#mind aspec

[pokimoko]

Ace Week is upon us again, which means it's time for me to share some more silly little critters with you all! (If you like, you can also say hello to their friends from 2021, 2022 and 2023.) ✨Go and be as amazing as always, aces✨

[trickstersaint]

i want to introduce you all to a project that is very close to my heart... or lack of one. anyway. for anyone who has ever wanted to play a poem. i'd like you to meet aromanticism

(link opens itch.io - she'll run on html in your browser! please be nice to her!)

[fettiowi]

"This character is ace because they have never shown any interest in dating or have ever seemed to experience romantic attraction!" THATS NOT ACE THATS ARO THATS AROMANTIC AROMANTICISM THOSE ARE DIFFERENT THINGS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD REMEMBER AROS EXIST OUTSIDE OF ASEXUALITY AND THAT THERE ARE ACES WHO FEEL ROMANTIC ATTRACTION PLEASE

[doodleplus]

Do not separate!

[starchild--27]

my mom: you know, i won't mind who you'll end up with, boy or girl or anything else. <3

me: yeah, i know you won't mind. <3

my mom: except for when you'll end with no one at all. <3

my recently as aspec-identifying ass: ... ._.

[enter-the-bear-circle]

Imagine romance is a song.

Yes, a song. A song you don't find particularly good or bad. It's ok, you don't mind occasionally listening to it, you might even enjoy it sometimes.

But then you realize this song is everywhere. It keeps you company while you are buying groceries, you go to school/work and all of your classmates/colleagues are listening to it, you hear strangers on the street singing the lyrics. Your favourite artist covers it. It goes viral on every possible platform. You turn on the radio and every single station plays it.

There is no way to escape it.

How do you feel then? Frustrated. Exhausted. Angry. Most likely you'll start hating the song. You wouldn't want to hear a single second of it anymore. You could get annoyed at your friends who keep talking about it. You even might feel like you are going crazy. Not a bright scenario, is it?

So next time you hear a bitter aro complain about amatonormativity please understand one thing: the problem isn't "romance is bad", it's "romance is everywhere".

[dawnbreakerluna]

sylus with an aspec!partner who experiences severe touch starvation and aversion in such sporadic moments. he doesn’t mind accommodating for those moments at all & ends up being perceptive to the little behaviors or quirks that indicate when you miss him and therefore need to feel him against you once again.

[cepheusgalaxy]

(You don't know for how long I've been thinking on doing this)

LGBTQIA+ representation on media be like:

ID: The meme with an adult holding up one child in a pool while the other drowns, and underwater is a skeleton. The adult is labeled "LGBTQIA+ "representation" in media." The kid being held up is labeled "gays" with an asterisk of "sometimes, lesbians and bi people." The drowning child is labeled "Transgender and other sexualities/romantic orientations." The skeleton is labeled "Intersex people." /end ID.

(Edit: id by @aromanticsky)

[theartsyhognose]

Happy ace week!!

[mossy-aro]

why do allos insist on viewing relationships in the most boring ways imaginable

[thatsgazebo]

The “bud” after “I love you” does NOT devalue it. And NOT just because “bud” can be interpreted romantically, but because having loving platonic relationships with friends is just as monumental.

[lovelessrage]

An aroallo canon event is walking into a space designated as friendly and safe to "all of the aspectrum" [awesome, sounds good, I like being able to talk to people about issues that affect all of us] and realizing very quickly that you are not included in "all". It's the constant need to stick up for yourself in what is supposed to be a safe space that burns aroallos out of your community spaces. If you have a stark lack of aroallos in an all-inclusive zone, ask yourself if the environment is actually safe and welcoming, or if they are expected to constantly be their own advocate with no safety net. It's immensely common and underdiscussed.

Are you sticking up for the aroallos around you? Are you asking how you can be better? Are you expecting to rely on being "called out" rather than learning for yourself? Do you know what aroallophobia looks like? What sex negativity actually is? Please don't let aroallos fade away into the background of so many boundaries crossed and lines drawn that they have to go. We need bridges between the community now more than ever, and that means making it a two way street on each one.

[the-clotpole-and-the-disgrace]

i forget if gems/rocks/minerals are a part of the fun aspec stereotypes but they should be. case and point:

also the last one reminds me of a beta fish and i find that amazing 😌😂♠️⚔️

[doodleplus]

It's only the last slice

[normystical]

if "cw sex" and "cw romance" can be a thing can we also normalize "cw romantic sex" or "cw sex with romance" or however you put it??? some people are okay with sex and romance but not the two mixed !!!

[steakout-05]

aegosexual culture is saying something like "i'd smash" at someone you find attractive but then quickly backtracking and saying something else because you forgot the term "i'd smash" directly evokes the idea of you being in a sexual situation which is ✨gross and inaccurate to your experience✨

aegosexual culture is also frequently forgetting this because the idea of you being in a situation like this is so foreign and alien to you that you don't even consider it at first and just treat the term as a shorthand for "wow this person sure is attractive" and nothing else