#ideological trauma

[odiabonecessario]

I like the idea of feminism, I really like it in its essence. Having said that, sometimes I really don't know if the people behind it are doing it in bad faith or something else

I never liked the "Teach Men Not To Rape" idea because its title makes look like all men are inherently rapists and Its actual content is good and a must-have since it explains about clear consent both of men and women's perspective since it's common that women only realize and understand later she was raped

As much as I like its main goal, didn't it have any other title suggestions? And even if hypothetically there was no other title, why is it especially targeting only men if it's about consent? It has the potential to make women fully understand the depths of what counts as rape and even making sure men understand it too but it just seems like it was made to repel men rather than attract

Along with that, I also don't like the way feminism makes it seem like all men are secretly rapists due to the high statistics of raped and/or sexually harassed women and as much as there is merit in it at first glance I can't help but wonder how a movement focused on equality didn't stop to gather and match other statistics

If you pay attention to the kind of men that are rapists either from statistics or asking victims you'll see it's usually someone who has some sort of social power over them or are socially seen as a good person to the point even some of the victims give up keeping with the rape accusation due to the fear of people not believing them or the process not having any results due to people's rejection. Statistics also point out about most rapists having a count of victims that usually goes from two to six and most rape cases aren't even reported. It all matches like pieces of a puzzle, yet I never saw any feminist bringing any of it

On a similar note, the explanation behind the "all men are potential rapists" allegation feels like the same way bigots people talk about minorities by saying all men are like wild animals at their nature. Homophobics think all gays are inherently feminine and "sissies" because it's their nature and transphobics will point their finger whenever a trans men is doing something remotely seen as feminine even if it doesn't have any sort of actual correlation because they think they're women at their deep

I really like feminism's concept and I congratulate it for its achievements in women's rights, I just don't think it's currently with good faith or well educated people

[eclecticopposition]

seeing personality disorder discussion on the dashboard. the impulse to share all the self-therapy books and tools we have has never been stronger

[rotzaprachim]

the problem in a nutshell is that both zionism and antizionism aren’t hypothetical ideologies that can be easily defined as a sentence so much as messy continuums of ideas that have, when implemented on a state level, lead to the suffering, oppression, and displacement of hundreds of thousands of people and now diasporas in the millions. The problem is that neither exists as a morally pure ideology separate from what it has been shown, over the last couple decades, to be in the practical sense as an implemented ideology.

The problem is that when many Palestinians say Zionism is an inherently racist ideology that will lead to nothing but their displacement and national destruction they have good reason to believe exactly that, because that’s what Zionism, as an implemented ideology on the national level, has shown itself to do.

The problem is that when many Jews say Antizionism is an inherently antisemitic ideology that will lead to nothing but the censuring of ALL Jews, regardless of their ideology, as evil Zionists and their displacement and national destruction they have good reason to believe exactly that, because that’s what antizionism, we an implemented ideology on the national level, has shown itself to do.

i don’t think you can *two sides* the current state or situation, but you can ABSOLUTELY *two sides* these ideologies as contributing factors to Why We’re In this Situation especially as crackdowns in the name of both ideologies are leading to censure and ethnic tensions and outright violence globally. The thing is that I fundamentally do not believe that Jewish and Palestinian futures and liberations are incompatible. But I do think there is a global level of outright gaslighting millions of people as being “paranoid extremists” for believing that ideologies that have been enacted to hurt them for decades will continue to do so. If you want to fight extremism you have to be honest about what’s been done in the name of *your* ideology to begin with.

[nexischillin]

Tw: Christianity, religion

"God let the Devil take away Job's stuff to test his faith" I'd rather not worship a God who is going to let me be tormented just so he can prove my faithfulness. I'd rather not worship a God who is going to watch me be broken down before answering my prayers. To me that God sounds more like a sadistic fuck who likes having attention than this pure and all powerful being. That God and his people have done nothing for me, but make me afraid to express myself and strip me of my rights. I refuse to accept him as my God, no matter how many times it is shoved down my throat

[empty-blog-for-lurking]

My vld time travel au is really just- Beautiful morally grey women, who have close but concerning platonic relationship with Lance, and want Lotor dead/trying to violently murder him, not out of malice or vengeance or anything personal but simply because of pragmatic "it's for the greater good" reasons and they are sorta?? Right about it

[usernamesarehard1]

"Harry Potter is Also Ableist"

[abbabagel]

Sobbing and throwing up thinking about how Nagito genuinely blames his luck and by proxy himself for his parents dying

[quillandquotation]

Sylvia Plath wrote "Lady Lazarus" in 1962, during a creative burst of energy in the months before her death by suicide in 1963. The dark poem provides insight into a suicidal mind, a glimpse at the horror of being a woman in a patriarchal world, and a critique of society's twisted fascination with suffering." Lady Lazarus is told from the perspective of a woman in a male-dominated society, and the speaker repeatedly blames her suffering on the men whom she sees as oppressing her. The poem suggests that the men mentioned are the ones—whether loved ones or doctors—who keep bringing the speaker back to life, suggesting how little autonomy women can ever hope to have in a patriarchal world. 

[exvangelicalrage]

You Will Be Free Indeed

5/22/23

There's thing thing christians sometimes do, called "testimonies." Most of my memories of testimonies involve dudes with tattoos getting up in front of the congregation and saying something like, "I spent the last ten years in prison, and while I was there, I found jesus!" And then all the people say, "praise be" or "amen" or some such nonsense. Then the dude expounds on his story about how he did all these terrible things, but when he was born again, he felt the chains of sin fall away from him and he became "free indeed." 

(Side note, "Free indeed" is evangelical rhetoric/gaslighting designed to counter the realization that religion actually binds you.)

These testimonies weren't always from dudes with tattoos. Technically, everybody had a testimony. The formula was this: 

All the bad stuff you did —> your encounter with jesus and/or being born again — > how it changed you — > freedom

For example, "I used to be selfish but then I became born again and gave all of my self to christ and now I am free!" 

Or, "I used to be bound by the shackles of lust! Then jesus cleansed me of my sins and I was born again. I no longer feel constrained by my sinful desires. It's like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders!" 

Literally anything that counts as a "sin" works. Even if you were young, like I was, and hadn't experienced much in the way of deliberate sinfulness, you could simply swap out a specific sin with "sinful nature" or "sinful desires." 

"I was born sinful but then learned about jesus, accepted him into my heart, and now I know I don't have to give in to sin and am free in christ."

BAM: Testimony!

The proclamation of freedom at the end of a testimony has stuck with me.

There were tons of ways people described it, always very visceral and visual. Shackles breaking. A weight lifted from their shoulders. As if everything had been in darkness and now they could see the light. As if they had been limited or bound or contained in some way, but now they were released. Imprisoned, trapped, captive. And then freed.

I had this vision in my head of atheists walking around with a ball and chain hooked to each leg. With metaphorical backpacks that weighed hundreds of pounds making it impossible to keep their spines up straight. With black, slimy tendrils of sin licking around their bodies, pulling them into a quicksand of sin.

I could hardly imagine how non-christians slept at night. How did they not see the black cloud that followed them everywhere they went? Did they not imagine life could be better? 

Honestly, this intense visual is one of the reasons I stayed christian as long as I did. I didn't want to become like that. I didn't want life to be heavy. I didn't want to bear the weight of my sins—not when jesus had offered to do it for me. 

But eventually, the weight of my doubt grew heavier than the weight of my sins. After all, I'd spent my entire life trying to be as perfect as possible. Not to mention, jesus had supposedly cleansed me. 

So why did everything feel so heavy?

When I finally had the courage to Exit christianity, officially and for real, something crazy happened. You'll never believe it. 

I felt free.

It was like a metaphorical weight had been lifted. Like I'd been walking around with a ball and chain hooked to each leg—but now they were gone! Like I shed that metaphorical backpack that made it impossible for me to keep my spine straight. Like the black, slimy tendrils of christianity licking around my body and dragging me into the quicksand of religion had been utterly, irrevocably banished. 

The black cloud—gone! Only a blue sky above. 

Never had I ever imagined that life, existence, self could feel so light.

christians imagine that that sense of freedom comes from jesus. That the lightness comes from having your sins "forgiven." From choosing to live your life for god and walk on that dusty road to heaven, instead of the glittery road to hell.

But the truth is, that sense of freedom and lightness comes only in making the choice.  And which choice doesn't really matter. It's just that you made the right one for you.

It's about looking your own darkness in the face and saying, "No. I reject you."

Sometimes that darkness takes the form of the "sins" we've committed or the harm we've caused. Sometimes it's our guilt. Sometimes it might be mental illness. Or the trauma of past experiences. 

And sometimes, it's christianity.

[ex-foster]

"25% of [gender clinic] referrals spent time in foster care compared with 0.67% of the general population"

[racefortheironthrone]

Why are many conservatives so opposed to accepting generational trauma is a very real thing?

So part of it has to do with the belief in rugged individualism and the American Dream and so forth - it’s why people like Tim Scott and Nikki Haley can talk about their own experiences of racial discrimination but can’t tie it to a structural analysis, because it has to be the case that anyone can make it in America, shining city on a hill and so forth.

But I think a lot of it has to do with which groups of people experience generational trauma and the conservative desire to draw a line under history and declare “all that is in the past, we don’t do that any more, so everything that happens now is your own fault.” Hence wanting to define racism against black people as something that stopped in the Sixties and so now there’s no more need for civil rights enforcement let alone Affirmative Action. Hence wanting to say that attempts by white America to genocide Native Americans and expropriate their land was all a long time ago, and any current efforts to do something about persistent structural discrimination is special treatment. And so on with the poor, other groups of poc, Jews, etc.

In both cases, though, the underlying impulse is to avoid or discredit anything that would involve a critical analysis of the status quo, how current structures distribute benefits and costs, and how we got to it.

[aroacettorney]

this might have been the most ludger cherish coded thing casey has ever done and yet she didnt even need to learn it from him.

[nyan-bynary]

Sometimes I think about every fucked up interaction yuji and kenjaku have had and think "damn lil bro your mom fucking sucks"

[supahstarrr]

"whitemisia" are you fucking stupid.

[drunk-poets-society]

Here’s some moodboards I made for FD class for my collection. Thought u freaks might like it. Yummy delicious religious trauma 😍😍

[rotzaprachim]

fundamentally at odds with any us based franchise that fandomizes war as a money maker