#in humiliating detail

[untitledgoosegay]

She addresses this in the article:

When I posed this theory to Saul Kassin, a psychology professor at John Jay College of Criminal Justice who studies coerced confessions, he agreed. “If someone is trying to get you to be compliant, they do it incrementally, in a series of small steps that take you farther and farther from what you know to be true,” he said. “It’s not about breaking the will. They were altering the sense of reality.” And when you haven’t done anything wrong, the risk of cooperating feels minimal, he added. An innocent person thinks everything will get sorted out. It also mattered that I was kept on the phone for so long. People start to break down cognitively after a few hours of interrogation. “At that point, they’re not thinking straight. They feel the need to put an end to the situation at all costs,” Kassin said.

I've gotten scammed. It was much less of a big deal -- they got into my Steam account, and I froze the associated credit card before they could make any purchases -- but, apart from the scale, the tactics they used, and the experience I had, were incredibly similar. Right down to attempting to double-check what information I could, and finding just enough to keep me on the hook. Right down to the moment of clarity striking immediately after the situation is over. Right down to knowing every point of failure in the scheme, every chance I had to catch on, things that were in the scam safety procedures I was taught!

Which I didn't pick up on, because by the time they got me there, I was tired, and irritable, and no longer thinking clearly.

Because it's got nothing to do with how well you know your rights. It's got nothing to do with knowledge, or reason, or logic. It's about distorting your sense of reality, so that you can no longer trust any of the things you think you're certain of, because you're confused, you're under stress, you're mentally exhausted, you're being shuffled along too quickly to form a cohesive argument, and with every step they pull you further from the world of facts and reason.

The man on the phone knew my home address, my Social Security number, the names of my family members, and that my 2-year-old son was playing in our living room.

I cannot imagine how terrified I'd be to receive a call with this much detailed personal information about me. That's an incredible degree of threat, no matter who is on the other end of the line.

I don't know how to end this except to emphasize that, no matter how much you think you'd never fall for it, no matter how obvious it seems from the outside, yes you could. Her actions weren't logical, because she was manipulated into a state where logic ceases to function, and trust me, nobody knows that better than the person who got scammed.

what is going on at NY magazine

[loveandthings11]

Oh oh my god 🫣

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[mrsterlingeverything]

What should I do when I was trying to be genuine with someone, but they took what I said with malice and now I'm being publicly humiliated? I don't know what to do. I can't apologize because they'd definitely assume I'm trying to guilt trip them.

I know its you photomatt

[witchstone]

if doctors etc could stop insisting on sending everything through my dad that would be great 👍

[silvermoon424]

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[motordyk]

there is nothing that makes me quite more suicidal than fucking something up or not doing something at all than “you’re a grown adult” wow thanks I didn’t fucking notice. Did you know that I have a mental block that prevents me from understanding literally anything in simple terms

[bonefall]

I'm curious about some of what you have planned for Thunder Storm in BB now that you are talking about DOTC a lot. I know about him missing a leg in BB and about his arc of searching for justice and starting his own group in protest, but I'm curious as to other traits he has, and maybe character flaws, because right now from what we know of him he feels like a one-dimensional ideal hero with no flaws, compared to how you treat Firestar where he is genuinely an admirable and heroic figure (more so than in canon where he doesn't change as much of Clan ways), but he has flaws in the way he treats cats like Cloudtail, Bramblestar and Jayfeather. And I'd just like to learn more about his personality in general given he's one of the main characters!

The driving personality trait of Thunderstar is fury

He is always just a smidge annoyed, talks roughly, and often finds his heart speaking before he knows what's being said. He can actually be a hurtful person on accident, though he tries to correct his mistakes as soon as he acknowledges he made them!

He actually really does need Bright Storm to be his advisor-- Bright brings humility, calmness, and foresight. Without her, Thunder Storm's negotiation talks with the Wind Coalition and River Kingdom would have fallen apart because he's terrible at compromising.

Thunderstar's greatest asset is that he understands he needs others to stand strong, and he does believe in the inherent value of life. People don't need to be 'immediately useful' to deserve dignity. He didn't run after Bumble because she could translate-- he did it because she would have starved to death out there, or worse if she came across Clear Sky.

And Sunlit Frost too. A one-armed builder, thrown out for nerve damage after his burn injury, who doesn't have any paws to work with after having a bad bite to the wrist in the First Battle. He isn't Thunder Storm's friend, in fact, they fight a lot.

But that doesn't matter; Thunderstar does what he does simply because that's the point of Clans. Even jackrabbits like Sunny.

In a way, Thunderstar and Skystar aren't so different. They're proud, ambitious people. They both say that everything they do is for the good of their Clans. What sets them apart is that Thunder Storm will never be cruel; he defines himself on that idea.

[evildeerboy]

not going to reblog it bc i’m learning my lesson but what the fuck is up with tumblr just showing me my posts from 2014-2015 ???????

[acebytaemin]

the fucking shitshow i experienced today…

[kaeyapilled]

would you rather fistfight tartaglia behind the church of favonius or lose 30 rock paper scissors rounds to ayato in a row and he’s making this smug face at you the entire time like he predicted every move you were going to make

gave this like a full day of thought. maybe two days i dont know i have poor memory. if we are analyzing this hypothetical scenario seriously i will have to take ayato rock paper scissors. i could not hold my own in a fist fight against like. anyone. much less childe tartaglia. the psychological warfare that the ayato option implies would be extremely tough to brave my way through but at least my bones will be intact by the end of it

[maroonless]

do NOT look at the fact i did not once save this canvas. theyre getting full bodies

[spouseoftherisingsun]

And she's right for this

[monocaelia]

"yeah i know my writing style," i say as i frantically reread my own works to remember how i write.

[navarice]

if you want an example of how destructive lesbian yearning is, just watch House of the Dragon. truly shows it all.

[desperatepleasures]

guhhhh i am struggling so much with ch3

[quillyfied]

How do you solve a problem like RICKY’S HECKING NOSE