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all the conversations on my dash about marriage are soooo interesting to me!! I talked to my partner’s mom last night about my intention to propose to her son this week and one of the things we talked about was how there’s this really insidious aspect of white feminism that convinces us that marriage and family are shameful or stupid to want because the real things in life are outside the home (ie. working under capitalism). That belief has historical roots in anti blackness and the split between white feminists and black feminists back in the 60s/70s. And idk it’s just so interesting to see how my mom, who raised me with a very strong foundation of second wave feminism, influenced my perception of pursuing my own happiness in ways that feel authentic to me! I love hard! And I want to be surrounded by love for the rest of my life! But in the back of my head, the entire six years of my relationship, her voice has been saying “you don’t need a man, marriage is not something to aspire to because it makes you weak and dependent.” Which is just so interesting bc she’s never said those exact words, but that’s the messaging that we get from second wave/white feminism. The thing is that I DO need other people! Nobody is actually independent, and it is a myth created by capitalism to fracture communities so that every single person is financially motivated to secure their own safety/basic needs without ever needing to rely on anyone else! Everybody needs their own personal house, car, furniture, dishes, electronics, etc because sharing is inherently “undeveloped”.
I was talking to my therapist about this recently and I brought up New Romantics, and how being a young adult in a cultural setting informed strongly by second wave feminism really convinced me (and a lot of people) that the Liberated way to be a woman was to not care about seeking that life-long stability in a partner. That to be free meant never opening yourself up to the vulnerability of a marital commitment. Which then leads into the lavender haze thinking of “the only kind of girl they see is a one night or a wife” which, by self-gaslighting, devalues marriage (she’s valid for this! We should not be put in boxes like that!).
Idk I just have been thinking a lot about the right to legally unite families, and how much power that union can have, and that there is in fact nothing Wrong with wanting to exercise the political right to choose your family. And I know, having worked with hundreds if not thousands of domestic violence survivors, how dangerous marriage can be. Being legally and financially bound to someone, especially if you haven’t been working outside the home during your marriage, can truly fuck up a person’s life and their ability to leave a situation. Idk I’m just thinking out loud, but to tie this all back into the conversations on here the last few days about Taylor and Travis, I just think that for some people, the reflexive horror at her potentially being engaged could be coming from a similar place of devaluing the pursuit of family/love in the context of a white feminist capitalist culture, which harms us all.
The revolution starts at home! And that doesn’t mean that nobody should be making commitments to each other ever!! And nobody should be forced or coerced into lifelong commitments, either. Pursuing and entering a marriage with someone who respects you, empowers you, wants to work together towards a shared vision of the future, listens to you, and shares responsibilities with you is an AMAZING thing! And as my partner’s mom said so simply to me last night: it deserves to be celebrated!!
#Marriage#relationships#feminism#c#And like…. To be super on the nose… the fact that my family had two patriarchs (my mom and dad both pursuing capitalistic success)…#Meant quite literally that I was exposed to really extreme child abuse because neither of them were around hardly at all!#Which is not to say that my mom should’ve just stayed home to care for me#But that capitalism very actively destroys lives and subjects us all to horrors by virtue of dismantling communities#And unifying families for the purpose of creating a stronger community (through marital commitment) is a really important right#Just like the right to get divorced is!#And idk I’m glad that Taylor wasn’t married to joe bc that would’ve made things so much harder to escape from#But that’s not a blanket statement about marriage and it doesn’t mean her current relationship is doomed#It means that there was something in her and joes minds that prevented them from taking that step and bc of the rerecords#And other life circumstances#Taylor was sort of forced to confront those issues and do a self autopsy where she reached some important conclusions about how/why she ten#To make herself small/accept love she thinks she deserves etc#And she’s clearly done the work to investigate those things and heal from them#And now she’s with someone who understands those things and wants to support her in being her best self! It’s wonderful!!!
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I wish we could have met in some other way.
Lawlight Week Day 2: Soulmates
If you saw me repost and re-edit this several times uh No you didn't </3
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If you know what every frame is from you get a free cookie. by the way
#death note#dn#light yagami#l lawliet#lawlight#oh god here we go#death note jdrama#death note 2015#death note 2006#death note musical#lctw#l change the world#dntm#lawlightweek2024#my art#collapses i am NEVER putting this much effort in one piece ever again /hj this was the Only one i had mostly prepared in advance#ironically the most painstaking part about making this entire thing was converting the images into an animated file#that wasn't either horrifically compressed or just. wouldn't loop. why do gifs have to look so BAD it's so inconvenient#and THEN i realized I had to forcibly Stitch the two animations together so they would actually be synced and it wouldn't look dumb#and the end result is STILL so compressed. because Tumblr. uhhh just don't click on it it'll look so scuffed LOL. anyways#this is what i get for watching Every Adaptation of Death Note. i am a death note multiverse truther#usually i'd have something clever to say in the tags but. this drained the life out of me just uh.#yeah. they're doomed in every universe. this is the only way they could've met. they are doomed by their own natures and the#circumstances that surround them. there is no universe where light tries to prevent L's death. and even in the cases where L Doesn't die#there is no universe where L can save light. there is no universe where he can truly “catch” Kira and make him see where he went wrong#(<- if you read LCTW you know. :) )#in every universe and adaptation L will call Light his first friend. in some universes they'll take that notion more seriously than others#no matter what one of them will die due to the other. its the only constant. it's the only way it can ever be. they are the others downfall
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What does Timmy think of his little brother Peri growing up to have a neurotic personality?
Peri's always had severe anxiety. It sorta comes with being the first baby born in a 1000 years and constantly being kidnapped by everyone around you.
Timmy's just glad Peri grew up to be more confident in himself, and more assertive.
Bitties Series: [Start] > [Previous] > [Next]
#fairly oddparents#fop#fop a new wish#fop timmy turner#fop timmy#timmy turner#fop peri#peri#asks#itty bitties fop au#timmy does blame jorgen for a majority of peri's current stresses though#he saw peri after the license exams and went 'we lost another good one :('#jorgen: i made a new fairy godparent!#timmy: you fucked up a perfctly good fairy is what you did!!! look at him!!! he has anxiety!!#this is a very condensed shorthand summary but like. thats the jist of it#if i wanna i could do a whole breakdown on why peri is the way he is and how timmy feels about it and whether he blames himself for it buuu#tl;dr peri and timmy did not have normal childhoods because theres nothing normal about either of their circumstances#so they grew up as well adjusted as one could be when having a non-normal childhood that literally nobody can ever relate to or understand#except with each other#they are not as well adjusted adults as they would or should be. but!!!!! thase just life!!!!
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is it ok to be a little selfish
#pokemon#pokespe#pokemon adventures#pokemon special#trainer blue#dexholder blue#my art#doing a little kantrio angst drawing series. i guess#anyway i have a lot of thoughts about blue wanting to be a dexholder because two kids from pallet town her age also got one#grieving for a future you should’ve had under every other circumstance..#blue being kidnapped at an age where she'd still be able to remember her life before. ough. oughhhhhh#blue does A Lot for the sake of other people..#escaping w silver and recruiting yellow to search for red and then going after red in frlg after his defeat against deoxys#let her have something for herself.....
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i know we all joke about buck and eddie and their coparenting of chris, them babytrapping each other and this that and the other, but they've never had 2 navigate their relationship without chris being central to it. which on the one hand is like. cute. chris is such a cornerstone of what buck and eddie both mean to each other, and they both obviously love him separate from their relationship with each other ('do you know how much christopher misses you?'), but also it's genuinely interesting to think about them navigating what that relationship looks like without christopher around. partly because i think sometimes they use chris as shorthand or an excuse between them ('do you know how much christopher misses you?' but bass boosted). eddie defines buck's role in chris's life on paper, bc he can't define buck's role in eddie's life. how much they both love chris is obvious and it's a safe place for how they feel about each other to land. and it's interesting 2 think about them being put in a position to navigate that relationship without the buffer or go-between of christopher for the first time since they met
#buddie#tis the season of taking a second look at your relationship w/ your bff in the light of new circumstances#its just one of the circumstances is 'u have a boyfriend' and the other is 'son ran away bc u had a thing w/ a doppelganger of his dead mom#eddie im sorry but sometimes your life sucks
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me whenever i see people write off annabeth as an annoying and controlling and crazily jealous girlfriend with anger issues. understanding that the foundation of the rhetoric is based off of annabeth's behavior toward percy and rachel is tbotl and tlo. except annabeth's behavior in those books is soley due to the surplus amount of traumatic experiences she's had. ranging from her parents neglecting to care for her well-being when spiders attacked her in the middle of the night as a seven-year-old. to watching everyone she's ever dared to care for die, abandon, or leave her for a better option. so it's much more likely than annabeth was expressing great mental and emotional distress during a period of her life where it was uncertain if the boy she loved would drop dead on his sixteenth birthday. on top of having to uphold a reputation as the best strategist at camp half-blood and devise a plan to fight in a war and save the world before she's a sophomore in high school. so the notion that annabeth is an abusive and toxic individual lacks the consideration that maybe she was just a child forced to carry the weight of the world on her shoulders at all times.
#why must people insist her values be based on her mistakes and imperfections?#to not acknowledge the nuances of annabeth's life and write her off as abusive is incredibly inconsiderate#particularly since that narrative is based of the behavior she present as a literal child#sometimes it feels people fail to consider that her familiarity rests in close relationships doomed to fail#that she only knew how to fight to survive before she knew how to love#and that she's a growing individual who actively works to improve herself#to reduce this annabeth to bounds of the narrative and deny her a positive character arc portrays a lack of empathy for her circumstance#you don't have to like her as a character#but to ignore her upbringing while praising other characters for overcoming their is incredibly biased#percy jackon and the olympians#pjo text post#pjo#annabeth chase#we stan the daughter of athena#we stan a legend#we stan annabeth chase#forever and always#annabeth#annabeth is a legend#annabeth is incredible#annabeth is amazing#i love annabeth chase
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Did you not see the imminent impalement in your future?!
Agatha All Along 1x07 - Death's Hand in Mine
#tv: agatha all along#agathaallalongedit#agatha harkness#lilia calderu#billy teen#billy teenager#billy maximoff#marveledit#mcuedit#dailymarvelgifs#marvelgifs#my edit#kathryn hahn#petty lupone#joe locke#first of all to counter all tweets i saw#saying agatha didn't do anything productive this episode#yes she did; she saved lilia's life#second of all you know the writers of the episode#are elphaba and glinda shippers#because they did this as a subtle wink wink nudge nudge#third: for half a second lilia thought agatha was taking#advantage of her#fourth: in other circumstances you know agatha would make#a joke about the position they found themselves#also did kathryn hahn have it in the cards#she'd end up straddling theee patti lupone?#heh#but also agatha really is trying to make amends from#accidentally killing alice by trying to save lilia's life
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love vox squeezing the other vees close when he's anxious like they're his goddamn stuffed animals
#vox holding onto the others for dear life: ahahagha im TOTALLY NOT scared im so fuckging strong and COOL#the vees are literally everything to me i hope they're all equally clingy in different circumstances#hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel spoilers#willow whispers
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please sir can i have a housewife character whose problems are unrelated to housewifery
#like can we get a housewife character whose husband ISN'T cheating on her?#can we get a housewife character who DOESN'T bitterly regret giving up her career?#can we get a housewife character who HASN'T got an alcohol/sedative addiction?#can we get a housewife character whose children DON'T disrespect her 24/7?#idk it's just this weird desire I have to see a housewife whose biggest problem is that her next-door neighbor is a cult leader#or her uncle left her a haunted artifact after he died under mysterious circumstances#or she inadvertently runs an underground resistance operation out of her living room book club#something other than that she hates and is hated back by the life she chose#ya know?#x
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does anyone else spend a concerning about of time thinking abt laios being the one to kill chimera falin or am i just unwell
#dunmeshi spoilers#dungeon meshi spoilers#spoilers out the wazoo im not kidding#anyway im thinking abt this again#every time i reread the final few chapters i see chilchuck joking abt laios suffocating her again#and my brain spirals into. does falin notice that little 'again'. is there any other circumstance where she'd find out#about how she was killed in chimera form#it's unclear how much she remembers from her time as a chimera#the other characters we see get resurrected have their memories perfectly intact#while falin mentions not being able to remember details from the time of her first death#nor her second one#which suggests her complete reanimation mightve scrambled up her mind#anyway. the point is#i dont think she remembers. but laios does + her body does#and im sure it bothers laios for the rest of his life#dunmeshi#chattering
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no no you guys don't get it. the x files cancer arc was, excuse the pun, a fucking white whale of a tv plotline that would not have worked nearly as well on literally any other show. it was a complete hail mary. the writers' room nearly didn't make it happen because they were worried it would fall too deeply into soap opera territory. and on any other show, it would! but the x files is about four key things: mistrust in the government, faith in both science and the otherworldly, building a life around trauma, and the fine line between love and codependency. it is the only show where the entirety of this situation- a government experiment on an unwilling young catholic leads to a terminal illness that is counteracted by a literal scientific miracle in the eleventh hour due to her partner's refusal to accept her impending death- could both happen at all and happen well. none of the themes in the cancer arc were new to txf at all. they'd all been lurking, to some extent, in the background since the pilot. the cancer arc wasn't merely milking a left-field catastrophe for the drama, it shoved the overarching themes of the show to the front and said look. look what these people are to each other. look how impossible it is to face the darkness alone. regardless of when the plotline was conceived, it was always going to happen. it was the only way the story could have ever gone. they were always doomed from the beginning
#the writers also- and this is going to be a very unpopular opinion i'm sure- did themselves HUGE favors#by keeping mulder & scully still SO emotionally uptight and miscommunicative even though it would be so easy not to#because it feels REAL. this is how these characters would really react to these circumstances#they wouldn't suddenly become all sappy. they wouldn't talk to each other. they wouldn't know HOW#mulder would always just grieve and grieve and grieve and throw his life away to save her#wail silently into her bedclothes so his anguish doesn't burden her further#and scully would always insist that she's fine. she wouldn't leave him for anything not even her own health#she would never be able to tell him that she's scared of what he'd do when she was gone. she loves him far too much#anyway. is this coherent#arwen.text#the x files
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Ronan and Hennessy and “I’ve been alone a long time” and “please don’t let me be the only one” and “why do you even care?” “I don’t know I just do” and “don’t let me fall too hard lynch” and “she’s a dreamer, like me” and “no one else gets it, this is what we live with” and “he’ll be drawn to you more than to me” and “I’m not a doll Ronan lynch” and “Hennessy. He had forgotten he could know people. And how he knew her!” and “they didn’t say sorry they didn’t have to” and “if I told you I was going to help you get out of this, would you believe me?” “you’re one of the very few people I would” and “now they were just two ex dreamers made fearless by life” and “don’t be only human just now Ronan lynch”
#and they wouldn’t be friends in any other circumstances like if they met in high school they would’ve killed each other#but they have this one horrible wonderful thing in common that no one else will never understand#so they’re forced to cling to each other for fear life#honan#hennessy#jordan hennessy#Ronan#ronan lynch#tdt#the dreamer trilogy#call down the hawk#cdth#mister impossible#greywaren
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fandom sleeping on the most toxic yuri pairing in the entire series simply because they never spoke in canon smh
#They should have interacted given the backstory circumstances and it should have been messyyy#you're telling me that the manipulative revenge plotter goody two shoes never got to interact with the manipulative femme fatale#serial killer that caused a chain reaction that ruined her life?? not even one (1) homoerotic attempt on each other's life??#she even got to kill Junpei that one time and Akane never even found out!#but we cannot have nice things.... in canon! In fanfiction we can! Go read zero win game it's 100% at fault for me even considering this#I made this in under three hours yesterday completely out of nowhere btw I just blacked out and let the gay thoughts consume me#zero escape#zero time dilemma#zero escape spoilers#mira ztd#akane kurashiki#mirakane#blood cw#toxic yuri
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Jeremy Von Neuschwanstein and Shuli Von Neuschwanstein || On the quiet, all-consuming loves that toe between companionship and romance, grief and simple happiness, with the tragedy hanging over their heads and the need to be better, and thus shouldn't be acted upon.
Illustrations from A Stepmother's Marchen / Hedgehog's Dilemma, Wikipedia / Waiting Room by Phoebie Bridgers / A Poem From The Adult Daughter To The Narcissistic Mother by Katherine Fabrizio / People Will Say We're In Love, Oklahoma! / Twilight by Stephanie Meyer / tumblr post by starpeace / The Cart by Mary Reufle / Haiku [for you] by Sonia Sanchez / Close to You by niki / Spend Some Time by Eminem / Every Day by David Levithan / Unknown / In a Dream You Saw a Way to Survive by Clementine Von Radics / Anchorite (Love You Very Much) by Car Seat Headrest / Unknown / Biotherm (for Bill Berkson) by Frank O' Hara / New and Selected Poems Volume 1 by Mary Oliver / tumblr post by chateauofmymind / Unknown / Kate McGahan / Waiting by Caitlyn Siehl / P.S. I Still Love You by Jenny Han / Miss Peregrine's Home For Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs / tumblr post by poetrylovesongs, / The Best of Me by Nicholas Sparks / song for a lover (of long ago) by Bon Iver / please don't forget me and all the things that we did by Isaac Love / The Sea, the Sea by Iris Murdoch / The Winner's Kiss, Marie Rutkoski / In another universe by Dana Lee / The Crucible: A Play in Four Acts by Arthur Miller / Two Slow Dancers by Mitski / Maybe In Another Universe, I Deserve You by Gaby Dunn / Next Time by Team StarKid / Jonathan Carroll / The Moon Will Sing by The Crane Wives / Pyrrhic Victory, Wikipedia / Raushan Ranjan / All My Pretty Ones by Anne Sexton / Your Best American Girl by Mitski / twitter post by fran (galacticidiots) / War of the Foxes by Richard Siken / Crush by Richard Siken / The Garden of Eden by Ernest Hemingway / twitter post by mountain. (sainticide) / The Unabridged Journals Of Sylvia Plath by Sylvia Plath / Crescendo by Becca Fitzpatrick / SANDARAFREEDOMPARK / Unknown / Unsent Project / twitter post by aiman (dumbsoftheart) / there is no absolution for the fallen, only the dying by p.d / Unknown / Someone New by Hozier / Cassandra: A Novel and Four Essays by Christa Wolf / A Self-Portrait in Letters by Anne Sexton / Unknown / “I get so jealous of euthanized dogs” by June Gehringer / Wuthering Heights, Emily Bronte
#a stepmother's marchen#asm#the fantasie of a stepmother#jershu#<— ik they're a rarepair#BUT i love their dynamic okay#their circumstances make them an ill-fitted couple but they do genuinely care for each other in such a head-in-hands way#wholeheartedly believe that in another life (had they not been stuck in the situation they are now) they would've gotten together :)#jeremy von neuschwanstein#shuli von neuschwanstein#words words words#web weave#could have DEFINITELY fit more but im so tired
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Its funny because I just said I wasnt finished with the lantern and I just finished it now haha.
They have been contained at the Favor Tree. I took some close ups and they are so nice. Its so comfy to be around too. I will probably use it at night sometimes to see or just for fun.
Under the readmore are the pictures in color!
#Isat#Isat siffrin#Isat loop#Personal Art#I am going to put anymore of my art that is isat in my drafts for today. I really dont want to overload the tag.#But I have been working on this for about a month and I wasnt planning to finish it today#So happy circumstance!#Its also funny because I have other art Im working on but I cannot finish any of them because I need certain things and cant go get them rn#So it works I suppose???#The life of art is weird. But fun!
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no but like, I'd eat my shoe for a light novel of Dazai's and Fyodor's first meeting because there's one RAGING question I have:
Dazai already mentions Fyodor in The Day I Picked Up Dazai, so he crossed paths with Fyodor at least by 16.
Now my question is, did he find it suspicious Fyodor hadn't aged a bit? Like, in 6 years, Fyodor hasn't gained a single wrinkle on his face, his facial features didn't get any sharper, he didn't get any taller. He looks the exact same 6+ years later.
I guesssss you could make an argument that maybe Fyodor has fabulous genes that keep him looking youthful and like he hasn't aged a day, but I feel like Dazai would pick up on any subtleties.
anyway, light novel of them. gimme. I can think of several ways they ended up meeting most of them not-so-good for Dazai since he was in a terrible spot mentally but I WANT TO KNOW
#bungou stray dogs#bungo stray dogs#bsd#bsd dazai#bsd fyodor#fyozai#thoughts#and by not so good i actually wonder if dazai and fyodor met under the strangest circumstance#like while dazai was making an attempt - jumping in the water or something#and fyodor was just. absolutely baffled that this kid wanted to take his own life#when so many others are dying to live and dazai's just...yeah
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