#mom burnout prevention

[365momme]

The Art of Saying No: Protecting Your Time and Energy

As moms, we often wear many hats—mother, worker, caregiver, chef, chauffeur, teacher, friend, and the list goes on. With so much to juggle, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and stretched far too thin. The result? Anxiety, burnout, and a constant sense of being pulled in too many directions. While we may have heard the phrase “self-care” countless times, the truth is, it’s more than just…

[thedeadthree]

ok ok FINEE ill make a g*ojo girlie anything for pookie i GUESS!! <3

[siflshonen]

Dude! Toya may be your sweet baby but he killed over 30 people in cold blood and be wasn’t even sorry about it. He got what he wanted so badly he was willing to exist in a living death for it. The rest of his life is back in a cage, but everything he wants is there and there is a promise of a final release so he isn’t stuck burning in that hellish family forever.

Meanwhile, Keigo is about to be the most (or second-most) hated and divisive public figure in Japan’s history, but he’s also probably the first in centuries who came from a poor, non-party-affiliated background (and he’s potentially an ethnic minority, depending on how you read him) with the perspective of the social roles of a victim, villain, civilian, Hero, and disgraced Hero, and is honest about the atrocious shit he’s done in his life. He’s batshit and about to enter a constant fight and tense dialogue with the old system and the current population, and his only real reward is that he gets to text his weird, disgraced, unknowing-surrogate amputee dad in the Old Folks Home For Burnout Failure Heroes as he sits by his wife, whom he does not love and who does not love him. Fuck if I know if he ever says a word to his mom again, but Keigo’s entire world is his job, not enjoying a life outside it, and he will never have the free time he dreamed of heroes having, though his efforts MIGHT allow future generations to do so and he will definitely do everything in his power to prevent the conditions for future Todoroki Family Situations AND Takami household situations. Keigo’s ending is a continued onslaught in all directions.

That said, I CANNOT BELIEVE they let him land that job at 23.

[maochira]

About comfort reader after mental breakdown. May I have lavinho or noel pls?

I can do both!

Requests open! - masterlist

Tags: gn!reader, dad!coach, hurt/comfort, thanks to @chsster for giving me the nickname in Lavinho's part!!

Synopsis for Lavinho's part: Your father is always the one who prevents you from overworking yourself, but since he's been away from home for a bit, you started falling into a burnout.

Synopsis for Noa's part: Your father's cold personality often makes you feel as if he's emotionally distant from you, but when you start crying in front of him, the opposite shows.

Lavinho

Your father's positive energy is what keeps your mood up on most days. So as soon as he's away from home for more than a few days, not only does the house feel empty, but so do you. Sure, your mother is there, but even if she tried, she couldn't replace Lavinho's positivity.

Currently, you're in a phase where everything with school is stressful, so you've been spending most of the time in your room to study. And because everything has been so stressful lately, you're always afraid of studying too little and failing your tests and exams. This results in you studying way too much and stressing yourself even more.

If your father was at home, he'd be the one to take you out of your room every now and then. Lavinho knows when you need to take breaks and he's great at getting your mind away from any school related things before you can even start to get stressed.

But he's not at home, and he won't be for many more weeks. And without you realizing it, you've overworked yourself so much to the point where you're exhausted and ready to break into tears at any point if irritated too much.

So of course, today sucked. Your friends couldn't figure out what's wrong with you and didn't know how to help either and your mom just figured you miss your father. While yes, that is true, that's not the main reason why you're feeling awful.

You mother suggested you should call your fad, since he's way better at cheering you up than she is. But for some reason, you're nervous about calling him. There shouldn't be anything to be afraid of, but you fear that he might be mad at you for not taking care of yourself properly.

But at the same time, you miss hearing your father's voice so incredibly much. It takes you a few minutes of staring at your phone until you finally call him, but it doesn't take long until Lavinho picks up. He'd drop anything at any moment if possible because he misses you just as much as you miss him, and also he's afraid of ever missing something important or not being there to listen if you're feeling bad.

"How's my floresinha (little flower) doing?" Is the first thing he asks after picking up, and that's also what brings you to tears.

"N-not so well..." You sob into the phone, which immediately worries Lavinho.

"Hey hey, what's wrong? What's hurting you?" You father asks in a slightly panicked tone. In the background, you can hear other people talking but at the same time Lavinho seems to be walking away from them.

You take some deep breaths in attempt to calm your crying, but that doesn't help at all. And for Lavinho, it just hurts so much to hear you crying like this without him being able to pull you into a hug.

"School has just been... so stressful. And I study all the time because I'm just so afraid of failing and-"

Lavinho interrupts you mid-sentence. "You sound as if you're burnt out. Is that what's going on?"

"...I think so."

Your father takes a deep breath before he continues to talk, trying to sound comforting and encouraging. "You're a smart kid. You know you won't fail, right? You know you don't have to study all the time? You've always been doing good in school without dedicating all your time to it, haven't you?"

"Yeah but I want these exams to turn out perfect so-"

"Hey hey listen," your father interrupts you once more, but he does it in the most caring way possible, "You don't need perfect grades anyways. I'll always love you no matter what."

It's genuinely surprising to hear your father in such a serious tone. Most of the time, even when he's comforting you, he lets a joke slip in every now and then or he ruffles your hair. Very often, he also pulls you into a hug that's so tight, you lose your breath for a few seconds which always makes you stop crying because it catches you off guard.

But that's not possible right now, so Lavinho is trying a different approach. It may seem out of character for him, but he's a little clueless on how to comfort you without any physical affection. Also, he feels throwing in joking when you're burnt out would be inappropriate.

"I'm always proud of you and I always will be, and so is your mother," Lavinho continues talking, hoping whatever he says will make you feel better, "So remember to take breaks even if I'm not at home to drag you out of your room, okay?"

"I'm really trying..."

"Good, because if not..." Lavinho lets out a short chuckle, "Maybe I'll have to tell mom to drag you out of there more often. And as soon as I return home, I'm gonna make sure you're not overworking yourself again. But now take some more breaks, okay?"

Noel Noa

Noa is a great dad. He's an amazing dad. The only thing that bothers you is how emotionless and cold he can come off, even towards you. Most of the time, he's like that only in a few moments. But recently, he's been more tired and also more cold in your presence.

Your father loves you very much and expresses that as much as he can, but his coldness can still come off as emotionally distant more than you'd like. And especially since you've been having a hard time with other things lately, you began bottling up your feelings.

But maybe you've been doing that a little too much. Today, the usual silence at the dinner table feels more like a pressure to you. A pressure about telling your father how you've been feeling. A pressure about telling him that you'd like him to show emotions more often.

And this pressure ends up making you cry. At first, you try to hide it but as soon as the first sob escapes you, Noa's full attention is on you. He's a bit clueless on what to say because asking "Is everything okay?" would be stupid, since it's very obvious that something's wrong.

So for the first minute, you sit there crying to yourself while your father is thinking about what to say to make you feel better. But then, he realizes he really doesn't know what to say.

The next thing he figures out is that instead of saying something, he should be doing something. You're lost in the many thoughts that are running through your head, but then suddenly you feel Noa wrapping his arms around you and lifting you up.

That's something he hasn't done in years. The last time was probably when you were in elementary school. But even though you've grown so much since then, Noa feels as if lifting you up in his arms is the only correct thing to do right now.

“Shh… It’s okay…” He whispers in a soft tone as he holds you up with ease. “Cry it out as much as you need and then you can tell me what’s wrong if you want to, alright?”

He continues holding you up for a few more moments before carefully setting you back down on your chair. He then sits down next to you and waits patiently if you want to tell him what’s wrong or not. Even though his expression is still cold, it’s obvious how worried your father is right now. He has no idea what dragged you down so much to the point where you started crying. And at the same time, he doesn't want to pressure you into telling him - although he really wants to know so he can help.

After a bit, you finally gather some of your thoughts. "Uhm... so... Everything's just been a little hard recently."

Noa's full attention is on you and he nods to show he's listening, but he doesn't say anything yet. He's waiting for you to finish first.

"And sometimes I kind of... I..." Your crying gets a little stronger because it's hard to say the truth after bottling it up. "I kind of wish you wouldn't seem so cold and distant half of the time lately..."

Noa's eyes widen as you say your last sentence. "Do I really come across like that this much?" He asks a little ashamed of himself. "...I'm so sorry."

"No no it's okay-"

"It's not." Noa looks to the side for a moment. He feels bad for seeming cold and distant even around you. "I promise I'll do better on the future, okay?" There's a little smile on his face as he leans over to pull you into another hug, this time with a short kiss on your forehead.

"I'm your father, I should have paid more attention to how I act around you..." His arms around you tighten a little before he finishes talking. "Never hesitate to tell me if you need me to improve on something, alright?"

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[lucaswarmhotchocolate]

I'm not gonna lie there is nothing worse in my life than not being able to convey to others how fucking ridiculous my mother is. I wouldn't say she's abusive, but by god do I think she is toeing the fucking line like it's an Olympic sport. if I had my way I don't think I would ever see her again for longer than like. 20 minutes at a time. Her moods swing a million times in one minute, she'll be showing me memes one second and then berating me for not ever doing anything or helping out around the house the next. she is allowed to vent to me whenever she wants and if I can't handle it I'm emotionally manipulative, but if I wanna vent to her then I have to let her "fix" my situation for me or I'm just looking for things to get mad at! she will literally become upset when I'm not "reframing things positively" but if she does the exact same fucking thing that's fine. She is a walking conglomeration of contradictions and is basically the personification of a victim complex. I have never said this before and meant it but by god the more time I spend around her the more I think I actually fucking hate her. It's just been so bad recently I've developed a *fear response* to the sound of doors opening and her regular fucking voice. I'm like actually so fucking sick of living when it's around her. I've fantasized of living on my own since middle school but I've never felt so utterly helpless and trapped in this house before as I do right now. She is constantly threatening to take away various things (wifi and electricity mainly) and I never know if she's actually going to follow through or not. she berates my brother and I so much, tells us how we never help her and she can't deal with us on her own! she needs help! and fuck us if her constant complaining about needing help makes us feel like burdens, she doesn't mean it like that, and then she goes around and reposts gentle parenting memes on her instagram. She will send me neurodivergent positivity posts and then freak out when my severe fucking ADHD prevents me from being a regular daughter who can do a job and school and also clean and take care of her brother and also the cats and also take care of my mom herself because oh no, mom's in burnout! she's struggling so hard! but her struggles are inherently more valid than mine and it's not that bad I can do it! and when I inevitable fail to do everything I'm lazy and I take my mom for granted and i should help more! i need to help more! i need to do everything, be a parent and a friend and a sister but most importantly a daughter, so that my mom can send me silly memes about how every eldest daughter is basically a mini mom! and I need to respect mom but also be comfortable around her and also not jump when she yells or cry when she's mad at me because life is so hard for her and nobody respects her at work and YOURE ACTING JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER and oh my GOD, why are you crying? huh? the neighbors are gonna think someone's trying to fucking kill you or something! you're so ungrateful! you're emotionallymanipulative! you're abusing me! oh my god hey look at this funny cat video lmao, you'll love it

[flickeredsilence]

Every once and awhile I am visited by the desire for a partner that could've been there for me as my dad got sick. Someone to share the brief moments of joy, and hold me as I lay crippled by the grief. But for some reason, I was meant to experience it all without leaning on the presence of a romantic partner. I feel guilty for feeling all this though because I did have my mom and a handful of friends that kept me going, but there's just an itch that they can't scratch. A level of comfort that only romantic intimacy can provide.

I had it in the first year of my dad's diagnosis, but that partner left because I wasn't able to hold up my end of the deal. After awhile, I became overridden with anxiety, depression, and later what I found out was the physical symptoms of caregiver burnout and grief. I was constantly nauseous, fatigued, sad, and getting sick. My emotions were all over the place all the time. He of course wanted a partner he could go out and do stuff with, and unfortunately, that was not me anymore. I was stuck in a vortex of grief and exhaustion. I don't blame him for leaving, it all must've been very grim and draining to watch. He told me his friends could tell he was exhausted from it all. They could see it in his face. Knowing all of this and feeling the breakup coming on unfortunately did not prevent me from being absolutely devastated when it finally happened.

If I could tell him anything now, I'd tell him that I was thankful for the solace he tried his best to provide me. That I'm even grateful for the pain of the breakup because it drove me into the arms of my dad for one of the last times.

[beezusvreeland]

a very good idea - chapter 4

summary: After your boyfriend cheats on you at a party, you break up with him, who tells you nobody else is willing to be with you like him. You decide to prove him wrong, with a little help from a new friend.

ship: miguel o'hara x f!reader

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Chapter 4

You had more homework than the regular person and not just because you were taking some advanced classes. Before your side hustle, you would babysit kids in your neighborhood during the week and work as a waitress on events organized by your brother-in-law’s catering business on the weekends. 

You’ve had summer jobs before, but when high school came around, your mom got really sick and it took doctors a few months to come to the conclusion that she was exhausted. The burnout type of exhaustion. She started seeing a psychiatrist and, stubborn as always, went right back to her two jobs. You and your sister Jenna had to bargain a lot, but at last convinced her to quit at least one of them and let the two of you help her.

All the money from the babysitting and waitressing went to house and health bills, mostly your mom’s. You very quickly realized that, unless you got an all inclusive scholarship, your chances of going to college were zero to none. Attending college had been your dream since you were a kid, when you’d watch reruns of Felicity with Jenna, both of you fascinated with all the classes and drama the protagonist went through. Your mom didn’t have the opportunity to go to college and, when your sister’s time came, she chose to focus on working in restaurants, learning as much as she could so she could open her bakery someday. When she met her husband Mike, they united their toothbrushes and business aspirations. Now he would organize events and she would develop a menu for them. You’ve loved the way they were each other’s biggest fans. They were your idea of what a loving relationship should be. Mikes were really hard to find, though. 

The first time you hung out at Harry’s Manhattan penthouse, some of his friends were there. You thought maybe you and Harry could watch a movie and spend time with each other, but obviously that wouldn’t happen. 

Harry was different when his friends were around: louder, he would drink more and more arrogant, whatever it took for boys like Flash Thompson and Eddie Brock to laugh and agree with him.

Flash was complaining about how he had to turn in an essay about the Wall Street Crash of 1929. 

“It’s so fucking boring, who cares what happened literally a hundred years ago”, Flash said, like doing the paper was the worse thing could ever happen to someone. “The only interesting thing about Wall Street is the Wolf and Margot Robbie.”

It took a lot of effort for you not to roll your eyes. 

“Don’t turn that shit in, then”, Eddie said, making Harry laugh and shake his head.

“My dad said that if I don’t get at least a C, I can kiss the Dubai trip goodbye.”

“A C?”, you gasped, in spite of yourself. 

“I know right, it fucking sucks”, Flash looked at you, all serious.

That was a little too much for you. Forgetting to care how Harry and his friends perceived you for a moment, you said: “Gosh, I could write a C type of essay about anything in an hour”.

“Well, write mine, then.”

You finally gave into the need to roll your eyes, then looked at him. 

“For 200 dollars I just might”, you joked.

However, Flash took his wallet from his back pocket and gave the money to you. Just like that. Like it was nothing. It probably was nothing to him, but to you, that money was really valuable. That’s how you have justified your hustle since then: you would write reports and essays for some of the rich kids from school and earn enough to help out at home and save for college. It was a perfect scheme, unless someone found out, which you (and your clients, really) have been really careful to prevent.

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After an hour inside the library, you still had to finish a book report of your own, so you took your things and decided to go to the basketball court. Miguel’s practice hadn’t even started yet, he and some other boys, including Miles, paid attention to what their coach was saying.

You climbed a few steps and sat at the bleachers. Before opening your copy of Hamlet , you observed your surroundings. Besides the basketball team, there were a few freshman kids ready to watch the practice, as well as some girls you recognized from the hallways. 

The coach whistled loudly and the boys clapped their hands, scattering through the court to start playing. Miles saw you and waved. Miguel turned to see who his friend was smiling at, his eyes finding yours. You gave him a shy wave, which he responded to with a nod, turning back to his teammates. 

You felt disappointed at that. Your mind was telling you to stop being stupid, that you had no business having any expectations at all. But you also remembered his smile a few hours before, at lunch. He had a really beautiful smile. You wished it wasn’t a rare occurrence. 

You tried to focus on the book, which you had already read, a pencil and a highlighter in hand. During your reading process, you used post-its to mark pages that had scenes and dialogues that could be useful remembering while writing the report. You always felt grateful to your past self. 

Sounds of sneakers gliding on the court’s shiny floor and the ball being thrown and caught filled your ears in an almost relaxing way. 

“Why is she even here?”, you heard a voice saying not so quietly on your right.

You pretended not to hear, struggling to read the same sentence for the third time. 

“Probably trying to find a rebound”, the two girls laughed at the pun. “It’s kind of desperate, if you ask me.”

Dealing with Harry was hard enough, but people you have never spoken to before? Who were they to say anything about you? Why did they even care? And, most of all, why did those stupid comments hurt you? 

“Hey!”

Looking up, your eyes meet Miguel’s again, but this time he climbs the steps, stopping one before where you were. He took his hoodie off, the white shirt underneath going up with it, before coming down all together. It was so quick, but you swore seeing a part of his six pack awakened something in you.

Miguel put his hand through his hair, trying to put it back in place. He proceeded to fold his hoodie and get on his knees, his long arms offering it to you.

“Can you hold this for me?”, Miguel asked, sounding so sweet, yet another thing you weren’t prepared for. He was so close to you, you could see a few of his sweat droplets in great detail. 

“Yeah”, you nodded, feeling his hand palm one of your cheeks, while his lips kissed the other. 

He went back to the court in what felt like too soon. You put your hand where his was just a moment before, you could feel the heat spread through your face. Back at the court, Miguel was smiling at himself and, next to you, the girls stood in absolute silence.

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[luvqwish]

my disclaimer for this is that i have no idea if i'm actually disabled/could be considered disabled etc. but ever since having mono for three terrible months and then getting covid and then hitting autistic burnout and then going abroad and having terrible asthma and fatigue and then getting an ear infection and developing bell's palsy and then getting c diff ... i just KNOW that i would benefit so strongly from a mobility aid. and a shower stool. and probably a million other things that i don't know about. i'm just so fatigued constantly and walking across campus is often too much. thinking abt the "weird girl" in high school who wore a knee brace and had a cane and how much we all (yes myself included) judged her and questioned the "truthfulness" of it. thinking abt how the only thing preventing me from getting a mobility aid rn (besides $$) is fear of my mom's judgement and ridicule. thinking about how the place and people i grew up with contributed to my internalized ableism. anyway ,

[bandofchimeras]

the selfhate spirals with ADHD & PDA are so potent and really embarrassing. but when i tell you i straight up no call no showed the interview for my dream job that pays an exorbitant amount of money comparatively to everything I've ever done....simply because I forgot what day it was? how do you like, laugh that off? the older you get the more severe consequences become for your invisible disability.

Luckily they were willing to reschedule the interview but that is very lucky and if they hadn't been willing too I may have actually spiralled into suicidality bc of how much effort it took to even make that application and believe in myself enough to score the interview. but the real tea is - I actually just can't do life alone. I can't. Shit like this will happen. My friends and my mom called to see how the interview went, they remembered better than me. And if I had a partner or bestie, and had created an accountability structure, this wouldn't have happened. I did have alarms set up. I had it scheduled in. But the night before I got distracted & avoidant of bedtime, stayed up til 4 am (forgetting what the next day was), didn't plug in my phone, and boom. Anyways, sorry to all my mutuals who have had a window into the severe self-loathing spirals & vents. They're isolating and unhelpful. Its been real tough to talk to people directly about the shame from PDS + ADHD + OCD stuff, or get help, it takes an ocean of grace to forgive myself and I don't know how to expect or accept that much grace from other people. You constantly see people praising others who are on time, prepared, accountable, check in, show up, get things done effectively, etc it is near equivalent with "being a good person" or having character. And after enough failed attempts to live normally, after 1219323832942 abandoned projects and lost ideas and failed medication trials and lost friendships, its easy to give up on ever finding respect for yourself. Or asking others to respect you. Or continue to give you chances. Or even stay in your life.

I have been at the limit of my burnout candlewick. Finding community who accommodate and don't shame has been a breath of fresh air.

But this last fuck up has been sobering.

Like I cannot blame myself for what happened- waking up with brain fog and forgetting the day & all my carefully crafted reminders - but it could have been prevented with stricter bedtime schedule, taking sleep meds, and someone to keep me accountable to charging & checking my phone.

I have to tell myself: No, don't trust yourself. You won't remember because its important. You will forget when the stakes are high. You cannot trust your stress response, you have to get help. Its on me to find that kind of support because eventually everyone will lose tolerance for excuses. But they might be willing to accommodate limitations with agreements made in advance. ADHD is a real disability and deserves and needs accommodations and support structures. So is PDA.

[monriatitans]

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[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

Hi, I simply need to rant. I have an abusive mom and some kind of (unclear which) dissociative disorder as a result. So it is not "made up" "not as bad" etc. I have psychologists proof that my mom fucked me up. But I can't tell it anyone. There's this family friend, who's in her 40s, and we used to be pretty close, not as much anymore, and she grew up with an abusive mom too. From what I heard, her mom wasn't as different from mine. But this friend, married very young an abusive man, got 2 children, worked and cared for them until she had a horrible burnout from which it took years to recover. She knows I have "some kind of mental illness maybe" but she, truly in her heart, believes that the only way to get a mental illness is by overworking and getting a burnout. In her eyes I was always kinda pretending, at least acting it worse. Because I never worked I couldn't have a mental illness. And because she likes my mom. She kinda acts as if she has the copyright for having an abusive mom. And it is so damn frustration because.... She knows how it is, she could see the signs, if she would accept the possiblity.

On the other hand I don't want to, you know, shock her by giving her my diagnosis and telling her all the shit my mom does because... I don't want her to feel bad. That she likes someone, that's as bad as her mom was. I think that would really fuck her up. And also I don't want to destroy one of my moms few friendships because... She's no inherently abusive person. She just acts like that towards me so, there's no reason to deprive her of friends. It's not like that would help me anyhow or prevent anyone from getting hurt. I was the only possible victim and I am already destroyed.

And there's my family. My cousin is only 10 years younger than my mom (big family, her mom the oldest, mine the youngest) and they kinda grew up together, went to parties etc. Which is probably why I am too so close to her. But she too doesn't want to hear one bad word about my mom. I was occasionally giving hints and I could see that she got pissed at me and thought I was lying. Plus, her mom was very sick all her life and, at least, neglected her so maybe if I told her, it would seem normal to her.

It is so frustrating, I want people to believe me, to treat me the way I deserve (like, not talking shit about me because I can't work) etc but they will probably never believe me.

That's it. Fin.

Hi Fin,

I'm sorry about what you've been going through.

It's ridiculous to assume that the only way to get a mental illness or trauma-related disorder is by burnout from overworking and I'm sorry that she imposed that idea on you. It's possible that she may not react appropriately if you told her what you have or suspect you might. It sounds unlikely to me that someone who would express those kinds of sentiments to be understanding and supportive of other possibilities.

Regardless, if you do decide to tell her, her reaction is not your responsibility. You cannot protect people from their own emotions, you know? If she doesn't want to continue being friends with her mom that's her choice. If she acts based on the information you tell her, that's also not your responsibility.

You may say that she isn't inherently abusive if she's presumably only been mistreating you, but anyone who treats you like that is abusive period. That's never okay. If someone doesn't want to be her friend over what she's done to you, that's not your fault, that's hers. It's not your fault for simply speaking the truth, it's your mom's fault for mistreating you in the first place. If her reputation or friend circle is ruined over that, perhaps she should've thought twice about abusing you.

I believe you. We believe you. But please know that you do not need other people to validate what is already true. What happened to you was real and nobody can take that from you. There are people out there who may not believe you, gaslight you, or perhaps they've normalized abusive behavior themselves, but those people are not reliable to verify what is real. You know your truth.

I hope I could help. Please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

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The Hidden Costs of Caring: Kari Carter-Cherelus Talks Burnout in Healthcare

🧡 Healthcare Workers Give So Much, But What Happens When They Have Nothing Left to Give? 🧡

Burnout is a growing issue in healthcare, and in the latest episode of Business Story of the Week, host Joshua Lori speaks with Kari Carter-Cherelus—a former dental hygienist who now helps professionals manage burnout. Kari’s insights into the challenges of the healthcare industry reveal just how critical it is to prioritize mental well-being.

Burnout: A Not-So-Hidden Epidemic

Kari explains that while burnout in healthcare has been a problem for a long time, the pandemic made it impossible to ignore. The extended hours, emotional strain, and lack of support in many healthcare settings contribute to a widespread feeling of exhaustion. As Kari puts it, “The veil has been lifted.” 😷💥

Kari’s Journey: Dreamer to Dental Hygienist

Like many of us, Kari’s career path wasn’t linear. As a child, her dreams changed frequently—from becoming an astronaut to an archaeologist—but her mom eventually steered her toward dental hygiene. And while Kari loved helping patients, the work environment wasn’t always supportive. Toxic conditions and lack of resources eventually led her to burnout. 🌠🦷

Managing Burnout: The Importance of Boundaries

Kari stresses the importance of boundaries. Healthcare workers are often expected to give everything to their patients, but this leaves little room for self-care. By setting boundaries and managing expectations, workers can better protect their mental health. 🛑

Self-Care as Daily Maintenance

Kari compares managing burnout to oral hygiene—just as you brush your teeth every day, self-care should be a regular practice. Small actions, like taking a few moments for mindfulness or journaling, can help maintain balance and prevent burnout. ✨🌿

Building a Support System

For Kari, having a support system is key to managing stress. Whether it’s a therapist, friends, or coworkers, having people to lean on helps prevent burnout. As she says, "Sometimes you just have to let go and accept help." 💡

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Feeling Like a Supermom Drowning in To-Do Lists? Take Control of Your Time!

Juggling work, kids, chores, and me time can feel impossible. But you've got this, mama! This post is packed with powerful strategies to ditch the overwhelm and create a calmer, more balanced life. Let's reclaim your sanity and become the time management queen you were always meant to be!

Before We Dive In: Breathe & Accept Your Limits

Best Time Management Strategies for the Overwhelmed Mom

Feeling like the world rests on your shoulders? It's normal, mama! But you can't do everything, and that's A-OK. Let go of the guilt and focus on what truly matters. Prioritize tasks, set achievable goals, and embrace self-care. You deserve it!

Time Management Hacks for the Busy Mom

Plan Like a Boss: Feeling scattered? Planning is your BFF! Schedule work, family time, self-care – everything! Knowing what's ahead reduces stress and keeps you on track. Plus, ticking things off your list feels amazing!

Early Bird Gets the Worm (and the Coffee!) Struggling to squeeze in "me" time? Become a morning person! Wake up before the little ones and enjoy some peace and quiet. Read a book, meditate, or grab a coffee – it's your time to recharge. ‍♀️ This sets the tone for a productive day and lets you tackle priorities before the chaos begins.

Craft a Morning Routine You Love! Set yourself up for success with a morning routine. Wake up 30 minutes earlier for some joyful activities like yoga or savoring a cup of coffee. Feeling energized? Add some exercise to boost your mood and productivity! Use this quiet time to set goals, make a to-do list, and conquer the day!

Family Calendar: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work! ‍‍‍ Feeling like you're going it alone? Get the whole crew involved! Create a family calendar and discuss everyone's schedules. Delegate tasks, and don't forget to schedule in self-care time for yourself, mama! You're important too!

Set Goals You Can Crush! Feeling overwhelmed? Set realistic goals. Break down big tasks into smaller, manageable steps. This helps you make progress without feeling crushed. Remember, your well-being matters, so set goals that work for you, not against you.

Bonus Time Management Strategies for Working Moms

Office Hours: Boundaries Are Your Friend! ⏰ Feeling pulled in a million directions? Set work boundaries with clear "office hours." Let everyone know when you're available for work-related matters. This keeps you focused and helps you plan your day effectively. It also allows you to be fully present with your family during non-work hours.

Pomodoro Power! Feeling like you're constantly multitasking? The Pomodoro Technique is your new best friend! Work in focused 25-minute intervals ("pomodoros") followed by short breaks. This keeps you laser-focused and prevents burnout. Take a deeper dive into the Pomodoro Technique to unlock its full potential!

Tech To the Rescue! Technology can be your lifesaver! Use calendar apps, meal planners, and to-do lists to stay organized. Feeling overwhelmed? Find online communities for support and inspiration. There's an app for (almost) everything, mama! Use them to your advantage.

Remember, Mama: You Don't Need More Than 24 Hours... You Need to Use Them Wisely!

Feeling like there just aren't enough hours in the day? It's not about more time, it's about using your time effectively. Prioritize tasks, set goals, and eliminate distractions. You've got this! By optimizing your 24 hours, you can achieve amazing things.

Empowered Moms Rock! ‍♀️

Time management isn't just about convenience, it's about your well-being and success! These strategies, from weekend prep to mindfulness, will help you navigate motherhood with grace. Embrace flexibility, prioritize progress, and don't forget to take care of yourself. You are a superhero, mama, and a healthy, happy you means a happy family. ❤️

This is just the beginning, mama! Take one or two tips at a time and find what works best for you. You've got this!

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Tips to Overcome Demand Avoidance for Autistic Adults Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this video I explore the topic of managing demand avoidance in Autistic Adults. Plus, I share my personal lived experiences as an #actuallyautistic person. #orionkelly #autism #asd #autismsigns #whatautismfeelslike 🙏 Thanks so much for watching, rating, commenting, sharing and subscribing, I really appreciate it! You're helping me raise the level of understanding and acceptance of the Autistic community. You can show your support for my channel by doing any of these things: 1️⃣ SUBSCRIBE to my channels. 2️⃣ LIKE / COMMENT / SHARE my videos. 3️⃣ SEND me a Super Thanks 4️⃣ Become a channel member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCerYpTmasyCOuy9WH2qEeCg/join 5️⃣ BUY my book: https://ift.tt/PksCoN0 📬 Postal Address: Orion Kelly Media, PO Box 457, Inverloch, VIC, Australia 3996 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 🔵 CHANNEL LINKS 🔵 More Videos: https://youtube.com/@orionkelly My PODCAST Channel: https://youtube.com/@orionkellypodcasts 🔵 CONNECT 🔵 Facebook: https://ift.tt/fdLp4sa Twitter: https://twitter.com/orionkelly Instagram: https://ift.tt/YzNtMv2 TikTok: @orionkelly_australia Website: https://ift.tt/LiC5AfI 🎧 My Friend Autism' PODCAST 🎧 Apple: https://ift.tt/t2lTghq Spotify: https://ift.tt/2r8pJmd Stitcher: https://ift.tt/Bw6sW0r ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ABOUT ORION: Orion Kelly is an #ActuallyAutistic vlogger (YouTuber), podcaster, radio host, actor, keynote speaker and Autistic advocate based in Australia. Orion is all about providing validation and support for Autistic people and their loved ones. #AutisticVoices #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Autism #OrionKelly #ThatAutisticGuy #ASD ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ⛔️*Disclaimer: The videos contained on this channel are for general education and entertainment purposes only and do not constitute professional advice. For professional advice and training seek assistance from a qualified provider. All views are my own and do not represent those of my employers or sponsors. Some images used are stock images.*⛔️ Related: autism, autism diagnosis, Orion Kelly, orionkelly, thatautisticguy, tiktok videos, autistic, autism in adults, autism in women, autism in men, autism spectrum condition, asd, autism spectrum disorder, aspergers, aspergers syndrome, autism in boys, autism in girls, dsm, dsm5, autistic adults, autistic kids, autism mom, autism parent, autism family, autism speaks, autism awareness, autism acceptance, autism at work, am I autistic, adult autism test, autism disclosure, autism therapy, autism prevention, autism meltdown, autistic burnout, autistic behavior, autism symptoms, autism traits, autistic signs, what autism feels like, love on the spectrum, stimming, echolalia, anxiety via YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xun5zjki5JE

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Avoiding Mom burnout

Are you feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and constantly on the brink of burnout as a mother? You are not alone. The demands of motherhood can be all-encompassing, leaving many women feeling depleted and emotionally drained. However, it’s essential to recognize the signs of burnout and take proactive steps to prevent and address it before it escalates into a more serious issue. Mom burnout, also…

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My to-do list is getting fuller, but I don't mind. Staying busy is vital to avoiding madness. Especially when that to-do list involves commissions.

Star Story - commission, begin handquilting

Mug rug - commission, bird theme, fabric and pattern pulled

Mini quilt - commission, fpp 18x18 inch crow, forest and wood theme, quilt top only

Four piece coaster set - commission, hobbitcore meets slavic grandma, old fashioned, whimsy, floral

Placemat sets - shop item, two sets of two placemats, purple celestial theme

Five piece dining set - giveaway prize, dessert and treats theme, four placemats and a table runner

Three piece dining set - gift, two placemats and insulated table runner, OSU Ducks theme

Single placemat - gift, unicorn theme

Lap quilt - gift, begin handquilting

I'll be going to the fabric store to pick up extra wide backing for Star Story, the mini quilt, and possibly the four piece coaster set. I have no idea what slavic grandma fashion is, so that will need a little research. Hobbitcore, to me, is lots of green, brown, and plants.

If anyone wishes to commission me, there are still slots available. Please snatch those up.

I'll have the placemats and mug rug done by the end of this week, and have all the pieces cut and prepped for the placemats. Those will likely be finished by the end of today, and mug rug tomorrow. Handquilting will begin tomorrow, and the morning will involve washing the dining room floor and basting the quilt. I tend to work up a sweat doing those things because it's a lot of hard work, and will likey leave me wiped out for a few hours. Basting takes me about one to three hours, depending on the size of the quilt.

The mini quilt and four piece coaster set will definitely be finished next week. The mini quilt is just the quilt top, nothing else, which definitely speeds things up. It's all foundation paper pieced as well. I will also begin the giveaway prize next week if I don't have any other commissions.

Then the week after that, complete the giveaway prize and work on the housewarming gift for a friend. He and his father are buying a house and moving in together, both are HUGE fans of the OSU Ducks (local team), and a two person dining set will be a fantastic gift. Especially since they plan on decorating the dining room with all things OSU Ducks.

If I have no other commissions after this, I'll just focus on my niece's birthday gift of a unicorn themed placemat. My sister and mom describe her as the girliest girl to ever girl, and she loves all things unicorns. I have unicorn fabric and a unicorn fpp piece. I will also work on finishing the handquilting for Star Story and build up inventory in my shop.

Star Story will likely be finished in mid-July. When I have the handquilting complete, and have no large commission to work on over the summer, I'll be handquilting a lap quilt gift for a friend. I made the top a couple years ago, but he made it abundantly clear he's fine waiting because paid projects come first. Handquilting will be done in the afternoon, seeing as mornings are so nice in my sewing room but it's too hot to be in there after about 10AM.

Ah, yes, my summer routine is sewing in the morning (I'm up at 5AM), handquilting in the afternoon, no working after 6PM (dinner), and in bed by 9PM.

Commissions will be closing June 1st, so you had best grab one of my slots now. Prices will increase when I open them again in September. I now have a very good idea of how long it takes to finish things, and have given myself a 10% pay raise from $25/hour to $27/hour. Now that I know handquilting twin size quilts is around 80-100 hours, and queen size 100-150 hours, the prices will reflect this. Queen size quilts will start at $4300 USD, twin size quilts at $3000 USD, etc. King size quilts will take between 300-500 hours, done over the course of 18 months to two years (to prevent burnout I'll take breaks to work on smaller things, as advised by other quilters), which is why prices for those will start at $11,300. I well and truly do not want to make a king size quilt, but that much money is extremely good incentive. As with all projects, if you cannot pay 100% immediately, I'll accept 50% upfront. For a king size, that's nearly $6k. Do I think anyone will commission me for something that large? Absolutely not, which is why I'm not concerned. I will, however, add it as an option when I reopen commissions later this year. If someone does commission me for it, I'm getting our plumbing replaced; the guy who owned the house prior to us buying it was a landlord, and he installed illegal plumbing that's causing problems. We were quoted nearly $12k last year, and have no means of paying for it. A king size quilt will take care of that.

Now I need to eat, convince my husband to get out of bed, go to the fabric store, and then get home and do some sewing.