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[sugarsprinklesoul]

Staying private and why it's important

People are sooo nosy, it's human nature to know what everyone is doing at all times. but you don't know what the person you're telling something to is going to do with that information, which is why it's better to stay private.

WHEN to stay private:

- plans you have in regards to your future

- how far along you are in an assignment or how well you did on something

- any ideas you have regarding business or creative assignments

WHY stay private:

- people might steal your ideas or use your words against you

- make you feel bad about your ideas or thoughts

- does not give anyone who is not close to you any unnecessary insight into your life

- protects your peace

HOW to stay private:

- think before you speak and think about who you're speaking to

- stray away from any topics regarding yourself unless necessary, people love talking about themselves

- write down your ideas or thoughts if you really wanna tell someone

[prettieinpink]

PROCESSING YOUR EMOTIONS WITHOUT SUPPRESSING THEM - TECHNIQUES

this post is all about how to process emotions that we are uncomfortable with, safely and positively. Today, I’d like it if you’d try to implement at least one technique today!

REMINDERS

Remember that when you feel an emotion, it is your body communicating itself to you. Listen to your emotion, and understand.

All emotions are temporary, and will pass. But some can leave a more long term effect on us.

Having the skill of sitting through uncomfortable emotions calmly, and not let it impact our lives greatly will serve you well.

TECHNIQUES

STOP TECHNIQUE

S- Stop what you’re doing, pause all activities and shut off your brain.

T- Take a few deep breathes, continue until your focus is only on breathing deeply.

O- Observe your thoughts, your body language, any physical sensations and acknowledge them within you.

P- Proceed with any activity that may help you process this emotion. Meditation, journaling, stretching, talking to someone, etc.

ALL TECHNIQUE

A- Acknowledge, accept and alllow what you feel. Identify what emotion you feel, if you can’t, try to associate it with something. Sit in this feeling for awhile and truly accept it within you.

L- Link it to a circumstance or situation that may explain why you’re feeling this way. E.g ‘I feel so irritated lately, it may be because I’ve been eating sugary foods more’

L- Learn what this emotion may be telling you. There’s not much detail on this because only you know what your body needs/wants.

SELF EXPRESSION

Draw, write, compose music on what this feeling looks like, sounds like, maybe even their taste. This really helps go deep in your emotions, analyse it and then hopefully process it.

[psalmlover]

and yet we dance!

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[venuslilgirl]

I am worthy of all the good things that are happening to me

[thecosmicangel]

The secret to manifesting is knowing you already have it!!

[hopeful-engineer]

The only way to make no mistakes at all is to do nothing at all. Life is filled with various opportunities, but every single one of them carries a risk of making a mistake. If you don't take the risk, you'll be stuck in the same place forever and that's not what life is for. Humans are made for progress, not for avoiding any stress and discomfort at all costs.

[universalitgirlsblog2]

💞💕SELF- LOVE 💞💕

💕I really love myself

💞You can't stop me from loving myself

💕I know my worth

💞I am immune to putting others on a pedestal

💕I'm worthy of a great life

💞I am full of gratitude , hence I attract alot of opportunities

💕I am love and respect itself . Therefore I attract alot of love and respect from others

💞I am courageous and always stand up for myself

💞My self love makes me magnetic

💞I am immune to being self destructive

💕I am more than enough

💞My self esteem is high and my my self concept is perfect

💕No one or nothing can stop me from loving myself

💞I am taking steps to achieve my goals and make my dreams a reality

💕I am glad , I am over my self hatred , self destructive or insecure phase

💞I have healed from all my past trauma

💕I have healthy habits

💞I don't sacrifice my well being to please others

💕I distance myself from negative people and situations

💞My life gets better everyday

💕My self love and confidence increases everyday

💞I destroyed my old self who was a people pleaser , insecure and needy

💕I think only good and postive thoughts

💞I always take good and right decisions

💕” I don't care , you are you , I am me “ - Wonyoung

💞I always choose myself and will continue to choose myself

💕 I don't allow others people to decide who I am , I decide that for myself

💞I carry myself with grace and elegance

💕I am immune to self sabotage behavior

💞My voice and opinion matters

💕I made everything beautiful. That is my life

💞I am IT or that girl who everyone wants to be with or wants to be

💕I am resilient. I am strong. I have the ability to deal with challenges

💞I stand up for myself .

💕I know when to say no when needed and create healthy boundaries.

💞I am my own muse and dream girl

💕I am hardworking and determined. I love how I always give my best in everything.

💞My emotions , feelings and opinions are valid

💕I do not chase , I attract , what belongs to me will simply find me

💞I do not seek validation . I am not desperate

💕I enjoy my own company

💞I make myself better everyday, I love spending time with myself and my hobbies

💕I take care of myself. I invest in my self care

💞I tend to give myself only love

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[sugarsprinklesoul]

It Girl

An It Girl is a trend-setting (in fashion, lifestyle, etc.) woman or girl with a ton of self-confidence and self-worth that sets the example of how to have it all, and look good doing it. She knows exactly who she is and what she wants, and has an unbelievable generosity of spirit; always taking time to be kind and charitable. She is like a sparkling light, and everyone around her are like the moths drawn to the light. Her magnetism is out of control, and she leaves a lasting emotional and physical impression on everyone she encounters; she's iconic. She is extremely intelligent and driven, and takes calculated risks, always learning from mistakes and those around her. She creates beauty and art through whatever talent she is blessed with. She isn't afraid to be herself and never follows the latest trends, instead creates them through her unique and impeccable sense of style. She has premium taste and very high standards, only surrounding herself with the best in all aspects of life, such as family, love, friends, and career. She is the ultimate in class and always keeps her cool. She may be incredibly attractive, but she is NOT for sale, and treasures herself too much to be used or exploited. She is always in control of herself and makes decisions based on what SHE wants for herself. However, she is NOT PERFECT, and she doesn't claim to be, no human is, she is just absolutely thrilling to be around and because she has such an inner beauty, the outside can't help but follow! There is no denying when you are in the presence of an It Girl, you just know it!

[prettieinpink]

HOW TO TO STOP OVERTHINKING

worrying is meant to be a good thing, it keeps us safe from dangerous or unideal circumstances. Overthinking is when it’s not helpful

When we overthink, we seek three things. Comfort, certainty and control. So, it’s important to learn how to be uncomfortable, expect the unexpected, have no control over situations and be fine with each of these things.

remember: no amount of worrying or overthinking can undo or solve problems.

COMFORT -> BEING UNCOMFORTABLE - We all need to start being uncomfortable with the comfortable, and being okay with things not going our way. To achieve this, we need to change our perspective on things that discourage or scare us. While this isn’t easy at all, it pays off in the long term. Start taking more risks everyday, and being open minded to new opportunities for growth, even if they’re not ideal. I say start small, like running an extra 10 minutes on your 20 minute run or saying hello to any potential friends\partners.

A little nice activity to do daily, is that while you’re making your goals/daily todo list, write down something that you absolutely do not want to do. Then, force yourself to do it(I say this in a disciplined manner). Remember, to keep on motivation, reward yourself for taking a risk today.

CONTROL -> NOT BEING IN CONTROL - The reality is that you don’t have control over many things. However, there are a handful of things we do have control over which most likely affect us the most. When you’re overthinking, get a piece of paper and a pen and write out the situation you’re overthinking about. Then draw one big circle and a smaller circle inside of it. In the big circle write things not within your control e.g what she says, cancelled plans, waiting for something etc. In the small circle write the things within your control e.g what you say, how you spend your time, what you consume etc. This allows us to think deeply about the situation, realise the actual impact of it on you, and problem solve(if it’s an actual big deal).

if you don’t know if it’s within your control or not, ask yourself if you can do anything to change the current situation. If yes, it is within your control. However, know that because something is in your control, doesn’t mean you’re always going to achieve your desired results.

CERTAINITY -> BEING UNCERTAIN - The ironic thing is that even if we think we’re certain about something, there is always a small chance that an event/situation may change. However, this isn’t something to fear at all! Once a plan fails, or you don’t achieve your goals, don’t get discouraged. There are still plenty of opportunities for growth and plenty of time to achieve your goals. I say, start living in the present time when you’re actually sure of what’s going to happen. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next year, but focus on now and what you can accomplish. Stop dwelling on the future, and what may happen.

If you find yourself worrying about the future, just meditate or journal. It gives us mental clarity to put our focus onto the things that are happening/happenend.

[psalmlover]

it will get better again :)

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[venuslilgirl]

I am falling in love with myself more everyday.

[thecosmicangel]

When you hear people say “circumstances do not matter” it’s because they don’t & they never will. As soon as you desire something & fully trust, it does not matter what happened in the past or in the present moment. Whatever you desire will happen for you no matter what. As soon as you begin to put your focus and attention only on what you want, you shift/ manifest into that desired reality, where it is happening for you & the circumstances you once thought matter do not exist.

- xoxo, the cosmic angel ⭐️🪽