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chemmerson · 1 year ago

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WHY DO THESE THINGS ALWAYS HAPPEN TO ME!!!!!

#I have a bilingual diagnostic for a baby 2 year old on Friday #and my supervisor told us to prepare the PLS-5 spanish assessment #speaking as if we HAD that assessment in the materials center #so we are trusting her and taking her word for it #obviously someone has done it in the clinic before #so today i grab all the assessment forms for Friday for my partner and I #and there’s no Spanish forms #so im like ummmm okay #I tell my partner and we are searching high and low for this assessment #we even ask our clinic director #TURNS OUT THE DAMN ASSESSMENT ISNT EVEN ON FILE IN THE CLINIC!!!!!!#like girl !!!!!#i am🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃#so stressed #this is gonna be the most informal diagnostic which makes writing the report even harder #i need to be done so bad #im just so burnt out and things like this don’t help #HALDLWOFHAMDNNAMDKQJFNMQKD #anywayssssss #em’s brain dump

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hansoeii · 7 months ago

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this one's for you, edwin paine

#charles said he misses kissing so I did what had to be done #these two won't leave my brain #which is bad cos I REALLY need to focus on my final #but oh well #what can I do #dead boy detectives #DBD #dead boy detectives fanart #painland fanart #chedwin #chedwin fanart #my art #digital art #fanart #my fanart

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lotus-pear · 2 months ago

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charm stat at debonair ‼️‼️

#WOW WHO WOULD HAVE FUCKING THOUGHT THEYD BE MY FAVORITES. THIS TOTALLY WASNT EXPECTED. NOT AT ALL.#i have lots of persona art its just uncolored dw #doing the shujin trio next i miss them so bad☹️☹️ also i need pegoryu content to stay sane and alive #anyway they're like. actually fucking insane 💀💀💀💀#like lawlight level toxic yaoi its so absurd #like i was like damn soukoku is intense WHO ARE THESE FREAKS #WHY THE FUCK ARE THEY LIKE THIS.#ACTUALLY FUCKING INSANE. LIKE EXTREMELY MENTAL AND SICK IN THE HEAD.#AKECHI IS A FUCKING PSYCHOPATH #god they actually make me so fucking AUAUAUUUUUUUUUGHHHHHHH #i NEED to finish royal shidos palace GUTTED ME #they were initially so funny to me bc right off the bat you can tell how much of a FREAK akechi is just paraphrasing hegel #and being so ferevently obsessed with ren its like bro why is this guy straightup dickriding us for telling him we like our eggs well done #ANYWAY their dynamic always felt so sad to me bc it was akechi just desperately clawing for what ren had the entire time ☹️#and the more he realized how worthless he was in comparison the more mentally unhinged he became until he actually broke #me when the trope is “the love was there but it wasn't enough to save them” 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 (FUCKING DEVASTATING)#ermmm anyway yea they're neat. ig #persona 5 #persona 5 royal #p5 #p5r #ren amamiya #akira kurusu #goro akechi #shuake #akeshu #lotus draws

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giantkillerjack · 2 years ago

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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noodles-and-tea · 2 months ago

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MY BBG POOKIE PIE!!!

#I’ve seen like 3 posts talking about how the “babygirl-ification” of fiddleford is an issue #and that he needs to be held accountable for his bad actions #so I’m here to tell you that #he has never done anything wrong and will never do anything wrong ever in his life #:))))#IM JOKING #I’m about to ramble in the tags btw #in seriousness I think the people that make Fidds “babygirl” if you will are people who are drawn to the complexities of his character #the people that appreciate the complexities and not ignoring them #maybe I’m just speaking for myself here but I think he’s such an interesting and cool character #the babygirlification happens after that tho but not instead of #except for in my au where he literally doesn’t do anything wrong and is perfect :)#my art #fiddleford hadron mcgucket #fiddleford mcgucket #gravity falls

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wasyago · 10 months ago

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a random cleo in armor

#wanted to draw here but didn't have any ideas. when in doubt draw armor☝️#cleo is fun to draw i like her color scheme. but i still need to get better at drawing different body types #this one isn't bad but i feel like i could've done better. need to practice more #hermitcraft #zombiecleo #my art #sketch #also im rushing to post all the backlogged hc art before season 10 starts so there will be 2(+) post per day until then #it's not necessary but i feel like otherwise it'll just drown in the new stuff

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starjunkyard · 5 months ago

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Hilson should have had ONE. (1) honest to god fistfight. Not talking about no pansy ass scuffle either i need a FIGHT. Im talking bloodied noses nd bruised cheeks. I need them to exchange words that will alter the course of their relationship forever. MOST OF ALL. They need to make out nastystyle afterwards

#Drawing this was so fuckingfunny because house is so absolutely into this HHEKELALLAOAPPPAOSJHHAGHEHU #Yes i tried to draw this homoerotic as possible but simultaneously house by nature would be SO into this i dont even get a say in it #LOOK AT HIS FACE #Wilson would get MAD mad and house would be like “😳😳😏😏” Hes such a little freak. What fucking ever #House needed to get jumped soooo bad chase swinging on his ass is still to date the best thing hes ever done in-show #Im not even sayingthis becayse i hate house i fucking love house actually one of my charactersof all time #But the shit this man pulls sometimes. Bro #like u need to get jumped. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD #johan being crazy about yaoi md #johan's scrapbook #house md #house md fanart #hilson #hilson fanart #james wilson #gregory house

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teaboot · 20 days ago

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Social anxiety level: Chatting with someone experiencing a schizophrenic episode and becoming increasingly self-concious of how I'm just saying "That sounds really stressful", "I've never heard of that but it sounds scary", and "You must be pretty worried about that" over and over again

#They needed someone to wait with them while their friend came to pick them up #And the whole time I was waiting for them to call bullshit #Like YOU HAVENT SAID ANYTHING MEANINGFUL YOURE SO BAD AT THIS #I'm sorry I'm making this one about me ma'am I'm just terrified that everyone I talk to is gonna give be a bad grade #I don't understand or beleive most of what you're saying but from the legit science you're quoting I can tell you've done some research #The research stuff I appreciate we can totally talk about that #Please God let me talk about Chordata or HTML instead of the thing I can't see or hear wouthout encouraging your delusion #I'd get SUCH a good grade at discussing invertebrates with you

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why-the-heck-not · 15 days ago

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me, a responsible being, working on the coding project as I should vs. me, a dysfunctional shithead, getting distracted by reading about brains (once aGAIN damnit (it's my favorite "I need to study my field but bc I should do that it's an impossible unthinkable feat now, so I'm reading about something else to fool my brain I'm still being productive"-topic))