#leaving patriarchy

[magdalene-spirit]

Meeting the Madwoman: An Inner Challenge for Feminine Spirit by Linda Schierse

It is we who have severed ourselves from the old ways of the great Mother & the natural agrarian & egalitarian order of Naure.

That is to live with Nature, in a felt participation & sense of belonging within the great circle / circuit of flow, where energy circulates & so there is enough for the needs of everyone in the community.

A way of living that is not in opposition to Nature but in deep magical sympathy with the natural laws / laws of Nature (the essences, the Shakti's, the Matrika's, the principles, the Gods/Goddesses, the forces, the planetary intelligences etc.).

In whichever way we personify the high laws, there can only be harmony when we are deeply tuned in, to hear & see, with deepest intuition how to balance ourselves & our culture within the greater ecosystem in which we are embedded- not separate from.

When we are in a state of listening & reverence, we remember how to go about life so that we are provided for.

When wealth accumulation starts we withhold energy from the great flow which then disturbs a delicate balance & elsewhere things start to collapse.

The paradox we are in is that we can almost no longer return to the natural order, & when we have sufficiently cut ourselves off from it we are also destined to die off along with it.

Cut off from the great flow a system becomes artificial, a machine & must be sustained by siphoning & directing energy from elsewhere where it flows naturally, towards it- patriarchy & late capitalism is a beast, a wealth-making machine, that is destined to collapse, like any parasite must die, when the host can't give anymore.

But Nature is perpetually regenerative, seasonal & self-sustaining & once the parasite is expelled, She will grow & birth & flourish.

As much as we wish, no-one can entirely leave patriarchy for the forest, & we fear that if we just walk away we will be homeless on the streets.

Now, this very fear is our inner work, our meditation, our complicity, our inertia, our stuckness— how to find a way of living, within the modern landscape, that is true for us-& to free ourselves from materialism.

[returning-to-her]

Stage one of leaving the patriarchy. I discuss the first step: understanding and acknowledgment and what to do.

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[radfemtasy]

You moids should stop forcing Bengalis to not have non-veg cause according to you, it's a sin! For you it may be Navratri, but for us it's Durga Puja and we have meat during Durga Puja.

Fuck your hinduism, my hinduism taught me how to be free as a woman. My hinduism taught me to be my own Lakshmi, my own Saraswati, my own Kali. My hinduism taught me to have freedom to be educated, to be financially independent and to be self-defensive. Your hinduism taught you how to control us, women, and be dominating. You can celebrate Navratri but you don't waste your day in selling your daughter to some stranger instead of sending her to school. You can worship goddesses but you're helpless when your own daughter gets raped, harassed, abused or you rape and harass a girl or a woman. You can worship a goddess when you don't even know that rape has been common since the Vedic period! You are hypocrites and defenseless! Forget about the sadhus from the very old era-- these new sadhus, from this era, are hypocrites and rapists! Y'all only know how to defend your misogynistic hinduism without gaining any proper knowledge! The caste system, sato, dowry; that was your hinduism, not mine!

My hinduism taught me not to be docile and submissive to you, moids. Even if I don't wear the ghunghat, I'll make sure to toss it away when you force me. If you abuse me, I'll abuse you back, because I know I'm stronger than you.

Yes, I'll eat non-veg in Durga Puja and Diwali.

Yes, I refuse to celebrate Karwa Chauth because I'm not from your misogynistic culture.

Yes, I'll talk back even if you restraint me.

Yes, I'll wear anything I want.

Yes, I refuse to cover my head with ghunghat.

And yes, I'll do everything you've restricted me to.

Because I'm not your submissive and docile girl. I am a woman.

So, Fuck you and your hinduism!

[eclecticwordblender]

that clip of nirmala sitharaman implying patriarchy does not exist because indira gandhi was the PM of India and women work in ISRO etc. literally has comments of males opposing her (surprisingly no character assassinations or misogynistic slurs).

these women are for real the biggest hinderances to our liberation. how exactly is the rest of the world to take the feminist cause seriously when educated women in power have such pick-me coded things to say?

[tiredyke]

we should never have let fully capable grown men feel comfortable & confident admitting they can’t do their own laundry or make their own meals because their wife became their second mom. we need to at least make them feel a little embarrassed about it

[angel-archivist]

It's so interesting and so exceedingly frustrating how agab is being utilized now within the queer community as a way to isolate and sort nonbinary and genderqueer folks into binary boxes that determine their moral purity levels, and their authority to do and write and exist.

The way nonbinary writers are being put under accusation of fetishizing gay men while their AGAB is continually brought up in a way that feels like queer-space-approved misgendering.

The way feminist circles that are supposedly trans-inclusive will use the word AFAB in a way that implicitly but intentionally isolates nonbinary people who aren't AFAB from joining. It's for women*.

The way the language is already flawed and leaves out intersex folks from the conversations while focusing on a binary of sex that isn't truthful.

The constant obsessing over whether someone is AFAB or AMAB and whether or not that gives them the privilege to join, do, write, or be present in certain spaces really really concerns me. How are we supposed to dismantle a binary system of gender if we can't even move past forcibly assigning and focusing on people's genders assigned at birth?

[asleepdeprivedtree]

Me, watching Barbie and seeing the protagonist somewhat unwillingly go on a journey to save their perfect home and the world, having an "of course you are, and I'm coming with you" moment, be chased by numerous men dressed in black, and then in the end leaving their home because they were changed by their journey and can no longer live happily in their home:

[marshmellowtea]

celia hates basically all of chris's friends by virtue of them Being Chris's Friends (it personally offends her that there are people who love him better than she ever could in his life), but she has a special distaste for sandra, who she not only dislikes for being a dirty whore promiscuous, but she's also openly accused her of trying to steal chris from her, an accusation that held no weight when it was first leveled at her cuz sandra hadn't thought she cared about chris like that but it slowly became a self fulfilling prophecy as she spent more time with him and his parents and decided "yeah, actually, i am going to steal your son from you and your creep husband you piece of shit, fuck you celia fuck you fuck youfuck you"

[tariah23]

Let me get off twitter but yeah, this is what black and brown women have been saying forever tho.

[starry-eyer]

if westeros was created to reflect our modern society instead of being loosely based off of western medieval society, then i think people would understand that these political marriages are for alliances, not love, and would agree that the modern lower class sentiments towards marriage are simply not applicable to these arrangements and both bride and groom cannot and should not expect love from their partner.

if our story occurred in a modern westeros very similar to our own modern society, then a lot of the obstacles our characters face would not happen because, simply put, modern society benefits from equality.

as an example, i am quite (100%) certain that the introduction of gender equality and other modern values and advancements to westeros would only be beneficial to rhaegar and elia, which means that this ideology benefits westerosi society on an individual level.

so, in this modern westeros au, if rhaegar and elia still married for a political alliance, and then had two children like they did in asoiaf, they could then peacefully divorce and write out a contract that secures both rhaenys and aegons inheritances. if lyanna and rhaegar met and fell in love while rhaegar and elia were married then the misunderstanding that sparked a war would never have happened. why? because lyanna would have a say in who she marries in this modern au. also, elia would have possibly been seeing others as well. why? because this was a political marriage and love shouldn’t be expected, so why would anyone be concerned about either party finding love outside of their marriage? plus modern westeros would have dna testing so there’s no reason to question the paternity of their children.

also, if elia had a child with someone else (in this hypothetical scenario, perhaps her lover died) and rhaegar decided to claim that child as his own while knowing that he’s not the real father in order to give this child a better life, then this wouldn’t be a problem either. why? because rhaegar’s in the know. (i’m only bringing this up bc of the rhaenyra and laenor situation. guys… laenor is perfectly aware that biologically those kids aren’t his, yet he still claimed them and loved them bc he and rhaenyra had an agreement. i do not understand why real ppl are even concerned about jace, luke, and joffs parentage. in the eyes of the law those boys are legally laenors.)

however, since asoiaf isn’t based off of our modern society and is instead a society riddled with misogyny, xenophobia and other social issues without the progress and advancements that we in the 21st century have benefited from, i will concede one thing to these antis who harp on and on about how selfish rhaenyra and rhaegar were for loving someone who wasn’t their spouse and for having a child(ren) out of wedlock.

because yes, rhaegar and lyanna’s love can be considered an act of selfishness, and rhaenyra loving harwin and having children with him can also be considered selfish.

but guess what? love in general is a very selfish state of being. you are prioritizing your partner and your desires over everything and everyone else in your life.

one of the greatest love stories of all time, romeo and juliet, is a tale of two selfish lovers who seek to be together despite the immense hatred between their families. selfless and dutiful children would never love an enemy. and yet, despite romeo and juliet’s love story ending in tragedy, no one would ever argue that these two lovers were in the wrong for simply trying to be together even though their love caused their families great grief. why? because the feud between the Montagues and the Capulets was stupid. and the story ends with the characters agreeing that this feud went on for long enough and acknowledging the fact that this petty feud between the families was the cause of their misery and the tragedy that befell them.

though the circumstances of all three love stories are different, it’s undeniable that these lovers were selfish for prioritizing their own desires over their duties to their houses.

to end this little spiel, i’d like to mention that the reason i first brought up a modern au was to remind people that the only reason rhaelya and rhaenyra’s relationship with harwin can be so decisively called selfish is because these characters live in westeros. and westeros is a fucked up society rooted in systematic oppression, violence, and abuse and other forms of exploitation in order to further the agenda of the powerful despite the harm it causes. any modern comforts and progressive ideas hinder the control the patriarchs have over their families and put a name to the bigotry expressed against these unconventional relationships. so yes, their love is selfish because being unconventional in such a backwards society is a recipe for disaster, especially since both of these relationships hinge on a woman deciding to take control of her sexual autonomy, which is a big no no in westeros since a woman’s body only belongs to her father and husband. so yes, these love stories are selfish because these characters are prioritizing themselves in a society that benefits from them losing their autonomy and harms them and their loved ones when they try to take back their autonomy.

to finish off, the reason i brought up the tragic love story of romeo and juliet is to remind people that even though rhaegar and lyanna’s love was selfish, other characters still need to be held accountable for their actions that helped to escalate this misunderstanding into a tragedy that consumed all of westeros.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

it’s deeply funny to me that radfems are out there calling other people “libfems” when they’re lib as shit on every issue that’s not sexism and some issues that are like. bro the issue is that you are not radical enough y'all are milquetoast libs at best when it comes to any sort of activism that isn’t about cishet able bodied neurotypical white wealthy women. like bro you can't be demonising mental illness and saying mentally ill people should be locked up because they’re dangerous, or argue for the continued dehumanisation and objectification children face that contributes to severe abuse, or mock gay men as disgusting predators and pretend you’re much different from an enlightened centrist who thinks women complain too much you’re more progressive in exactly one aspect. and even in that you fucking suck you invented brand new insults for abuse victims bc women being victimised by men are just stupid handmaids who should have known better than to tempt him i mean should have known better than to trust a man like it’s just what were you wearing rhetoric but condescending instead of outright cruel. like y'all sound like conservative christians talking about how men can’t help it and if you’re raped it’s your fault but in a way that frames men as inherently bad for it without removing the idea that women are stupid temptresses that would have known better bc you’re still framing it as provoking an inherently dangerous creature and not. a person choosing to be shit in ways that are Influenced by culture but not inherent to anyone raised in any environment like abuse is an active choice men make and not the default. if every man chose it then the fault would be with women for trusting a wild animal to not act like a wild animal but this is somehow radical and feminist if we say we hate men too like no you’re not even lib you’re conservative at this point how do you get into a battle with fucking choice feminism and lose at respecting women like you got into a fight with a coughing baby and still lost how do you victim blame more than fucking choice feminism it’d be impressive if it wasn’t so mysogynistic

[murphysiblings]

"women who act/dress masculine do it because they hate femininity" translation: a woman (or someone im percieving as a woman) isnt conforming to gender roles the way i want her to & its making me uncomfortable but i have to make it sound like im being feminist about it

[alliswyattonthewesternfront]

i think it's funny that i used to get categorized by my peers as a man-hating lesbian, and told all of my problems with men were because i had unrealistic expectations, had only met bad men, hadn't met "real men", or whatever dismissive bullshit you care to insert. not, you know, because of the way men have acted around and toward me all my life. i was assured that eventually, i'd meet a nice guy and then i'd stop being so uptight and bitchy.

well, jokes on them. i met an absolutely wonderful, kind, thoughtful man, and now i'm even MORE disappointed in the rest of y'all! it's only made me less likely to make excuses for bad behavior! i actually have an even bigger beef because there was so much bullshit i didn't even realize y'all were doing! it was just background noise to all the assault and harassment. get fucked!!!

my friend's mom put this on the fridge as a reminder to her daughter and her friends. date a man who radiates such goodness he raises the standards of everyone around you just by existing. the rest of y'all are going on the list.

[xcelentei]

Men only want one thing and it's whatever the fuck is going on in Kaiju no 8 episode 5

[maxellminidisc]

[winepresswrath]

I do love it when Lestat attempts little Claudia do-overs like I cannot see Rose and Mona except through that lens and for this reason I am desperate to see them in the AMC show. Lestat will forget that Mona exists when she leaves his sight line or at least choose not to think about her on purpose but she IS a Claudia defender and explicitly connects their situations and I love that.