#little girls into terfs

[hotpinkcyanmillie]

Making the left kinder and more empathetic should always be a goal we strive to attain but I think we do more damage than harm by pretending people, even young people, do not frequently choose to participate in systems of oppression explicitly because of the way that that participation benefits them. If you don’t acknowledge the problems for what they are, the reality for what it is, you will not come up with solutions that will actually work. 

I genuinely don’t believe there’d be a dip in people like Tate’s popularity if we cut the anti-men shit in Half. Its important to curb sure. But its not relevant Here, in This context.

[junotter]

All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.

Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.

In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.

[orkbutch]

GOT! Karlach's experience of gender is getting sometimes sir'd, sometimes ma'am'd, often stuttered at fearfully, and approached by chasers on Both sides of the transgender experience

[kaleidoscopic-quiddity]

for anyone wondering about current public opinion on trans ppl in the uk, tories have #boycottcostacoffee trending on twitter bc this mural put on a random costa express van for brighton pride last year shows a person w/ top surgery scars and apparantly thats 'glorifying the irreversible mutilation of young women's bodies', so yeah, we're doing great (:

[pwurrz]

of course terfs would get mad at a post reminding them that there’s more to being a woman than misery and suffering: they’re misogynists. they hate women. their misogyny is just the ‘woke’ kind where they re-enforce the idea that women are weaker and stupider and generally less capable compared to men but like, in a ‘feminist’ way 🤪💅

when you hate women and genuinely believe they are inferior, that they are lesser, it’s impossible to see that there’s any joy or pride or anything positive about being a woman. especially if you yourself are a woman who believes in this kind of self-deprecating mindset.

[autistic-katara]

why does tumblr keep recommending me terfs- what am i doing wrong?

[vinecoveredgarden]

I try to understand the viewpoints of people different to me, because I think it's very important to know how bigotry works so I don't accidentally fall into it myself.

I understand, on some level, how a lot of bigotry works. Racism, sexism, homophbia...but one I can't quite understand is Trans-Inclusive Radical Feminism.

RadFem beliefs are built on the idea that "Man = Bad, Woman = Good", right? And, by extension, TERF (Trans-Exclusive RadFem) is a stance where a Trans Woman is "just a predatory man trying to invade women's spaces". (We're not gonna mention the way they treat trans men because 1: I don't have as much experience learning about that one and 2: It isn't as relevant here).

That's a pretty simple conclusion to make, right? Incorrect, definitely, but simple. If "men are all evil and abusive" is your belief, then "trans women are just men trying to prey on women" is a pretty easy conclusion to come to, I feel.

But TIRF ideology seems a little less simple. To a TIRF, anyone with a penis is evil and predatory and abusive...UNLESS they claim to be trans? Like, if you believe men are all those horrible things, wouldn't you be a little suspicious when a biologically male individual comes up to you and says "But I'm actually a woman, you can trust me!"

Is it like with transmeds and shit where you have to be the "right" kind of trans? Do I have some misunderstanding of the ideology? I don't get where it comes from tbh.

[rose-coloured-boy]

i need tumblr to understand that asking me, like...once a month or whatever to get tumblr premium or whatever it's called actively makes me LESS likely to buy it than i already was. we have moved from a position of zero likelihood to negative likelihood. are we aiming for a loop around? what is the plan here?

[steviecrowdude]

I have seen far too many aphobic posts now that either hate sex repulsed aces for "giving the community a bad name" or whatever, or hate sex favorable aces for like, being fine with sex.

Hey aphobes, aspec labels are about attraction not. What we are comfortable with or enjoy doing.

God yall are just fucking rancid.

Leave aspec people alone if you wanna hate so bad.

[booblywooblies]

posting this here bc ive put this topic on my main enough for today

its not directly related to what ive been talking about but i keep thinking about how people say stuff like "terfs never target trans mascs because they want to convert them" and its like, does anyone have any idea how horribly sexually predatory terfs actually are to trans mascs? like i wouldnt expect anyone to go looking for what terfs actually talk about but the shit they say about fetishizing trans mascs, infiltrating trans spaces specifically to prey on them, forcing them to detransition, rape, its not good.

and then they turn around and call gay trans men fetishizing rapists

and like i dont dig that deep into terf blogs sometimes i go through them because i like to update shinigami eyes and get some blocklist coverage and this stuff is not hard to find, theyre posting this stuff in their bios and pinned.

[lilyliveredlittlerichboy]

kinda wanna blow some terfs minds by telling them that i, an afab, also identify as a trans woman. woman but in a trans way

[seagodofmagic]

most of the discourse on here is stupid and i have a real life where i engage meaningfully with these things offline but it's incredibly depressing to see people attacking trans men for wanting to use a word other than "misogyny" to describe their often violent and specific oppression

[boyslugs]

tumblr stop recommending me terfs challenge! yes i am a feminist, but i am also hugely trans and believe intersectionality is the only way forward. yes i believe in deconstructing gender and gender roles but i also know how important gender is to people's sense of self, and that it's impossible to try to categorize gender more specifically than "a [gender] is defined as someone who identifies as a [gender]" without excluding someone, just like when in metaphysics my professor asked "define what a chair is" and then pulled out so many examples of "okay, by your definition a stool isnt a type of chair" and "what about bean bag chairs" or "that could be a table, which implies that all tables are chairs"

terfs and swerfs could be fighting for and with everyone against the oppressive systems we live under but they're so set in their ways that they refuse to see how the patriarchy harms men too, or how even if the porn industry has a lot of problems, many people of all genders enjoy sex work and are fulfilled by choosing it as a career path, or how a lot of the things trans people are fighting for would result in a better world for everyone- but it's easier to just say "rights for me but all men are evil oppressors and trans people are either traumatised or are evil and anyone doing sw is coerced or damaging our fight"

i could go on about this for way longer but i already have a bad feeling this might end up spreading further than i'd like so TO REITERATE:

TERFS AND SWERFS FUCK OFF. THERE IS NO LIBERATION FOR ONE UNLESS WE UPLIFT EVERYONE. INTERSECTIONALITY IS KEY. ok bye

[dimonds456]

hey tumblr, thanks for recommending me a TERF post "based on my likes." I hope the hour I spent blocking as many people as I could bear in the notes is enough of a hint for you.

[magentagalaxies]

hey so i'm not making a DNI because i don't want to (i initially had a longer attempt at articulating a reason and then i realized i don't have to explain more than "i don't want to") but the past few blogs that have followed me are very harry pottter focused and given the actions and rhetoric of jk rowling i'd appreciate it if any blogs who prominently post harry potter themed content would kindly refrain from following me.

you can probably still reblog my posts, not bc of my moral stance but bc honestly i don't really notice who reblogs from me unless they have a huge red flag in their url, but in terms of following my blog i'd prefer it if harry potter bloggers could just not

and i know there's always the excuse of separating the art from the artist (like people who continue to post about harry potter but end every post with "fuck jkr tho"), and not everyone even knows why jkr is a horrible person bc a lot of the discussion is very online (that's the reason this is worded so empathetically, i'm assuming harry potter fans who follow me are in either of these two camps but if you're just an outright terf then go fuck yourself of course). but even if you're entirely dedicated to balancing every harry potter post with a post about hating terfs, the fact that harry potter is still being promoted in a way that's uncritical of the content itself makes me uncomfortable and by making the harry potter brand maintain relevance that's still supporting jkr no matter how many times you put "fuck terfs" on your blog

disagree with me if you want bc i can't control whether people post about one of the largest fandoms in history, but i can make a statement being like "hey if you follow me and your most recent posts are all harry potter gifsets i will be blocking you so honestly for your own convenience please don't put in the effort of following me"

[chartreuxcatz]

Okay I think I have it figured out now.

I am a girl. But being a girl is relatively low on my list of priorities in terms of things I identify as/with.