#it’s literally not offensive at all and it is not a problem

[just-sg]

"If I ever do anything to upset you, please just let me know! I can't fix what I don't realize is happening!"

"^w^ Oh of course! I'm sure it won't be any trouble though!"

[...]

":/ Hey so everyone's been talking and we agree you're really insufferable and we don't want you around anymore. Here's a long list of things we've never mentioned having a problem with until right now. Anyway goodbye forever."

"Cool so this is literally exactly the kind of thing I was talking about but thanks for being jackasses incapable of communicating literally at all. 👍"

Also always fun:

"I shouldn't have to explain to you what I found rude, you should know." Cool. Even if it was true that I should, I don't know! So that "should" isn't really irrelevant, is it. Also have you considered that your experiences are not universal actually and what some people consider friendly is deeply offensive to others and vice versa and that expecting everyone to read your mind about your own personal culture and experiences and preferences helps literally no one?

"Maybe you should actually think about what you say." Funny story, I overthink everything at all times. I constantly delete over half of what I type and rewrite the rest numerous times to try to be as gentle as possible while still conveying my own feelings even a tiny bit and apparently even that's too much for people. I go non-verbal under stress in part because I'm terrified of saying anything wrong; unlike typing, I only get one chance to say it, most people won't let you say "no, that's not what I meant." Clearly anything you say mid-meltdown is eternally binding and the truest reflection of everything about you.

And many more.

Every one of these has happened numerous times. But you know. Autistics are bad at communication. For... -checks notes-... wanting it to be clear, direct, and specific. Idk man I feel like maybe being allergic to just speaking openly even when directly requested isn't exactly the pinnacle of communication skill either but who knows.

a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints

[gatheringbones]

[“Fear mongering about sex is a very effective political strategy, whether it’s perpetuating the myths that porn warps our minds, that kinky people have no boundaries, or that queer adults groom children by simply existing.

Despite the risky controversy she’s courting, [Andrea] Chu needs us to know that arousal can show us what is possible. She celebrates bimboism as affirming in its very artificiality: “From the perspective of gender, then, we’re all dumb blondes.” In her book, Chu describes the kind of porn that gave her “a neat allegory for my desire to be female.” Her tastes gravitated to amateur Tumblr posts where images of women were reappropriated with the fantasy that they were former men who had been sissified by cisgender women, much like my cross-dressing clients. Porn that stars actual trans people has long existed. So has cross-dressing erotica. But it was the specific kind of second-person address content, popularized in the online videos produced by sex workers and sold through digital clip stores, that inspired Chu. This porn doesn’t just depict forced feminization; it claims to have the power to actively force feminize.

Obviously, many people have been turned on by sissy porn and not transitioned. This is the fallacy at the heart of most anti-porn arguments: one person’s reaction to an image is made to stand in for the entire medium and the entire audience. Moreover, if porn can help someone get in touch with something true about themselves, then it’s doing the best thing any art, no matter how crude, can do: use fiction to help us know ourselves better, and to make us feel less alone. Porn, in all its offensive reflections of our throbbing collective id, can teach us a lot about ourselves precisely by being so extra, with its extreme secondary sexual characteristics, extreme gaping, extreme squirting, extremely stamina-challenging intercourse positions.

A lot of people read porn very literally, and interpret its meaning when they’re not turned on, which (to continue with my WWE comparison) is like going to a wrestling match and screaming for help because it appears to you that someone is being attacked. Fantasies, whether conjured in the throes of horniness or in a drag performance, are simultaneously delightful and insulting; oftentimes this comes down to not only point of view but mood. Like all forms of entertainment, porn often both depicts and contributes to harmful stereotypes. But it’s a mistake to believe that porn is somehow more culpable than rom-coms, action-adventure, billboard advertising, children’s toys, self-help newsletters, lifestyle brands, or social media influencers in perpetuating burdensome gender norms. Scapegoating porn is not going to solve the problems of social oppression; in fact, embracing the importance of erotic art of all kinds in society can help us to better understand our true nature.”]

tina horn, from why are people into that? a cultural investigation of kink, 2024

[gottencents]

Brown Eyes - Lisa Manoban

pairing. spiderwoman!lisa x girlfriend!reader

synopsis. after a long night of fighting crime, spider-woman Lisa always finds her way back to Y/n, the one person who makes her feel grounded.

The city skyline shimmered under the moonlight as you stood on your apartment balcony, sipping on a warm cup of tea. The air was crisp, carrying the faint scent of rain from earlier. It was a quiet night—or at least, it had been.

A sudden gust of wind and the soft thwip of webbing alerted you to the presence of none other than your favorite visitor. Before you could react, a familiar red-and-black figure swung gracefully onto your balcony railing, crouching like a cat about to pounce.

“Miss me?” Lisa, or rather, Spider-Woman, grinned beneath her mask, her voice laced with playful confidence.

You rolled your eyes, setting your cup down. “You literally saw me this morning.”

Lisa pulled off her mask, shaking out her slightly tousled hair. “Yeah, but the night makes everything more romantic,” she teased, hopping down onto the balcony floor. “And I wanted to see my favorite person before heading out again.”

You folded your arms, giving her an unimpressed look. “Uh-huh. And this visit has nothing to do with you wanting my leftover cookies?”

Lisa gasped dramatically. “Y/n, how could you accuse me of such betrayal?” She placed a hand over her chest as if deeply wounded, then smirked. “But since you mentioned cookies…”

Laughing, you took her hand and pulled her inside. “Come on, hero. I’ll get you some.”

As you went to the kitchen, Lisa followed closely, wrapping her arms around your waist from behind. “Mmm, you smell nice,” she murmured against your shoulder, swaying slightly with you.

You giggled. “Spider-women aren’t supposed to be this clingy, you know.”

“Says who?” Lisa lifted her head, her lips brushing against your ear. “Maybe I fight crime all day just so I can come home and be your problem instead.”

Your heart fluttered at her words, but you played it cool. “Oh, great. So I’m just your post-patrol cuddle buddy now?”

“Exactly,” Lisa hummed, spinning you around so she could look into your eyes. “And you love it.”

You pretended to think for a moment. “Hmm. I guess it’s not the worst thing in the world…”

Lisa gasped, feigning offense. “Not the worst? Y/n, I risk my life fighting bad guys, swinging from skyscrapers, dodging explosions—and this is the thanks I get?”

You bit your lip to hide your smile, then reached up to cup her face gently. “Thank you for always coming back to me.”

Lisa’s playful expression softened. She leaned into your touch, her brown eyes warm with something deeper. “I always will.”

The moment stretched between you, the city noise fading into the background. Then, Lisa’s gaze flickered to your lips.

“Can I kiss you?” she asked, her voice barely above a whisper.

Your breath caught. “You better.”

Lisa grinned before closing the distance, her lips capturing yours in a slow, tender kiss. Her hands rested on your waist, holding you close, as if anchoring herself to you.

When she pulled away, her forehead rested against yours. “Y’know,” she murmured, “I think I like being tangled up with you.”

You laughed softly, your fingers playing with the hem of her suit. “Good. Because you’re stuck with me now, Spider-Woman.”

Lisa grinned, pulling you back in for another kiss. “Best webbing I’ve ever gotten caught in.”

[boysnberriespie]

Saying this in the most loving way possible, I wish I could block blazed fandom posts

[yanderespamton78]

Pinup!!!!! the baby!!!! the guy!!!!

sorry if this looks kinda iffy the majority of this was drawn between 11pm and 2:30am so i was very tired loll

also yes that is a totoro bag i dont care if totoro doesnt exist in cyber city he has a totoro bag come at me

Pinup belongs to @turntableart

[themarsbar]

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[a-dash-in-the-middle]

wanting to visit the archives without looking like a fanatic bc nobody likes posting government documents online apparently

[livvyofthelake]

and at the end of the day we really should be thanking dylan o’brien for ultimately being the piece of shit ex boyfriend that inspired one of the best pop girlie albums of 2024… it’s literally a normal thing to fall in love with movie stars! so i have heard!!!

[constantvariations]

Absolutely love that folks who hate Adam come up with the same arguments damn near word for word

1. He's a cringe edgelord (subjective and not inheritely a bad thing??)

2. He's violent (in a combat heavy cartoon)

3. He's a reverse racist (when he literally is branded with his oppressor's company initials)

4. He's a domestic abuser (when he's written by a company who think it's funny to stalk random women on the street from their cars)

[moonlit-clary-sage]

Every time I go to work and get blatantly disrespected and have my salary and job security threatened by arbitrary rules that punish me for factors that are beyond my control an evil part of me wants to threaten to quit mid work day and never go back. Would love to see them try to lob $0.50/hr off my paycheck after that.

[liddlediddy]

I just had a "conversation" (I use that word VERY lightly) with my mom about fatphobia that can be boiled down to:

Me (fat): "I feel bad for my friend (also fat) because no matter how much she diets & exercises (which is a lot) she's never gonna look like how she wants to look (skinny) because she's not built like that. It sucks that society demonizes fat people & prioritizes weight over health & that the healthiest person I know (friend) believes she's worthless"

Mom (fat as well and also fatphobic): "so you think that if I went to the doctor right now they'd tell me I was healthy?" (huh??????)

[3416]

just read a take about how 58-34-88 should play together in the playoffs bc we’ve had a baffling lack of offense without them, and i’d just like to say........... that is incorrect

[sunsoak]

Everyone’s all “nonbinary is included in every sexuality” until a nonbinary person who is on hormones prefers men who like men and women who like women and all of a sudden I’m being problematic and offensive to…….. well everyone I guess

[microsuedemouse]

I have been wearing my altered jeans at work for like two months without a single word from management - and, in point of fact, with numerous compliments from customers, coworkers, and supervisors - but apparently I’m not allowed to anymore? because I guess yesterday someone from corporate saw them and told my manager they weren’t acceptable for work? my trousers have to be a single solid colour (specifically black or dark blue). I need outta this place so bad lmao

[orcelito]

Very definitely have Bite Shape on my leg now :/

[tautozhone]

i feel like a good majority of what i could possibly say about this has already said, but i can’t resist chiming in anyway. i think using some of these terms as some sort of integrated part of a synopsis doesn’t really bother me. like i’ve certainly found a lot of my favorite fanfic tropes work their way into my writing somehow, that’s just the nature of influence & inspiration. this isn’t bad, tropes are tropes and they can sell books, i just think the delivery of it is what matters most. what’s so infuriating about it is in fact the corporate feeling that it’s just a marketing tactic, whether the story was built solely around some tropes or not, this is all a horrible product of corporations realizing and recognizing fandom, for the worst in most ways.

hypothetically if i came across an author on booktok who said “follow the lives of A and B as their tumultuous business rivalry turns to a tense friendship. A, owning a coffee shop adjacent to the cafe that B runs, finds themself caught up in a complicated web of emotion upon having to move in with the last person they would have expected. occupying the same space together proves difficult, both A and B finding it nearly impossible to avoid each other. as both businesses threaten to go under, nothing can possibly get in the way of focusing on what truly matters. watch as A and B teeter on the fence between love and hate as they each fight to out-pace the other, no matter the circumstance” i would find it more intriguing than an author saying ��do you like friends to lovers? and then they’re roomates? and it’s a coffee shop business rivals slowburn?? then golly this book is for you!!” at this point darling you told me nothing hooked me on something i could get from ao3, FFnet, etc and SOMEHOW i do feel you spoiled the drama along the way. a lot of readers will likely react this way. listing tropes gets interest from those who know them, like them, would want to read them, but where’s the rest of the incentive to actually engage with your story instead of just going and finding a fanfic that delivers more information than what you’re giving.

i think “get creative with it” will always trump “don’t use it at all” at least if you ask me. however we aren’t talking about placing sleeper codes for potential audiences, this fandom focus were starting to see in entertainment as a whole is some deliberate advertisement and marketing. of course it has a hollow feeling to it, of course it feels like the story itself is always id coming second to the getting-you-to-read-it bullshit. authorship as a whole has been warped by ideas of target audiences, marketable ideas, originality and uniqueness, all taking massive priority over engaging storytelling.

id ask what the actual fuck happened to the idea of promoting a work as a whole, or it’s starting point, or it’s general summary, just something not standing as disjointed boiled down phrases- if i did not already feel the answer. it’s an unsurprising one.

capitalism values creation as product and profit. never as a process, never as an act of passion but as means for monetary gain. marketing on listing tropes screams “we only care about the concept of industry entertainment and easy attention grabbing here, nothing of substance to see unless you buy the book to find out if any of these tropes are well executed at all, and the less you know before buying the more we hope that makes you buy anyway”. this shit thrives even more with rampant consumption, all of it ends up so short lived because they need readers to move on to the next idea as quickly as the last one fades.

tldr: if anyone- reader or publisher- ever asks me to summarize my work with fanfic tropes, i am hexing them and cursing their bloodline.

Sorry it’s early but you really can’t use fanfiction terms in a non fanfiction context like if someone is trying to sell me a book to read and they tell me there’s an enemy to lovers I would be annoyed because why are you spoiling the story lol