#included trans and nb people!!!!!)

[uncanny-tranny]

I recall saying this before, but it bears repeating:

There could be a billion trans people in the world and it still wouldn't be a bad thing because being trans is not a bad thing. Even if the rate of people discovering they are trans is "disproportionate" to trends from decades ago, that is not a bad thing. In fact, it's a natural consequence for there being more trans people being able to stay alive, and, overall, being able to live in a slightly more tolerant world. You'd only see that as a bad thing if you actively didn't want trans people to either live or live a life that facilitates wellness.

[windwardstar]

Anyway the exorsexism that is people saying trans men and mascs and then completely leaving out unaligned or alternatively aligned nonbinary people from any kind of conversation where experiences overlap because they act like any nonbinary person afab is transmasc.

You do realize you're forcing things into the binary here? That you're erasing non-binary identities? That not every non-binary person assigned female at birth is transmasc? That afab enby =/= transmasc those are not synonyms and cannot be treated a such.

The number of times people have discussed things that impact and affect me but don't recognize my actual identity is astronomical.

Take a moment and ask yourself is it truly an experience that is only something trans men and mascs face, or are there other types of enben who experience it too? (Also is it only women and femme or do others experience it too?) are you leaving them out of the conversation? are you reducing the community down to men and women, masc and femme?

Trans men and mascs and other enben. Trans women femme and other enben. Easy enough to do and doesn't force all non-binary people to either conform to the binary or be left out of the conversation.

[mukuroom]

ive been discourse posting too much lately so I'll try to stop but i will say it's lowkey painful seeing my country pushing trans rights further and further back only to go online and seeing every post about it exclude trans men

[tracklessreason]

As a trans person, I really really hate when people use male characters learning proper skincare as a pipeline to transitioning. Hygiene is not some trans signifier.

A lot of people get *better* at taking care of themselves when they transition, as they are more comfortable in their bodies, but showering, trying new clothes, and even wearing makeup do not make you feminine. Everyone should take care of themselves. It should not be marketed as a womanly chore.

And honestly, boys might have an easier time exploring themselves if trying skirts and eyeshadow didn't immediately make people rule out all other gender identities, and the same goes for girls with short hair and baggy clothes.

[rasairui]

Post: gender identity is complicated and everyone has their own unique relationship with it. Presentation does not equal gender and not everyone likes strict labels!

Me: Yeah! True! This is great so far please don't turn this into-

Post: I will now use this as an excuse to obsessively list every possible way in which a lesbian ends up with a man. I will equate butches and gnc women to men, completely missing my own point when I said presentation doesn't equal gender. Also being transmasc is always the same as being male aligned btw. I'm going to find a way to fit dissociative identity disorder into this for some reason. I'm also going to be really condescending and talk like no lesbian has ever understood the concept of gender noncomformity, ambiguity and complex relationships to gender. No, I never talk this way about gay men and nblm why do you ask

[itskindofareallyniceday]

Trans Resources/Info Masterpost

I dedicate a lot of time to helping fellow trans men, answering their questions, etc. and I've noticed a few very common questions in every trans group I'm a member of. I want the information within these resources to become common knowledge in our community. This information has been extremely helpful to me, my friends, and/or other people in the community, and they're things that everyone should be aware of...

Changing your name and/or gender marker: -The National Center for Transgender Equality will tell you exactly how to change your name and/or gender marker in each state.

HRT: -This map shows organizations that offer HRT following the informed consent method. -Testosterone HRT changes and timelines: source 1, source 2 -Testosterone myths -Bottom growth info (CW: this resource contains illustrations of the anatomy that will grow, before and after growth)

Injections/Syringes: -Syringes and needles can be annoying to buy at the pharmacy. Before I started buying in bulk, I had to go from pharmacy to pharmacy searching for ones that were the right size (they always ran out or didn't buy enough or something). This is a problem that many people experience, so a lot of us buy our medical supplies in bulk online. It's cheaper, easier, and you never have to worry about the pharmacy running out of your syringes. Here are a few popular websites that people buy syringes from: allegromedical.com, westendmedicalsupplies.com, bulksyringes.com, healthykin.com, https://www.vitalitymedical.com, https://www.gpzmedlab.com, etc. -Trans Needle Exchange is currently on hiatus, but they provide needles/syringes to people who can't afford/access them for free. -Search relevant subreddits for more, if those websites don't meet your needs.

Surgery: -topsurgery.net has the answer to almost any top surgery question you might have (the process, finding a surgeon, insurance, before and after pictures, etc.) -There are top surgery grants that you might qualify for. -The GALAP (Gender Affirming Letter Access Project) is a group of independent medical professionals dedicated to providing free letters of support to people seeking gender affirming surgeries. Make sure these medical professionals meet the requirements of your insurance/surgeon though, since they all have different requirements. -Plume also provides letters of support for gender affirming surgeries. Letters are included for members, but they can also be provided to non-members for $150 and one appointment. (Note: they are provided by a medical professional, not a behavioral health or mental health professional. Each insurance has different requirements about who the letter needs to be written by) -The Gender Confirmation Center has a lot of information about gender affirming surgeries, how to take care of yourself before/during/after surgery, a huge gallery of before and after pictures for different incision types, etc. -T4T Caregiving is a group of "traveling trans caregivers for all of your post-op needs". I know how hard it is for some people to find someone who is willing to take care of them after surgery. The caregivers at T4T Caregiving will provide you with care 24/7, with prices on a sliding scale that ranges from $150-250 per day. -You can find information about different surgeons here (top surgery - search by location, whether they accept informed consent, insurance, etc.) and here (several different kinds of surgeries - search by procedure, location, insurance, etc.)

WPATH's Standards of Care: -It's also a good idea to be familiar with the WPATH's (World Professional Association for Transgender Health) Standards of Care! Here is the most recent version, SOC8

Other: -Refuge Restrooms is a database of gender neutral bathroom locations. You can search for, add, and rate different locations.

Unfortunately, a lot of this information is only applicable to trans men (or AFAB NB people wishing to transition) in the US. That's what I have the most experience with (and knowledge about), as I'm a trans man in the US. Feel free to add your own favorite resources (especially for trans women) if you want!

[icannotgetoverbirds]

saw an exclusionist post so here's a reminder

specifically in reference to transmasc lesbians and trying to draw lines in the sand on who can and can't claim the lesbian label, about how being a lesbian is exclusive of loving men, with someone referring to the people they're attempting to exclude as "fandom gremlin transmascs and neo-mogai crazies."

I don't have the spoons for a proper response but i do feel like i need to make something clear.

on this blog we support fucky genders, fandom gremlin transmascs, and neo-mogai crazies. reblog if u love ur fellow fandom gremlin and neo-mogai crazy queers.

[anaalnathrakhs]

the little form for the first year students induction party is explicitly asking for pronouns y'all. do i wholeheartedly say he/she/french neo gender neutral and hope i'm not making a huge mistake.

[ishikawayukis]

tell me why the hell did i just saw someone write "la útera" instead of "el útero"

[whoiskt]

Weird experience lately where a working professional visited our school, was introduced with she/her pronouns, has she/her on her social media sites, but literally everyone I've spoken with about this person has only used they/them, to the point that I triple-checked that I hadn't missed that she actually uses she/they or something. I literally had a conversation that went like this:

"[Name] said that she...."

"Oh, they did mention that, yeah."

And it was weird because it felt like I was the one who had it wrong and was being corrected. So, all and all it was just kind of strange and I'm not sure what to make of it? Because this level of degendering is usually a result of transphobia but I think this was something else? Like, was it because she has blue hair? Are we doing some sort of nonbinary stereotyping here? I really don't know.

[bluastro-yellow]

my pan friend and I reenacting the bi/pan discourse anytime our third friend brings it up to ask for clarification is the most idiotic thing ever. nobody ever talk about this ever again

[countingprimes]

really hate how they/them pronouns have lost all meaning as a neutral pronoun. like everyone, especially queer people see them as 'third gender' pronouns. and .... that really does defeat the purpose now doesn't it

[nezumasa]

Oof the transmeds are on it

(Current Twitter drama is the “person detransitions because Hamas and is now anti-trans”)

[operaghosted]

anyway every time I see queer posts that include nb folk, and especially nb folk who don't ever "transition" it fills my heart with joy

[mothmvn]

some ladies on here reblog funny and relatable #haha #men posts and then you look in the notes and the % of terfs taking it as an opportunity to say all men should die is, like, significantly above 0, and it makes you wonder

[catgoesboom]

editting to add that I'm kinda disagreeing with the post since ik most people would not read the tags.

in the past few months i’ve probably seen half a dozen different posts (rightfully) talking shit about those people who say “the way to tell how inclusive a queer space is is by seeing if there are any cishet men there” and instead saying, yknow, “what about trans women? do trans women feel comfortable/safe/included? surely that’s a better metric” and every single time the notes are full of people arguing that actually, the presence of cishet men IS important, somehow entirely ignoring that the topic at hand was, “actually, spaces that transfems don’t feel comfortable and safe in are inherently not inclusive environments”. because nobody actually cares about OUR inclusion, they care about the vague spectre of inclusion itself. fucking ridiculous