#lgbt+ people deserve better

[lary-the-lizard]

I feel like queer folx are expected to be happy, cheerful, and extroverted ABOUT our queer identities. I know that minority groups in general aren’t allowed to be outwardly angry, scared, frustrated, or upset but I feel like there’s this extra pressure for queer people to be specifically happy or at least funny.

So on a scale from 1-15 while also noting your privilege as white, cis, and/or allo, how pissed are you about this stereotype?

[strawlessandbraless]

There were things...people, feelings that he wanted to experience differently than he had before. Or maybe even for the first time

[universe-of-peoples]

We as a society need more gender neutral clothing options.

I’m sick and tired of going clothes shopping where all of the women’s section is too frilly, feminine, impractical for everyday wear, made of lower quality material, and has smaller pockets. Men’s section, on the other hand, is all too big for me.

Gender neutral clothing does mean more androgynous options (catch me being mad at Kohls for renaming the Juniors section “young women” or “teenage girls” or whatever it is now in their stores), but it also means:

• carrying men’s and women’s clothing in a variety of sizes accessible to people of all body sizes and types

• carrying clothing of equal quality so that the people shopping in the women’s section aren’t forced to buy clothes more often when their fav t-shirt inevitably falls apart

• just! Put bigger pockets in all pants! And don’t put fake pockets on your pants! Regardless of the “gender” of the pants!

In conclusion clothes shopping always gives me massive gender dysphoria as a nonbinary person and I wish it didn’t.

[hurricanehiatus]

I don't fuck with that Christianity shit because the people who have hurt me the most were christians who hurt me in the name of their god. So fuck them and fuck that.

[uncanny-tranny]

I always feel like a broken record for saying this, but there is literally no form of transphobia that is acceptable. All transphobia is harmful - all forms of bigotry toward a group for features they cannot change (in this case, being trans) is harmful. It doesn't matter what gender a trans person is, it doesn't matter if they are a Good Person, it doesn't matter if you like them or want to see them happy. None of that matters because transphobia is transphobia is transphobia.

[transpossumboy]

idk if i made this post already but anyone who says that transmasc people don’t experience violence is wrong??? anyone who thinks it’s only transfem and trans women is completely incorrect! sure, trans women receive more, but that doesn’t mean it’s just “safe” to be a trans man and that the only backlash they get is being infantilized or ignored.

i have had men say to me and act on “if you’re going to pretend to be a guy i’m going to hit you like a guy.”

just being transmasculine does not mean that you’re “upgrading to male privilege” or suddenly not going to be assaulted for your gender anymore. violence against trans men exists and i’m tired of pretending it doesn’t.

[femalelisdeservebetter]

Part 2 🙄

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

Australia overwhelmingly voted to legalise same-sex marriage a few years ago and religious parasites, who are already permitted to discriminate against pretty much any demographic for pretty much any reason they want (irrespective of what their religious books actually say on a matter - for example, religious schools are allowed to kick transgender students out, despite the fact that the bible doesn't even mention transgender people), have been bitching and moaning about it ever since.

[eddieheart]

Brokeback Mountain

I re-wrote the ending to brokeback mountain because I hate myself

- Ennis Del Mar and Jack Twist fall in love on a lonely old mountain. It's a whirlwind romance that grips them by the soul.

- By the end of the summer when they're asked to leave neither can bare to separate, so they don't.

- (at the beginning you don't see Ennis with a car but further on you do, so I'll just assume he had a car but lived in town) So they sell one of their cars (the worse one of the two) and get the little beginnings of a nest egg

- At first they're just driving around aimlessly, not putting down roots anywhere. While working at a ranch they hear some of the guys talking about going to Alberta to work on the oil rigs

- Jack is immediately all for it, Ennis isn't sure, but after a while they decide to go. It's really good pay, in a similar place to where they are now and they can avoid the draft. (Win win)

- (in Alberta, 1970, a roughneck would be payed approximately 27,000 dollars a year, in today's money that's about 212,000)

- They eventually make enough to buy an apartment together, which passes fine enough under the guise of two bachelor roommates, who can't afford a place of their own.

- Eventually they hear about club 70 and Flashback (both gay bars founded around 1970) in Edmonton, only about 45 minutes from where they live

- It soon becomes a common place for them to hang out.

- While at the club they discover 'Carousel Capers' (newsletter of club carousel) a monthly newsletter for gay people that had started in 1969.

- They also discover GATE (gay alliance towards equality) that started in 1971-72. The alliance had an actual building which included a drop in center and a resource center. They provided peer counselling and speaker referrals all while still fighting for gay rights. 

- It takes a long time but eventually they even visit the center.

-It's during one of these visits that they meet Margret 'Peggy' Walters and Winnifred 'Fred' Murphy, a lesbian couple in the same area

- They both share their woes about living as a gay couple in the area and how at a certain point it's hard to pretend to be just roommates

- They all become fast friends and continue to meet up regularly. While having coffee one day Peggy shares a thought, marriage, marriages actually. Those of Ennis and herself as well as Jack and Fred, for tax purposes and also convenience.

- It's during the spring that they get married and it's summer when they take a 'honeymoon' at Brokeback mountain.

- The girls love the solitude and everyone keeps their distance during the stay.

- The second day of their drip, when the sun gets real low, a mix of amber, crimson and violet, the sky peppered with ghosts of stars that Ennis falls to his knees before the love of his life and pulls out a small gold ring.

"I don't say much, and I don't know much either, but what I do know, is that I love you Jack Twist, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you."

- Jack let's out a brash fit of laughter, running off for no more than a minute. He jogs back to where Ennis is sitting and collapses to his knees, sliding towards him, a ring in hand. All the overwhelming fear and anxiety Ennis had been feeling quickly fell away.

- Jack stared deeply into the eyes of the man he's sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with, putting a free hand on the other man's cheek as he speaks.

"Ennis Del Mar, I- I just can't quit you, and I don't want to neither. I've spent every day since we've left thanking whatever god that'll listen for you, cus you- you're the best thing that's ever happened to me. So, Mr. Del Mar, wanna get hitched?"

- They end up laugh crying and falling into each other, both making slapdash moves for other's ring and pushing them onto they're fingers.

- One day while working on the rigs, Jack gets into an accident. Work normally last 16-20 hours a day, and they work almost every day, sometimes 7 days a week. Because of this, Jack in his sleep deprived and overworked state, passes out, hitting his head on piece of metal machinery.

- Ennis is rightfully terrified and it takes a few days for Jack to actually wake up. When he does, Ennis decides that they are never going back to the rigs.

- They merge what little nest eggs they've saved up with the girls and buy a ranch.

(The price per acre in 1988 was 374, and they bought 500 acres)

- There's a little house on the property which they all refurbish together. It's technically two smaller houses merged together, each with they're own mailboxes. One says Ennis + Peggy  (for Jack and Ennis) and the other says Jack + Fred (for Peggy and Fred)

- Each couple had their own side of the house, but they all spend most of their time together like one big family.

- Because they have so much land, they don't have to worry about anybody seeing anything they aren't suppose to, so they don't have to keep behind closed doors anymore.

- Fred learns to weld and becomes a trades woman, While Peggy prefers to say home, take care of the house and cook. Ennis and Jack get a herd of sheep, some cattle and a few horses.

- Now that they have the money Jack even gets himself a roping horse, a young mare named Sunny that he trains himself.

- The house and barn are near constantly filled with music, the radio is always playing. It's partly because Jack read something about animals being happier when they listened to music and partly because Ennis doesn't have the heart to tell him he's wrong.

- After a while when they're all good and ready, Peggy and Fred propose having children. So not long after that, Ennis and Jack get jiggy with a plastic cup and Peggy and Fred get real familiar with a turkey baster.

- Jack desperately wants a little boy and has for quite a long time, Ennis is the more apprehensive of the two, but as soon as the older man gets a glimpse of his little baby girl all his worries melt away.

- It's then that they're all renamed, Ennis becomes Daddy, Jack becomes Popa, Peggy is Moma and Fred is Mom. They all wear their titles with pride.

- Peggy had two girls each a year apart and Fred has a little brown eyed boy.

- As it turns out, it's quite difficult for four people to decide on baby names. But after a first 10 months of deliberation, and another year for their third they decide on Alison, Jackson Robert and Marie.

- After having the babies Peggy starts to work in town to help raise some more funds for the kids and Ennis and Jack become the best stay at home dads you've ever seen.

- Ennis actually learns to cook and Jack is a diaper master, though he'll never admit it to anyone else.

- Though the old clubs are closed by now and the paper long gone, GATE (which was renamed to GLCCE, the Gay and Lesbian Community Centre of Edmonton) is still around. They all decide they can spare the extra money for a ranch hand and post an add at the center, hiring a young boy named Henry.

- Though they somehow end up with two hands because of Henry's codependent relationship with his girlfriend Danny.

- At first the guys are shocked that they hired a gay boy who turns out to have a girlfriend. But soon after, Danny the spitfire (as she's renamed) educated not only the boys but Peg and Fred too, on bisexuality, genderfluidity and what it means to be transgender.

- They all get very up to date on gay culture. (They haven't been getting out much since the kids... and the sheep)

- Each of the kids learns how to ride horses at four, but all of them have already (and continue to) gone on rides with their dads.

- Buts it's their youngest Marie that really takes a shine to it, horseback riding with such ease it's as though she's just walking.

- Eventually Marie even gets her own little colt, which she names boots, and starts training to barrel race (and to rope just like her popa)

- Their first trip as a family is to Brokeback mountain. Ennis and Jack sneak away in the night, watching the sunset and basking in the joy of their lives.

"Lookit how far we've come. I really love you Jack."

"And I really love you."

- On the last day they take one big picture as a family. The kids get it framed for their anniversary, it still hangs in their dads' room.

- Though they came to love Henry and Danny they eventually left the ranch. At the ages of 23 and 22 respectively the pair got married, the blended family being invited of course. They come empty handed, seemingly without a gift, but they're harbouring a splendid little secret.

- After returning from their honeymoon, they all meet up again at the shared house for dinner and their wedding present is finally given.

"Are you gonna tell them or am I?" Peggy asks with a smirk.

"So, I know y'all are grown now, but Ennis and I- and Fred and Peg," Jack adds after a side glance from the girls. "We made you a little something."

- The four of them, plus the kids, lead the newlyweds through the property and about ten acres in they peep a little dirt road. The road in turn is connected to the Main Street (on the opposite side of the property) and to a sweet little bungalow.

- Upon realizing the house is for them they both burst into tears and become (officially) member of the family.

- Marie goes on to become a rodeo star, a trick riding, barrel racing, calf roping badass. A true rodeo Queen.

- Jackie Jr. graduates early and gets a job as a mechanic in town and occasionally joins his younger sister at the rodeo, as a roping duo. At first he'd been interested in bull and bronk riding but after a long and stern conversation with both his dads about the dangers he decided against it.

- Alison turns out to be the wild card of the family, deciding to go to school to become a doctor. (Never did Ennis, or Jack or that matter, think that he could make a kid that intelligent, but fuck if she wasn't a smart cookie)

- Though he's a man of few words, Ennis gives heartfelt and genuine goodbyes to each of their children. Jack as well, tucking his head into the side of his now (really freaking tall) kids, hiding his tears in bursts of 'I love yous' and 'I'll miss yous".

- Now that they're all empty nesters the house feels a little too lonely, a bit quieter too, even though the radio is still always playing. So Jack and Ennis decide to start fostering, (though technically on paper it’s Ennis and Peggy and Jack and Fred)

- They take in the kids that no one wants, the belligerent teens, the abandoned toddlers, homeless kids, the reckless boys and the defiant girls. Kids that have no other options.

- They end up with 6 year old Toby, 14 Christin and 16 year old Randy and they love every minute of it.

- Jackie Jr. is the first to get married. His wife is a sweet young thing named Stella, she comes from a hard working family and desperately loves their son. They build and move into another house on the property, not too far from Henry and Danny.

- Allison finished her schooling at a big fancy, (as Ennis puts it, "smart kid school") and now lives in the city, she's had a few boyfriends, and girlfriends, over the years but still hasn't settled down.

- Ennis gets a little nervous every now and then, about Allison and if she feels as lonely as he did when he was a young kid. Jack always pulls him back though.

"Just because she isn't married doesn't mean she ain’t happy, I mean, think about us, about Peg n' Freddy, when we were kids we was happy, unmarried and very happy just being with each other."

"Allie knows she's loved, we tell her all the time, she knows her family will always be on her side, no matter what."

- Danny and Henry adopt a little boy named Tommy. (Ennis thinks the fact that all their names ending in 'y' is weird but only ever says anything to Jack)

- Marie is the next to get hitched, her and her partner Randi, whose full name they still don't know.

- Jackie Jr. and Stella have their first kid, a little girl, Ennis Jr. (Both her granddads cry when they hear the name)

-That fall Peggy has a stroke and can't work in town anymore. Now she stays home with the boys (and the kiddos). At first it's really hard for all of them, she can't do what she used to be able to, things Peggy had mastered are now nearly impossible. But over time they all become accustomed to the new normal.

- All the kids come home when they hear about moma. Allison quits her job in the city and becomes a family doctor in town, she says it's because she doesn't like the fast paced nature of the big city and prefers to be closer to her home anyway.

- Marie comes back from her rodeo tour but only stays a few weeks (at the request of her mother) and soon gets back to travelling.

- Jackie Jr. is blessed with a set of twin girls, Winona (Winny) and Pauline.

- Marie gets pregnant and has a baby girl, Jacklin (aka. Jack the third, or Jack Jr. Jr.)

- Needless to say the house is loud again, constantly bustling. Little kids running wild, their foster kids are grown, but Toby stays in the family house. He loves taking care of the kids, so he starts taking night courses at the  community college for childcare.

- Every once and while someone will come in (just out of the blue, with no warning, like it should be) and find the two men laying together, gently holding onto each other, radio playing softly in the background.

- As an anniversary present the kids arrange a trip to Brokeback, they take the whole family. Jack and Ennis fall asleep holding each other in the place they fell in love, the sounds of their children and grandchildren running around in the distance.

- They get a surprise about a week later when a new framed photo joins the other on their bedroom wall, this time with their grandkids too.

- Jack falls down the stairs. He nearly breaks his hip and Ennis decides to get a stair lift. At first Jack refuses to use it, but eventually folds one day. Ennis sits in the chair calling Jack over, he pulls the other man onto his lap and distracts him with a chaste kiss as he pushes the down button. Jack doesn't fight him over the 'stairs chair' anymore.

- Gay marriage gets legalized, they find out by watching the local news like they do every night. Ennis bursts into tears, looks over at Peggy and says 'I want a divorce' before turning back to Jack with a smile.

- They get married in the summer, on their anniversary. The kids walk them down the isle, Jack III brings the rings and both cry when reading their vows.

- They go to bed that night, staring into each others eyes, holding their husband, they're husbands now. Jack curls onto the bigger man's chest and they both stare at the pictures on the wall, where it all started, Brokeback mountain, the radio playing softly in the background.

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[llycaons]

I don't actually have a strong sense of the aro/ace inclusionist tumblr cultural climate rn except like 'guyyys we were so mean to them :( let's let them in now come on' or like....really agressive and condescending posts asserting their validity and ~obvious~ inclusion in the lgbt community without any genuine followthrough or explanation

[aroacedavestrider]

hello its me a Positive Anon here to counter the weirdass anon you dealt with. trans people cool as fuck we rule. transgedner #1 babey!!!!!!!! trans men the best real. idk just thoigjt you might appreciate some positivity after that (what the fuck was that anon ON?????) casts spell of terfs die in a fire

WOOOOOOO YEAH TRANS MEN AND TRANSMASCS ARE SO COOL AND WE BALL SO HARD we deserve to be listened to and taken seriously just as much as trans women and transfem people because we MATTER and are IMPORTANT parts of the community 🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

💙 trans men / mascs who pass are important voices WHETHER OR NOT theyre openly trans and your masculinity is beautiful

💗 trans men / mascs who dont pass are deserving of visibility and having their identities respected

🤍 trans men / mascs who want to pass you are valid and you are amazing no matter what you may look like right now

💗 trans men / mascs who dont want to pass you are a real and valued member of the trans community and your expression is important

💙 nonbinary men / mascs you are just as deserving of the same treatment and respect as binary trans men / mascs

💗 multigender men / mascs your identities are so real and dont let anyone ever tell you otherwise

🤍 intersex men / mascs if you identify as trans you are not a freak and your body is not broken you are incredible

💗 bipoc trans men / mascs you are not scary you are not a threat you are so loved and if your race / culture impacts your gender then you are a valued and important voice in our community

💙 CIS MEN / MASCS. youre not trans but i want you guys to internalize this stuff too. youre not a monster for being a man. none of us are. please keep supporting your trans brothers and siblings

if you think this post is an attack on trans women / fems, ask yourself why you think that. this is a positivity post. just because we deserve positivity will never mean were trying to take it away from anyone else. dont be a jackass.

[uwumacca]

WHY was tamaki homophobic. he is FRENCH. he literally grew up in FRANCE. youre gonna look me dead in the eye and tell me that he is homophobic. how did that happen. riddle me that.

[stigm4v]

this playlist is made with a lot of love for people who like to suffer

regulus deserves the sun and james deserves to be loved

Pls like to the playlist or reblog ❤️‍🩹🏳️‍🌈

[girloftheseasons]

I hope it's alright to post this here. If not, please let me know and I'll remove it.

Bottom surgery definitely needs to be normalized. Those who get it shouldn't feel ostracized or like they're not "trans enough"

I want to add, as glad as I am about bottom surgery options, I wish doctors would be open to bettering the surgeries as well. Trans people deserve just as many medical breakthroughs as any other field, but it seems like trans healthcare gets ignored a lot.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/lab-grown-vaginas-implanted-successfully-in-4-teenagers/

This is a link to a 2014 article. I'm so mad that this is happening for cis people and still trans people are ignored, especially when it comes to healthcare and surgeries.

I know it works differently for trans and cis folks, but I hate that trans people aren't even considered for these kind of advancements.

((not shitting on bottom surgery at all, I just wish advancements were more widely occurring for trans folks))

we should hype up bottom surgery more i think. both twitter transphobes and chronically online trans people really like to be disgusted at phalloplasty, vaginoplasty, ext. and i really think we should treat them as cool and sexy and neutral like top surgery scars or whatever

[uncanny-tranny]

Re: not all cis people are bad

The amount of “downs with the cis” and just outright demonization of people just because they happen to be cis and can’t control that fact made me not want to ID as trans AT ALL. And when I realized I myself wasn’t cis I felt so alienated by the things other trans people were saying that I just didn’t exist as trans for so long because I just associated being trans with all the rude things they said about people just for being cis (not being transphobic! JUST being cis) with being trans. And of course a lot of that is on me but like I didn’t see a lot of trans positivity… it was all “trans people are more queer than cis gays/lesbians and we’re better”… etc.

I can see where you're coming from, and I suppose I also see where the people who say that are coming from. Though I think the anger is being concentrated at the wrong thing, if that makes sense. It isn't random cis people who are upholding structural transphobia, it is people in power who uphold it. Random cis people can (and often are) transphobic, but they generally don't uphold the structural transphobia that many of us live under. I think that's where a lot of "all cis are bad" comes from.

Additionally (tangentially related), the whole, "cis people are bound to be transphobic; it's simply in their nature" can really be concerning. If it is that much in a cis person's nature, it's like... what's the point of combating it if it's in their very nature. It's just an excuse for people to not overcome the transphobia that was taught to them, I feel. The existance of non-transphobic cis people and cis people who are working toward overcoming their transphobia has truly framed this for me because transphobia is taught. Nobody is born transphobic. If it is something you can overcome, then I'm hesitant to call it "in your nature".

There are trans communities who push this idea, sure. But I also notice that some people also act as though this is all trans communities (by no means am I saying anon is doing this). I think it's more complicated an issue, and I understand where both sides of trans communities are coming from.

[transpossumboy]

just a little message for everyone who doesn’t think trans men experience violence for being trans and that it only happens to trans women, that could not be farther from the truth!

i have been hearing people say “well now that you’re a guy, i can hit you!” which in itself is not an act of violence, but is a very concerning thing to hear (cause you can’t just hit people that called assault??)

taking that a step further, i’ve personally had someone actually hurt me because “if you’re going to look and sound like a guy, you have to be ready to be hit like a guy” which is fucking wild and i can almost guarantee is not an isolated incident for myself. i’ve also experienced people taking advantage of me sexually because they feel like they can “change me” or that since im trans that im inviting people to find out what’s in my pants.

so yeah, next time you think “well at least you’re a trans man, you don’t have to be afraid of violence!” you’re fucking wrong.