#like i have plenty of lesbian ships i like. im not a lesbian

[daffodi1]

And to be honest over the years I've started to think the fujoshi label is stupid too. Like yes fetishizing gay men is bad but people who enjoy gay relationships in media aren't inherently fetishizing them, even if they themselves are not gay. You're allowed to just... like material and characters that you can't relate to. It's okay.

[swagging-back-to]

i hate that there was so much opportunity to touch on how all those bubbled and corrupted crystal gems would feel knowing rose was pink diamond. it caused so much turmoil even among their tiny group, now times that by a hundred.

Also, all the gems who were corrupted but NOT crystal gems. sure, we see jasper and we see a clip of the nephrites (centi) but there must've been even more homeworld gems uncorrupted all at once. spinel showed more hatred and devastation about it than any of those corrupted gems.

and yes, they probably didnt do anything because all 4 diamonds were there, but afterward? once it's just them on their own? how could that not cause a bunch of chaos?

[alchcmys]

Ranting about it on here because I fear tiktok is not a safe place for this.

Okay, so, I just watched thunderbolts and ive been seeing edits on tiktok of people shipping yelena with the other characters. This is something that’s annoyed me since black widow came out and people started shipping yelena and Bucky because they wanted winterwidow. Then when Hawkeye came out people started shipping yelena with Kate. And now since thunderbolts yelena has been shipped with Ava and Bob (I won’t even go into how yelena and bob are completely platonic).

The problem is, is that yelena is aroace. And yes, there are aroace people out there who are in relationships etc and that does not make them any lsss valid, it’s a spectrum.

However, yelena has stated in the comics that she’s not interested in anyone.

Proof.

Now im completely aware of how problematic Devin Grayson is. Her run of Nightwing was a whole other breed of problematic that she still defends to this day.

But that doesn’t change the fact that yelena is aroace.

The main thing that bothers me is that the same people that ship yelena with others and say that ‘the mcu doesn’t need to follow the comics’ are the same people who pushed for Loki to be confirmed as bi in the tv show, that say that Tony is bi in the comics (which btw is more hinted and never fully stated outright), they also push for carol to be confirmed as a lesbian (who has been dating rhodey for a while in the comics). This isn’t me saying I don’t want these to be true, I agree that Tony’s character is bi, that mcu carol (because I haven’t read any of her comics but she’s made an appearance in some ive read) is a lesbian, and also that Loki is bi and gender-fluid.

I just think it’s hypocritical for people to say all this but disregard yelenas sexuality.

It’s as though representation matters until it’s something you don’t like.

So many people are under the impression that without romance or sex you can’t be fulfilled. Which just isn’t true. And it think that’s why so many people struggle to accept asexual/aromantic people. But they exist.

In the end yelena is aroace and always will be. Stop shipping her with characters there’s plenty of other characters out there. Let the aroace community have the little representation they have.

I will never hate on a ship that someone ships that I don’t (as long as not fucking illegal like shipping a minor with an adult!!!) but I also will stick to canon sexualities (eg I will hate on Robin x Steve (stranger things) because Robin is a lesbian she has stated this) and just like how yelena has stated she’s not anything and has been confirmed as aroace I will respect that and stick to it and not ship her with anyone as should you.

Give the same energy you give to people shipping lesbians with men, or gay men with women, or head cannoning a character with a confirmed sexuality with another sexuality, to people shipping aroace characters with others!!!

Representation matters even if it’s something you don’t like. Get over it.

[olderthannetfic]

Im neither a proshipper nor an anti at this current stage in life, but at one point i was an anti i guess? And I hate it say it, but looking back, I understand why. I don't think I actually gave a fuck about Harmful Fanfic or whatever, it was just a substitute for therapy that i couldn't get at the time (because "literally neurodivergent and a minor" or whatever, but like...actually literally neurodivergent and a minor LOL).

As weird as it sounds like, no one cared about my ACTUAL PAIN, and that made me feel EVEN MORE PAIN, so i took it out on ppl who shipped "abuse", or whatever.

It's so stupid now, as an adult who is mentally better than I was then, but as ridiculous as it was, seeing someone ship an "abusive" ship or a "queer erasing ship" (like a canonically gay character with someone of the other binary gender)...it felt eerily similar to the actual abuse I was facing and the stress that everyone was putting on me to find a boyfriend or ask why my (closeted lesbian) self didn't like any boys.

But it was so much easier to keyboard warrior about how people who ship Bad things are Bad people, than it was to fix any problems in my actual life because...well, the actual problems in my life COULDN'T be fixed. That isn't a learned helplessness thing, there was genuinely nothing I could've done. So pissing off Shippers was, like, a vessel for that, and it *felt* like I was getting to lash out at the same people who were ACTUALLY hurting me, even though that obviously is not the case. Funny thing is, it wasn't actual fandom discourse that made me switch sides, it was getting to learn more about youth liberation movements and stuff, because it was then that I recognized the actual structures that were making me hurt.

I think one silver lining is it's made me more compassionate an adult. While I don't have any defense for the antis who do actual horrendous stuff like doxxing or sending death/rape threats, etc, I do have a lot of defense for the ones who were like me and would just make posts talking about how Wrong it is to ship certain things. I know that not all antis are in the same place that I was once was, and some are just genuinely immature brats, but it's like. . . I get it, you know?

The cycle of abuse/bullying is weird and it's not often a 1:1 "I had an abusive parent so now i'll be an abusive parent", sometimes it's the chronically online stuff like I did. It's also why I'm careful-careful to not engage and to just block or, even try to have a mature discussion if I can, and if the person I'm talking to is just "a little bit annoying" rather than "actual bully doing/sending illegal stuff". A lot of them just want to be heard, I think, and it really makes me sad that this is the way they choose to be heard...but also i get it, because i was that.

--

Yup. We often discuss anti tendencies in this framework.

People want control over their environment when they have none. They want the world to make sense and for there to be simple rules they can follow to Never Mess Up. This is a very common reaction to trauma and also typical of brains that like order and neat boxes and a world full of justice and logic.

The trouble is that a critical mass of "I'm just pointing this out" type posts does tend to make all the other teens with an issue around moral scrupulosity implode. (And let's be real, plenty of the antis themselves are secretly into dark content and are trying to pray the gay kink away.)

I have some sympathy, but I'm still going to tell people they're sealioning when they are and tell them they're flat out wrong about how fantasies work, not sugar coat it because they're probably a delicate teen. There's no need to be excessively mean or treat people as irredeemable, but I also don't like how we talk endlessly about compassion for teen antis and not for teens targeted by antis. It's similar to how there are all those complaints like "Hey, I work hard to manage my mental illness, but all the support seems to go to people who are letting their issues rampage..."

[princehoneytea]

HAPPY LESBIAN VISIBILITY WEEK!!!! im one of those. :-) being a lesbian is the only part of my identity that has never felt shaky; and im really grateful for that!! i wanted to take the opportunity to talk a little about myself in relation to my identity

there has never been a time in my life where i was not in some way aware that i was a lesbian, even when i didnt rly know that was a thing you could be. i liked holding hands with other girls throughout elementary, had my childhood crushes on amy rose and maka albarn, imagined kissing the girl i had anime ship debates with in middle school... and of course i had plenty of hardships in high school with freaks who thought i should "turn straight". im really lucky to have a family who supported me through everything no matter what.

ive struggled a lot with my gender identity, though. im 26 and still not sure where i fall. as a teen and young adult, i said i was a girl because it was easier than saying anything else - but when i got to the age where ppl started calling me a "woman", i started getting really uncomfortable with it. i can be a girl if it's easiest, but i'm not a woman, and that's something that's hard to explain.

i'm not a woman! i'm not a man! i can be a girl if you want! i can be a boy if you want! i don't want to be a "secret third gender", but i want to be something else even further removed! i want a different body! i want a deep, manly voice! i don't want any body hair! i want to be graceful! i want to be imposing! i want to be a girl in a boy way! i want to be a boy in a girl way! i want...? i am...? it's very confusing to me. i even enjoy when people mistake me for different genders, as long as it's not "woman".

i think my ocs and art have grown a lot to reflect my relationship with gender, though i myself am not always sure how to interpret that, either. it makes me really happy that my art resonates with people of lots of different gender identities, though. to me it's like a big simmering pot and you can take whatever you'd like out of it, interpretation-wise.

all this to say i guess i identify most with the term "lesbian twink" for now. that's my gender i guess. who really knows, though. i'm just yapping.

[ecoterrorist-katara]

hello hello! can i just say, i love your takes so much. it feels like you’ve read my mind on how katara would actually react in certain situations. currently myself, im rewriting the structure of the show in a way that makes more sense (aka, getting rid of kataang altogether and focusing on actual growth for each character including aang!) and im struggling a bit on aang actually!

we know how brykke basically stunted aang’s growth because of their weirdness. but what if aang never had a crush on katara? what if he sees katara as the big sister he always wanted instead, making their relationship more wholesome than weird? i think he’s such a centralized character, but when i develop the others beyond the show, aang feels like he’s left behind.

maybe that’s part of it too! he is a boy out of time, and now more of a concept than a person as far as anyone else outside of his immediate group knows. in this au where i intend to age everyone up, i’m just curious to see what kind of man aang would grow up into if his motivations for katara was never there. i see him as trying to hold onto his lost childhood and then having to come to terms with the fact he can’t. but i’d love to hear your thoughts. who is aang outside of that? his journey has the opportunity to be so fascinating, but brykke kind of said hey! let’s not get into that! let’s make him a creepy god boy who gets whatever he wants!

(also to note, this version of aang is meant to be with azula and while i love the meta ive seen about taang i do personally hc her as a lesbian but i do like them but yeah!)

also sorry if this is too rambly i’m just very excited!

hi! This is such a nice message, and please never apologize for rambling! My blog is a safe space for all ramblers. Your fic sounds like a very exciting project!

I definitely agree with you that he’d try to hold onto his childhood & have a hard time with his grief; coming to terms with the depth of his loss would be an exceptionally interesting arc. His people were victims of genocide: his culture and his loved ones were brutally murdered. Nobody can replace that community, not even his chosen family of the Gaang, and certainly not a romantic partner.

But Aang certainly is somebody outside of all that tragedy too. I think his cheerfulness and optimism, his playfulness, his resilience, his reluctance to assume responsibility, and his prodigiousness are all important facets of his personality.

Here's my piping hot take: Aang is James Potter with a more tragic backstory and less of a cruel streak. Think about it: mischievous, funny, adventurous, brave, enjoys attention, popular, devoted to friends, prodigious, entitled when it comes to love interests, morally inflexible, dedicated to Good, can be too arrogant to recognize his own faults. We hear that James became a pretty decent guy, so there's plenty of potential for growth for Aang, especially if he doesn't get his forever girl at age twelve.

Aang has a big heart and stringent morals, but is still a bit of a trickster. Not in a malicious way, but in a “I have a zest for life way” that gives him a little bit of an edge beyond just being a sunshine boy. You can see this even in ep 1, when he sacrifices himself so that the village would be left alone, only to haul ass out of the Fire Nation ship as soon as they’re safe. You can also see it in The Great Divide, where he straight up just fabricates history lmao. Lying is not an issue for him at all, which indicates it’s not really part of his moral code.

On the other hand, he obviously feels very strongly about taking life, which indicates a black and white approach towards morality that is not uncommon in kids. I could see an older, more mature Aang being led to question his own approach to morality, particularly by someone like Zuko, who probably finds violence a lot more palatable than lying. I think there are very interesting cultural differences that can be explored here, which doesn’t necessarily mean that Aang will change his opinions, only that he’ll have greater respect for how other cultures see right and wrong, and that he can keep Air Nomad culture alive without taking on the burden of being the manifestation of that culture. He has the innate impulse to try to see the best in people, which is at odds with his black and white morals sometimes. Related to that, he really struggles with morally grey characteristics in his friends. I think that if he had a fleshed out opportunity to properly disagree with his friends, he may not necessarily change his own mind, but he might grow to value his friends' freedom of choice over imposing his own values on them, since one of the cornerstones of Air Nomad philosophy is apparently about freedom. I think his pacifist voice is an important contribution to their ragtag group of overpowered pre-teens and teens and I love it when that aspect is explored in fics.

I've seen some really good depictions of Aang-not-obsessed-with-Katara in fanfiction (Southern Lights has my favourite one; in fact it's my fave characterization of basically everyone except for Mai). I see most of his flaws as things he can grow out of, but only if he encounters difficult situations and learns to grow. Have fun with your fic, and please do share in any relevant tags once you start posting!

[angy-grrr]

So is the theory that lesbians love bkdk bc they act like the popular sapphic couples true or

Jennifer’s body but they are in a super hero high school and they have powers and there’s a dude they admire a lot and villains and they are both boys and Jennifer never kills anyone and Needy does in fact try to and Jennifer gets blond hair and Needy gets dark hair.

Bkdk was meant to be lesbian but sadly, if it was it wouldn’t survive shonen jump’s editors.

It gets the privilege of much more content than actual f/f pairs bc they are two men so they get 1 treated more seriously in general and 2 get more screen time as usually female characters don’t get the spotlight as much thanks to misogyny. Actually I think it’s quite common, in the nerdy spaces, to see more lesbians shipping male characters together (and personally, many times I see f/f pairs being treated in disrespectful ways in canon content/fan content which makes the experience so… alienating tbh, like no, I can’t relate to that at all and it feels nasty to me. Like with the predatory lesbian trope -I can’t handle it here, but I can handle a predatory gay even if I’m critical about it-. I think this is bc it feels more personal, more about me, like pointing at me directly and the ways I want to experience life.)

Some ppl act surprised when lesbians like m/m, but they forget how shipping doesn’t have to be about your own sexuality/attraction in general, and even if someone experiments sexually with m/m that doesn’t mean they stop being a lesbian -there are plenty of straight men who enjoy gay porn for example, and I cant think about how many sapphics were into jayce and viktor from arcane exploring their sexuality thru them, or just writing smut for the shake of it-. We live in a society that centers not only men in particular, but also focuses on penises as symbols of power, domination and privilege and aggression, and in queer spaces this too can happen leading to uncomfortable experiences, discrimination, sexualization (for example, of trans ppl no matter what your genitals are currently or in the past, the lack of penis/having it is a topic many find erotic and “valid” as a reason to sexualize someone, chasing them in such weird ways), etc.

And tbh, many just… can’t learn from fiction about attraction outside of male relationships, bc most media focuses on them all the time, to the point many can’t imagine what it’s like to experience romance and sexuality without one involved and their codes. You have to go away from fiction, bc even the f/f pairs and lesbian content can feel like they are being watched, like a guy is going to pop up out of nowhere, or like you are the guy. There isn’t even an opportunity to just enjoy the romance for some cases, bc it’s clear I’m supposed to be a guy watching them, and that feels wrong. For a long time I didn’t understand these feelings, and m/m tends to avoid that feeling of “Im supposed to be involved” unless you self insert, yk? There are also tropes that fit in heteronormativity in classic actual yaoi, but I believe many women enjoy this bc it’s the right amount of distance to not feel weird/wrong about yourself, and the right amount of familiarity to feel comfortable and self insert, at least in my opinion!

basically, with f/f it feels real to me, so I really dislike bad f/f representation, and bkdk while being a m/m does fit many typical sapphic experiences (that weird friendship, the bad fallout, weird feelings you can’t say out loud, fixating over them for years, feeling like the other could never like them, having a thing for that person you “hate” of your own gender, finding hetero dating a waste of time, focusing more on your career than caring about dating the opposite sex, feeling nervous when around the opposite sex, etc). They are not exclusively lesbian things at all, but they do appeal to my lesbian heart even before I knew I was a lesbian, so they have a special spot there! I wish we could get a shonen that focuses on two girls this much, about their weird relationship, and respects their feelings for each other instead of adding gay jokes to mock the community or say how appealing they are to hetero men. We don’t have one, but I can always make them sapphics in fiction! Also imagine masc/butch midoriya sensei with masc/butch god explosion murder god dynamight. That’s just awesome, show me Kacchan being dramatic about how she is Deku’s simp. I know there are great yuri out there but most of it is in high school settings and I’m pretty tired of it at this point of my life -I don’t need to self insert to enjoy a romance, but i just want to see a f/f romance outside of high school, as many times we are seen as unserious and likely to just be in the middle of a phase-. There’s this one called Let’s run away, I think, and I need to check it out as I believe it explores these themes too!

[wolfstarjunkie]

okay really hot take

i dont care for dorelene.

i dont hate it or have anything against it, ive read plenty of fics with background dorlene, but i dont like it

AND THIS ISNT ME BEING AGAINST WLW SHIP (im literally a lesbian)

im a marylene truther

BUT im not opposed to getting into dorlene, i just havent seen any good fics for them and nothing abt them has ever drawn my interest

[imminent-danger-came]

tbh you are so real for talking about the misogyny targeted to mei & other women in the lmk fandom. in general its like people only value mei as: a: the wingman to some basic mlm ship or b: macaque 2.0. its honestly crazy how so many male side characters overshadow her in the fanbase despite not even having a FRACTION of her screen time. idk chat i feel like the reason people dont care about mei but care about some random male side/background character is less because they're inherently more likeable but because some of you view women as inherently less likable. and everyone is always like "mei is so girlboss pussy cunt slay shes the only reason theyre still alive because she keeps them safe from their silly boy shennanigans shes their ultimate wingman shes so badass shes their lesbian best friend i totally paid attention to her when i watched this show LOL" and even ignoring the obvious misogyny here (ie. how people reduce her to being the male characters babysitter) its like... okay... i know mei is cool & badass already... could you name literally ANY other character trait she has. like people just value her as being "the braincell" who can get red son and mk together or something stupid and its like are we having fun still is this still fun. literally every day i go into the mei tag its like "look at mei shes red sons wifey and shes vaguely in the background of this drawing of red son and mk staring into each others eyes #trafficlighttrio am i right oh look shes macaques niece now this post is about ao lie why is it in the mei tag"

and thats literally JUST talking about mei and it doesnt even begin to cover the other female characters. chang'e constantly gets reduced to being red sons aunt/mom/big sister despite them like. not having any actual interactions in the show. lady bone demon constantly gets overshadowed by her minion who has like 2 seconds of screen time, or she gets made into a cartoonishly abusive madwoman who people call lady bitch demon. just in general people act like shes a horrible person for like. being a villain. liks yeah the trying to destroy everything was bad but also she was an antagonist and thats what antagonists do LOL. spider queen gets completely ignored. princess iron fan gets made into a cartoonishly abusive mother so that way red son can have a poor angsty backstory and some male character (usually nezha, macaque, swk) can take care of him.

(also theres just a great deal of ethnocentrism in the lmk fanbase? like im white so take what İ say here with a grain of salt but so many people will misconstrue aspects of chinese culture for their own personal hcs. people will say male characters are transfem or nonbinary while completely ignoring the time period/culture their from where thats the norm. like yippee youve implied that an east asian man is feminine/emasculine because he has long hair. how do you not see the negative connotations with this. people also turn pif (& lbd to an extent) into a dragon lady which obviously has negative racial connotations lol.)

anyway this is where my unhinged rambling ends have a good day have a good night İ had more to say here but İ reached the text limit. İ dont see a lot of people talk about the misogyny thats prevalent in the lmk fanbase so İm glad youre pointing it out lol.

Yeah, I totally hear you. The lmk fandom has plenty of issues with misogyny and, like you said, ethnocentrism. It's definitely something worth having a discussion about, along with these issues in fandom as a whole.

[lymooniee]

I was scrolling through tumblr posts because as one does lmao, I searched lesbian sonadow (I'm not sure why, I just adore the genderbent stuff so anyways), but I saw some talk about how there's never anything messy or angsty with blazamy or lesbian ships. Like it's always "cutesy hehe haha" and doesn't feel as real as when people characterize sonadow as a ship.

Honestly yeah I agree:(( I think the difficulty with wlw ships specifically in sonic for example, is that there's not always a lot of things to go off of canon wise (not an excuse btw I wish there was more realness displayed with Sapphic ships myself, unless you disclude whispangle), whereas shadow and sonic have a lot of conflict and tension to sort of base off of.

But then this had me thinking "I am an artist" therefore, I want to now make this kind of content HAHAH-- i think there can be plenty of things you could do to make blazamy way more interesting than two cute girls dating and being all cutie patootie.

I feel there can be a lot of interesting takes one could do when it comes to blazamy in regards to amy and her interest for Sonic and how that may make Blaze feel. I also feel these two balance well from one another similar to sonic and shadow, because of them being opposites but with similar morals and goals. It's so difficult to also characterize amy nowadays because we have SO MANY FLIPPING DIFFERENT VERSIONS OF HER IT ACTUSLLY DRIVES ME INSANE IM NGL. Anyway, i feel using her hot headed personality would be the most realistic and as for blaze she's stubborn herself so you can also work a lot with that too. They're both also self sacrificial (similar to sonic and shadow cough) and both are typically underestimated even tho they're more than capable of handling themselves.

This is a lot of rambling, but I really do feel that there could be a lot more interesting content or storylines for these two and that it's sort of underrated as a ship because of this issue altogether. I adore sonadow myself, but I do love other ships as well ofc and idk. I know lesbianism is often portrayed in media with a tragedy (which also sucks because then they die in the end so yippeeee!!) But like that doesn't mean there can't be conflict because that's not how it works either. ok that's enough of me rambling sorry if i make zero sense i had no sleep

[fukaimetsu]

I'm sure im not the only crazy enough who think this recent wave of online discourse on twitter of ''why do lesbian likes yaoi or become fujoshi?" are just repackaged Gold Star Lesbian right.....

like, this discourse is always framed with statements like, ''I'm genuinely asking, why do lesbians become fujoshi? Girl, what are you getting out of watching 2 men having homosexual sex?'' and then it veers into Gold Star lesbian rhetoric or polilez Kool-Aid, attempting to ''question'' lesbian fujoshi sexuality and whether they are 'true lesbians' or 'not lesbian enough.' This is often justified with the excuse that they are ''centering their sexuality or interests around men'' (wtf?)

It just frustrating to me, like why do people always putting women on higher standard & especially lesbian women always feels the need to ''prove'' themselves to be true lesbian and such. this is no different than usual biphobic rhetoric that bisexual women are just ''faking it'' or doing it for ''trends'' , full stop.

Like, do you guys also do this to gay men who like yuri or female pop stars? Do you also question this gay men sexuality or his gayness just because he obsessed with female characters/celebrity? Sorry but I see a lot double standard here, that people always celebrate gay men when they're liking female pop stars or female characters as one of your own but if Lesbian just liking fictional male characters shipping suddenly you guys need to interrogate them and condemn them as if, they're wolf in sheep's clothing. Like what makes this gay men who like female pop stars and lesbian liking fictional male characters that's so different that make you tilted so much, to the point attacking women.

I am annoyed at this people acting like they're just ''genuinely asking'' but then full mask off end up attacking women over asinine thing and most of the time because they're strangely being bitter toward Fujoshi somehow. Acting like lesbian fujoshi being some sort of traitor because they like BL instead of yuri feels insane to me. like come on, you guys aren't different like gold star lesbian who make snarky comment toward lesbians who sleep with men or used to be in relationship with men.

like, Nobody bats an eye when gay men don't like BL and not being a fudanshi, why suddenly it's an issue with lesbian being fujoshi/liking BL romances?

You don't know the people behind the screen, they could be using alt accounts dedicated to BL content, and it just so happens that they’re lesbian fujoshi (I know this because I am one, I have a separate account for BL coupling/shipping). Or maybe they do like yuri but just don’t show it because you don’t know them personally! Even if they’re not into yuri, why is that a problem? It doesn’t mean they’re lesbophobic. Is it mandatory for lesbians to like yuri? Not all lesbians enjoy the romance genre or feel invested in it. Liking yuri isn’t even a good indicator of whether someone is a lesbian or not. There are straight, bisexual, and asexual women who like yuri. There are also men, as well as nonbinary or genderqueer people, who enjoy yuri.

''But it still weird, why do lesbians liking BL"

Have you ever thought that, maybe, some lesbians just appreciate any kinds of gay romances? or whatever their reasons isn't none of your business? it really doesn't matter what's their taste on media, it doesn't always reflect to their real life identity-in this case, their sexuality.

Or maybe because some Yuri works depicting lesbian romance might feel too personal for them, because I know some plenty of lesbians who feels they unconsciously cannot stop inserting/projecting their personal experiences to works that focused on lesbian romances & it just makes it hard to enjoying said works.

And no, it isn’t always due to internalized lesbophobia reasons, even if that can be one of the reasons. Some queer people might have different perceptions of media that portrays queerness because it is very personal to them. It can be feelings of euphoria or be perceived negatively, depending on the individual, as each queer person has different experiences. You cannot assume that just because some queer people avoid certain queer works for personal reasons, it means they have internalized queerphobia ,therefore, that they are bad and need to 'fix' their mindset. I know a lot of gay men who won't read BL because they feel it's too personal for them, I know a lot trans people who won't read a lot of trans media because they might be projecting themselves too hard due of their experiences and this isn't even uniquely to queer people even cis het people also tend to avoid certain genre or media if it's happen too personal for their experiences and identity.

Regardless of the reasons, why does it matter to you? why you feels like it's personal attack if some people not interested with your favorite media/genre.

Again, Lesbian aren't monolith. they're person with different minds, preferences and interests lol. They're allowed to be a fujoshi if they want to.

and I notice this trends tend to be.....end up with people (who questioning lesbian fujoshi) to making up worse assumption of them in order to defend their favorite fictional female characters or AO3 statistics, lol. in the end it just shitty fandom discourse all over again!

it just weird trend of zoomer using faux-feminism & queer academic language just to get angry over asinine things because they're salty their favorite valid media/characters aren't popular. and of course always attacking women despite they claim to be feminist, good job!

I swear, I never see this people like being critical to men but always being hypercritical toward women (especially fujoshi who just...mind their own business most of the time)

like I am sure we can have good discussion about this, but I don't trust ANY people on that hellhole site with poor reading comprehension and mob mentality for having this type of discussion on good faiths, especially not when it always ends up they're just crying over AO3 F/F statistics again.

Also I never take any people who are using ''women who centering their lives around men'' seriously and I will just think of them as mini radfem/TERF because anyone who tend to use that talking point unironically end up being more insane toward their fellow women, more sexist & just one step away to call women as ''useless foid who worship men" just because they like fictional anime boy or boy bands. Not surprised if they unconsciously agree with trans women are invading women spaces or their ideology aligned with Rowling without they realized it.

Another note, Not everything in these worlds is makes sense and sometime everything can be contradictory. you might think lesbian fujoshi or lesbian who likes BL are contradictory with their sexuality/identity but that just how...the world is & it doesn't matter, at the end of the day.

You feel happier for not thinking too much about it & focus on stuff you likes. just look at this 🫃preggo man emoji

[nugatorysheep]

Damn....why all this hate on you? I thought you did made it clear of your characters and stuff. (Or is this not about them-)

Genuinely there's like two or three people out there who have whack ass one-sided beef with me specifically that are trying to make it seem like it's a morality thing and not just fandom pettiness and bigotry lol

like it's very telling that I'm getting weird bouts of anon hate for "reposting underage nsfw" art and not the person who... supposedly made the art i reposted. Or alternatively, people being upset that I've made NSFW of characters that are very clearly adults. I've unironically had people call Druid of all characters minor-coded before. yknow, the 1500 year old man. it's just silly. There are many, many people in this fandom who do the same brand of NSFW I do and no one is being this level of unhinged in their inbox. this is peak petty on full display

(also for the record, no, i havent reposted or made any underage anything. i've been pretty vocal about being squicked by loli/sho. i dont care if other people are into that but it ain't for me. even if i did like that type of content, that's... that's not... what being a pedophile is. if the bar is that low all the weebs of the world are in trouble).

It's not even hard for anyone to check for themselves. my discord server is public, any verified adult can see the 18+ channels and look at the explicit art i've made. spoiler alert, it's real underwhelming as far as internet standards go

For the most part it's just kinda funny to see this hate train crash and burn. Most of it I've been ignoring or giving meme replies to cause anyone who is taking that shit seriously already made up their mind about me, I aint wasting my breath on that lmao

I do wanna talk about this anon hate I got in my strawpage the other day tho:

My first thought was "low effort rage bait? on MY wi-fi?" because I'm hardly just "tolerated" by the fandom. if people didn't like me they would just say that, and plenty of people have before.

Im not here for a popularity contest, im here to be autistic about my blorbos. if i wanted to be popular I'd exclusively make fanart of the canon characters on twitter or do low-effort text posts with screenshots from the show (and i know that works cause I've done it before and WOW look at those notes)

but numbers /= meaningful interaction and I care about THAT much more. People do know what I do, of course they know I'm a freak, I don't keep it a secret, this aint news to anyone who follows me. Secrets imply I've got something I'm ashamed of, and that ship has sailed. I'm out of my people pleasing era and have been for years now. I may hide the specifics because, quite frankly, i dont see a point in flaunting the spicer stuff on main. But as far as my art and interests go, I'm an open book

The other thing is, the creator of this show is a freak. Every few years people find out about the Ed, Edd and Eddy art and lose their shit. That Amethyst and Sadie art? That was her. That Pearl x Greg art I shared on Twitter that was every chronically online lesbian's 9/11? Yeah she made that too. She literally reads my AU. the bar for freakiness in this fandom is on the fucking floor, dawg

But the reason I wanna talk about it is for the sake of other people who are following me, not just to satisfy this guy's weird hate-boner.

I'm sure that some people are seeing the stuff I'm getting sent and are scared to be more open about what they enjoy because they dont wanna deal with this kinda shit themselves. I have pretty thick skin at this point- after being online long enough you just have to- but not everyone is willing to take a pounding like that. I get it.

thing is, pretending to be "one of the good ones" is not gonna make those around you actually like you. They like the fake version of you, not the real you, and those kinda folks are not worth being around. it's best to rip off that band-aid sooner than later. In the moment it'll suck, but in the long run it's more than worth it. It's better to have a few ride-or-die friends than a large group of fair-weather friends. You may also find that there are folks out there who are more accepting and based than you think. I've certainly been surprised by a few!

the only people who send anon hate like this do it because something in their life sucks and they feel the need to take it out on others. ya ever notice that these type of people never show their face? it's cause they're scared. scared that they might actually have to step out on the front lines. scared they might have to get their hands dirty. By just just being out and open you've proven to be braver, bolder, and stronger than they will ever be.

Don't be afraid of losers in sunglasses. They aren't worth your fear.

[wildwinterlunas]

Hi! i know you already get those asks but i really want to vent: i think them making pharmercy canon now would not be satisfating for me - im a lesbian, i feel like there was no indication since the game release that they have anything for each other, if anything mercy was very close to genji, they were very sutil with that, and all pharmercy 'flirt' lines are so recent feels like rushed. One of my favorite lesbian ships ever is Caitlyn and Vi from league, they construed they relationship for YEARs, from partners to lovers and just NOW in 2023 after years and everything they confirmed both as lesbians and even in Arcane they doing great with their romance. another exemple is leona and diana and killjoy with reze in valorant, compared with overwatch feels like they dont know how to develop a organic/fresh relationship between their female characters from the game, rigth now looks just pandering for me.

And yeah I do see where your coming from, Gency has had years of build up in canon while Pharmercy has just started being pushed. Though because of the fact that in the past we've seen OW writers say that they ship Pharmercy I don't think it pandering exactly. I think it's more wish fulfilment.

I also agree with what you're saying about what happened in other games when it comes to LGBTQ+ rep, those ships have had build up. To the point where I, a person who doesn't play either game, know what your talking about. I myself am also a lesbian and I have recognized Pharah as lesbian coded since I first got into Overwatch, which was back in 2016, they've had plenty of time to add things like voice lines or lore to this relationship but they haven't. I looked up their old Overwatch 1 interactions for this post and basically none of them have that flirting vibe that the new voice lines have, most of the personal ones being Mercy saying how she thinks Ana would be proud of Pharah and Pharah just going "are we talking about the same person here?"

Also I've stated it briefly in other posts on Pharmercy but I just don't think they would work, at least they wouldn't stay a couple for a long time. A big thing that people forget when it comes to Pharmercy is that Angela has a lot of issues she needs to sort out, one of those being her terrible communication skills and her ability to say goodbye to people. The reason this is important is because Fareeha has abandonment issues, and we see how Angela's inability to communicate already affects their relationship in "As You Are", we clearly see that Angela leaving without saying goodbye affected Pharah.

This also culminates into this being a story where one person has to wait for the other to sort out their issues, which is something I don't want for Pharah. This plot line with Gency works because it's mutual. If Pharah is going to be with someone I either want them to be dealing with something that Pharah can actually help with (like Symmetra and her inevitable identity crisis) or for her partner to be just as sure of herself as Pharah is (like Sombra or Kiriko).

Again I don't want Pharah to have to wait for Angela to get her issues sorted out, she already has to wait for her mother to come back, she shouldn't have to wait for her romantic life either, and Angela's problems are not something Pharah is really equipped to help with. We actually see how Genji and Angela talk while Pharah tends to offer silent support.

I don't hate Pharmercy and under different circumstances I think they would work, however, not only are the writers kind of fumbling to get me invested but Pharah and Mercy have so many things working against them on a personal level. Not only that but they're fundementally different morally, I think a lot of people forget that Angela doesn't like helix calling them mercenaries with no regard for civilian life, while knowing full well that Pharah works for Helix. That kind of difference would work in a friendship but that would not go well in a romantic relationship.

Anyway, again I don't hate Pharmercy, it's not one of my top ships but I do like it. However, what has been presented in canon either just doesn't get me invested or I just don't want to see happen in terms of characterization (again Pharah shouldn't have to wait for her romantic life in the same way she needs to wait for her family).

[ladyseidr]

anonymous asked: ❝ as just an observation and no hate what so ever, maybe you can clarify!! but it feels like you solely focus on gay ships for all of your muses and it feels like as someone looking in you don't really provide much variety in terms of shipping. it just hit wrong with you adding vanessa the first thing said was "who's going to gay marry her" that's where this all came from. ❞ ( ref )

Assuming you're referring to shipping as romantic shipping, because I definitely write plenty of platonic and familial stuff. I'm going to treat this as though it's really sent in good faith, but referring to me having a "lack of variety" because I don't write enough m/f in your opinion ( ???? ) is uh. strange. So, I felt this was obvious, but "who's going to gay marry her" was intended as a joke because I literally just added her. I'm not expecting anyone to jump into a ship with a muse I just added, it's a joke. But beyond that, she's listed as a lesbian on her muse page. This is both personal headcanon and a direct reflection of my dislike that a large majority of one of the only female human character's in-game plot involves her being controlled by someone we perceive as a man ( because Glitch is either intended to be a representation of William, OR, as some other people believe, literally is him). Even if I wrote Vanessa as bi, I still would not ship my personal portrayal of her with him. ( And I don't pass judgment on people who do ship it, this is only about me when I'm writing her. I literally do ship my William with a couple of game!Vanessas on his blog. ) I am also a queer person who grew up with little to no media reflecting people like me. So, yes, I do make all my muses queer ( although a vast majority I feel are bisexual or pansexual, so this shouldn't be an issue with "limiting" ships). Yes, my main fandom ship ( as in, what I ship outside of rp, in my personal life / fanfic / etc ) is almost always queer. Yes, if I'm hyperfixated on a ship outside of the rpc, it's usually queer. Yes, this means I often talk about ( non-mutual specific ) queer ships more vocally ( like Wil.lry for fn.af or Sai.oma for D.R ). But I mean this is the kindest way possible: I don't owe anybody romantic ships. I don't owe anybody m/f ships, or any other kind. Now, don't get me wrong! I am so, so, so open to shipping. If you want to ship with one of my muses, I never mind an IM about it. A vast majority of the time I'm down for it and, yes, that includes m/f ships. I have several ships both here and on @spring-lxcked that are m/f. But also like. If you're upset that I write [ insert muse here ] as gay, I'm sure there's other people who don't who would be willing to ship with you.

[zukkaoru]

Is there any bsd you don't like? Asking for boundary in case you prefer not to be asked about them

i’m pretty open to most ships and characters tbh but i would say ones i'm not interested in writing for would include (censoring so they don’t show up in the search): d.azatsu d.azaku s.igzai sigs.kk odaz.ai,, any ships with m.ori f.ukuchi or k.ouyou bc im not confident on my ability to write for them. any fukuzawa or fitzgerald ships bc i don't ship them with anyone (apart from zelda, for fitzgerald). any minor/adult ships or incest ships. and like. i hc yosano and louisa as lesbians so i dont ship them with any male characters / i hc aku as gay so i dont ship him with any of the female characters. also i wont write beast s.kk out of spite ❤️

there are plenty of other ships im not really into but either have written or would write for bc the rarepair waters are hard to tread out here in the bsd fandom and we all need to hold hands 🤝

[doyouremem8erme]

hello followers. tumbrinas. nerds and losers of the jury. buckle up.

A teenage girl stands in her bedroom. It just so happens that today, the 13th of April, 2023, is the day she will start reading a 8000+ page webcomic as the latest of many attempts at doing so over the years...and finish exactly one month later, deeply changed forever.

yeah, homestuck, you say. the one with the little leetspeaking gray skinned aliens that have been the plague of conventions for years. yeah that includes the sharpie bath incident. the one that truly broke the internet with a single animated update. why would i bother drowning under classpects and quadrants and buckets and convoluted timeline bullshit, you ask?

let me tell you about homestuck.

on most of my many attempts at reading this, beginning around 6th grade at the pleas of a longtime friend, i never got past the first act and a half or so. oh, its silly internet humor and wacky video game shenanigans, id say, get bored, and close the tab. push through. there is payoff. and what is that payoff, you ask? homestuck is very hard to summarize concisely, and possibly impossible to summarize without spoilers, but heres my best attempt, somewhat paraphrased from a video essay i watched on youtube. skip if you wanna be convinced through other means, although there will be further spoilers beyond this.

four online friends play a video game together. the video game brings about the end of the world and the only way to survive is for them to enter the world of the video game. it turns out that the goal of the game is to create a new universe! however their game session goes very very wrong and they have to go about resetting their game and their whole universe in order to stop it. they also meet 12 internet trolls along the way, who are actually aliens from another universe who played their own version of the game and created the kids’ universe through it. after a 3 year journey escaping their game session to avoid being erased in the universal reset, the original players and the trolls enter a game session where theyve been swapped places with their ancestors. all the groups of players across iterations of universes then have to work together to stop several powerful villains who have risen to power over the course of the story.

i say this first not because it is a glaring issue outshining its worth of any sorts, but as a warning to those particularly avoidant of this: yes, homestuck has flawed language in its earlier acts. it still feels weird to heap it in with the other "problematic media" on dni lists because while not an excuse for it, thats an uncomfortable product of the time in which it was written. i know that the unofficial collection has settings to remove slurs and derogatory language from it, but its not at all like its the bigoted work ive seen people assume it is. watching homestuck grow from containing these hallmarks of the early 2010s to being full of genuinely amazing queer characters is wonderful.

i know my followers. you like gay people? homestuck has plenty. youve got the goth x vampire lesbians. youve got the weird gay kids whose first kiss involved one of their decapitated head. youve got the unhinged murderous bisexual girl. youve got the guy with a whole arc about realizing hes bi and getting a grumpy alien boyfriend. youve got the childhood friends to maybe girlfriends whove like killed and hurt each other but care abt each other so much. before reading, id seen ship art of homestuck here and there on the internet--im on tumblr, how could i not? what i never realized was that these pairings are canon and for the time its from thats just awesome to me. heck, all the trolls are by "default" bisexual, and they dont adhere to human romance norms either.

the way homestuck writes all these characters relationships is so good too! the characterization in it really deserves recognition--hussie has an impressive talent for writing characters with distinct voices, and even when characters could be flat and one dimensional jokes, theyre often given much more dimension than that. the girls get to be weird freaks who sneak around wearing mustaches on or who sniff and lick people while grinning or write gay wizard fanfics. the boys get strong emotional arcs about trauma and relationships. even one character who could be solely an annoying punchline (and still gets bullied by the authors self insert, but like its fine) actually is allowed to have interesting writing and displays growth in some ways. all this to say, while some characters are reduced to jokes that are in bad taste at best (some of the dancestors have it bad), most do get strong arcs. rose and dave have some of my favorite growth in this regard, and its hard to even recognize until youve finished and look back on these characters at the start because it feels so natural and gradual outside of specific catalytic moments for them.

in such a long work with so many characters, there definitely are issues with pacing, but its hard to help when at some points the narrative is juggling 30+ characters. its not painful to read, just long--and the length is one of its strengths in the end. by the time you watch act seven, you get hit by the full weight of everything youve just read: a coming of age story suited unlike any other for the age of the internet. ive never read another story that captures the themes of growing up and what you leave behind in doing so that does it quite as familiarly as homestuck. like any story that does this, it of course takes the ideas and experiences of childhood and stretches them even farther. most people who feel isolated apart from their internet friends havent grown up alone on an island. most people who play games with their online friends dont physically end up in the world of their game or die there or see their loved ones die. most teenagers who are starting their adult lives dont have to lose their old universe and start a new one to do so. but you can feel these things so deeply for these characters because theyre still familiar in a way.

entering a fandom after its prime comes with a bittersweetness. even when i first attempted to read homestuck years ago, its main run had ended in the last couple years, and its peak was even longer ago. homestuck is by no means a dead fandom, though. its so vast that theres a pocket for everyone. theres so many characters that youre almost guaranteed to relate to one, or obsess over another ones themes. you will never ship things normally again, but is that really a bad thing? homoerotic rivalries have never been more fun!

and overall, its just amazing to read. this isnt a post about homestucks flaws, although ive mentioned some as disclaimers, nor is it about postcanon which is. more not great. the balance of comedy and tragedy and shenanigans and drama and truly agonizing angst followed by awesomely epic moments is just. an absolute ride and i couldnt recommend it more. homestuck is laugh out loud funny at times and has even seeped into meme culture enough that i was familiar with many jokes from it before hand, but it handles moments that deserve emotional weight with such. ive sobbed over this comic so many times--i can barely read some dialogue from scenes following game over without tearing up even after reading those moments many times, and some characters are left with such tragedy that it makes me feel emotions deep inside just thinking of them. ive even seen homestuck compared to if a video game character was aware of the cost of every life lost in a failed level--even though characters die and come back to life, those deaths matter to the story and to the characters. it is absolutely wild and it still makes it work.

watching thousands of pages of convoluted time travel and universal bullshit cascade (haha) into place is just so satisfying to watch. homestuck is confusing, hilarious, tragic, complex, ridiculously long, full of gorgeous animation and awesome music, and playing an epic multimedia work full of hours of animation and playable browser games off as a cringe 2010s webcomic is an insult to its genuine value as a narrative work. read homestuck. if you regret it, thats honestly a good thing--it is infectious and just downright so cool. it may be 2023 but it remains true: you cant fight the homestuck. its already here ::::)

should i write propaganda to get my followers to read homestuck