#love triangles

[sinfulpatata]

the one that got away

"i write the regrets of our love on burning paper and send its ashes to your new lover."

: au where lwj gets betrothed to nmj post-burning of cloud recesses for political reasons. Cue unrealized wangxian AND nielan 🤩😍

wonderful threadfic available on twitter by happyyycaat! 😍

[kalihoffs]

Mizu

[before-it-felt-like-a-sin]

"Love triangle" baby that's a throuple

[vladdyissues]

How do you feel about all this Sam x Danny (knowing we literally ship Vlad and Danny), I feel like if Sam finds out about a pompous relationship he would try to take Danny off Vlad's hands 😭 (I was thinking about a fanfic of that style, what do you think?)

(About the ship) I'd probably feel a lot more positive about Amethyst Ocean if Sam's character had been written a little better and their relationship wasn't bristling with so many red flags and contrary, counterintuitive moments. Like in S3E09, when Danny dreams of kissing Sam, wakes up screaming, and literally calls it "a nightmare". This is supposed to be the endgame relationship of the entire series? Come on, Butch.

But I don't hate AO. I tolerate it in canon and pretty much ignore it in fandom. Ship and let ship ✌ But when it comes to fanfic, it's all too easy to end up unfairly bashing the "unwanted" character in the love triangle, especially if the author already doesn't like the character.

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I wrote a few fics of this nature long ago, and while they might have been mildly funny on the surface, they were really quite boring and out of character. Crackfic, basically. I kind of cringe just thinking about them because they fall under the fandom faux pas of "annoying female character with the canon romantic connection getting in the way of my beloved non-canon m/m ship".

This isn't to say you shouldn't write a fanfic about a shocked or jealous Sam trying to break up Danny and Vlad's relationship, but I think it should be handled with care—at least if you're trying to write Sam realistically or have a story with a semisweet or bittersweet ending. If you want to go the toxic, twisted, dark route—which is quite intriguing, to be honest—all that matters is making sure Sam doesn't turn into a parody or a punching bag. She's got to be believable, human, and at least somewhat true to her character.

Like, we know she loves Danny. (Unless she's planning on getting revenge, she isn't going to intentionally hurt him.) Her heart is broken, possibly her dreams, too. She's worried for him. She doesn't trust that Vlad hasn't brainwashed Danny or is manipulating him somehow. Why didn't Danny even tell her he liked Vlad, or that they had made peace with each other? Was Danny so repulsed by the thought of dating her that Vlad looked like a better option? Does she think she's responsible for Danny realizing he's gay or bi? Oof.

These are some of the questions I'd be asking myself before I even started writing. Of course, you're welcome to ignore me and proceed with your own concepts if you've already decided on how you want to write your fic. Whatever you decide to do, do it with all your spirit!

[tryslora]

On being demisexual and reading insta-attraction love triangles...

So today I was reading a fantasy romance novel (pretty sure it’s billed as a romantasy but y’know, that genre has one meaning for me and this isn’t it? but that’s a different topic). The POV character has been experiencing attraction (for the first time, I think?—she’s had a lot of trauma in her century of life so she hasn’t wanted to get attached to people) to one male character. Now she’s experiencing attraction to a second one, is equally confused by it, and I see a love triangle forming.

The love triangle is often the basis of relationship conflict in genre romance books. I kind of hate it.

But today I realized WHY I don’t like the typical framing of it, and why my brain is almost always like “why not both?” as a solution.

I’m demisexual. For me, physical attraction is intrinsically linked to an emotional attraction/attachment. So when I see this instantaneous attraction, in the back of my brain, I assume there must also be a huge emotional thing going on. I don’t think of physical first, then emotional.

And if someone is physically attracted to multiple people, they must also be experiencing an emotional pull, right? Which means the simplest way to resolve it is to entangle further with everyone. Because I love emotional entanglements.

Of course, this isn’t how the writers are usually thinking (I can’t say for sure on this book—I’m only 60% in and just found the second person she’s attracted to). A more typical love triangle starts with physicality in multiple directions, but resolves into it only being emotional in one.

My brain continues to insist that emotions come first.

And I’m really not opposed to the concept of polyamory. Communication and trust and building a community of solid love and affection? I mean. How awesome is that idea?

But hey, at least I know now why I feel like the insta-attraction of a typical love triangle feels so weird to me.

Nothing like being in my 50s and still untangling my psychological issues around words for certain kinds of sexuality not existing while I was a teen.

Also see: why I write the books I needed when I was growing up.

[sincericida]

ANDREW GARFIELD and FLORENCE PUGH

playing "Yay or Nay" in new video for the press of "We Live In Time".

(X)

[valewritessss]

My hate for love triangles stemmed from me reading Keeper of the Lost Cities in 5th grade and loving Sophitz until I found out they weren’t endgame and it pissed me off so bad (I hate being wrong) that to this day I feel bitter about it

[fragmentedink]

can't have a love triangle without at least 1 queer character because otherwise you just have an upside down v and that, my good dudes, is not how shapes work

[coverteyes]

The Love Triangles of Escaflowne

I count 8 official and 2 maybes/in some opinions.

Did I miss any? It's been many months since I've seen the series in full.

[audioroleplayconfessions]

I hate how every single time an audio even slightly hints at there being a love triangle there's some smug comment saying "Erm actually this dilemma could be solved by polyamory 🤓☝️"

SHUT💥THE💥FUCK💥UP💥

I want the love triangle! I want the drama I want the pining and competition! I want the dilemma! And I don't want some corny ass tumblr fanfic polycule ending that shit is cringe.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

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[centuryberry]

In Yue shadowpeach work, she should add a rival that wants macaque. It's not azure, no one in the mortal realm or Celestia realm would think it's azure, but wukong and macaque knows. (This "fictional" person would probably be written pretty likeable, loyal and dashing, suffering from angst of unrequited love, manipulative only for love. A good 2nd choice if things had been different. Gains a small cult following that has wukong riled up)

Rofl Yue giving her Azure inspired OC 2nd male lead syndrome. She does a very tasteful job with his character too. Not that she doesn’t do Wukong and Macaque’s characters justice but there’s something more charismatic about Azure’s character. The whole “unrequited love” bit also makes him very relatable. (Yue accidentally made Azure into Eponine and Wukong as Cosette.)

It’s one of Yue’s more popular works. Wukong hates Azure’s character with a passion and side eyes his sworn brother even though Yue insists that this character is completely fictional.

[polyamzeal]

[teashh]

So I binged Castaway Diva yesterday and I had a few thoughts. Honestly, the first time I started Castaway Diva, I almost stopped when they introduced a love triangle. Because let's be honest; love triangles suck. But I thought of giving it a shot after seeing the trajectory the love triangle trope was taking in Korean movies and series, as seen in hometown cha cha cha, 20th century girl, Daily dose of sunshine, crash course in romance and etc. And needless to say, I wasn't disappointed. The drama is beautiful and heartwarming and heart touching and I especially loved the way they resolved the love triangle. Clear and open communication. And the realisation of the importance and worth of platonic relationships.

For too long, we have seen platonic relationships relegated to the place of a consolation prize. Something you get when you don't get the girl. But platonic relationships are beautiful and worthy of the same amount of love and commitment that romantic relationships have and it's about time that series and movies realise that and follow that instead of just throwing the second lead in the shadows. I hope the next trajectory will let us see some polyamory.