#men's body standards

[ryanjudgesthings]

Robert Pattinson, Zac Efron, Christopher Eccleston, and others deserve commendation for being open about their mental health. Pattinson refused to go overboard for Batman in spite of his body dysmorphia (or perhaps because of it — he did say he didn't want to be part of the problem). Efron recently came out and said trying to achieve the Baywatch look made him a depressed insomniac and it took him months to start feeling like himself again and that it wasn't a look worth trying to emulate. In the same interview he admitted to having agoraphobia. Eccleston has stated that in many of the series when he was praised for being attractive, he was actually very unwell with anorexic. He's also been open about being severely depressed, to the point of hospitalization.

I cannot stress enough how important this is for men and boys to see. Talking about men's mental health and body standards is a huge taboo and it's so important for people to break barriers. I really hope that the bravery of these lads continues to inspire a change in the mindset that people currently have around men's mental health and body standards.

[sirenium]

Include men in your body positivity. you are not body positive if you make fun of male pattern baldness, neckbeards, fatness, etc in men. these traits are just as worthy of acceptance regardless of if it's wrapped in pink bows or not.

[martuzzio]

Yes, Ren genuinely thinks cramming his wolf ears under that hat will distract people from his sharp canines, his tendency to tell Zedaph what to do, and his bad habit of barking at moving objects.

Yes, Doc genuinely thinks hanging an old rag over his face and wearing those ancient spectacles with no lenses will help distract people from... well, everything.

Yes, they're both delusional.

[marzipanandminutiae]

I don't know why people are suddenly so weird about body hair. I live in Germany and when my mom went to school one girl in her class went to the USA on summer vacation. When she came home she told everyone "Did you know American girls shave their armpits? That's so weird!" and everyone agreed that it's weird. That was in the 70s. I was born in the early 90s and when I became a teenager mandatory shaving was still kinda new. I hope people become more normal about hair again. It's completely natural and in my opinion pretty too

Yeah the individual country differences are also interesting. I know there's the famous "is it true that French babes don't shave their pits?" exchange in Home Alone, and that was in the 1990s. I think the first Milady Decollete ads that are often cited as the beginning of mainstream post-Roman body hair removal for women, c. 1915-17, were exclusively run in the US. Though Britain picked up on it not long after, as I understand. And like I said, even within the US I've read nonjudgmental descriptions of women's armpit hair in literature as late as the mid-1920s. So it was far from a done deal, culturally, when those first ads ran.

I'm solidly neutral on the look of it, myself. I don't think it looks good or bad in particular; I'm not turned on or turned off by it. It's not one of the main things I notice about a woman, physically, when evaluating if I'm attracted to her or not. But I do think it's so weird that it's been arbitrarily declared Ugly and Gross for JUST WOMEN and we have to put all this effort into removing it whether we want to or not.

(If you want to, great! I know a lot of people do for sensory or personal aesthetic reasons! But others either actively don't want to or just don't care and find it a hassle, and they shouldn't have to.)

[serpentface]

Cold sores are thought to be best addressed by lancing the sore to remove polluted blood, washing with vinegar, applying a paste of honey + tansy + horsefat. In frequently recurring cases, it's considered best practice to also shave the face to eliminate any lingering traces of infection. This is the most psychologically devastating thing that Brakul has ever experienced in his life.

[bitchapalooza]

I relate to Sanji too much because it really does seem like he’s adopted the mentality that physical and mental abuse is a form of significant affection but only directed towards himself, like he sees it’s wrong and unjust when other people are being abused, but when he’s the victim he feels this conflicted sense of I deserve it and Wow they love me so much! It’s heartbreaking just to think about tbh

[cartoonscientist]

[valewritessss]

I’m hoping (I’m praying) that once the insecurities society has created for people—mainly women— becomes too much, the world will kind of reset and we’ll realize this is ridiculous and stop caring so much about appearance.

[temmeutamanho]

"Louis-Gabriel Nouchi" - Paris Fashion Week 23

[mxwhore]

i follow a bunch of gay pron blogs for references and the lack of body diversity has benefited me in a way that i started to find the placement and physics of fat more intuitive, if that makes sense? You just gotta master the Hang and the Squish.

[lab-gr0wn-lambs]

I'm fuckin crying what is thissss

[eagledrawsandvibes]

TERFs are not allowed to touch the Barbie movie. You hear me? She is not part of your agenda, she is Barbie. Deal with it.

[robocops-a-christ-allegory]

Any trans guy who centers his AGAB makes me so mad its unreal Ive like lost my patience for it honestly. Its also always the same guys who are talking about how the queer community hates masculinity. Oppressed for being a masc masc tough guy who doesnt feel any connection to femininity until someone calls them out for being sexist/transmisogynyistic then its all about the womb (makes them ontologically incapable of treating women poorly)

[schizowitchic]

also like i partially found out i might be intersex because i was looking at trans stuff and there was like "(however many) months on t and finally seeing some bottom growth" and like pictures of t-dicks and i was like.... um.... that's kind of just what my clit looks like anyways. so i was like "hey google give me a quick rundown on this" and learned what clitoromegaly was and then i was like. hm. intersex resources. and it's like a sign? symptom? side-effect? of certain intersex conditions

[catominor]

i ended up changing my dissertation topic bcs i wasn't making progress on research for my old one and i just couldn't conjure much enthusiasm for it despite likijg the topic in theory.... even though its not ideal to change it so late i already feel much better about the other topic though so at least there's that

[iceyrukia]

Women’s self-image is as negative as ever despite the “body positivity” wave of choice feminism. Why?

I think one of the biggest reasons as to why women’s beauty standards and self-image are worse than even is because you can preach about unfair beauty standards all you want and tell women not to make fun of another woman’s looks but you can’t take away the social status and praise that women who are “beautiful” get from society (both men and women). You give them clout and praise them. Something both “body positivity” and “body neutrality” feminists do btw despite all the talk about acceptance.

It’s like saying you don’t support the ethics behind a product and yet still consume and buy it. In this case “beauty” being a luxury achieved via consumerism where women become the products (objects) that other women admire and obsess over. There is a demand so there is a supply PERIOD.

Women might not directly pursue beauty (“I do it for myself”) for men but nonetheless it’s definitely ingrained as a sign of status and that’s enough to cause a negative self-image in women who don’t participate. Men might have been the original perpetrators of installing unrealistic beauty standards for women but the victims (women) have also turned into perpetrators who can’t let go of the misogynistic status symbol of having value from appearances because it’s considered “culture”.