#if they or the content is harming other ppl in some way then they should definitely step back but if its harmless then who cares

[snowstories]

[Image: Tumblr tags reading: #just the words 'content warning' should let you think long and hard about everything that's wrong about how people approach media nowadays #like it's just feed that's gotta be as sanitized as possible #not inconvenience you in the slightest #my brother in christ art is like an earthquake it must make the ground you stand on shake so violently #and make everything you collected in your safe little room of safety fall down and apart #do you understand me #do you want to be shackled forever in a dark cave or do you want to see a sun so bright your eyes burn and you're forever changed. End description.]

soooo glad we're doing "content warnings bad" in a blue hair and pronouns way now /sarcastic. content warnings aren't "sanitizing" things, they literally exist so the content can exist without triggering people or dropping something on them unprepared. "your safe little room" do you not see how this is the exact same rhetoric conservatives use mocking "safe spaces" and how the dumb liberals don't know anything about the Real World. some people like being warned before they hear about heavy topics. some people want to avoid some topics altogether. that is fine. and it is morally neutral to not want to consume triggering content. hope this helps.

[transformersconfessions]

I actually don't think the babyfication/infantilisation of B-127 in transformers ONE should be such a big deal as some ppl make it out to be.

Do I think Bee is CANONICALLY a lil kid in TfOne? Absolutely not- I TBH subscribe to the idea he may most likely be the oldest of the group, he is just overly chatty and socially awkward due to being isolated for so long. I also don't think any of the others ever treat him as a child or as if he was younger, he is part of the group in a very homogenous/equal way.

Having said this, lil Bee is a ridiculously popular trope. He is small, he is yellow, he is round shaped, he is less somber- and ppl like that, and like to have fun with him being younger or the baby of the group or establish a parent-child relationship with Optimus/Orion. And I think that's more than fine! It's a cute concept, adorable even, I understand why ppl love it and why they wish to apply it to continuities regardless of canon. I tbh don't think it does any harm, in having him being a "child of divorce" with Opmeg or to even have him see Oplita as parental figures. This is fiction, and this is ppl having fun with fiction BCS it makes them happy or brings them comfort or just think is cute.

As long as they don't claim that any of this is canon and is the only "right way" to see him (which I have personally never seen, although this is ofc a biased opinion not enough of a large sample), then let ppl make their AUs or What if or Headcanons.

I also don't get the whole "this enforces the infantilisation of autistic/ADHD ppl" ?¿ I may be ignorant regarding this but just how would that even happen?¿ I never in my life looked at someone short and chatty and socially awkward and been like "oh that's definitely a child and should be treated as such"?¿ As someone on the spectrum myself and who has many friends/acquittance both with either or none, I have never seen this issue, nor the correlation of "you like Bee being the baby of the group hence you infantile or endorse the infantilisation of autism/ADHD"

Maybe I would see it more if we were talking about human characters played by real actors- but here we are talking about giant animated alien robots who have most likely concepts of age/development/social constructs totally different from our own especially considering how long they live- but maybe I am missing some important bit here, always open to be educated on the topic.

Am I saying you have no right to be annoyed by it? ABSOLUTELY NOT- your feelings are valid, but also, make callout posts of how "that's a grown man" feels a bit too much. If you want more canon accurate B-127 I think you should pick up a pen and do it yourself! Create fanarts of it, create fanfics, write analysis, list your head canons! And I am sure more ppl will look at this version and grow fond of it and start producing content themselves! Everyone has their right to have fun, no need to complain or criticise them for it :)

You like lil baby Bee and his father-son relationship with Orion? Go for it! You want to explore Bee as a grown mech who is on equal friends plate? Be my guest!

If you don't like something, either just scroll or block them, and if you want to change how things are, then start creating the corner of the internet you want to live in yourself! After all, all these fanarts/fanfics are works of PASSION given FOR FREE- I don't think you have a right to bash or complain about this nor can you force artists to produce what you want the way you want- but you can always become the artist that produces that yourself!

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[devildomwriter]

*TW*- i*cest, r*pe, g*re, p*dophilia, some general discourse

Ok so I am trying to ask this in the most respectful way because I don't wanna snowball this into a huge discourse; but I wonder if you've been seeing the Dark Content Discourse here on Tumblr?

It basically entails that despite your personal preferences, attacking/ demeaning other ppl who create/ consume dark content is a big no no because it's their safe space to be able to explore these topics. This includes all sort of stuff like i*cest, r*pe, g*re and even p*dophilia. Now you may not agree with any of these things, most ppl don't, and they might disgust you; which is totally fine. But there is a huge leap b/w something that is fictional and something that is real.

Fictional characters are literal lines on a paper. Doing anything with a fictional child does not mean you are harming a REAL child. This might still disgust you and that's fine too. You can block that person so you don't have to look at it again but to call everyone like this and start a campaign against them is well...

I just want you to know that I am not defending that person. I didn't even know them at all before this...Neither I am advocating for anything they are saying or confirming/claiming that they are good irl. I don't know them.

I just want you look at this from a different perspective and know your thoughts about this ordeal. Like for one moment step away from your pre-existing feelings and bias and look at this objectively. Everyone likes something that's even a lil problematic, so if we went on these campaigns every time, literally no one will be left in fandom. I don't agree with p*dophilia but I don't agree with this either...AGAIN THIS IS NOT MEANT TO CONDONE ANY OF THIS BEHAVIOUR! But to paint someone as a bad person for things they do in fiction in their safe space no matter how problematic, is somewhat disconcerting.

I again wanna say that this is not any hate against you or anyone else. I don't want to cause any discourse myself . I think you are an amazing writer and a valuable member in our fandom. Which is why it's important to me to hear your stance on this. But if you'd rather not answer this at all that's fine too! :>

I appreciate your perspective and I sometimes enjoy certain dark content as long as they warn others but pedophilia— fictional or not— should never be written/glorified/accepted. If it’s written as a horrible incident or traumatic backstory (like Lolita) then I understand why it’s written but glorifying or romanticizing it in any way is unacceptable.

If no one is left in the fandom after going on these “witch hunts” then the fandom is toxic, preditory, and unsafe.

As for the huge leap between fiction and reality, everything starts as a thought or fantasy. The more you think about it the more likely you are to commit or watch such an act.

Tumblr should under no circumstances be a safe place for pedophiles.

[yumeshiftss]

Tw! Mentions of syscourse, fake claiming, mentions of suicide, talking abt experiences as a traumagenic system so just overall just upsetting topics. Read with caution

We really don’t like getting into syscourse but we feel like I should share my personal experience as a traumagenic system.

For some background- I’ve had alters since childhood, I’m not gonna go in depth abt my trauma (obviously) however the important thing is that they were all introjects since cartoons and other media was legit the only safe way I could cope with the trauma I was going through. At the time I just thought they were imaginary friends- some would come and go though there was always some there and it’s been like that for as long as I can remember.

I never had the words to explain it, at first it was imagery friends, then it was daydreaming, turned into maladaptive daydreaming. I have had heard abt DID and similar disorders before but I never knew much abt them so… we just- kept on living.

Then suddenly, in the year like 2020-2021 (maybe 23??? Idk the years merge into each other) I saw videos on TikTok- about well- systems! At first I was just interested- since the experiences they were talking about felt REALLY relatable… like that was exactly what I was experiencing, so I kept on watching and I kept on seeing more systems and their experiences.

Ofc when you interact with a bunch of system content… syscourse is bound to show up. And at the time topics like IRLS (I think another term ppl used was delusion attachment?) were big… and yeah- let’s just say a majority of the videos I saw weren’t “hey these people have something going on and we should try our best to support them, even if we don’t understand what. And hey! Perhaps medical professionals should look into this to better help people” they were more like “IRLS are disgusting fakers who fantasize abt having DID and are just fake copycats of systems who are horrible people. They’re all just roleplayers and have no actual issues going on!” And well- it made me feel… confused. I had known abt IRLS and believed that at the very least something was going on and that even if I don’t know how or why it happens that’s up to medical professionals. Though of course that raised thoughts on “am I a bad person because I believe them?”

Then call outs on “fake systems” and videos on “how to spot a fake system” with stuff like “fakers will usually claim to be fictive heavy since they just wanna rp as anime characters!!” And “if a system likes being a system then they’re clearly faking since no REAL system likes being a system!!” and well… those applied to us. We were a fictive heavy system and well I liked (and still like) being a system- hell it was probably the only reason why we were still ALIVE. There are multiple times where I would’ve probably killed myself if it weren’t for them and them talking me out of it.

So when I heard about how the stuff I- WE were experiencing made us “fakers” I was… lost, confused, I thought we had finally made a step in the right direction to figuring out what was going on… but then the answer suddenly had a barrier with thousands of spikes and a massive “DO NOT ENTER” sign.

It wasn’t JUST the fake claiming (which is still bad on its own) it was the way they would talk abt those they thought were “faking” like they were evil people that get off on the suffering of “real systems” and that made me TERRIFIED. What also didn’t help is that anytime I made a comment about questioning if we were a system the responses I got were… not friendly. While some kind souls did in fact tell me to go seek a professionals help on the matter a majority of replies were “it’s extremely rare so you probably don’t have it” to even just straight up “oh look another faker” and to me, what I had saw and heard other people say was that “fakers” were horrible people, that take advantage and actively harm “real systems”

So of course… the thoughts started to come up

Was I a bad person? Was I a horrible human being for even QUESTIONING about being a system?

So… I stopped. I stopped interacting with system content, I stopped looking at sources, I completely tried to forget everything. Of course that doesn’t fucking work when y’know…. Still have fucking alters, what also didn’t help that before I spiraled into the whole “I’m faking and a horrible human being” I was actually actively acknowledging them as being more than “just daydreams” and communication was well- getting better… of course that changed and I immediately started trying to ignore them, I felt incredibly guilty over the fact I acknowledged them in the first place, that I was a horrible person for doing so.

But… without them. I was fucking miserable.

They never left- they were STILL there I was just ignoring them to the extreme. However I felt extremely alone, suddenly there was no one to help when I got flashbacks, had extremely bad anxiety, and when I felt extremely unsafe… cause everyone that usually would help me through situations like that- I thought made me a disgusting human being who likes just roleplaying a sick fantasy abt having a disorder.

Safe to say that was a horrible fucking time for us. Of course it got to a point where I couldn’t deny their existence anymore- but I was still terrified about questioning being a system. So I just- called it daydreaming and left it at that… and well I never told anyone about it. It was something I actively hid.

In fact, it took us YEARS to finally tell someone and go seek a professional about it and we only recently started seeing a therapist.

We probably would’ve told someone sooner if it weren’t for anti-endos and system exclusionists that made me feel like how our system works was wrong and evil…

I don’t really know how to end this- however ig I should probably say this…

instead of immediately treating systems that don’t perfectly fit into your box on what a “real system is” like evil fakers, treat them with kindness. Cause even if you don’t believe they’re a “real system” there could still be something going on, and to deny them helpful sources and a community that can help them for a most likely very confusing and difficult time can be extremely dangerous.

-🎀

[destinyc1020]

Tom's fans are different, but they speak the facts. It's absolutely normal to want a successful project for your favorite actor because his work and talent should be recognized. It's also normal when you want to see activity on Tom's part. Sometimes some of Tom's fans are negative, but in many ways they are honest, to me they are much better than some hypocritical TZ fans who claim to be equally staned Tom and Zendaya, but in fact they are Zendaya's fans first and foremost. By the way, your theory is very interesting and I think to some extent I can agree with it. But at the same time, it amuses me how sometimes you are too optimistic or do not notice serious problems with some things related to Tom

I mean, I don't mind if fans are honest about their faves. I've always said that I'm 100% honest here on my blog about how I feel about a variety of people and topics. 🤷🏾‍♀️

But to me, it seems as though some fans of Tom (notice I said SOME) can be a bit harsh on him, or complain about things that in the grand scheme of things, really aren't big deals in the long run. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Or, they'll make blanket negative statements that aren't even true, like, "it's normal to want a successful project for your favorite actor" (as if Tom hasn't had MULTIPLE successful projects already?? 🥴🤔), or, you"want to see activity on his part" (as if, we don't get Tom content either through himself, friends, and or family on a REGULAR basis). Look, some actors out here don't even have social media at all, or never post, or don't have their parents posting content about them. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Yet, ppl are still their fans.

I've already made peace with the fact that we're not going to get the same social media happy Tom that we got in 2017. I've made peace with that with both Tom AND Zendaya tbh. If smthg harms my fave and their mental and emotional health, I'm not going to be upset if they're not posting on social media.

I will agree with you that a lot of Tom's fans are actually fans of him by extention of Zendaya, his gf. But he can't help that. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Their stars happened to rise at the same time due to their Spiderman movie that they were in together. Many fans of Z were fans of her BEFORE she got to the level that she is today though, but it's not a bad thing imo?

But at the same time, it amuses me how sometimes you are too optimistic or do not notice serious problems with some things related to Tom

I just feel like Tom's fans are a bit hard on him, and undermine his success already in the industry all the time (his R&J PLAY sold out in like 2 hours!!!) Like, c'mon. 😏

And what "serious problems" are there related to Tom exactly? Is he on drugs? Is he wilding out? Does he look depressed? Is he looking homeless? Has he lost a ton of weight in a short amount of time? Is he acting crazy out in these streets? To me, those are "serious problems" and signs that an actor is going through smthg. All the other stuff you've mentioned aren't "serious problems" imo Anon.

Yes, we all want great things for our fave actors, and of course we wish them the best! 😃 But unless there are some serious issues going on in that actor's life, we need to know our place as FANS, and let an actor live his (or her) life! Actors usually only film about 1 or 2 films a year (if THAT), and the rest of the time, they're working bts, negotiating other future projects, promoting current projects, or simply just taking a break. When you're at Tom's level of success, you can afford to take longer breaks if needed. He's been working and going non-stop for over 7 years. If the man wants to take a break, his fans should be okay with that. Jmho 🤷🏾‍♀️

[simantopia]

@anestofmuses making this on a new post 'cos hoo boy, I've slept, recharged energy, and now I have A LOT on my mind regarding this topic.

Harassment is always bad. But I think a lot of simmers just don't realize that we are providing these people's paychecks. If all Simmers just decided to stop playing TS4, then the game would stop making new content, EA would shut it down, and the devs would no longer have any work on S4 to do. Sure, they might get another job on another game, but S4 for them would be no more.

The people who have questions and critiques are actively supporting these devs. To block your supporters is some nasty work. And it's not a good image for EA at all because these professional accounts represent EA, and it tells people that EA would rather block people then heed criticism.

Which many ppl try to say "but the Gurus are NOT EA!" Which might be somewhat true, but they still represent EA regardless. They're still employees of EA, and their accounts are STILL marketing accounts FOR EA because they literally brand their accounts as being an EA employee (SimGuru[Whatever]) they still advertise and discuss the game on their accounts.

btw, them calling themselves "guru" is a strategic manipulation tactic

Think about it... how many other games do you know that does this? Where all the devs come together on social media / Twitter and have a silly title? Regardless if they do this out of harm or not, but the Guru title is DEFINITELY a manipulation tactic. It's to make them sound "quirkier" and to fool the consumer into thinking they're just your fun bestie, and not only a dev for a major company.

And that's ANOTHER reason to not like the whole "cozy heckin wholesome" brand that the Sims now has. Because the primary reason why I don't like it is because it's just too sappy for me, makes the game afraid of doing anything that isn't overly sanitized, or "upsetting" AND i just miss the series' old humor and style. But... it also allows EA to manipulate and gaslight its consumers. The entire wholesome image makes people hesitant to say anything negative regarding the game or series because they'll feel like they're "hurting a friend," or that they're being "negative" about something that is supposed to be good and fun. Sims 4 is a place for positivity!!!11!!!

There's also an argument on... how much control the gurus actually have. Many people act like you can't send criticism their way BECAUSE they can't help it, because EA is the one that restricts their creative freedom, and they're completely innocent. Which I understand that DOES happen often with major companies. But... you gotta ask, how true is this? There's not really much evidence for this beyond general assumption. And when the Gurus do defend themselves against certain criticism, it's often just them saying "we didn't want to do this" or "we just couldn't do it because it's hard." Which yes, those can be mere excuses 'cos OF COURSE you might not want to so willingly admit your company is holding you back, especially if you're fearful that said company might fire you.

But when the devs have been caught making flimsy excuses, or straight up lies, then it should have you questioning how much can you trust these people?

Like the infamous Grant here claiming that he's the reason there are no dog houses. Because people were obviously complaining about the even more infamous Cats & Dogs pack, and were like... where's the dog houses? Grant made this claim by saying oh, they just INTENTIONALLY chose not to include something because of "totally valid reason guys!!!" And maybe, JUST MAYBE I'd believe this.

Except... the game literally has a function where you can lock your animals out. Yes, you can select "lock all... pets" on all the entrances, meaning you can allow Sims but not pets, meaning... you CAN keep your pet outside, and not on the couch. Except this time... they don't have a dog house!! Lol!!! Thanks, Grant!!!

Or Ninja stating that if the fucking modders haven't done it yet, then it's "hard to do." Which imo, sounds like a Freudian slip. Because everyone already jokes that EA just doesn't do stuff for TS4 like play testing or adding certain things because they feel the players would do it themselves for free. And I mean no shade to modders, they're amazing and really ARE the reason why S4 is as fun as it can be. But modders are usually singular people who do it for FREE. Ppl who officially work on the Sims are a TEAM with more resources and money should have a much easier time doing this stuff.

There's this insightful Reddit comment that makes the claim that gurus are far more in control than people suspect them to be. And honestly? To an extent, I do believe it. I mean, EA is a MASSIVE corporation, there are likely many teams split apart -- and many of them likely do have a decent amount of power over their own products. Not only that, but this is more believable due to the devs being caught lying or saying other questionable things. Plus I remember one of the Gurus stated that MySims' success made her/them more interested in visiting other old spin-offs... and she IS like the LEAD. So the way they talk does give off the impression that they are indeed the ones making these decisions.

Which, we still don't REALLY know because again, these devs aren't just gonna openly admit they're being held back by their company. But because we don't know doesn't mean we just should never give the devs valid criticism for either their behavior or their product. Now we shouldn't harass them, but simply telling them that something is broken in the game and when we should expect them to address said broken thing? That's not a shameful or blockable offense.

The players need to stop treating EA/Maxis like they're some small indie team.

This isn't me saying I hate the devs or anything. I am happy that they provide a game for us, and some of them have even worked on past Sims games. But they, and even a good chuck of the community, needs to learn that criticism does NOT equate to hate. They also need to learn that the "gurus" are NOT exempt from criticism.

[ca-suffit]

I generally *don't* dislike devils minion as a ship. I like it even...But sometimes I think about blocking it even though there is good content i like to see on it.

But the tag is filled with people who hate loumand, people who try to put shippers down. I don't see that much hate even from loustat fans.

One of the things I repeatedly see that gets on my nerves is the "armand pays more attention to daniel in dubai then he does to louis" take.

I understand they probably will happen in following seasons. But to think that armand was secretly in love with daniel the whole time in dubai is such a weird take to me. Do you think it has any base or is it just the fans trying to push their own narrative? Am I crazy to think that armand looked like he was completely in love with louis in dubai, despite their problems, and didn't really care about daniel outside of louis?

I get that they will get together in the future and i will support them and nod along when that happens. But they clearly didn't happen in season 2. There was just too much resentment on both sides and they both clearly cared more about louis. Am i crazy to think that?

I think first of all that ppl should relax trying to attack each other over which ships they like or not. it's pointless and everyone is with everyone else eventually so there's no reason to be going at each other about any of it. this was way less intense before the show aired bcuz everyone was white. now it's insane bcuz there's a lot of racist motivations fueling the protection or rejection of these ships. we can all just breathe (this is a general statement, not rly aimed at u).

secondly tho. I think the show has made a lot of things intentionally ambiguous. I can't say one way or another what armand is thinking bcuz the way he looks at daniel at times could read either way. he *is* focused on daniel in one sense bcuz daniel is *the enemy.* once armand was no longer rashid, he could more directly confront daniel and he did (not like being rashid stopped him fully anyway but lol). but there's times he's uncharacteristically gentler on daniel than louis is, like during the engagement mind-reading fuckery. I think it's meant to read as both, if u have awareness of DM. I don't think it's meant to be THERE there rn but a detail to notice and think is kind of fun (hard for this fandom to do tho, ik lol).

idk when DM is meant to take place in this universe, but I think there's something to be said about viewing all of them after 2x5. armand has remembered that entire thing the whole time and yet they're back here again. he'd otherwise erased both of their memories so neither one remembered the "fascinating" segment and he prbly figured the risk of louis thinking that again after so much time and in a different mindset was v low. but louis is still talking to the man he said was more fascinating as a stranger than armand had been for decades. and they're talking about lestat again. "ur going to teach me how to be fascinating" is prbly still in there somewhere. armand is always watching both of them bcuz he still wants to know what this means and why it happened.

it kind of mirrors jonah in S1. even tho louis doesn't explicitly tell lestat not to touch him, we learn that he lived to old age too. it makes claudia's death even worse but anyway I'm getting kind of OT.

but he definitely is v invested in louis too and is putting a lot into making the relationship look good. some of my fav parts are from some of those scenes tbh, when he's just smiling and recounting memories with louis in front of daniel. or even when he runs out as rashid to stop louis from attacking daniel again over claudia's diaries in S1, which now has more context knowing their history and louis' desire to not have harm come to daniel.

[enemywasp]

OMFG A PROSHIPPER !!+! SAME BUT I HAVE TO HIDE MY IDENTITY BC EVERYONE HAS DNI PROSHIP IN BIO LIKE WHY?????

UMMMMM ..... Rant bc it's so rare to find a kindred spirit in this shitty immature ""war""

it fr just means i believe we should ship and let ship??? why is the "i don't judge u for your preferences" thing seen as bad idfk like. it's fucking fiction.

if it's problematic then I don't condone it irl. but I'm human. I have curiosities and shit. Like,, ppl don't listen to true crime bc they condone murder and ppl don't go calling true crime fans murderers. so WHYYYY is shipping any different, in fact it's b e t t e r bc at least fiction. isn't. real.

like why tf is what i ship anyone else's business??? unless it's bc we have smthn in common to bond over, why tf do ppl care abt the ships we don't have in common.

istg ship wars are crazy af and this whole pro- anti- ship shit is just another way to try to control smthn that doesn't need controlling.

it's like U said no one fucking cares abt it irl and the damn DEATH THREATS ppl get over **not giving a damn what other people ship** instead of being the fucking fandom shipper police or smthn is disgusting and i hate that im never allowed to talk abt this w/out ppl hating me and calling me a disgusting monster.

why can't I just do what I fucking want when in my own privacy while not causing any harm???

like ppl are so damn delusionalllllllll!!!!.!.!.!

-> some proshippers just mean they support any and all ships bc fiction is fiction

-> some proshippers ship "problematic" ships and that is FINE because it is NOT REAL and THEY ARE NOT HURTING ANYONE and i meannnnm ppl are curious right. they gonna explore alien concepts some way or another. why tf would ppl stop them from exploring it in a safe. healthy. fictional. harmless. way.

why is it that it's okay to consume problematic content but not okay to ship problematic ships?? literally what is the fucking difference ships are a subgenre of content.

if you think it's okay to be a fan of lotr or american psycho or some shit then it is damn hypocritical to say it isn't okay to ship something problematic. same thing if you think it's okay to stan/simp for a villain character.

it's only even called ~problematic~ bc that's how the relationship would be if it were real. which it isn't. so it isn't fucking problematic bc it's fictional content and the ppl shipping it do not condone the irl versions.

also sidenote,,, why tf are proshippers and multishippers grouped together in the dni stuff?? they are not related. a multishipper just. ships the same character w/ more than just one (1) other character. how is that problematic too?????

okay sorreryyyyyy i just have so many thoughts on this that im never allowed to share pls feel free to let this one collect dust in the inbox. or just straight up delete it lol.

Do not apologise! I love a good rant!

If you want to interact with proshippers more the tags "proshipper", "proshippers pls interact" and "proship positivity" are usually very nice and lots of wonderful people post there!

And you could always make a side account for proship stuff if you want to be able to take a break from the intense pro vs anti stuff if and when it gets too much, whilst still having a place to enjoy that stuff.

Honestly I think a lot of the issue is people seem to take the word "ship" as their ideal relationship. Less so than a dynamic they enjoy in fiction. But I don't know, I can't pretend to understand the mind of antis.

Proshippers and multishippers getting clumped together is probably linked to the idea that a ship is a pairing you want to see canon and shows actually pandering to ship wars lately. Or maybe people are just weird!

Everyone takes shipping way too seriously now and acts like a fictional pairings existence will romanticise the topic and brainwash kids. My general rule is that its for fun, who cares ?

And feel free to rant in my inbox whenever! It's always open to anyone. Glad you could get that off your chest :)

[hanasnx]

some updates while i’m here. i miss you! whether you’re a casual enjoyer of my blog & i see you in my notes, or my mutuals, or my followers, i’ve been thinking of you :) rare vulnerable moment i do cherish this blog and all your well wishes. thank you very much. i was right, typing is a huge strain and taking a break has been very good for my hands, so i’m going to keep at it.

some things:

don’t be afraid to keep sending me asks! they’re a great joy to me, i love seeing a notif in the inbox. i’ve gotten a fair few already that i’m excited to respond to when i can come back.

i did post a fred weasley drabble and not that i have to explain myself but i wanted to say i’ve been watching the harry potter movies. i’ve never seen them in their entirety, and the earlier ones have always been christmas movies in my house so to speak so i figured id give them a fair shot. i did read the books, and i’ve seen bits and pieces of the movies (hence my interest in fred weasley when i was a tween, but seeing him again made me wanna write for him for the first time in years)

also! a very kind anon told me earlier that my response to someone wrongfully making an ai chat bot of my content was an overreaction. it was “not that deep,” i believe was the colloquial term used. so the inherent content theft of ai invading free creative spaces is solved everyone! well done! very special thanks to the anon that let me know i was overreacting towards something i am passionate about and had a strong feeling towards! wow :) i never would’ve seen it like that. genuinely i am sorry anon that you’re ugly irl and your mommy doesn’t love you, which is why you feel like you can’t have a backbone over certain things. maybe you should stop consuming the free content creators provide on tumblr because you feel so secure in criticizing the selfless service <3 it’s giving: “im an old bigot that thinks ppl must be talentless and stupid when they work at mcdonald’s, but i’m still going to eat the food from there.” you’ve been blocked btw so you’re not offended by my use of free will when making free content on the internet for your grubby little hands to get a hold of and your smooth brain to criticize my right to share my personal opinions.

because the internet is the way it is, getting “hate” online has never really bothered me since i’ve always been a person with a large enough platform for years. it’s very easy for me to ignore and block and never answer whoever has decided to send some worthless hate message. which is probably why i almost never get hate anymore but it does happen occasionally. this was different since it wasn’t an attack on me per se, more so someone trying to admonish me for having a fair reaction towards something offensive. so i’m here to tell you it’s alright to treat strangers on the internet as strangers. you’re allowed to reinforce boundaries. you’re allowed to tell people you do not appreciate their actions towards you, and don’t leave room for argument. i am a very direct person, which means i told that person firmly that they needed to delete that ai chat bot they made of my au without my consent. and i did it without remorse. and i was told “it wasn’t that deep.” well it was. and it is. it is that deep because it’s deep to me, and i know it’s something that happens to others and it is that deep to them too. so what’s the problem in it being that deep? there is none :) let things be deep. be sincere. it is very important.

also if you make ai chat bots without creator’s consent when using their content you’re a piece of shit and doing a disservice to the very person you’re trying to exalt. take a step back and reevaluate how ai harms your interests rather than progresses them as well as the creators you claim your respect and cherish. you’re a victim of propaganda, my friend! and i prolly wouldn’t have made this post if anon hadn’t said anything. so maybe they should’ve kept their mouth shut since they didn’t wanna see shit like this so bad lmfao

now that that’s out of the way, i am sending wet fat sloppy kisses to everyone’s lips tell me when you receive them

[strawberryraviegutz]

I’m probably gonna get made fun of for this but idc.Don’t interact with me if ur one of those ppl who consider minors/ppl younger than u in general less than human along with unironically using the term “puriteens”.

I’m not saying that there isn’t an issue when it comes to purity culture indoctrinating the youth but at the same time why are yall getting mad at children and or adults who aren’t comfortable with sexual things for not wanting to have sex, do drugs, or consume 18+ content??

Obviously children should NEVER have access to nsfw content, but how are yall gonna get mad at kids for going into nsfw spaces but in the same breath complaining about how underaged kids are “prudes/kink hating” for not consuming porn nor wanting to have sex??

Why are yall so obsessed with wanting KIDS to have sex/be exposed to sexual things so much??? That’s so fucking weird.. Just cuz that may have been something that you did when you were a kid/teen doesn’t mean that other kids want to. Yall also seem to act like adults can’t be puritanical/toxic either. They’re the ones who’re pushing this stuff onto us in the the first place.

Not to mention the amount of times I’ve seen some of yall with a whole 18+ emoji in ur bio with minors dni going after/harassing CHILDREN for not being comfortable seeing porn of their comfort characters. Obviously kids look for nsfw content, but it’s also ur responsibility as an adult to not interact with them if ur account is nsfw/18+.

Yall complain about how minors are toxic meanwhile yall will make 300+ page callout docs on 13 year olds for being uncomfortable with smut fanfiction where all the characters in said fic are underaged along with sexually harassing someone who you perceive to be a minor and or younger than you in general just for saying that porn addiction is real

(that’s something that most if not all ppl believe including adults. Yeah the term “porn addict”does get thrown around too much but idk why yall are trying to say that porn addiction isn’t a thing when it absolutely is).

Yall act like your so much better than minors and think you know everything when adults can be just as toxic if not worse from my experiences along with the other type of shit I’ve seen online. Age doesn’t dictate morality. ANYONE can be toxic regardless of age. You’re not oppressed by the mere existence of children and or ppl younger than you.

When I was little it used to be the other way around with adults online making those commentary/rant/callout videos about teens posting nsfw art/fics(which is kinda true tho. Underaged teens shouldn’t do that stuff). Yelling and screaming at children/younger ppl about how much you hate them isn’t gonna do anything.

That’s just gonna make them fear getting “old” and or be ashamed of who they or encourage them to want to grow up fast. Yall are the reason why 10 yr olds are getting into stuff like sephora and or anti aging products in general and stanldy cups. If all i saw around me was adults complaining and yelling at me about how much i suck and that i shouldnt have opinions nor rights just for being a kid id wanna grow up really fast too.

Yall fr out here saying that we need to "invent slurs for toddlers" which like…why do u want to invent a slur for innocent beings with barely any self awarness??? How privileged are u to even think about wanting to do something like that???(along with using the term m*dg*t to refer to minors which is actually a slur used towards ppl who have drawfism so yeah…yall suck for that too.)as if kids of color dont get called enough slurs already.

Im sorry if u have had bad experiences with minors online but that doesnt give you the right for you to wish harm upon them like wanting them to fail all their classes or for their parents to "beat them more" at home over something like shipping discourse. Based off of my own experiences along with witnessing other things, Yall can be just as toxic if not so much worse than minors.

I remember being 14 in the hazbin hotel fandom wanting to be 18 so bad because i was scared of being harassed/shamed by other adults in the fandom for liking Hazbin hotel like i saw happen to other minors within the fandom at the time. And all of this is coming from someone who wants to remain childless for the rest of my life.

I will never understand how ppl can find joy in dehumanizing kids just to fufil some sort of power trip fantasy. You guys ironically are the ones that also need to grow up and stop acting like highschool bullies. Get over yourselves.

[macrotiis]

I do kinda think there is a thing in kink where it's different in fantasy vs reality, but I also don't like the way some ppl approach that subject in that they think it means they can just do whatever they want.

Like I guess you kinda can, nobody can really force you to stop, but I also think it's dumb to act like other ppl are bigots if they want to avoid you for your pedo incest fantasies, real or not.

I don't think ppl should like seek out that material & publicly expose you for what you do in your own space if you are being responsible, or harass you. But I do think some responsibility on your part is required to keep that in spaces where its allowed & out of places its not, & that you should respect that most ppl have their reasons to hate it.

I also think it's on you to think about the kind of audience you're cultivating if & when you post such content online. It's niave & dangerous to act like there aren't predators online who are drawn to your content. I don't think you're fully to blame if these ppl do use your work to harm others, but I do think you should at least try to minimize the chances of that happening in any way that you can.

[ilikeyoshi]

also hiiiiii it's been a while so i wanted to make a post for newer followers about how i tag words like q***r/d*ke/etc!!! 💞 (and also solidify it for myself hehe. i've censored them here to ensure ppl see this and can block whatever tags they need/want to!)

i usually tag non-malicious uses of these words with "q word", "d word", etc, as over the years i've come to the general conclusion that i think ppl whose identities are described by these words can reclaim and use them non-maliciously, and it feels weird to call them slurs in that context. this is just a me thing; i completely understand and sympathize if you feel differently, which is why i still tag it with something for those who don't want to see posts containing those words at all!

IN the unlikely event i share something including any of those words used maliciously/inappropriately (whether in a hypothetical quote or a real quote), i tag it as "q slur", "d slur", etc, in cases of people who don't mind it being used in a reclaimed context but DO mind it being used in a bigoted context. this includes posts where the word is used with the intent of doing harm, as well as posts where the word may be being used in a friendly or memey way but by a person who cannot reclaim that word (whensoever i am able to confirm this is the case).

i mainly used q***r/d*ke as examples because those are words i can and feel comfortable reclaiming (meaning i also use them casually at times myself, but i still tag them!), but this goes for any reclaimable word/slur! you might see "t word/slur", "f word/slur", "r word/slur", "n word/slur" and so on. my goal here is to try and accommodate as many people as possible, as these words can, have been, and still are used today to hurt members of marginalized communities. i do not take a particular side on whether or not these words SHOULD be reclaimed, as i think that's up to individuals and not something anyone can decide for a community at large. but i AM sympathetic to people who've been hurt by these words, many of whom are some of my dearest friends, and it's important to me that i can both respect people's choice to reclaim AND people's trauma.

furthermore, if there are any other words like those i've listed that i haven't or am not tagging, i'd appreciate a message about it! i'd also appreciate any insight on including the n word the way i have, as while i think it might be applicable in the same way, i am white and am therefore far more divorced from the history of that word than any lgbt+ or abled words with a malicious history. (to be honest, i don't see myself reblogging a post containing that word used as a slur to begin with, as i try to avoid platforming bigots' own dialogue, especially against groups i am not a part of. but i'd still appreciate any insight regarding these kinds of far-removed-from-my-experience words!)

i'd also like to say there are certain words i probably will never tag, such as "gay", "lesbian", "cis", etc. this is because these words either were never slurs, or their usage in malicious ways is largely archaic or significantly overwhelmed by how they're used neutrally/descriptively. the words i choose to tag in this manner have been chosen based on their modern usages and my own discretion. i hope that makes sense! you can always still block the words themselves in the content blacklist, and i'm open to polite discussion about it; i do not know everything and am open to the possibility there are things i should be tagging by my own described criteria and am not.

okay thank you have a nice rest of your day!!! 🙇‍♂️

[murachinchi]

Hello, I'm only sending you this because your posts randomly appeared on my Tumblr feed when I followed the tag tanjirou kamado here. I understand that you might have your personal reasons to post this sort of content, but it just disturbed me. As you are aware, Tanjirou is a 15 year-old boy. I think it is harmful for the community of KnY for such content to be posted online where teenagers or anyone could see. Not to mention that you do not only ship Tanjirou with who we assume to be an old man, but you often infantilize him. You draw him excessively small in comparison to Hantengu, and even his body (which is the body of a 15 year-old male) is feminine and childish. If you compare Tanjirou from the anime with your version of him, that should be clear. You also posted Hantengu having s*x with him, which is far from acceptable. Considering you are over 20 years old, you should know that this contributes to the problem of child p*rn being accessible online. You might not be aware of it, but your type of content is consumed by predators. I am not calling you one, but I think I should point this out. My intention here is not to offend you or harm you in any way, but rather to voice my frustration. And if you post this online for others to see, including people like me, you should expect to be held accountable for such issues.

hi pls don't compare drawing of fictional character to actual CSEM it's very disrespectful and inappropriate 

as of my stuff, you spent some time enough to scroll through my feed to even find nsfw instead of just blocking me. i get that ppl find it disturbing but all u can do is block me or just scroll pass it. i don't even use his tag when posting nsfw stuff its all sfw. I also don't understand ur infantalize bit. if u don't like my depiction of tanjiro the block button is over there. 

also predators "consuming" my stuff is out of my control. those ppl would seek a perfectly normal and innocent stuff for their sick behavior.

i get being frustrated cause i was like that too. blocking and muting tags and accounts works wonder cause then i don't have to see it anymore. it's the internet u cannot stop ppl from posting smtg u don't like no matter the reason. all we can do is curate our own feed and do our own thing.

[natashasbitxh]

this is gonna be long, but,

i used to be into youtube fandoms alot but the only ones ive retained are dan and phil and smosh. i was big on phan but i fell out of it years ago, i still like them but im more of a causal viewer than a rabid racoon frothing at the mouth every time some content drops.

(and also realised, as im no longer a teenager anymore, how shipping real people together is tricky and there are boundaries you dont cross and should be handled a particular way)

smosh ships were cute but nothing really stuck to me. don't get me wrong they all have chemistry but GOD DOES SHAYNSE GIVE!!?? IM A RACOON ONCE AGAIN

oh my god the way ive been sucked into shanyse. the smosh pit theatre was my awakening LIKE WTF THERE'S CHEMISTRY?? then i did the customary tumblr tag search and now im re-watching every video shayne and chanse has appeared together.

im sorry for all this but i gathered you were sort of a pioneer for the ship, so it felt right to confess on here

I relate so hard with ur comment on phan, I feel the fandom has gone thru a massive transformation and feels so much for chill now! Ppl have grown and are taking into account Phil and Dan a lot more!

Yes! Rpf is a tough area! I've said it before but the most important thing is the ppl themselves and their feelings! If Shayne or Chanse (or anybody from Smosh or that knows them tbh) asked me to stop, I would in a heartbeat! I, of course, would never intend any harm! And we see such a small snippet of their lives, its truly just based off their internet personas. My one rule is that u shouldn't go out of ur way to shove rpf into the ppl's faces unless they've said their okay with it! (Example: Them finding a fic by themselves is not the fault of the author, but the author sending it to them constantly crosses some boundaries)

Okay sorry, just wanted to make my thoughts clear!! Back to shaynse!!

OMG I'M SO HAPPY U FEEL THAT WAY!! I have felt that way since I thought of the ship but back then there was NO content for them!! Not even a ship name! (@jovenshires came up with the ship name). So it almost made me feel crazy or wrong for thinking of it, I'm so happy it's been well received!!

I feel like once u see it, u can't unsee it! That theater vid has done sm for shaynse nation! However, its just below the love is blind vid because that is literally shaynse day🫶🫶

Never apologise!! I love hearing other ppls thoughts and discussing!! And thank u for calling me the pioneer for this ship, it truly is an honour! I've been called it a couple times now so I might add it to my blog, I just hope I don't look big-headed 😭

And just an overall message to anybody that sees this, I welcome conversation abt ANY smosh ship, as long as it's appropriate! (I'm not sure what to give as an example, but I'd let u know if it's not appropriate)

Thank you, anon!

[11queensupreme11]

Dude idk if you have seen this TikTok before but it was basically some random utahime x gojo shipper saying that while heading to the gojo vs sukuna fight the way utahime was standing next to gojo apparently meant that they were married and that the way utahime was dressed meant that she was pregnant so that means they banged so they can continue the gojo bloodline??? 😭😭 and then I saw that I was like “wtf dude is heading to the biggest fight of his life and y’all are just thinking he just had time to bang and marry someone” Their whole ass page was DEDICATED to saying that gojo x geto never made any sense and that utahime and gojo are better and have better chemistry💀… I swear utahime x gojo shippers are another level of delulu

for me, it was always satosugo that was "delulu" (and this is coming from a stsg shipper too!) and just mlm shippers in general. i've noticed a lot of stsg shippers (on twitter) harrass gojohime shippers ("they don't even LIKE each other" "they barely interact, why would you ship them" "you guys are just homophobic cuz wtf is this") and act as if their ship is the superior one. a lot of mlm shippers in general like to act as shipping two dudes together is a form of activism and anyone who doesn't have an mlm ship is a homophobe 💀

ever since i got a twitter, i've slowly delved away from shipping cuz man can shippers be TOXIC. shipping's supposed to be fun. it's literally just us making two barbie dolls kiss and make up stories for them, THATS LITERALLY ALL WE'RE DOING 😭 but so many ppl are being so cruel over it by doxxing and making up lies about other ppl cuz they don't like their ships

as long as the tiktoker stayed respectful and didn't harass anyone or say anything homophobic towards stsg shippers, i don't really care if they're "delulu". shippers like to ship stuff after all. they can do whatever they want with their fictional characters, but if they start harming REAL PEOPLE over their nonexistent uwu babies, then you should report them or block them

but if they're not harming ppl, then just ignore them and don't interact with their posts. tiktok algorithm will assume you enjoy gojohime content and show you more on ur "for you" page

[scourgefrontiers]

not to be that guy again

but i also dont fuck with anybody who talks about "anti culture" or anything like that when it comes to how shit's portrayed in fiction. i super try to stay out of "proship vs anti" discourse bc its stupid as shit and i have other things to worry about than internet discourse. but i still cant help but express my beliefs which relate to the core argument

dont make me tap the sign. fictional exploration of pedophilia/incest/abuse/etc at all isnt the problem, its the way its portrayed. if youre out here portraying that shit as bad and inexcusable, then youre fine. if youre exploring it in a way that doesnt defend it, then youre fine. if youre out here saying that a 40 year old man getting it on with a 14 year old is cute or sexy, or that two brothers having a sloppy makeout is hot, then yeah im going to burn your house down with you in it

the thing about the "what about fictional murder??? ppl romanticize that all the time and you dont see people turning into murderers irl!" argument is that. well. people dont groom people with murder fics. ppl dont show others art of their favs getting murdered and then try to use that to justify them murdering someone. that just doesnt happen. what Does happen is that ppl use incest/pedophilic ships and art portraying it in a "cute" or "fun" light and they use that to justify their grooming actions. that does happen. ive Seen it happen.

and no, im not saying that getting rid of this depiction of these subjects in media or fanworks is going to Stop All Grooming. thats silly. i know that if theyre going to groom someone theyre going to find a way to do it anyway, im not an idiot. but all im saying is that this shit makes it easier, makes it more accessible, and may even make it more normalized, which i hope you can agree is a bad thing.

exploration is one thing! lots of gothic media has "problematic" shit like that in it. lots of fiction has gross shit that the author doesnt condone irl, theyre just exploring it through writing. however, romanticization is another thing. portraying it as cute and fun is another thing. trying to excuse it by saying its fiction is another thing. thats when you ascend to freak status in my book.

youre not ~making a statement~ by declaring yourself a Proud Proshipper--at least not the one you think you are. youre giving me the signal that you dont care about how certain subjects are portrayed even if theyre harmful, and youre telling me that i should stay far the fuck away from you.

last thing i'll say on this is that for the record i am also against purity culture. i dont think ppl should be watering down media to be Acceptable and Pure all the goddamn time. i dont think ppl should stay away from "problematic" media entirely as long as they can use their brains and be critical and not excuse or defend said problematic content. everything is problematic bitch lets get you some fruit. yknow? theres nuance and context to everything; things arent black and white. trying to take the problems out of everything is a waste of effort and frankly makes everything boring as shit. having said all this, the way things are portrayed and how you interact with them are still important factors and i will stand by that

aight rant over o7