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Hi I suck at taking photos but my mom got me ghostbusters socks pretty cool right?
#cosplay#i used transfer paper for the shirt#the rest was just stuff in my closet#i wanna get more into cosplaying tho#homestuck#homestuck cosplay#j egbert#j egbert cosplay#john or june idc#john egbert#june egbert#im enby so its both
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I love how much transwomen are loved, it's genuinely great to see
But jesus christ where is the love for transmen? Everyone takes Okiku seriously but they don't take Yamato as seriously, especially in the dub
I follow so many transmen but how often do I see transmen posts vs transwomen posts? I see so many posts about beautiful women and its lovely to see, but where's the love for the men like me?
People will talk all day about girlcock and I love that for them, genuinely, but we need boypussy posts, we need love for the men who arent taken seriously, we need love for the men who dont even look like traditional men, we need love for the cis and trans and intersex men who have to put up with so much androphobia
I love you trans men, I love you cis men, I love you intersex men, if you identify even slightly as male, I fucking love you, I love you with all of my heart, men are amazing, especially trans men, you deserve more than you get and I'm so sorry people don't take you as seriously as you deserve, you deserve the world ♡
#idk im drunk and thinking about one piece#people love okiku and shes treated like a woman and thats so cool! genuonely cgood!!#but god#ive seen so many transwomen posts over the past months and 0 ppsts abpit transmen#we exist goddammit#we deserve just as much attention#being men doesnt make us any lessser#we're just as trans as the trans women and trans enbies#this os more a vent post than anything#im just#tired#i wanna be taken seriously#but its hard#i love women#both trans and cis#ans im so fucking happy transwomen are being taken swripusly#but wheres the love for the transmen?#ha ha men suck or whatever but liek#we're people#we deserve repsect just like you
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favorite thing ever is to go on goodreads and search up the names of books i hate to see if Everyone Else has the same opinion on it
#they usually do#this is about a lesson in vengeance which i read on the way back from my writing program and hated with a passion#today on i hate pretentious mcs who have literally every privilege and treat poc/enby ppl to further their own growth#also ik this is dark academia but literally why the fuck do they drink hard alcohol so much#when its not alcohol its black coffee like ok. what the fuck#i love complex characters but they were both pretentious -> traumatized -> manipulative -> hatred just switching up the order#then theres . 'my dormmate wants to be skinny soooo bad she does everything to be skinny well IM skinnier than her and she wants to be me'#'my doormmate is black and has been ostracized from her sorority cult for having a personality :((( well IM white and i was ostracized for#KILLING MY GIRLFRIEND'#like there is a clear difference. plus that character was only ever there to further the mcs understanding of race which . bffr#this couldve been fine if it wasnt for the mc who is The pretentious dark academic white girl trying to pretend shes not like the other#pretentious dark academic white girls#'and then theres me. who like REAL literature and wears tweed blazers' like youre aware this is literally the starter pack for every 13 y.o#person who thinks this will make them Cool right . like you do know that .#wow. anyways#the overdue asteroid strikes again#i am in fact a hater
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the dichotomy of man (need to get out of this fuckin house but if i go then i can not see my cats)
#JUST realized this and now i want to kill and explode and throw up#WHAT THE HELL WILL I DO . WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO ABOUT MY FISH ok i can probably take the fish with me#but MAN#thats such a FUCKING HASSLE#ill just stay here this is fine <- tormented by the horrors. ball and chained to familiarity#the gamer speaks uwu#guy who is terminally stressed and sick about change but desperately needs it to live a life#oooo i need to be in a hamster ball everything new can just be out of arms reach and i will be safe and contained forever#no more new experiences and life changes ill cry we should all just die actually so i never have to break out of my shell#sometimes im like im therapized i dont need to go to therapy i am sooo normal and then i say shit like all that n im like nvm#the desperately averse to change braincell is funny like is it the autism. is it the ptsd. probably both#bc i sure did like have a moment of like i should just drop out of school all of this is too much i cant do it anymore#wired in juuust the right way where i can live so much better than i ever have but itll stress me out enough where i still feel the urge#to throw it all away bc it is strange and weird. and then i have to resist that urge constantly bc ill be fully like cidal again if i do th#its so weird actually. oh u have friends? u take meds? u have irls now? strange and unfamiliar and scary get rid of it all <- the insanity#anyway sucks how there isnt a word i can use in place of men/women when im like 'women will x' but for being nonbinary#nonbinary mfs doesnt hit the same . enbies doesnt hit the same either#nonbinaries b like i am free from the horrors and then go down a whole spiral at the very thought of moving out of their nightmare house#vent#i guess oops what did this turn into
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So sometimes when I get a cool little story idea I will write it down to possibly use later. Usually this ends up just being a sentence that is said, or a mini scene that will happen, and sometimes is like an entire fic outline. My Google docs is full of all kinds of writing prompts I came up with and never expanded on. Anyways I have mostly been focusing on bsd fics and actually following through on my prompts because I want to post content.
At this rate I think I have like three different aromantic Dazai fics/prompts and im like. Wow. I need to stop projecting so hard aha
#crab says words#crab writes fics#why are my aro dazai fics usually atsuzai haa?#is my brain just that needy for qpr atsuzai#i think its because im too scared to write a dazai x poe fic and im too obsessed with romantic soukoku#and those are really the only dazai ships i both like and am comfortable writing#aroace enby dazai propaganda#i will force him to be me fr#hskajskajddj im so silly goofy :D#i need to stop saying things online at 6am after i havent slept and am super sleep deprived....#someone take away my internet privileges for real !!!
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god okay i’ve been thinking abt this for a While but i read a fic recently that bothered me so much i just have to yell into the void for a bit. I’m struggling with articulating my thoughts so this is gonna be Very rambly.
so in so many modern day AUs, characters that are non-human but still FULLY SENTIENT often get turned into like. pets and stuff. a robot buddy becomes a cat, an alien becomes a dog, a talking animal becomes just a normal version of whatever animal they were. and it’s like. those are PEOPLE. that’s a fully sentient goddamn person. like, I get it, it’s cute, and a lot of the fanart, fanfic etc I see of this stuff is genuinely super well made and interesting and I don’t wanna like, cast aspersions on anyone who does this. but it bothers me. this invisible threshold of “human looking” you have to pass to be considered a person. you wouldn’t write a modern AU where spock is kirks normal non-sentient pet cat, not without it being a weird crack-fic, but I’ve seen so much art and fic of Chewbacca being Han Solos dog like he’s not a full guy. the man is forklift certified goddamnit. but he looks inhuman and speaks a different language and so he can’t pass the Threshold. and the same thing goes doubly for droids/robots of different kinds. the more inhuman a robot looks, the more likely they become a pet in a modern au, regardless of level of sentience. and especially if a character is a talking animal, they get the “animal treatment” in AUs and idk. it feels. Bad. especially bc so much fanfic is about a ragtag team of outcasts coming together to find home and family in each other. but I guess their robot friend struggling against the dehumanizing treatment they get from the society around them doesn’t count haha. like, here’s these sad outcasts becoming family, and also their fucking??? dog?? who I guess isn’t a person anymore and never was bc they’re just a pet to be owned now. and GOD I just want to cry I guess bc especially when you relate a lot to non-human characters and their struggles with being seen as a person, which is often a serious and core part of their character arc, seeing them then get fully erased from the narrative and turned into just a cute lil kitty hurts. and idk, I just think there’s a lot to be examined here abt fandoms treatment of non-human characters in general and the idea of personhood and I think it’s something that should be talked about I guess. idk
#sorry i know no one’s gonna see this but I simply have to Yell#i have a lot of feelings regarding fandom treatment of nonhuman characters#and not just in the ‘dehumanization’ sense but also in the infantilization and general othering of them#like idk the way people treated nott/veth from cr2 pre-reveal was very hmmmm strange to say the least#she was a fully adult woman and had said as such multiple times and yet both the fandom and to some extent the party as well treated her#like a kid#she was so often just. excluded from polynein fic for no reason#like here’s everyone else in a relationship and also nott is there. i guess.#and that’s a whole Thing with nonhuman characters and romance. they just don’t get considered for it!#like im all for that aroace and enby rep w nonhumans hell yes give it to me but also. its very obvious and uncomy when its Only the#nonhumans this happens to#anyway this whole thing is bc i read a neveraftr fic in which pib was a regular cat and it Bothered me#bc it was genuinely really well written and very good and raw and fascinating#but it had this whole ‘ragtag outcast found family personal growth’ vibe going but then one of the main PCs was just. the local stray cat.#and it was so GOOD though but ughhhhh#like the 6ft frog and the werewolf and the puppet get to be humans. the talking cat? nah#and ive seen this in other ‘modern human’ nevraftrr fanarts as well and blehhh idk idk i cant articulate it but like. thats a full person#rambles#long post
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wish i could post my paintings of theatre stuff here bc i'm really proud of those (my theatre keeps making amazing adaptations with SUPER COOL costume and lighting and setting and colour and visual symbolism choices) but alas. the chance is low but very definitely above zero that i'd doxx myself HARDCORE. but maaaan. trust me when i say that stage is just plain amazing. i need to live in the theatre
#a biscuit's rambles#im new but i never wanna leave theatre circles again#the people are so chill#weird people go there. like who else#i can be a part of something huge and amazing#im an artist in various ways and i adore literature and art and symbolism and conveying meaning#and i need to eat those productions#i need to absorb them forever#my grandma and grandad were huge theatre enthusiasts apparently. my grandma still is even if she doesnt usually go#she said it might have skipped a generation and i think shes right#suddenly ive got my ideal life figured out lmao#work in a theatre enough to live and write#i am going to be a published writer dammit no matter what but living off that is. hard at best#and i love the theatre so much#there are incredibly few things who have defined me as a person as much as my theatre#also im making a new friend i think#a few years younger giant theatre nerd and closeted trans :) i will befriend them. idek why but i met them at the premiere and yk what#i wanna befriend them so badly. we actually texted bc of smth regarding our shared fav actor#(who sadly left)but who was a huge inspiration for both of us bc Holy Shit Openly Trans Adult Enby Person!!!! And Theyre So Cool#and they asked abt smth bc they had to leave earlier and i said hopefully next time u get to stay......#sooooo#thats how you do social right. thats how being social works#anyway. theatre ramblings. i always get carried away#still think its funny af tho#bc its all black and white#and you forget bc everyone is b&w. the entire stage is b&w. thatd how it is#and then you leave for the breakroom halfway through and run into The Ghastly Spectre#(paper white actor with very black pronounced eyes etc with no colour on them showing At All)
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Cheering Her Up
f!/nb! reader x regina george (you love to make Regina feel better)
She calls you "duck" (ITS FUNNY/CUTE I PROMISE)
closeted bi Regina, and openly enby/lesbian reader
reader binds their chest with transtape/kt tape
secret relationship
cheering her up
Regina is taller than you
CONTENT: SO SO SO SORRY I KNOW IM WEIRD
Word Count: 1853
(Originally supposed to be a one shot)
kind of alludes to sex but not explicitly
Regina lets you write your own diss in her Burn Book, so Gretchen and Karen don't get suspicious as to why you're not in it. (a bit of transphobia and homophobia, t-slur/d-slur)
Past bullying and some self-deprication
Reader is a weirdo but Regina likes it
Reader likes classic rock and old hits, Regina pretends to despise it
She lashes out at you but its all good in the end :)
Reader likes to sing
Part 2 of Cheering Her Up (A Party)
a/n: this is a huge self-insert for me, I was really vibing to Bob Seger earlier (btw this is the second thing ive written in like 5 years spare me)
ALSO feel free to message or comment any feedback is appreciated 🙏
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Before the sophomore year, you were sure Regina totally despised you. She openly criticized any gay person she came across. Sophomore year, you were seated next to her in math and history, and you felt like you were going to be destroyed.
But when you came over to her house for a project, she asked "You have your first kiss yet?"
It caught you off guard. "Uh, no. Why?" your voice squeaked, although you knew she was a bitch. You were attracted to her.
She got close to your face and smirked, you could feel her breath on yours. "No reason," She grabbed the back of your head and kissed you. You didn't kiss back out of shock and Regina pulled away and went red, she opened her mouth to say something to excuse her actions, but you leaned in and kissed her again. That moment opened a whole new door for both of you.
After that, you and Regina got really close. Outside of the school halls, and in the comfort of Regina's mansion, you were secretly her best friend but also her friend with benefits. She isn't out yet either, she still has too much pride to be seen with a loser, but you don't mind waiting for her.
She was slightly nicer to you than others at school. She was actually pretty kind to you behind closed doors. She cared about you even if she never said it out loud. So about a month after you started hooking up, you were at her house and she handed you her Burn Book which was open to a blank page with only your picture on it. "I don't want Karen and Gretchen to get suspicious as to why you're not in it."
You could deal with the insults and the taunts, it never bothered you that much, so you wrote something that used to bother you 'Y/N L/N is a tranny dyke'.
The thing that did get to you was in 8th grade when you confessed to a girl, and she told everyone in your PE class that you watched girls change in the locker room. Everyone shunned you after that, but you grew thick skin. In freshman year you found your place amongst the loners and the nerds. You were content with it.
"Are you sure you want that in there?" Regina asked, what you wrote about yourself was harsh.
You nodded "Regina, I'm out of the closet already. It's a secret everybody already knows" You closed the book and handed it back to Regina and she tucked it away. "If I walk like a duck, swim like a duck, and quack like a duck, I'm probably a duck" She laughed at your joke, and you corrected yourself smiling "I mean dyke"
"You're so stupid" Regina replied, but it wasn't mean or full of scorn, she just shoved your shoulder. She changed your name to "Duck" in her contacts.
A week later you found out what your contact name was, you laughed at her a little and she got defensive "I'll change it then" and you quickly stopped laughing and took her phone.
"No no, keep it, please Regina it's cute" You yanked her phone out of her hand and tried to keep it away from her. You laughed again and ran around her room holding her phone, but she cornered you, pushing your chest, then your back hit the wall. You were breathless from running and grinned, though her face was stern. "I'm sorry, Gina. Please keep it, it's fine really"
The look on her face made you lose your confidence and you backed down, and handed her phone back, "Thanks loser" She tucked it back in her pocket, and she had a smug smile. "You're lucky I'm in a forgiving mood today" and tilted your chin up and kissed your lips.
After that day, it became one of your inside jokes, and "Duck" became one of your nicknames.
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That summer she invited you over to swim at her pool for the first time. "Hey loser, hurry up" she opened the door and led you to her pool.
You brought your only swim trunks and taped your breasts back to go swimming. She was in a tight bikini and she slipped in the pool, you took your shirt off, and she was staring at your body.
You weren't sporty, but you went to the gym, it's not like you had rock-hard abs, but you were toned and Regina hadn't seen you like that in the sunlight before, you beamed as you basked in the warm sun.
"Hey Duck, get in here" she beckoned you, you seized an opportunity to make a joke.
You bent your knees and flapped your arms a little walking back and forth at the edge of the pool "Quack quack" You giggled out. Regina cracked out a smile that evolved into laughter, her laugh warmed you more than the sunlight.
When you slipped into the pool, she was still laughing at you. "You're such a dumbass"
She splashed water at you when you tried to come and hug her in the pool. "Hey!" you yelped as the water got in your face and you splashed back.
After you just relaxed in the pool, you floated on your back, eyes closed, and sun-kissed skin. You didn't notice how Regina looked at you, but you heard water swish as she walked toward your floating body. You cracked an eye open, the sun was behind her making her look ethereal. Regina's blonde hair glowed, she looked like an angel, not the bitchy Queen Bee at school.
"Hey," you tried opening your eyes but just squinted.
She leaned down and said "Hey" back in her sweet voice and kissed you gently.
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The summer pushed you closer together, of course, she had her fair share of parties she went to with the Plastics. You were there at parties too, but you both only shot each other glances. The days she hung out with the Plastics, you missed her company.
You got your license over the summer and when you got the message that she was back home, you hopped in your Mini Cooper and drove to her house and picked her up. Though she usually drove you around in her Jeep.
"Where we heading today?" you asked as she hopped in the car
She ignored your question and her attention was on your music "Earth, Wind & Fire's 'September'? Really?" she criticized your music taste.
She buckled in and you said, "What's wrong with my music taste Regina?"
"God you really are a loser" she insulted, you could tell she was in a mood today. You were a little hurt but tried not to take it personally. "7-11 can you grab me a Diet Coke?" you nodded and started driving.
You skipped to the next song and what played was Bee Gee's "More Than A Woman" You smiled and sang along to it. Hoping Regina would get the hint you were singing it to her.
"Suddenly you're in my life, A part of everything I do. You got me workin' day and night. Just tryin' to keep a hold on you..." Your fingers tapped against the steering wheel and you moved your shoulders to the beat of the song.
She just groaned and pressed her temples, you thought she really hated it but from the corner of your eye, you saw a corner of her lip lift slightly. After seeing that you sang your heart out a little more at a red light you turned to her momentarily "More than a woman. More than a woman to me" and grinned wide.
"Hey! Keep your eyes on the road!" she pushed your head to look back at the road.
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At school when Junior year started, Regina and you acted like you two were nothing, you both devised a facade as to why you interacted at all. It was a half-truth, everyone at school thought Regina paid y/n to do their math homework. But you only did that sometimes, and usually just helped her.
Today when you met at her house she was upset about something. "Regina, what's wrong?" you asked worriedly.
"Nothing, stay out of it" she snapped at you and she stomped up the stairs to her room.
You followed her "Regina come on," she turned on her heel and looked at you angrily and lashed out.
"Why are you even here? You're not dating me, stop acting like it" She yelled at you.
You paused and your heart faltered "Regina..." you said quietly. She turned back around and she slammed her bedroom door. Regina crawled in the sheets and just went to sleep. You didn't follow her in. But you walked downstairs to her kitchen and opened her fridge.
When Regina woke up she smelled some kind of pastry downstairs and light music. She opened her door and crept down the stairs, as she approached the kitchen, she heard your humming.
The next song started to play, your back was turned and you were using her mom's apron and mittens, pulling out a batch of brownies from the oven. When you sang alone, you were cheesier and poured your heart into each song, then you placed the brownies onto a cooling rack on the island counter and pretended to hold a mic.
"Still like that old-time rock and roll. That kind of music just soothes the soul" You closed your eyes and turned around still pretending to hold a microphone "I reminisce about the days of old, with that old-time rock and roll" Regina just smiled stifling laughter.
But when you started playing air guitar, at the part with no lyrics. You heard her giggle and your eyes shot open, face reddening "Regina! You're up!" she just laughed at your incredible dorkiness and walked up to you, this was the highlight of her day.
You brushed off your embarrassment from getting caught when you saw how happy it made her. And you walked closer to her and continued to mouth the song and dance around her. Still wearing her mom's frilly apron. You took her hand and spun her around and she still laughed at your silliness.
You stopped and walked back to the counter where she followed, "Brownies?" you smiled.
"Yeah, sure" She sat down at the table and you cut two pieces out.
When you handed her a plate, she looked up at you and spoke softly "Sorry about earlier..."
You smiled softly and took her hand as you sat next to her "Its okay, don't worry about it" You let go of her hand and then asked, "You feeling better now?"
"Yeah, thanks duck" She leaned towards you and kissed your lips. "You're so fucking corny" Regina pulled away.
You smirked "You secretly love it"
"I do" She responded, you almost choked on your own spit at her admission. She reveled in your panic and took a bite of the brownie you made her.
Only you could make her smile like this, and laugh like this, you knew that, and you had your silent victory.
Part 2 of Cheering Her Up (A Party)
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wibta if i quit birth control without telling my partner? (somewhat nsfw)
i am NOT looking to baby trap him. we are both in our 20s, hes a cis guy and im afab enby (any pronouns). we have been together for around three years and we both agree we dont want children. i started taking birth control to begin with a few months into our relationship because he says he hates how condoms feel. however, i have gotten a bunch of side effects from birth control, some of which i actually dont mind, but a big one that bothers me has been loss of libido to the point where there is a big difference in our libido and hes usually the one initating now. he has been very respectful of me not being in the mood and saying no tho, but this has led to us barely having sex at all, and i can tell it bothers him, not to mention i miss it myself.
where we live i dont have many options for bc. its basically either the pill i take right now, or a iud which TERRIFIES me so i dont even want to consider it, or just sticking to barriers. its not the us so please dont reccommend me online pharmacies. i miss my sex drive, but also we have sex so infrequently it honestly feels pointless to keep paying for pills every month. i brought up stopping bc once, but he shut me down completely and got really sad about having to use condoms, saying they make him feel barely any pleasure at all.
i think he is being unreasonable because there are many ways of having sex that dont involve piv and carry a risk of pregnancy, which we used to have and both enjoyed, but my lack of sex drive has killed even that for us. so my plan is basically just quietly quitting birth control and waiting until im actually in the mood to tell him to put a condom on or redirect sex to something that wouldnt make me pregnant. if just stopping bc doesnt fix my libido though i might just restart it just as quietly.
is it a dick move though?
What are these acronyms?
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im a transmasc and shes a transfem but since were both enby its still gay. feeling so joyful while beating this faggot and pushing her around.
#t4t nsft#ftm nsft#trans nsft#t4t ns/fw#ftm ns/fw#ftm dom#mtf sub#mtf nsft#mtf ns/fw#t4t nblnb#nb nsft#nb ns/fw
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UPDATE: remembered what it was, all is once again right with the world, thank you everyone for your support and encouragement during this difficult time
im losing my mind
i was watching a youtube video, thought of something i wanted to look up, opened google on my phone, got distracted and then forgot what i was going to search for. i then spent the rest of that video and am now into the next and i still can't remember what it was!! and its driving me directly to the mall!! literally no one can help me but i needed to tell someone bc i fear the gaping maw of my own ignorance may otherwise eat me alive
#personal spewage#this has been an original reblog#i wanted to look up a) the aroace pride flag and b) details on pride this year cause i wanna buy an aroace flag at pride#they changed the route so now i have to actually like. travel for it :(#its no longer directly outside my front door#this is arophobic AND acephobic#one might even say aroacephobic#you know whats also aroacephobic? i always work during pride#anyway im so curious if theyll have an aroace flag cause idk how like. legit it is as a flag#like i see ppl selling them online but people will sell *anything* online yknow?#my opinion is that if i can buy it in person at pride then ill know its Legit#also ive already got an ace AND an aro flag (two separate flags) both of which i bought in person at pride so like#its kind of a tradition now#still trying to decide whether i want an enby/agender flag#ill be honest folks. im not a huge fan of either flag#like yeah its abt the identity or w/e but like. its gotta *look* good too#the aroace flag tho? fucking phenomenal#pure art#and the explanation for the colours is great and makes sense!#i would honestly rather have it on my wall than the aro + ace ones#like do i love green and purple? yes of course#green is my favourite colour#but i hate black so much i dont want that much black on my walls#its just not worth it fam#it harshes the vibe#anyway we'll see#might get it at pride. might buy it online. might just continue to admire it from afar
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Ive seen at least two responses to your antigonism post saying that the word would be divisive because “transfems who are normal about transmascs are the norm” and I really truly do believe that’s probably the case but at the same time it personally feels a little dismissive?? I cant speak for all trans people obviously but I know A LOT of trans people, basically everyone in my life is trans- my blood sibling, all of my friends, my 2 girlfriends (im poly) I am regularly in contact with other trans people/trans communities in several cities across my state, and for me it really does not feel like its a “small vocal minority” of transfems who hold anti transmasculine and exorsexist beliefs.
I want to make it clear I absolutely love the transfems in my community, they are my dearest friends, and I deeply treasure our relationships; but absolutely every one of them that I have gotten close to has ended up saying something to me that made me feel really weird. They either mention something about how transmascs have it easier/transfems have it the worst, or they feel the need to gatekeep things from other trans people& borderline accuse other trans people/intersex people of copying transfems, or they joke and complain about “theyfabs” or justify the use of the term (both of my gfs did this- mind you I was afab and exclusively use they/them pronouns), or they invalidate feminine transmasc and afab enby people (again something both of my gfs did despite me being genderfluid and sometimes presenting feminine).
And thats just some of the things Ive experienced IRL in my own home and within my own communities! If I were to start listing my experiences online Id be here all night!! I honestly want to go on about the shit I see online but I dont have the energy for it- but when I see exorsexist or anti trans masculinity coming from transfems (and self proclaimed tmes) online, the comments/notes/whatever is always filled with sometimes hundreds of other trans people agreeing and venting their own frustrations about “tmes” and it just. Again doesnt FEEL like its a minority. You are literally one of the only TWO transfems I know who makes content actively CONSISTENTLY standing up for transmascs and pushing back against anti trans masculinity. Its not that I think its transfems job to dismantle anti trans masculinity but the ratio of transfems who complain about tmes vs ones who actively push back against that rhetoric feels so disproportionate to how often I see transmasc and afab enbies pushback against trans misogyny and the exclusion of transfems in queer spaces.
This turned into a very long winded vent and Im kinda struggling to conclude my point but i guess I wish it felt like more people cared to pushback against TIRFism. It just feels kinda dismissive to hear people say that transmascs who are hesitant to interact w trans communities just need to touch grass or whatever when in my personal experience it feels like I cannot escape anti trasmasculinity or exorsexism in every trans space I am apart of. Kinda blanking on how to end this ask i hope any of this is coherent.
I wanna emphasize again that the person I responded to specifically was really cool and my emotions in this post are not directed at them
Recently someone said it was "easy to forget most trans women are normal about trans men," and I was scolded because me not thinking that was horribly transmisogynistic was apparently a sign I'd lowered my standards as a trans woman because I'm too discourse poisoned, so now I'm even more self-conscious that people will start to see me that way no matter how much I try to insist over and over that TRFs are a vocal minority.
Meanwhile I continue to get asks calling me a pickme and comparing me to Blair White. I continue to have ten people respond to my every reply going "don't listen to Velvet she's crazy and hates trans women!!!!!".
So yeah. It is, actually, easy to forget that sometimes.
Especially since I'm stuck in a tiny southern town without even the option to make use of what meager community exists in the area because there's no one to drive me several hours to the state capital for their annual Pride stuff. I can't just go outside and be gal pals with all the vast numberless hordes of Normal trans women. I would be shocked beyond fucking belief if I saw two gay cis men in my fucking zip code. With my personal situation I can't even be social with cishet people anyway, let alone other queers, let alone all the trans women others perceive as Normal because they've knowingly been in the physical presence of another trans person a single time in their life and have the option of making that happen when they want it to.
Thank you for the support, anon.
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i just keep thinking abt how that guy said "its transphobia and misogyny. let your experiences unite you with cis women, trans women, and enbies, not separate you"
and like idk its like we can't use transmisndry/transandrophobia/atm/etc bc its transmisogynistic. but we also cant use transmisogyny bc thats only for trans fems and trans women. but we cant use misogyny either bc we're not women. like you said it doesnt matter what word(s) we use or even if we don't use any words at all, they still get mad at us.
but also, why does us trying to give a name to our experiences separate us from those groups? all of those groups can experience atm in various ways. why is it that using the term transmisogyny does not separate trans fems from those groups? why does using the term exorsexism does not separate enbies from that group? (assuming these people even agree exorsexism exists, some of them dont)
and the assumption that all of those identities listed are completely separate really bothers me. all of those can and do overlap. how can i as a transfemmasc multigender enby, separate myself from those groups by describing some of my experiences, when i AM those groups?
(im not going to even bother with the fact that cis men weren't included, we already know why)
imo it's because the idea that women (and people they can group in with women) forming separatist groups and separating themselves from MenTM is actually feminist and girlboss and just Protecting Them From Their Oppressors, whereas any other group doing it (not even just men as a group, but i see this shit happen to jews, black people, indigenous people, people with closed practices, etc.) is just trying to make themselves feel special or they think they're better than everyone else. also people just still straight up do not believe trans men are oppressed.
also it's particularly hilarious bc like. so much conversation around anti transmasculinity is about the fact we share a lot of experiences with both cis women and trans women. i can't tell you how many butch cis women, intersex people, and trans women and femmes have expressed to me that they have experienced something similar to what i describe in my posts. and the thing is, we have been talking about this kind of thing in queer circles for forever. we've talked about how butches are demonized because of their masculinity, we've talked about how trans women are forced to present as feminine as possible so as not to be seen as a threat, we've talked about how nonbinary people who were assigned male at birth and choose to present more masculine are demonized and stripped of their identity. but putting a name to it means there's a systemic problem in our community, not just Problematic Individuals Who Are Bad Who Are Totally Not Us So We Don't Need To Unpack Any Of Our Biases Uwu.
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hi! i am not sure if im gnc or just enby and i have enough health related hormonal trouble so i don't want to add gender affirming hrt to the mix. do u know of exercises that can help to get an androgynous appearance for an afab? even when i dress in clothes that make me feel happy, once people comment on me/my body and how "womanly" it looks it goes away and dysphoria hits hard :( its really ruining my mental health and no amount of therapy helps so i figured i should take steps to change!
If it's the actual shape of your body that triggers your dysphoria, you could try wearing a chest binder and maybe even a hip binder. But I would, more than that, suggest considering getting some muscles. Something that triggers my own dysphoria a lot is my arms/shoulders, specifically how non-muscular they are compared to the average cis guy. And I know I feel a lot better when I am actively builing muscle and working out regularly. Not necessarily at a gym, even just using my dumbbells at home does a big difference for me. I tend to focus on bicep and tricep since they tend to be the most visible muscles, but I also work out my chest and shoulders as well since I feel that it helps with getting a more androgynous/masculine apperance both to my silhouette and to my posture.
What work-out programme and diet works best for you will be very individual, so I don't feel like I can recommend a specific one. But there are plenty of free resources online, from video tutorials on youtube to muscle building forums that can give you more personalized diet advice to help with the muscle building. Search around, see what community you feel like you fit in with. It might also take some trial and error until you find what gives you the best results, so don't give up if you don't see instant change. Keep at it.
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i got back into the marauders so here are my takes opinions (i might make people mad)
(remember idc who you ship, who you hate, who you utterly love, im not gonna hate on you so don’t hate on me just because you disagree with me, or get butt hurt. go cry about it if it makes you feel better most of the marauders is fan made based on opinion.)
MY OPINIONS!!
i don’t like peter sometimes i hate him sometimes i despise him he irritates me. younger peter and older idc either one. he is way too much of a follower first of all how people characterize him shows it too what he likes plants, he’s not great at school, he follows james around? its about all i can remember he’s just not a character that sticks for me. also as a person who cherishes friends to the end of time and could NEVER purposely hurt them? i just no. also in a lot of characterizations even regulus hates him. maybe if he had more characterizations that interested me it would change.
i like bartylus way more than rosekiller it might be a common dynamic, but the way they both love obsessively and its borderline insane to the point its unhealthy? you’re telling me those 2 can’t match each other’s energy to a T? those two have such an interesting thing with each other i could watch a 24 hour movie explaining it.
stop. writing. about. the. same. pairings. yes i love jegulus, yes i love wolfstar, yes i love jily. but please can some of us explore different pairings? moonwater? moonkiller? wolfstarbucks? prongsfoot? regulily? lilylene? pandorcas? dormary? anything PLEASE!
enby sirius. genderfluid sirius. feminine sirius? give them to me please im dying for it he did it to spite her parents and then finally found out what was wrong. also dont get me started on demisexual sirius omg.
dont tell me prongsfoot couldn’t work. best friends to lovers? we already almost have them kiss in every fanfic if they aren’t each others first kiss.
can we focus on friendships more? why do romance centric when the marauders is literally about a group of friends it’s how they started and it’s their base.
also the girls are so looked over and watered down depending on the fanfic GIVE THEM FLAVOR! this is why i love crimson rivers a big chunk being dorcas’s feelings? yes.
disabled people are not accessories, if you make remus disabled just for fun you’re part of the problem i love disabled representation as a disabled person myself, but were not fun add ons. that being said if you genuinely see him as disabled or someone else im not talking to you also be accurate or don’t do it at all.
I probably have more, but im in a brain fog i might make a part 2 if i think of more.
#marauders#ao3 author#marauders fandom#marauders era#dead gay wizards#regulus black#james potter#remus lupin#jegulus#wolfstar#peter pettigrew#sirius black#bartylus
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jrwi riptide albatrio headcanons
I’m ill and have many silly thoughts about these three pirates, so here’s headcanons for the main three in no particular order. Also as a full disclaimer I’m only on like ep 16, though I have seen plenty of spoilers (and read plenty of fanfics), so if these are terribly wrong, feel absolutely free to yell at me jhksdfhjk
- in order of tallest to shortest its jay, gillion, then chip, and i absolutely have my reasons - gillion’s shorter then jay because i need him to be able to tuck his chin under jay when they hug because he deserves that - and chip is the shortest because i think it’s funny and i think he’d be really bitter about it
- chips got adhd and gillions got audhd - ive said those two before but i must repeat them bc they are very dear to me - gillions is obvious bc like,,, come on - but chip i really dont have reasoning for except i feel it in my neurodivergent bones
- theyre all trans - need i say more - chip is a trans man and jay is trans woman - and gillion is enby and collects xenogenders and neopronouns like a crow collecting shinies - like innitially gillion wouldnt know alot about gender bc hes an extremely sheltered child - but if he ever gets taught about gender he would collect so many like water themed xenos - this idea absoutely goes to tumblr user @spacedustmantis because their wisdom must be shared with the world
- gillion wags his tail when he’s happy - like he does it as a stim - HE ALSO PURRS - like im imagining him cuddling with chip and then all the sudden without gill even noticing he starts like kinda vibrating and at first chips really confused and hes like “bro what are you doing” - and then gillion immediately stops doing it and gets really insecure bc maybe its smth the elders would get mad at him for doing (this is an elders hate page, but also i like putting gillion through pain) - and then chips like wait no i didnt mean it like i bad thing i think its cute - sorry i have many fish n chips thoughts
- speaking of both trans chip and fish n chips - chip used to bind in the WORLDS MOST UNSAFE WAY - like so many bruises, tight as shit, he has them on for like days on end - and then when gillion finds out hes like super upset at human culture - cause hes like “wdym boobs matter?? wdym people would call you a woman if you had boobs???” - like the concept of transphobia i feel like would be completely beyond him - once gillion and chip are close enough chip trusts gillion to see him without the bindings and gillion spends the night healing chips like lifelong bruises and probably a broken rib - no thoughts, just a hair brading line with ablatrio - chip at the back because his hair is too short for anything to be braided - then chip is braiding gillion’s hair because gay - and gillion is braiding jay’s hair because he thinks it’s really nice and silky - like i bet that girl takes such good care of her hair
these are all i have in my tiny brain for now, but i will absolutely be reblogged/editting this with more ideas whenever they come to me
#jrwi#just roll with it#jrwi riptide#jrwi: riptide#just roll with it riptide#just roll with it: riptide#jrwi headcanon#jrwi headcanons#just roll with it headcanon#just roll with it headcanons#gillion tidestrider has adhd#autistic gillion tidestrider#jrwi fish and chips#just roll with it fish and chips#trans gillion tidestrider#trans chip jrwi#trans jay ferin#nonbinary gillion tidestrider
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