#i have nothing against aroace people
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being insanely horny for a character everyone headcanons as ace and/or aro
#anyways#i will not specify any characters here#but yall know me#anyways uh#i have nothing against aroace people#and i have nothing againt aroace headcanons#i guess it just kinda irks me because it feels like its now forbidden evil bad for me think that stuff about the character now#um#no this isnt about alastor you hazbin fans 🤦♂️#random thoughts in my head
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I absolutely adore all the relationships in malevolent, in their nature. They are all canonically platonic, but they are rooted in love and affection. I think that some people still believe that the word love is reserved only for romantic love, especially in media. So seeing the two main characters say that they love the other, that that love saved them, that they were willing to die for each other; who are so close (quite literally, as they share a body) that it's impossible to tell where one begins and where the other ends. Whose circumstances and experiences are so wildly specific and unique that it would be impossible to strictly define the nature of their relationship. Is their relationship perfect? Hell no, they have deeply hurt each other many times. Often they can't stand one another, but also can't stand being without one another. It's messy, it's complicated, but it's real. They try. And it doesn't really matter what their specific definition of love is - they simply love each other. And it just means so much to me, as an aroace person and as someone who has always valued all the friendships i have or have had in general. To see love between two people who have been through hell and back together not treated as just romantic love or as platonic love or whatever - but as simply love. It's their own. With all the beatiful and joyous and messy and painful aspects of it. To say it's just romantic or platonic takes away all the complexities and charm of it, just as is trying to strictly label a lot of the things in the show.
#i think john and arthur deserve to be called friends. they are friends and they love each other and those statements co-exist#maybe it's because i never truly understood where the line between romantic and platonic is. being aroace#so to see a bond like this is just so comforting to me#obviously nothing against people who ship the two! i think it works on every side. those who ship them and those who don't are both right.#simply because they love each other. and it's okay to give that love a label for fun i think#i knoww people have said this but i just really wanted to say this myself hahahaha#i may “ship” certain characters from time to time for fun. but deep down they will always be friends to me and that is beautiful#niko rambles#malevolent
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every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.
#text#half the time i think these ppl see other aspec ppl saying that x character feels aroace and then they take it as canon rep#instead of an interpretation of the character which likely was never meant to be written as aspec at all#because majority of people don't even know what that is#this isn't me saying that we shouldn't have aroallo or alloace rep btw#this is me complaining about people throwing aroace ppl under the bus because apparently we are 'hogging' all the representation in media#and it just reads as people being aphobic towards aroace people specifically and it drives me insane#you can ask for more aroallo and alloace characters without complaining and shitting on aroace characters????#like bro we are all on the same fucking team. we are all trying to get seen and understood. we all want to see ourselves in media#stop fighting like one of us is somehow way more privileged than the other because 'you have x rep'#we all have crumbs my guy. just because someone else is getting crumbs doesn't mean that its your crumbs being taken.#idk i see so many posts like this and it makes me feel so unwelcome in the aro and ace communities#im tired of aroace people being used as a scapegoat that you can target to pretend like you're punching up#when in reality you're just committing friendly fire against people who are on your team#i miss when the aro and ace communities used to like... work together as a big aspec community#now ppl r way too focused on separating them and acting like they have nothing in common and don't have the same goals#and both communities now tend to put a lot of blame onto aroace people because of stereotypes we never had control over in the first place#it's exhausting#like the aphobia is coming from inside the house#i didn't go through the ace discourse on tumblr to deal with this shit.
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2024 reads / storygraph
The Loudest Silence
YA contemporary
a newly Deaf-Hard of hearing girl moves across the country and starts a new school, struggling with navigating her disability and love for singing and lost friendships - determined to not make any new friends for the year she’s in Florida
and a boy struggling with family expectations and anxiety, after being made the fútbal captain even though he secretly ways to be on broadway, who quickly befriends her
bi & aroace-coded MCs
#The Loudest Silence#aroaessidhe 2024 reads#hm this was okay! it’s a sweet and light YA contemporary focusing on friendship and disability.#It’s a little cheesy; and I liked the immediate easy friendship (well; after a few false starts) and how welcoming Hayden's#friend group/family were. I like how they all jumped to learning/practicing ASL.#I liked how Casey was dealing with her newfound Deafness with a lot of positivity - the main frustrations being how other people treat her#but there’s also the underlying isolation and grief. At the same time it didn't go as deep as it could have with that?#The friendship is central to the story - but honestly I feel like Casey and Hayden’s relationship doesn’t develop past ‘they’re friends now#[continues other subplots] - it ends up being a bit telling not showing their friendship. And then she gets a love interest.#I feel like if you’re centering your book on being a platonic love story - rare in YA! - giving one a love interest kinda goes against#what’s supposed to be unique about it? Like it wasn’t overwhelming and I thought it was sweet actually; I just didn’t come here for that.#I always find it a little odd when YA contemporary books don’t explicitly name their aroace characters as aroace -#obviously I prefer an exploration of experiences to just using the word and nothing else; but in this genre; why not both?#considering various other identity labels are used and discussed there were various points where it felt like it was walking circles#around where it would be obvious to say “no I’m aroace” lmao?#And there’s a point where Casey mentions seeing an ace sticker on his guitar - the only reason it wasn’t an aroace sticker is bc#that would have ruined the minor subplot of her assuming he’s gay/dating his other friend. It felt like a slightly odd way to mention it?#but also I guess I appreciate it being evident throughout but also being a non-issue plot wise - while there’s a couple of moments#of people making romantic assumptions about them;for the most part it’s just treated normally for a boy & girl to be friends (as it should!#It does get points for mentioning people watching by conan grey LMAO (not that it really explores him feeling that way specifically;#but I mean same lol)#Overall plot-wise - there were kind of a lot of things going on and it petered out a bit? I wanted some more depth in some areas.#Also I feel like some of the references seemed out of date for current teens haha.#i do love the love for unusual pets (hairless cat and iguana)#aroace books#bisexual books
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#rossrambling#id say i have nothing against it but i do#i dont hate people for liking or creating it i just hate it myself#even if i wasnt aroace id still probably hate it
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When and how did you start shipping Jamiazu? :3
Oh god this is a whole can of worms that I’d love to explain
so I originally was actually a really big riddle fan when I started, he’s the entire reason I started playing (and then I met Azul and jumped ships. Still love riddle tho), I didn’t know a ton abt Scarabia so I kinda just, default shipped Jamikali bc i didn’t know a ton, so my brain just paired them together (now I actually have a lot more intricacies with my ships. I don’t think I ship any of the ships I did at the beginning except for rookvil. Nothing against most of them, I just like them with other ppl more)
then I encountered jamiazu (…I think from zvezdacito’s art? It was definitely art but they were in the background) and was kinda like “huh. This feels really out of pocket. Why do they ship-“ so I looked into it. And then I kept seeing like their moments in game and I just, fell in love with it (I also think that around the time I was falling out of interest of jamikali. Nothing against it but to me I don’t think that they could ever be healthy unless Jamil was like. Away for years-)
the most concrete reference I have is the first time I drew them, which was January ish. They look WAY different from how I draw them now bc I slowly memorized what they looked like and started adding my own details.
and I’ve been in the fandom since… October 2022 ish? That was very spotty tho bc I have adhd and it was only a minor hyperfixation on the side of my main one (which was… Genshin-), but I didn’t seriously get into until December 2022
but yea!! I really really like them. I genuinely think they have the best dynamic and what could be the healthiest relationship. (other than silkali, but neither of them should be in the villain school in the first place so-) (also Jamil’s voice actor agrees that they’d be close friends. So HA-)
a lot of my hyperfixations also center around ships (bc they center on characters usually. Which then goes to whoever I like them with the best,)
#I hope this doesn’t seem to mean to jamikali I genuinely have like nothing against it#I’m usually very like selective with ships. I’m aroace (spectrum aro) so I’m very like. Particular#Like these are my ships and i don’t really enjoy putting them with other people bc to me they work the best (bc i think abt it a ton-#But yet again! All my own opinion#as long as someone isn’t being mean to be abt what I ship I have no problems with what other people ship#Except for incest and like#Adults with kids#(I know nothing abt the whole “proship” and “antidhip” culture and I don’t want to know. I know it’s fiction but why do you want those in f#Fiction)
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Guys, PLEASE
If Link and Zelda share the Hateno house, why does Link get his own house??
#oh yeah i live here but lemme put thousands of rupees into an entirely new building#like come ON can you people calm down#maybe it’s the aroace in me talking but like#that’s such a weird conclusion to come to#loz totk#zelda tears of the kingdom#zelda totk#totk spoilers#totk#this is nothing against the headcanon btw just wanted to make my thoughts known#have fun everyone :3
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Me: Hey I feel like reading fanfic
Fanfic: Everyone is in a relationship, Explicit, toxic ship, Ship I didn’t know existed, explicit, reader insert shipfic, explicit, omegaverse
Me:
Fanfic:
Fanfic: found family, plot with side ship.
Me: \(٥⁀▽⁀ )/
#aromantic#aroace#asexual#lgbtqia#lgbtq#fandom#fan fiction#I actually have nothing against shipping#but half the time#I didn’t even know these people could be shipped#and the other half they’re not even healthy relationships#I want people to be friends#found family
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#i've been blocking people bitching about im*dna left and right these past few days. it's just. so many bad takes#you guys will be like i have nothing against romantic im*dna and then make a straight up villain out of imog*n and ignore half of la*dna's#characterization and canon interactions to claim she's CLEARLY aroace and actually doesn't even like im*gen that much and is#''trying to let her down easy'' while im*gen is pushing SO HARD#also just saw someone say it's CREEPY AS SHIT bc of the age difference when im*gen is fuckin 28 i think she can handle it lmao#i feel like we're watching completely different shows y'all are so annoying god bless#redacted bc i don't want this to show up in the tags
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Thank you yes yes he’s so amazing genuinely he like apologized for not being able to reciprocate them at this time which gives me hope tbh 👉🏻👈🏻
Also we were both super worried the other wouldn’t wanna be friends anymore after this so something in that gives me comfort to know we were both scared of that
I guess it gives me comfort knowing we both feel so deeply about this friendship
We got to play some more WWE 2k23 last night and it was so fun as always I even managed to make it to 2:00 hehe usually he sees what time it is for him and either knows what time it is for me or asks to be sure what time it is and sends me to bed around 1:00-1:30 so it was nice having the extra time
Mild embarrassment tho… we always say love you when hanging up and last time I forgot cause of my dad being awake and well this time I said it anyways and my dad was clowning a bit but meh
Yea I think we’re both very good about boundaries I’ve made sure to tell him I want him to tell me right away if I’m ever doing too much and everything
I really do have hope of this turning into something more months or years down the line but I’m also content with it not turning into anything and just knowing I’ve made such a true and genuine friend
He’s even agreed to watch some matches with me sometime so I’m very excited we just have to try and set up a day and everything and figure out how to do it which I think he knows how I just don’t so he’ll have to guide me
confessing your feelings is always hard (been there, done that, i relate) but you dont really know the end result until you give it a go. the worst that can happen is that you lose a person, but that just means they werent that good to begin with. best case scenario you either get a significant other or a really good friend so. a gamble worth taking imo
im really glad you two are having a good time tho, thats so nice to hear. and that hes so caring and you are clearly comfortable with each other. its just the best to let things evolve naturally and see where it goes from here, be it friendship or something more. just continue to hang out together and do stuff, and see what happens
its also very cute that you say 'love you' to one another, thats adorable aaaa 💜💜
#thank you for asking! <3#Anonymous#disclaimer i know nothing about relationships im just an aroace fool who enjoys observing people and has been used as a relationship#counselor by friends (mostly against my will) for years so i have insights through secondhand lmao#i still stand by what i said but just fyi. im just dumb lmao
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I understand monogamy at some point, like, that just how people feel, some us don't like nobody, some people like multiple people at the same time and some don't, but i don't understand the need that monogamous people have of wanting everyone to be like them and to hate on polyamory. I think (some) they may be extremely controlling and possessive —and i with "i think." i mean, i know it bc i seen it—, which i don't understand nor like. They hate the idea of someone they love loving someone else who is not them and therefore ignore the fact that they may feel attracted to another person too. It's not that "having two or more partners have lots of downsides", they don't care about that, it's just that they seem to wish to belong to someone and have someone who belongs to them, and in the process they are untrue to their partners and themselves about their feeling, or they make their partner not speak about theirs, while also wanting to force that reality in everyone else bc "they couldn’t stand that".
Maybe this is the autism or aroace-ness but there’s a part of me that doesn’t understand monogamy? I see very little downsides to having two partners compared to one, if anything, I see more upsides to having two partners? Twice the love, twice the kisses, twice the cuddles. Does anyone else relate to this?
#this is way too long lol#i'm so sorry#but i think about that frequently#i wish i don not offend any monogamous people#i have nothing against you#this is jusy a lecture about a pattern in the behavior of some of you#polyamory#polyamourous#monogamy#toxic monogamy#aroace#aromantic#asexual
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People are now calling aros homophobic for saying "love loses" and disliking the phrase "love is love"
I don't dislike the phrase "love is love" because I'm aro and I hate the concept of love and I want to trample on queer joy and I don't understand the meaning behind love is love.
I dislike the phrase "love is love" because I don't believe that minorities should have to say "we're just like you!" In order to be accepted. I dislike it because it doesn't apply to all queer people, (including bisexuals, gays, lesbians, etc) but people treat it like it does. I dislike it because it's a product of a sex-negative society that deems queer people to be disgusting sex pests and instead of going "that's fucked up because there's nothing wrong with sex" people go "that's fucked up because we're not like those dirty disgusting predators who want sex without romance (coughalloaroscough)". I dislike it because arophobia is rampant in the queer community and people will throw us under the bus for points and have. (Stonewall UK posted a tweet acknowledging aros during aro week and other queer people called us predators and implied we were cishet invaders) I dislike it because the word love is shoved onto aros and whenever we say "please don't" people just redefine it to force it on us. I dislike it because there are better alternatives. I dislike it because rainbow capitalism has taken it over. I dislike it because it just feels a bit overused and cliche at this point. I dislike it for plenty of reasons, from legitimate to petty. Because I'm a person, not an evil aro who wants to destroy the queer community.
Aros, for a very long time, have had the word love used against us as a tool for our oppression. (Yes, love can be used to oppress people) And a lot of aros are sick of not being represented in queer spaces. The community puts so much emphasis on romantic love in an effort to not be the stereotypical sex obsessed queer but that leaves out aros. And people will be like "it's to uplift gays, bis, and lesbians" but there are aromantic gays, bis, and lesbians! I'm an aromantic bisexual person! I am directly harmed by the whole "we're not dirty sex pests, we can love (romantically) just like you!"
I, and many other aros, dislike the phrase love is love because it leaves us behind in the dirt. We often feel like the dirty side of queerness that no one wants to acknowledge. Saying "queer love is real love" isn't a bad thing, but having that be the one and only thing queer people ever talk about leaves out a portion of the community and we're allowed to talk about it.
"Love is love" doesn't represent me as a bisexual aromantic person. Not everything has to represent or include me but it would be nice if just one thing did. My version of queer joy is not represented by love is love and I just want a fucking alternative that does include it!
[Don't tag as ace/aroace or derail]
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It’s crazy how many people just don’t understand why a lot of aro and or ace people don’t like that Alaster gets shipped. It’s not that hard to understand we don’t have a lot to let ourselves lose. I mean can you name 10 asexual characters? 5? Can you name two aro characters. There’s the guy from Archie who they made have a sex scene in a movie version. There’s a few books. I think a background character in Heartstopper? Do you see the theme here??? You’re all queer people, do you not get it? How it feels to have nothing? Is it so wrong to be upset that there’s finally an outwardly aroace person in popular media and instead of people embracing that they’re fighting on the internet about why it’s ok to ignore it? And I will never in my fucking life have anything against the people who are aro and or ace and portray him in THEIR experiences, even if it is a romance or sex favorable experience, but it is obvious that way too many of you guys are allo and it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t even like him as a character that much, he isn’t even made by an aroace artist. The show isn’t even that fucking good, I just want to keep someone like me for once in my life. If there were a million other aroace characters I wouldn’t care, but it just hurts seeing erasure coming from my own community. It just sucks, man, I don’t know. It just sucks
#alastor#hazbin hotel#hazbin alastor#ace problems#ace#ace representation#lgbt representation#queer representation#asexual#aroace#aro representation#aromantic#aromantic representation#asexual representation#rant post#rant#vent#light vent#sorta venty#vent kinda#venty#vent tw#aphobia#queer erasure#erasure#ace erasure#aro erasure#aroace erasure#aroace representation#sex ment tw
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### Honkai Men & How They Kiss ###
Featuring Dan Heng, Blade, Jing Yuan, Aventurine.
warnings: I only started playing, so this might end up ooc; no other warnings rlly.
english isn't my native language!
''I probably won't get that invested,'' well maybe I should shut my mouth more; bone app the teeth!
DAN HENG
This can both count of just Dan Heng, or Imbibitor Lunae (if you prefer imagining him); I doubt there'd be any difference in their character, which is why I don't feel like specifying - it's up to whoever you, the reader, prefers.
Firstly, I believe that Dan Heng is someone who initiates affection more privately, less frequently or dramatically in public; You'll probably find yourself initiating the majority of your kisses with him!
But, when it does come to kissing, he's a gentle soul; Maybe not even gentle, but...hesitant of sorts. That hesitance does not come from an uncertainty regarding his feelings toward you - I'd call it a...worry, a ''fear'', of sorts.
That aside, there is something that just...makes your heart skip a beat, makes you giddy when he kisses you. Your forehead against his after a long kiss, unable to stop yourself from smiling. He's soft, gentle with his kiss.
There's no ''fleeting'' kiss with Dan Heng; he'll either kiss you properly, or not at all. Still, I can see him be someone to kiss your cheek, forehead, or palm/hand - but rather in private than in public!
While some people might see him that way, I personally do not see him as someone who is ''aggressive'' or ''intense'' in a sexual sense during kissing (might also be my aroace ass speaking, idk) - sure, maybe kisses might turn into a slightly heated make out session, but nothing ''extreme''.
When it comes to what kisses he loves, I believe he would enjoy kisses on the cheek, though there is nothing he loves more than feeling your lips on his.
BLADE
I've only met him briefly in-game yet (only now finished the quest w/ the Xianzhou and heading to Penacony), so...I'll try my best, lol.
Before I got into the game again & read some more about him, my initial thought was that he'd be a ''possessive'' person, but I highly doubt that (or kinda...refuse to think that? I dunno), and I'd say he can be...a little of a wildcard?
While I can see him be a ferocious, ''aggressive'' kisser on some occasions, I do believe he can also be found on the other end of the spectrum.
Blade's kisses can be intense, demanding almost, biting down on your lip and clearly asserting dominance while kissing you, making you struggle to keep your balance; He'll whisper to you, speak under his breath while you can barely catch your breath.
Then there's the other end of the spectrum, when his kisses almost seem...fragile? Absent? Like he's...not fully there, or not fully himself. He'll not be one to initiate much affection during this time, which is also how you know that something's currently not right with him.
Last, there are the ''normal'' kisses - no aggression and demand behind them, yet they aren't absent either. A normal, brief kiss that only you can really tell the genuine emotion behind, since to most people Blade's expression would indicate he'd much rather be somewhere else.
When it comes to receiving kisses, I don't think he generally has a preference there? Or would even be big on receiving kisses specifically? At least behind close doors I can see him be someone who'd much rather have you hug him or hold him.
JING YUAN
Ah, Alejandro Saab my beloved; I didn't think I'd love the guy this much when I first started playing, lol.
A confident man indeed, especially when it comes to the love you two share, for your relationship. His genuine admiration and adoration for you are evident to most people, though he knows when to be subtle or act in a way that hides his emotions.
Jing Yuan can be a tease, though mostly behind close doors; He'll have you close, his arm around your waist, his lips hovering above yours, yet he refuses to kiss you, watching you grow impatient as he pulls away anytime you want to close the distance.
When he does kiss you, he does so with passion. His kisses are on the more sensual side, leaving you breathless and longing for more. He'll have you completely undone after just a short makeout session, leaving you with a wink and teasing smirk on his lips.
In private, when you are alone, away from responsibilities and work, when he has time to think, to remember the past...that smirk might still be present whenever you want his attention, but it feels fake. During those times, whenever he'll reach for you to kiss or hold you, he'll be lost in his own thoughts, though you always help him feel grounded, and guide him back to the present.
He doesn't mind initiating affection in public either, though he does...behave himself more, lol; He'll kiss your cheek or the palm of your hand while at a commission, and you can also find him holding your waist when you're out in public - or allowing you to hold onto his arm.
Jing Yuan is also someone that just enjoys quality time; on those rare occasions when you two can relax and cuddle, there is nothing he enjoys more than napping in your arms; And, yes, he loves those sleepy kisses during those times, or in the early morning when you just woke up.
When it comes to your kisses, he prefers soft pecks on his forehead, or all over his face while you are cuddling - though there is nothing he loves more than having you play with his hair while you're cuddling/he's napping.
AVENTURINE
I've not met him yet, but he reminds me of an OC I have, which is why I automatically liked him, lol.
I want to say that he'd flaunt you around, be dramatic about your relationship, but I'm not sure that'd be a smart move, and I'm sure he'd be aware of that...anyway, he's someone that certainly makes love exciting.
He's even worse than Jing Yuan when it comes to his teasing smirk; Yet, he won't really be a tease, but rather more playful in his affection? Randomly slide up to you, twirl you close, brush his lips over yours while talking low before spinning you and then pressing a kiss to your lips, or dipping you and kissing your neck.
Definitely not one to shy away from being affectionate, though it is more on the casual-seeming side in the way he portrays it; He doesn't make a big fuss out of it - kissing you feels like it comes natural to him.
There were moments in which you were laying in his arms and you tried to steer the calm atmosphere in a more serious direction, though that only works up to a certain point with him and then he'll kiss you energetically to distract from that; also enjoys tickling you, but that's another thing.
His kisses vary in their kind; sometimes, they are brief and playful, while other times they are energetic and passionate, and so on. What is it called? A jack of all trades, though that figure of speech isn't entirely accurate, lol.
His public displays of affection are just as unpredictable as his affection in private; sometimes, he does not mind being affectionate around you, though he knows how to judge a situation well enough to hold back, or completely refrain from touching you.
When it comes to receiving affection, he's definitely obsessed with you just showering his face in kisses, sitting on his lap while he holds you close; or when you are cuddling and you just keep pressing kisses to his neck/throat/behind his ear.
[I have a Genshin version for some Men & Women, too]
#hsr x reader#dan heng x reader#hsr dan heng#blade x reader#hsr blade#jing yuan x reader#hsr jing yuan#aventurine x reader#hsr aventurine#hsr#honkai star rail#.writing#i got hungry mid-writing this. which is now. and I'm only writing Blade rn. so. See ya in 20mins.
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I've heard a couple people argue against radioapple because it's mainly just sexualizing the two. While that is true for most of it. That doesn't mean it has to be. Because listen:
What if, in the final battle, Lucifer is taking on an entire army of angels for the sake of his kingdom, his daughter, and his new friends. Alastor watches helplessly as Lucifer had ordered him to stand by, because even Alastor would surely be killed. He watches as Lucifer is cutting down angels, they're dropping like birds shot out of the sky. Even so, their numbers become overwhelming and difficult to manage. Alastor, realizing the danger Lucifer's in, for the first time, feels concern.
Lucifer finally starts taking damage, the angels swarming him. Alastor's feet move before his brain has time to process what he's doing. Inky, black tentacles launch him into the sky, back to back with Lucifer, he uses shadows as a shield to protect Lucifer from an angelic spear headed straight for his heart. Why is he protecting him?
Alastor, one of the most feared overlords, a serial killer and cannibal, narcissistic, psychopathic, heartless, evil... finally started caring about someone else more than himself. Respect, strength and fame means nothing in that moment. Just that the first person he's ever loved is safe.
What if Lucifer's light finally chases away Alastor's dark thoughts, tendencies, and insecurities? White light that burns away the shadows. Lucifer holding Alastor in his weakest moment. Reassuring him it's okay.
What if Lucifer is the one that takes Alastor down from his high horse and helps him through his inevitable breakdown? What if Lucifer helps him break his deal? Lucifer, fighting to save Alastor and telling him it's okay to not be at the top.
What if Alastor helps Lucifer out of his depression, teach him how to move on from what I'm suspecting was bad past relationships? They get over their dad rivalry and work together to protect and teach Charlie.
Their relationship doesn't need to be sex, it's just love and care, something I think they could both benefit from. I think Lucifer is autistic and speaking as an autistic person quite a few of us are somewhere on the ace spectrum, I really don't think asexual alastor would be any kind of issue for Lucifer.
(Edit)HAVING SAID ALL THAT I think radioapple might be better as just fan art and such because although I'm not aroace myself I can understand wanting the representation because it's true there doesn't seem to be much of it out there. If it were to become canon I think it's safe to say a lot of people would be upset.
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✨🏳️⚧️A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE TO TERF DOGWHISTLES🏳️⚧️✨
I’ve already posted something similar to this in a reblog, but I figured that for the sake of our safety, I’d rewrite it in a post of its own (with some additions and elaboration). Please consider reblogging this; we need to educate our community on warning signs that hide in plain sight, and once you know what calling cards TERFs use, you’ll be seeing them everywhere.
(Also please note that dogwhistles function in plausible deniability. While some of these points may sound innocuous or incriminating, always check for context clues first before blocking or exposing a potential TERF. Content warning for discussion of transphobic, misogynistic, racist, and anti-SW terminology/ideology under the cut. Please continue at your own discretion.)
• TIM/TIF: “trans-identifying male/female.”
• “Dysphoric female,” used to describe trans men.
• “Gender traitor,” used to shame post-transition men.
• “(Male) invader,” used to describe trans women existing in women’s spaces.
• “Gender-critical” or “gender abolitionist.”
• Weaponization of detransitioners in order to bolster the claim that trans identity is a “phase” or something a person can be manipulated, forced, or “deluded” into.
• Discussion of “irreversible side effects” or “regret rate.”
• “42%” or the number 42, in reference to suicide rates among transgender individuals.
• “Womyn,” “wombyn,” “gyn,” or other omissions of the -man suffix.
• “Adult human female,” used as a mockery against the term “cisgender.”
• “Female homosexual” in the place of “lesbian,” especially if paired with the statement “female homosexuals don’t date men” to invalidate attraction toward trans women.
• “Libfem”: derogatory term for trans-inclusive liberal feminists.
• The 🍒 (referring to Joanna Cherry) and 🏁 (referring to the cis gender binary) emojis.
• TRA: “trans rights activist,” used in a derogatory manner. (Note that this acronym can also mean “transracial adoption,” which has nothing to do with bigoted rhetoric.)
• “Peak trans (moment),” used to describe a TERF’s moment of radicalization.
• Any discussion of “rapid-onset gender dysphoria”. It’s transphobic psuedoscience and does not exist.
• Transmedicalism: the idea that you’re not “actually trans” unless you have a desire to medically transition. TERFS will use this to invalidate and demonize trans individuals who don’t “pass.”
• Use of the term DSD (“disorder of sexual development”) instead of intersex, and/or advocating for the “medical correction” of intersex bodies.
• Invalidation of, exclusion of, or aggressions against intersex people.
• Exclusion or invalidation of aspec identities (asexual, aromantic, aroace, etc).
• Exclusion or invalidation of mspec attraction (pansexuality, bisexuality, etc), usually on the basis of one being a “traitor” if they like men and women.
• “TMA” (transmisogyny-affected) and “TME” (transmisogyny-exempt). These terms continue to enforce a binary on gender-nonconforming individuals and encourage transandrophobic beliefs (namely that transmascs “have it easier” and “aren’t as oppressed”).
• Disownment of the term “queer,” normally rooted in assimilationist ideals.
• Discussion of autogynophilia or autoandrophilia, implying that trans identity is a “sexual fetish.”
• “Fetishist” being used as an insult, specifically against trans women or sexually autonomous trans individuals.
• Anti-kink puritanism and the treatment of (particularly female) sexual liberation as a shame or taboo.
• Applying the “male gaze” argument to real-life women who are open about and comfortable in their sexuality.
• “What about the children?!” rhetoric, specifically manifesting in claims that children are being groomed, indoctrinated, or forced into “dangerous” medical procedures.
• Language such as “transgenderism,” “gender ideology,” “genderist,” “gender cult,” or other terms that pathologize trans identity.
• Denial of intersectionality’s effect on systems of oppression and the belief that the patriarchy is solely to blame for all of women’s problems.
• The false equivalency fallacy: comparing bigoted ideologies to the struggles of marginalized groups to garner sympathy (ex. “TERF is a slur” or “POC feel safer in their own spaces, why are bathroom bans any different?”)
• Self-proclaimed “radfems.” (Keep in mind this is a VERY tricky one, simply because many people don’t fully understand what radfem ideology entails.)
• An open hatred toward all men.
• Denial of the fact that men can be oppressed or harmed, manifesting in accusing people of being “MRAs” if they advocate for trans, queer, disabled, POC, or otherwise marginalized men.
• Insinuation that women cannot be oppressive, abusive, or predatory, and that these traits are only exhibited by men.
• Strong aversion to being called cis or claiming the word is a slur.
• “LGB community” or “LGB, drop the T.” Any exclusion of a letter from the acronym could be a warning sign for bigotry or exclusionism.
• The Hydra symbol, used to portray trans individuals as an ever-expanding threat.
• “Did you just assume my gender?!” or “I identify as a ___” being used as mocking comments.
• Excessive use of biological terminology (“basic biology,” “female/male biology,” “biological markers,” “biological sex,” etc.)
• Transvestigating: intense scrutiny of one’s appearance and anatomy, especially around stereotypically gendered traits (body hair, eyelashes, muscles, height, facial structure, hips, waist, chest, etc.)
• Phrenology: a form of pseudoscience claiming that one’s character can be determined by their facial shape and proportion. Phrenology holds extremely racist/antisemitic implications and heavily favors femme Eurocentric beauty standards, leading to women with non-European features being “transvestigated” or viewed as masculine and therefore “brutish” or “threatening.”
• Conflation of feminine expression or aesthetics with purity or goodness (oftentimes overlapping with phrenology).
• Noticeable disgust or bitterness toward masculine/butch gender expression.
• Erasure of nonbinary identity or categorization of nonbinary people into their AGAB.
• Gender purism: any belief that there’s a “right” and “wrong” way to be a woman.
• Gender essentialism: belief that all men are born as violent oppressors and all women are inherently fragile and vulnerable.
• Belief that testosterone directly causes violent impulses and aggression.
• Separatism: enforced separation of men and women, specifically manifesting in “women only” spaces and the belief that trans women are “male invaders” trying to enact violence on other women.
• Defining the “female experience” exclusively by suffering, physically or mentally.
• Discussion of the “divine feminine,” female energy,” or co-opting of spiritual terminology to advocate gender essentialism.
• “Woman-born woman,” “AFAB woman,” “biological woman,” or “natal woman” as an avoidance of the word “cisgender.”
• Defining womanhood as the possession of a womb and the ability to menstruate and give birth, usually paired with the statement “men can’t have babies/periods.”
If you stuck around for this long, thank you for taking the time to look through this. If you know of any other potential dogwhistles, I invite you to reblog this post or comment with your additions so I can add them into this list.
TERFS will be blocked on sight. You are not fucking welcome here. Trans people will always exist, are valid as fuck, and deserve the right to life and happiness.
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