#it wasn’t an active issue

[iridescentis]

idk if I've told this story before but when I went to like a camp type of thing a couple years ago, I was completely coincidentally assigned to a group that was 90% queer people. like we had one ally one homophobe and everyone else was queer, including our leaders and it was possibly the best experience of my life

i had just been through a year of having no friends, discovering my gender identity and my sexuality AND trying to solve my mental health problems for the first time, i was terrified

but it was the first time, as a queer person, that i ever had that moment of holy shit there's nothing wrong with me

i told the girls my pronouns and they instantly changed the name of the 'girls groupchat' to include me. they just went oops sorry and started using my pronouns like it was nothing. for the first time ever i actually felt normal and it was amazing, i still felt included and part of the group, i never felt weird or out of place, they just treated me like a person

and this isn't just with queerness it was also me as a person! i always felt like i was subconsciously isolated from other people just because of the way i am but these people immediately embraced that and made me comfortable like i was never a problem and they genuinely liked me and heard me

bare in mind i knew them for TWO WEEKS

i haven't spoken to any of them since but they completely changed my life and set the standard for me when i make friends and talk to new people

[faeriefully]

my mom thinking that I’m desperately trying to “be right” in a situation that I legit don’t care about

[starbuck]

i love reading analysis from people who are farther into a rewatch than i am… like. i don’t agree with what you’re saying, but i also acknowledge that you have information that i don’t. nonetheless your claim that a particular character is ALWAYS doing a certain thing is contradicted by the first four seasons where he literally never does that 🤷🤷

[no1ryomafan]

Been thinking about this too hard lately regarding my special interests but I find it funny how mega man was something I can’t remember if I ever convinced anyone to play due to how difficult it was despite the fact series order didn’t matter-even if people pushed it, it’s not the end of the world if you play ZX before Zero or shit like that-yet I’ve been able to easily get people into getter and I know it’s cause it’s only 13 eps (not looking at toei) and watching a show a easier commitment then playing a game, but I realized more and more over time that “oh yeah getter is one of those fucking things where you actually need to read the manga before watching most of the anime’s to really understand wtf going on despite them being all different canons” and I’ve low key feel bad that my friends do not get to know the full context of things.

It’s a general thing to my understanding that old anime adaptations after the 70s but before current day while do their own thing and not properly follow the manga, still have wanted you to have read it prior to understand what’s going on despite the adaptation not being a sequel. I felt this was especially apparent with dynapro mecha, I read the jeeg manga before I watched shin jeeg and while it also heavily referenced toei jeeg it makes part of the story easier to understand even if shin does bother to explain who past characters are to the audience, mazinger plots are fairly simple and I know people say shin is a great start but Mazinkaiser throws you into things, none of the characters get proper introductions despite how episodic the plot gets later, but Getter? All of the OVAs took different parts of the manga and stitched them together in a weird way, and also most of the characters again do not get proper introductions so you’ll be like “who?” the entire time.

New is the only one where this isn’t a huge issue as it feels designed almost to be a entry series for newbies but there’s still problems with it being your first getter entry even if it’s more minor compared to arma or svn, but stuff like Musashibo being Benkei and Musashi merged into one so if you watch the other ovas without reading the manga you’ll be like “who?” to those two in say arma and the fact while it reveals the cosmic horror aspect better then the other ovas, the ending can still be seen as super vague. (If anything what new does best without needing manga knowledge is the fact it’s middle arc is just also using a different Ishikawa manga cause that thing did not get finished translating so most English fans will never know wtf is going on there LOL but new explained it fairly well)

Genuinely it sucks to say since I don’t like dictating what order people consume media in cause at the end of the day if they’re confused yet still get into the series it does not matter, but getter to be properly experienced cannot be done if your a anime only. You really do need to read the manga to understand most of the anime’s unless you stick to Toei stuff, but that’s so different that your still not getting the proper getter experience.

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

my mum and sibling just got back from their trip. i knew once i got a selfie of them maskless on the plane that they’d probably get covid, and my suspicions were confirmed when i started getting texts going “all the rich food is giving me stomach problems” and “the jet lag is hitting really hard”. i didn’t think their positive test text would be 2 hours after they got home, though. my mum is currently pissed at me trying to give advice about resting and hydrating and is avoiding me asking for a grocery list so i can drop things off. i’m exhausted. i don’t know what to do anymore. i just keep crying.

[lesbiansanemi]

I spoke too soon I should have known that was too easy for him I’m so tired I was like hey! I might have found someone interested in subleasing, if they end up not wanting to ill start making posts places but either way, ill need a move in date to advertise and tell people. Do you have any estimates of when you might find a place yet?

And my fucking roommate replies with a bunch of links to apartments like well you could move HERE like fuck you fuck you fuck you jackass this wasn’t what we agreed on and also 90% of the places he sent me were places I already contacted and had no availability/a waitlist/couldn’t sign until august and the other 10% were WAY out of my price range also none of this solves that I don’t want to sign a new fucking lease cuz I want out of this fucking fuck ass city between you and your bf you make almost TRIPLE what I do you will have such an easier time finding a new place and moving plus you wanna stay in this stupid fucking fuck ass city just fucking GET OUT

[cabeswaterdrowned]

which tda book is your favorite?

Lord of Shadows slightly edges out Lady Midnight although they’re really close since I love both so much… but LoS has the overall most impactful arcs and storylines to me the section in the Unseelie Court is probably my favorite part of the series, and the ending packs a big emotional punch to say the least. It might be my favorite tsc book period actually I really love LoS. Also like I just said in the previous ask I tend to be a middle book(s) or middle seasons girlie it’s just who I am. I think this book struck a neat balance between being character driven and plot driven that was extremely effective although to be clear it would probably also be my favorite if it was just character centric filler angst about Emma&Jules because that’s who I am… but I’m still glad it was more than that! LM is also wonderful in a way that few first books in fantasy series are to me usually there’s a slow burn for me to be really invested but not here, and the whole murder cult mystery with body horror (had forgotten about the missing hands that made it even better) + forbidden romance + familial dynamics themes combo and vibe really works for me. Qoaad is my least favorite of the three but I still really like it, and I definitely thought far better of it on reread compared to when I first read it since back then I had been anticipating it so hard and theorizing etc. and had very sky high expectations (especially with Clockwork Princess being a rare perfect finale to me and with how much I loved the first two tda books I hoped for Qoaad to accomplish the same thing..) on reread I could evaluate it more for what it is and I came to the conclusion that about 80% of the actual content of the book I am a fan of, it’s just that the pacing of the book is insane. Genuinely if that book was split into two books and they were paced normally I’d have loved them as much as the first two I think! Genuinely I think cc has gotten too attached to trilogies as the sole structure for her work and it’s a big part of why the receptions for her last two finales have been what they are … (well I’m sure there are multiple factors at play but I’m confident that’s one of them) also maybe even effected tmi part 2 because I remember cofa being pretty filler and the plot there feeling like it could be resolved in a duology? I love almost every individual storyline in that book so if you asked me which ones I would snipe for the third book to be paced correctly I’d be hard pressed to get rid of things but if you split it into two books and grounded them each tonally to feel distinct and just gave us some breathing room I think you could stick the landing! But since I like almost every individual element of the book it’s an enjoyable reread when you already know where the story ends up and the best parts of it really work for me / get a level of emotionality from me no tlh or tmi book does so it still ranks high (like #6ish since I like all the tid books more as well as first two tda) for me, I slander her but she’s my bestie <3.

[patatoe-sack]

people acting intentionally dense in the notes is crazyyyyy

why would anyone need to take their phone into the shower with them regularly how is that at all pleasant like you're going to need to set it down to wash yourself and such and it's not like you just stand still for half an hour mind blank I mean the act of showering isn't even so mindless how do you even manage to get that severely bored literally what else can't you do jesus do your hands start shaking when you need to devote a minute to making a sandwich. is it so torturous to stand and think for a few minutes yuo genuinely have serious issues if you can't leave your phone out of your sight even to shower how do you even get that bored and impatient in the shower is there something wrong with you

[goldennika]

i’ve just ended a situationship with a guy who says he wants to develop a relationship with me but has been putting less and less effort into our most recent “dates” and was on dating apps the entire time we were dating (even after i had brought up wanting to be serious and he said he wanted that too 🤡) !!!!!

[yhowdy]

Not to be basic but I fucking hate America

[sanchoyo]

oh also I wanted to mention a lot of why I can do the webcomic is bc my job is remote and really lax in the sense that I can set my own hours and I’m at my desk all day and can kinda doodle when things are slow. And like.. whatever else can be said about the company or the work itself (lack of health insurance, low pay that means I can’t afford to move out..) I’m also so grateful for that aspect of it being relatively low effort just like..mentally. When I was still working at Walmart or some other places, I’d be too mentally drained to draw most days when I got home, even putting aside how physically draining that job was (most days I’d come home shaky because they’d stick me in the heaviest depts like drinks frozen or chemicals ugh) like …I don’t do well with being in public for so long and my brain would be too fried to do much besides lay in a dark room and try to recharge my Brain Power shdjdjdk I have no idea if that makes sense. Mental illnesses. but I’m so grateful for the job I have now (I..had a bad string of jobs right before it, lol) it’s not my passion and given what field it is it prob won’t last forever, but it happened at just the right time for me to WANT to make a comic and also be able to be well enough after my shifts to draw most days which is exciting!!! It’s like it was… idk, very good timing and really lucky. Esp after working it for over a year now I’ve really found my groove with it, I’ll prob be really sad if I have to do a job that’s not so remote in the future. I feel kind of spoiled on this one 😭

[imstillalexcomic]

This isn’t really meant to be a comic trashing my dad.

I do truly appreciate his commitment to education.  I do truly have a soft spot for his style of humor, which certainly influenced the development of my own.  I appreciate how he had this VHS-C camera that he was always bringing out and would let me use, sparking my love for movies and starting me on a path that led to me going to film school.

All those good things about him were real.

But so was the colossal amount of damage he caused.

If you happen to be a parent and are reading this right now, I’m going to ask that you consider this suggestion from a childless thirty-six year old:

You need to consider how you communicate with your child, and how communication doesn’t just mean the words that you use.

You’re telling your kids something with the foods you eat, the activities you engage in, etc…

…you communicate to your children with the media you consume.

The rhetoric against the trans community wasn’t as much in the spotlight when I was growing up, but every time my dad turned on the radio, he’d have my sister and I listen to the likes of Rush Limbaugh, or Sean Hannity, Mark Levin, etc…  One of the topics that’d come up frequently was queer people. 

Issues about Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, gay marriage, gay boy scouts…

The “gays” were an issue.  More than an issue really, they were a problem.  If someone was queer, these radio hosts were quick to villainize; “this teacher is going to turn their students gay,” “this troop leader is going to abuse his scouts,” you don’t want your kid to end up like that, do you?”

My dad would listen to these folks non-stop and nod along in agreement, all the while his extremely queer and aware of it child was sitting right behind him, listening to how she was some kind of monster.

So I hid. 

There could be no sharing about aspects of myself.  My parents would be listening to 770am or Fox News all the time.  If I share that I was queer, I’d be finished.  How couldn’t that be the case?  Every day they chose to listen to people that hate me, so they hate people like me. 

So I can’t let them know me.  I won’t let them know me.

Even though they never said that they hated queer people with their own words, they told me that they hated queer people every day with the media they chose, and in turn forced me to consume.

So again, if there are any parents reading this right now, consider my words.  Hate is a choice you make, and hate can be communicated with more than just words.

If for no other reason, you never know if that kid in the back seat is listening, listening to how you hate them.

[please-picturemeintheweeds]

all the conversations on my dash about marriage are soooo interesting to me!! I talked to my partner’s mom last night about my intention to propose to her son this week and one of the things we talked about was how there’s this really insidious aspect of white feminism that convinces us that marriage and family are shameful or stupid to want because the real things in life are outside the home (ie. working under capitalism). That belief has historical roots in anti blackness and the split between white feminists and black feminists back in the 60s/70s. And idk it’s just so interesting to see how my mom, who raised me with a very strong foundation of second wave feminism, influenced my perception of pursuing my own happiness in ways that feel authentic to me! I love hard! And I want to be surrounded by love for the rest of my life! But in the back of my head, the entire six years of my relationship, her voice has been saying “you don’t need a man, marriage is not something to aspire to because it makes you weak and dependent.” Which is just so interesting bc she’s never said those exact words, but that’s the messaging that we get from second wave/white feminism. The thing is that I DO need other people! Nobody is actually independent, and it is a myth created by capitalism to fracture communities so that every single person is financially motivated to secure their own safety/basic needs without ever needing to rely on anyone else! Everybody needs their own personal house, car, furniture, dishes, electronics, etc because sharing is inherently “undeveloped”.

I was talking to my therapist about this recently and I brought up New Romantics, and how being a young adult in a cultural setting informed strongly by second wave feminism really convinced me (and a lot of people) that the Liberated way to be a woman was to not care about seeking that life-long stability in a partner. That to be free meant never opening yourself up to the vulnerability of a marital commitment. Which then leads into the lavender haze thinking of “the only kind of girl they see is a one night or a wife” which, by self-gaslighting, devalues marriage (she’s valid for this! We should not be put in boxes like that!).

Idk I just have been thinking a lot about the right to legally unite families, and how much power that union can have, and that there is in fact nothing Wrong with wanting to exercise the political right to choose your family. And I know, having worked with hundreds if not thousands of domestic violence survivors, how dangerous marriage can be. Being legally and financially bound to someone, especially if you haven’t been working outside the home during your marriage, can truly fuck up a person’s life and their ability to leave a situation. Idk I’m just thinking out loud, but to tie this all back into the conversations on here the last few days about Taylor and Travis, I just think that for some people, the reflexive horror at her potentially being engaged could be coming from a similar place of devaluing the pursuit of family/love in the context of a white feminist capitalist culture, which harms us all.

The revolution starts at home! And that doesn’t mean that nobody should be making commitments to each other ever!! And nobody should be forced or coerced into lifelong commitments, either. Pursuing and entering a marriage with someone who respects you, empowers you, wants to work together towards a shared vision of the future, listens to you, and shares responsibilities with you is an AMAZING thing! And as my partner’s mom said so simply to me last night: it deserves to be celebrated!!

[hot-patootiee]

AU where Eddie asks Steve why Tommy is so salty and Steve is like:

“Oh yea, we dated.”

Eddie just stares at him slack jawed “huh?”

“Did you not know this?”

“Is this why you thought homophobia wasn’t real? Because you thought you were out with Tommy?”

“I mean, everyone knew and nobody ever gave me issues when I was with Tommy.”

“I’m calling Nancy right now and asking if she knew because I bet she did not.”

“Of course she did.”

\/\/\/

“Nancy, did you know Steve dated Tommy?”

“What?!”

Eddie gives Steve a smug look “That’s all Nancy, thank you.” Eddie says through a smirk before hanging up the phone.

/\/\/\/

“So me being caught getting actively blown by another dude was just what? Completely heterosexual activities?” Steve squeals disbelievingly.

“Perks of being Hawkins Golden Boy, everyone ignores you’re a flaming queer.” Eddie pauses. “You put too much work into your hair and clothes to ever be 100% straight.”

Steve makes a face that looks like Eddie had just spat on his shoe.

[norrisidous]

i know love

summary: cute moments between lando and yn during their relationship, based on "i know love" by tate mcrae warnings: none

[The Paddock – Saturday Morning]

The paddock was alive, like always — a whirlwind of activity that buzzed in your bones. Engines hummed in the background, the scent of fuel hung in the air, and media scurried from one garage to the next. But amid the chaos, you found peace. Because his hand was in yours.

Lando walked with his cap pulled low, his race suit half-zipped and hanging around his waist. His other hand gripped a protein shake, which you were pretty sure he hated but tolerated because “the trainer would kill me otherwise.”

“Did you bring snacks?” he asked, turning toward you with that ridiculous boyish grin.

You raised an eyebrow. “You’re literally sponsored by half the paddock. You want my snacks?”

“Yours taste better.”

You rolled your eyes, reaching into your tote and pulling out a granola bar. He accepted it with a victorious sound and a quick kiss to your cheek, uncaring of the mechanics and press that passed by. You still weren’t used to how bold he could be sometimes. How effortless it all felt for him.

“Thanks, love.”

That word still made your chest flutter. No matter how many times he said it. Maybe because it felt like he didn’t throw it around the way people assumed he did. When Lando said love, it always meant something.

[Late Night Stream]

He was shouting at the screen again.

“NO—WHAT? That’s total BS!” he groaned into his headset, falling back dramatically in his gaming chair. You were sprawled across the couch behind him, one of his hoodies drowning your frame as you scrolled through your phone, giggling softly at his chaos.

The Twitch chat noticed.

“is that Y/N in the back???” “their leg 😭 soft launch era over” “she really is real, huh?”

You tilted your head toward the camera with a smirk. “He’s still losing, by the way.”

“Oi!” Lando wheeled around to face you, scandalized. “You’re sabotaging me live in front of thousands of people. I’ll never financially recover from this.”

“Skill issue.”

He laughed, leaning over to press a kiss to your forehead, his hand brushing your hair out of your face. “Lucky you’re cute.”

“Lucky you love me.”

He stilled for half a second, just a beat. Enough for you to realize what you’d said.

“I do,” he said quietly, his eyes soft and sincere now. “You know I do.”

You nodded, cheeks warming. “I know.”

And you did. You really, really did.

[Phone Calls at 2AM]

Your phone rang.

The contact photo — him in sunglasses with a ridiculous filter you’d added — lit up your screen. You answered without a second thought, already sitting upright in bed.

“Hey,” his voice was groggy, gravelly — and entirely too intimate for a call across the world. “Did I wake you?”

“No,” you lied. “Just couldn’t sleep.”

“Me neither.”

There was a pause. One of those comfortable silences you only shared with people who knew you too well.

“I’ve been thinking…” Lando finally murmured. “This…us. It’s kind of insane, isn’t it?”

You smiled to yourself. “Yeah. But it’s a good kind of insane.”

“Sometimes I wonder if you’ll get tired of all this. Of me being gone. The attention. The pressure. I don’t blame you if you do.”

“Lando,” you whispered, clutching the phone tighter. “I didn’t fall for the driver. I fell for the guy who eats cereal with a fork and quotes Shrek at 2AM.”

He let out a low chuckle. “Right. Can’t compete with that version of me.”

“I know love. It’s… messy, and inconvenient sometimes. But it’s you. And that makes it worth it.”

He was quiet again, but you could hear the soft exhale of breath on the line.

“I love you,” he said, a little cracked, like the words still scared him. “Just thought you should know.”

“I already did.”

[Arguments and Apologies]

It wasn’t always perfect.

There were days when texts went unanswered. When one too many sarcastic comments turned into a cold silence. When he forgot to call. When you snapped too quickly.

You stood in your kitchen, arms crossed as Lando leaned against the counter, the tension heavy in the room.

“I don’t want to fight with you,” he said, voice low.

“Then why do you keep doing things that hurt me?”

He sighed, raking a hand through his curls. “Because I’m scared.”

That stopped you cold.

“Of what?”

“Of screwing this up. Of you realizing you deserve someone easier. Someone who doesn’t bring a circus everywhere he goes.”

You crossed the room slowly, wrapping your arms around his waist, burying your face into his hoodie.

“I don’t want easy. I want you. Even when you’re stubborn and sleep-deprived and slightly dramatic.”

He let out a breathless laugh and hugged you tighter.

“Okay,” he whispered. “Then I’ll try harder. Because you’re it for me.”

[Fangirl Mode Activated]

You were trying to be chill.

But it was hard when your boyfriend’s face was plastered on a three-story billboard in central London, and he walked past it like it was nothing.

“You’re not gonna say anything?” you asked, arms folded.

Lando shrugged. “It’s not that big.”

You gawked at him. “It’s bigger than my apartment.”

“You wanna take a picture?”

“…Yes.”

You posed in front of it while he took twenty awful, blurry, tilted photos, laughing so hard he almost dropped your phone.

“Okay, but imagine if I had a giant billboard,” you teased.

“I’d buy every single one,” he said. “And hang them in every room I walk into.”

[Knowing Love]

Lando was lying on the floor of your apartment, head on your stomach, scrolling through something on his phone while you played with his hair.

“This is it, right?” he asked suddenly.

You glanced down. “What is?”

“This. Us. Love.”

You studied him, the boy who used to flinch at the word, who now spoke it like a promise. Who showed it in forehead kisses, lingering looks, and middle-of-the-night calls.

“Yeah,” you said. “It is.”

Because now you know love.

Not the kind that’s always perfect.

But the kind that stays.

That grows.

That chooses you — every day, even in the chaos.

And in Lando Norris’ arms,

you finally understand the song.

[hauntedraggedyanne]

small flaws to give to characters

These aren’t anything super game breaking that turns the character into a psychopath, but they can foreshadow bigger, more important issues down the line.

—always making the conversation about themselves

—lying about something incredibly stupid but they refuse to back down from

—expecting others to pay for them at every store, restaurant or hotel

—subtle jabs at other people that they always respond with ‘I wasn’t SAYING it was bad! YOU’RE the one making ME look bad!’ (Watch one of those ‘alpha male vs modern feminist�� videos or clips for inspiration if you are brave enough)

—messy, except this time they have other people in their space (like a dorm, shared apartment, or any kind of shared living space) so their messiness makes everyone VERY upset

—refusing to understand or learn another friend/teammate/partners culture or background to even slightly understand then

—loud obnoxious voiced people who physically can NOT make a subtle entrance or just simply exist in a room without yelling or eating very loudly

—asks for permission to do absolutely anything even with people who are on the same or even a lower level than they are

—doesn’t listen to music with headphones on in a crowded space so EVERYONE has to listen to them

God I hope the last one isn’t just a me-thing because I actively want to strangle anyone who does that