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iceyrukia · 3 months

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Women’s self-image is as negative as ever despite the “body positivity” wave of choice feminism. Why?

I think one of the biggest reasons as to why women’s beauty standards and self-image are worse than even is because you can preach about unfair beauty standards all you want and tell women not to make fun of another woman’s looks but you can’t take away the social status and praise that women who are “beautiful” get from society (both men and women). You give them clout and praise them. Something both “body positivity” and “body neutrality” feminists do btw despite all the talk about acceptance.

It’s like saying you don’t support the ethics behind a product and yet still consume and buy it. In this case “beauty” being a luxury achieved via consumerism where women become the products (objects) that other women admire and obsess over. There is a demand so there is a supply PERIOD.

Women might not directly pursue beauty (“I do it for myself”) for men but nonetheless it’s definitely ingrained as a sign of status and that’s enough to cause a negative self-image in women who don’t participate. Men might have been the original perpetrators of installing unrealistic beauty standards for women but the victims (women) have also turned into perpetrators who can’t let go of the misogynistic status symbol of having value from appearances because it’s considered “culture”.

#ic.text #this goes for many spaces and #why I low key have little faith that women will every be free form this hyper fixation on looks #so you support hairy women and healthy eating but look at the own you praise #even if you’re not shit talking may women and saying positive words #it doesn’t go unnoticed how certain women are still valued #men don’t have a these self esteem issues because they are largely INDIFFERENT towards even handsome men #and this is why this whole ‘body positivity”’ from libfems to ‘body neutrality’#from radfems is just fake and two sides of the same coin #as long as you have have a constant steam of praise and clout for women #then women WILL be hella self-aware and conscious about their looks #how can’t they when ‘oh women pretty’ is constantly throw on their faces #that’s why women self monitor and all your ‘ x feature is pretty’ or ‘ have a neutral opinion on X feature because we’re human’ will never #work when you turn around and praise ( so raise the status of and regard) conventionally attractive women who perform femininity #it’s the leading cause as to why women pursue beauty - for praise and status - so of course the incentive will always be there #and to me it makes a lot of sense because if tomorrow there arose a kind of culture within society where attractive men who #really groomed themselves where praised to high heavens #whether women finally having standards for men or men casually valuing super handsome men #( without putting any ‘ugly’ men down for their looks)#a lot of men would subconsciously pick up on the new valored social status and want to peruse it #but they don’t have that culture that surround them AT all ( unlike with wome) so you don’t see men #with the bajillion complexes that women have - men have no incentive #they hardly ever get reminded that handsome men are valuable #the way women are valued by BOTH men and women for their beauty #tldr: both body positity or body neutrality are ineffective if you still give status into women who DO fit the standard #women and girls aren’t blind and will absolutely go for whatever gets them praised when if it’s harmful because the feedback/acceptance/#praise/money etc is WORTH it

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