#i just. ugh. its so frustrating

[ad-astra-per-aspera-1389]

okay, so since disney were COWARDS and didn't make the mcu mighty med/lab rats canon, I've decided to think marvel movies exist in that universe, but marvel movies/comics are "the fake ones" compared to the ones ambrose writes for mighty med. like, marvel is fun and all, but its not representative of real superheroes the way ambrose's comics and the movies based on them are.

that being said, circa 2012 (leo likes comics, and without being part of the superhero world like kaz, oliver, skylar, etc, most people don't know some are real and some are fake) the Avengers comes out.

all this to say, chase sees bruce banner struggling to control the hulk when he'd rather just be a human scientist, and it reminds him of himself and his commando app

[spitblaze]

Okay I've witnessed it happening enough in Queer Internet Circles that I think I can confidently say something about it.

Can we PLEASE stop picking arbitrary lgbt+ demographics out of a hat and having entire conversations about how they 'aren't actually queer' and 'taking valuable resources' for the crimes of 'some of them are cringe' or 'some of them are assholes' or 'they have a nebulous privilege over the rest of us so they're the oppressor, actually'.

Like look, some conversations are absolutely worth having. There's a lot of transmasc shitheads who latch on to toxic masculinity or seem to completely forget what it's like to navigate a world that considers you a woman, or completely fail to realize that being transgender yourself doesn't suddenly mean you don't have to examine yourself for internalized transphobia or transmisogyny. And that should be addressed, every community has its issues, no community is a monolith, no demographic is made up of entirely good smart righteous people or evil bad oppressive abusers. Obviously.

But I'm not talking about that!

I'm talking about people bringing up the same tired rhetoric they used when they tried to claim that nonbinary people are clout-chasing attention seekers who will keep cishet society from taking the rest of us seriously, that people used when they decided asexuals were actually cishets who co-opted our movement for their own personal gain, which was recycled from when people tried to claim that bisexuals are het-passing fakers and if a REAL queer has sex with one they'll be left for a cishet because that's what bisexuals do, which is the same as the shit they spewed at whoever the target was before that! It's paranoid nonsense all the way down, people looking for an acceptable target to take their shit out on!

Can we stop doing this, please?? Can we stop picking demographics within our own community that people arbitrarily decide are fine to bully and mock and kick out of the spaces they helped create because you think that they're cringe or that speaking about the issues they face is privileged whining? Can we stop giving bigoted cishets free reign on already vulnerable communities because someone arbitrarily decided that THESE queers are evil and cringe so its okay to make shitty comments and jokes about them? Can we PLEASE stop the cycle in its tracks while we can still see the crosshairs moving onto tranfems and trans women? We can stop this now before it starts getting uglier and deadlier, but we HAVE to be aware and do more than complaining about it online.

[dangerpronebuddie]

Just saw your RB of that post abt Garrard and HARD SAME cos like it keeps being irritating af to me that the conversation so far, in some parts in fandom, is centered around how buck, the one white man on the A shift atm, would be effected by Garrard's bigotry and not literally everybody else's!!! Who's like.... none of which are white!!! Like I love Buck but c'mon!!

... honestly, I apologize for using your ask box for venting but this has been chocking me for a bit there

Feel free to vent any time honey 🥰 I totally get it.

I love Buck too. With my whole heart. But a lot of people forget that Hen and Chim were traumatized and harassed nonstop by that man, and Tommy was no help whatsoever.

It seems to me like they brought in Gerrard partially to somehow get people to sympathize with Tommy. And I get it, Gerrard is a jackass and hates everyone and everything, I'm not justifying his newfound dislike for Tommy. Hate is hate, and I thought the fairy comment was uncalled for just as much as anybody.

But damnit, Hen and Chim faced the brunt of it and it feels like no one cared until the white guys might be subjected to it. Even after 7x09, they made it out to be like Chim was defending Buck and Tommy and not himself. Chim was standing up for Chim, and I felt immensely proud and so happy for him. I have no doubt in my mind he'd stick up for them should the need arise. But that moment? That was for Chim.

I definitely see Gerrard making all of A shift's lives hell, but the way these people talk about it make it seem like Buck and Tommy's struggles will be the only ones that matter. As if Hen and Chim won't be reliving the worst moments of their professional lives and Ravi and Eddie won't be subjected to it too.

And I wasn't gonna go there, but ya know what? Fuck it. To me, it's a little hypocritical of some people in the fandom to call out bigotry and homophobia and any other discrimination when all they care about is Tommy and Buck being victims of Gerrard's reign of terror like the others don't exist.

[halfdeadwallfly]

not to rant on main but like does anyone else know people who go on and on about their own complexity and intelligence (particularly at the expense of others) but actually just fail to be interesting at all. im talking the girl who calls herself a neurodivergent baddie who only likes weird people but then gets shady when youre weird in the wrong way. or who says they hate small talk and wanna talk about theology and literature and philosophy but get weirded out when people actually start having discussions. like the person who talks themself up as kind and introspective but just ends up being a bully. this very very specific type of person and ive met multiple people like this and i cant help but get tired of it. the whole higher plane superiority act.

[bunnyboy-juice]

whining bc my freezer is fuckin busted

[smollsmule]

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[dykepaldi]

i think the reason ive never been able to make ocs is that any character design with a cool queer fashion sense i come up with is inevitably gonna end up looking like someone i know lol

[uhbasicallyjustmilex]

me: sits down to write feeling full of inspiration

chronic pain: no 🙃

[aerodaltonimperial]

I haven't written a single sentence of fiction in, like, a week. This is so abnormal for me. 😥

[autisticlee]

no one knows just how hard I work at things. how I have to work 1000000x more than the average person to compensate for being autistic and adhd and probably other things i'm working out with therapist, and having a sort of physical disability i've not received any help or treatment for. everyone assumes I don't try or give up too soon. they think I just started, need more practice. they think I expect everything handed to me immediately with no work or effort and don't acknowledge the multiple years i've put into things. they think I have no right to be upset about still failing to get where I want even after working my entire life to get there, while watching people around me surpass even my meager goals within a fraction of the time and work i've out into the same thing. constantly getting surpassed by everyone around me who seem to barely do any work to get there compared to me. it's all handed to them and falls into their lap so easily. all because they don't have the extra obstacles to overcome and work around that I do. while they go from point A to Z immediately with no major stops in between, I have to go through every single letter and then some, often getting sent back to the start. but it's always *my* fault, according to everyone. it's not the fault of those around me who ignore me, don't support me, don't help me, don't believe in me, etc. it's my fault they don't do those things. because doing the work of 10 people in one isn't enough, just because it's me. and not reaching Z as fast as everyone else means I don't deserve any of the support or help or anything else and means i'm not trying hard enough. it doesn't matter that I *need* to work harder than 100 "normal" people combined to get even half the result! Just because I can't reach what they do means i'm not trying hard enough! ugh.

[spaghett-onaplate]

i wasn't that sick but I took a couple days off and I am so frustrated with myself for doing absolutely nothing productive whenever I'm home. does that frustration lead me to change those behaviours, however? no!

[fogbreo]

every moment i am away from home, i get this urge to draw but then i get home, pull out my laptop and tablet, and proceed to Not Draw

[fruityumbrella]

all i do lately is complain about how much i want to write but cant write 😭

[oomox]

i keep seeing shit on instagram about "man repeller outfits" and it's pissing me off so bad bc in my experience, there is no man repeller outfit. as a femme i've been dressing crazy for years and all it's done is get me more unwanted male attention. & i refuse to give it up even with the harassment and discomfort im subjected to bc it's who i am and now these basic nonfemme women think they can save themselves by doing what i do? no you fucking idiot, there is no way out. you will always be an object they think they have a right to an opinion on -- thats the reason men talk disparagingly about womens fashion in the first place!!! dressing in ways that you think might be unappealing or unattractive is still catering to the male gaze and letting patriarchal thinking control you

[soranker]

Heya! Saw your cry for a distraction and honestly such a mood.

I've got a question!

What's your least favorite thing to draw/do when you make art?

I'm on my own art journey right now and kind of dread the transition from lineart to coloring.

Trying to study anatomy right now and ignore rendering but I'm curious what other artists feel is challenging or just like 'ugh, ok time for [x]'

OHHH in terms of what's challenging, for me it's definitely coloring, rendering, backgrounds, and composition HAHA (<- chronic flat colors user who only draws character art on a floating white background)

i love focusing on gesture and lines when i draw ^_^ i rely mostly on intuition for the other stuff but it really only takes u so far T_T i'll spend hours trying to fix something by trial and error when i probably couldve saved that time by putting in more conscious studying/practice lol