#i swear this is not bi erasure

[walkingaftermidnight07]

me: i am a bisexual

*hot girl walks by*

me: i am a LESBIAN

*heart gets broken by the hot girl*

me: yeah no im bi

*hot guy enters the picture*

me: i take it back i am straight

*heart is shattered by said guy bc he doesn't like me back*

me: yeah no im bi. MYSELF.

[bi-chimneyy]

does anyone else feel kinda weird about when someone says "the gay firefighter" and they mean Eddie? as if Hen, Buck and Tommy aren't right there? (well ig Tommy might not be but still)... like I get it, it's funny, I'm not shitting on anyone's head canons but to erase the queer rep we do have (regardless of how imperfect it might be), because you think a the canonically heterosexual guy should be kissing men instead rubs me the wrong way.

[strugglingatart]

Funny, but not funny haha, funny weird that despite Gorgug being the one who has canonically kissed a guy that somehow Fabian, who only has expressed interest in women is the definitively gay™ to some of y'all

[elialys]

the way people just ignore the fact that Dale romantically loves Helen, or plain ignore Helen in general, im just, the audacity, the bi erasure

[future-exmrs-malcolm]

This is just something I'm curious about after discussing with a group of friends

[chloekat1]

That one scene from happy death day… yea

My beautiful girl 🥲 so cool to see my first dnd chara in an actual visual media eeee

[angell-castiglione]

RIP Colin, we had no idea you were one of the gays*

*Gay in the colloquial collective sense, I swear I’m not trying to do bi erasure when all his data’s already been expunged 😭

[multifandominfj]

I swear if I see one more fucking person say Francesca is a lesbian, when it’s is CLEAR 🩷💜💙 representation…FUCK OFF. Stop with the Bi erasure. Especially during Pride month.

I. Am. TIRED. 🤦🏻‍♀️😒

[poppitron360]

Hello :)

What is in your opinion a) the best Sapphic ship and b) what are your headcanons for them?

This has been in my ask box since may, and it’s been on my mind for a while.

So sorry I took ages to answer, I was waiting to finish the series so that I’d have all the relevant info (I’d heard Thalia x Reyna is a thing and I wanted to see for myself) don’t worry I HAVEN’T FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU-

Also, Life has gotten pretty badly in the way of things lately.

Tbh I haven’t really seen/paid attention to the sapphic ships in PJO.

Currently, drafting this before BoO, I’d say it’s probably Ruegard (Selena x Clarisse). While I very much think Beckendorf and Selena were in love, you can’t have two same-sex characters parallel Patroclus and Achilles and NOT have them be queer-coded (Unless Rick genuinely believed that Patrochillies really were just platonic besties, which is objectively false and factually incorrect and gay erasure honestly Rick).

I think Dying For Each Other IS queer culture (Valgrace for LIFEEEE).

While I swear by Aro/Ace Reyna and will die on this hill, the ships she’s paired with are cute dynamics.

- Theyna is badass. It gives similar vibes to Buffy x Faith from Buffy the Vampire Slayer (easily one of the non-canon sapphic ships of all time) I just love how when they first met Thalia kidnapped Reyna and Reyna hit her with a chair. I just see that and think “couple goals”.

- @demigod-shenanigans has forced me to think about Pipeyna and honestly yeah they would be really cute. Particularly their dynamic paired with Valgrace. I love Reyna and Jason’s friendship and I love her relationship with Leo.

- Reynabeth (is that a ship? It should be). Daughter of War Goddess x Daughter of War Goddess SUPREME!!!!

But also, we need more aro/ace rep in media. I heart my aro/ace siblings.

Pipabeth is also some of the most sapphic shit I’ve ever seen. I think it’s just RR not really knowing how female friendships work (or maybe it’s me never really having the kinda touchy-feely female friendship I see on TV all the time, and so being unable to comprehend that kind of platonic compassion, but I’m not gonna unpack that here) but you can’t tell me these aren’t two cottagecore lesbians collecting mushrooms and building a fence and shit that cottagecore lesbians do.

Also shoutout to Rachabeth and basically any sapphic Annabeth ship. She is bi in my mind.

Shelper is underdeveloped. There is so much potential in a mortal x demigod relationship that was explored a little bit with Perrachel but never fully. I need to write a fic about them at some point.

I was writing something earlier and ended up maybe starting a Nyssa x Lavinia ship (hardened grunge Lesbian x bubblegum Lesbian)

But my favourite???

EMMIE AND JO!!!

We NEVER get sapphic romances for old people. I NEED a spinoff about them. I mean, you’ve got the forbidden romance from being in the Hunters of Artemis turned marriage (Idk if they’re canonically married or not but they are in my mind) and you’ve got them being badass fighters and you’ve got them being moms to Leo and Georgina and basically everyone at the waystation. It seems like “giving up immortality for each other” is Rick’s standard for “true love” and Emmie and Jo did exactly that. I love them sm.

[hayleylovesjessica]

Calling Jessica Chastain’s Crimson Peak character a lesbian is bi erasure!

Sorry not sorry. But i will die on this hill. (Says bisexual responding to three bi erasures before lunch)

(Love your blog btw)

LOL, anon, I don't even remember what post you're referring to. All I know is that in an interview, Jessica said that she played Lucille like she was attracted to women, which is just... (chef's kiss). So, no bi erasure intended, I swear!

BTW, thanks for the love! I hope you have a great day!

[cassidy273]

Stuff I dislike in fanfic:

Note: I am not saying that you CAN'T write this stuff. There will always be tropes and other things that some people just don't like, and these are just some of mine. If you do any of the things listed here, PLEASE don't take this list as an insult.

When the fic is marked as complete, but when you eventually get to the end, it's obvious that it's not actually complete. This just pisses me off so much.

2. In x reader fics, when the character meant to be the reader runs away crying at the most random shit. Even when I was in my cringe Wattpad phase, when I read a fic where Y/N ran away from a neighbourhood barbeque in tears because a woman who mentioned that the love interest was attractive ONE TIME was there, I immediately clicked out.

3. Bad grammar. It's just been one of my massive pet peeves ever since I learned how to read and write.

4. When it's literally just a giant block of text. Like, no paragraph breaks whatsoever. I have trouble staying focused on one thing at a time already, this just annoys me.

5. Characters being forgiven WAY too easily. I read a fic with a part where Character A finds out Character B cheated on them with two different women at the same time (Character B told them all he was single), and all it took was a 'Darling, no, they meant nothing to me I swear' for them to be forgiven. I was gobsmacked.

6. No summaries. No offence meant if you don't write summaries, I just don't read fics without them.

7. Fics written specifically to bash certain ships. Like, I know Clay Puppington/Danielle Stopframe is toxic and unhealthy as fuck, leave me alone and let me read fanfic of them.

8. Sex positions that make me have to pause and just wonder how the actual hell a person can do that.

9. Not tagging something like Major Character Death because the author wanted to surprise the readers. I hate this because sometimes I wanna read fluffy and happy fics with absolutely no angst, and then this happens.

10. Bi erasure. As a bisexual person, it really annoys me when characters who have dated/been involved with (romantically or sexually) characters of the opposite gender in the past get called gay/lesbian for being involved with characters of the same gender. The same goes for characters who have been involved with characters of the same gender in the past getting called straight for being involved with characters of the opposite gender.

Once again, this is NOT meant to be offensive to anybody and if you were offended, I'm sorry.

[a-mel-tomelts]

Hi! I'm a charlastor shipper and also Ace with some side Aro, I'm still discovering/struggling with my own sexuality, but I can say I'm Ace.

This is a small rant and I speak this for myself and myself only.

There are lots of things I wanna say about the ship but I can simply say I love it. I think having Alastor in a relationship isn't a bad thing, AceAro can still be in a relationship, it's not black and white, it's a fluid spectrum (for me tbh, idk about what others think).

One thing I felt frustrated about the antis or the fandom in general, they used Alastor own Ace(Aro) card to dismiss charlastor. Now we have the bs father-daughter relationship excuse, not to mention, the bi-erasure.

Bi-erasure aside, people comments under charlastor contents with "but Alastor is Ace(Aro, usually Ace)" screams AceArophobics to me, it implied AceAro people can't have sex, can't be in a relationship, can't have a normal healthy sex life .

At first, it didn't bother me much until I kept seeing "but Alastor is ace" under charlastor contents everywhere. Maybe they didn't realised how AceArophobics they are, but that doesn't mean they should weaponized Alastor own sexuality and comment it under charlastor (or any ships!) posts.

It's hurtful how "X is AceAro" commented is, how the antis or the fandom didn't actually care about AceAro and just weaponized the ace(aro) cards of a fictional character to passive-aggressive toward X ships.

Not all Ace people is sex-replused! Not all Ace people doesn't like sex! Not all Ace people doesn't want to be in a relationship!

There are some personal rants I didn't put it here, but in the end, I don't speak for all AceAro. Nor others AceAro with different opinions speak for me.

But this is how I felt about antis and the people with "Alastor is ace" comments, to me, you're all Ace(Aro)phobics without realising it.

Tw//A lot of swears and rude words. I mention word BDSM and word dominated

Not gonna tag it.

I. Agree. SO much.

AroAce people or people on the spectrum CAN be in relationships and CAN have sex. They can kiss. They can do everything people in relationships do BUT they just would feel it differently! Not all people like this but a lot of aroace people I know like Queer-platonic relationships. The secret third thing between platonic and romantic. I have a friend who is AroAce but she's into BDSM! She doesn't feel sexual attraction AT ALL. But she likes the feeling of power or being dominated in a non-sexual way. (If I see people say "Well, then she's not Ace!" I will kick you.)

Even Markiplier, talking about Lady Demitrisu (how do I spell her name), said he would like to be dominated by her but not in a sexual way. It's about power. If people can fuck without feelings as FWB why can't Aces do the same?

I once was asked "Would you have fwb relationships with someone?" And I said "well, I won't be full on board with that but if it will help my friend - sure"

And you know what answer I got? "This is the most asexual answer"

Yeah. Alastor is ace - but ace people can have sex if they know it will please their partner.

Yes. Alastor is aromatic (I won't say on the spectrum.) but he clearly cares about Charlie and thinks of her as charming. So they can have something even if it will be different.

And since when did people care about sexuality?? Why do we care about fictional character's sexuality instead of real people? I know some people ship Vaggie and Angel. I also know people that ship Angel and Valentino. And you know what? If this person is not someone disgusting and they did no harm. Let them do whatever they want on the internet (it's a slippery slope. But I mean that people do whatever they want RESPONSIBLY). Let them ship some the most amoral things. Let them have their own corner as long as they realize the difference between fiction and reality. My policy will mark me as a "problematic shipper" but I honestly don't care. Pro shipping was never about problematic shipping - it was about respecting all kinds of shipping and ships.

If you are not into something - block it. Control your own space, set boundaries and be the one who makes the first move. A lot of times in life no one will stop talking about the things they like just because you don't like it. It will just make you an asshole to them or they'll think of you as someone weird and irresponsible.

Instead, you leave. You don't go to the place that makes you unhappy. You don't go somewhere just to rant and say "this is unacceptable!" When it's about INTERESTS.

If someone is actually concerning you because they CAN and WILL harm someone - then be aware and go hunting. Otherwise you are a boy that cries wolves.

[eldritchsun]

I found my Realm Of the Elderlings opinions in my diary and I still stand by them almost 5 years later

first entry and it's already terminal :

aug 30 2018

OHHHHH my god fitzchivalry YOU ARE THE REAL FOOL

i am so fucking done with this ABSOLUTE dumbass i can’t deal. the farseer books got me fucked up. he is SO stupid sometimes!! [ranting in french] fitz you are so self absorbed!!!! you really are just furious because u love the bastard. i swear to god fitzchivalry, just square the fuck up i’m teleporting to les six duchets just to shake you a lil

sep 26 2018

My ass is losing it reading The Liveship Traders!!!

Altheaaaaaa!! Mrs Hobb I BEG you!! We’ve suffered enough with One Dumbass Teenager! Fitzchilvary growing up is enough Pure Dumbassery-driven decision making for the next ten years of my life, and that’s from someone who’s still running on dumbassery themselves!!

The worst of it is... rn I’m like Althea... hoe plz... stop... but I can feel it. This is how Fitz got me... is this a stupid teenager with Big Problems who’s gonna grow through and despite them? What is this within my heart?

And Robin Hobb bursts through my door, my beating heart in her hands, slams it on the table and bellows “ITS THE SEEDS OF LOVE”

oct 19 2018

Kennit “[wintro's french name] is beautiful” Pirate King

Hobbs recurring gay themes r so ??? To me but at the same time bring me so much joy lol

Canon nonbinary Annoyance Fool “in love with Fitzchilvary” Prophet

Althea “drag king” Vestrit and lesbian/bi girl solidarity friendship with amber.

Malta “Homophobic Queen” Havre.

And now, absolute legend kennit “surcoure do you love me” pirate king. I know one gay couple is actually endgame over the course of Hobbs books [ndlr i don't remember wtf i was talking about] and I’m thinking it might be this one. I mean, it’s not great hashtag representation but it’s great story telling!

Sweet monk Wintrow with dumbass pirate kennit? Who’s completely and irrevocably in love and admiration for him?

This idiot of a kennit is literally constantly like [french ranting about kennit etta hate and wintrow love]

Lol kennit mate come out

however the next entry doesn't make much sense but features the sentences "kennit thinks he’s so smart!! Fuck you, half a pirate!!!" (the title of the entry (oct 26 2018) is "kennit bitchass of the century" so clearly he fell out of favour)

nov 26 2018

Literally in ROTE if I was there for one of Ambers prophecies I would legit be like... ok sis... wig?

nov 30 2018

Checked the notes on that women writers rec list and several other people already wrote “this is Robin Hobb erasure” in those exact words :’)

So in honour of this hivemind I must say : I am having the time of my life with the Liveship Traders, excites rant with (huge) spoilers ahead :

I am at that point where Kennit is about to get absolutely WRECKED and I swear to god it feels so satisfying. The character arc and development for every single character in these books is pure mastery. In the case of Kennit you really go from “what a despicable man he really just has luck on his side” to “well I guess even if he did good accidentally he still did good... I almost love this Awful Imbecile” and finish straight into “OH!! NEVERMIND he really was a despicable man the whole time!!!”, a pit of disgust right on time where the whole story is setting up to absolutely destroy him. Kennit is a great example of how “does the right thing for the wrong reasons” is not equivalent in terms of ethics as “does the right thing for the right reasons”. But to quote a great thinker “they really had us in that first half I’m not gonna lie!”

What I really like in these books is that the centristTM opinions of certain main characters are not automatically & heavily presented as the right ones. I am still cackling at Hiémain’s “but they didn’t deserve to die!!” bullshit not being put on a pedestal. Ms Hobb did that! Her mind! Also the Vestrit family not being given an (entirely, let’s be real) free pass for not standing up to Kyle and letting Vivacia happen. The main characters, the actual heroes try to pass off responsibility for bad things and in most media it’s like “but they didn’t directly kill someone with their own hands so aren’t they kinda innocent?”

and then it skips to a single entry line (dec 3 2018) "reyn khuprus is a massive idiot" :')

dec 12 2018

Fitz I missed u so much

I have not seen this boy for 9 books and this hoe is worried abt being ugly, please never change boo

dec 14 2018

Fitz and the fool interacting is genuinely maddening I’m just walking along like KISS! KISS! KISS!

Fitz you are an immense idiot and the smartest one of the bunch is the goddamn wolf.

Jan 8 2019

Ohhhh my goodness gracious

I have gone full baby on Dutiful, he is the sweetest most cute drama teen since Fitzchivalry himself. I love him with the force of an exploding sun. His interactions with every other character are both precious and absolutely hilarious. He’s got a great mini-me vibe going on with Fitz, wrapped in Hobbs usual delicious irony.

Also poor Dutiful so lonely and starving for warmth, human attention!! The bit where Fitz is like all them hoes been begging me for this for MONTHS but I just can’t say no to those baby blues. I was like congrats Dutiful you just got a dad! Free dad with your meal!

And the Fool interaction like Dutiful you lucky boy you! You went from zero dads to TWO! It’s buy one get one free.

This dad was kinda mean so I had to get another one to counter balance it.

Jan 15 2019

Fitzchilvary « Homophobia » Farseer

Fitz!!!!!!!! Fitz!!!!!!!! Robin Hobb I swear to god you better gay these boys up or i will see you in court

the latest entry is apparently post "the golden fool"

Jan 29 2019

BELOVED WENT HAND TO MOUUUUUUTH!!!!!!

I am absolutely losing it! hand to mouth hand to mouth !!! Fitz called him BELOVED!!!!!! YAS MF QUEEN! Icon! legend!

and if i remember rightly (which i don't, it was five years ago, i don't remember anything) i got real upset at queerbaiting and stopped reading. i like googled "are they actually gay" the answer came back hashtag no and i stopped reading out of disgust :/

[wanderingwriter87]

wasn't lil nas always publicly bi. like i know erasure etc but when he first came out i swear he tweeted "just because im gay doesn't mean i ain't straight" or smth and all my mutuals were like ohhh he's bi good for him. and then i guess everyone just forgot? i thought it was just. generally understood

[all-about-that-vinyl]

Entry 1: Sparrow’s online vinyl cafe (11/2/2023)

If you see this, please give it a read, two minutes of your time, please?

Cw for mild swearing and mention of losing a loved one (not graphic)

Hi. My names Sparrow, I’m 17 from and I’m Irish/English. I also use any pronouns :)

So, a bit about me. I decided to make a blog dedicated to music, specifically vinyl mainly cause it’s been a passion of mine ever since I was born really. My music taste hasn’t changed much in the past seven years, once I turned ten my music taste was pretty much solidified.

I started playing guitar at 7 and I recently got my first real fender Stratocaster and it’s the love of my life it’s called darkstar (name your guitars you’ll feel more obliged to play it) I still can’t learn chords for the life of me though-

Fun facts about me

- I literally only wear my doc martens even in the summer- they’ve been through a lot but there still in once piece

-I have asthma 💅

-im pansexual

-my favourite colour is red

Things about my profile

Ok so this is basically the terms and conditions of my account

- anyone of any age is allowed on here since the content will be majority PG if it is for some reason not I will put a warning. I swear a lot so that will be labelled.

- please do not message me if you are under 16 or over 19 and if your a 20 year old messaging me without a good reason I will just block you same goes for kids under 16.

-black lives matter that goes without saying and I am not afraid to bite an entitled arsehole of a person.

-If you are a n@tz!, p3d0, deamsexual (?!) or just anything under that category, DNI please. If I find out your interacting with my account I will report and block you.

-no bi, pan or any queer erasure. I think that goes without saying

-bullying won’t be tolerated unless it’s like that fun inside joke bullying you and your friends have, if your straight up belittling someone I’m reporting and blocking you-

Right the serious shit is over

Let’s talk about vinyl and music

Like I said before music has been such a significant part of my life since I was little I’ll always remember the CD and vinyl collection my dad had when I was growing up and his own Fender Stratocaster he had. Unfortunately my dad died in 2013 and I’m not entitled to any of his stuff until I’m 18. But my dad would love what I’m doing now, his own dream was to open his own record/music store and he very much passed that down onto me. He was never able to complete his dream so I’m trying for him. Sure this isn’t what he had in mind but this is all I have right now. Tumblr… I love collecting vinyl, I have 37 as of now and my collection is worth just over £1K.

Favourite bands?!

I love metal and rock, definitely my two favourite genres here’s a list too see what we have in common

- ghost (SWISS ?!)

- ACDC

- five finger death punch

- in this moment

- green day

- nirvana

- muse (I love muse)

- Shinedown

Anyway yea. If you see this, please leave a like, maybe a comment or a reblog, I really want to try and grow a community on here and make likeminded friends. It was good taking, until next time.

~ Sparrow

[dear-indies]

On Lady Bunny’s Instagram account, shes insinuating bi-erasure and spreading homophobia based on singer Dannii Minogue (Kylie’s sister) and that’s definitely wrong. I understand her comedy can be satire but when someone tries to correct the queen, she’s like ‘LOL’, and doesn’t give two shits about how rude she is. I swear, her and people whom enjoy watching Lady Bunny or RuPaul aren’t as iconic as they used to be.

Hey anon! I haven't read Bunny's posts which I guess Bunny made before what I'm reading now and I hate RuPaul so much so it tracks. I heard Dannii came out as queer (and I was so happy!) but now I'm confused because she said she's straight? If you have more information please let me know.

‘I have been lucky enough to know and work with the queer community most of my life and I can’t wait for Sunday night.  It’s all about girls who like girls, bring it on!’  She then said: ‘To clarify, there was no breakdown and I was not making an announcement that I’m a lesbian or queer, I’m straight and in a long term hetero relationship. ‘The Q&A with Catherine Bohart was wonderful and the reaction in the room and all the follow up questioning from the host, after that line, addressing me as a straight woman and ally is the clearest confirmation that this line was taken out of context and used as clickbait.