#i might have actually gotten infp?

[ikkan]

took the MBTI quiz, I got INFP

when i first took it, back in my teens, i got ISFJ....i think both fit me? maybe INFP a little more? now that i’m an adult

[oiblackestsheep]

what, in your opinion, are an intp’s needs in a relationship? (coming from an infj.) love your blog, you’ve got some amazing insights 🫶

Aww, thanks INFJ anon. 🫶 I try my best to have interesting insights that bring something fresh to the table!

INTP's Needs in a Relationship

I've been in the same relationship for 8.5 years (and we actually MET ON TUMBLR BECAUSE OF THIS BLOG WHICH IS SO FUNNY AND NERDY), all of this to say, I've had a lot of time to think about my relationship needs even from the MBTI perspective as an INTP, because that was how my ENFJ and I kinda started out getting to know, like, what we each needed from each other, so, here we go!

Disclaimer: This is assuming that the INTP is already getting everything that everyone needs in a basic healthy relationship like, you know, feeling emotionally safe and being treated with respect, etc..

Intellectual stimulation: INTPs generally love understanding new things and how they work, so ideally their partner can share that interest with them in some way! They can be pretty curious people, so joining them in their quest for uncovering the "how" and "why" of everything will make them feel understood, themselves, and closer to you in the process!

Clear explanations of your feelings: Because INTPs have inferior Fe, they tend to have a habit of intellectualizing their own emotions when they talk about them, which can cause complications with understanding other people's emotions, too. Finding a way to be patient and know that even healthy INTPs might still struggle with connecting with other people's emotions (especially at first in a relationship) isn't necessarily because they don't want to, but more that it doesn't always come naturally, so they don't always know how to. If they're a healthy person, they will want to understand, just try not to take it personally while they are practicing/learning!

Alone time: This one should be pretty straight-forward lmao. They're introverted, so they like to recharge doing solo-activities, and they're intuitives, so they have their own little theoretical world full of bizarre ideas to entertain themselves with that might not always be easy to follow at first. I find that introverts in general (maybe the INxx types even moreso) like to engage in parallel play where their partner also does something quietly nearby, but still a separate activity. As an INFJ, yourself, I'm sure you can relate in your own way, so it's likely easy to give them what they need!

Humor them/hear them out: This might sound a little vague, and I guess in some ways it is, but this is mostly about their auxiliary Ne. ENTPs and ENFPs get most of the attention when it comes to high Ne, but INTPs (and INFPs, too!) place a lot of importance on it, too, which can often manifest itself in conversations like "what if __", "imagine if __", etc.. To put it bluntly, it might seem a bit... directionless, and that's because sometimes it kind of is! It's just about thinking of random possibilities that are non-serious and funny in the moment, and don't really go anywhere else outside of the current discussion or hold any larger, overarching significance. Sometimes it's less about the actual topic itself, and more about having some random fun and "playing along" that makes a world of a difference to a playful INTP (or high Ne user in general). This point got away from me a little bit which I think, in a way, is the perfect exemplification of what I was trying to say in the first place, lmao. Hope that makes sense! If your INTP ever sounds like whatever the hell I just said, just try not to disengage right away, because they probably have a point that they are struggling to reach. Put that dom Ni to work and summarize it for them, I know you can do it from experience with my own ENFJ lmao.

Anyway, uhhhhh: Every single point on this list has gotten progressively longer because my Ne loves extrapolating (and I love Ne, but sometimes its gotta CHILL you know?), so I'm gonna end it here before it gets WILDLY OUT OF CONTROL.

This was a fun question, anon!: Thanks again for reaching out, and basically giving me full range to just write multiple paragraphs about myself and my relationship!

[personality-corner]

My Thoughts on Popular Personality Websites

Inspired by conversations happening in the comment section of this post (shout out to @istj-mbti and @flayedsheep )

16 Personalities

Ah, 16 personalities, the enemy of the MBTI community… I’m joking… kind of. In all seriousness though, 16 personalities is really more similar to the Big Five personality types, than it is to MBTI. It can be a great tool… just not for understanding MBTI.

If you take it, you might get an accurate type, but more often than not… you won’t. I’m an INTP, and for the longest time, I always got INFP or INFJ on this test. My ISFP friend and ENFP friend both got INFP, and my INTJ friend has gotten variations, from INFJ, INTP to his actual type.

It has a big intuitive bias, and even though most of the MBTI community rejects this website, I definitely feel like this website is responsible for the intuitive bias present in the community. The biggest flaw however, is the disregard for cognitive functions.

And I get it. Cognitive functions are complicated and not everyone wants to sit down and learn the cognitive functions, and they really wanted to market this test for general audiences

I do think that alot of people who get into MBTI, start with this test, because it is so universally used in schools and jobs and stuff.

Personality Database

I have mixed opinions on PDB. Hypothetically, it’s a great place for discussions, when it comes to fictional characters, but like most MBTI forums it can turn sour very quickly, and it’s filled with people that have varied understanding of MBTI or enneagram.

Like, you’ll have a lot of adults who have been into MBTI for years and have a strong understanding of all the types, you have people who are just learning what cognitive functions are, then you’ll have teenagers who have just taken the 16 personalities test.

So in general, typings on that website are very hit or miss, but it’s a really great place to start when I’m unsure about a character typing, and want to see arguments other people have. However, I really hate when people use the typings on that site as the end-all-be-all of character types.

I mean, look at this?

Anna and Mirabel? ENFPs? I don’t have a super popular opinion on Anna’s typing but… ENFP?! Really? Also, how tf is Mirabel ANYTHING but an Fe user?

I agree on the consensus for Mulan though.

Sarkinova.net

I do think that out of the majority of the MBTI tests online, this one is the most accurate, because it takes cognitive functions into account. However I do have a few concerns with it, the first being its so long lol.

I know that they want to get the most in depth understanding of a person, but a lot of the times, it just feels like they are asking the same questions over and over again, but with different wording, and that can make it frustrating, and a lot of the time, I don’t finish it.

Not to mention, even though this one is more accurate than most, there are always flaws with these types of test. No test will be in depth enough to understand you enough as a person to give you an accurate type. This is another test I’ve taken multiple times and have been given a different type.

Though I will give the test credit, this one has been given me my actual type before… so at least there’s that. I do think if you’re going to take a test, this one is a good one to take.

MBTI Online

No judgement… but I am begging people to not pay 60 dollars for this test. You can find ones that are just as good for cheaper, or even better yet, free. This test isn’t going to give you anything any other test will.

I do know someone who spent the 60 dollars, and still got mistyped by it sooo… yeah. If you really want to take it, by all means, go ahead, I just wouldn’t.

[vai3r13]

Hello hello! :) I’m here for our matchup trade for Black Butler! (I sent the pictures for the Paparazzi end :) )

Starting off I am a neurodivergent, queer (but attracted to masculinity) female. I go by she/they and im an INFP Sagittarius.

Physically, I am a 5’2” but wear platform converse or boots every day of my life. Style wise, im definitely alternative. However, Im also a fan of the baggy jeans, tight top, kinda side of grunge. Im also a sucker for black with pastels, so I suppose my color pallete would fall under “Pastel Goth” or something similar. I actually really love the style called “Morute” which stands for “Morbidly Cute”. I just absolutely adore the creepy-cute combination, and i aspire to look like a creepy doll somedays.

That also would lead into hobbies, as I love dolls! I collect them and will gush over them any time i see one in public i like. Especially going to cons and seeing the little stands with BJD dolls? I go feral-...and broke. My entire room is decorated in pretty dolls, anime figures, manga, and cherry blossom vines. (I really want a cherry blossom tattoo on my back but im terrified of needles-) My other hobbies include writing, skateboarding, singing/making music, and dancing! I have a band with friends right now. I’m training my voice to be a metal singer despite having a feminine voice, so im a bit shy with it right now.

Personality wise, I suppose it tends to fluctuate, but i think what sticks the most is that I'm extremely sweet and loyal. I used to be very shy, and can even be pretty quiet nowadays too. Im definitely introverted but, ive gotten much better with it. Friends would definitely say that im bubbly, always trying to laugh. Definitely witty too because I absolutely love bantering and softly bullying people. Id say im very emotionally intelligent when it comes to other people. Im definitely a realist, and im told im very good with advice and empathizing with people. I feel i understand other emotions more than mine sometimes. Which annoys me- Because I have a habit of not expressing anything negative. I think it might be due to past trauma, but I have a hard time staying angry or upset with people. Its like- once you screw me over, i have no issues getting rid of you. I dont like that i can easily disconnect from people, as I feel it makes me sound like a bad person, but I just feel l like if i know my worth, and someone isnt treating me as they should, I shouldnt keep them in my life. That does go to say though, that I am an all or nothing person with people I care about. If i am your friend, I trust you can come to me with anything and I vice versa no matter what. I always come through and i expect the same. 

Another bad habit though would be disappearing. I wouldnt call it ghosting because I always pop back up, but I usually dont respond or see people for weeks or even months, even close friends. Most that are close know that if they need to talk to me, they have to double text or call me. Ill always answer then. I dont mean to, I just for some reason am really consistent with randomly dropping off the face of the earth for everyone but my partner, or person closest. Texts are always paragraphs though! Im not a dry texter, just forget I exist and have to respond :) Not to mention, i have ran away out of state before just for the sake of going and exploring. (Did a lot of Urbex and trespassing- it was fun but i dont think ill ever go to abandon buildings like that again. That doesnt mean ill stop climbing trains though!) I just love road trips and little late night adventures. 

Some notes about me… Id say my fears involve needles, the dark (I sleep with a nightlight but love horror-), Clowns, and deep water. I cannot swim and have nearly drowned before so I actually hate going swimming. I dont see the appeal and start to panic if i cant see or touch the bottom. I wouldnt say im scared of spiders though like most. I actually am the person my job calls for to grab spiders and take them outside. If theyre cute, ill just grab them with my hand. Another thing is that I have OCD and PTSD. My OCD isnt the typical stereotype of being clean, Im just very routine with patterns. The person im with has to be okay with frequent alarms I set for different time frames, my strange eating habits (I cant have anything touching, one food at a time, soft foods over crunchy, and i absolutely love bananas but cant eat them unless someone peels them for me while im not looking) I also get very paranoid about certain things, like for example, i get little episodes sometimes where I freak out because I believe Ill inherent my dads schizophrenia and Ill because dissociated with reality, so whoever im with needs to be able to help assure me i wont just lose my mind- That being said, my least favorite love language is touch! I can be touched, but its very easy to overwhelm my due to past trauma. I also flinch very easily without even thinking and it gets annoying when people make fun of it. Because of this as well, im a very silent walker and tend to scare people because i subconsciously make myself as unnoticeable as possible. Im also an insomniac. I will not go to bed until the sun is up, and even then I wake up very easily. My doctor keeps trying to give me medications for it so i can sleep better, but its so ironic because I stop taking them constantly because I hate feeling tired. SO someone who doesnt mind being up a bit late would be appreciated :) 

Random facts are: I absolutely adore raccoons and rats, and used to be a rat mom! I’ll spit out little rodent facts like im google. I know morse code. Im an amazing driver. I will get you there fast and safe….fast as in i max out my car frequently and if i get one more traffic misconduct i lose my license. BUT i know how to be safe with taking those risks, if that makes sense? Like i know where and when to speed and when not to- Most people fear getting in the car with me. But other than that, i think that’s it for now! Thank you <3

Hello!<3 @xxchthonicreaturexx

I apologize for any mistakes! English is not my native language and I'm new to writing:) Written in "you" perspective

possible tw - talk of mental health, mentions of unhealthy relationship ig? idk how healthy grim reapers r, mentions of drowning and suicide

barely proofread

To start, you're gorg and going off of everything I think your Black Butler match would be..

Undertaker !!

Both visually and personality wise I think you would compliment each-other! In my opinion your energies have something similar.

visual

I think Undertaker would like your piercings, he has an industrial himself.

small head cannons

You both have black nail polish, so painting each others nails as a cute activity:)

Doing each others eyeliner/make up.

classic

Undertakers mbti type most likely is ISTJ while yours is INFP. While your compatibility can seem difficult at first, by appreciating each others differences you "balance" each other out.

Sagittarius and Aquarius are an energetic match, being air and fire signs your elements fit seamlessly. In astrology, air feeds fire.

"i can easily disconnect from people"

Is a trait both of your star signs posses, a similarity that needs to be balanced between the two of you.

In terms of style I can see you in lots of similar/ partner outfits, as your style is somewhat similar too. Undertaker would, just like you, adore pastel goth and a creepy cute, dolly like aesthetic, - not on him but most definitely on his partner.

I think Undertaker would definitely share your love for dolls, acquiring many dolls and gifting them to you.

As we can see in the Luxury Liner arc, I'd say he has his own love for "dolls", if you know what I'm saying.

As for your other hobbies I think Undertaker wouldn't exactly share your interest in them, but he'd definitely support you. Ex. Watching your band perform, making tea to soothe your voice after you've practiced. He'd definitely be one to annoy and tease you in a joking manner, while you're writing or doing other things.

You being more calm/quiet and Undertakers more energetic and chaotic certainly harmonize. You'd participate in a lot of witty banter and Undertakers life mission would be to make you laugh all the time. He'd adore your sweetness and bubbly-ness (is that even a word??) and your loyalty would be VERY important to him. While he acts and is mostly carefree, I think deep down he still wary of deep connections with people, as he doesn't really have friends.

When he achieves said connection tho he might not always act like it but he'd be sort of possessive. Wouldn't let you get very close to Sebastian or Ciel out of a fear, that they would use you against him in some way. It takes a while for him to tell you what he is, it takes him a while to trust someone 100% wouldn't talk about how it happened tho.

I think arguments wouldn't happen very often, when they do tho they would happen out of Undertakers disregard for "human customs", ex. relationships with other people, etc. Undertaker doesn't resort to screaming, he wouldn't even comprehend that you're mad or annoyed with him. After a few days of not talking much he'd try and talk, bring you something, dolls, sweets, whatever. Makes you sit down and explain what's bothering you, wouldn't always get it but he'd try. Makes up by gifting you dolls or figurines.

Would get worried the first few times you disappear, always manages to find you tho. Absolutely goes exploring with you, might not say it but part of the reason why, is because he's worried about you.

Teases you about your fear of the dark, always lights a candle for you at night tho. Undertaker has died through drowning, as shown in a manga panel, so he shares your fear of water. It serves as a constant reminder for him, so you both don't see the appeal.

Might sound weird but he's fascinated with your OCD habits, he asks you about them. Once you explained them, he always makes sure that your food is arranged the way you like it and peels your bananas for you. Doesn't mind the alarms you set, can be your personal alarm clock actually.

Undertaker has dealt with a lot throughout his long life, he has his own problems. He will always assure you that you're going to be okay. Another thing, that might seem insensitive but sometimes he'd joke that you'll be "crazy" together.

Undertaker's very touchy by nature, I would say. After noticing you flinch, he'd be unsure if his presence and being a grim reaper still intimidates you in some way, if he decides talking to you about it, Undertaker will resort to gift giving and quality time.

Being a quiet walker doesn't matter with Undertaker, as he senses your presence, he isn't human after all, or easy to startle.

Grim Reapers require both sleep and sustenance, but have you seen Undertaker? That man runs on two hours of sleep maximum, he also definitely wouldn't mind staying up late. Dancing late at night, while nobody is watching, is definitely a reoccurring activity in a relationship with the Undertaker. He can be a bit overbearing at times.

Depending what century you're imagining this in, Undertaker loves when you drive, it's sort of an adrenaline rush for him.

head canons

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Doing each others makeup, sitting on a coffin or your bed. "You have to be still, for me not to smudge the eyeliner!!", while he tries to tickle or smooch you.

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Painting each others nails and making a cute date night out of it, lots of candles around you for the atmosphere. Playful banter, which ends in you two cuddling in a coffin.

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Going out to explore the woods, him following closely behind you, suddenly disappearing just to appear in front of you, scaring you in the process, making Undertaker burst out laughing. Holding out a hand to help you climb onto things.

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Exploring the city at night, when the people are sleeping and the bustling and usually loud streets of London are completely empty. Even jumping roof to roof. (This reminded me of that one Howl's moving castle scene. 01:47-02:10 in the linked video)

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Late at night, while both of you aren't sleeping, Undertakers shop is dark, except for the dozens of candles littered across the room, as a music box starts playing a soft melody. Undertaker coming up behind you and offering you a hand, as you start dancing across his shop, moving through the space together, occasionally stepping on each others feet and giggling.

Again, it's my first time writing and English isn't my first language. I hope you could still enjoy this<3

[autisticempathydaemon]

for your matchup game! thank you for doing these they look super fun though i’m sure you’re super busy with them lol!!

* my fave song in the last few weeks has been otherside which is a minecraft song. it’s got a sick beat drop and i like listening to it for focus music

* 2w1

* I don’t know about gargantuan BUT i do love a good video essay/deep dive. mike’s mics pretty little liars vids have been my go to the last few months

* i don’t actually remember having an imaginary friend :/ my parents said i had one, and most i can remember is we used to have tea parties

* i have to have asmr or some kind of ambient noise in order to fall asleep, and i also have to have my body pillow to hug or else i cannot sleep

* emily irene. it’s the name my parents were going to give me bc it honored their grandparents but my mom hated irene (my dads grandmothers name) so she refused. i’ve always wanted to change it to that.

* probably camping with your tsundere alpha werewolf boyfriend because it’s the first real time we’ve seen davey share memories about his dad in a peaceful way, which was really nice. also the scratch offs reminded me of my own dad bc it was something he used to do for me and my sisters and it made me cry after listening and i had to call him and tell him i missed him LOL

* james probably? i just haven’t rlly gotten around to listening to all of the audios with james anton and marcus yet (still p new to the fandom)

* howl’s moving castle

* damien. i think we could commiserate over a really nice chocolate cheesecake abt our mommy issues.

* internet drama i come across. i have a bad habit of digging myself down a rabbit hole of the most inane internet drama and then telling my best friend abt it when we’re both sleepy but not ready to SleepTM yet

* reese’s sticks and a dr pepper, or if i’m feeling savory it’s pringles and a dr pepper and if they have slushies/icees then it’s a cherry slushie/icee and whichever above snack i’m feeling

* i have a playlist called georgia peach which is a country music playlist i made of all the old music i grew up on. i like listening to it on warmer days when i’m on a drive

* a tie between the twilight movies and bbc sherlock but i feel like twilight is more um. socially accepted, at least on social media. bbc sherlock is only the first 2 seasons

* ummm i’m a libra. myer briggs type is infp. i’m autistic/have adhd. i have a black cat named pika whomst i love dearly, i used to love reading as a kid but i kind of fell off and i’ve been trying to get back into it recently, i’m a middle child, i like farming sim games and rpg games and narrative games (like telltale games) and romcoms and some light horror movies. my top 5 movies of all time are howl’s moving castle, pride and prejudice (2005), scream, pacific rim, and the princess bride. my top artist the last 7 years in a row on spotify was hozier. my current favorite author is emily henry. my love language for giving is quality time/gift giving, receiving is acts of service/quality time.

Anon, I am gently patting your cheeks, I adore you so. You’ve given me so much information to work with, and every bit that I got just further cemented my hypothesis that you’ve gotta be paired with Huxley.

Speed run, let’s go- Type Two’s are characterized by a desire to be loved and confident in that love; Huxley leaves no room for doubt. Your sisters would probably be protective and want the best boyfriend for you; does it get better than Huxley? You’ve got mommy issues; he’s got two amazing moms who’ll love you and heal them. You’re autistic; we’ve got proof Huxley’s awesome with autistic people (i.e Damien and Lasko).

You and Huxley would make each other so endlessly happy. I think both of you are big “Quality Time” people, so nothing makes you feel more loved than a simple, domestic weekend at home. Huxley loves those cozy, lazy days of cuddling your cat (which loves him duh) and reading together. The only kind of day he might like better is y’all going for a hike or leisurely drive together, singing along to country music on the radio. (He definitely has a soft spot for the same genre, having heard his moms listen to it when he was a kid.)

Song:

First time that I saw you, mmm/ You took my breath away/ I might not get to Heaven/ But I walked with the angels that day/ She takes me by the hand/ I am the luckiest man alive/ Did I tell you, baby/ You are the joy of my life?

Speaking of country, I love to imagine Huxley as a Chris Stapleton fan specifically. He’s just so quintessentially, classically country and writes the dreamiest love songs; I can totally see young!Huxley singing Tennessee Whiskey long before he ever drank alcohol. Now, he sings it and other Stapleton songs like this to you. (Badly, I might add. I like to headcanon that Huxley can’t hold a tune to save his life, but he pulls it off well.)

Runner-ups:

Asher would be a fun runner-up for you because I think y’all would have fun playing games, like next to each other and with each other, you know? Like, imagine running a Stardew farm with Asher; it’d be chaotic and amazing. I also like Lasko for you as a runner-up, because who better gets mommy issues than another person with mommy issues, you dig? /lh

note: Irene is such a cute name boooo anon’s mom /lh

Read this post and send me an ask if you’d like a match-up of your own! 💌

[all-that-tmnt-jazz]

Hello! I was wondering if you're still opening match-ups? If you're not its okay! Im not forcing ya.

Im actually a female (Bi), an aries, my height is 5'4", i have short black hair, i wore a glasses (sometimes if i can't see afar) i wore dark clothes a lot.

i can speak chinese (a bit) and also japanese (a bit too) and ofc i can speak english.

 im a actually a INFP, an introvert, polite, patient/calm person, if you met me im always shy and akward when i socialize people, (but people actually see me a quiet, distant and emotionless person, because i have trust issues). When you know me a lot, i might comfortable and might sometimes show my childish or playful behavour it depends on my mood. I'm actually having problems with my emotions/anger issues and decide to not show it to le people what i felt and so hid my emotions/feelings. (I suddenly emotionless when im depressed)

(Ps: im bad at lying)

I have a anxiety, whenever i felt uncomfortable sometimes easily get panicked.

Im also sensitive person, when someone shouted me, i would actually flinched/afraid or easily cried.

I actually hate loud noises or screaming/shouting, i easily get triggered or irrated and people staring at me (it makes me uncomfortable, also staring is rude)

 I love listening some any music (a lot).

I love watching anime and ghibli movies.

I can play piano or violin.

I like to dancing waltz dance. (Still practicing).

I read books (which is arts and science and poetry) i like learning about Biologist.

 I love to draw, when you see me drawing/doodling im kinda quickly hid it and shy to show it because my arts/drawing wasn't that good, it kinda looked like anime-ish(im also draw in digital).

I can do martial arts, i used it for self-defence or protecting my friends.

I like sleeping A LOT.

The way i give affections which is giving some hugs and kisses or even a head pat. (i also use it as comfort or i want to)

When it comes someone is having arguement with me, i dont want to say something horrible or hurtful words when i can't control my anger or temper, so its better that i say nothing and calmly walk away.

Hope it's okay for you, Thx! 🌸

Ps: your blog is cool and your stories too! 🐢💕

Hi! Okay so. I was kinda torn between two with your entry so I'm gonna put both and why.

Here we go :)

Leo

He loves watching Studio Ghibli movies with you.

(His favorite is "My Neighbor Totoro." He knows it's popular, but he gets it- it's a good movie)

He tries to understand your emotions to help you- he also has a bit of anger issues, but he's gotten a better handle on it than Raph.

He knows many types of meditations because of Splinter, so he offers to guide you through some to see if it helps.

He is proud that to avoid saying something hurtful, you just walk away- that is something that took him a while to learn.

Mikey stole your glasses once.

He never stole them twice.

(P.S You and Leo had both ganged up on Mikey)

Raph also yelled at you once.

He never did again.

(You had started crying, and Leo started to fight him- Splinter had to get involved)

Since he usually sleeps during the day, he doesn't get to sleep with you often.

But you do nap when you have time, so you always go to him to cuddle.

He never said this, but he loves it when you pat his head. He finds it adorable.

Donnie

Okay. "Ponyo." The best Ghibli movie.

(He will fight you on this.)

He's pretty into psychology, so he tries to break down your emotions- that way, both of you can figure out what's going on in your head.

He is also pretty into biology, so he loves talking to you about that and exchanging books about it.

He realized your glasses have a similar prescription as his

(He's also pretty blind.)

He mostly listens to study music and other similar genres, but he also loves hearing your music taste.

He learns a lot about people through what they like- especially through the arts (like music)

He finds it awesome that you're learning martial arts.

He offers to help you with some defensive moves since he knows that you're learning to protect yourself.

He is usually too tall for head pats, but he loves hugging you- your head always goes right next to his heart.

He is the one who helps with your anger the most because of that

You love that your head goes right next to his heart

It helps calm you down just as much as it does to him.

He has asked you to play piano/violin for him.

[mambalae-s]

hi hi mamba, i want to start this off with a congrats and a thank you so much for putting in the work and the energy to do this event. i really appreciate it so much and i'm so so proud of you. you're doing wonderful, darling !

for your event, i actually can't decide myself so i'm going to give you the choice to pick for me between toji and satoru from jjk - (i really really hope you're not indecisive and are able to work well under pressure ! but you can let me know if you need me to choose one);

this might need a bit of a trigger warning, but something i'm still learning to love about myself is my weight and my body. i kinda struggle with my eating habits a little bit sometimes and i won't go into detail but it's something that i'm working on :)

as far as my personality goes, i would describe myself as someone who speaks her mind and usually doesn't hold back from doing so (mostly bc i think honesty is the best policy in any kind of relationship). and um this might be kind of contradicting, but at the same time i also isolate myself from loved ones when i'm feeling down or pressured and keep everything to myself bc i don't like arguing/conflict. my friends describe me as having a sarcastic sense of humour and say that i roll my eyes a lot but they also think i'm very very sweet because i flirt with them often just for fun hehe. i'm mostly an introvert because i need to have my alone time but when i'm feeling charged then i'm able to make friends very very quickly. and my dad says it's because i'm empathetic and always know what to say when it comes to ppl hehe. (ahh this is getting too long... i just love talking about myself. i'll try wrapping it up quickly!) some other things you should know about me: i'm a hopeless romantic, don't like horror, am a total daydreamer, i write romance, fanfiction, and poetry, pink is my favourite colour, i'm a lipgloss/lipstick addict (and collect them for fun even when i don't need them), spring is my favourite season, my love language is physical touch, i'm an infp, and if it's important for the moodboard i'm south asian!

let's keep this sfw for ease, so i'll end it by describing my dream date with both men. you can then choose which one you'll do!

1. i know satoru's really really tall, but i just picture toji being taller and bigger in my head so i have this headcanon that i'm like half his size (for reference, i'm 5'3-ish) and in my head we are just grumpy x sunshine couple all the way. dream date with toji would be us going to the amusement park (my fav place on earth) and just being kids tbh. i'd force him to wear cutesy animal headbands and ride the rollercoaster and the ferris wheel with me and we'd stand in long long lines just talking and he would probably whine and complain about everything but he'd put up with it for me (also i'd probably manipulate him with my big eyes and my own bratty attitude ^^)

2. with satoru, i feel like since he's pretty childish in a relationship, i'd definitely act more bossy/mature with him as a result. (he'd look so pretty taking orders, wouldn't he?) dream date with satoru would just be a stay at home date. we'd start off by cooking dinner and dessert together, then have a spa night, and end it by doing a disney movie marathon together. he's so money i just have the urge to show him that we can do things without spending so much or going out to fancy restaurants and stuff.

anyway, i'm sorry for making this so long. as you can tell, i'm a talker. i'll leave the choice up to you for which boy to pick, but i just want to say thank you in advance. i love u sm mamba. congrats again baby doll <33

my beloved safi!! my dearest angel!! i’m so so soooo excited to do your request!! genuinely kicked my feet and did a little dancy dance when i saw your ask and i started searching for your pics as early as 4am before work! as soon as you mentioned sunshine x grumpy, you’d gotten me on team toji! im gonna make the prettiest, cutest, sweetest boards and scenarios for you, because you truly are as bright as the sun and you deserve the world! hugging you sooooo warmly!

also please don’t feel bad for telling me as much as you did!’ it makes me happy to learn about you all during these little events!

╰┈➤ cherry blossom lips — safi x toji

╰┈➤ song — pov by ariana grande

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 one of the first things that really drew toji to you was your smile. he finds the way your eyes light up and crinkle ever so slightly ever so enchanting. he’s so entirely enraptured, you have no idea just how much!

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 i’ve said this for others as well, but toji’s also the kind of lover who is very attentive to you and your likes. i also think that he spoils you quite a bit! he’ll take note of your collection of lipglosses and lipsticks and whenever he’s out, he always keeps his eyes open for ones that he thinks you’ll like.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 if you only ask him once, he’ll help you pick out a lovely combination for your days and contemplates very intensely on what look he thinks would work well! he’s very involved surprisingly and loves to see the way you switch things up every now and then, and finds it really cute when you keep returning to favourites time and time again.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 i also think he’d be very playful and loves to kiss your glossy lips, if only to taste the sweet flavours as he licks the tint from his own lips, keeping his eyes locked on yours with your chin between his fingers as he tells you how sweet you taste.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 he’s very perceptive to you and your feelings and always looks out for you as best as he can. he knows just how much you care for others around him, and him especially, always making sure that he’s alright, asking him about his day and of anything that he may have on his mind.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 he might not be very vocal about it, but his way of reassuring you is at first to pull you in for a long hug. he rests his chin on top of your head and just holds you close to him, hands stroking your back and waist and taking slow, deep breaths so that you’ll follow his lead. especially during moments when he notices you quietly hurting, he’ll always mutter loving reassurances that he’s here for you, and that you don’t have to push yourself to talk to him until you’re ready — just know that he’s there for you

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 he also knows how much you try to show yourself love, especially when it comes to your body. toji can tell whenever you’re having a hard time showing yourself the love he feels for you, and his way of reminding you of that love is by initiating physical contact in very intimate ways!

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 not intimate as in sexual, but he’ll lay down with you and shower your entire body with kisses, reaching beneath your clothes with his fingers and taking his time to let each kiss linger, with little whispers of everything he loves, every part of you that you’re still learning to love on yourself. like i said, he’s extremely intentional, so know that all of those kisses and light touches are overflowing with love he feels deep inside his heart, because he’ll be there to love you until — and even after — you’ve fully grown to love yourself the way he does

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 when you ask him one day to visit an amusement park with you, he doesn’t think twice about saying yes! sure, he might act like he has zero interest in wearing those cute headbands with you, but he’d do anything just to make you happy!

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 sure, he’ll say that it won’t look good on him and that it’ll make him look silly, but how can he say no to those pleading eyes and pouty lips of yours? in the end, he’ll let you stuff his mouth full of cotton candy and grumble as you set cute mickey mouse ears atop his head — and don’t tell anyone, but he melts like putty at the way you light up and boop his nose, a little red faced as you tell him how cute he looks

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 he’ll even match with you to wear pink themed outfits! if it’s a colder time of the year when you both go, he’ll buy you both pink lilo onesies ahead of time so that you can wear them together! absolutely loves the pictures you both take and sets them as your contact photo, his wallpaper, all so that he can see the way you smile at the camera while his soft gaze is trained on you

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 now this is a secret, but toji gets a little squeamish in high places, so he’s a little nervous at first about going on the roller coasters and ferris wheels, but it’s all so worth it as he gets to hear your joyful squeals and laughter, watching your eyes crinkle as you belt out all these happy noises. the fact that you’re enjoying yourself makes him all the more pleased and he takes his own enjoyment purely from you.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 he knows how you love the romantic things in life, so he takes you to the biggest ferris wheel in the park at night when all the lights shine like colourful stars. he wraps his arm around you and admires you admiring the scene around you, leaning into his embrace and just taking in the moment. he can’t stop himself from thinking just how precious you are to him, how much he loves you, and would absolutely tear the world apart to keep you safe.

𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪 when your cart reaches the highest point of the ride, he lets himself go and pulls you in for a sweet kiss, letting it last for seconds that feel like years and mere moments to him as he drinks you in for all that you are, pouring into you every poem he’s secretly written in his heart for you. he whispers to you how much you love him, “until the end of time, safi… i’ll always love you, even after then.”

mamba celebrates 100 followers — jjk and haikyuu selfship event!

[jay-scenarios]

I’ve gotten quite a few new friends (if you follow me, you’re my friend. I do, in fact, make the rules.) so I felt like switching up my pinned post a bit to add more introduction to me 🤍

SO HI, I’m Jay. I use he/they pronouns and identify as a mess genderfluid/nonbinary, panromantic, and on the ace spectrum. I was born in early 1999, as an Aquarius. I was born on Chinese New Year, and tried very hard when I was young to convince everyone that I was born year of the tiger despite being a clear rabbit. My mbti is INFP.

I listen to a wide array of music, with k-pop, chillwave, new wave, alt rock and 80s-00s pop as some of the most common. Some of my favorite artists outside of kpop are Linkin Park, Savage Garden, Veela, and Depeche Mode. In kpop, my ult groups are ATEEZ and Stray Kids, but I also enjoy a lot of songs and artists across all the generations. With that, my ult biases are Kim Hongjoong and only Kim Hongjoong (nobody tell him I listen to anyone else). I reblog my favorites often to @officiallyjay99 for safe keeping.

I write, a lot more than I actually might let on! I have a collection of poetry, a couple screenplays, plenty of fanfiction, and some regular fiction stories. My first piece I remember ever writing was Crackers the Duck, and was about a duck who played baseball (crackers was a play on the crack sound of the bat and the quack of the duck, I felt very smart lol) and helped bring his team to victory. I believe I was like 8 when I wrote it but I think my mom still has it somewhere lol. I’ve also been published twice (one poem, one screenplay) in a small collection of works that was run by my high school creative writing teacher, but now I write and publish (mostly fanfiction) here via @twisted-tales-of-all and will read (not as often as I’d like) and reblog my favorite pieces with reactions via @jay-recommends-scenarios !

Outside of writing, I also have a couple hobbies that aren’t as often acted upon. I enjoy photography, taiko, audio/video editing, SFX makeup, and dance. If you ever see someone walking around California Georgia in SFX makeup, it’s easy to assume that’s me, especially so if I’m dancing or singing as if nobody’s around. I also took a taiko class in university over and over again, and even made my own taiko love song while there that I still have, but never was able to perform thanks to covid. (I graduated with my BA in sociology in 2021 if anyone is curious.)

I’m a very outgoing introvert, so will usually be very friendly if you approach me, but that often means recharging, so I don’t reach out to people often, with the exception of my best friend @mo0nbeams who knows my entire life whether they want to or not 🩶 Feel free to reach out to me if you’d like! My ask box, submissions, and DMs should all be open on this blog!

[a-random-weeb]

For your event…

I’d like a male character, but female is ok too since it doesnt bother me much :D

My MBTI is INFP-T

Apparently I’m a delusion enthusiast.

On the outside, I might come off as aloof and asocial, or just shy, which actually was closer to my true self. I’ve been trying to act more social and confident but I can’t tell whether it was true development or just me running from deep rooted problems again.

I am idealistic and have extremely high standards for myself but can barely do anything “right”. I’d refer to myself as lacking in direction yet too stubborn (or lazy?) to adopt new methods.

Recently I realised I have borderline anger issues. My “outbursts” are rather mild and often come in the form of sarcasm because I suppress most of it and don’t let personal emotions affect others (not that it’s bad to express, it’s just a habit of mine).

Other traits are probably hyper vigilance, spontaneous, calm, righteous, understanding, empathetic (even tho I’ve gotten slightly numb lately), definitely socially awkward, definitely not secured sense of self

That’s it, sorry if it’s too lengthy :’) I admire your dedication to match make people w fictional characters! Thanks for the event and wish you the finest time on this earth!!<33

awwwww, yw! Part of me is scared I'm gonna match-make someone with a character they don't like 😭 if any of you don't like your result, please leave down in the comments of that post and I can totally ship you with someone else TvT

Anyways, I think you'd do well with Kunikida.

[the-sky-the-stars-the-sea]

Calling all Only Friends fans who are willing to discuss some mbti opinions

Sooooo I for one am obsessed with mbti, and I am always trying to figure out the mbti of every character in all media I can consume, and I wanted some of y’all’s opinions on 3 specific characters from Only Friends:

April

Dan

Boeing

I am on the Personality Database constantly, and I know Only Friends already exists there, but these three aren’t on that page, and I’m too lazy to add their profiles on their myself, so I’m asking y’all what you think their personality types are.

I’m gonna put my own opinions under the cut, you aren’t obligated to look at them, it’s totally valid if you wanna form your own opinions and then look at mine so mine won’t cloud your judgment before thinking up your own, if you do look at mine please don’t criticize me if you strongly disagree with me.

(Also I will happily talk about any character’s mbti in this show, or any other show/media (if it’s media I consume) for that matter, if y’all wanna discuss more!)

April: ISFP. I’m actually pretty sure on this one even though she hasn’t had that much screentime. However if she’s an ISTP that wouldn’t exactly surprise me. I might be stereotyping a bit since she’s into indie films, but overall I’ve just gotten the ISFP vibe from her.

Dan: either ENFJ or ISFJ. Yeah I know those two aren’t that much alike. That’s what confuses me about my opinions too. I am pretty sure he has strong Fe though. I think I may lean a little bit towards intuition for him because of how open he was to whatever Nick thought of the relationship, also ENFJ and INFP get along really well and usually work well romantically, and Nick is an INFP. I can’t tell if him saying he has never dated a younger person before is a sign of Si and he’s basically expressing he has no former experience to go off of or if it’s a sign of Ni because he’s open to trying it. Either way FJ types are both really good with communication, and he’s one of the only people in this series that communicates properly.

Boeing: I literally have no clue at all. He confuses me so much. Literally for all the letters I’m like “yeah I can’t see any particular lean.” I feel like if he took the test all the percentages would be pretty close to even. He has his own agenda but can easily fit into any situation. Based off of that though, I’m gonna say perceiving type. My gut is telling me IxFP, and if he were an ISFP the “Mew is a better version of me” comment would make sense since Mew is an INFP (look I know the consensus on the pdb right now is INFJ but nah my boy Mew is an INFP) (sorry again for stereotyping ISFPs, I really gotta examine my biases as an intuitive person now). But honestly though I think he sees the bigger picture too much to be a sensor. As for extroversion vs introversion… I think he’s an ambivert? He’s not really radiating enough extroverted energy for me to type him as E, but even as I write this I’m starting to doubt myself. As for why I think he’s a feeler, I just see Fi in him. But like,, again, if he has dom Ti and inf Fe that also wouldn’t surprise me. I am not any more sure than how I was when I started this paragraph of nonsense.

Hope you enjoyed my musings!

[sunstranded]

INTJ: How I see Everyone Else

I have disappeared lol but uhm... I'm back for another MBTI tangent no one asked for.

This is my personal experience with the types I've met in my life and also how I view them as an INTJ

Artisans (xSxP)

ISFP - Truly liberated people in their artistic endeavors. Thoughts of the future don't deter ISFPs I've met from doing something in the present, sometimes I envy that because it really saves more time.

ESFP - In confidence I can say, I do not agree with people saying they are stupid. Meeting one in real life is... intoxicating. I dare not elaborate (I can, but I don't want to). But, let me just say, descriptions of ESFPs are nothing compared to the real deal.

ESTP - Pranksters. They're just master trollers and pranksters. As fun as they can be, I want nothing to do with it. An ESTP bully once tried me but I didn't know what they said was supposed to be bullying. It went like: "You're fat." and I said: "Do you want a prize for pointing out the obvious?"

ISTP - ISFPs to me would be the true liberated artists, these guys are the truly liberated mechanics. They are hands-on and smart about it. I like having them as a mentor or go-to for when I need to fix my hardware.

Guardians (xSxJ)

ISFJ - Kind hearted pushovers. I don't like how they let other people push them around. I hate watching ISFJ friends struggle to say no, so I always tell them it's better if they do than stretch themselves thin. I offered ISFJ friends to practice saying no with me since I'm scary, bland but hard to offend.

ESFJ - We don't talk often because I don't want to. They talk too much and mean too little which, may sound insulting but I think is a superpower. Doing that drains me and it fuels them, so I think it's cool and they're genuinely fun to be around. First BFF was one, she may have been high-maintenance but I find joy in maintaining people I like, even if it is hard.

ESTJ - Most women in my family are like this so I am quite... understanding and soft when I notice someone outside the family is one. They take control of the room and get things done, I like that. I learn so much from them too.

ISTJ - Nerds. Absolute nerds for efficacy. My type of crowd. Just silence and getting the work done. I trust all ISTJs that I can leave them to do NOTHING and they will find something worthwhile to do. They might insult me unknowingly along the way and be mean, but hey, I'm literally just as "bad."

Mediators (xNFx)

INFP - They have an innate ability to slow me down. I tend to speak curtly, fast and brief. But I also don't say anything I don't mean, so it can really sound rude. However, no INFP in my life have gotten this treatment from me. I do not know why; I don't want to know why. I just get this empowering feeling to protect them at all costs and I hate it; most of them keep calling me their dad. I'm a gay woman.

ENFP - Most INTJs are shipped with ENFPs but I say, nay. First of all, personality types do not at all, work with "compatibility." Sure, it can but that does not mean it should. We can all be compatible with whomever, we just use MBTI to get a sense of self and be better. So to ENFPs, no thanks but you guys have cool ideas and can become quite attractive when they do it.

INFJ - Emotional translators. I will go on a long tangent about an event in my life and how I think of it then my INFJ friend would summarize it for me, something like "That's called self-doubt." And they say it nicely too, like: "Dumbass, you have a crush on them."

ENFJ - I have a friend that always gets this in MBTI tests but I'm pretty sure they are ENTJ or ESTJ. This just shows that descriptions and tests are misleading. Actual ENFJ friends of mine are prodding non-therapist therapists it is hilarious. Kind hearted, well mannered but they really need to learn how to be "mean."

Analyst (xNTx)

INTP - I have an INTP friend that just... each conversation we have always turns into me having to transcribe their thoughts into something organized and actually comprehensible. They're truly the nerds of MBTI. It is an honor to transcribe musings of one.

ENTP - I don't like the fact that I'm always attracted to these people. My bestfriend is one and we've made it clear that there is nothing romantic with the attraction and settled with... fascination. I dare not elaborate, lest their egos grow unimaginably (I am saying that in an endearing way).

INTJ - Having met someone like me is... most of the time, we never really recognize the other party is an INTJ. Just proves that no one does. If ever we choose to leave the house and be with people, we either act like ENTPs or ESFPs sometimes... even ISFJs.

ENTJ - They intimidate me in a good way. I told a friend if ever we'd be roommates we'd always fight over who does the chores and we'd keep track on who does it first and better. I know I'd lose but it's a fun time.

I am shocked I have met all 16 types in my life. It was... comfortingly alarming to know. What if I'm not an introvert after all?? Haha, no.

Introversion is not disliking people and Extroversion is not a people person. ENTJs and ENTPs in my life have been mistaken for introverts by themselves and others because of how they want alone time and how they have little to say to people. But that's because ENTPs are extroverted when it comes to ideas, not experiences or people. They'd be up into a new idea every time. ENTJs are very reserved because they are intentional individuals. But they are extroverted because they relish in doing things.

Introversion is just wanting either: left alone in silence or given/respected to be left alone for as long as possible. A lot of people want to identify as introverts because it makes them sound less shameless but I find that misrepresenting both ends of it. Introverts can behave like extroverts, I often do. Sometimes can even get energized by going out with people. The MAIN difference is that extroverts have an impersonal and outward focus with feelings, ideas, experiences, with life. While introverts tend to have something personal and inward focus with them. However, this is a TENDENCY/PREFERENCE not how someone will always be.

MBTI is based on Carl Jung's 8 Cognitive functions. It isn't behavioral, it's how someone thinks.

Maybe to make that disjunction clear, I can write about HOW TO TYPE PEOPLE as an Intuitive thinker that is NOT good at sensory details. If my time allows it, I suppose.

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💬 [24112022] Esquire Korea: Why Actor Ryu Kyungsoo, an INFP type A, always stays till the end at shooting parties." (Part 2)

An actor who is type A and INFP. He is shy but always stays until the very end at after-parties. He believes that acting is incredibly significant, just as every job in the world is, and that the process is as important as the result. We explore the sincere thoughts of Ryu Kyungsoo at the beginning of winter.

Q: The first part of Daemuga was performed a long time ago. As an actor, you might have wanted to reshoot it...

(Continuing) I did want to reshoot it. (Laughs) But the director was very determined. He really liked the outcome of the short film. He wanted to keep his work that way, and since I'm not the director, I couldn't change it. However, I think it would have felt different if we had reshot it. I'm in my 30s now, and I've been through various experiences, so I've definitely changed. I might have improved, but the 'han' (a deep, unresolved sorrow) that I felt back then wouldn't be present now.

Q: With the transition to a full-length film, there’s a new highlight where actors playing shamans have intense confrontations. Do you still learn new things on set?

Absolutely. Growth often comes from trial and error. When something doesn't work out one way, you learn to try another. I gain a lot of energy from the conversations I have with other actors, or simply from spending time together. I ask a lot of questions, and I did so while filming Daemuga, especially with Park Sungwoong and Yang Hyunmin.

Q: You ask a lot of questions.

Yes, I ask my fellow actors a lot. About their lives, how they think about acting. What I'm most curious about is whether acting is still fun for them. 'Even when they reach a master's level, is it still enjoyable?' It's probably because of my own fears. I'm scared that I might find acting unenjoyable someday. Fortunately, many actors respond that they continue to find it enjoyable.

Q: It seems you talk about acting even at shooting wrap-up parties. (Laughs)

I tend to stay till the end because I have so many questions. At those gatherings, there are senior actors whom I didn't know well before. I want to ask them various things, but I'm quite shy, so it's difficult for me. I also worry that it might be impolite to ask about acting when they just want to relax and have a drink. So, I end up asking a lot of questions to the people I meet while working.

Q: Actor Park Sungwoong, with whom you shot Daemuga, said this to you: "I wasn't as good an actor in my twenties as you are. But I'm not sure if you can be as good as I am now when you reach my age."

That was something he said over drinks.

Q: It does sound like something one would say while intoxicated. (Laughs)

(Laughs) The point was, 'You don't know if you can be as good as I am when you're my age, so always stay the same.' He said, "If you change, I'll come after you." I took it as him telling me to keep my current mindset and continue to work hard.

Q: What do you think? Are you confident?

Actually, I don't think there's such a thing as being better or worse than anyone else in acting. But I think I will be better than I am now. I will definitely be different in my forties. I felt different in my thirties compared to my twenties.

Q: So, you're confident about the essence of what Park Sungwoong said.

"Don't change but grow." Yes, I am confident.

Q: On the other hand, actor Hwang Jungmin, with whom you worked on the movie Hostage, commented on your face, saying you have a good face.

When I was in my twenties, I often thought about that. 'Would I have gotten more work if I were better looking?' But I'm thankful he said that, and now I like my face. It's ordinary. Having an unremarkable and neutral face helps a lot in portraying different characters. While you might think it's only about how well an actor performs, the face is important. I see it from the audience's perspective, too. Sometimes, the face conveys more than the acting. It's not about being good-looking or not; it's about whether you can give off a certain feeling.

Q: You have many villain roles in your filmography. Would you consider taking on villain roles again if offered?

It's the same as I said earlier. It just has to be fun and new for me. If a character has a similar tone and manner to characters I've played before, then I probably won't take it, regardless of what it is, because it wouldn't interest me. It's similar to how I feel when someone asks me to go surfing. It might be cold, and I'm not sure if it would be fun. But if there's a new feeling that seems like it could show something new, then I'm drawn to it. At that point, whether it's a villain role or not doesn't matter.

Q: Considering your pursuit of new characters and projects, I thought you might feel constrained by a villainous filmography since it tends to lead to similar roles.

That's why I often say in interviews that I want to show different sides and do new things. Once I've said it out loud, I have to be aware of it, right?

Q: (Laughs) It's like you've put a golden headband on yourself, like the one Sun Wukong wears.

Of course, I would have worked hard even without saying those words, but once you say something out loud, it makes you think about it more. It's like having someone constantly poking you and telling you to get up.

Q: Actress Lee Jooyoung, with whom you worked on "Itaewon Class," entrusted you with the lead role in her first directorial effort, "Left at the Door Bell X." Writer Kwang Jin also chose you for the leading role in his first full-length directorial project, "Cabriole." Why do you think that is?

I'm not sure. I never asked why...

Q: So, you're not the type to ask those kinds of questions.

Right. With Jooyoung noona, for instance, she just said, "I have this thing I’d like you to do," and I just said, "Okay, I'll do it." I've always been curious about Jooyong noona's career moves and thoughts, and the projects she’s involved in always have interesting aspects.

Q: Director Yeon Sangho has cast you again for his upcoming projects, "Jung Yi" and "The Bequeathed," following "Hellbound." Could we say this makes you part of the 'Yeon Sang-ho troupe'?

Director Yeon Sangho seems to dislike that term. He thinks it sounds too much like a power dynamic, and he feels that saying that might make it seem like he should keep working with the same people. I always enjoy working with Director Yeon Sangho; we have so much fun together, joking around to the point where it almost seems too much. His sense of humor is among the top five of all the people I’ve met. He has a broad sense of humor and really gets me laughing, and we mesh well in that regard. Someone once said, "Yeon Sangho seems to turn into a middle school kid whenever he's with Kyungsoo."

Q: Then, would it be accurate to call you 'Yeon Sangho's muse'?

I would love that. Whether as a member of his troupe or as his muse. It’s only him who dislikes the term, not me. (Laughs) He just doesn’t like to be boxed into something specific.

Q: Today, you seem quite shy, but you also seem to joke around a lot.

I am quite shy and a bit timid. I'm a type A and an INFP. But I do want to get to know people, so I’m happy when someone talks to me first. I love it when someone asks me to grab a meal. Once we start working together and I get more comfortable, I joke a lot. I really like joking around.

Q: Are you funny?

I like to try to be funny. I have a big desire to make others laugh.

Q: Is this a form of self-deprecation or modesty? Do people often burst into laughter because of what you say?

Well… sometimes they do. (Laughs) But it has to be the right match, right? I think I tend to attract friends who share my sense of humour rather than being universally funny.

Q: So, having a compatible 'code' is important to getting close to you.

Definitely. Since I'm quite shy, it usually takes time, but if the 'code' matches, things can progress quickly. Recently, this happened with Kwak Dongyeon on "Youth MT" (a TvN variety show). We became close in just three days. I even joined him when he was a special DJ on the radio, and that was really fun too.

Q: I’ve heard that some actors focus continuously on their roles even during breaks on set, but that doesn’t seem to be your style.

I prefer to make it fun.

Q: Fun?

Because the process is as important as the outcome. Life is tiring enough, and portraying a character and filming is challenging. Once you hear 'cut,' that's literally it. Then, you joke, chat, have meals and drinks together after. Of course, the outcome is important, but I think this part is crucial too. At least for me, I tend to remember the projects where I was happy during the process the most.

Ryu Kyungsoo x Esquire Korea, 2022

[funkymbtifiction]

Hello! Quick question. I've recently come to terms that I am indeed a 9, not a 4 as I thought for some months. The descriptions, even the Don Riso and Russ Hudson's one, didn't make it easier for me to relate. And the feeling of alienation had much weight for typing myself rather than me being constantly over-flood by the environment. Actually, the David Gray's articles and site made me realize how this was THE major problem in life.

My question being, does being sp/sx, w8 and Fi-dom (i am still torn between ISFP and INFP, but after reading your book I know I am Fi) would compromise my ability to relate to the always-agreeing, gentle, (almost doormat, not that I think it, but that's the impression from most descriptions) usual described 9?

I'm glad you have found your core type! :)

Yeah, a lot of 9w8s don't relate to the passivity in the 9 descriptions, which are slanted more toward the 9w1's ego stance of "I need to suppress my anger and be less disagreeable" thought-policing. 8 is an assertive, aggressive type, so on a 9, it becomes a back-and-forth of agreeableness and disagreeableness, of rising up in anger, but of self-enforced calm -- "I am calm, and it's your problem if you aren't calm." A Fi won't agree with anything it finds problematic, period, regardless of being a 9. They might change the subject, remain silent, or even assert themselves ("I don't agree with that / like that") in general, but a 9w8 might even argue their perspective forcefully.

I know an SFP 9w8 who seems 9ish at times and 8ish at times. She can be 9ish (and yes, that seems to be her main drive) in that her life is full of inertia unless something happens and then she's forced to react to it -- and she does, with flat-out aggression. She is easily distracted, she does the unimportant things first (struggles to prioritize, which is a 9 issue of deflection away from doing the thing that makes them anxious) which leaves her no energy for the important things, and is passive in areas of self-care; but she is highly assertive with her children / family members / friends in drawing loud boundaries, she has gotten into fierce arguments with people over political stances (and "enjoyed our debate" -- while the 9w1s at the table were sliding underneath it in anxious despair), and she confesses that she often acts before she thinks and then has to clean up the mess, whenever she uses 8. She would also rather identify as an 8, because "my 9 core is a wimp and I hate that." But she is still 9w8, and an sp-dom, which is the "toughest" 9.

The emphasis is too often placed on 9s as being conflict-avoiding (which they are to a limited extent) rather than deliberately blocking out anything they find uncomfortable, to maintain a sense of inner calm. Their mantra is "I want peace inside myself, and I will do what is necessary to get it." That can be telling people to leave them alone, or going along with their plans, or ignoring what they don't like, or living alone in the middle of nowhere and not dealing with people -- whatever strategy the 9 feels is most "them."

[lifeasaninfp]

Life as an INFP

26 years old

♉☀️♍🌜♊🌡

MBTI: INFP/J

Life path 2

Enneagram 9

Chinese zodiac: the Ox 🐂

Vedic placements: ♉☀️♌🌜♉🌡

💫 I don't have any water placements in my Western astrology natal chart

💫 Dramatic aspects in my chart include: Sun opposite Pluto, and Venus opposite Pluto

💫 I've taken the MBTI test many times and originally got INFP but the last year I've consistently gotten INFJ. I feel more like an FJ but I won't change my username

💫 You can call me Cassie even though that's not my real name

💫 French/British girl living in England

💫 I have two siblings and I'm the eldest

💫 I'm 5'7, have green/blue eyes, and light brown hair

(I've actually changed my hair colour a lot, usually went blonde, then dark red, then platinum blonde, then dark brown, and now my hair has faded back to it's more natural colour)

💫 I'm currently a university student studying Psychology (going into my 3rd year this September)

💫 My dream career is to become a psychologist

💫 Growing up, I used to want to become an actress and author

💫 I only speak English fluently and French at intermediate level (pls don't roll your eyes by the fact that I should be fluent but I only learnt it for a few years growing up, hence the poor level) I want to learn other languages but it's so difficult and I don't have the time. If time, money, effort and difficulty weren't an issue, I'd want to learn Spanish, Italian and Chinese

💫 A town that will always have a special place in my heart is Sanary-sur-Mer, France 🇫🇷

💫 You can call me a crazy cat lady if you wish, I just LOVE cats 🐈 so much! 🥰

💫 I'm not a dog person but if I were to have a pet dog, it would most likely be a Corgi named Cheddar (yes that is absolutely a Brooklyn 99 reference 😂)

💫 I have aphantasia, which is the inability to form mental images/visualise. I only see darkness at the back of my eyelids. I can't comprehend how people can actually see PICTURES in their minds 🤯 this has always made it difficult to play an instrument and dance since I can't play it out and use as a reference 😔

💫 I'm kind of a hoarder because I get attached to things and don't have the heart to throw certain things away 😅

💫 As a child/teenager I used to play the classical guitar, do karate, go to drama classes, do flamenco dancing 💃 and quit all of them! I feel regret for quitting because I could have been so good by now! (Gemini rising you lil' bish! 😭 - "Jack of all trades, master of none")

💫 Growing up, school wasn't my strong suit. I found it difficult and I was also bullied. So to have eventually made it to study at university is a huge accomplishment! I've always had average to poor grades, so eventually I had to make up for it by working hard and improving my grades (by retaking some things later down the line), so this just shows that when you decide you want to do well and put your mind to it, you can achieve success.

💫 This might be due to the Gemini influence in my chart, but I don't fit into one category when it comes to my preferences. I can be super girly but then I can also be quite casual and into dark clothes and music. I don't like to fit into one stereotype, if that makes sense.

💫 I usually don't like change when it's drastic or all of a sudden, for example if a website I'm on for years suddenly changes their layout and rules, it throws me off (the Taurus in me). However, I like change if it's to do with changing my style or moving to another city/country. I can be quite adventurous!

💫 I have always suffered from poor self-esteem. I have never felt good enough, intelligent enough, pretty enough, interesting enough, and competent enough in school and work. It's a real struggle. Thanks Chiron in Libra in the 5th house!

💫 I'm kind of a hopeless romantic, I love love 💘 💕 💗 my type is someone with dark hair and light eyes, tall, intelligent and interesting, funny and sexy 😋

Favourites

Food: paella, lasagna, mussels, shrimps/prawns, sushi, churros, galette des rois (French cake), chocolate cupcakes, birthday cake, my sweet tooth will be the death of me 🤣

Ice-cream 🍦 flavour: vanilla, stracciatella, chocolate with brownie pieces 😋

Drink: coca-cola, chocolate frappucino from Starbucks, sirop de grenadine (most specifically during the summer time), lychee drink (forgot the brand name of the specific type I like), cider

Music: indie/alt rock, classical, dance, Latin-American/Spanish music

Instrument: guitar 🎸, piano 🎹 and saxophone 🎷

Bands: The Neighbourhood, Savages, The Kills, Phantogram, Placebo, The Bravery, Depeche Mode, Nothing But Thieves, holy ghost!, Beach Weather, Interpol, Amber Run, Black Rebel Motorcycle Club, Welshly Arms, Muse, The Amazons, The Bohicas

Colours: red, blue, yellow, light pink

Numbers: 2, 22, 222

TV shows: The Vampire Diaries, The Originals, Grimm, Hannibal, The Blacklist, Virgin River, Brooklyn 99, True Blood, Supernatural, Teen Wolf, True Detective, Criminal Minds, and a few British shows like Mock the Week

Movies: Persuasion, Pride & Prejudice, The Parent Trap, Twilight Saga (I know they're bad and cringe but I love it anyway!)

YouTube content: ASMR for sleep and relaxation, British comedy clips

ASMR creators: Batala ASMR, FrivolousFox ASMR, ASMR_Divinity, Alana ASMR, SacredXO ASMR, ATMOSPHERE

Hobbies: Zumba fitness/dancing 💃 ♥ classical guitar (used to do it but stopped a few years ago due to moving and school), writing fanfiction, baking, EATING 🙊

Season: autumn 🍂 spring 🌸

Animals: cats 🐈, cheetahs 🐆, crows 🐦, horses 🐎 flamingos 💗, dolphins 🐬

Fashion: classic, pretty, sexy (but in a classy way), mainly Elena Gilbert and Katherine Pierce fashion style from TVD

Books 📚: The Vampire Diaries (they're a guilty pleasure), Graceling trilogy, pretty much anything by author John Grisham, Bitten by Kelley Armstrong, Shatter Me trilogy ✨

Activities: going on walks, going hiking, cycling in nature

Time of the year: Halloween 🎃 and Christmas 🎄

City: York 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇬🇧

Other things I love

... medieval history, stately homes, daydreaming, writing fiction, romantic hallmark movies, charity shops, southern American accents, reading, documentaries, hiking, cycling, dancing, candles, travelling, nature, wildlife, napping 😴, photography, rain when it's warm outside, psychology, astrology, dark academia aesthetic, cottagecore, train journeys, boat rides, the beach

Controversial opinion: pineapple 🍍 on pizza is the best, hands down

Things I can't stand: liars, thieves, entitled people, hate towards anyone, bullying, injustice

Things that scare me: enclosed spaces (claustrophobia), death (my biggest fear), heights, loud fights/arguments (I hate confrontation of any kind), the deep ocean, space!, rollercoasters 🎢

Phobias: claustrophobia, and any mention of blood, gusts, veins and witnessing in person any blood 🤢🥴💀 it makes me feel weak and sick. I can't stand getting blood tests 😭, drowning

Bucket-list: travel to the USA 🇺🇸, to see some of the Southern States like Luisiana but also to see Oregon for the nature, most European countries 🇪🇺 Fiji 🇫🇯, New Zealand 🇳🇿, Iceland 🇮🇸, Machu Picchu, the Lake District 🇬🇧

What I value most: family ❤, close friendships 💛, honesty

Please don't hesitate to send me a private DM to chat about anything! (within reason) I'm not always the best at replying though, so don't think I'm purposefully ignoring you

{I've taken inspiration for this post from a few blogs for the layout, shout-out to them}

● other blogs I have: @astrologically-me @tvdstelenaforever

[notanotherinfjblog]

Submitted my survey just now, I’m an enfj and probably the most recent one (doubt there are too many recent enfjs that would be a strange coincidence), my results interesting in any capacity or naw?

Oh crap, I've completely forgotten about the survey. Thanks for the reminder!! I haven't looked at it for almost a year now, I think, cause the data I got back then wasn't exactly balanced, so I just kept waiting for more participants. For instance, 109 people have participated so far. 31 of those are INFJs. You were the 3rd ENFJ in total. The most contributing sensing type so far has been ISTP with as many as 5 participants. But hey, at least I've gotten at least one participant of each type now, so that's definitely an improvement to last year. Also, I remember being a bit discouraged back then by some results since I set up some questions that I thought were mutually exclusive (e.g. "which types do you feel an instant connection with because you can easily follow each other's thought processes" versus "which types feel completely foreign to you since you can never really understand where the other person is coming from") and several people answered those questions exactly the same, which honestly left me quite dumbfounded. I'll have to decide later how to deal with those participants.

Your specific results specifically don't strike me as odd, but any result is interesting. Now that my awareness of the survey has reawakened (thanks again), I might look into the overall results in more detail some time. I'll probably only be able to say anything about the types that I have an at least somewhat reasonable number of participants of though, which are INFJs, INFPs, INTPs and INTJs. What I'm also interested in, however, is analysing people's families' types. I mean, I have to take everyone's answers with a grain of salt since there is no way for me to verify that either the participants or their families are typed correctly, but that's all I have to go on. Maybe there really are some trends as to which types happen to marry each other more frequently and which types their children happen to be. One very noticeable trend here: the most common marriage recipe is that you take one introvert and one extrovert, one of which is a thinker and one of which is a feeler. Sometimes you get two feelers or two thinkers, but then the introvert/extrovert dynamic still stands. Likewise, sometimes you get two introverts or two extroverts, but then the feeler/thinker dynamic stays intact. I have literally never seen two people of the same type date each other, nor the same type occurring twice within the same nuclear family, which raises some existential questions because that means that we don't inherit our parents' brain activation patterns (since that's what cognitive functions really are), but they aren't nurture either or else we'd develop the same types as our siblings, which we don't. However, siblings do tend to have similar types, so there's definitely something fishy going on.

Sorry, I've written all this lot and still answered your question with just a single sentence. So here's one interesting point: I often find that we are a lot like our siblings, even when they use different functions than we do, but we still assimilate to each other to some degree and we can develop biases towards (or against? maybe? possibly?) their cognitive functions in other people. Your entire family consists of feelers and your sister is an ENFP, as you say, and it does look like you have a slight bias towards Fi and Ne in other people, but are also somewhat drawn towards NTs, which actually makes a lot of sense. Is that your impression as well? I can only guess from your answers, and I'm beginning to wonder if I should have asked more pointed questions in the survey, but that's a problem for another day.

[odettesdiary]

Just an introduction to anyone who might be reading 💕

Name: Odette

Age: 17

Country: South Africa

Big 3: Aquarius ☀️ Virgo 🌙 Gemini 🌅. (I know)

Currently in my second last year of high school and despising every minute of exams

Have a big group of “friends” but only a few actual friends the rest are fake bitches.

MBTI: INFP or INFJ I’ve gotten both

Love dilfs 💖

See through everyone’s bullshit 👀

Currently in a relationship

If you don’t find me and my high school gossip entertaining keep scrolling