘they’ isn’t grammatically correct but would probably humor me after i tried explaining it, but by that point misgendering me would feel less like bullying.

Booth- Yes, but he wouldn’t mean to. He’s just genuinely so confused but by god will he at least try. Would probably refer to me as ‘he’ a lot which i’ll count as a win.

Sweets- No! But... he would be a little to performative about it. Over-enunciating the “they”s and never actually using she. I’d feel safe being out around him, though.

Angela- At first, yes, but would quickly switch gears if I asked her to change it up. Though I do think she’d fetishize the concept a little too much... I wouldn’t wanna be left alone in a room with her for too long to avoid discomfort.

Hodgins- Same as Angela where he’d start using only “she” but fix it after I ask. I think he’d slip up a lot more and kind of forget to use “they”, but it wouldn’t be on purpose.

Zach- Yep. He’d be just as confused at the “grammatical inconsistency��� of it as Bones but would just follow her lead on it. Camille- Yeaaahhh... Hate to admit it but she did straight up say she “missed when there was a simple pronoun”. She wouldn’t get it but I think after some time she’d get over it. Would probably only use “they” on me though.

Vincent- Nah. He’d spout some facts about the first known instances of nonbinary people in different societies and move on. 

Clarke- No, because dude wouldn’t even perceive me enough to have the chance to misgender me.

Daisy- Exact same situation as Sweets. She’s just so excited to know a queer person and she gets a little too much about it.

Wendell- No doubt that man will never misgender me. He might be a little confused but he would immediately put an effort in.

Fisher- Nah he’s too emo not to get it. You can’t tell me he hasn’t at least questioned his own gender before.

Arastoo- I think he wouldn’t do it on purpose, but would just forget that she/he aren’t the only pronouns. He’s a sweet guy though so he’d put in an effort once he caught himself.

[liliallowed]

I don't think they were being transphobic on purpose... I just think they're completely missing the point out of ignorance. I don't think they hold malice but they must be mindful. IGNORANCE ITSELF can be just as harmful as malicious actions. I personally will still unfollow but please don't get angry at this person and let drama needlessly spiral out of control.

my rambles are below (I'm personally salty af lol but don't mind my frustration. I don't want to fan unnecessary flames.)

it's mostly cherry picking when you say you treat them like a person? congratulations that's the bare minimum. look. you don't have to UNDERSTAND it. you don't have to resort to ancient texts to justify something you don't consider - it's not a world view or another"religion". it's an actual physical thing. it's called dysphoria.

it's not JUST about belief. and unlike belief being trans ISN'T a choice. you can change your world view but you CAN'T change your gender.

and if you think trans people CHANGED gender? nah. they've ALWAYS been the other gender. their body just simply didn't align with their gender. (except for genderfluid peeps like myself, but the main point stands that they have ALWAYS been the other gender/genders)

and if you think being none binary isn't real then you do realize we aren't out bodies but out BRAINS. everything that makes us US is a brain. and a female and male brain are literally the same. so like... why bother gendering a mass of grey flesh inside ones skull? if the brain/person identifies themself as BEYOND what their body is then isn't it natural to believe them? we were made in gods image. why limit that image/god himself to just two genders? while he refferes to himself as a he... you gotta remember. he/him she/her are just English words. they don't hold any actual weight to god's grace.

if you're christian you may also believe in souls and such. what's the point of having fem/male body if the body decays and the soul remains? what are you gonna do with the gendered soul? what's the POINT? we're all just pieces of gods light, right?

yk what I'm saying? like... Christianity itself and religions AREN'T actually against being genderqueer. in some aspects they can be seen as even supportive!

while Im personally an atheist who is a former Muslim I even studied a bit of christian beliefs before becoming an atheist, I don't think clinging to religious texts makes you an open minded person. all things can be interpreted differently.

you treating trans people as people is the bare minimum. even if you don't understand it you have to understand that misgendering is hurtful.

you can stick to your clouded judgment or think outside of the box.

I'll say it again. being christian or Muslim or WHATEVER RELIGION doesn't excuse transphobia.

Shame on you Cal. Shame on you.

It's not a "world view". It's the objective existence of an entire classification of people. You can't just say that black people don't exist because you don't agree with "their views"; it's the same for trans people. We exist whether or not you "believe" in us. And hiding behind your religion is a weak excuse. Fuck outta here.

Instead of giving Cal engagement, feel free to spread this post around. It's also useful in case they try to dirty delete or backtrack their statement. Don't say anything to them, just unfollow and block.

[albatris]

tmi personal post tag rant to delete later............. i've had a good day........ I'm still overwhelmingly anxious but it is a good day

[imfiguringitoutlovely]

You know what you should write? A Bakugou x trans male headcannon thingy(he/him pronouns). Why? No reason. I’m definitely not trans or anything. Nope.

bakugou with his amazing fantastic handsome absolutely perfect boyfriend who is trans

pairing: katsuki bakugou x male!reader (he/him)

genre: fluff, mega comfort

warnings: mentions of dysphoria

author's notes: yeah no bro ofc like no reason, i get you... i mean like. i mean no, i don't bc it's not like im trans or nb or anything nah bc... that's...kinda... sussy, yk? and im not sussy. i mean like. they/them isn't sussy. like. obviously...

i wrote this as someone who "doesn't pass" (which is so dumb, can we just ask ppls pronouns, it's not that hard 😩)

okay i mean it when i say it that the bakusquad are just... the best allies tbh (mostly bc they're all pretty uh... 🍐🥥🍐🍊🍐🍅🍐🍍🍑🥥...yknow-)

also if that upset you, you should go bc you're just mad that i'm right. they all bond over their involvement with the community.

that's why, when you came along, you kind of just fit in. not only were you able to handle and return the chaotic energy, but you all stood together (not to say anyone in class 1-a is not at least an ally, just that bakusquad is probably the most involved in the culture imo).

you caught bakugou's eyes, too, and it really wasn't very long until you two were official. it wasn't really said out loud, clearly stated, but one time he said 'i wouldnt mind being your boyfriend, i guess' and you two have been madly in love and close since.

seriously, just get married omg disaster gays 😩🏳️‍🌈

but in all seriousness, when you're ready to tell him you're trans, he's extremely supportive.

"thanks for letting me know. he-him?" he's still kind of grumbling, but it's much softer than usual.

you kinda stumble over what to say bc what? he's just... well, okay-

asks if there's anyone he should be more careful w your pronouns around, more specifically your parents.

if they're not accepting, it takes him every bit of strength and yours combines to stop him from blowing them up on the spot 💀

is kinda passive aggressive to them bc of it,, you have to remind him to bring it in a little at times

insists on keeping open communication, that no matter what name or pronouns or any label you go by, he's gonma support you.

"don't go and get all quiet like that nerd-"

"midoriya-?"

"yeah, deku. tell me how you really feel, i'm not some idiot loser, i'll understand-!!"

DOES HIS RESEARCH AS SOON AS YOU TELL HIM

he's very educated, but would rather go over everything to make sure he uses the proper and respectful terminology when asking you questions about what you're comfortable with

NO, he will not look at "scientific articles" or anything that's meant to "justify" or devalue your existence. he loves you, and if he could, honestly, he'd attack and take down anyone who questions your identity. he wants to understand how to respect it; it's not his business as to why you choose your labels.

YES, HE ASKS WHAT YOU'RE COMFORTABLE WITH

he understands that everyone experiences gender identity differently and doesn't want you to feel like you're not being heard as an individual.

one day he goes up to you, right, and when he's sure it's just you two talking (he doesn't want to have a public convo abt it because it's nobody else's business unless you decide it is) starts asking about boundaries.

"look, dork, i know i'm basically a god to all this planet's extras, but i can't really read minds and i don't want to pretend that i can. is there anything that you're uncomfortable with me saying or doing?'

"like...with...?"

"like with nicknames, titles...pet...names..."

"what was that last one-?"

"DON'T PUSH IT, DORK-!!"

if you're uncomfortable with him correcting other people for you when you're around, he won't. he knows that Identity is a really personal thing, and that he can get really really heated, so he'll let you tell him how to handle those situations.

as for when you're not around... he can't promise there won't be a body to hide if someone intentionally misgenders you, honestly.

PET NAMES GO BRRR (name: reason)

idiot: he's bakugou

dumbass: he's bakugou

dork: he's bakugou, and this is used often times w a more affectionate/admiring tone

jerk: he's bakugou, and he uses this mostly when he gets flustered bc it's a lil softer FKDKDK

he-man: (more in private) he will only use this if you let him. he hated people, obv, and he knows there's been people who call you a she-he (this totally isn't personal comfort for when i was going by he/him, not at all this isn't a traums response-). after people misgender you, if it's intentional, he'll often be near you and grumble about how they have no fucking right to talk shit about his he-man 😤

prince: once. it was a mocking thing at first because you were dramatically complaining about how boring a lesson was. but then. he noticed how flustered it got you.

king: well, "my king". mostly when he's being (on SUPER SUPER SUPER rare occasions) soft and talking about your future together. ("i don't wanna rule an entire world alone, so you're going to be my king. it's not a suggestion.")

handsome: he'll also call you "pretty" if you let him (bc he lives w the mantra that gender has nothing to do w compliments (unless you're uncomfy ofc)). both are mostly in private, though he'll occasionally call you handsome if he notices you maybe getting lost in your own head.

WHEN YOU'RE DYSPHORIC

he doesn't know gender dysphoria first hand, but he's read and heard about how horrible it can be. he also understands that it's different for everyone, and fully supports any SAFE way you choose to deal with it.

keyword: SAFE

if you bind during training, or for longer than safe, he will scold you. not publicly, ofc, but he'll pull you aside or even drag you to the bathroom or locker room once he notices.

if you don't bind, cool. how you present is none of his business, he finds you hot no matter what tbh

when it gets worse, he softens up a lot more when it comes to physical affection. he's not really comfortable with public affection as much, but he'll hold your hand more, pull you close when you sit next to him, and play with your hair from time to time.

in private, he'll cuddle you if you want. if not, he's all good with laying down next to you and being present for you.

pms? he'll do anything at all to make you comfortable (another thing he'll straight up ask you about so he knows how to keep you comfortable)

he uses a lot of pet names, ones that you're most comfortable with. heck, one time he straight up went kirishima-mode and told you how fuckin manly you are.

it's hard for him to directly compliment or be verbally affectionate, but he tries bc he fuckin loves you omg-

in short, you're the love of his life and he'll do anything for you tbh HRJDN-

[taylor]

i’ve said this before but i’ll say it again, it’s very weird how Some People will apologize profusely for getting your cat or dog’s gender wrong and will immediately correct themselves but somehowwww SOMEHOW those same people refuse to call people by their own pronouns like how are you gonna respect the pronouns of an animal that doesn’t even know what pronouns are and in the same breath go “nah im not gonna use the right pronouns for this actual living breathing human being” like my pal my dog is never gonna know you misgendered them so your apology doesn’t mean jack whereas respecting an actual human being’s pronouns is just as easy and in fact makes more of a difference but what do i know 🤷🏻‍♀️