#it’s always great hearing from you

[walder-138]

Gotta try this 🕯️

DAMN DAWG I JUST POSTED THAT 😭 I ALWAYS LOVE HEARING FROM YOU BUT HOW DO YOU LIKE MY POSTS SO FAST???

What they think about Helina:

Oz: “Now, why in the hell would the government let a fucking Red in on CIA operations? Especially one who previously worked with the biggest threat to the US since goddamn Smallpox. Don’t know this Adler guy, but it seems like he lacks common sense.” (My brother in Christ would be so confused why they let her on missions 💀) (If the CIA called him back to service and they worked together, Oz wouldn’t trust her as far as he could throw her. Too much wartime “nostalgia” with Soviets.) Overall: 3/10

Annika: “The only person I can trust. We’re cut from the same cloth. She’s like a sister to me, and I’d do whatever I can to keep her safe, as I know she’d do the same for me.” 100/10

Abbey: “I don’t understand how a human being could put someone through what she had to experience. She’s strong for being able to overcome the shit they put her through; I know it’s not easy.” (Abbey wouldn’t judge Helina for her past, and would relate to her past experiences with both Perseus and Adler, albeit in different ways.) 6.5/10

How they’d think about Eileen:

Oz: “She’s got a good head on her shoulders. Thank God she doesn’t work at the VA, she could read anyone like a open book. Used to think psychology is a load of horse manure, y’know, hippie-dippie shit till she came around.” (Oz thought psychology was just talking about your feelings and shit like a wimp before she came around. He would really respect her.) 6/10

Annika: “Thank you for helping shitty comb-over man rewrite my brain! Really appreciate it! 👍” -5/10, do I really need to explain?

Abbey: “I want to get close to and trust her, but I’m nervous about every interaction with her being recorded and used against me. She seems like a good one, but it’s just surface deep. She’s on a mission, and I’m not letting her make me lose my job.” (She’d be very mistrusting of Eileen because of her past experiences with psychiatrists. Abbey would understand she’s one of the good ones, but still be paranoid around her. I do think it’s possible for Abbey to push aside her phobia and open up after a while.) 5/10

I hope this is coherent lmao. Thank you again for the ask pookie!

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[celestialorcas]

I'm normal about this game I'm normal about this game I'm Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves. Heart. Lungs. Liver. Nerves.

[uncanny-tranny]

Something I think ought to be more readily-available and encouraged is simply... taking parental classes. I wish it were more common for people to realize just how hard - and important - parenting is, and indeed, that we all could use help with taking care of young folk. It's really alarming that popular opinion is still that parental classes are only for the "fuck-up" parents, or the parents who utterly failed. It should be seen as a good thing to take parental classes - especially on your own volition. It should be seen as imperative for one to take them, it should be a free, accurate, and scheduled occurrence so that people of any background are able to attend.

[shannonsketches]

One of my favorite differences in the DBZ manga that makes Vegebul make More Sense To Me, is that because Vegeta never left Earth, he was living at Capsule Corp for over two years before Bulma got pregnant (assuming Trunks is like 3-6mos old when we see him as a baby), but she said she 'wouldn't live with that jerk' afterward, which implies (to me) that he'd been a chill enough housemate up until the pregnancy, which tracks with his generally private and professional behavior as a Lord in the Freeza Force (in the manga).

I like to think it became a compounding factor in learning that he was slated to be killed in a year, and led to him being uncharacteristically overzealous and performative (and so opposed to Trunks getting close to him) in the android saga as opposed to how strategic and cautious he was with serious threats in the Freeza saga.

I am also always thinking about how Something Happened between him losing to Cell and re-entering the time chamber in the manga, because he was back living at Capsule Corp and staying near Trunks and Bulma when the Cell Games were announced.

[tired-teacher-blog]

Hi Teach! Now that MHA is over I was wondering how you feel?

Personally I don't know what to do with myself (I grew up with this series), but I'm glad we at least have the Vigilantes anime coming up eventually ( ´﹀` ٥ ).｡O

In the meantime I hope you've been doing well! (*^▽︎^)

Hello my lovely Michi how are you doing?

Oh it's the end of an era isn't it? After 10 years of laughter, tears, hope and despair, we finally say goodbye to the characters we grew to love (some we hated) and it's not going to be easy.

That being said, I have to say that I did not agree with a lot of Hori's choices when it came to deciding his characters' end game (namely the todoroki's) but I guess I get it, it takes a lot of time and effort to weekly deliver a -hopefully- captivating chapter, and doing so for a decade can be too much to handle, and it sadly was for Hori.

Regardless of all that, mha will remain one of the best things that ever happened to me, because thanks to it, I got to further explore my love for writing, was able to meet a lot of amazing people most of whom I'm proud to call friends, and I also discovered many talented writers and artists.

[enigmaticpink]

I wonder how my great great great grandma who was born in 1907 and died before even my mom was born would feel to know that in 2024 there's a cat named after her. Like to know that her own great granddaughter who she only ever known as a little girl, would as a 65 year old woman, adopt a cat and think like...'she reminds me of my great grandmother who's been gone longer now than I ever knew her.'

[phoenixcatch7]

The thing with stories of any type is that everything is a translation. Sometimes literally, from the author's own head, from another language, from book to TV.

Then there's things like visual metaphors, props and fake backgrounds, set pieces, onomatopoeia, paragraphs of description that everyone will visualise slightly differently, animated contortions, unrealistic but helpful sound effects, camera angles to emphasise mood.

In fantasy or scifi settings you can't even assume they're speaking the language you do. That their culture is exactly what's shown and nothing more.

So much of what makes up good world building is shorthand, is making it work to the audience, is using something in the right context rather than digging up every detail that would make or break the illusion.

A character in a magical world, or even simply a non English speaking country, would not use the same curse words. Leather could be presumed to be cow but could just as easily be any number of bizarre creatures. Booking a hotel could require a very different system to one we're used to. Champagne, the word, wouldn't exist without France but it carries the meaning of expensive alcohol for celebrations and parties, the readers would understand what it means.

Tolkien did it with LOTR and it was a masterpiece. The prevalent themes of dark and light being mere shorthand for expansive good and evil, used to convey the messages it needed rather than entirely new words the readers wouldn't intuit? The characters not even going by their actual names? A whole entire conlang that never even gets mentioned in the actual story??? That's a man who has a grasp on how tightly interconnected the world, history and culture all reflect each other. I mean of course he did, it was his job, but what he did was nothing short of fantastical.

All this to say, I believe this is the root of all world building. Cohesive, well balanced, feasible, detailed-but-not-too-much, no words that'd break a reader's/viewer's immersion, expansive enough, realistic, resonant, coherent, believable. All of it, whether fantastical or realistic, stems from one thing.

Is this a good translation of what you had in your head?

[potatoesandsunshine]

percy’s great bc it’s like. he simply believes the rules don’t apply to him. he’s always the smartest person in the room. he makes choices knowing there would be consequences if other people made them, but there won’t be this time. because he’s the one making the choices.

[monards]

can a girl ramble aboutthe way you can interpret so many parts of the propaganda and characterization of rhine by other the people/general populace of teyvat as people largely antagonizing neurodivergent traits without being chased with pitchforks and torches.

[iwaasfairy]

it's always sad to realize but people who never contact you first aren't your friends. i always let people into my heart very easily n it kinda comes around to bite me bc i always consider people friends even tho they aren't very friendly at all to me

[iceinherheart-kissonherlips]

you'll never get away from the sound of the woman that loves you  🎶

[nomairuins]

i like overthink everything now it makes me feel so dumb. i used 2 be able to just talk 2 ppl but nowadays every single thing im like Is that actually going to make them hate me. Yes probably. and then i just dont respond which makes ppl hate me. this is how it is

[freakbullet]

welcome back, queen! we missed you dearly 🫂 hope you've recovered well while you were away

if not, here's some milk

its my friend camie!! thanks for the delicious treat! its probably expired by now but fuck it we ball

[peoplesprincessgeorge]

This was the best race to watch irl cause I was just having a wonderful time enjoying Oscar's win, just to see absolute carnage on my phone later. Anyways go Oscar future WDC frfr

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

"i mess up things and then i don't have the energy to fix them up" yes brain true sentence but no brain the appropriate response is NOT "therefore i should kill myself (and here's how)"