#it is an inherent part of nature

[gorekiss]

the way a lot of people on this app demonize sex and sexuality is kinda scary honestly

[the-judicial-assistants-notebook]

not enough discussion about the gavins' complicated relationship with feminine-coded/beauty products, i don't think.

[millidew]

sometimes a family is you, your girlfriend, her husband who's also your boyfriend, your mutual son and his electric rat, a mr. mime, and a baby

[spookygibberish]

I've sort of developed a strange relationship with the concept of "realism" in the things I make.

Something I was very into as like, an eleven year old (im not implying this was immature to be into, just that it was formative for me), was speculative biology specifically for dragons, and now, specifically in the case of dragons I find a lot of attempts to make them biologically plausible fully missing the appeal of dragons at all.

Thinking specifically about the supernatural elements of JoM and where the line is drawn. The dagnyds are made from the remains of godlike entities, and are not entirely earthly animals. They have a supernatural origin. It would be fully justified in giving them magic abilities or making magic an aspect of the setting, but have absolutely zero interest in doing so. It doesn't interest me. I think about shit like healing powers or glowy energy attacks and my reaction is just "what does this even add? Why do I need this? Does this make things more interesting?" And it simply doesn't. Healing is more interesting as a prolonged process, combat is more interesting with teeth and claws and metal and blood. These are options which are more realistic, closer to real life, but the realism isn't what makes them interesting: it's physicality.

When I design a creature for this world, I am not thinking about making it biologically plausible, and yet, I try to design things which look like they could 'move under their own power'. There is a sense of heft and mechanical "soundness" which I value more than realism, but often also aligns with looking 'realistic'.

I would say that it's better to serve a narrative than strive for absolute realism, but I don't actually write stories, although I do have ideas for them occasionally. I guess a version of this which is more relevant and applicable is that i prefer to strive for a particular vibe.

[luxraydyne]

idk it's such a very small thing but "maybe you killed her with renju." "don't be ridiculous!" is very cool very epic i think. credit to both voice actors bc i believe that, their whole past and future entanglements aside, hitomi just fucking despised date for a second there to be honest

[hajihiko]

Your tag saying Mikan is gonna have it rough has me worried. She’s already been through enough! I mean they all have but especially her! I don’t even want to imagine what her haunting is like!

there's no metric for suffering so it's not like she literally has more bad than the boys. I just mean that, to me, things pertaining to childbirth and the menstrual cycle is horror in itself so it hits harder

[summergoodwife]

Gonna say it again, "Just stop consuming the genre" is THE WORST POSSIBLE RESPONSE to someone complaining about the lack of representation in their preferred genre!! And "Consume other stuff too" is not much better!!! I don't care how much you think varying media consumption is a Good and Holy lifestyle, not everyone wants to do that! There is no obligation to do that and there should not be! Because it's fucking entertainment. It's not a college major.

And! And and and. I would be remiss to not point out that when you tell someone, "If you want well written (minority) just get out of (genre fandom)" you are, regardless of your motivations, rhetorically aligning yourself with the exact same bigots who just want the pro-representation crowd to shut up and go away.

[corviddusk]

genuinely asking, how does the things you said, and i mean everything, apply or work when the transmasc doesn't pass as a cis man? does he still have privilege?

That's a reasonable question and the answer to it is where things get way more complicated.

Trans men who don't pass primarily do not receive benefits of male privilege in any overt manner and will not have as much of the systemic power as a cis man by far. They will have even less claim to it than cis men who are effeminate. However there are a few variables that could lead to plausible utilize of the category of man- even if it's more difficult. This is common in some things that I used to see going around like advice to be more masculine that was based on toxic masculinity.

Get rid of everything you once loved that is too fem, refuse to wear color, become aggressive and cruel, be meaner, take up more space, refuse to move to the side when someone is walking towards you only women move, etc. Those things are specifically coming from trying to fit in with the cissexist patriarchal "man" rather than men as a masculine class of people. The push to behave in certain manners to be seen as more male is to reaffirm what manhood is- and sometimes people sadly push to reaffirm toxic masculinity. This is by far not the majority but it is indeed a subtle way that trans men can end up unintentionally playing into systemic issues. This usually comes from younger trans guys and by younger I mean children. It's understandable that a lot of people's views on men would be formed in this way.

You may also gain a form of privilege by not being targeted by specific rhetoric or laws that target trans women or specifically those with the same gender marker as you (if you've already changed it) though in cases like we're seeing in my country, the USA, the gender marker will change nothing and you'll be attacked by misogynistic laws regardless. This comes into an odd area of limbo where there's numerous asides and notes and specificities that makes it possible to either be present or not. And the more common privilege that is gained is privilege to not be treated as a trans woman which isn't the same as male privilege and usually also means you get the disprivilege of being treated as a trans man.

Not one transmasculine person can ever hold the same level of power that cis men do in the patriarchy. Even the most stealth and interpersonally misogynistic example you could come up with could easily be dwarfed in impact by the actions of numerous cisgender men. However the ability to be those things without your own rhetoric being applied to yourself as you are obviously not a woman does mean that there's more privilege than when a women who was just as misogynistic would be in the same position. (That was a generalized you I don't believe the anon is misogynistic to be clear).

So yes he would have some privilege over women to a degree that doesn't lead to that massive of an impact, however it's still there and it's important to try to not fall into traps. Part of the pressure while you transition is the pressure to conform to cissexist ideas of man or woman. You don't have to be the overly strong breadwinner who hates his wife and has a man cave and prefers his bro time. You can be loving father, a devoted lover, a solitary man who makes his life his own and wonderous, an author, a painter, anything you desire. You can rely on others and be kind. You can also be weak. There is nothing wrong with not being the ideal man in the eyes of cis people.

Once again I want to emphasize that this is not how all trans men act nor are all going to have power themselves. However the plausibility or capability to utilize certain forms of systemic oppression while not misgendering yourself is a privilege. Transfems cannot experience those specific things without forcing themselves into the closet and further causing harm to them (though that doesn't defend people with internalized issues acting poorly). I believe there are other ways women specifically can uphold patriarchal ideas that are less common than men to do and may eventually talk about that.

Basically non-passing trans men have severely less male privilege than passing trans men. But they have like the smallest amount to where internalized misogyny getting externalized tends to not be self hating as much as it is harmful to others because they're men and not women.

[yrlocalghost]

oh good lord my mom’s boyfriend got worse

[kazumasougi]

i feel like theres something to be said about how i and many other poc ive spoken to had to take longer to come to terms with what gender means because theres such a western perception of gender thats been forced on us. every discussion on gender nonconformity we’re allowed to participate in has always been centered around white people and their standards for beauty; meanwhile those of us that aren’t white are meant to conform to their labels despite that gender means different things to people from different parts of the world.

this isn’t even exclusive to trans people of color: if youve ever been a south asian girl in a predominantly white country then i don’t doubt there’s been times where you’ve questioned what being a woman actually means. ive lived that. and despite the identity ive chosen for myself now there were still times where i felt like it wasnt even possible for me to be a woman because white beauty standards dictate that dark body hair on women is bad and women shouldnt have facial hair and big noses are unbecoming of women and so on and so forth.

and i think to make matters worse, the only form of trans representation we’re allowed is white trans people; even in communities where we’re supposed to be seen, we can’t see ourselves. its partly for this reason that i’ve always had stronger feelings about seeing people of color on the screen than i ever have about white trans people— even if the people of color in question are cishet, they understand my feelings on gender in ways that i dont think a lot of white trans people can even comprehend.

and further on that topic i’ve always found it fascinating that a lot of white trans people in this community feel like big noses, body hair, thicker eyebrows, etc on women is masculine, how men having longer hair or being soft spoken and polite is inherently feminine, and they’ll parade that as their form of being gnc— and i have to wonder how many of these people have considered that a lot of these features are far more prominent in people of all genders in certain ethnic groups, or is an inherent influence of culture in other countries. it feels almost like we’re being put up in an exhibit to be gawked at. i don’t think the features of the body i was born with make me inherently masculine, rather my chosen expression with it, but that’s not something a lot of white people seem to see. there is so much pressure on us to submit to their standards of what gender and gender non-conformity means to them, and i really wish that was a more frequent subject of discussion in the trans community.

[hi-i-just]

Aziraphale has picked up a lot of hobbies and interests and knowledge throughout the years, he's pretty much a quilted patchwork of skills. He does a lot of things Angels don't really do like dance, bake, drive a car, draw etc. And he's got a skill for those things and Aziraphale is also interested in learning French despite being able to speak every language and magic despite being able to miracle the impossible, and he's terrible at them. In a weird way he's Bad at things he's Inherently Good at and he's Good at things he's not Inherently Good at. Like how he's supposed to be Inherently Good as an Angel but messes up a lot when it comes to it. Did I make sense

[ashtcnirwin]

one of my main talents at work that isn't directly work-related is being able to identify a "mean girl who peaked in high school"-nurse within seven seconds of watching her interact with a patient

[isnt-it-pretty]

Dragonlance au where somebody other than Caramon actually does right by Raistlin when he's a kid instead of resenting, ostracizing, and demonizing him

[awesomebutunpractical]

Siobhan, as the years of making her up have gone by, has gotten more and more goth adjacent. Helen went through an angry grunge phase as a teenager.

That got me thinking of the AU where Ford has a wife and daughter and manages to learn the Importance of Family before anything goes wrong. The family pictures. He'd look so sunny.

[goblin-enjoyer]

*draws something for the first time in a while. “Man I suck at drawing! Maybe go back to being good at it if I draw more!”

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“Oh I got a neat idea for a drawing! Surely I have gotten better by now!” Loop post

[fancysasquatch]

I saw Nosferatu and Die Hard 2 tonight, and now I'm obsessed with the ways movies depict a time and place, whether intentionally or not. Nosferatu took painstaking steps to faithfully recreate 19th century Germany/Transylvania (and nailed it by the way), while Die Hard 2 put much less thought into that aspect of filmmaking, and in doing so accidentally became a perfect time capsule of 1990.

I know I've brought it up before, and I'm sure I'll bring it up again and again, but I love the way slop media (non-derogatory) that lacks originality instead becomes a perfect cross section of society as it exists at that point in time, which in turn means that that story couldn't have existed in that specific form if it had been made at any other time or in any other place.