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We're thinking about starting a Tumblr community for plurals who write. Probably private, so we can share drafts without all of Tumblr being able to see it. If we did, would anyone want to join?

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y'know what a big pet peeve of mine is?

the phrase "this isn't for you" appended to "pro-/endos dni" on posts about trauma. usually trauma recovery. not necessarily about CDDs (though i'll get into why that's ALSO fucked up in a bit), but just about trauma in general.

i am a big believer in curating your space. i curate mine; i don't like how aggressive syscourse tends to be, so i don't engage in it. i don't really care what "side" they're on, what matters to me is how they treat others. it is okay for you to set boundaries surrounding your interactions with others, including those you don't want to interact with. i'm not saying you shouldn't do what you need to do to feel comfortable in your space.

but why not leave it at "dni" (this is also about the "fuck off" tag but that's a whole different conversation)? why append "this isn't for you"?

that implies that whatever kind words you said in that post, whatever encouragement you wanted to give, whatever "positive" thing you were trying to do, isn't deserved by the people you don't like.

even if someone who identifies as endogenic is a trauma survivor, "this post isn't for you".

even if they're person with a CDD who happens to "believe in" and/or support people who identify as endogenic, "this post isn't for you".

if you are "wrong" in someone's eyes, "this post isn't for you".

honestly, to me, it minimizes the words. they're not actually for all trauma survivors. they're not for all people with CDDs. they're for the ones that you find palatable. and that's...uncomfortable, to put it as kindly as i can.

and it's so unnecessary. it is not equivalent to just saying "dni". you are NOT the arbiter of what people deserve or don't, especially when it comes to trauma support/solidarity.

and maybe this is just me misinterpreting the phrase! but it just makes me skin crawl. like idk if there's really a way to justify it that would make me go "oh, i get it" because i don't (but i'm open to discussing it). why not treat each other as human beings deserving of respect and healing?

anyway, this has been a long enough post. i'm tired. i don't know if this even bothers anyone else. but it bugs the shit out of me.

oh, i was going to keep this in the tags, but this is something i want people to see: i mostly see this with people who identify with being anti-endo. but if you identify as pro-/endo and you do this "this isn't for you" thing on general positivity/recovery posts, then this is also about you. and if you don't, then it's not lol.

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more transplurals, more transdid, more transosdd, more willowgenic systems, more "fake it till you make it" systems

more systems who piss people off

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since it’s pride month. reminder that queer people having a healthy sex life is normal. queer people can have kinks. lesbians can express attraction to women without being gross or predatory. gay men aren’t scary. trans people are valid no matter where they are in their transition. asexual and aromantic people are included in our community too. non-binary people don’t owe you an explanation. bisexuals don’t have to “pick a side”.

we all have different experiences but we should all try our best to make each other feel welcome.

and the A has never stood for ally. hope this helps.

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You know what?

(Draws your favourite ponies as POC)

This is for the weirdos in the fandom attacking artists for drawing headcanons🤭🤭

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happy PRIDE i’m here i’m queer and i believe the land should be given back to the proper indigenous stewards.

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glad to see those spreading the truth

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stop using disabled body as your idea of body horror. stop using us to be your villains. stop making us ghastly beings. stop making disabilities seem ugly and making ugly disabilities seem like a reason to disrespect them. stop treating disabled people as repulsive subhumans. stop using other people’s lives to make fantasy when that fantasy is simply stigmatising them. stop profiting over disabled hate. we are people. similarly, stop using intersex people as body horror as well. stop using us as this big horror in erotic art and other types of fiction. you have no right to demonise our bodies. respect people.

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*puts my paws on your shoulders urgently*

you've got to get weirder with it!!! you've got to be true to yourself, because then, only the real ones will stick around.

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You're too stressed, go to baby jail.

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"Why would you WANT to be plural??"

Because without The Guy in my head ripping at the seams to love me, I am incapable of digging myself out of the Self Hatred Hole.

If YOUR system is dysfunctional, that sucks! I'm so sorry to hear that! But it doesn't suddenly mean that every system is disordered, that every headmate is out to get the host/original, that every body holding multiple beings is automatically suffering more.

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getting sex reassignment surgeries willingly is not gross. getting top surgery is not gross. having breasts removed is not gross. having breast enlargement surgeries is not gross. getting bottom surgery is not gross. bodies with phalloplasties are not gross. bodies with metoidioplasties are not gross. bodies with orchiectomies are not gross. bodies with vaginoplasties are not gross. bodies with hysterectomies are not gross. bodies with penectomies are not gross. post-op top surgery chests are not gross. post-op bottom surgery genitals are not gross.

we need to do people who have gotten surgeries better. trans bodies are beautiful and people deserve to be the happiest they can in their own bodies. trans bodies are not gross. you will encounter people who have gotten surgeries and you'll never be any the wiser. trans bodies are beautiful.

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I can't regulate without attention. I'm happiest with my NPD self-diagnosis and my internal belief in it.

That doesn't suddenly make my need for attention evil, especially when I'm just as likely to give attention.

hey btw!!! calling people you don't agree with "attention seekers" is in fact ableist. I have HPD. seeing people throw around the term "attention seeker" and applying it to anyone they don't understand is actively harmful.

even if people ARE doing it for attention, STOP calling people attention seekers. it's fucking ableist and dismissive.

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Thinking more about Mech dysphoria today.

Stepping out of your cockpit and stumbling because you don't have the right number of legs.

Blinking your eyes out of sync because you don't have the right number anymore, don't have access to on board cameras the way you're supposed to.

Struggling to grab and pick things up because you have the wrong number of fingers.

Failing to recognize your face in the mirror without layers of armor plating over it.

Feeling like a brain pulled from its body and forced to function independently.

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I'm boy,,,,