#life in you 30s

[canisalbus]

✦ Freshly ordained ✦

[farshootergotme]

Occasionally I picture Nightwing calling Red Hood "little wing" in front of others and people looking between this huge, 6'0 feet tall man with growing white hair, and then Nightwing, a shorter man who has flawless skin, probably around his 20's, and a fit but not too buff build and they just- don't know what's happening. Is it some kind of inside joke they aren't aware of? Why is Nightwing acting as if he's years older than Red-fucking jacked-Hood?

Nightwing: Little wing, you actually were decent in that fight! I'm impressed.

Hero, who was helping during this fight as well, listening in to the conversation: little...?

Red Hood: Wow, feeling very appreciated right now. Got any other backhanded compliments in there?

Hero: Wait, excuse me-

Nightwing: As a matter of fact-

Red Hood: Nope! I'm outta here. Screw you!

Nightwing: You know you love me!

Red Hood: In your dreams, dickhead!

Nightwing: Hey! We don't use that-

Red Hood: Not listening!

Nightwing: Jeez, kids these days...

Red Hood: I'm an adult and fuck you too!

Nightwing: What? Thought you weren't-

Red Hood: See you never, I'm out.

Hero: ...

Hero: what the actual fuck?

[spicyraeman]

maybe this'll stay a wip or maybe it won't, either way what's more fun than learning that ur bandmate can't hold her drink than by finding her sitting in a dark corner mid way through the afterparty

[catmask]

with that said there are characters that a fat maybe not canonically but they are spiritually. to me. they may not be drawn that way but i know whats true. ive seen it like a sort of prophet

[outofcontextdanandphil]

"My favorite fruit is Phil" ok gay boy

[timothyslucy]

TOMORROW!!!!!!!!!!

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

[jaynuu]

[conchiferrous]

vulnerability and reassurance

[ID: Sketches of Robin and Franky from One Piece, post time skip. Franky and Robin sit on the floor and Robin rests her cheek on his chest while he tries to lightly pull her close. He says: "I uh. Sorry. I'm not good for cuddlin' Unless you like cozying up next to a refrigerator. Are you really comfortable like that?" Robin looks up at him and responds: "It's okay, Franky. I'm perfectly comfortable. I feel... safe here like this with you." /END ID]

[heysarsii]

Life in your 30s

Had a girl's day out with this babe that stuck with me since we were in elementary. Picked her up after my shift to get mani/pedis and grab some snack while we talk about life, relationships, and healing.

It was a funny discussion because we realized how hard it was to set meet ups with friends once you're in your 30s that you actually need to have an appointment made. That if you want to see and be with them you have to be specific with the schedule and the agenda of the meet up because our social batteries aren't as pumped up like how it was when we were in high school / college / first 5 yrs working / 30s. And like our preferred meetups are way different than before. In high school, we can meet for the whole day and just stay at the mall and we would still have the energy to chat over the phone once we get home. In college, we were so excited for Friday and Saturday nights because we would go clubbing and stay up all night. In the first 5yrs of having a job, we would be busy organizing a weekend trip to explore nature or try new activities or restaurants, or just plan out an out of town/country trip. And now that we are in our 30s, we would prioritize rest or to not actually go out if the meetup isn't actually beneficial. I mean we both love seeing each other but just like how other meetings at work can be discussed or put in an email, it also applies to friends when you are in your 30s.

We talked about relationships, season of waiting, and how she learned about compromise in her current relationship. Because just like me, she is also well-opinionated and strong when it comes to her values. She's fortunate to have someone who understands that and knows how to handle her. Like when it comes to finances, even if my friend was practical with her finances, they would be open talking about it and her boyfriend would give her a logical view and can convince her to pick better options in spending and investing. They also have different lifestyles since they were brought up differently but they make it work.

She waited for 11yrs before she opened up again and met her boyfriend now which is why she was telling me that I need to do the work in my season of waiting. When the time comes, it would make sense why it didn't work with anyone else. She was telling me to attend church on a different locale or maybe the reason why I haven't met someone here is because the person could be in the place where I'll be going. At least make it easier for myself to narrow down my checklist.

We planned only on staying until we got our mani/pedis done but since we enjoyed talking, we went to a McDonalds, had sundaes and fries, and finished our conversation at 9pm. She asked how my life is going after my mom's passing, because above anything else, she knows that it was the biggest hole I needed to fill and the heaviest and hardest truth I needed to carry in my life. I would always tell her that I was okay but I guess if a person truly knows you, they would know how you still are not yet done. She kept on reminding me that it's okay to not be okay and I feel grounded and humbled everytime.

[annabelle--cane]

hate to say it gang but every time I try to search a big fancy academic database for works that cover two or three intersecting topics to the exclusion of all others and inevitably wind up with the world's least useful search results, I do think to myself "godddd ao3's tag filtration system is so much better"

[stump-not-found]

finally got lines for the last two pages . enjoy a preview

[shopwitchvamp]

An interesting observation I need to report to you all from when I was out touching grass last month (hiking/camping): People in the real world seem to consistently react to me saying that tumblr is my primary social media by going "Isn't that a dating app????"

[teratomatica]

everything i wish i had said

[paintedcrows]

If I ask politely enough would you post more Gaster x Stanford art

The Silly Scientists!

[greatgoddyke]

but my heart is like a claw machine