#lesbians are not attracted to males

[regularwomen]

Lesbians are exclusively same-sex attracted. There’s no flexibility, change or room for movement on this.

[inkskinned]

you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

[swarnpert]

there are times where i wish i could have been a very butch lesbian but that was definitely meant for me in another life

[radsplain]

people hate lesbians. PEOPLE HATE LESBIANS!!!

[hasarjunadoneanythingwrong]

Hakunon explicitly calls nero and tamamo her wives and Hakuno doesn't...

I'd like to say that's a wlw win but I suspect it's probably more like 'male gatcha players players don't take female romantic interest in other female characters as a threat the same way they do with a male character expressing romantic interest in a female character' combined with the tendency to treat homosexual female relationships as something you 'grow out of' and not serious in Japan.

[sharkboywrites]

Hey guys, just letting you know that if you harass one trans group “in defense” of the other, you’re not helping the trans community

[mavkarants]

It always pisses me off when gendies use bisexual supremacy as a way to say that everyone feels attracted to both sexes and that what actual same-sex attraction is just "gender" based attraction.

Like genital preference? Literally only bisexuals have that. Homosexuals have a requirement, not a preference. Lesbians can not like penis. A lesbian is a same sex attracted female. Gay men can not "prefer" vulva because then they are not gay!

"Gender" based attraction? Literally only bisexuals can like feminine women and feminine men only based on their femininity. The only "gender" lesbians can like are the ones who are female, masculine or feminine or androgynous. Does not matter, she just has to be female. There is no "gender based attraction" for homosexuals.

"Vagina fetishest" Literally bashing lesbians for being lesbians. A sexual body part can not be a fetish. A fetish is literally attraction to a nonsexual object or thing. Like a foot fetish, a foot is a nonsexual body part. And they never do this to bisexuals. They never call them genital fetishists.

It does not matter when, or how, or why. If you are not bisexual in some way, you are a bigot.

I just hope they leave us tf alone.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

i love you non-aspec spilt attraction model users i love you multigender people i love you trans men with sapphic history i love you genderfluix people i love you cusper and evenic people i love you genderqueer people i love you trans women with achillean history i love you abrosexuals and abromantics i love you attractional fluidity i love you complexities of the human experience i love you i love you you are love and i love you

repost, og feb 7, 2023

[thirddoctor]

don't know how else to say this but there are reasons to care about women beyond whether or not you're attracted to them

[cowchickenbeefpork]

I should make a post discussing how edlee is impacted by gender dymantic by discussing how different the ship would be by describing how gender changes change the dymantic (f/f, m/m /fm in the other way).

this idea has been spinning around in my head for a few days now. I’ll make that post discussing what would change if edlee was lesbian or gay or het in the other way when I draw my little diagram showcasing how each would look somewhat

[heterophobicdyke]

i think if you're bi and choose to only date women for safety/political/avoiding inequality reasons that's perfectly fine. Or just because you prefer women or whatever. But why on earth you'd insist on calling yourself a lesbian in spite of actual lesbians finding it offensive and also in a climate where everyone in every sphere already tries to co-opt and blur and gain access to our identity is crazy lol. Febfem or whatever people use now seems much more. Sensible

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[neofelis----nebulosa]

Po and Tigress's relationship is so funny because they're written like a queerbait couple but like. its a male character and a female character. like theres some stuff that is obviously written in a way that can be interpreted as romantic but like the movie never actually backs it up with any further development of a romance between the two. there's always that plausible deniability so they dont actually have to follow up on it.

[hwajin]

me @ men today

[artinvain]

“culturally queer” , “growing up gay” stfu 😭😭🤫

[arpeggio-the-parrot]

I came out as a lesbian recently but let it be known that I’m still extremely devoted and happily married to Arpeggio

[rosemaryyuri]

one thing i’ve noticed in those polls or posts about fandom misogyny and widespread favoritism of male characters in fans of fictional media is that people will always blame their consistent gravitation towards men on the media itself? which can be reasonable depending on the media but i think maybe as a response to that you should invest more in media that does have well written and fleshed out female characters. i promise there are some out there. and also a lot of the time it just feels false something something for a male character people will fill in the holes in the story and flesh him out where the media doesn’t while for the female character it’s crickets. like idk i feel there should be at least a tad more self awareness with this kind of thing? might just be me though.