#internet manners

[wyrm-mlm]

PSA

If someone blocks you: DO NOT MAKE ANOTHER ACCOUNT JUST TO ASK WHY THEY BLOCKED YOU

If they then block that second account DO NOT CREATE A THIRD FUCKING ACCOUNT AND REPEATEDLY TRY AND FRIEND THEM TO ASK WHY THEY BLOCKED YOU.

It doesn’t matter if you think it was a mistake, it doesn’t matter if you thought everything was fine, if you don’t understand why they blocked you. IT DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER. It was a boundary they decided they needed to set and you do not need to push it. That may be why they blocked you in the first place, because you weren’t respecting other, softer boundaries.

If it was a mistake? They can fix it, be patient. If they want to try again? They’ll unblock when and if they are ready.

Their time, their energy, their private messages and online spaces are not something you have control over. Even if you think you are being “nice” and “polite” they may still feel uncomfortable. They have their reasons and you are not owed an explanation.

I have been blocked before, and it has hurt. By friends, by people I look up to. But I move the fuck on. I am not owed any one else’s time or energy or space. NO ONE. Not my friends, not my family.

We are all humans that deserve our own autonomy and if you don’t agree, you don’t need to talk to me. Bye.

[kittyrosecatqueen]

Simple common sense. Plain and simple, this should part of the Internet's golden rules handbook.

The Do’s & Don'ts of interacting w/ content creators, & other people you don’t know well mutually I slapped together for Twitter.

This ended up being more Don'ts than Dos but I feel like people need more help learning what NOT to say once they stray away from simple compliments and questions.

[mbrainspaz]

There’s a version of my liminal hotel post going around that someone tagged basically calling everyone who reblogged it suicidal and antisocial and uh… don’t do that? I blocked them and I’ll keep blocking anyone who shares those tags. Remember folks, real people can see what you write on the internet, and making a blanket statement about anybody’s mental health is a dick move.

Also super incorrect take given that the weekend I wrote that post in that hotel was one of the happiest I’ve had in a decade. Pretty sure I wrote it not long after getting a kiss from a tall guy at an Austin beer garden. I love hotels and the closest thing I have to a sense of home is the feeling of peace I get in liminal spaces.

[kerrste]

I feel like OP is the internet version of using sir or madam when refering to a person you just met

[inkskinned]

before you know about women, you hear that you do not need to love the man, just that you need to love him through his manhood. which is to say you have seen the future painted in lamb's blood over your eyes - how your mother shoots you a look about your father's inability to cook right. how your aunt holds her wineglass and says i'm gonna kill em. men, right! how your best friend bickers with her boyfriend, how she says i can't help it. i come back to him.

you learn: men are gonna cheat. men aren't going to listen when you're talking, because you're nagging. men think emotions are stupid. they think your life is vapid and your hobbies are embarrassing. men will slam things, but that's because men are allowed to be angry. if you get loud, you're hysterical. if a man gets loud - well, men are animals, men are dogs, men can't control their hands or their eyes or their bodies. they're going to make a snide comment about you in the locker room, about your body, about how you're so fucking annoying. you're going to give him kids, and he will give you the money for the kids, and you're going to be running the house 24/7 - but he gets to relax after a long day, because his job is stressful. the man is on stage, and is a comedian, and says "women!"

and you are supposed to love that. you are supposed to love men through how horrible they are to you - because that's what women do. that's what good women do. wife material. your father even told you once - it'll make sense when you're older. it was like staring down a very lonely tunnel.

it feels like something's caught in your throat, but it's all you know, so. it's okay that you see sex as a necessary tool, a sort of okay-enough ritual to keep him happy, even though he doesn't seem to care about happiness as-applied-to you. it is relationship upkeep. it is kissing him and smiling even though he didn't brush his teeth. it is getting on your knees and looking up and holding back a sigh because he barely holds you as you panic through the night. it's not like the sex is bad and you do like feeling wanted. and besides! he's a man! like... they're another species. you'll never be able to actually communicate, right. he isn't listening.

you just don't get it. you don't feel that sense of i'm gonna climb him like a tree. mostly it just feels fucking exhausting. you play the part perfectly. you smile and nod and are "effortlessly" charming. and it's fine! it's alright! you even love him, if you're looking. you could have good life, and a good family, and perfectly happy.

in the late night you google: am i broken. you google i'm not attracted to my husband. you google i get turned on by books but not by him. you google how to get better in bed.

the first time he yells at you, it almost feels like blankness. like - of course this is happening. this is always how it was going to end up. men get angry, and they yell, and you sit there in silence.

you mention it to your friend - just the once - while you're drunk. she shrugs and says it's like that with me too, i just try to forget and move on. men are always gonna hear what they want to. pick your battles and say sorry even though he's in the wrong. you play solitaire online for a month. you go to your therapist appointment and preach about how you're both so in love.

after all, you have a future to want. nobody lied about it - how many instagram posts say marriage is hard. say real love takes work. say we fight like cats and dogs but the best part is that we always make up. how many of your friends say happy anniversary to the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. if you really loved him - loved yourself too - you'd accept that men are just different from you.

the first time she kisses you, it's on a dare at a party. something large and terrifying whips through your body. you wake up sweating from dreams where her mouth is encrusted with pearls and you pick them off one by one with your teeth. fuck. you sit at the computer and your almost-finished game of sim city. you think about your potential perfect life and your potential future family. you google am i gay quiz with your little hands shaking.

you delete each letter slowly. you don't need to love him. you just need to keep going.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

Oh, no, people I actually talk to don't get the insta-block unless it's like they were fine and then they're just suddenly showing that something is not okay with them.

Do you block people in the same fandom as you just because you don't like their takes?

[driftbit]

"What will you do without new shows" I haven't watched a mainstream television show as it released in years. I'm catching up on shows my parents liked in the 90s. I'm listening to fiction podcasts with 5 fans. I'm playing a video game the creators want you to pirate. I'm watching a minecraft roleplay. I may not know what I'm gonna do but I'm sure as hell not gonna be a fuckin scab babygirl.

[batknot]

Internet Etiquette

Devastating! You just saw a take that you don't agree with! This is a check for reading comprehension and the practice of good faith. 

Analyze 

What emotion was this intended to inspire?

What was the goal the speaker was trying to achieve?

How could this be interpreted differently?

Is there context that would change the meaning?

Is the speaker qualified?

Reflect

What is your first reaction and why did you have that specific reaction?

Is it an issue that is harming you and/or did the group being harmed directly state that this harms them?

Do you accept the consequences that could result from interacting?

Is the speaker someone you can reason with?

What assumptions are you making about the speaker?

Speak

What is the goal of your words?

What audience are you catering towards?

Are you talking to the person with respect?

How could your words be interpreted differently?

What reaction will people have towards your words and how is it being achieved?

[proshippers-against-censorship]

Local adult proshipper infamously hates badly behaved children.

More at 12.

[multifandumbmeg]

Hey, could you maybe be a normal person about this? The artist actually reached out to me and deleted their own reblog of it because of all the people inundating me their opinions of how I can play better. It is in no way their fault or responsibility, but that's how out of touch you are. Let this be a PSA: unless someone explicitly asks for advice, you probably shouldn't give it- and you definitely shouldn't online to strangers. Especially if you aren't prepared to do so in a respectful way. I don't appreciate being called "hunty" in your slew of not-so-passive agreesive tags. Do better.

“I wouldn’t be trying to reason with them if murder was an option…”

I just finished Astarion’s story and boy howdy did this elf with enough baggage to fill a Boeing 747 absolutely destroy my feelings. Very relatable. Incredible writing and performance. And out popped fan art from me…

[the-kirbe-anon]

Absolutely molten take but I immediately don't trust someone Christian or not if they throw around words like sjw libtard etc. If your hatred of leftists/anything you perceive as "woke" or progressive outweighs your duties as a Christian to preach the word of God, you really need an attitude adjustment. I've blocked so many people because it just frustrating thinking oh hey a Christian blog lemme follow then seeing no actual posting about the bible and just getting slammed with WOKE!!! SJW!!! FORCED DIVERSITY!!! Like what the heck!!!!!

I agree and I don't throw words like that around because I literally avoid politics on this blog. Other than speaking against abortion and LGBT ideology, I don't do politics here. And the speaking against abortion/any sin really has more to do with my Christian beliefs than political.

[dreamofcamelot]

What about….. descendants AU???

(Quick idea bcs fight of our lives is on repeat rn. It’s going to be messy since im copying what I had in my notes, so excuse any typos)

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So Arthur is the prince of Avalon blah blah blah instead of villains here they banned magic and sent all sorcerers to the isle.

Ok so Morgana turns out to be a sorcerer, Arthur who is about to be crowned king is like “we need to do something this has to change, let’s give them a chance” so he decides to invite a few of the children of the isle to come and study here.

Now enter the vks

We got manic pixie boy Merlin who grew up with stories about magic and dragons and his (absent) father and hates what the crown has done to sorcerers and magic. He's always felt like his very existence is a crime.

His magic? Banned. Books? Confiscated. He’s lived all his life in the isle so he does not know what magic feels like but but but he knows there’s something in his chest a pressure like he can’t never take a real breath like there’s something holding him back. He feels there’s something inside him that’s begging to come out.

Merlin, Nimue, Freya idk all the sorcerers maybe Mordred can come too I like him, are chosen to go to Avalon High.

They are happy about it, yeah why not, maybe things are finally changing and they might have a chance at leaving the island and having a different future, they heard the prince is not like his father, they want to give him a chance.

Merlin specially wants to give him, whoever he is, a chance.

Then they get there n meet Arthur n he’s all formal and wear this fake smile n Merlin can tell he’s doing this reluctantly, he is not confortable or happy to be greeting them, their presence alone bother him and it’s showing.

It’s obvious to them that deep down he hates magic n since magic is what he is he must hate Merlin too so not a great start.

When they crossed the bridge, Merlin felt it, it’s like the world got back it’s colors, like seeing, breathing for the first time.

Magic is in desuse in Avalon so people don’t learn it nor practice it but since Merlin is magic the second he leaves the isle he's able to use magic naturally as if he had been doing it all his life.

He begins experimenting with it and conjuring cute fire dragons and showing the others what they missed all those years and suddenly he realises that up until that point, without his magic, the very source of his being, Merlin was not living.

For the first time in his life he feels something. And then his hatred become stronger. How could they have taken this away from them, from him? Completion never felt more bittersweet.

And then, instead of going the d1 route, something happens, maybe Agravaine's being nasty again and throwing a coup d’etat or smth cause I really want to throw here the plot of d4 and bam they need to fix it, they must go to the past together n then, because they are a couple of dumbasses in every universe they start fighting n mess up with the pocket watch.

So instead of traveling to a few moments before the incident they end up to when magic was about to get banned and wow they discover the truth about Merlin’s incredible powers n learn about his dragon lord dad and wow is that Arthur’s mom? Wait what is his dad doing with a sorcerer?? Unbelievable. They have more in common than any of them thought before.

Etc etc etc 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

[lightbulb-warning]

i used to freehand comics all the time as a child and since the part i liked was the drawing part i would just draw panel after panel because i didn't want to stop drawing to think about icky icky words, plus the story TOTALLY still made perfect sense! to me! and noone else, but 'whoooo caaaaares omgggg its not like comics and sequantial art are a communicative meeediummmm lmaoooooo'. i spent my entire childhood telling myself stuff like "oh pfft I know this story by heart- ill SIMPLY remember the dialogue and write it later" ...and. I can't help but admire baby maiora's (call that a minora ba tm tsk) fucking audacity? hubris? confident wrongness? kid couldn't even remember to finish the comics in the first place? INCREDIBLE levels of unearned self assurance, wish that were me, genuinely- what an icon!!! anyway i think i have forever cursed myself

[sugar-phoenix]

I also want to add a note that I've seen many adults online argue with minors like as if they are adults themselves. It might be because they didn't check their age, or perhaps they simply don't care. It's only natural for 14 - 16 year olds to say what might sound like nonsense or ignorance, they haven't gathered enough information or wisdom to properly understand some topics. On top of that, they're very eager to engage with the world around them, to talk about these things like they're "adults." This is normal. Think back to when you were their age, you have probably done the same yourself.

The problem is that, often, arguments such as these might have more detrimental effects on minors than it would on another adult. I remember when I was 14, and I was arguing with a person in their 20s about personality types, and she proceeded to say that I was toxically projecting my emotions onto other people instead of helping them. I cried for three days straight, I don't think I've ever been that upset from a random stranger. I wasn't even trying to be malicious or attention-seeking, my intentions were to help others. That statement is harsh enough on an adult, let alone a child.

Even if these minors don't put their age or that they're a minor in their bio, it's doesn't take a lot of critical thought to analyze their speech and figure out that what they're saying is either childish ignorance or misguidance.

I think the best way to avoid hurting minors is to stop yourself from getting into ignorant arguments online. Start analyzing what the other person is saying. People say stupid, misguided things all the time, and you don't need to engage with each and every single one of them.

If you see something that bothers you, first figure out whether it's a legitimate argument or an argument that isn't worth fighting. If it's an argument that isn't worth fighting, just take a deep breath, scroll past, let it go. Just hit the back button, leave the forum, switch away immediately. Out of sight, out of mind. If it's a legitimate argument, please refrain as much as possible from attacking the person on the other end, it's never necessary if your own argument is solid enough. And people can refuse to agree with you, even if your evidence is as clear as the sky being blue. If you're confident in your own beliefs, you can take a step away. Not everyone needs to agree with you. Just walk away.

Remember that everyone you interact with online is an actual human being with a life, with feelings, with hobbies, with loved ones, and with a rich inner world. Don't say something to someone online, whether it's through text, messaging, email, ect. that you wouldn't say to them in person. Try to handle disputes that arise digitally with the same restraint and civility as if the dispute was happening in person face to face.

It is an unfortunate fact that too many people behave more hostilely and aggressively online than they do in person. This is at least partially due to the fact that when you just see an interaction with another person as just words on a screen instead of seeing a human being in front of you and seeing their reaction to your hostile and aggressive behavior, it is too easy to forget they actually are a physical human being.

And sure, this goes both ways, quite a lot of people have an easier time shaking off mean words said to them digitally than in person due to also feeling like what was said to them wasn't "real" due to just being words on a screen. But this varies from person to person, or someone could already be having an awful day (a loved one died recently, they lost their job, they're struggling through a recent or ongoing traumatic situation, ect)

So when interacting online, whether it's social media, or sending work related emails, or texting someone, try to always keep it in your head that they're an actual physical human being with a life, with struggles, with loved ones, and not just text on your screen.

[funtime29nm]

Guys! Lets not harrass people in their own inboxes, common sense i fear!

[existencebringsonlypain]

why does every fucking thing have to be done remotely nowadays. store the data on my computer, do the calculations on my computer. I don't want to need the internet for basic functionality