#included trans and nb people!!!!!)

[uncanny-tranny]

I recall saying this before, but it bears repeating:

There could be a billion trans people in the world and it still wouldn't be a bad thing because being trans is not a bad thing. Even if the rate of people discovering they are trans is "disproportionate" to trends from decades ago, that is not a bad thing. In fact, it's a natural consequence for there being more trans people being able to stay alive, and, overall, being able to live in a slightly more tolerant world. You'd only see that as a bad thing if you actively didn't want trans people to either live or live a life that facilitates wellness.

[contagious-watermelon]

if i hear one more person unironically identifying themself as afab or amab I'm gonna start biting

[itskindofareallyniceday]

Trans Resources/Info Masterpost

I dedicate a lot of time to helping fellow trans men, answering their questions, etc. and I've noticed a few very common questions in every trans group I'm a member of. I want the information within these resources to become common knowledge in our community. This information has been extremely helpful to me, my friends, and/or other people in the community, and they're things that everyone should be aware of...

Changing your name and/or gender marker: -The National Center for Transgender Equality will tell you exactly how to change your name and/or gender marker in each state.

HRT: -This map shows organizations that offer HRT following the informed consent method. -Testosterone HRT changes and timelines: source 1, source 2 -Testosterone myths -Bottom growth info (CW: this resource contains illustrations of the anatomy that will grow, before and after growth)

Injections/Syringes: -Syringes and needles can be annoying to buy at the pharmacy. Before I started buying in bulk, I had to go from pharmacy to pharmacy searching for ones that were the right size (they always ran out or didn't buy enough or something). This is a problem that many people experience, so a lot of us buy our medical supplies in bulk online. It's cheaper, easier, and you never have to worry about the pharmacy running out of your syringes. Here are a few popular websites that people buy syringes from: allegromedical.com, westendmedicalsupplies.com, bulksyringes.com, healthykin.com, https://www.vitalitymedical.com, https://www.gpzmedlab.com, etc. -Trans Needle Exchange is currently on hiatus, but they provide needles/syringes to people who can't afford/access them for free. -Search relevant subreddits for more, if those websites don't meet your needs.

Surgery: -topsurgery.net has the answer to almost any top surgery question you might have (the process, finding a surgeon, insurance, before and after pictures, etc.) -There are top surgery grants that you might qualify for. -The GALAP (Gender Affirming Letter Access Project) is a group of independent medical professionals dedicated to providing free letters of support to people seeking gender affirming surgeries. Make sure these medical professionals meet the requirements of your insurance/surgeon though, since they all have different requirements. -Plume also provides letters of support for gender affirming surgeries. Letters are included for members, but they can also be provided to non-members for $150 and one appointment. (Note: they are provided by a medical professional, not a behavioral health or mental health professional. Each insurance has different requirements about who the letter needs to be written by) -The Gender Confirmation Center has a lot of information about gender affirming surgeries, how to take care of yourself before/during/after surgery, a huge gallery of before and after pictures for different incision types, etc. -T4T Caregiving is a group of "traveling trans caregivers for all of your post-op needs". I know how hard it is for some people to find someone who is willing to take care of them after surgery. The caregivers at T4T Caregiving will provide you with care 24/7, with prices on a sliding scale that ranges from $150-250 per day. -You can find information about different surgeons here (top surgery - search by location, whether they accept informed consent, insurance, etc.) and here (several different kinds of surgeries - search by procedure, location, insurance, etc.)

WPATH's Standards of Care: -It's also a good idea to be familiar with the WPATH's (World Professional Association for Transgender Health) Standards of Care! Here is the most recent version, SOC8

Other: -Refuge Restrooms is a database of gender neutral bathroom locations. You can search for, add, and rate different locations.

Unfortunately, a lot of this information is only applicable to trans men (or AFAB NB people wishing to transition) in the US. That's what I have the most experience with (and knowledge about), as I'm a trans man in the US. Feel free to add your own favorite resources (especially for trans women) if you want!

[ubersaur]

And like. Just in general. If transfem folks are not welcomed in queer spaces then i guarantee you no one there is going to see any other genderqueer individual as anything other than their agab.

[rasairui]

Post: gender identity is complicated and everyone has their own unique relationship with it. Presentation does not equal gender and not everyone likes strict labels!

Me: Yeah! True! This is great so far please don't turn this into-

Post: I will now use this as an excuse to obsessively list every possible way in which a lesbian ends up with a man. I will equate butches and gnc women to men, completely missing my own point when I said presentation doesn't equal gender. Also being transmasc is always the same as being male aligned btw. I'm going to find a way to fit dissociative identity disorder into this for some reason. I'm also going to be really condescending and talk like no lesbian has ever understood the concept of gender noncomformity, ambiguity and complex relationships to gender. No, I never talk this way about gay men and nblm why do you ask

[icannotgetoverbirds]

saw an exclusionist post so here's a reminder

specifically in reference to transmasc lesbians and trying to draw lines in the sand on who can and can't claim the lesbian label, about how being a lesbian is exclusive of loving men, with someone referring to the people they're attempting to exclude as "fandom gremlin transmascs and neo-mogai crazies."

I don't have the spoons for a proper response but i do feel like i need to make something clear.

on this blog we support fucky genders, fandom gremlin transmascs, and neo-mogai crazies. reblog if u love ur fellow fandom gremlin and neo-mogai crazy queers.

[anaalnathrakhs]

the little form for the first year students induction party is explicitly asking for pronouns y'all. do i wholeheartedly say he/she/french neo gender neutral and hope i'm not making a huge mistake.

[sorin-sunchild]

I'm more or less at that point where I'm like...I don't really care what words you use to describe yourself or your oppression so long as you don't act like you're the only one suffering or that your labels are the only labels.

No, we don't have all the same experiences and that's fine! You don't have to be a trans woman to know that transmisogyny is awful and that there's a difference between being systemically affected and incidentally affected by it.

You don't have to be a trans man to understand antitransmasculinity exists (because of cisnormativity and misogyny) and that it causes very real very awful problems too.

You don't have to be nonbinary to see exorsexism as a legitimate form of oppression and how nonbinary voices are not heard or understood enough.

And you don't have to be intersex to be quiet and listen to the long history of intersexist abuse they've experienced.

We can relate to each other without shutting each other down or accusing each other of ignoring or hurting each other. True understanding is knowing when to shut up, when to speak up and when to listen. It's hard, but we can get there.

[tcypionate]

it seemed like agab was useful at first but it really has become just gender binary 2. but at least the people calling me a woman arent dressing up their language to seem soo progressive and accepting. anyway if i ever see a "afab only" queer space im fucking running

[alongtidesoflight]

i haven't talked trans stuff with irl people in a while so when i tell you today was exhausting

[ishikawayukis]

tell me why the hell did i just saw someone write "la útera" instead of "el útero"

[rainbowtvz]

rip bu/mbleby blog i followed. you no longer exist in my mind

[screamingay]

im gonna b honest accepting some peoples identities IS difficult sometimes. im not throwing fists with someone who says they're bisexual and a lesbian but like i do enjoy words having meanings sometimes. and obviouslyy fighting corporations and keeping the community safe from violence and all that comes first always i just still don't get some people and it makes me feel like old man yelling at cloud ngl

[udurghsigil]

not to engage with the flaming trash heap that is lgbt infighting but there's gotta be some way for ppl to engage in bi/pan discourse that doesn't involve making false claims about what bisexuality actually means gang im begging you . it's always the ppl who aren't bi saying its only attraction to men/women or doesn't include nb people. i swear bro if you just ask one (1) bisexual person in your life they will tell you their attraction includes nb and trans ppl i promise you <3

[enekorre]

I'm not really finding anything via google, so: has any trans masc person who can't go on T tried d chiro inositol? It's a supplement (usual at 100mg per tablet) that seems to increase T in afab individuals according to some studies.

[hairspray-heart]

I need you people to realize that you can be friends with people younger than you. like, much younger than you. like, decades younger than you. you can be friends with these people. regular friends, just like anyone your age. it is possible.

I need you people to realize that you can be friends with people older than you. like, much older than you. like, decades older than you. you can be friends with these people. regular friends, just like anyone your age. it is possible.