#is it inherently unhealthy? no??
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i dont get involved in syscourse because i have literally anything better to do but im so secondhand embarrassed that integrated functioning has become the word of the week with people completely not understanding the term.
i love integrated functioning as the name of the treatment goal for DID because it really highlights that both constant cooperation and full integration are incredible achievements. and are both valid ways to live and overcome your symptoms. and are both *the same goal* (to operate seamlessly and collectively) just with different mental frameworks. multiplicity is literally fine.
#sorry for diding on main#actually did#actually dissociative#kostik speaks#can multiplicity be unhealthy and is it common for people to not realise how dissociative they are? yeah#is it inherently unhealthy? no??#its just a framework for seeing yourself and can be very helpful#i think being able to acknowledge and respect all of yourself is incredible. and if you identify as multiple personalities more power to yo#you do need a tolerance for accepting that non pathological plurals exist to wrap your head around this i feel#but its really quite shrimple#did tag
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I think more people should make peace with their dark sides, and I don’t mean that in an edgy way, I mean that in a “letting purity culture infect you to the point where you get frightened by even your own darker thoughts and impulses is NOT the healthy own you think it is” kind of way and
#you should be comfortable knowing you CAN get angry#you should be allowing yourselves to feel bad or angry or mad or even hateful without thinking you’re suddenly evil like#I think people who try to be positive and unproblematic and peaceful ALL the time are so unhealthy#personal txt#this isn’t about anything in particular I’m just sick of people thinking being angry is inherently problematic
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posts about having been a righteously angry teen are great and all but i was terrified of my own anger and consciously forbid myself from ever expressing or acknowledging any angry feelings at all from childhood until the age of like 25. so shoutout to people who are afraid to ever express any anger. we gotta work on that
#i really took the golden rule to its unhealthy logical extreme#of insisting that people would never mistreat me if i was just nice to everyone all the time#and that anger was an inherently toxic emotion#i would always try to play peacekeeper in any conflict often at the expense of myself or at the expense of actually resolving said conflict#it was bad folks!!!#elise.rtf
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i don't think dirkjake is inherently unhealthy, i think they're just two socially awkward 16-year-olds who haven't yet learned how to properly communicate. not to say they can never be unhealthy or that it's not interesting, i just don't think it's inherent to them
i also think there's a difference between them having relationship problems and them being unhealthy. because, yes, they do inherently have relationship problems. because that's inherent to relationships
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Joel meeting Ellie: *slams her into a wall & threatens to shoot her*
Joel five minutes later: *kills a man w/ his bare hands for threatening to shoot her*
#the military guy: *points a gun at ellie*#joel: HEY >:/ ONLY I CAN DO THAT#this show's gonna be fun i can tell#cant wait for them to be such a borderline unhealthy co-dependent father-daughter duo <3#theyre already getting there#im sooooo not normal about them already and they only interacted for like. ten minutes so far#the show is so good and everyone's acting is on point#the last of us#my only issue is that THEY TOOK AWAY THE FUCKING SPORES.#THE THING THAT MADE THE LAST OF US UNIQUE FROM OTHER ZOMBIE APOCALYPSES#ohhh noooo they have tendrils in their mouths oh so scaryyyy#WHERE THE FUCK#ARE MY SPORES????#what's gonna be the big threat about the bloaters now huh? i guess there's no inherent threat of existing in heavily infected areas huh???#i guess we dont get a scene of ellie breathing in spores and joel being Not Happy about it hmmm???#'auogh oh nooo we dont want to occasionally obscure our actors facessss noooo'#COWARDS. THE LOT OF THEM.#it would have added to the show actually. it would have been sick as fuck. so unsettling. so immersive.#gonna die mad about it tbh#like sure the visuals are gonna be cool and the cordyceps concept still rips#but the infection spreading just by biting... thats so painfully normal. thats just another zombie show#its still an amazing adaptation and im obsessed but :/ cmon man#if there was One Thing to get right. the spores wouldve been it#PLUS IT WOULDVE LOOKED SO AWESOME. THEY COULDVE DONE SO MUCH W IT
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hot take moment cwilbur is literally just psychotic as all hell and i think people got way too comfortable villianizing the shit out of a man who was clearly portraying signs of severe mental illness. cwilbur was like im so fucking paranoid and scared and i think everyone is out to get me and hurt me and ive spiralled to the point i cant reach out to the people closest to me because im so afraid and lost in this spiral and im having constant panic attacks and hurting myself because i dong know what to do with myself and the only way out for me is to die. and everybody was like EVIL MAN WHO ENJOYS HURTING OTHERS AND IS ABUSIVE ON PURPOSE AND A VILLAIN AND SHOULD NEVER BE TRUSTED AGAIN. and then he came back and was like im still deeply troubled and afraid but im desperately trying to make up for the wrongs i did in the past and the people i hurt in my own way and communication is really hard for me but i hope people know that im truely sorry and i love them. im going to try my hardest to fix this in the only way i know how and then respectfully remove myself from the situation because i feel thats the kindest thing i can do to the people ive hurt. and people were like ABUSER ABUSER ABUSER EVIL MAN ABUSER. like girl
Yeah no based true real no questions asked
I'd hope I manage to portray Wilbur the way he deserves in my content, cause that man is heavily bpd coded and he just needs therapy and someone who genuinely loves him but also can handle his bullshit (which has exclusively and reliably been Quackity like, canonically)
But yeah no completely agreed. The man has issues and has definitely fucked up a lot but at the end of the day he really does need love and care and patience, but also boundaries (and therapy and meds, obviously)
#i deeeefinitely have no reason to have strong feelings about bpd bitches deserving love and care and stability ha ha nooo it's definitely-#-not like I've been dating one for well over 4 years now and even though we've been through so much shit together and I still can't-#-understand why people with bpd and conditions that have similar symptoms are so demonised. It just makes no sense to me.#my bf is the love of my life and i can't imagine /not/ supporting it through all the splitting and episodes and all of that cause they're-#-absolutely worth everything#i don't know not to be too gay on main but tbf it's too late now anyway i think--#is it unstable? sure. but it's also the most caring and loving person i've ever been close with and it always makes sure i'm ok#and it loves me so undeniably deeply no matter what purely for who i am#i've never had anyone care about me this much and this genuinely and this unconditionally - it'd always be what /they/ can get out of /me/#but my boyfriend just cares about me - the actual me - no matter if i'm acting how it imagined i'd act. what matters is if i'm /me/#listen bpd isn't sunshine and rainbows - we've been through some TERRIBLE shit (including s-cide attempts)#but when people claim it makes a relationship toxic/abusive it's so stupid cause ultimately with mutual love support and reassurance-#-and professional help you can have a genuinely happy and healthy life with someone with bpd#love isn't mean to be easy. it's meant to be safe and supportive and genuine but a relationship always takes effort and work on both sides#you should never sacrifice your well being of course!#but when love takes effort and extra care it doesn't inherently mean it's unhealthy or toxic or abusive. it just means you're people.#tldr if you love someone then don't care about some diagnosis - care about the actual perso.#ask#asks#ask fern#tntduo#dsmp#tnt duo#wilbur soot#quackity#quackbur#dream smp#tntblr#c!quackbur#c!tntduo
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so has anyone figured out WHY there is the Need To Share our Artworks™ or is it just the vibes and our Soul apparently
#ive been running on “two cakes. u aren't BOTHERING people by putting art on their feed they can scroll past it/if they dont they get ”cake“”#and we love “cake”#“cake” is picture on the internet in this case#like okay the contracts and transaction format is a me problem!! i need to get rid of the “utilitarian brain worms” bc they're boring#this is supposed to be a hobby and the “get a good grade in hobby” wolf in the brain is just crying bc that's how they understand the world#the “get a good grade in x” wolf has valid pain but needs to stop controlling my life because they don't need to earn “enough value to live”#ect ect ect#and the life of minmaxxed utility is a life of trying to appeal to a “correct” that doesn't exist yaddi yadda = boring#i love you wolf. also shut up. affectionate. concerned. you get it#ok so we remove tangible purpose from act of experience art because THAT'S not “the point”#because “the point” is the joy killer eccetera ecc#but then what? “here check out this labor of love. i drew this fucker 15 times. no there's no story* there it's just a guy”#*story in this case being an emotional engagement/a situation/a context in which to ponder/other#so it's just a Draw. no further analysis. what do others Get from that?#i know i deeply enjoy art because im a fan of the process of People Making Stuff. i love when there was nothing but now there's something!!!#THAT'S what's it all about!!!!!!!!!!!!!! to me!!!! right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#so it stands to reason that creation is purpose enough?? to be experienced???? to be known????????#idk!!#this is a nothing burger of a thought people have always liked picture on the internet stfu maiora there doesn't need to be a reason#this is just the brainworms talking!!! because god forbid “something not have a purpose”??? blegh!!!!!!!!#sounds like unhealthy rationalizing instead of letting things be out of The Fear™!!sounds like depraving urself from joy bc of BRAINWORMS!!!#so like!!!!! picture on the internet doesn't NEED inherent value. creation is enough!! (plus there's the Attachment to Character. also.)#but then why are YOU *points at you* here? gen q!!#i made an image you like and now you are reading my word babble in some tags!!! what's THAT all about???????????#it's INTERESTING!! do you see what im trying to get at??#is it empathy??? person made something other saw something other made- other2other connection???? intrigue????????#.......all this is probably explained in some book or yt essay somewhere. oh well.#in the meantime thank you for your time! we can pretend we were stuck in an elevator together and then i started rambling#i hope you have a great rest of your day thanks for stopping by!! <3#maiora garrulates
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obviously dont be ableist about moonpaw that shit is bad but also. incest is bad and ive seen a few people now try to normalize cousin on cousin incest bc of this incident and it makes me want to actually throw up as somebody who was sexually abused by a cousin lol
#ashie rambles#its proshipper rhetoric. sorry#tw incest#tw csa#incest is bad not bc the kids born from it might be disabled but bc its an inherently unhealthy and abusive dynamic#moonpaw#im putting it in the main tag because people need to hear this idc
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As important as it is to learn to accept and understand your neurodiversity, you are allowed to struggle with it. You are allowed to have complicated feelings or even feel negatively about it.
As wonderful as being neurodivergent is, you are allowed to acknowledge that sometimes it isn't. That doesn't make you a bad person or mean you are any less accepting of yourself.
A big part of self acceptance is also accepting the negative parts.
#as much as i love adhd and there is positive things sometimes i hate it!#and thats okay#toxic positivity is unhealthy and part of accepting ourselves is also accepting parts we *don't* like#and allowing ourselves to feel that#but understand that doesn't deminish our inherent self worth and doesn't mean you're not allowed to like yourself#humans are complicated you are allowed to be.#love letters to you
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I’ve said this before but I firmly believe that fatphobia and ableism are intrinsically linked
#Fatphobia and misogyny and fatphobia and racism also#But it’s so obvious how much the arguments people use to be fatphobic are just ableism and eugenics again#Ohhh so you think fat people are prone to chronic illness and disability so you want them to not be fat anymore so they can be ‘healthy’ so#you don’t have to deal with disabled and chronically ill people? Ok. You are a eugenicist#And being fat DOESN’T make you inherently unhealthy to be clear. But I think it’s worth highlighting the#inherently bigoted undertones of the cult of health because even if it WAS true then#the justifications for fatphobia are still fundamentally irreparably based in hatred and cannot be salvaged.#Fatphobia
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the Corinthian is such an interesting character because on a surface level he craves freedom and consumption but what he really wants is fulfillment/meaning and it doesn’t truly matter how he gets it
he can satiate his hunger by consuming the waking world or by being loved by the one being he gives a damn about
he despises being dehumanized and reduced to an object/function but if he were given sufficient attention he wouldn’t even mind being treated like a tool because he would feel whole
That is to say I think Morpheus should’ve just given cori a good hard fuck to fix him 🙂 just kidding. Unless?
#the corinthian#the sandman#Corinthian#corintheus#Morpheus#dream of the endless#but also corintheus will always be inherently unequal where cori being happy is#based on a position where he is inferior to Dream and mistreated#they will always be inherently unequal and a situation where they are together is always unhealthy#which is where hobrintheus comes in. lol#I really think hob grounds them
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Leaning into making my favorite characters struggle. Henry emily is getting a buzz cut/very short cut between 7ish and 20ish because he just cannot take care of his hair. Anytime he has long hair its because someone else is helping him with it or its matted. Thank you henry emily's mom, jojo emily, and william afton. Its a shame you all died.
#thank you youknowho#i need to get back into this. i have hcs for william with specifically incontinence but i fear what i say can be seen as sexual.#guys who forget to eat or sleep if not reminded#henry emily's room starts to look like a hoarders house as soon as jojo dies#i think william's also weird about hoarding but not in the same way as henylry#henry uses papertowels(for drying hands) twice at least. he never throws away anything with a lid.#only half of the shit he saves ever gets used again#i have so many thoughts but most are inherently gross.#also toxic piece of shit william throwingg away stuff form hen's hoard because its “gross and unhealthy and unneeded” and the#and the panic and distraught that comes from that
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IF YOU DON'T VOTE PEARL AND SCAR I'M FUCKING STEALING SOMETHING OUT YOUR HOUSE!!!!!!
@last-lifeduo-standing
#pearlescentmoon#goodtimeswithscar#double life#fanart#trafficblr#life series#eyestrain tw#DOES THE INHERENT BOND OF INDULGING IN UNHEALTHY COPING MECHANISMS TOGETHER AS A RESULT OF HEARTBREAK MEAN NOTHING TO YOU ALL!!!!!!!#(reupload cause i decided i wanted to make this its own post instead of just a rb)
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spent the first hour and change at work deleting some old files and am having a grand ol time laughing at myself for not realizing i was a lesbian sooner
#vulnerable tag rambles ahead please be kind abt them i didnt intent to ramble this much but i dont wanna delete it eitehr#me to every single man i have ever dated after 6mo-1y: yeah hey this really isnt working out i dont really know why but i really hate mysel#and i dont want to blame you because i dont think you did anything inherently wrong here; i think this is something about me but i need#space to figure out why im feeling this way [every single one reacted by telling me No i wasnt allowed to leave btw]#i hold very complex feelings about these relationships esp bc of them ending in very violent/chaotic ways most of the time#but its interesting to look back at it all and realize ive left every man for the same reason (which is that ive hated myself Every Single#Time ive dated a man) and its funny bc i recognized the self hate pretty early on w/ cishet men but when it came to queer men it was#much more confusing (esp w/ nto knowing Any lesbians at that point in my life). im so happy im a lesbian tbh#i have a lot of issues w/ the racism fatphobia and transmisogyny present in lesbian groups#and also coming out as a lesbian really truly saved my life. before i met my wife i was quite literally in a 3yr abusive relationship that#definitely would have died in if i hadnt realzied i was a lesbian and ran from him#its also weird seeing liek the hard evidence of the things that happened to me btween 2016-2020 tbh#cause that was such a bad time of my life. i truly dont know how i survived it but im so glad i did#like the three major relationships in my life b4 meeting my wife was: guy who was in college when i was in HS who stalked me when i left;#guy who was a year younger than me who cheated on me the entire time while telling me he was being victimized (he wasnt; this was very mess#guy who saw the very messy toxic ldr i was in and helped me dump my ex then decided that meant we were in a relationship [insert 3 yrs here#and admittedly all 3 years with him werent the same level of abusive but it was definitely unhealthy from the start considering I Didnt Kno#we were together until he wanted to celebrate vday and got mad i didnt know our anniversary - and like this isnt including the other stuff#that happened between those Relatonships[tm] (cause ive never been monogamous; these were just the Major Relationships)#like i genuinely think if i hadnt come out i'd be dead rn given just how dangerous my relationships were/continued getting#i am also so tired now that ive seen all this cause like. fuck i can barely believe it and i not only lived it but have PTSD about it#i should write about my life sometime. i feel like it'd be cathartic to try and make a tangible timeline and stories from the years ang stu#anyway yeah. be nice about the tag rambles. dont message me with pity or curiosity or anything about this. i dont usually talk abt this stu#publicly bc i hate the ways ppl start tryign to baby me when they realize my life has been extremely fucked up until only a few years ago#n im still working on accepting kindness from others bc of [insert life traumas here] but its a long process so pls respect my need for jus#being heard rn w/o too much pressure< 3 (but ig if u do read this can u like it cause i feel a little crazy seeing all the evidence of the#stuff i experienced now also cause fuck ik logically it was but also i cant believe it was all real still yk)
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Captain America (1968) #110
#now /this/ is a compelling dynamic to me#Rick frightened- he’s described as ‘trembling’- but feeling obligated to try to calm down the Hulk#and in denial about how much of a danger the Hulk is to him#while Steve isn’t able to convince Rick that he’s in danger#I’m specifically contrasting this to that early Fantastic Four issue where Rick’s unhealthy loyalty to the Hulk isn’t acknowledged#when Steve in particular should have been saying something like this#and afterwards Steve made a comment comparing the Hulk’s feelings about losing Rick as his sidekick to his own about Bucky#inherently framing it as reasonable#marvel#steve rogers#rick jones#bruce banner#my posts#comic panels
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'codependent teammates' this 'codependent teammates' that. i don't think that word means what you think it means.
#TWO PEOPLE SPENDING A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER DOES NOT AUTOMATICALLY EQUAL CODEPENDENCE. THAT'S A WHOLE SEPARATE THING.#a codependent relationship is inherently dysfunctional and (usually) unbalanced#it's needing your partner to the point you feel like you can't function without them#you rely on them for mental / physical / emotional support to an extreme or unhealthy degree#which YES can be very fun to explore in an rpf sense and YES there definitely are pairings that skew towards codependent‚ but like.#codependency is its own unique relationship dynamic with its own unique set of criteria. not every hockey marriage is a codependent one.#(for examples of codependent hockey marriages see: connor/leon‚ jamie/trevor)#i log onto tumblr. i watch people misuse psych terms for fun and profit. i take -20 points of psychic damage.#m speaks
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