#i love not being a child of divorce

[guzhufuren]

241221 Seongjoong, cr. jellybyeol__

[filthytheodeckerkinnie]

I relate to Arthur Lester because I also get fucking angry at John every 10 minutes, and then swing violently the other way into loving him more than can be described

[miss-allsundays]

i was kind of expecting it (because of the danny motta pandemic), but the amount of people that just. write off octavia as some sort of ungrateful brat is really pissing me off.

we, as the viewers, have a much broader understanding of stolas, his life, and his relationship with stella. we are also made to look at it in a positive light for stolas, because we are shown instances of stella and her brother being the terrible antagonists they were written to be.

and most importantly, we do not have an attachment to stolas and stella’s relationship.

octavia instead, has had her life recently upended, has seen her father do a 180 change and (in her eyes) ruin his whole relationship.

her parents are divorcing, and they’re going about it in the worst way possible. they keep badmouthing each other, and they are, quite frankly, very dismissive of octavia— stolas as well, even if he doesn’t mean it.

and then, her father risks his life for the guy he destroyed his family for. and she is left with her mother and uncle, who clearly don’t have her best interests in mind.

of course stolas deserves to be happy, and of course he can love both blitzø and octavia at the same time, but what a lot of people don’t get is that she is a hurt child, who is very lonely at the moment, and who has not had the time to process everything.

instead she has to watch her dad fawn over his affair partner, talk shit about her mother even after the divorce, and then he suddenly leaves and oh! he will be banned from their house for a hundred years.

of course she holds resentment over her father!! he hurt her, just as much as her mother hurt her!!

because yes, stolas’ hatred towards his ex-wife is justified, but he has subconsciously let that feeling cloud over his love for octavia.

for a child, seeing your parents go through a divorce is really fucking tough. even if their relationship wasn’t the best, even if the love wasn’t there anymore, your parents splitting up still feels like a point of no return. as someone who went through that, i cannot tell you how many nights i spent as a teen wishing my family would go back to normal, even if the rational part of me knew that their separation was a much better outcome, and that the normal i hoped for hadn’t been that in years.

their divorce is only a couple of months old, it isn’t nearly enough time to begin getting over it, especially if you don’t have a good outlet for your emotions— which octavia doesn’t have.

and as i’ve mentioned earlier, the fact that her parents hate each other so openly is also another big fucking problem!! it does nothing but make the child in between feel bad, because they feel guilty for still caring about both of them, like their love for their parents is wrong and tainted.

(again, stella is terrible, and we can all agree on that— but octavia doesn’t know the full extent of it!! sue just wants her family back!!)

i feel for stolas, and it’s so, so obvious that he loves his daughter more than anything in this world, but i also understand why octavia wants some distance from him.

even though he didn’t mean to, he failed to think of how his daughter was holding up, until it was too late.

(and to everyone that says octavia hates her dad, go fuck yourself and pick up a pair of glasses. there is a difference between being hurt by someone’s actions and hating them. she went to IMP to give him his meds. she saved stolitz + IMP from andrealphus. learn some media literacy before you speak thanksssssssss<3 )

[fountainpenguin]

Oh right, I'm obsessed with toxic never-dated-yet-somehow-divorced & extremely one-sided clingy Zombiewood. Living on her lawn & begging her to take him back, but being horribly rude about it... Spitting vitriol at each other one minute, mugging her other ex together the next <3 His soulmate is doing soulmate things with another person btw.

Dale dialogue from HERE

Bonus panel for the FOP Double Life SMP AU no one asked for:

I'm sorry to disrespect you, Mx. ZombieCleo. ily.

[cuteniaarts]

Digitalised + coloured + redesigned version of my Suiren and Vaatu sketch from two days ago, as promised!!

Coming up with Suiren’s design was a very long process of trying and failing because after you’ve drawn 9+ different versions of one character, the creativity starts to run a little dry, but I’m actually really proud of this one, she looks absolutely adorable <3

(Also yeah I did mostly just scribble Vaatu’s pattern because who has the energy to draw the all out accurately. Not me, that’s who, I’m chronically tired. People who draw him on the regular have my utmost respect. He’s still a funky little guy though :D)

Bonus, Raava incessantly screaming inside Suiren (and being completely ignored because Suiren is tired of her) while all this is happening:

[kakusu-shipping]

'You come home to introduce your new delinquent boyfriend to your mom and his parole officer is there' is probably the funniest scenario imaginable and i almost died laughing about it

Shitty doodles of my vision

POV You went on a Pokemon Journey and came back with a new BF only to find out your mom has a new BF, who also happens to be that crazy cat lady you obliterated and also your new boyfriend's Parole Officer.

[tenwhiteandalusians]

and then no one said anything about the fact that if i watched ONE MORE episode tenax pulls a "i'm not angry i'm just disappointed i'm hurt" about scorpus signing with the white faction.

[lnkedmyheart]

Basically the condition of skk rn,

Fyo to Dazai- lololol fake chuuya stan.

Dazai- le gasp!

Chuuya- If I pretend to be a vampire I will not have to acknowledge anything.

Sigma- questioning every life decision that led him here.

[torsamors]

watching greys while i clean n pack and jackson and april are here finally n personally i think those two are soulmates but in the way that like. no one else in the world deserves to be involved in their fucked up-ness

[actual-changeling]

while there's a minuscule chance that having that therapy session with my mother present will actually get her to start thinking about shit differently i am. very much prepared for the usual bullshit and her pretending like it never happened like she does with everything.

her world view is fo fucking warped and self-centred you'd think she is genuinely bad at human interactions but she isn't. she's just a shitty person when it comes to me and my sister and amazing with literally everyone else. she KNOWS how to emotionally take care of children, she's a teacher, i've seen her do everything right more times than i can count.

so the fact that she doesn't with me means there's a choice made not to. she chose to treat me the way she did/does and that is so much worse than if she were incapable of being a good parent in general. whatever is wrong with me somehow makes people abuse me and treat me like shit. no exceptions. there's something so fundamentally fucked up about me everyone responds with hatred.

[aritany]

i’m beginning to think there’s a kind of indestructibility that comes with the territory of your first heartbreak being from your parents.

like, what are you going to do to hurt me? my superheroes chose religion over me. good try though

[fembutchboygirl]

I just learned something so incredibly fucked up

[ruuggs]

I don’t think anyone understands how brave and strong I am being for not going into a yap session the only person Close to understanding is my friend but I’m holding back sm yapping I’m so proud of myself ajfhjsb

LIKE I LOVE GEMPEARL SM AND ITS TAKING EVERYTHING IN ME TO NOT HAVE THEM CONSTANTLY ON MY MIND RIGHT NOW

I HAVE SCHOOLS TO APPLY TO I HAVE HOMEWORK TO FINISH I HAVE JOBS TO DO I CANT CONTINUOUSLY THINK OF THESE SILLY BLOCK PEOPLE GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE RN

[gorefreaklintjrwi]

having my monthly dose of "am i actually aromantic or do i just not know what romance is supposed to be like because my parents are divorced ((the answer is that i am actually aromantic))"

[foultreenightmare]

the brutalia marriage in SOTD and the marriage in 1978 were both not legal marriages. the SOTD marriage was annulled within that work itself.

Thank you you would not believe how many times I think about it in a day. Also I really do like Brutalia and them being married but never mentioning it is hilarious to me as well but at least I know now and will continue making child of divorce jokes about Damian.

[only-one-brain-cell]

Fuck this show Jules and Wes could have been endgame.