#is neurodivergent i will not take criticism

[barnbridges]

some people wonder who tf thought calling a grown man bunny was normal, and i can only answer with this video.

[deadtiredghost]

SO I just wrote a massive post about Raph and what I think of his character across the various itterations, and I mentioned that I see myself in Raph - especially 12!Raph. But also 18!Leo. So I made these.

[the-sleepless-writer]

Orpheus is honestly so real like I thought he was a little too desperate at first, but now I’m realizing that he’s so valid for taking every damn opportunity at love because OH MY GOD when I tell you how bad the guy I like has me rn like guys if he doesn’t fall in love with me I’m not going to be ok

(Ignore how badly I’m rambling in the tags I have way too much going on in my head and so I’m throwing at tumblr)

[edge-oftheworld]

‘I don’t see nobody taking action’ well shit

[underwhelmingalchemist]

Starting pride month with the pharmacy denying me my testosterone prescription until mid-June and my doctor saying she can't do anything about it because it's a controlled substance 🙃✌️

[maxellminidisc]

Silly but the DūnM3sh nonsense around the last episode has me thinking about how like idk mostly white autistic folks (of the vairety who are not in need of higher assistance) online act like ALL autistic folks exhibit the exact same symptoms and behaviors in social settings when like I find mostly other poc and a lot of women regardless of race have very different experiences with the sort of "stereotypical" reaction and behavior that's most often associated with autism. Which leads to a lot of you assuming we are neurotypical and then this line of thinking extends into your reading of autistic characters, be they headcanons or canon characters. Rest of this is going under a read more

Like idk for a poc, theres already very little grace given to us in social situations, especially when around white people. You guys dont realize but we are consistently aware that no matter what, when we enter a space with y'all there will always be an internal bias present in white people that will deem any behavior of confrontation as inherently aggressive or mean.

So we learn to navigate social situations with an already high level of need to analyze so many of the behaviors and cues of the people around us out of complete necessity. Neurodivergency or not, this becomes a matter of survival. And for some people, like me, the need to do this and possibly avoid and save yourself the pain of having people who's racism is a potential harm to you becomes a priority in your brain more than anything else you have going on. You cant completely shut everything else out about your neurodivergency but you learn enough to keep yourself safe. It's what I was forced to learn when I was like 5-13 because I was relentlessly bullied for my race and ethnicity, and later for my incapacity to not understand certain social cues or even break rules until I was about 12/13.

I'm not completely without symptoms and if anything some of them have gotten worse. I struggle now with knowing when to stop talking until I notice people start looking bored or annoyed and I sometimes dont talk enough for fear of being annoying to people I'm close to. Not to mention I'm ALWAYS double checking what I say in a way that's almost like a compulsion. Like constantly, to the point where before I say something with say like factual information, I like quadruple plus plus check everything on Google before I say it (and even then I might get shit wrong and my reaction to that is....oh boy). And even then I sometimes end up not saying anything because I'm too scared I said something wrong and mislead or upset someone. Or worse, this information is unwarranted and annoying.

If anything I'm someone who's neurodivergency made them OVER COMPENSATE the need to pick up on social cues, eye contact, sociability, etc because it was a way to defend myself (by making it harder to pick on me without push back) or keep myself safe.

But at the end of the day the constant need to keep up with ALL of this burnt me out by the time I was in college and it made me incapable of masking very many noticeable things anymore, especially my over sensory and stimming when I'm stressed (which isnt helped by the fact that I have synesthesia), the anxiety it produces, and ultimately that it leads me to having a panic attack and has me in the place I am now where that shame of freaking out in loud spaces gave me agoraphobia. Now my threshold for "neurotypical behavior" is like SIGNIFICANTLY shorter when I leave my house.

And I constantly apologize for sharing information when I do. Like I have it instilled in me now to say sorry for information I share because I think I'm bothering people. And my capacity to understand jokes is flawed if the person I'm talking to isnt someone I'm consistently around because I haven't completely been able to process the way they speak or their sense of humor. I sometimes take jokes that are lies, unreality, or sarcasm as literal and people have to say "oh no I was joking I made that up".

When I first meet people I'm actually told I'm way too quiet and kind of intimidating because I guess people can sense that I'm analyzing them like a lil computer and I look them in the eyes TOO much. Funnily enough one of my close friends in high school didnt like me very much at firsy because she asked me if I liked her after very little time of being introduced and I straight up said no without much thought as to why that would offend her alskdkdmkfkd but after a while of getting to know her more, we got close, and like most people, after a while they say I seem pretty "normal" and "nice".

And this isnt even touching on my emotional responses and my horrible rejection sensitivity. That would make this even longer. But the one thing I'll say is it's made my relationship with my family VERY bumpy, and especially tumultuous when young, and it's something they struggle to understand still A LOT.

And outside of situations where I cant mask anymore from exhaustion, I get why it's sort if unsurprising to me when I've met white autistic folks who mistakenly assume I'm neurotypical because I can just navigate conversations with a sheen of "normalcy" (and lol racism), until we talk and they're like oh shit I get it now (usually white people with ADHD can pick up on my neurodivergency much faster which is funny lol) where as other people of color with adhd/autism dont ever make that assumption, they just get it. They pick up on ME analyzing them and we just look at each other like 🧍‍♂️🧍‍♀️

[angsty-aliens]

If you’re not dragging a tiny comfy baby blanket to snuggle when traveling away from home, what are you even doing?

I refuse to alienate myself from the comfy just because I’m in a hotel room.

[wettestwraith]

Glenn Close may be the worst dad but he's the best character for deez nutting Willy Stampler

[yay-depression]

anyways quick reminder to always critically think about anything you see. including things that sound “normal” or “correct”

sometimes fear mongering is in fact just fear mongering, even if it’s against something that should be kind of feared.

always be aware of the tendency on the internet to be hyperbolic and extreme.

very few things are 100% good or 100% bad

[boyczar]

The phrase “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all” has done irreparable damage to the human race. We have not learned how to acceptably criticize others and we have not learned how to gracefully accept it from others. It reeks of codependency. We need to make maximal effort to undo the damage that may have been inflicted upon us in childhood. If we equate a criticism of our BEHAVIOR as an attack on OURSELVES, then we have some work to do. If this notion that we are separate from our actions makes you uncomfortable, you need to do some reflecting, and that’s not me “coming for you”! We also need to stop just throwing around criticism when we are heated or feeling resentful. Criticism is a tool that we all NEED. Desperately. In order to change for the better. But we need to know how to wield it. If you have a genuine criticism of someone’s choices (someone you care about) learn how to tell them calmly, so that they might be able to take your concern to heart and use it for the better. The goal should never be to cause pain. Learn this before it’s too late.

[lovecolibri]

Hey! If you get this, answer with your top 5 music artists and send it to the last 7 people in your notifications 💜

Hey! For once I am home to do this instead of forgetting and it sitting in my notifications for ages! I go through phases depending on the time of year and my mental state so in no particular order, these are the current top faves

1. Ed Sheeran is high up there thanks to the tour concert I just attended, and the variety of songs and styles so something fits for every season. Also he's just such a doll and I have MAD respect for how he does what he does with the looping system and the precision timing that requires and being able to commmand a whole stage and a stadium with 85k people alone. No dancers no backup vocalists or musicians, just a dude and a guitar and a loop station. Baller.

2. Taylor Swift because I'm an emotional girlie and the lyrics speak to my soul from the petty/bitchy to the sad to the longing to the in love ones.

3. Sleeping at Last also because Emotions and Lyrics That Will Haunt You, but also Lyrics That Will Heal Your Soul. Eternal fave and absolutely fascinating person to listen to when he goes over how he creates songs.

4. It's almost time for my fall playlist which means some Graveyard Club so yay for 80's/emo vibes, I'm excited to pull them back into rotation!

5. Picking only 5 is hard when my tastes range from Josh Groban to I Am Ghost depending on the weather/season/my mood, and aside from a few select artists I don't follow a lot of musicians beyond a song or two that I heard on a commercial one time or in the background of an episode of a show (special shout out to Jeremy Messersmith having a song on Chuck that did actually get me to download the whole album). But to pull something Different, I'm gonna end with Two Steps From Hell because sometimes you just need some epic soundtrack music that makes you feel like you could bench press a Hummer.

[serial-unaliver]

Say more about what people say here and why you're grateful you were raised that way?

basically a lot of people on here are incapable of understanding they are not the only person struggling on planet earth and it's absolutely ridiculous to defend choices harming people 10000x worse off than you because you may be uncomfortable. "you don't understand, i'm having compassion fatigue and [x] brings me comfort" in response to a boycott is an example. but you can also see this attitude arise when you yourself express an opinion someone disagrees with. if I criticize psychiatry, clearly that means i'm mentally healthy and want innocent neurodivergent tumblr users to suffer. if I say "don't work for a US defense contractor" that means I don't understand the struggles of having a low paid job instead. no one suffers more than commenter #2, and no one else's opinions should be considered.

i'm grateful I was raised to think of people worse off than me rather than say my life is the Worst. everything that happened to me has happened to many other children and not all of them were able to escape the situation and live a normal life like me, because they were in worse circumstances. i'm always thinking, every awful experience i've had is not unique, and I should want to improve the lives of others not as lucky rather than pity myself. WARNING: this mindset will get you canceled on tiktok for saying things like "it comes across as insensitive to complain that your rich parents gave you more money than love in discussions about trauma from poverty" <- i'm never taking that back btw

[mymitochondriaforpresident]

Something tells me that he’s not used to receiving much positive attention or praise.

Poor boy was nervous to get the teachers attention lol

But then look at her, she's so excited!!

It's obvious that she likes Simon and his singing!! And believes he will go a long way!!

And those words must have meant the world to Simon

[dinodogs]

I hope yall realize what an incredible loss RWBY will be if it doesn't get picked up.

Two of the main female characters are sapphic and in a relationship. Blake is canonically bisexual and a survivor of abuse. Yang is disabled and went through an entire arc about her ptsd and dealing with her trauma. Its also worth mentioning Blake is voiced by an openly bisexual woman.

the main character of the entire shows VA (lindsay jones) is gender queer and Ruby canonically neurodivergent, as well as aroace coded (she is not canonically confirmed to be aroace but she's widely considered to be at least ace)

It has one of the best written trans characters I've ever seen, voiced and written with the assistance of a trans woman.

The show openly shows other queer romances, with at one point a pair of married women being shown on screen with their baby, and yes the two characters had a real role in the plot.

While they haven't been amazing about poc rep before they are actively taking criticism and in recent years have learned how to write good poc rep.

RWBY, at its core, was an indie animation project. It was created by a small team of people on an incredibly small budget. Its gotten bigger and bigger over the years with a larger budget, RWBY is proof that an indie series can get massive, it is a massive win for indie animation all together.

[jaidenk-nox]

Elizabeth midford

Shitty 2AM rant on the Misogyny that Lizzy has faced since the very start but it's the perspective of someone who has witnessed the horrors of Misogyny in Spanish speaking fandom

I should mention that English is not my first language and I'm not very good with it either, so most of this was done with Google Translate and I tried to correct what I could, I hope it's at least readable

I've never seen enough people point out the fact that Elizabeth midford character also defies the "Girlboss" archetype, she is definitely physically strong and can protect herself, but she is A 15 YEAR OLD GIRL, who manages her emotions like someone her age would and also exhibits many neurodivergent traits. I have always been bothered by the way physical strength is misunderstood as a "girlboss" trait, the simplest example I can think of is Ran Mao, she possesses brutal and superhuman strength. but it doesn't make her a girlboss, in case anyone forgets Ran is a girl who barely reaches 18 years old and is exploited by an opium trader who also seems to be involved in human trafficking (implied in the manga). Is she really a girlboss? girlboss when her physical strength is more of a requirement to SURVIVE while working as an assassin and sometimes seductress (which u can tell she doesn't enjoy much)? Obviously Ranmao's social reality is very different as she is a woman of color from the underworld, unlike Elizabeth, who is a white woman from the nobility. However, her physical strength has always been a double-edged sword for herself. Lizzy longs to get married, like any other girl her age, she longs to be protected but says goodbye to it the moment Ociel returns.

I may seem a bit exaggerated, but the way your sociocultural background affects the way you perceive and treat a character has me slightly traumatized, I wish I could give proof of the horrible and degrading treatment that Lizzy has received from the Spanish-speaking fandom.

I am a trans boy of color who grew up watching my female relatives being encouraged to rip their hearts out of their chest from the moment they turned 8yo for the simple goal of caring for and protecting my cis male relatives. household chores, cooking for them, washing their clothes, taking accountability for their actions. Their freedom and childhood as little girls were taken away from them. but none of that was ever valued, I never saw anyone recognize it as sacrifice.

Elizabeth is not a woman of color, nor does she have those demands as a woman of nobility, but she SACRIFICED stuff to try to protect Ciel on her own way, I have seen many people underestimate her backstory in book of Atlantic because "High heeled shoes aren't reason to cry." Everything Lizzy has done for Ciel is devalued, all her suffering has been minimized. losing so many family members in such a short time, losing the boy you were raised to marry your entire life. People truly forget that lizzy is still just a child, that she has the right to mourn everything she lost that day. She had to mourn publicly as a noble girl,she probably heard that she would never be able to get married or would never achieve happiness, I've never seen any adult to stop and think about how heartbreaking and soul shattering that must have been as a 11yo

I have seen how EVERY thing Lizzy does is judged. how her behavior, personality and temperament are criticized. but other characters like Soma just get a pass while doing the same stuff, but this does not just stop at gender, but also at age. people HATE girls and afabs who act like children when they are literally CHILDREN.

How is it possible that Lizzy has faced such harsh judgment from the fandom when there are other characters like Maam red, Lau, Grell, Undertaker who are universally ADORED or atleast respected in the fandom.

I love u Elizabeth midford but ur character makes me violently ill omfg

[moonferry]

stardew valley should be renamed neurodivergent valley because Everyone in that game has some sort of neurodivergent spice going on

and i will not be taking criticism (<- is neurodivergent and heavily relates to far too many characters for it to be a coincidence)