#me and my group of online friends

[spyroz]

if anyone needs help identifying things that can become moral scrupulosity OCD obsessions/compulsions, heres a list of some i've experienced:

rereading your posts/texts over and over

checking your notes and/or followers list frequently to "make sure" bad actors aren't interacting with you

checking OP's blog before interacting with posts

compulsively opening a social media tab to look at your notifs and then closing it, over and over

fearing ways that things you say/do (or don't do) could be taken in bad faith. being anxious that your words/actions will be misconstrued as morally wrong, bigoted, rude, or aggressive

feeling guilty or obsessing over whether you should or shouldn't have reblogged a post

feeling like you aren't "allowed" to disengage from online discourse or unfollow people who post it

fearing you're being stalked, talked about, or called out behind your back. fearing you'll never be forgiven and that people might even celebrate your disappearance or death, even though you havent done anything wrong

searching your own name/username to see if anyone is actually talking about you

imagining defenses you would make against nonexistent heinous accusations or arguments against you, to prove that you didnt do it

feeling like you have to roll over and become a doormat when others are cruel to you, because it could cause strife if you do anything other than grovel or apologize

having trouble enforcing your own boundaries out of fear that they are somehow "wrong" or unethical

ending up surrounded by people who have all the "right opinions" but are super mean and unpleasant, and make you feel like you have to walk on eggshells

fearing that just HAVING moral ocd makes you a bad person somehow (for example, i often fear that having moral ocd is somehow pushing a 'stranger danger' or misanthropist agenda, even though i actually have a lot of faith in my fellow humans)

some of these bullet points are not inherently bad on their own, but if you find yourself having this kind of anxiety very often, that's not normal, and it's time to get offline or even seek professional help if it's impacting your life

this list is catered to how online culture influences moral scrupulosity, it is not indicative of how everybody's moral scrupulosity functions, and it is not exhaustive

[nagitosstolenhand]

the ages of the upper moons all together are really funny to me. i made a chart to conceptualize my feelings

[st-dionysus]

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[bewitching-666]

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[katsigian]

Idk I think that if a person never reblogs anyone else's creations/posts, never talks to anyone, never even extends a simple friendly gesture to anyone, and never even likes anyone else's posts/creations

Then maybe they don't have a reason to complain about not finding any connection to anyone online and don't have a reason to complain about how 'cold' fandom is. Pot, meet kettle.

They're part of the reason why fandom feels unwelcoming. It takes zero effort to just like someone's post they made. It takes zero effort to hit the reblog button - you don't even have to put tags! - and let someone know that their posts are being acknowledged. Maybe then these people who complain about having no connection would indeed find connection

[boo-cool-robot]

It's really strange that over the past 3 years I've become someone who finds it easier in a lot of ways to do in-person social interactions! (And the ways it's hard for me have to do with chronic illness and Covid.) It's definitely has to do with the fact that my in-person social circle is like, weirdly compatible with my autism flavor considering that most of them aren't autistic. People think it's cool and fun that I know a bunch of weird stuff! They think I'm easy to deal with because I say what I think and state what I prefer! I am considered a Helpful Part of the Community! It's really nice :)

(It's mostly people who are actively engaged with the people around them, which I think does have a kind of positive effect. Like, it's normal to ask for favors and it's also normal to be generous with whatever you do have/are good at.)

(I also suspect that there are some aspects of white-majority social spaces I really struggle with but can't articulate, and that's not a problem in this social circle.)

[cheesyfan]

I llove my friends

@ju91t3rs-rambles0rwtv

[queer-reader-07]

shoutout to the guy in my chem class who i’m in a little study group with who i guess took the time to look at my profile on discord and figured out my pronouns (i didn’t bother announcing them to the group because i didn’t want the hassle)

my guy has only gendered me correctly, both out loud when we’re talking in office hours and in text in the study group group chat.

[puppyeared]

if escape rooms as team building exercises became popular im not sure if id be more excited or terrified

[thewickerking]

3 year old messages cannot be having me giggling out loud it is three am. Sighs. I think more than anything I just miss having the energy to text as many people as often as I used to. I miss late night conversations while barely awake and memorizing timezones and inside jokes and well okay maybe I do miss specific people. I miss the groupchats and servers and communities i was a part of... especially now when I feel such a lack of community around me.... :/

[fudgecake-charlie]

[steph-anie723]

i feel blehh ,,,,,very sad very ☹️

[lemonynuggets]

makes me so insane when I see people bullying others for existing like. Does this person’s existence hurt you this much. Do you really have the primordial need of shaming anyone that’s slightly different from you. Do you feel that much rage seeing someone else be happy.

[frogzedat-thelizardcouncil]

The latest Crusader Kings DLC/Update added the ability to play an unlanded character or to become unlanded and not instantly game over, so I've been playing the absolute shit out of it just to enjoy being Some Dude^tm just hanging out doing cool stuff.

And its really made me start playing in the Eastern half of the map more. Like I have this bias towards playing in Europe because I historically understand it and India always seemed cool but intimidating because I don't know what happens over there. It doesn't connect with me. But being this adventurer who just follows the money/adventure has made me experience more and more of it amd be able to dip any time I want, and gave me a place to kinda start venturing more and more east.

Did you know the Kurdish Culture has a unique unit? Dod you know it absolutely owns? I didn't until I was in the Abbasid Caliphate and was given the option to recruit a local unit and got it. It rules, my new favorite unit. So now I want to play as a landed character in the Iranian Intermezzo, something I was too intimidated to try in the past.

I just love how this update has expanded my horizons as a player, probably the best one they've done so far, and thats saying something.

[bmpmp3]

i do wish i was better at communicating with people online and through technology. i wander into conversations and make new ones all the time irl with random people and its fun but im like hyping myself to type out a single response to a Post. and to say nothing of how difficult it is to get me to say something in a discord server

[inkbagel]

This collab I joined like eight months ago that I didn’t really enjoy being in finally got posted today but for some reason only on twitter and I don’t go there so I can’t even see the whole thing :/