#this is specifically about ppl on tumblr and their opinions on tiktok

[fromtheseventhhell]

hi! I’m a new fan of asoiaf (and Arya obvi lol) and I love ur blog <3 there’s a popularish post on this site that basically talks abt how the comparison between Arya and Lyanna is meant to convey that they were both tomboys and not that Arya is actually really pretty and I generally agree bc obviously yeah but it seemed kinda weird that like so many of the ppl reblogging that post were like either huge Sansa stans or were hellbent on telling others that Arya is NOT pretty which… I feel like is also missing the point?? Idk if you know which post I’m referring to, but either way I was wondering if that’s like a general fandom opinion that Arya is meant to be this conventionally unattractive person that doesn’t have looks really tied to their stories (kinda like Brienne)? Or if this is just something you’d see on tumblr cause I’ve heard the fandom here is a bit different than on like Reddit or twitter

I can take a guess at which post you're referencing and yes, it is a generally accepted idea that Arya isn't meant to be pretty. I don't think that's specific to Tumblr either, I've seen people on tiktok/reddit/twitter/etc. argue the same. While I do think there's a point to be made about Lyanna's memory being romanticized, I disagree that the conclusion should be that Lyanna and Arya aren't meant to be pretty. The idea that personality and looks aren't dependent on each other seems to be a difficult one for this fandom to grasp, so they treat Lyanna being pretty and her being a tomboy as mutually exclusive when they can (and do) coexist. There would be no point in Arya and Lyanna being referenced as pretty as many times as they are (several times for each of them) if that wasn't the case. "Missing the point" is a great way of describing it because this take is dependent on ignoring what's written in the books. As usual, I think this links back to fandom's inability to comprehend female characters that don't neatly fit into flat archetypes and their placing value on beauty and not wanting said value associated with the wrong "type" of characters. Arya and Lyanna being pretty and wild/non-conforming seems to be a little bit beyond fandom's processing capabilities.

[my-castles-crumbling]

is it too dangerous that i have my age, country and first name in my tumblr pinned post?

It’s a generic name and just… a country. And i don’t have my bday or anything, just my age so other ppl around my age know i’m their age (i’m a minor)

It never seemed to unsafe but recently i’ve been worried since like, online safety and stuff.

thanks cas :)

Hi hon! Okay, I go back and forth about stuff like this. Do I think you'll somehow get kidnapped based off of just your first name, age, and country? No. However, sometimes predators can use that PLUS other things you post to get more info about you. Is that likely? No, But it is possible. People do tiktoks about it all the time- someone on tiktok is like "bet you can't find me!" and the person finds them in like five seconds.

I don't think listing your country is a big issue.

As far as age, I think there are pros and cons. You say you are a minor: on the one hand, I think it's good to be clear about that online, especially to someone like me (I am an adult) because I make every effort to not allow minors to interact with my more mature content or discuss that content with minors. Adults who want to keep boundaries want to know who is a minor, because they want to respect that. HOWEVER, predators also want to know who is a minor.

But really, I think more than posting or not posting your age, it's important to recognize the signs of a predator. Educate yourself on the questions they might ask (grooming type behavior, specifics on where you live, small suggestive comments, anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. trust your gut.) I think posting your age in general is not bad, but please educate yourself on how predators act, so you are able to protect yourself.

The name is the worst one, in my opinion. It may be because I am a teacher and I am terrified of a digital footprint, but I always use a fake name online. when I just started college, I wrote some articles for an online platform, including one about being gay, and the odd questions I get. One of the questions I listed was a sexual question. I wrote under my legal name, and on the first day of my first teaching course, my Professor googled all of us one-by-one to prove that everything can be found when you interview for teaching. When the article came up, I instantly regretted writing it under my legal name, because that could have affected me getting jobs. I know it's such an annoying boomer (I promise, I'm not nearly that old, but yeah) thing to say, but the internet can follow you. So if anything, I think you should use a fake name. Especially if you're going to post anything that might be embarrassing to see in a job interview in ten years, lol.

This is just my opinion, though, and there are pros and cons to all of these. Like I said, I think more than deciding whether or not to list anything is educating yourself on signs of someone being unsafe. That's the priority.

I hope this helps!

[mecachrome]

not to be contour versial but i wanna add smth to ur (very correct!) explanation of the 'oscar has gay sisters' idea: while yes u mention its mostly stereotyping, i wanna point out that fashion choices like haircuts / clothes / jewelry and body mods are, unlike other lesbian 'stereotypes' like body types or height or whatever, conscious decisions made by a lot of bi women and lesbians to signal to other ppl that they arent straight. my personal opinion is that if straight women choose to co-opt trends or styles that r generally used by lesbians to 'flag', they should go for it but be fine w people assuming / wondering if they're lesbians or bisexual. obvs i think the dynamic is different between here (the gay website whose posts never see the light of day) and smth like tiktok (h could see) or even worse twitter (oscar mum territory) but i think on tumblr its within our right as lesbians or other lgbts to joke / talk / think abt some of the oscar sisters' most lesbian coded moments. what it boils down to is at least from my perspective looking like a lesbian = looking cool so. oscar's got cool sisters

yes i agree with you 💗 i think it's pretty harmless to see someone who has adopted a lot of traditionally queer stylistic choices and be like haha gay On Tumblr where they can't see it because honestly why does it matter... and making a fuss about not stereotyping occasionally veers a bit into Let Women Be Femme stuff-that-only-exists-online discourse territory HLKDFSH. i just don't want to say anything for real because you know who knows!!!

and as you say the issue with putting this stuff on tt/twitter is more about the 4th wall / respecting people's boundaries... i kind of hate the engagement h gets on tt wrt her brother in general but that's another story t__t

his sisters truly are sooo cool though! also it's crazy how much m specifically looks like his mom. those genes are so strong 😭

[dukeofankh]

hey i really really appreciate your posts abt purity culture, desire and objectification and your perspective as an ex-evangelical!! having been born and raised a jew myself i've always been aware of how bullshit all of that stuff is, but not really able to articulate it as specifically as you seem able to, and i find your eloquence really impressive. with that known, i actually have a specific thing that's been bothering me, and i think it's an evangelical purity culture based thing, and hinges on that distinction you made in a post abt a week ago abt how to a lot of people "objectification" = "looking with lust" = "basically adultery"-- okay here goes:

on gay tiktok, there is currently a trend of women (or some nb ppl) who are attracted to women commenting on thirst-traps posted by women the memetic phrase "i am no better than a man".

now this really rubs me the wrong way for a lot of reasons (mainly: contextually this is almost always on videos that are INTENDED to be sexy so why is it weird to find this woman, who filmed and edited this video to be sexy, sexy?? AND what the hell do you mean abt gender by saying this???? women can't desire people?? men can only desire in predatory ways???), and it's weird in that specific way where i'm like. i smell weird cultural christian values embedded in this. but i can't quite articulate the way it all fits together.

this may be way out of line for me to bother you in your inbox like this, but i was hoping to get your take? your ability to explain this stuff clearly and with context i never knew existed is really valuable and while i have seen people responding on tumblr to say "uhhh don't say this", they haven't really articulated what's driving people to say such a specific thing, so much that it becomes a meme.

if u feel this isn't something you want to speak on, that's totally fine! and i just want to say thank you again for your thoughtful posts.

also i feel very weird abt dropping this veritable essay in your inbox so sorry!!

No worries! I love to talk, and I already have opinions on that particular meme 😆.

You've definitely gotten the gist of it, yeah. It's a bunch of unexamined sexist ideas about sex and desire repackaged in the sort of fun memey "it's not that deep, chill out" shell that absolutely thrives on social media. Some of it's Christian, some of it is the radfem repackaging of Christian ideas.

Basically, the version of Sexual Objectification championed by radfem writers like Dworkin was adapted from Immanuel Kant, a Christian philosopher/theologian, so it's not just cultural Christianity, it's also a direct intellectual connection. They just changed the idea from "all people, when overtaken by lust, cease to see people as people and can see them only as means to achieve their sinful sexual gratification. This cannot be avoided, but can be balanced out by keeping sex within a marriage that is otherwise built on commitment and respect," to "Men, when overtaken by lust, cease to see women as people and can see them only as a means to achieve their sinful sexual gratification (due to their patriarchal training to harm and dominate). This cannot be avoided, especially not by marriage, which is one of the main ways the Patriarchy codifies the subjugation of women to men."

Basically, Radfems and Christians get along because Radfems feel the same way about masculine sexuality that Christian men feel about their own sexuality. As for women...both Radfems and more modern Christians are pretty sure that women don't Do Lust in the same way men do. Like, women see people as ends in and of themselves, as fellow Subjects. Men see women as objects. As means to an end, that end being their own sexual gratification.

A few decades later and after a fair bit of social media iteration, we get to this weird point.

What they're basically saying is, "god damn. I swiped onto this thirst trap and I didn't even think about your personality or your accomplishments or anything. I literally just saw big jiggly titties and that's all I can think about. I am sexually attracted to you, and yet it isn't reflective of your soul or a deep connection between us or anything, despite the fact that I'm a woman and I'm supposed to be above just liking your body and that turning me on. Huh. This is what I have heard people describe men's sexuality as being like. You are so sexy that you are causing me to act as badly as men do."

See also: the way tiktok has redefined "the male gaze" and "the female gaze" to just mean "stuff men vs. women respectively like to look at" with most explicitly sexualized visual media being assigned to the former. Women are supposed to like things subtler than that.

Like, saying "I am no better than a man" could be a push to re-examine whether maybe a celibate 18th century theologian/philosopher is a bad foundation for your understanding of sexual desire. I would like to think that for some of these women it probably is sparking self reflection, going "huh, yeah, I guess we all do this."

But as a meme, honestly, even as it claims to lower ones own status I think it still maintains a claim of moral superiority? Like, "yeah, I'm being a horndog, but I am self aware about it. I can tell that I'm being horny on main right now, and it's something that has been conditionally activated by this very sexy thirst trap. Men are like this all the time and they don't even know."

I, obviously, don't like that. I don't like people saying "I'm acting like a man" when they mean "I'm perving on you", I don't like ranking a lack of desire as being better than desire, I don't like ranking genders or better or worse than another. I don't think it's causing problems as much as it's reflecting problems that have been there for a long time, but hey, it stinks.

[naylor]

okay i know breakup talk is over an i assume that also means gaylor talk, but i still wanted to get this thought off my chest. Feel free to not post it if you do not feel like it :) one think that fucks me up about a lot of gaylors is this idea of 'if you get it you get it' and 'if you don't see it maybe you are not supposed to see it'. and blah this is geared towards straight ppl ig, but it also creates a sort of tier list of queer fans, if that makes sense? like oooh if u are a gay fan but u don't think she is gay then maybe you are not getting the hints :/// but WHY. am i not gay enough? is she only dropping ''''hints'''' understandable to rich white americans? it's very weird behavior to me and paints the queer community as this sort of monolith of opinions and experiences when that is not true. and oftentimes it also gets followed up with 'maybe u just need to hang out with more gay ppl' ????? not every gay person thinks taylor swift is gay (FAR from it, actually) so maybe that's just. you and your friends

no, exactly! that's why i say that larry, gaylor, and all these conspiracy theories are more like internet cults than anything else. there's no one leader exploiting people (as far as i know) but a bunch of smaller niche ones with tumblr blogs, big twitter accounts, or charisma for tiktok and the victims of the cult themselves indoctrinate each other the same way a single cult leader would.

for them there's only one Truth and they're the chosen people to receive it, everything else is wrong, fake, or made specifically to trick the members of the cult and make them doubt of their Truth. they can only trust the information that comes from other people who believe in this Truth and nothing else. this is the first step, indoctrination.

no critical thinking, second opinions, of even a shadow of doubt are ever allowed; if you have any of those it means you no longer believe in the Truth and thus you're no longer welcome in the community, and you're not allowed to be part of communities that don't believe in the Truth or you'll be a traitor so if you don't blindly follow and believe you'll be completely ostracised. this is the second step, isolation.

and any outsider criticism is immediately flagged as homophobia even if it comes from actual queer people because the target for this cult is young queer people in vulnerable states than can be easily indoctrinated into seeing the Truth and then can be used as shields when criticism arise, nevertheless most of the leaders of the cult are straight, white women either fetishising lesbians or tokenising us. this is an illusion of solidarity for the victims of the cult, they are made to believe it's all to protect them and protect gayness itself when it's only used as a tool.

i could go on forever on this topic and how actually scary and insidious it is beyond just being plain harmful for the people involved and taylor herself; but shit talk about gaylor is always allowed and welcome on this blog because if there's something i'm not gonna allow is middle class white women using my sexuality as a weapon and a shield for their ridiculousness.

[saccharinerose]

I'm glad I found someone with the same opinion as mine about the whole wrio///lette thing 😭 I genuinely thought I was blind to not see any tension between those two, like to me they're just coworkers. Of course Wriothesley is going to trust Neuvilette if you know Wrio's backstory, but he also trusts Navia and Clorinde so... I think the only scene with some tension is the "wow" scene... But it still didn't hit the spot for me, Wrio is generally teasing and sarcastic, and to me at least he was mocking him rather than doing something else...

On Tiktok and Twitter there's an apocalypse fighting over ships, I'm relieved that at least here on tumblr the situation is more tamed 🥲

I find it so funny how my askbox the last days has just consisted entirely of ppl going "yeah I didn't get wrio//lette either. they just don't have chemistry imo" Gotta admit, it's a bit cathartic.

The "wow" scene didn't hit for me either but that's bc I instantly think of that one vine

I am (sadly) on twitter too and I see some grade A bullshit discourse specifically in the Genshin fandom. Maybe it's just because I don't follow many Genshin blogs on here but yeah it definitely seems more peaceful.

[joculatrixster]

as someone who started watching south park in like middle school and is currently 18 let me just quick reply to this post bc honestly? the op has a point but went about saying this point in the most teen-repellent way possible.

like no fucking teen already watching south park is going to listen to the post its dripping w/ condescension and just kinda is clearly for adults to remember bad times w/ sp fans or who just dont like the show to get in the replies and say shit like “yes ur so right for that!!! hot take the sp fandom cant handle” which is annyoing to me. bc honestly why else did u make this u didnt honestly think anyone 12-17 was gonna listen to ur post right?

10-15 years ago most ppl in the media diudnt even know what nonbinary meant its a completely different social landscape nowadays in terms of rights, recognition, and teen’s access to education on bigotry. most teens on tiktok or tumblr know about these subjects more than their parents do and u bringing up over a decade ago when u urself was 9-14 in the 2010s is not the same experience as those who r in the age of tiktok and twitter and modern youtube/twitch. teens online know more shit and activist have spread a lot of awareness easy to access in these decades that ppl who make dark humor jokes are aware the difference between joke and bigotry and aware of how distorted south park is on purpose. and if someone isnt and takes it at face value? yes they should stop watching and reassess their media literacy and the way they interact w/ information thats CLEARLY exaggerated. that is a failure on the teens part to watch a show meant for adults and not have critical thinking skills therefore that teen needs to be told point blank “ur stupid as fuck” then told the show is a comedy and satire not serious political discussion and they need to strop believing everything they see on tv like a dumbass and grow tf up. thats a teen yeah, and a dumbass one to be sure yeah? not every teen is like that tho and south park isnt the only reason they made bigoted remarks liek that.

saying south park introduced bigotry as funny to a lot of kids is actually just making me have to sit down for a second and look at most adult cartoons, most famous comedians, and look back at my middle school days and my current high school ones and most of the jokes kids would make. i am looking at a culture that make bigotry funny and kids who have been joking about shit like that openly for decades. its the most “think of the children!” type bs to say “hey south park specially is making it funny to be like that to kids. nothing eles kids woudlnt have done that w/out south park!” no i assure u the show definitely helped some kids become worst off but it is not solely south park that does this i have been hearing the most vile shit from kids around me for my whole life and that wasnt bc of south park its a cultural thing that south park has been born of and contributes to but is not the sole cause of and to say ppl wouldnt do that w/out south park is actually just ignorant. its funny because its forbidden and bad and punching down which r all things teens, specially young teens, love to do not bc south park made it funny specifically

the issue isnt sp bad no one watch it, the issue is ppl under the age of like 14 dont have good media literacy. the issue isnt “hey do NOT watch this show that has bad things in it” the issue is “Hey when u watch this show be aware of the issues it talks about and have urself educated on the topics and ur own stance son them bf u let a show about comedy first most shape ur opinions.” telling teens not to watch something thats incredibly popular and main stream is actually stupid ur not helping the core of the issue by painting it as an issue w/ the show when its an issue w/ the audience. teens like 16 and older can handle southpark ur old enough then to understand the difference between a joke and being a bigot. id say kids younger than that would need to be more aware of the issues they joke about and need to be educated on that stuff not forbidden from seeing it joked about and sheltered form hearing about it in blasé and rude ways bc that doesnt WORK.

south park is just going to become more enticing and appealing and then they will think ppl like U who say “teens shouldnt watch south park” w/out actually explaining “they dont have the mental capacity at that age to understand the nuance of dark humor” and not "they r stupid kids who need to be sheltered”, are wrong then will just go watch it

ESPECIALLY when u say teens who r actively watching south park r to allowed to enjoy and connect w/ the show bc u personally do not like it. like girl what. if someone whos a fan of the characters is making them queer has it crossed ur mind they may already be aware the show is bigoted in its humor and can actually CRITICALLY watch it w/out consuming all it says mindlessly. this post gives me the vibes u personally do NOT like dark humor or anything at the expense of a group which is valid! i know ppl who r sensitive or just plain uncomfortable w/ that stuff and thats fine! and hey i can be reading u wrong here and u litterly could have been well meaning and im just misinterpreting what ur saying but to ME is teenagers r not allowed to watch a show u deem too offensive. no. the answer is no to that teens can watch whatever the fuck they want and no one owes u being 100 percent pg all the time. Being straight up bigoted is NOT something south park EVER supported it makes light of everything and anything but the show in itself is first seeking to make an easy joke based off current events and has clearly show3n beign antisemitc, homophobic, racisit, sexist, ect IS bad bc the butt of the joke is never just the one discimated against but also the bigot who chose to do that(mainly cartman) and if u want op i can give u quotes and episodes but i dont think u actually want that. i think u want to see ur idea of the show and blame it for kids being cruel or making jokes out of bigotry and dont actually want to get that in fact some kids just like dark humor and need to be more educated on serious subjects

that means the issue is teens need to stop ONLY watching south park and watch other shows and be aware of social issues, but honestly? teens r also just dicks man, shielding them form south park will make them cling on to the next edgy ADULT media and then what? how does ur post help those teens stop making bigoted jokes? maybe instead of being reactionary about a form of media actually make a post that helps educate teens who dont understand the shit they talk about bc they saw it in the media and heard about it form their friends.

idk what teenager needs to hear this but please stop watching south park

[andrwgarfields]

People talking about it on tumblr is one thing bc I feel things are pretty contained here, but I feel so awful that Joe’s relationship was put on TikTok like that, my friend who barely even follows him sent me that video and it has 270k views. After everything Joe’s said about not wanting to publicize his relationships and not following the people he dates or his friends from home or even his mum on insta because he doesn’t want people knowing who they are or looking at their posts… I just feel bad for him. Also lowkey pissed at the bf for being careless on social media in addition to being a huge creep. (Sorry but that age gap is nasty work. ☹️)

Im always super conflicted regarding this just because yes i get the request for privacy but at the same time it seems almost impossible to achieve at this day and age. I think the best we can do is be respectful and even if we have opinions (rightfully so because the age gap is concerning) it can be done in a respectful way and i dont think being a fan of someone equates to defending and agreeing with all their choices either (and honestly i think sometimes celebs get defensive is specifically because ppl can be cruel with their words)

its so iffy to me cause apparently that dudes insta was public initially few months ago and there were pics of joe on his feed. I find it disturbing that joe seems adamant that his partner’s identity remains sorta anonymous bt obviously his partner doesnt seem to mind?

[astralleywright]

WTF PEOPLE ACTUALLY SAID THAT ABOUT ASHTON??? from what i see it's always "ashton is perfect and can do no wrong and everything they do is justified. btw imogen should be put down like a rabid dog cause she's gonna turn on everyone" ig yeah it is a problem of the fandom being so large that some subsects of it are totally alien if you don't go there, like i see people insist "UGH why does everyone coddle and baby laudna? let her take responsibility for her actions!" when i have literally seen nothing but criticism for her or say that chetney is universally hated when again, no? but maybe they are in a part of the fandom that does do that. ew though. that's fucking gross.

TO BE FAIR that was like one specific example of extreme haterism!! but yeah many such cases of ppl who think Ashton sucks and want him to shut up, as opposed to genius intellectual Ashton stans like myself that know that he sucks and want them to keep talking forever.

it would definitely seem insane if you just used tumblr though, bc cr fans On Here 1. often have opinions regarding cr characters/ships/story beats that differ noticeably from those common to websites like twitter/reddit/tiktok 2. get mad at cr takes that have been posted on those other sites but not here and 3. invent problems or blow things out of proportion so they can play fandom police.

Ashton hate is a good example because it exists, but largely on other cr fandom circles, and also not nearly to the extent some people here make it out to be. in conclusion if you see someone in the cr tag outraged about some take or trend in fandom that you have literally never seen before you should just ignore them lmao, in all likelihood they are either lying to you or they are being stupid

[yay-depression]

anyways quick reminder to always critically think about anything you see. including things that sound “normal” or “correct”

sometimes fear mongering is in fact just fear mongering, even if it’s against something that should be kind of feared.

always be aware of the tendency on the internet to be hyperbolic and extreme.

very few things are 100% good or 100% bad

[hematomes]

I saw your post about ppl losing their shiz about Kaeya fanart being “whitewashed” when it’s literally darker than he is in canon. I agree btw I love like basically all Kaeya art out there I love one eyepatch man.

anyhoo, I have a story. I once saw a tiktok about a kaeya art. it was specifically labeled “IN PROGRESS” or whatever so you knew the artist wasn’t done. it was a gorgeous piece of art btw. So far, the only thing that had been colored was his hair and some of his clothes.

pretty much everyone in the comments started harrasing her about how he was whitewashed and the artist had to be a white supremacist and i think someone said “see I knew everyone who played genshin was racist just delete the game at this point.”

i was just like 😳 wow jeez it’s literally IN PROGRESS the artist legit said so.

the artist eventually posted the final version (after having to delete the first video and deal with several threats) it did turn out beautiful, but on the comments there and on every post of theirs after people are lurkign in the comments bad-mouthing them.

as much as I definitely am for characters not being whitewashed (especially Kaeya bc I love him your honor) I think some people take it way too far when the person they’re yelling at literally just wanted to get people excited about their WIP.

hi! sorry im so late this issue became quite sensitive lol i had to work up the courage to come back to it. it's gonna be a bit long, but i really need to say all this

if there's one thing i noticed about the genshin community on tiktok and twitter, it's that there is a whole, whole lot of social justice warriors and overall it's extremely toxic. it's something that surprised me because the people i interact with on tumblr are all super sweet and not one bit toxic so? idk, tumblr is just a different breed i guess

your story is extremely saddening. everytime there's a kaeya fanart, people forget about the color theory and the artists' style and claim it's whitewashed and i genuinely don't understand why. if someone could explain it to me, am i missing something? im not an artist so perhaps im mistaken, idk, but i've never seen a fanart where kaeya was whitewashed.

the thing that pisses me off the most is that most of the time it's white ppl calling something whitewashed. i'm not saying you shouldn't call out racism if you see it just bc you're white, just that these people aren't even right - and often you see poc coming into the debate and explaining it's not whitewashed/saying it doesn't bother them. moreover, i've literally seen fanart of beidou as a black girl, which isn't representation in my opinion - beidou is already a poc, and asian people need at least as much representation as black people, so it's plain racism. same thing with kaeya, i've seen edits of him with stereotypical african features, and it's really sad that no one is calling this out but yelling about whitewashing as soon as he isn't the exact same color as the official arts. hell, someone even said "so what if it's darker? it's still whitewashing" and i??? am flabbergasted. whitewashing is absolutely disgusting, but ppl keep misunderstanding what it means and just using it to gratuitously harass artists.

now, don't get me wrong. i believe that you can draw whatever you want. but the thing is - if you get mad when someone draws kaeya white (if they really do, i mean), you can't just applaud someone else's that draws another character black. racism goes both ways, and it's bordering on fetishism. i, as a poc (mixed-race, caucasian + african), am extremely uncomfortable everytime i see this double-standard.

but anyway, the fact remains that sjw have plagued the genshin fandom. and it's not just about kaeya's skin color (we don't even know if he's really a poc - we know he's tan according to paimon, and i believe she called him "exotic"? so idk) but also about the ships. everytime i see a shippy tiktok, there's plenty of ppl out here saying it's wrong, claiming their own ship is the most canon. if i'm not mistaken, kaeluc is the one that gets the most hate, and i genuinely, once again, don't understand why.

i talked about them before and explained how it's not incest bc they really aren't brothers, but i swear every now and then i see people throwing death threats and slurs anytime someone hints at them. idk if you are familiar with the eng va's fandom, but sometimes they play among us together, aether's va does some livestreams where he invites different voice actors. but diluc's va is never there, and i was wondering why - recently i learned that it's because he retweet a fanart of kaeya and diluc fighting alongside each other (not even a shippy fanart, apparently) and people harassed him and excluded him from the fandom. and now the same thing is happening to griffin burns, childe's va, bc he retweeted (or liked, idk) a fanart of lumine and childe fighting or something and people called it pedophilia bc lumine would be a minor. i'm not even gonna dive into this bc the travelers are canonically like 30 times childe's age, but what i mean is - people are so full of hate and i can't fathom living like this?

the point is, i totally respect anyone who doesn't ship something i ship. i myself don't like certain ships - like zhongli/xiao, jean/diluc - but im not gonna harass ppl who do just because i can? that's messed up, i just don't get it. i wish the fandom wasn't that bad bc i really enjoy this game

anyway, im really disappointed but still grateful, bc my followers & people i've interacted with here have been nothing but sweet and respectful. i hope none of y'all come across the toxic side of the genshin fandom. stay safe y'all!

[realcube]

Ok but hc for what type of girl the pretty setter squad+yamaguchi they would date.

Thanks and have a nice day!💖🥺

yes!! i love the pretty setter squad but like i don’t have too many hcs to make this a whole thing so i feel like the following title is necessary:

characters: pretty setter squad + yamaguchi

trigger warning: swearing, somewhat crack, sexual references (these are just my opinions/hcs btw - plz don’t take it too seriously)

tobio kageyama

♡ i will preach this till the day i die and ik y’all are probably tired of writing all my reader inserts for kageyama x reader one-shots like this but yk what tobio wants- you know what tobio needs and deserves- the female equivalent of oikawa tōru

♡ if her favourite food ain’t milk bread and her personal motto isn’t ‘if you’re gonna hit it then it it till it breaks’ then HE DOESN’T WANT IT /j

♡ but he’d like someone who cares about their appearance, is passionate about something like he is, fairly smart, witty and kinda a heartthrob 

♡ bonus points if it’s a sport that they are passionate about

♡ i feel like he’d be into just like a typical ‘girly girl’ yk?

♡ also he has a soft spot for acrylic nails- he just thinks they look so cool and if he saw yours he’d definitely call them ‘badass’

♡ he thinks they are kinda impractical for volleyball so that’s why he doesn’t get them himself (plus they are expensive as hell and he only has milk box money)

♡ so yeah he would date an oikawa kinnie 

♡ overall, i think he just wants someone independent who can take care of themselves 

♡ except when you can’t open the tab of your coke bc of your acrylics, then he is happy to help

tadashi yamaguchi

♡ i’ve said this before and i’ll say it again; YAMAGUCHI IS A LESBIAN

♡ ok now that i’ve got your attention, let me explain what this means and what it has to do with this taste in girls

♡ he fell down the wlw pipeline- if that’s a thing

♡ like while the gang were watching sjw get rekt compilations, yamaguchi was watching hayley kiyoko music videos and lgbt short films on youtube-

♡ now imagine that scene were babey yamaguchi was getting bullied except they were teasing him bc he said his favourite song was girls like girls RGTYGJKMN 

♡ anyway, till this day, he is watching cottagecore lesbian tiktoks (minecraft and irl) while others watch ben shapiro it is such a shame 

♡ he doesn’t fetishize them though- it’s just his ideal lifestyle 

♡ he’s developed the mind of a wlw tho so i think his thoughts are similar to mine in a way that he’s just like ‘WOMEN 😍🥰💓’ all the time 24/7

♡ so yeah this was my elongated way of saying that yamaguchi doesn’t really have type, all women are queens in his eyes

♡ but in an ideal world, his s/o would be an ally of the lgbtq+ community, if not apart of it, stan any wlw singer/band (preferably kpop), won’t yell at him 🥺 and are willing to run away with him to a cottage in the woods at any given moment 

kōshi sugawara

♡ his taste isn’t very specific but here are some things he looks for in partner:

♡ either likes baking or likes eating what he bakes and giving him feedback

♡ has long eyelashes/wears lashes (he thinks they are cute and ik you do too don’t even lie)

♡ oh and shiny lipgloss too 

♡ very good communicator 😌

♡ a simp

♡ someone who likes gardening or is at least willing to try pick it up to help him with his herbs

♡ will do facemasks with him

♡ intelligence; he will literally bust a nut for someone who can recite newton’s third law of motion 😩 

♡  and honesty ✨ (bc he needs to be told when his hair looks wack plz) 

kenma kuzome

♡ plz he needs a catgirl 

♡ like your typical anime catgirl

♡ bushy tail, high + soft voice, big eyes, even bigger honkers, maybe a tsundere, cat ears, purs and gives good head ✨

♡...

♡ I WAS JUST INFORMED THAT CAT GIRLS DO NOT EXIST AND I AM BOTH DISGUSTED AND DISAPPOINTED BEYOND BELIEF 

♡ me and kenma are never leaving our rooms again istg what is even the point anymore if ik that i won’t meet a catgirl 😭

♡ so yeah, if he were to date someone who isn’t a cat girl, they’d probably have to be a human equivalent or like.. a gamer

♡ a streamer maybe 

tōru oikawa

♡ he also doesn’t have a specific type but here are some of his turn offs:

♡ kageyama tobio 

♡ kageyama tobio kinnies

♡ people who think he’s too obsessed with volleyball and is incapable of loving anything/anyone else

♡ laziness

♡ ppl who’ve got a FAT fucking ass 😡 (jealousy ofc)

♡ ushijima stans

♡ bad breath 🤢

♡ppl who don’t know every word of primadonna girl by marina

♡ horse girls 

♡ aries (he’d still date an aries but he will tease you for it. if you ever mess something up like you drop a glass and it spills water everywhere he’ll just side-eye you like ‘that’s classic aries behaviour, ofc’)

keiji akaashi

♡ you 

♡ literally you 

♡ he doesn’t have a type but if he did, it would be you 

♡ bc you’re reading hcs on tumblr rn and as yk, he’s a bookworm

♡ (and i believe wholeheartedly that he read fanfic/hcs on tumblr too. probably harry potter/hunger games) 

♡ and also you’re reading his hcs which means you like him and he’s lost himself to unrequited love too many times so at least he knows you’re interested

♡ so yeah you check all the boxes:

☑ fanfic reader/bookworm

☑ watches anime

☑ pretty

☑ sweet

☑ actually likes him 

eita semi

♡ big tiddy goth gf with thick eyeliner, dyed hair and chains

♡ big tiddy isn’t necessary - he doesn’t objectify women ✨

♡ but anyway, they should also be willing to step on his throat and break all his bones with their demonias, upon being asked politely 

♡ spit in his mouth plz 🙏

♡ also an elite music is a must for him

♡ oh! and they should be willing to share their clothes/accessories with him (he’ll share his too ofc)

♡ a few other things he likes are: piercings, those little eyeliner hearts under the eyes, pink blush, thick eyebrows, black/dark purple lipstick, guitarist, drummers, singers (literally any sort of musician), platform shoes, alternative fashion in general, ppl who do DIYs, ppl who sew & ppl who cut/dye their own hair

♡ oh and like suga he is a slut for intelligence 

♡ and for powerful/confident women !!

♡ don’t get that confused with financial power-

♡ like proper powerful ppl that flick off a bigot on sight 

[shoezuki]

With the new techno tiktok I’m seeing a lot of twt fans talking about mcyttiktok and how cringe and bad it is, and how techno won’t want to interact w them and what not and it’s just. Pretty funny, that they don’t realize they can be just as bad sometimes? Even if it’s in a different way. Like, techno is hardly ever on twitter anymore and I just, idk.

when it comes to which place is ‘worse’ in terms of mcyt fandom like.... theres so much lack of self awareness.

like. i personally will say tumblr here is the ‘best’ as a personal opinion. but im not gon say that theres not fucked up shit here too or ppl being wack. its just smaller here, AND its easier to tailor your own blog and dashboard according to what you Want to see and Dont want to see. 

on other places like specifically twitter n tiktok. its HUGE. and a largely younger audience as theyre the New and Big platforms w cc’s on em so ppl will flock their whom are desperate or need the chance of attention/validation from ccs. AND for twitter at least its not a great platform for like. curating the content you see. so those all factor hugely into it being ‘worse’ in my mind. 

but like. many times i see critique of other platforms or even the one theyre on.... yet no self awareness that They could even be a part of the issue. 

but also i honestly have No clue of mcytiktok like i do not go over there nor see much of anything beyond sometimes like. ppl being wack in comments of female mcyters like hannah rose. 

[lumens8ite]

(sorry this anon, I don't have a tumblr anymore) hey, just reaching out because I read your graphic post about BPD and think there's a lot of mis-info in it. the "4 types" of BPD aren't really a thing used in either research or therapy and are stigmatizing, they come from a book that's now 26 years old and the field has evolved since then. having an FP is also not a symptom of BPD, although some ppl with this disorder identify with that term. there are a lot of newer and reputable books about

hey, thanks for the feedback!

i’m gonna do my best to pick up some books on BPD and DBT, because i’m doing my best to learn more about how my brain works so that maybe i can help others like me! and your response has helped me consider some stuff i hadn’t before!

i personally identify with having a type of BPD, and am friends/acquaintances with others who do, do you think it could be a preference type thing from person to person? from what i have learned there’s lots of differentiating opinions on terms for BPD, and i think it’s important to listen to as many voices as possible :o

i personally feel that knowing about “different types” has helped me, but i know it hasn’t for others. i don’t think people should be put into a box, and if you FEEL like more than one type, or all of them, or don’t even fall into any of them 100%, that’s fine! i just found it to be a helpful guide in my own journey so far in my therapy and relationships. 

and ah i didn’t know that about FPs! what i have learned about FPs is my own experience and stuff i’ve read or heard on TikTok or from the userbase. i haven’t really found a whole lot about FPs specifically on google alone, but that people with BPD can be obsessive over people and it’s pretty much left at that...so i can see it not being set in stone to the disorder. 

do you have any books you’d recommend? i took a short look through options the other day, the main one i was looking at is The Mindfulness Solution for Intense Emotions by Cedar R. Koons, but i haven’t done an in-depth look at books yet because i want to make sure i’m reading something reputable and current. thanks again!! i’m gonna do my best to learn more before i talk more about the disorder, and most importantly take care of myself, because i got ahead of myself and forgot to do so.

[gibbearish]

#like theres so many things wrong with that take#transmisandry was created to give trans men a way to talk about the experience of being raised as / treated as / perceived as women#without invalidating their identity by calling it misogyny#because super boiled down: trans men are not women and misogyny is bigotry towards women#so to call it misogyny implies theyre women#which like i have my own personal opinions on ppl being like 'trans men werent raised as women they were raised as men viewed as women'#like. i feel lile phrasing it that way is just unhelpful?? i wasnt raised as a man people saw as a woman#i was raised as a girl. i was treated as a girl my whole life. so yeah i may not know what it feels lile specifically to have my gender fee#like woman#but i do know what its like to be treated and viewed as a woman because thats what literally everyone else thinks i am#and to be like 'uwu but youre not a girl on the Inside therefore pretending to understand our struggles is misogyny' feels disingenuous at#best and downright terf-y at worst#like yeah my brain might not be girl flavored but i still got catcalled at 10 so i think nitpicking details is just unhelpful#but all of that aside it is also helpful for other trans men who are uncomfortable viewing themselves that way to be able to phrase it in a#way that doesnt imply they're women#especially since out of all men‚ trans men are literally the only ones actually being oppressed for being men#so if literally anyone on the planet has the right to use the word misandry and not be a fucking idiot its trans men#that was part of the argument i saw on tiktok too was that by using the word transmisandry you were indirectly lending credibility#to the word misandry as like an actual this that cis men suffer from‚ which. no#thats not how words work#anyways thats a lot of thoughts#actually i have more things to say about this#i think part of it is like. i feel like some people have leaned way too heavily into hash tag trans men are men and ended up coming out the#other side into ''trans men are men and therefore just as vile as cis men and do all the same things wrong and act exactly the same and#cannot be redeemed'' which is uhhhhhh fucked up#like theres been a super recent trend of implying trans men do not suffer any sort of oppression and therefore dont get to join#conversations about it when thats blatently untrue and literally part of the oppression trans men face#and added onto that is the idea that trans men dont face anywhere near the amount of oppression trans women do and therefore need to just#sit down and shut up which literally just divides the community. fights about whos more oppressed a) dont need to happen but b) definitely#dont boil down to ''one side is literally obliterated at every second by lasers from all angles and the other rests upon an ivory throne

#oh what the fuck tumblr limits the number of tags now? anyways: #sits on an ivory throne laughing cruely as the other suffers #because once again that only divides the community and tries to pit us against each other #trans men and trans women face both similar and unique challenges and the way to overcoming them isnt to argue about whose sucks more #they both suck‚ lets work together to fix it instead of taking turns shitting on each other #ok now im done i think #hm no i was wrong. anyways this also ties in to my opinions on who can say the t slur #like. cis people dont care what flavor of trans you are. theyre not going to see some gnc person and be like 'hey which way are you trans? #oh youre a trans man? fuck i guess i cant call you a slur now. enjoy your day.' theyll see someone who looks even a little to liberal and #thats that. furthermore generally anyone using slurs to refer to themselves probably has a pretty good reason to do so that you have #no way of knowing. they 100% know their own feelings far better than you do so to act like you can decide who gets to call themselves what #is wack. especially words usually intended to do harm. should trans men be calling other people the t slur? no. #but neither should trans women. reclamation is a wholly personal journey and to apply your own personal standards to others is #again: wack. literally the only time anyone is ok to call another person a slur is when they either have been given express permission or #are close enough to that person to know they would be ok with it even without explicit permission #ok /now/ im done #oh whoops i made trans women one word in the original post. my bad. i was typing transmisandry so many times my brain defaulted to one word

@marlboroprimedelux there u go bb

discourse here is buck fucking wild but at least i havent seen the argument i saw on tiktok which was "the word transmisandy was only coined because trans men saw trans women saying 'transmisogyny' and wanted to feel special too"